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I'm in my third year of college as an international student, and as my contract for student dorms is about to run out and I can't go home, one of my college friends offered for me to move in with him and his family for a while. I was excited about it at first, because I've known this guy since first year and we're real... | YTA. You're proving to him why he shouldn't trust you. ###### |
I’m taking organic chemistry, which is even worse than gen chem. The exams, and tests are unnecessarily hard, and the class itself is complicated. We all seem to be struggling, besides this one person.
Our professor is unfortunately still taking her lectures very seriously, and assigned us a test worth 25% of our gra... | YTA. You're obviously the asshole and you know it. What is this post? ###### |
I spent a fortune putting in an apple and avocado trees. They have to be planted in a certain spot in the yard to receive maximum sunlight. Fruit is starting to drop and some of it is dropping into my neighbor's yard. I kindly asked them to put anything that falls into their yard over to our yard. Instead, they're eati... | YTA. You're literally expecting them to do an extra chore for you (fruit collecting) with no pay. If your tree is going onto their property, they get the fruit--that's their reward for not just lobbing off the branches. It's universal neighbor code. Also you come off as unhinged for posting a fucking sign pointing to... |
I'm a dad of six kids (17m, 14f, 6m, 3f, 1f). My 14 y/o has always helped out with taking care of the younger ones, and we often jokingly refer to her as the "3rd parent".
She takes care of small things, like making sure the younger ones have brushed their teeth and are in bed on time, or making them breakfast in the... | YTA. You're joking, right? This is a joke post? Your daughter is diagnosed with a anxiety disorder and a specialist told you specifically to stop doing something and you come here expecting us to say that you're not in the wrong? Are you seriously asking why you should "change something you've been doing for years"? Y... |
This was about a week ago. I got into a minor car accident at a crossroads, car was a bit fucked and I was a bit shaken up but obviously everything was absolutely fine. I was on my way to work so I got a taxi to work and texted my girlfriend telling her I’d been in a car crash but it was nothing serious, turned my phon... | YTA. You're in a relationship. It takes a minute to text someone that everything is fine. I do not for a second believe that you just forgot that you got in a car crash and that you have another person who emotionally depends on you being okay. It's hard to believe that this wasn't some bizarre attention-seeking behav... |
I have a 19Yo stepson and since me and my partner moved in together all he's been a nightmare. My step son is a drug dealer, he brings all sort of shady people to our house some of which are now incarcerated and he has been arrested himself. He's never had a job is his life but I still see large quantities of cash in h... | YTA. You're daughter is the one being punished here, not your stepson. If you don't want your daughter to be enamored with drug culture, sit her down and TALK to her about it, instead of trying to ruin their relationship. Please understand that just because he sells drugs, doesn't necessarily mean he's a bad person. H... |
My son is 14M and my daughter is 17F. She is bisexual. My son is not LGBTQ+ (as far as I know), but he feels strongly about being an ally for his sister. My son made a gay pride flag by coloring nine pieces of printer paper and taping them together. I thought it was really beautiful. He then taped it on the window of h... | YTA. You're afraid of a confrontation and so rather than stand up for your daughter you effectively punish your son? Fuck that. At least she has one person who supports her. ###### |
So here go! Am I am the asshole for asking the soon to be hubs for a child free wedding?
My Finace of 2 1/2 years and I are set to be married in a little over a year. We have been pretty much in agreement over most of the wedding planning except this one thing.
I told my Fiance that I would like to have a child fre... | YTA. You.
I don't care if you don't want kids at the wedding or at any point. Hell, I have none. But this is his son. Your future stepson.
And kids at a wedding isn't an all or nothing thing. Your future husband and you get to set the rules. If he wants the two kids there, let the two kids come and say no to the o... |
I’m 23, my gf is 20, and we’ve been together for 2.5 years.
I’m in a group chat with a few of my boys and some girls. These particular girls do not like my girlfriend. They’ve never really known each other but my gf caught them talking crap about her so she confronted them and since then, they don’t like her. I wouldn... | YTA. You... don't care that your friends shit talk your girlfriend? And you really expected her to be just fine with that? There are times in life when confrontation is necessary and that was one of them. ###### |
This happened last night and I have been told by my partner that I was selfish but idk.
There was a tornado warning last night where I live. This isn't too unusual in our state but we are in a city so we dont typically get actual touchdown or anything like that. When the sirens went off (around 6 pm) we heard a knock... | YTA. You wouldn't let your neighbours into your basement for safety, *potentially saving their lives*, because you were *uncomfortable*? You were incredibly selfish, and your neighbours will never forget how you treated them.
If they were being overzealous I'd understand your discomfort, but the bloody **tornado sire... |
When I was 22 I got my friends with benefits pregnant. We were not in a committed relationship so I was always skeptical if the baby was mine and made it known when she was pregnant. She assured me she hadn’t slept with anyone a month before we did. I didn’t believe her as she had a reputation so I kept my distance thr... | YTA. You weren't wrong to request a paternity test, that was sensible. But you were wrong to, by your account, keep your distance during the pregnancy and criticize your friend to the point where she felt they were better without you in their lives. You get extra YTA points for how you acted at delivery as well as no... |
I’m a 25 year old guy and I’m married to my wife who is 24. Okay so recently I’ve noticed that she’s gained a bit of weight, not crazy or anything ridiculous, but a bit. I’m into fitness myself so I like to stay active and healthy in general. Well her birthday was a couple days ago and along with some other gifts, I go... | YTA. You weren't *just* calling her fat. You were also telling her to stop being fat. On her birthday. ###### |
My (28 M) niece (15 F) has self-esteem issues with her nose. To preface, I just want to say that I think she looks fine but I realize insecurities can be tough to overcome. Anyways, her nose is oddly shaped if you focus on it, it starts off thicker at the base and gets really thin as it extends outward, if that's a goo... | YTA. You were told not to bring it up, yet you still did. Not only that, but she’s 15. You shouldn’t be telling her to get surgery to “fix that ugly thing”. Really? ###### |
This happened back in February and I really don't think it was that big a deal, but my gf still brings it up whenever she's annoyed with me.
