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I (20M) have responded very well to this lockdown. I live in the UK.
I've tuned out all the news (blocked it all) and have isolated myself further from even calling friends. I've focused on myself and went deeper and deeper into the depths of my mind. I've underwent a voyage into my mind. An odyssey of sorts.
I'm me... | YTA. No longer able to party? It actually sounds like she's lonely and isolated, and who knows what else is going on. It's great that you are able to benefit from this and spend a lot of time meditating, but not everyone is in a position to do that.
Responding to her crying by telling her that she just needs to medit... |
My 14 year old son decided a few days ago that he was going to uninstall Windows on his laptop and install another program called Linux on it instead. I told him that I didn't care either way as long as he can still do his schoolwork on it.
The very next day, our desktop computer as well as his dad's laptop both got i... | YTA. No excuse in this day and age for an adult to be this tech-illiterate. You cost him tons of hours of schoolwork probably and chances are he’ll have a hard time convincing his teachers that his parents would actually do something so stupid simply because they managed to screw up their own computers, probably with ... |
I’m 17, and I have a foster sister (16) that’s been with us for around 8 months.
I’m cordial with my foster sister but we don’t really get along. When she first got here I caught her several times trying to wear my clothes, makeup, and trying to use other things that belong to me. We got into big arguments about it, ... | YTA. My parents used to foster kids and I sometimes would get really annoyed with my foster siblings, too. But I never *bullied* them, which is what you are doing by trying to exclude her from hanging out with friends. I was half your age at the time and I still wasn't so childish as to do that.
You're almost legally... |
The title sounds bad but it isn't that bad.
So my daughter has this friend who has all the kids in her grade falling head over heels for. I thought it was an exaggeration but she's literally that girl in high school.
Now this friend posted a picture of the two of them on their 'friendship page' on her birthday yeste... | YTA. My dad and I are extremely close and I remember SO many things he has mentioned over the years. I still remember all the times I would get ready for school thinking I looked so cute and he would come and point out my big zit or something. I say this because, as a 33 yr old, I STILL remember things my dad told me ... |
My girlfriend likes to play this game "The Arcana". It's one of those corny visual novels where you get to romance characters. Earlier I had no problem with her playing the game but now she has gotten obsessed.
She plays the game whenever she gets time after working and doing housework, she only spends time with my at... | YTA. Maybe she’s obsessed about the game because it offers a respite and an escape from your entitled, loutish behaviour ###### |
Let me start off by saying that I love my parents and would do anything for them but yet on some level I blame them for me being born with autism, albanism, vision impairment, OCD & others. I know it’s not directly their fault as they didn’t take any tests to determine if I was normal however my mum had 9 miscarria... | YTA. Mate, prenatal testing is mostly for fairly obvious issues such as Down syndrome and neural tube defects. There's no test to determine that a fetus is going to develop into a teen with OCD. ###### |
So daughter lives a few states away from us with her husband so we don’t see them too often. We are currently visiting for the week but things are rocky right now because of what I’m about to explain.
They like to use those Alexa devices. Before we arrived I told her I would not tolerate that she keep them out while w... | YTA. Listen up: You don't walk into someone else's house and throw away their property. You talk about stupidity and disrespect, but you just showed up in her home and utterly disrespected them, and yet somehow don't see that you did so. Do you lack empathy?
You're acting like a child, and I wouldn't blame your daug... |
I’ve been FWB/best friends with this girl for 7 years, since we were 20. We’re monagomous, stay over at each other’s, emotionally support each other and definitely not the typical arrangement. She just graduated with a PHD and due to covid couldn’t really have a party so she was doing a dinner at her place. I’ve made i... | YTA. Let me get this straight. You've been monogamously FWBs with someone you call your best friend and you're asking if you're an AH because you didn't attend an important milestone in her life because you didn't want her to get the wrong idea? You guys are clearly not on the same page. End this arrangement because y... |
I own a small fashion line that I started myself and put all my energy into. Over the years I've become quite successful (not rich by any means but I'm able to support myself with solely my business).
Next to my website I also have an Instagram to advertise my clothes. When I only just started out and had a limited bu... | YTA. Legally you’re ok but morally I think this is wrong. Also this doesn’t seem like a smart business move but that’s your choice. If you tag them you get more exposure. When the models fans insta-stalk her tagged list they’ll see where they can buy the clothes and some will buy them. If people want to focus on your ... |
Me (18M) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for a few months now. Before quarantine kicked in we lived together on the same floor at our university hall. The food there is catered, and both of us would always go for the vegan option. When I asked him if he was vegan too, he said he was, and we both kinda got reall... | YTA. Leave him alone. Just because you are vegan, it doesn't mean that you can't go back for a time, and then go back to it. It is NOT an all or nothing FOREVER thing. It is a diet. Vegans like you give others bad names. ###### |
I have two daughters
Ella (22F)
Lauren (19F)
Ella and her boyfriend (26M) are living with me currently because they’re saving for a house so they’re living rent free, Ella works part time and goes university while Lauren doesn’t work and goes university.
Ella doesn’t really wear jewellery apart from a ring her b... | YTA. Lauren stole a ring. It's clearly not about the ring to Ella or the money. It's about Lauren being made to take responsibility for stealing and then losing something that clearly meant a lot to her. Why does it matter if she bragged about it? She clearly loved her ring. It was something sentimental she got from h... |
Basically my son (6) starts school next year and I will be paying quite large sum annually ($25k-$28k) for a private school.
Now the thing is my wife’s daughter (9) is in a public school.
And my wife is pissed that I’m signing my son in a prestigious school while her daughter isn’t.
Btw our finances are separate so ... | YTA. Just the way you're saying "my wife's daughter" and not "my step daughter" makes you TA. You're telling that little girl she isn't as special as your son.
