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My ex and I have a 12yo son who splits his time between us. We literally live across the street from each other. We both had to work at our offices and our son asked to stay home to do his online classes. My ex wanted him to go to work with me but I said to let him stay and be independent (he is at my house today).
I ... | YTA. He sounds like a stricter parent than you, but not a psycho. Ex clearly doubted whether your son would be able to independently manage his own schooling from home without adult oversight from the beginning of this situation, and son proved him right by sleeping in and skipping class. Yes, maybe a warning would ha... |
So my son wanted to grow his hair out for the past few months now and I would tell him no because I don't like how it looks on men. He would try to convince me other wise but I would tell him no, he asked me again in December and I told him "Look if you can get a non-stop streak of 100's on your tests from now to the e... | YTA. He should be able to grow out his hair no matter what. He doesn't need your antiquated thoughts about what boys "should" look like.
But on top of that, you made him a promise, he sacrificed to make it happen and now you're backing out? You are horrible. ###### |
So last summer my boyfriend (20M) went on an archeological dig in Central America with his professor. He was to be there on the dig with her for 2 weeks and then travel as a tourist with a friend (independent of the professor or university) for 3 weeks. I was having a pretty rough time mental health wise back home and ... | YTA. He neglected to call you on *one night* and you chose the nuclear option. Not OK. Please discuss this with your therapist. ###### |
So I met this guy online, haven’t got the chance to meet in real life yet because of the Corona and he’s still stuck in another country. We seen each other’s pictures, I don’t think I’m that shallow of a person so I never bother to ask him more pictures nor do I bother to ask him for his Instagram. He looks normal in h... | YTA. He looked normal? Uh, probably because he is. ###### |
2 years ago I needed a kidney transplant due to kidney failure and my brother said he would donate one of his. So long story short he gets his kidney removed and I get my surgery, that should be the end of it right? Wrong because after my recovery (They visited me in the hospital btw) my family comes to visit me and I ... | YTA. He hasn't tried to call in a favor. And he gave you a whole organ out his body. Your reaction is totally disproportionate to the circumstances. ###### |
Throaway acc.
I was very badly verbally abused as a kid which made me have some kind of trigger to being talked to a certain way. I'm not upset at criticism at all or anything that isn't rude but sarcasm and being rude as a joke sets me off. I always have given people warnings that I don't like to be talked down to, e... | YTA. Having triggers doesn’t excuse your overreaction and threat. ###### |
for context: i given my main email to the teachers because were learning from google drive. as for my main email i use my "ultimate nickname" that i use everywhere. my IT teacher is the only one complaining about this and she wont leave me alone. i dont wanna create another email because i'd forget about it easily. now... | YTA. Having separate personal and professional email accounts is *really* common, partly for this reason. Also, YTA for bringing up irrelevant stuff about other peoples' grades to try and make yourself look good. ###### |
(if you’re wondering, i would be the asshole, and i’m going to be working on assessing that insecurity that prompted this discomfort within myself. with that being said, try not to hate me too much as you read.)
my boyfriend has hung a very large rainbow flag in his room. i am aware that the rainbow flag is representa... | YTA. Having a flag up doesn’t change the fact that he’s made a commitment to you anymore than taking it down will alter his sexuality. ###### |
I live in a house with 3 other girls, it's a tall old Victorian building and an extension was put in on the top floor. This means we have a flat roof that people can lie on, but it involves going on the balcony and climbing up the roof like the balcony.
Me and 2 of the girls have been going up there in turns to get so... | YTA. Have you ever heard the phrase "You're not wrong, you're just an asshole?" You're not wrong, you're just an asshole. Honesty without tact is cruelty. There are much, much better ways to convey the message that you aren't sure how much weight the roof can support.
Either way, this roof sounds incredibly unsafe i... |
I have 2 children, a 9 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. My son had a Minecraft world where he built quite an impressive castle on an island, which he was very proud to show to me.