For my birthday, my gf offered to take me and my best friend out for dinner. She said she would pay for everything, as her treat.
Our city has a very hole-in-the-wall type plac... | YTA. You were a huge asshole. You could easily have just gone to that restaurant on your own or with someone else and picked any other place for that night. Expecting your girlfriend to just sit and watch you eat was incredibly shitty. If you want to celebrate your birthday with other people you have to take their nee... |
Hello
So my (25f) boyfriend (29m) was with a Japanese girl through college and up until we met, about two years ago.
Throughout the relationship, he studied Japanese so he would be able to communicate with her family in Japan.
However, even though they've broken up, he is still studying Japanese. I asked him if he... | YTA. You want him to drop something that he's interested in to take up something that you're interested in? He's with you, not her. You sound quite insecure. You want him to become Trilingual for you? Geez. The world does not revolve around you. ###### |
Pre-qurantine!
So I (26M) was going on this date.
Context-
This girl (24F) let's call her Lin, was a friend of my friend. He recommended going on a date with Lin, so I said sure.
On to the story-
So we met at this restaurant that I had never heard of, and it was because Lin lived 30 minutes from here and requested ... | YTA. You think she was using you for your car?!
You think she had a movie date after the dinner so she would be further away from home planned or something?
It's in your title that SHE WAS SCARED!
She was so right to block you, talk about a dick move. ###### |
Throwaway because I have no idea if my daughter has reddit.
My (18F) daughter got accepted to Harvard, her dream school. She is understandably over the moon excited and me and my wife are very proud of her.
She was also accepted to a great university in-state. This school is much cheaper and she has a scholarship ... | YTA. You think it's selfish that your daughter wants to move away, but you're a-okay with forcing her to stay so that she can be a third parent to *your* child? Pfft. Right. Yeah, keep going with that parenting, see how it works out for you. ###### |
So my wife dyed her hair today. While I normally like dyed hair on other people, I have a hard time enjoying it on her. For some reason I just really don’t like that she had tattoos and that she dyed her hair.
The thought of it makes me visibly upset. She already told me she won’t get any more tattoos, but near the s... | YTA. You sound very controlling and how much these cosmetic alterations bother you sounds over the top ###### |
My cousin Luke (fake name) has always been a bit on the feminine side. He changed his gender to become a female last month. He now wants to go by the name Lucy.
Him and his parents came over for lunch and we were all talking. I told them about how my exams were going and how I bought my first car last week. After we ... | YTA. You should respect your cousin and not deadname them. ###### |
So my mother is quite unhealthy and she has been told by many doctors that she needs to lose weight but she always insists that she is the perfect weight. this happened last thursday when i was eating dinner with my mother. She asked me to make some hamburgers because those are her favorite. But because i am a vegan i ... | YTA. you should never lie about what you’re feeding someone. you don’t get to decide what’s healthy/unhealthy for your mother, she’s an adult who can make her own decisions. I understand it’s frustrating, but straight up lying about what you’re feeding someone until after they ate it is messed up. you are absolutely p... |
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wou... | YTA. You should immediately tell your girlfriend what you did so she can go and retrieve her much loved pet. Then you need to have a conversation like an adult, which is what you should have done in the first place. If you can’t live with her pet, which she obviously loves, then maybe you need to reconsider your livin... |
This one really hurt me.
It’s my birthday today and my Dad came home and handed me a gift, I hugged all my family. I opened the gift and it was an Xbox One S. I was shocked, I didn’t want my Dad to spend such money on something my Older Brother had already bought around two years ago which I hardly use anyway. He then... | YTA. You should have simply thanked him for the gift. It's never about the thing, it's always about the thought. ###### |
Hello, I will admit. I don’t know if the way I’m parenting my son is alright and I need you guys to be as honest as possible.
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I have 2 children, Samantha \[10F\] and Daniel \[11M\]. Since their birthdays are close to each other I always make them celebrate it at the same day. Ever since he was 9, Daniel ... | YTA. you say “this is getting worse and worse” and “i’m really worried” what are you worried is going to happen? that your son is going to have a good friendship with his sister and enjoy his childhood playing with toys that make him happy? that your son grows up to be a successful happy makeup artist?
he is not hur... |
I(37F) live with my kids(10F,13M,14M). I’m letting my nephew(16M) stay with me for few weeks. I have some rules in my house, such as: no locked doors, no phones after 9pm, wifi gets turned off at 8pm and turns back on at 11am, kids have to be up by 8am and make their breakfast, they should do homework, then they can pl... | YTA. You said this kid’s dad is in the hospital, so he’s already been disrupted from his usual life and I’m sure this is a scary time. I understand wanting him to follow general house rules but there are actually a few issues with the specific rules you mentioned.
First of all, not allowing someone to use their phone... |
So I (16M) once last year found my English teacher(23F) on tinder and she had some freaky bio, I ignored it and went on with my life.
Then at the beginning of this year, she kinda got upset with me and told me to leave the class (in a very rude manner just a step away from cussing)
So being dumb me I told her if she ... | YTA. You ruined her reputation and embarrassed her in front of the whole school, and for what? To get revenge because she kicked you out of class? Idk what you did but whatever you did to get kicked, it doesn't justify what you did/said to her. ###### |
I had a girlfriend in college that is to this day still the love of my life.