Sure, your finances are separate but you're complaining about paying 95% of the bills and then using the rest of your money to send your son to fancy school an... |
Me and my ex were together for 5 years and we broke up 3 years ago. It was a really abrupt end to the relationship and I didnt see it coming. I didn't get to say good bye to her family etc and I never really received any closure. Pretty much a month after we broke up I was in a bit of a mess and I started dating, my no... | YTA. Just own up to it. First, it is disrespectful to want to name your children ur ex’s name (WHAT) and settling on her parents’ name (DOUBLE WHAT?!). And now you want to lie to her about it? God, you are walking all over your wife and I feel super bad for her. Be honest and face the music. ###### |
Last night my girlfriend accidentally dropped her laptop down the stairs (our dog kind of jumped at her while she was going up). It still turns on but the only thing connecting the screen a keyboard are a couple wires and the screen is showing all those weird colors. Anyways she was freaking out about it and I helped g... | YTA. Just let the woman finish her work. ###### |
Dating for 5 and a half years, living together for 2.
My girlfriend and I both work. I work a standard 9-5 mon-fri while she works 3 days a week, around 45 hours and studies from home for the moment due to the pandemic. So she's home 4 days a week, so obviously she cooks dinner. What's driving me nuts is that she w... | YTA. Just because you work 5 days doesn’t mean you can’t cook. Most people work and cook. Also, your coworkers are assholes.
Edit for your edit: No need to thank Reddit when you are the one posting here ###### |
Throwaway because my niece uses Reddit.
I (45f) recently saw my niece (24f) for the first time in almost a year at a small, outdoor family get together for the 4th of July. We’re all very proud of her as she finished her bachelor’s, works full time at a job she loves, lives alone and supports herself independently an... | YTA. Just because she's your niece doesn't mean you're suddenly entitled to every piece of information like her pill popping, and there's a difference between being addicted to pills and having an addictive personality. Just having a past with addiction doesn't suddenly mean you'll be addicted to any substance under t... |
My(56M) first marriage ended 6 months after the death of our son (then 16) because my ex wife became a zombie who refused to move on in any shape or form.
Now, two years later, I have a one and a half year old daughter with my wife (33). I can’t spend enough time with her and she and her mother two of the greatest jo... | YTA. Jfc. Aside from all the red flags like your wife not being ‘over’ her son’s death within 6 months and you prioritising your new wife’s jealousy over your daughter’s needs you are also being so insensitive to your daughter. She dealt with the loss of her brother and the divorce of her parents in 6 months and also ... |
To start it off, I (39 M) work as an online art critic, and it truly is the love of my life. I have always been incredibly fascinated by art and it's many, many forms. My daughter (11 F) has taken notice of this recently and had put a LOT of dedication in to becoming a good artist. However, the results... were not the... | YTA. Jesus dude. You did that to an ELEVEN year old? She isn't a professional, she's a child. It's one thing to give her some tips and help her get better. It's another to absolutely devastate her because she (AN ELEVEN YEAR OLD) isn't a master able to showcase her work in a gallery. You need to apologize. Now. ###### |
I live with my BF, who shares custody of his 9 year old twins. With the pandemic hitting our state hard, he is not exchanging custody with his ex as often. To help with them missing their mom, he installed a video chat program on their tablets so they can chat with her without needed him to help.
I requested tha... | YTA. Its their home too and they can talk to their mom wherever they like. They are 9. ###### |
So I (22M) have just inherited a very large sum of money from my grandfather (80M), he passed recently. I won't disclose the full amount, but it's in the 7 figures.
My dad isn't in the picture... was raised by my mom (60F). Have 5 sisters (18F, 22F, 25F, 29F and 35F) and one brother (14M).
As you can imagine, things... | YTA. It’s your decision to make, but choosing to not share a great boon with your closest family is generally a dick move. Not always, but certainly often.
Here you freely admit that there’s no particular reason for you to have the money, it wasn’t left with instructions, it’s not for like a big debt or something...... |
I live with my BF, who shares custody of his 9 year old twins. With the pandemic hitting our state hard, he is not exchanging custody with his ex as often. To help with them missing their mom, he installed a video chat program on their tablets so they can chat with her without needed him to help.
I requested tha... | YTA. It’s their home too. Anything you don’t want seen should be in your room/office/studio. Common areas of a house are common for a reason. ###### |
I'm going to keep this short. I graduated college last week. I took graduation pictures with my family and friends. I put up a little collage on facebook, twitter etc but I cut out my mum from the pictures before this. I have nothing against my mum but she looks significantly younger for her age and it annoys me. Some ... | YTA. It’s sad that you say you graduated from college, and this question eludes you. ###### |
Background info
I’m 16. My dad married my stepmom like two years ago.
My step mom and I aren’t friendly but we don’t fight. We are just so-so. I’m not crazy about her. She likes to knit and make clothes and for me and my brother. They are always butt ugly.
Last school year my dad didn’t even get my brother and I ba... | YTA. It’s one thing to say the clothes aren’t your style and refuse to wear them, that would be fine. It’s another to publicly make fun of them and yell at your parents (dad and stepmom) when they ask you to take down the public humiliation post. Your brother is being mature, I suggest you take his advice next time
... |
My fiance and I had booked a weekend at a glamping resort for a weekend in April. We paid in full for the two nights upfront and they have a zero refund cancellation policy, however, if you cancel in time they will issue a credit to be used at a later date. Now, due to covid the reservation was canceled, and we were is... | YTA. It’s like when you elect to change a flight with an airline. More often than not, you have to pay the difference in flight prices. You’re an adult. It’s on you to read the fine print when signing or paying for something. It sounds like the company was upfront about their no refund/voucher policy, and now you’re t... |
(if you’re wondering, i would be the asshole, and i’m going to be working on assessing that insecurity that prompted this discomfort within myself. with that being said, try not to hate me too much as you read.)
my boyfriend has hung a very large rainbow flag in his room. i am aware that the rainbow flag is representa... | YTA. It’s also very confusing that you find it offensive when you are bisexual yourself. Bi pride keeps on going even if you are in a hereto relationship. It seems like this is more about your own insecurities. He isn’t saying “I LOVE MEN” by hanging the flag. He is saying, “I am proud of who I am!” ###### |
This has been an on going discussion between me and my mum for a while now, however, became an argument this morning.