A couple years ago we reconnected face to face.
She’s been in trouble with the law and when she was incarcerated we wrote each other whenever we could and when she got out I got her a job at my business and helped pay for her first apartme... | YTA. You robbed your wife of naming her child of importance exactly like she told you & now every time she looks at her kid she has to be reminded of your EX??? what the hell is wrong with you dude? I feel so horrible for your poor wife & child!!! ###### |
This happened 4 years ago at the time I (22F) told my parents that my sister (12) stole.
My sister was at the mall with friends and stole a $2 button from a hot topic but was caught and banned. A week later after that happened she asked me if I could keep a secret that's been eating at her all day. I told her of cour... | YTA. You promised you wouldn't tell and you betrayed her trust. It was only $2 not a bank robbery. She got banned and learned her lesson (she said it had been eating at her). You were 22 and couldn't keep a secret? YTA ###### |
I spent a fortune putting in an apple and avocado trees. They have to be planted in a certain spot in the yard to receive maximum sunlight. Fruit is starting to drop and some of it is dropping into my neighbor's yard. I kindly asked them to put anything that falls into their yard over to our yard. Instead, they're eati... | YTA. You planted the trees without thinking growing space.
Their property is actually being inconvenienced by the fruit falling from the trees you planted too close to the property line. They get to keep the fruit on their property as an inconvenience fee.
Also, you rightfully suck as a neighbor. When people see... |
My girlfriend likes to play this game "The Arcana". It's one of those corny visual novels where you get to romance characters. Earlier I had no problem with her playing the game but now she has gotten obsessed.
She plays the game whenever she gets time after working and doing housework, she only spends time with my at... | YTA. You only get 3 keys and it takes about 3 hours for a single key to load. So I assume, if she exhausts all her keys (which shouldn't take more than an hour because the chapters are not that long) then she won't be able to play the game for another 9 hours. You're exaggerating to get the judgement in your favour.
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My SO and I are both professionals who work 40+ hours a week. I make double the salary my SO makes a year.
We recently had a baby and decided we wanted to buy a house to raise it in. As we are moving into the house we are discussing financial contributions for our new living arrangements, and who should be paying for ... | YTA. You need to think in terms of the percentages of your income. The financial strain should be equal between the 2 of you if you want things to be split evenly. I think it's fair to keep your individual bills separate like credit cards and student loans, for sure. And if you were closer in your incomes, maybe an ov... |
I (F38) and my husband (M42) have 3 daughters. Jessica (14), Samantha (12) and Melissa (4.5).
Both my husband and I work, my youngest attends kindergarten and my daughters are in school.
Melissa is not reaching her milestones as quickly as her sisters. She's very bright, but she's still not fully potty trained (still... | YTA. You need to deal with Melissas sleep issues by not catering to her fears/issues. She’s almost 5, at this point you should enlist professional help, as it’s obviously something that needs addressing, you’ve given your youngest way too much power here. ###### |
So a year ago my daughter got invited to go to Washington DC from a program called envision. When she got the invitation in the mail she was so excited but when she saw the price tag she decided it’s best for her not to go because it was something around 2.5k but I figure that hey she’s moving out in a few years this m... | YTA. You misled her. She was going to miss the trip due to the price, but you convinced her to do it, which was a lovely gesture, but evidently you didn't think it through. She's clearly budgeted and earmarked her savings for particular things, only for you to decide not to pay the last part of the trip. And I underst... |
My ex and I are currently going through a divorce, been separated since April of last year. We’ve met with a mediator and we agreed that he’d have our toddler full time, while I’d only have her Friday evening through Sunday night. He hires a babysitter for the days he has to work, which she charges him a rate of $60 a ... | YTA. You might be mad at him and that’s why you feel the need to charge money but it’s your child. You’re not a baby sitter, you’re a parent. You should be glad to have extra time with your child and if you’re not then put your foot down and have him hire one. The kid didn’t do anything to you so either watch them or ... |
My wife and I were driving to work this morning. We live near the harbour and the port authority has an empty parking lot across the street. There isn't any houses for about 100 or so meters, but we were driving by and saw this lady with a city provided garbage can down there. She was taking all the contents out and th... | YTA. You mean to tell me you called 911 for some trash? 911 is for EMERGENCIES. Stop wasting time and taxpayers money on stupid shit.
ETA: And called more than once at that. ###### |
My ex and I have split custody of our daughter, I get certain days of the week and he gets the others and we split through weekends.
This year, Father’s Day comes on a day that my daughter stays with me for the weekend up until the week, and I told her that she couldn’t go to his house on Father’s Day because of that... | YTA. You may be separated but you’re still coparenting. You letting your animosity and a small “hassle” prevent your daughter from seeing her father on *Father’s* Day is just you being petty. If you’re trying to make this hard situation even harder on your daughter then keep it up. Otherwise, learn to coparent. ###### |
Throwaway since my friend uses reddit.
So I (17f) have this friend (18f) who is totally cringy. She's very obsessed with kpop, like I'd say it's the majority of what she listens to. She's also really really into Chinese tv shows, like cdramas and stuff. Literally the majority of what she consumes is Asian entertainmen... | YTA. You managed to insult your friend and two whole cultures and use a racially-charged phrase in one fell swoop for apparently no reason other than that you don't share your friend's tastes. Go you! ###### |
So I proposed to my fiance around late last year and we are still planning our wedding.However she wanted to do have a big traditional singaporean wedding which could cost upwards of $50,000, and I was against the idea of spending that much money on just one day.So instead of spending a lot of money on the wedding, I b... | YTA. You made two, HUGE financial decisions by yourself that should have been handled as a couple. It’s okay if you don’t want to spend the amount of money a traditional wedding would cost, but the two of you need to come to an agreement on that – you don’t just get to decide that’s how it’s going to happen. And purch... |
When my partner and I sat down for brunch today I jokingly asked why he has a larger helping of food (I’m on a diet and specifically asked for smaller portions). I thought he was just going to refer to my earlier requests on portion control, but instead he replies, “Well, I paid for this food anyway, so I should get mo... | YTA. You lobbed a bullshit question at his and he sent a bullshit answer right back. Then you got bent out of shape over it. ###### |
Ok so this happened a few months ago, I have 2 kids, one is 5 and one is 3.
The whole family went over to my brothers house for my Dads birthday, anyway we were having a great time and I put the kids upstairs with some sandwiches while the adults talked.
So later on my brother went to get the kids down to play a board... | YTA. You left a 5 and a 3 year old alone, with food. You’re lucky no one choked. Be a parent. ###### |
I'll get straight to the point.
I bought a pack of Skittles once that had a promotion running with a code on them saying that you can enter the code on a website and go into the draw to win an Xbox One. I, believing there's no possible way to win these type of promotions, ignored this and enjoyed tasting the rainbow. ... | YTA. You know you were never gonna enter the damn contest........ ###### |
Throaway acc.
I was very badly verbally abused as a kid which made me have some kind of trigger to being talked to a certain way. I'm not upset at criticism at all or anything that isn't rude but sarcasm and being rude as a joke sets me off. I always have given people warnings that I don't like to be talked down to, e... | YTA. You know you have triggers and are not seeking help to better cope with that. ###### |
I'm 14 years old and I've never EVER liked vegetables. When I was a baby my mom said I would only eat meat and pasta had that hasn't really changed. I've never really worked to hard in school. When I was 10 I got into a really good school but i have no motivation so my grades have really gone down. on to the problem. L... | YTA. You know this is not just about the vegetables. It's about you not taking the opportunities your mom is working hard to give you to improve yourself and your life. She's hurt and frustrated. Your choice to sit at the table for over an hour and not eat the cauliflower is just the perfect vignette for you and the c... |
**Reposting because the mods locked my last post because of the fake names I chose for people.**
My husband (29M) and I (27M) live in the same neighborhood as my parents, my brother and his wife. We walk to each other's homes for dinner on a pretty regular basis.
My SIL (we'll call her "Jill") is, for lack of a bette... | YTA. you kind of sound like a catty gay misogynist lol (I'm gay) ###### |
While the company I [21F] intern at was preparing to switch to wfh protocol, my boss’s [38?M] wife [3?F] came into the office to help him move his computers and stuff more quickly. I saw her car idling outside the building and stopped to say hello. She snarked back something about telling it to my coworker, who would d... | YTA. You insulted a woman because she has good looks, and you did it in the workplace. You definitely fucked up. ###### |
Ok so I've met some pretty good liars in my life. I've been through horrible situations where people lied to me for months and now I'm generally skeptical of people until proven otherwise.
My bf on the other hand is an innocent until proven guilty type of guy and he prides himself on his honesty and loyalty. He trusts... | YTA. You have no right to make your trust issues his problem when you say for yourself he’s done nothing to warrant your mistrust. ###### |
I have a son [16M] and a daughter [15F]. In the same weekend, my son was broken up with by his girlfriend and my daughter was broken up with by her boyfriend. They were very upset. Since they were going through the same thing, they decided to be there for the other and spend more time together. They are spending all da... | YTA. You have issues, mate... ###### |
I’ve been FWB/best friends with this girl for 7 years, since we were 20. We’re monagomous, stay over at each other’s, emotionally support each other and definitely not the typical arrangement. She just graduated with a PHD and due to covid couldn’t really have a party so she was doing a dinner at her place. I’ve made i... | YTA. You forgot the “friends” part of FWB. And why are you guys being monogamous if this isn’t going anywhere? You do need to draw boundaries, but you’re drawing them in all the wrong places. ###### |
I broke up with my GF a few months ago. I started dating a girl lately, but I always said that I might still have feelings for my ex. So the dates turned out more like friendship which was okay for us both. We started talking about amusement parks and soon decided that we would go there together. So she bought a ticket... | YTA. You flaked on plans that cost her money out of pocket. Simple as that. ###### |
I'm 17. When I was 16 my parents bought me a 2000 Subaru outback that was reasonably taken care of. I really liked my car and was very grateful to my parents for getting it for me. A year later (now)my brother is 16 and they bought him a 1994 Jeep that is really nice and is in super good condition. It looks new. I'm h... | YTA. You each got older used cars, and you are both lucky to have gotten your own car at all.
Do a price lookup, 2000 Subaru Outback vs a 1994 Jeep \[insert model here\]. Did they spend significantly more on one of your cars than the other?
Also did you and your brother have input in what car was bought? ###### |
My step brother and me have never gotten along. He's very opinionated (atheist, feminist, Marxist, lgbt, etc) and always makes his opinions known, usually causing massive drama at family gatherings. Mum says he has histrionic personality disorder. I'm not sure if that's her diagnosis or his psychologist's.