A little back ground I am 19(m) who did not go to university and my sister is 21 and has just finished university.
My mum has said she wants me to start paying rent, which I have said on MULTIPLE occ... | YTA. It's perfectly reasonable to insist that the people earning money should contribute. Are you going to cry to government because your older sister doesn't pay income tax? ###### |
I (20M) work at a big grocery store. Lately, this woman has been coming in during my shits, and she wears kind of provocative clothing (think hot pants and a belly shirt). Mind you, it’s still cold in my state and most customers come in fully dressed and wearing masks, so she sticks out. It’s become a bit of a joke bet... | YTA. It's not because you noticed someone dressed differently out of everyone else. YTA for making your coworker have to imagine your masterbation sessions. No one needs to hear that at work. ###### |
So my best friend moved to the UK 5 years ago for studies/work. Since we hadn't seen each other for awhile, last year he said he was going to come over, meet up with our old friendship group (5 guys in total) and we would go on a young guy's trip before he returned to the UK. I met my girlfriend earlier this year and h... | YTA. It's not about the call, or that you took 8 hours. It's that you checked out on her completely once the call started. You didn't give her a single thought, to the point that she ate her birthday dinner alone, and then went to bed alone.
You apparently got up for *snacks* but didn't check in with her? Just to sa... |
So my sister made this peanut butter bread today. She said she saw a really easy recipe and decided to make it, this is when it was already done and out of the oven. She said she was letting it cool for 15 minutes before eating it.
30 minutes later there's no one around the kitchen and the bread is still there, I tak... | YTA. it's her damn bread, she put in the time and effort to bake it, let her cut it and have the first slice. ###### |
Me(15m) and my sister(22f) play the same online game which I will not be saying what. The game has 3 currencies and works like this:
1 is for the in-game stuffs, rewarded by clearing dungeons and tradable in the player market. 1 is for the cash shop, purchased with real life money, not tradable in game and can only b... | YTA. It's a video game, you're cutting down your sister for not having a job when 1) millions of people are on unemployment 2) we're at the start of what will be a long, long recession if not all out depression. Not having a job is not a moral failing on her part. ###### |
So, my girl friend and I are in a long distance relationship and today is her bday. We live in different states so I can't see her or travel to her. We were suppose to be in the Bahamas right now, but due to everything going on right now, we couldn’t do that.
I booked a Bahamas trip this week for 4th of July weekend a... | YTA. It was clearly important to you to have time to plan and clear your schedule-- why should your girlfriend not have the same courtesy? Change the dates so it's actually a gift she'll enjoy. ###### |
So I've (25M) lived with my ex (24F) for 5 years, we dated for almost 3 years, this was 2 years ago, she's been with her boyfriend for a while now- they're even planning on moving in with eachother, she's very excited, since breaking up we've just been friends.
I met my girlfriend 5 months ago, dating for 3months.
S... | YTA. It was a "silly mistake" to tell her that you "briefly dated"? So you deliberately tried to hide it, that goes beyond not mentioning. And 3 years is not brief at all, what are you talking about? Anyway don't hide things from your girlfriend. ###### |
Some time last year there was a Halloween party for the entire grade 10. Everyone was invited and every kid showed up. This is my first "real" party (alcohol and over 10 people) I've ever been to and I am extremely excited.
So I get to the party, drink some beer, drink some more cause I wasn't feeling drunk (never had... | YTA. It sounds like you not only "acted dumb" but actively harassed people. It will be a while before people are willing to trust you again.
Also, just a heads-up:
*whose
*their point
*parties ###### |
My sister and I are twins (25). She has a husband and now is having a child. I'm in a lesbian relationship and have been with my partner for nearly a year. My sister is borderline homophobic and has never made the effort with my partner. She always refers to her as my friend and that it's not possible to love somebody ... | YTA. It seems like you're just doing it to rub it in her face. Of course it was going to cause tension. This isn't to say I agree with your sisters views at all. But stealing the limelight at someone else's celebration literally never goes well! ###### |
The title says it. My fiance wants to open another account for "safety" when i asked her to give me more details about it she said that in case something happens she has savings.
At first i thought it was weird since we already have plenty of money and we have been saving together for a while now but then i looked it ... | YTA. it is wise to have back up savings in case the worst should happen - for example if your fiance turns into a controlling arse who gets upset at you having your own savings for just in case. ###### |
So this happened in March but my wife is still upset about it.
I have three children with my wife, 6,4 and 4months.
We bottle feed the youngest.
Come mothers day my wife is exhausted, I cooked breakfast with my youngest helping while our 4year old did some art work for her.
When my wife went for her nap I thought I... | YTA. It honestly didn't occur to you that she might want to spend the day with her family? You decided to give YOUR mother a nice mother's day instead of your wife.
Did you even ask her what she wanted for mother's day? ###### |
My gf has very bad periods. There is very little she can do. She has gone through multiple methods of birth control and they have all had extremely negative consequences on her mental health, inducing psychosis twice. One form put her in the mental hospital. She chose to deal with her periods.
The problem I have is h... | YTA. It happens. Even with all of the protection one can use, leaks happen, especially if her periods are bad. And those stains do not come out easily. Even if she only wore dark underwear, some discharge can actually have a bleaching effect on fabric - so sometimes underwear will just be stained. Doesn't mean they ar... |
My son and DIL got married this year and they are expecting a little boy in November around Thanksgiving. She has three kids from a previous marriage a set of twins 5, and a 2 1/2 year old. My son has always wanted to have a farm and this April they bought a bunch of animals that they have been taking care of.