Anyway, I ... | YTA. You don’t want him to come? Don’t invite him. Simple ###### |
I (20M) work at a big grocery store. Lately, this woman has been coming in during my shits, and she wears kind of provocative clothing (think hot pants and a belly shirt). Mind you, it’s still cold in my state and most customers come in fully dressed and wearing masks, so she sticks out. It’s become a bit of a joke bet... | YTA. You don’t think *spank bank* is a sexual reference? If that’s true, you should probably stop using phrases you don’t know the meaning of. ###### |
I (20M) have responded very well to this lockdown. I live in the UK.
I've tuned out all the news (blocked it all) and have isolated myself further from even calling friends. I've focused on myself and went deeper and deeper into the depths of my mind. I've underwent a voyage into my mind. An odyssey of sorts.
I'm me... | YTA. You don’t sound like you’ve grown emotionally, because if you had then you wouldn’t be ‘grateful’ for a lockdown that is hurting millions of people. Fuck off with that ‘odyssey into your mind’ shit and realise that your sister is feeling very isolated and alone rn like most people, and telling her to just meditat... |
My brother is 40 and to the best of my knowledge has never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I suspect he is gay though. He's never married. He announced last year that he was going to be a father and we were shocked. I thought maybe he got someone pregnant. No. He hired a surrogate and even more weird is that he used a... | YTA. You don’t know the details of your brother’s life. Heck, you don’t even know major things about him like whether or not he is gay (and I suspect you are holding the idea that he might be against him). Society needs to get over this stupid idea that men can’t genuinely want or love children. He doesn’t owe you an... |
So some context, me (26m) and my gf(25f) were talking tonight about her childhood. She was watching a video on childhood ptsd and I was kind of eaves dropping in on it.
Now she had an awful childhood filled with abuse of various kinds. She’s always seemed rather tolerant to life despite this and seems to be indenial ... | YTA. You don’t get to tell people how they deal with their past abuse. Period. My wife has her own abuse history, and I know next to nothing about it. We’ve been married 12+ years. I’ve known her for 20+ years. I’ve never pushed it and never doubted her ability to be a good mother.
You push her.
You forced your th... |
So my boyfriend was abused as a child and he has a big fear of putting his face near sinks because his mom used to semi drown him as punishment by putting his head under the kitchen sink. I’m a big believer of washing your face twice a day and while he does wash it in the shower, that means he only washes his face once... | YTA. You don’t get to tell him how to deal with his trauma. This is something therapy can help with but not something you should be forcing on him. He already washes his face in the shower. You seem pretty controlling and you should definitely apologize and back off. ###### |
I (50M) and my wife(45F) have a daughter (16f). A few months ago she was kicked out of school for involving in a fight with a fellow classmate. We tried to send her to counselling , but she refused. She has been repeatedly rude to us for not fault of ours. We did not even ground her after she was kicked out of school.I... | YTA. You don’t get to sell a family pet that’s been around for 9 years just because you’re a shitty parent. Her behavior is your fault and it’ll only escalate from here ###### |
Didn't want the title to be long but I'm also asking if I'm TA for not including him into our plans for our father's birthday.
My brother is your typical last born who's spoilt and a party animal. He's also a troublemaker and has a tendency of ruining things so my siblings and I didn't include him when we called our f... | YTA. You don't write in your wishes in someone else's will. What happens to the money if your brother does just fine in life but never gets a formal degree? At that point you've solidly screwed him out of his inheritance. ###### |
The other day I commissioned an artist to draw my character. I paid $60 for the full body shaded which is a bit pricy (for me) but I assumed maybe this artist takes a long time like 6-7 hours which is why they price it like that, so I understood why. They sent my a sketch not long after I paid and I approved it expecti... | YTA. You don't only pay for the actual time it took someone to finish the painting but also for their experience which is why the hourly wage of some artists is higher than others - plus, if you paid 60 bucks and are happy with the end result, it should not matter how much time it took them to finish the painting/draw... |
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wou... | YTA. You don't love your girlfriend. You gave away her beloved life long pet. And it sounds like your relationship lacks normal communication. You just assumed your girlfriend wouldn't take the cat with her when you two moved in together and you just gave away her cat without any discussion. ###### |
A friend of mine is getting married to this chick through an arranged marriage. He is really naieve when it comes to women and to top it off he doesn't know that much about her. Call her Nikki. Now, my buddy's mom actually told me and my girlfriend that if we know Nikki or people in her family to let us know, mainly be... | YTA. You don't know anything about her virginity, and it's creepy to tell a friend you "doubt" his fiance is a virgin and that you think "she was super into white guys."
>she is friends with a ton of the guys
*clutches pearls* ###### |
A bit of backstory:My sister does cross country at our school and from the times of like 12-3 she is working out and running almost every day. She usually wears a sports bra (could be a tank top, all I know is that some belly shows on them) and she makes their protein shake and needs the blender in the kitchen (I don'... | YTA. You don't get to tell your sister who to talk with and date. If she wants to chat with, flirt with, or date one of your friends, you will just have to accept that. If your sister tells you that she is uncomfortable with the way your friends are behaving towards her, then you can tell them off. But only then. ####... |
Me (18M) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for a few months now. Before quarantine kicked in we lived together on the same floor at our university hall. The food there is catered, and both of us would always go for the vegan option. When I asked him if he was vegan too, he said he was, and we both kinda got reall... | YTA. You don't get to decide how or what another person eats, ever.