Well m... | YTA. It doesn't sound like either of them are being manipulated, and it is their decision to make. If they're happy with the decision - and even if they aren't - it's theirs to discuss and decide on, not yours.
Also, the woman is pregnant, and you're bitching about what she wears? Jeans are perfectly acceptable for a... |
My daughter’s been faking being sick for months now. She constantly complains about being in pain and feeling sick, but all the doctors she’s seen have said there’s nothing wrong with her. Every test they’ve run has come back normal, and all the images show nothing unusual. There’s nothing wrong with her.
At this poi... | YTA. It can take a hell of a long time to get a chronic health disorder diagnosed. Try and think back to when you were your daughter’s age: would you limit yourself from having fun just for attention? ###### |
This happened back in Feb but it’s still an issue which she brought up recently.
The title makes me sound like I’m definitely the asshole, but just let me explain:
So my (25M) girlfriend (25F) was picking up something at my workplace. This is an office job, but it’s very stressful. Anyway, I went down to the lobby t... | YTA. Is your boss really that preoccupied with who your girlfriend talks to? He’s apparently too busy to get his own tea bag. He shouldn’t have time to care who talks to whom in the lobby.
> Even once I’ve explained everything, she still doesn’t think she did anything wrong.
Of course not. Talk all you want, it do... |
Basically, a few months ago I got kicked out of school. I deserved it, my behaviour was wrong, and I truly do feel bad for what I did. Although I do still feel bad, I was really happy for the clean slate it gave me. I started at a new school, made some new friends, got in with the "right" people and I'm really really h... | YTA. Is this person a minor? You realize your friend may not have a choice, right? Like, his parents may want him to go to your old school. And you said yourself, you deserved to get expelled. So why all the hate? Stop putting this pressure on your friend. It’s not fair. ###### |
My wife and I have been together for five years, married for three. Everything in our relationship is great, she’s the best partner I’ve ever had which makes this situation even harder for me. Since the start we’ve always split everything 50/50. Dates, bills, rent. I’ve never paid for her but she has paid for me someti... | YTA. Is this a serious question? Your *wife* not only makes substantially less than you do, but does almost all of the housework, and you're not willing to even consider contributing more to the bills? Why? Why are you okay with her contributing so much more of her income than you are of yours?
>I make twice as much ... |
I (28) have had a strained relationship with my dad (59) since I could remember. we both love one another he just has a drill sergeant approach and doesn't show emotions a lot. he was getting on my case about paying for the car he bought for me, with the expectation of paying him back. we got into a heated argument unt... | YTA. imagine having the audacity to complain about your dad in front of a girl who misses hers beyond belief. and will never be able to laugh, love, or cOmplain about because he is DEAD.
#YTA ###### |
My girlfriend and I are having a baby. She is six months pregnant. She keeps asking me when I'm going to quit and she gets mad when I say I will soon. I was planning on waiting until I took paternity leave to quit but she wants me to quit now. She keeps saying the smoke smell is bad for her and the baby, but my parents... | YTA. If you’re smoking near a pregnant woman (much less your girlfriend who has asked you to stop) clearly you didn’t turn out fine. ###### |
I'm from Texas, and am a senior in high school aspiring to study economics, finance, or anything else business-related. I got into UT Austin's business program, which is ranked pretty highly, but I had also gotten into some top schools like Harvard and Yale. I qualify for in-state tuition for UT, and plus have gotten s... | YTA. If you want Harvard you should pay for it rather then screwing over your brother. ###### |
My wife and I have been together for five years, married for three. Everything in our relationship is great, she’s the best partner I’ve ever had which makes this situation even harder for me. Since the start we’ve always split everything 50/50. Dates, bills, rent. I’ve never paid for her but she has paid for me someti... | YTA. If you truly want things to be 50/50, why aren’t you doing half of the housework? You don’t want equality, you want superiority. ###### |
Whenever my roommate and I go grocery shopping together I notice that she just puts stuff in her basket without looking at how much things cost.
We were at Whole Foods earlier today and we were in the fridge section and she randomly was adding some stuff to her basket that she wanted to try. I asked her how much it c... | YTA. If you shared finances and she was always short on rent I would understand, but you’re just mad at her for spending the money she worked for. Definitely an asshole ###### |
So I (48M) have a daughter (16F) who spends a lot of time playing video games. She’s often on voice chat with other people, who she’s said were “friends from school”. I’ve always thought it was a bit suspicious because my daughter has complained about not really having friends at school.
I interrupted her doing school... | YTA. If you keep this up your daughter will never speak to you again once she leaves your house. I hope you’re prepared for that. ###### |
The title says it all. My wife has very visible acne scars. Obviously, I love her all the same, and I find her stunningly beautiful - but ofc I'd prefer her without the scars. I never told her that because she can't make them go away and it'd be pointlessly rude, of course.
When we go out, my wife wears some makeup, a... | YTA. If you have to keep your motivation a secret from your wife, chances are you're not doing it for a good reason.
Aaaand that edit. Damn. You're digging your own grave trying to make yourself sound like some kind of hero for marrying her. Don't try to guilt trip a whole subreddit, dude. ###### |
My son is 17 years old and over the past few months he's been acting very peculiar and we came to blows over this and he spoke back to me saying that they're not his fault and he doesn't know how to do. Here is what I noticed from him
* He's suddenly gone very lethargic very quickly. He'll get up, sit on his chair for... | YTA. If you are reading this reply and you aren't already at the hospital with your son then you may be the biggest asshole on the planet at this moment.
Your son is seriously ill and needs medical attention immediately. Take. Him. To. The. Hospital. NOW. ###### |
Restaurants Just opened in my city where I am, so I wanted to just relax with and talk with my family. We missed times like this so we figured it was the right time.