To be fair, there's an element of ESH because you both sound like the worst stereotype of the pushy, obnoxious vegan. ###### |
*My stepdaughter moved out when she was 19, she got a flat with her boyfriend a year later*
*I moved in with her dad the same year with my daughter (12F) and everything's going great, I've never seen eye to eye with my step daughter, I don't approve of her job as a cam girl but she says it pays very well and is very o... | YTA. You disapprove of her work and lifestyle but you want to turn her away when your husband, her father, is willing and gracious enough to help her pursue higher education to better herself? It would be one thing if she would have assumed that you are free childcare for her baby and hoisted that workload on you, but... |
My relationship with my boyfriend has been going through a difficult stage for the past few weeks, and whenever I need someone to talk to about it, I almost always talk with my friend Camila. My boyfriend has made a couple of noteworthy mistakes in our relationship, but I still feel like we both genuinely care about ea... | YTA. You didn’t say you just wanted her to listen to you and didn’t want any advice. Maybe if you don’t want to set parameters for talking/listening and her “advice” never aligns with your values then find another friend to vent to. Her analogy is right. If that’s how she sees it that’s how she sees it. And to be hone... |
I hated my grandma, she was a real bitch all the time. She played favorites all the time and treated me like trash compared to my siblings, she gave me really awful gifts compared to my siblings and cousins around Christmas and the holidays. So I was pretty hype when she finally kicked the bucket. My brother overheard... | YTA. You didn’t hurt her, she’s dead. She doesn’t care if you don’t like her. You’re doing stuff to hurt the family that’s left behind who might not have the same screwed up relationship that you did. ###### |
Throwaway. This took place awhile ago but the fallout is still hot. My father had health problems for the last few years and he recently succumbed to them.. During this time my brother had gotten married and was on his honeymoon.
I made the choice to be the one to inform my brother of the news. Our mother died years a... | YTA. You didn't tell him until **after** the funeral? That's the most messed up part of this. Not all funerals have to happen immediately.
Edit: Just to note. Not telling your brother your father died until after his honeymoon? Debatable. Scheduling a funeral immediately and excluding your brother because "you wanted... |
English isn’t my first language, sorry if this is confusing to read.
I have been living with her and my best friend (M23) for a few months. Since she is a party girl who’s rarely at the apt at night and I had classes we rarely saw each other until now because we are stuck here.
This girl has some weird food habits. S... | YTA. You definitely need to just get over it. If you feel like you need to leave that is your choice and it might be the right one, but to make demands on her in her own home is out of line. ###### |
For some context, my fiance and I live together in a one bedroom apartment. With quarantine, I've been working from home, and he's been working the overnight shift. As a result, we're always together for all but a few hours of the day. This has been really wearing on me.
Today, a package I ordered arrived, and he i... | YTA. You created a completely unnecessary problem. If you need space, you need to talk to him about needing alone time in either the bedroom or the living room.
You picked an unnecessary fight. ###### |
Her birthday is mid July, we close mid June.
To clarify, I for apologise for the delivery of the message. I recognize I should have said I'm occupied with planning a move and all of my extension cash has been going to save for this house.
I don't know what we will actually have available in funds or how settled we w... | YTA. You couldn’t say “I’m planning a sweet day for you” and then like make her breakfast in bed and get her flowers? That’s easy and cheap.
You could set up a Skype birthday dinner with her friends or family.
But noOoOoOo you had to throw in her face the down payment on a home that’s not her present, and is as muc... |
I (20M) went for dinner with my family (parents in their 50s) right before the lockdown. Anyway, there was a fairly attractive waitress (looked to be in her 20s) serving us.
Afterwards, she left her phone number for me with a smiley face saying she found me cute.
For several reasons, I was quite irritated by this. ... | YTA. You could’ve just thrown the number away and continued on with your life. Definitely the asshole. ###### |
I invited my GF to hang out with my friends. They're all a bit older than her and I. Anyways.We went outside our house and there they were, I greeted them and then they said hi to my girlfriend, I looked at her and her face was very red... she said hi but looked incredibly nervous. We all walked along and one of them t... | YTA. You could see that your girlfriend was uncomfortable and instead of helping her out or just cutting her some slack, you focus on yourself and your pride. ###### |
So! My girlfriend of a few months works in HR and we both live in a big capital city. For context I used to work in journalism.
She randomly messaged me saying John Smith (it’s a public figure who runs a newspaper in our country and pretends to be a Man of the People) apparently has a chauffeur drive him everywhere. ... | Yta. You convinced her to share a screen shot and then posted it to a gossip site after she asked you not to. If you didn’t do a good enough job covering up where it came from, you could affect her career in HR negatively. ###### |
I was the best man at my best friends wedding about 4 months ago. I’d never been to a wedding before but had a great time and it was amazing seeing my best friend since childhood get married. I’m have a pretty nervous disposition, so the fact I’d be making a speech at some point during the day, I drank a bit more than ... | YTA. You can't use "because I was drunk" as an excuse for your actions. Also, your GF had told you she's not ready, why put her on the spot at someone else's wedding? ###### |
So my girlfriend has very little self control when it comes to food. I do all the cooking so I make sure to keep it pretty healthy l. But when we eat she will always go for seconds if there are any, and will almost always complain about being too full afterwards.
Since lockdown I’ve been working from home with her. I... | YTA. You can express your concern once or twice. Repeatedly bringing it up and monitoring her food intake is definitely patronizing.
If it spirals out of control, it spirals out of control and your gf will deal with the consequences. Perhaps that might motivate her to reflect on her eating habits.
However, you cont... |
I'll get straight to the point.
I bought a pack of Skittles once that had a promotion running with a code on them saying that you can enter the code on a website and go into the draw to win an Xbox One. I, believing there's no possible way to win these type of promotions, ignored this and enjoyed tasting the rainbow. ... | YTA. You bought some sweets.
Your sister bothered to enter a draw.
The Xbox is 100% hers.