I told her let's go some where a little nicer than usual. Meaning like upscale place. I wanted to eat good that night. Told her it was a steak house, di... | YTA. If you are going to invite someone to a fancy place and not tell them where before hand you should have paid. ###### |
My kid got into college A, which is our local state school. The price is reasonable, has a major related to what she wants to study, and is quite reputable.
However, she just got off the waitlist college B, which is across the country, and most importantly private and more expensive. It is ranked a little better.
Tu... | YTA. If there's money aside to pay X amount for school, that money should go to whichever school she chooses.
Financially manipulating her into making a choice that will affect *her* whole life based on what *you* want is of course, asshole behavior. ###### |
The other day I commissioned an artist to draw my character. I paid $60 for the full body shaded which is a bit pricy (for me) but I assumed maybe this artist takes a long time like 6-7 hours which is why they price it like that, so I understood why. They sent my a sketch not long after I paid and I approved it expecti... | YTA. If the art is good then why does it matter how long it took? Longer times doesn't mean better quality. ###### |
My girlfriend bought an outfit online. It’s a tube top and a short skirt. The tube top just covers her boobs and the skirt is short enough to where her ass hangs out. I think it’s really hot, but I told her I didn’t feel comfortable for her wearing it in public because I felt like it was too revealing. She told me she ... | YTA. if thats what she wants to wear, then she can ###### |
Whenever my roommate and I go grocery shopping together I notice that she just puts stuff in her basket without looking at how much things cost.
We were at Whole Foods earlier today and we were in the fridge section and she randomly was adding some stuff to her basket that she wanted to try. I asked her how much it c... | YTA. If she's paying it for herself, like you have said in comments, it is literally none of your business how she chooses to spend her money.
And then to humiliate her in public too.
Geez, if I were her, you'd soon be my ex-roommate. ###### |
My daughter has been doing digital art commissions online for the past 5 years. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m glad that she is able to be completely independent with this and support both herself, and her boyfriend while he attends college. But my problem here is that I feel like she is wasting her life. All of her frie... | YTA. If it pays the bills, it’s a job. It’s a job that she’s passionate about and makes her happy instead of being miserable and unhappy at a regular 9-5. Just because it’s not a traditional job or it’s not what you would do, it doesn’t make it less valid. Not to mention, digital art is a fast growing industry of whic... |
One time a girl got super intoxicated at a party and started telling her secrets and pretty much making a complete fool out of herself. My friends were recording and laughing so I decided to join in. I started to feel bad the next day but my friends said it’s here fault because if she was an actual adult then she would... | YTA. I’m embarrassed for you that you even need to ask. ###### |
Hello, I am writing this because my husband just told me I was the asshole but I strongly disagree.
My son is currently in 8th grade and always tells me about the crazy things students do to each other in his class. While I do believe some were inappropriate, I just took it as they being kids and would hopefully grow ... | YTA. I’m a teacher and I’m sure my students talk smack about me when I’ve had to be particularly harsh. They’re kids, they’re venting about something that upset them and I would never take it personally if I heard about it. The teacher is a professional and you have put your son in a position to be bullied by his peer... |
Throwaway for obvious reasons. Also this is long.
I (35F) married my husband (56 M) 5 years ago and his family has been awful to me and our son (7M) because I was the other woman. His ex-wife dragged him through a two year long contentious divorce and got the house, pretty much everything he owned except his business,... | YTA. I'm honestly only sorry for your son. You and hubby dearest deserve every bit of the vitriol coming your way. Your husband cheated on his wife, and you were a knowing participant in the ruination of a marriage.
>I want him stop begging his family to forgive him for a choice we made to be happy together.
Have y... |
My ex-husband and I have been separated for a year now and I had recently seen on facebook that my step daughter had joined the military and was very excited about it.
This confused me because she's been diagnosed with depression and anxiety a couple years ago, and I was under the impression the military did not take... | YTA. I'm a veteran, lots of us had depression at one point, but it's very commonly accepted that it is okay not to mention that at MEPPS. As long as she is okay at basic and AIT they're fine.
Anyway she wouldn't go to jail if they had a problem- just be kicked out.
You didn't know that, because you don't know this ... |
I know this isn't the practice for all people or couples, but I think it is good hygiene. This is even more true during summer when people sweat more and have more body oil.
In the past when she would spend the night, I never said anything, but now that we are living together and sharing a bed each night, I told her ... | YTA. I would say most people don’t shower before bed every night. Especially if they are showering every day in the morning. Just because you like to do that, doesn’t mean you should force your girlfriend to follow that. It’s not your choice. ###### |
My gf and I share 2 cats together. The first one we adopted about 4 years ago and the second one we rescued from the streets one year ago.
However our first cat started getting fat so my girlfriend started starving the cats basically. She feeds them 1/4 cup of food twice a day. If you look at how much 1/4 of dry cat f... | YTA. I would bet money that you are actually the irresponsible pet owner that made your cats fat.They are cats. They aren't supposed to eat that much. Why don't you educate yourself on how much a cat is supposed to eat instead of undermining your partner? ###### |
Ok. Hear me out. I have a REGULAR name. I just like it pronounced a certain way. It’s literally like the saying “tomato, tomAto” same word but pronounced differently. So let’s say l like my name pronounced “tomato” I always introduce myself as “tomato” and I’ve never once said my name as “tomAto” but for some reason fo... | YTA. I was 100% on your side at first. If you say your name like tar-a instead of tare-a or lar-ren instead of lor-ren, that IS your name and isn't open to interpretation, and I think it's appropriate to clarify.
But a song?? Really, a song??? ###### |
Me (28F) and my gf (26F) had been planning of getting married (as soon as the quarantine ends), but because of an argument we had these plans are on hold.