If someone gets a bus to the shops and buys a lottery ticket, the bus driver can’t claim any credit if they win based on ‘but they wouldn’t have got to the shops without me’. ###### |
I’m currently dating one of my employees, we’ll call her Scarlett but I just went through a drawn out divorce and she doesn’t want people to think she’s only succeeding in her career because she’s sleeping with the boss so we haven’t told anyone. There is another woman who works for me and we’ll call her Nicole.
Nicol... | YTA. You behaved completely unprofessionally towards an employee (notably, partially as a result of an ongoing unprofessional relationship), and then you followed up by being a braying jackass when she didn't immediately get over it.
Crucially, you have no CLUE why this was traumatic to her. This sort of scaring by f... |
On mobile. Sorry for any formatting mistakes.
My (18m) girlfriend (17f) is bisexual. I love her a lot, but it took me awhile to get used to the fact that she finds more than one gender attractive. And tbh, I’m still not crazy about it but I deal with it because I love everything else about her. She really is amazing.... | YTA. you basically implied that her being bi meant she was incapable of being in a committed relationship. also, why would you even care more if you “lost her” to a girl? fragile much? you really need to look into your own biphobia if you want to be with her, otherwise she deserves better. ###### |
So, I have this friend, John, who's a bit shorter than average, around 1,70m (5' 7'' for you in the US). He's a good dude, great sense of humor, very sociable, if not a bit loud on occasion. I brought him to meet some of my gf's friends a few weeks ago and we all had a great time.
I met my gf and her friends again las... | YTA. You asked for their opinion then got mad and lashed out because she answered your question. She was a bit rude for saying "typical short guy" but the mature thing to do would have been to say that was rude of her to stereotype, not press her for an explanation then lash out for doing exactly what you asked her... |
My brother has started dating a single mother few months ago.
I have quite large Instagram meme page, and me and my brother like trolling each-other so I started uploading more and more single mother memes
Nothing hurting or such
Just dumb stuff like this
https://imgur.com/a/JJoR8Ba
And then I found out my broth... | YTA. You aren’t making fun of your brother. You are making fun of an innocent bystander. ###### |
I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me money for weed, £50 and that I would pay her back next when when I get paid. She said no since she is against weed and drugs in general, I asked why and then she said "well I will lend you money if you give me the double amount back, so £100 because I will put an interest rate... | YTA. You aren't entitled to the money she has saved, especially when you want to use it for something she doesn't like.
You wanna know why she has money in the bank while you're down to zero until you get paid? It's because she doesn't want to spend money she doesn't have on something unnecessary. ###### |
When my husband and I got married last year, we threw the wedding together quickly to coincide with another event. As the date approached, we realized that we never planned a honeymoon. We met while traveling and thought it would be insane to not take a honeymoon, but we weren't financially prepared and put the whole t... | YTA. You are stressed financially, but haven't discussed this with your partner, while the issue is going on for 10 months. You only have yourself to blame.
Start making a budget, determine what comes in, and what comes out, and how you want to spend it. Discuss this with your partner. ###### |
So my step daughter (20) moved in with me, my husband (her father) and our two children (13F & 15M) at the start of lockdown because I don’t know, she wanted to. She’s was adopted by my husband and his ex wife because her biological mom died when she was almost 5, and had been a druggie and things like that. She ... | YTA. You are practically story book levels of a terrible stepparent. ###### |
This happened a few months ago but lockdown is making all of us dwell on our past possible mistakes so why not.
My daughter (6F) has a type of ichthyosis which is a genetic skin disorder that basically makes parts of her skin very very dry and scaly. I'm used to her getting some funny looks in public and luckily she's... | YTA. You are insecure about your daughter’s condition and therefore automatically assuming that people’s actions are due to that. If I was in a tiny shop and someone’s child ran over to where I was I would move away too. She didn’t want to look at the headbands in a tiny cramped shop with a 6 year old trying to do the... |
My ex and I are currently going through a divorce, been separated since April of last year. We’ve met with a mediator and we agreed that he’d have our toddler full time, while I’d only have her Friday evening through Sunday night. He hires a babysitter for the days he has to work, which she charges him a rate of $60 a ... | YTA. You are a parent, watch your child. If needed get the custody and child support agreement modified (strongly recommend that). ###### |
My daughter (15) had come to me to tell me that theres a possibility that social services or police might contact her and I would have to be there too. This is all because her best friend (also 15) had been telling her about how she had been abused by a relative. They have been texting about it, and my daughter had tol... | YTA. You and your sister. You didn't realize your daughter would be "so sensitive" about her friend being abused? And your sister thinks your daughter shouldn't be close to that friend? Wow....just, wow. You need to take a really good step back and literally think about what you're saying.
Because of your daughter,... |
Two weeks ago we had taco night. My mom made a bunch of meat, beans, corn, etc. My brothers got to the kitchen about ten minutes before me to make their tacos and as I entered, my little brother was finishing making his fifth taco and used up the last of the beef. I was pissed because they didn’t save me any and the me... | YTA. You and your siblings are adult men asking like toddlers - no wonder your mum is going up the wall with this. I highly doubt this is the only thing you and your brothers squabble about like this.
Here's how you fix it:
Either buy your own food or move out. You're an adult and are no longer entitled to Mum's coo... |
I live in an eight-unit apartment building for the last year. It's quiet. except for this woman who lives above me. I work early mornings so I go to bed at 8PM. All late night long she's slamming cupboards, doors, moving shit, etc. all night long. This is LOUD. I did mention it to her and suggested that if she needs to... | YTA. You actually set an alarm to wake up to go and bother her? It would be one thing if she woke you at 3 AM due to her loud noises, but you are creating additional drama by preemptively scheduling a confrontation. ###### |
My daughter (26F) got married December 2019 to her partner of 6 years.
My daughter came out 13years ago but started dating a boy when she was 14, they dated for 4 years when she got pregnant and things ended between them, he isn’t involved.
My daughter eventually told me her mother had convinced her she wasn’t normal... | YTA. You actually did defend your wife's behavior by siding with her, by excusing her. And the fact that she won't apologize even now says she still feels she was right. You stood by her, therefore you agreed. ###### |
Me(15m) and my sister(22f) play the same online game which I will not be saying what. The game has 3 currencies and works like this:
1 is for the in-game stuffs, rewarded by clearing dungeons and tradable in the player market. 1 is for the cash shop, purchased with real life money, not tradable in game and can only b... | YTA. You 100% escalated the situation. Go apologize, help your sister with the game (it's a game bruh), and move on. ###### |
Decided to make an account for this because she’s pretty hurt but I really feel like I haven’t done anything wrong?
I’ll get to the point. Both my gf and I really love music, we both play multiple instruments and we first bonded over the kind of music we love.
So she likes to bake often and usually during that we tur... | YTA. Yikes man, "I've done this with all my exes" followed by "you’re not special” are statements you should not say to your partner when they feel they’re having a special moment with you. You owe her an apology. ###### |
Was checking out at the self-checkout. Realized I had two extra frozen meals that I did not need. Crazy time right now - just wanted to get out quickly so I set them on top of the candy rack in front of me.
Store manager confronts me. She says “are you planning on putting that back”? Like for fucks sake, am I back in ... | YTA. Yeah absolutely and lazy too. ###### |
Throwayay for obvious reasons, and I’ll try to keep this short. Also, this is not relationship advice, I just want to know if I presented things in a bad way.
A while back I started searching for some new jobs out of boredom basically. To my surprise I managed to land something that requires me to relocate to another ... | YTA. Wtf, dude. You can't just unilaterally decide to apply for jobs in a whole different country without consulting your wife, and you absolutely cannot demand that she go with you to a place where she doesn't speak the language or know anyone. If you don't like your life being tied up with other people, don't be mar... |
My roommate's gf moved in with us when lockdown started.
The other day I was getting ready for bed, brushing my teeth, taking a shower ect. She knocks on the bathroom door and says she needs to use the bathroom. I was about to get in the shower and ask if she can wait a few minutes and she says it's fine. I take prett... | YTA. Wtf is your problem? Why didn't you let her go before the shower and why would you piss around shaving after when she told you how bad she needed to during the shower? It would have taken 20 seconds to let her pee at any of the moments where you weren't in the shower.
I mean, I would have probably peed in a buck... |
So my friends and I \[all 17M\] were talking on discord while playing league of legends. We were about to win but my friend did something stupid causing us all died. I got mad and jokingly cursed my friend's dead mother and hoped he would join her in the grave. When I did this though, he ended the call and fucking exit... | YTA. Wtf is wrong with you? You did this over a video game? Horrible.
Edit: in response to your edits- you are still, without a doubt, the ultimate asshole.. my god. ###### |
Hey, so, we are feeling bad and guilty for deciding the euthanize our daughter’s kitten instead of paying for surgery.
We adopted a kitten from a shelter for our daughters birthday in mid March. Late last week she started throwing up, wasn’t eating, wasn’t drinking, and was lethargic.
We took her to the vet and the... | YTA. Wow. "I just murdered a creature I promised to take care of because it got a little inconvenient and I couldn't be bothered to just clean up some toys to make sure it didn't happen again." You really need to ask if your the bad guy here??
You better fucking not have told your six year old you suspect it was her ... |
My brother has started dating a single mother few months ago.
I have quite large Instagram meme page, and me and my brother like trolling each-other so I started uploading more and more single mother memes
Nothing hurting or such
Just dumb stuff like this
https://imgur.com/a/JJoR8Ba
And then I found out my broth... | YTA. Wow, yeah that was pretty cruel of you. Especially since your way of trolling your brother was to attack his girlfriend. Immature, not a good look. ###### |
My boyfriend has very long hair. To keep it out of his face while he is at work and to keep comfortable he wears bandannas. to put it simply: he wears them too much. I told him I wanted them to stay in his locker at work or in his truck. He told me that he enjoys wearing them around the house and when he is doing yard ... | YTA. Wow controlling much? How would you like it if he threw your belongings in the trash? ###### |
Decided to make an account for this because she’s pretty hurt but I really feel like I haven’t done anything wrong?
I’ll get to the point. Both my gf and I really love music, we both play multiple instruments and we first bonded over the kind of music we love.
So she likes to bake often and usually during that we tur... | YTA. Wooow She told you a moment was special but you’re just like “but all muh ex’s”.
Why are you even with her if she’s not special to you? Do her a solid and let her find someone who does think she’s special. I’d be pissed if my SO said something like that. Even if you did have similar experiences, why would you pu... |
So me, my friend nd her boyfriend went out to eat today. My friend's boyfriend is what you'd call Obese, definitely. But he's nice and funny too, so we don't mind hanging out with him. It never really gets in the way. The only real problem is sitting somewhere with booths, the tables in booth's don't move so it's uncom... | YTA. With friends like these, who needs enemies? ###### |
My little brother's been hell to live with. He's extremely PC, and he'll reinterpret everything you say to make you look like a crazed psychopath, even if you just have a dark sense of humor. A few weeks ago, he was looking to get a roommate on the other side of the country to apparently get away from me and because ou... | Yta. Why wouldn't you want to get rid of him? I would have thought you'd do anything to facilitate him getting another apartment. ###### |
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