First some backstory. My MIL is very homophobic and tries to undermine my marriage every chance she can get. When we are with her, she barely interacts with me, onl... | YTA. I understand your concern but trying to force your SO to get no contact isn’t okay. That’s STILL her mom ###### |
I've been married to my wife for the past year three years and dated her for five before that. She's extremely family orientated. She loves family and being with family. Her picture of a refreshing day is spending the day with family members. Since her mother died pretty young, she became really attached to my mother w... | YTA. I understand you're trying not to hurt your wife's feelings but she's an adult and if people are being mean about her behind her back and you're aware of it, you should let her know what's happening while also telling off or even going low contact with those people who are being rude. You can't play it both ways.... |
My fiance and I have been together for 3 years, and yesterday he made dinner, and set up candles, and designed a whole romantic evening for us, and then asked me to marry him. I of course said yes. He got me a tiffany's ring, and its absolutely gorgeous. The stone is huge. It was big enough that I had to ask how much i... | YTA. I understand where your coming from and I would feel the same, but he spent time and money to try to make this special. If you really have a problem with it, you should’ve said something later. That was supposed to be a beautiful moment and now your questioning about how much he spent. Sometimes just enjoy the mo... |
I have a canary mastiff, Tubs. He's a *big* guy, and I got him because he fits me. I want a dog that will be a guard dog, intimidating to protect against intruders. He's not a puppy and he's not a lap dog.
I don't baby talk him or treat him like a little child. I feed him home cooked meals with fresh meat every day, t... | YTA. I train protection dogs for a living. This is not how you train a dog to guard.
Working dogs need affection. Using baby talk, cuddles, and teddy bears as toys won’t hurt their training. It sounds like you don’t really know what you’re doing, and with a canary mastiff from, that can go horribly wrong. I highly re... |
My daughter is an incoming junior in college. She is stuck between business/data science and medicine as a career path. She's taking an introductory data science course this summer along with a general biology class.
She told me that her biology quizzes are 15 minutes long with 10 questions, and you're not allowed to ... | YTA. I think if you asked a few working medical professionals what their GPAs were in school you'd be surprised. Your daughter is in college to learn- she doesn't have to be perfect throughout. Quit micromanaging and lay off her. She might have an easier time deciding what she actually wants to do with her life if you... |
weird title, and this’ll sound fake, but it’s 100% true. my girlfriend (26F) and i (29M) have been dating for 5 years and have been living together for 1. shes vegan and health conscious and i am too. but here’s where the problem lies.
she really likes proportioned foods. things that are already packaged in small port... | YTA. I read this 6 times hoping to find a way to side with you cause I had a similar problem in my life where my wife eats the baby snacks. But my problem is we have a baby, and when the baby snacks are gone the baby will dip into my snacks which how dare you baby, how dare you.
It does not matter to you. At all. It ... |
So my boyfriend (26m) and I (24f) have been pretty bored recently. We were on a zoom call when a friend of ours brought up the idea of the "freebie list" - aka the five people you can cheat on your SO with. Obviously, this isn't actually real and I don't think any couple takes it seriously.
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But we were b... | YTA. I might have gone for ESH but does anybody else feel that her comment about him being Asian changes the context of this argument enormously to make her even more of an AH? ###### |
My son is engaged to his best friend since P6 (Grade 4-5) and his best friend is a male and my Sister (his aunt) is Homophobic and I know she wouldn't approve of the marriage, So I have kept the relationship secret to her until now and she said she wanted an invite to the wedding, I thought this was ridiculous as she h... | YTA. I mean, you say your sister is a homophobe, but loves your son and his fiance? You realize that these things are either explained by growth or you having a basic misunderstanding of who she was to begin with. Either way, he has a great relationship with his aunt and you don't ever get to dictate who he invites to... |
A lil backstory: I'm 34M, and have never come close to having a SO. And I don't mean I'm one of those people things never got serious with, I mean I've never even had a woman express the tiniest interest or go along if I did. It goes without saying that I'm a virgin, but I've never even had a kiss or held hands with a ... | YTA. i mean i totally empathize with you and it really sounds sucky what you're going through but people will be in relationships. i don't think you're really an asshole though but in this instance..... people will be affectionate. they're not going to stop hugging and kissing and stuff because it makes you uncomforta... |
My son and DIL got married this year and they are expecting a little boy in November around Thanksgiving. She has three kids from a previous marriage a set of twins 5, and a 2 1/2 year old. My son has always wanted to have a farm and this April they bought a bunch of animals that they have been taking care of.
Well m... | YTA. I love that you say he's easily manipulate and in the next breath immediately try to manipulate the situation. *chef kiss* Perfection. ###### |
I have been dealing with the fallout of this since Sunday.
Some backstory:
My mom is a huge animal fan and loves Deer. She has deer mugs, a deer phone case, socks etc. You name it she probably has a deer related item of it.
For Mother's day I got her one of those mounted trophy deer heads to put above the fireplace... | YTA. I love cats but I sure as fuck don't want a taxidermied cat above my fireplace. You could have gotten her a pair of antlers since those can fall off naturally or a resin cast of a pair. But if she has soooooo much deer merch and loves animals and deer why the hell would you think it was a good idea to get her a m... |
So I play a lot of video games, and like most gamers, my online friends are all in different time zones. Usually we all get on at around 12:00 am my time, and I stay up untill 4:00 am usually. It has been this way since quarantine.
We usually play games like Gmod TTT which can get heated at times and cause me to talk ... | YTA. I live with someone who does this and its downright intolerable. At 2-4am, most people are sleeping. And furthermore, it's still your mother's house and her guest, who might be disturbed by you but is doesn't want to inconvenience their hosts.
I've seen some of your comments where you say you try but in your p... |
My roommate and I have been living together for a little over six months. She is a huge inspiration to me. She is gorgeous, I shape, intellectual, etc.
She’s put me on to her lifestyle. With her help I have lost just over 40 pounds since she moved in, i feel better than I have in my whole life, since I’ve been underw... | YTA. I know your intentions are good, but if she doesn’t want a picture of her posted, that’s her prerogative, and you have no right to tell her she’s wrong or dismiss her thoughts/feelings/wants. ###### |
I’m on mobile so I don’t know how to add the spoiler tag, so there’s ish spoilers ahead.
My sister (20F) and I (16F) live together. My sister is a big fan of this famous Spanish show on Netflix. She’s obsessed with it and she binged practically the entire thing in a week. Her absolute favourite character that she was ... | YTA. I know the show you're talking about. There was a big plot point where the character lost her child and had a huge trauma due to that but decided she wants yo move on and get pregnant again after the thing they do. They made her really excited about being a mother again and settling down and becoming happy. Then ... |
My girlfriend (56) and I (51) have been together for about a year. I am divorced and she is a widow. Her husband passed away about three years ago.
She has a wall in her house where she measured her kids height growing up. Her kids are adults now in their 20’s, but they have their heights from when they were really l... | YTA. I initially thought you were at least married and a “one big family,” and maybe I can see that, but you’re merely dating and you were just GUESTS IN HER HOME and you thought that was appropriate?!?! Who goes into basically a friend’s house and starts writing on the walls? While you’re at it, go paste your head o... |
AITA: so I have a teacher coworker who runs in my circles. We get along on the surface but she is extremely gossipy and starts a lot of problems that I have to deal with. Lately, she has been posting photos of herself dressed up... racy. Nothing nudity wise, but tops that are mostly see through, crop tops, super short ... | YTA. I hate the argument about teachers being “held to a higher standard” when we barely pay them livable wages. Teachers don’t get paid enough to have to deal with these extra layers of scrutiny! They need to be good at their jobs and professional with parents and colleagues. That’s it.
You were wrong and need to r... |
My last experience in this sub was bad but let’s try again. I (27M) have recently start working at a grocery store. My coworker (we’ll call her Kira) is pretty chill and we’ve become friends lately.
Kira loves trying new stuff with her hair and she’s had a lot of free time lately due to obvious reasons. She has been ... | YTA. I Get you were well intentioned, but you screwed up.
You basically told her that her hair is so awful she'd look better bald, that's pretty insulting
>I’m a pretty honest guy and usually give it to people straight.
This is what a***holes say
> I think if a friend asks for advice you’re a bad friend if you are... |
This happened a few minutes ago so it's still fresh on my mind, so I ordered chick fil a for lunch with doordash. So the guy finally arrives and he hands me my bag and instead of my Sprite in the chick fil a cup he hands me a sprite bottle and tells me that when he was driving to my house with my food the top wasn't pu... | YTA. I get the feeling that even if he *did* go back to get another one and be late, you would complain about your food being cold. So, either way, delivery guy was going to lose with you.
You took his money, and probably didn't tip him either. ###### |
I met my (42M) wife (34F) 9 years ago, her son John is 14.
My wife has John 3 weeks of the month.
My wife is due to give birth any day, she was actually due last week, her pregnancy has been extremely stressful and she’s been on bed rest for most of it.
Her son has been extremely difficult lately; saying I’m not his... | YTA. I feel horrible for this child who you clearly plan to treat as less than your new baby. He *is* home. He is your stepson, not your wife's son. Please change your attitude before you do irreparable damage to this child and your family. ###### |
I (21M) sing in the shower, and I really can't help it. It's just something I do and sometimes I catch myself doing it without even realizing that I'm doing it. Lately though, I've been playing music and singing along with it.
I will admit, I am pretty much tone deaf, and my friends won't let me hear the end of it.
S... | YTA. I feel bad saying that, because this is clearly an activity that makes you happy. But you admit to being tone deaf, your friends criticizing your singing, and your family is united against you, so it must be pretty bad. Go on a drive and sing in your car (windows up, please). ###### |
We have been dating for a year and he was showing me old photos from years ago, then photos of him and his ex came up. I said he should probably delete those now considering how serious we are, but then he snapped back saying they are memories and when he gets older he wants to have them to reminisce. AITA for wanting ... | YTA. I don’t know why most comments make a difference between those photos being on a hard drive somewhere or on his phone. Personally, all my photos still fit on my phone (a usual phone comes with several 100GB nowadays), so they are all there. That doesn’t mean I scroll through them daily.
Your phone memory can be... |
GF and I were talking and she wants to get on Birth Control to help with her cramps, which I was iffy about because of the effects it can have on her body (hormonal changes, lower libido, lack of natural lubrication, weight gain, etc). I pretty much condensed it down to it's your choice, but consider my input and keep ... | YTA. i do think she should inform you if she's on birth control, as a point of being in a sexual relationship, but you sound like an insufferable ass for bringing up side effects that you would find displeasing which are all mitigatable except in rare cases.
when you've experienced a period, then you can have an opi... |
I'm 38M and my sister is 35F
When my sister was 21 she got pregnant from a one night stand, baby didnt make it unfortunately which devastated my sister but with therapy she moved on.
She met her partner a year later, four years ago she had their first child.
We're currently living with my mother to stay close toge... | YTA. I cannot believe you said "well, he technically already has a sibling doesn't he?"
You win the award for asshole of the week. Even if everyone knew why would you bring up someone's dead child in such a flippant unfeeling way? A miscarriage or dead child (you don't specify which) is not "a sibling"!!! WTF! ###### |
My girlfriend (56) and I (51) have been together for about a year. I am divorced and she is a widow. Her husband passed away about three years ago.
She has a wall in her house where she measured her kids height growing up. Her kids are adults now in their 20’s, but they have their heights from when they were really l... | YTA. I can see why they don’t like you.
My mum was devastated when we had the kitchen remodelled because it means the measurement lines were removed. I can’t begin to imagine how upset her kids are at you imposing yourself onto their childhood memory. ###### |
This happened days ago, but my boyfriend brought it up again. I'm white, he is black. I hurt my eye one day and it left a mark on my cheek, like a really big one. One day we both went out, a police walked by and stopped us and asked if everything was alright, and I said yes. I get extremely nervous around cops for some... | YTA. I can see where the cops are coming from. A woman with a huge bruise acting all skittish, other people would suspect abuse, too. That being said, the fact that you didn't bother to help clear up the misunderstanding is what makes you the asshole. ###### |
My cousin \[30M\] is getting married to his girlfriend of 4 years, \[29F\]. The wedding will be in January 2021 and the invitations arrived 2 days ago. His girlfriend's family is very rich/formal and the invitations reflected that.
My husband and I \[27F\] received the invite in the mail, and they were addressed to "... | YTA. I am a feminist, but I think you’re choosing the wrong battle here and being a little petty. They addressed the invitations in a formal and traditional way. It’s not really setting feminism back in any way. Don’t be petty. If your cousin is important to you, you should go. ###### |
So daughter lives a few states away from us with her husband so we don’t see them too often. We are currently visiting for the week but things are rocky right now because of what I’m about to explain.
They like to use those Alexa devices. Before we arrived I told her I would not tolerate that she keep them out while w... | YTA. I also hate Alexa & Co and would never buy them for myself or have them in my home—but you weren’t in your home, you were in hers. You had the right to ask (not tell!!) her to remove them, and she had the right to say no. Apologize and offer to pay to replace them. You disrespected HER, and don’t seem to have any... |
My sister and I are twins (25). She has a husband and now is having a child. I'm in a lesbian relationship and have been with my partner for nearly a year. My sister is borderline homophobic and has never made the effort with my partner. She always refers to her as my friend and that it's not possible to love somebody ... | YTA. How tacky. Not only that, but you knew your sister was going to react badly because she’s homophobic, so you also took a decent proposal away from your partner. You knew it was going to be a mess and you did it anyway without any regards to how you partner might feel about it. ###### |
My wife is around 3 months pregnant I believe. I went to one appointment with her and she told the doctor she was bleeding. (It was like a few spots) and they had to schedule us for an ultrasound and that made our 30 minute check up turn into a three hour ordeal just for them to tell us the baby was fine and it was pro... | YTA. How inconvenient for you, that you had to stay with your pregnant wife at her appointment longer than you expected, because she wanted to know if the bleeding/spotting was something to be alarmed about. You know that miscarriage often starts with spotting right?
How inconvenient for you that you have to actually... |
For reference, I live in Texas.
For april fools, I thought it would be funny if a couple friends and I dressed up, and pranked our friend who’s a DACA recipient. His parents are undocumented despite coming here a long time ago; they also speak only spanish, and very broken english. The timing for this prank was perfe... | YTA. How can anybody think that shit is funny?
Would probably unfriend you aswell, even after 16 years of friendship. Crossed a line on that one ###### |
I'm a second-year radiology resident in a city in the Pacific Northwest. I'm a decent-looking guy, but a bit short and very socially awkward. So until recently, despite my best efforts, I've never been with anyone in any way at all. I was beginning to think I'd die a virgin without ever having been kissed...until I mov... | YTA. Holy shit dude. Being nice to vulnerable, at risk woman because 'it's your best chance to finally sleep with someone' is fucking DISGUSTING.
Maybe you worded it wrong, I want to give you the benefit of doubt. But jesus man. Being nice to a homeless woman just so they SLEEP WITH YOU and then trying to make yourse... |
Throw away for obvious reasons. On Saturday night I (32 F) and my boyfriend (33 M) went to have dinner at his parent’s house. This was a big next step. I hadn’t met anyone in his family yet. We’ve been dating for about 6 months now.
So last week I got sick and have been taking penicillin to get over an infection and ... | YTA. His response was actually kind as he seemed concerned for your wellbeing and while a bit blunt that may be indicative of his medical training and being used to talking about these things in a straightforward way. Farting continuously at the table is rude and weird. If you had excused yourself to the restroom due ... |
It made me feel like he doesn’t trust me. We live together and spend most days together and he knows all there is to know about me. I understand that people come from things they don’t like talking about; I was abused for several years of my life (which we’ve discussed in detail). But, it seems like he doesn’t care to ... | YTA. Him telling you he doesn’t want to talk about it now doesn’t mean he’s never going to talk to you about it. Give him some time. ###### |
\*posting for my mom. I am not the daughter in question, I am the brother trying to stay out of the middle of this, and suggested Reddit as a neutral arbiter. throwaway so I can share the results with both of them\*
I'm not sure either of us is an asshole here, but I am looking for different perspectives on how my com... | YTA. Here's what you say to a pregnant lady: " You look fabulous!" "Look at you, you're glowing." "Oh my God you look amazing!" How hard is it to be nice to your pregnant daughter? And why the fuck would you ever think it was appropriate to comment on her weight? ###### |
So me, my friend nd her boyfriend went out to eat today. My friend's boyfriend is what you'd call Obese, definitely. But he's nice and funny too, so we don't mind hanging out with him. It never really gets in the way. The only real problem is sitting somewhere with booths, the tables in booth's don't move so it's uncom... | YTa. He’s obese but funny so you don’t mind hanging out with him? Wow. How lucky he is to have friends like you. ###### |
I'm in my third year of college as an international student, and as my contract for student dorms is about to run out and I can't go home, one of my college friends offered for me to move in with him and his family for a while. I was excited about it at first, because I've known this guy since first year and we're real... | YTA. He's not LYING about being a boy. He came out to you and offered his home to you. Obviously he ain't a friend to you if you think him not telling you he's trans is him lying about everything.
He never stopped being a boy because he didn't realize til later. ###### |
Me and my SO have been together for a year and some change. Have talked about long term goals many times like Getting our own place. But we haven't actively looked at apartments together.
For the past 2 months and half I have been staying at his place for the most part. But technically, I still live at home with paren... | YTA. He trusted you with his keys, and you showed him that you would take advantage of that trust to force yourself into having access to his house without his permission.
You can ask for a key. He can decide to offer you a key. You can not decide on your own to take someone's key and make a copy. That is a major vio... |
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