Since school was canceled, he has had issues with waking up on time. He is supposed to wake up at 7 each morning, but for the past m... | YTA. have fun being a case study on /r/raisedbynarcissists in a few years. ###### |
I'll try to make this short. I'm (38m) and my wife (33f) have been married for 11 years. When we met I had a 7 year old cat that was my bff I had since he was a kitten. He was literally my whole life as cheesy as that sounds. Well he lived to be 18 and I had to have him put to sleep last summer before the world shut d... | YTA. Grief is understandable. Hauling off to a different goddamn country without telling your spouse until you're already there is not. ###### |
I am the artistic director for a small dinner theatre company, which is privately owned and operated. I have worked for this company for almost 25 years, coming back in between contracts; I'm a performer as well, having been on Broadway.
Because of the pandemic, we have been unable to put on our season. We had to lay... | YTA. Good lord. It's a special kind of insult to ask someone who's been laid off to work for free for the people who laid them off. ###### |
I shared an apartment with 2 other guys. At some point I wanted to have sex so I invited girls over. The website that used host fake accounts. I got scammed and my room mates found out. They objected to me having prostitutes over.
For a little background. I lived with these guys for some time and me living was hardly ... | YTA. Get a room. ###### |
My son (15M) turned in a Spanish assignment one day late. His teacher emailed him saying that she wouldn’t accept the assignment. He emailed her back saying that the school policy during remote learning was that any missing assignment is put in as a 50% and it can be turned in in the next five days for full credit. Sh... | YTA. Gee, wonder where the kid gets his rude and obnoxious sense of humor from....
Encourage your child to handle conflict appropriately, bro. ###### |
A bit of backstory. I recently got my bike repaired and I been riding my bike alot of the past few days. I usually cycle down footpaths because I would rather not cycle on the road and I live in a medium sized town so there are no cycle lanes. While I was cycling down hil on the footpath this family of 6 were walking ... | YTA. Footpaths are for pedestrians. ###### |
I have two children with my ex, 8 and 7, I've been with my husband for 6 years and we have a 3 year old together.
I used to live just down the road to my ex so he would pop by every day to see the children but then my partner got offered a promotion meaning we had to move, it's about 120miles away from where we were ... | YTA. First of all...why on earth would being picked up at 5pm then going to school the next morning be hard on your kids? Especially when it only happens every two weeks.
Second, your ex is going well out of his way to be there for his kids even though *you chose to move* them far away. You're refusing to split custo... |
I (27M) got engaged recently to my girlfriend of five years (27F) and she was discussing wedding dress plans with me—we don’t have a date yet but she is a big planner. Coincidentally, my older sister (30F) also got engaged within a week of me, this is relevant for the rest of the story.
I was talking with my fiancé an... | YTA. First of all you don’t get to decide who wears the dress your grandma does. Second, your fiancé doesn’t get priority over your sister, that’s not the way it works. Third, it’s neither unfair nor cruel. ###### |
So i'm a "vampire" (m15), and i'm friends with this girl from school (f15) and since we can't se eachother at school anymore, we talk via facebook.
I am very naturally pale and have colored my hair since age 12, and i mostly go out at night.
We were talking one day via facetime, and was asking me questions. She su... | YTA. First of all I’m not even gonna comment on the fact that you’re a “vampire”. Secondly, why do you gotta be be rude and crush her imagination like that? Vampires are fake and can be whatever you want them to be. Why can’t they have dark skin and have an Afro? ###### |
Throwaway account because I think my kids might have seen Reddit on my phone.
I F40 have two kids, (F14) and (M11). When I married my husband, I discovered we had vastly different lifestyles. He ate junk food, I preferred to stay healthy. Unfortunately this has been a problem with our kids now.
My daughter eats pre... | YTA. First of all I find it extremely hard to believe that a pediatrician would express concern over just five pounds to the point that she needs to be on a diet. Second of all weight and health are extremely different. Just because your son is keeping the weight off doesn't mean he's healthy if he eats junk food all ... |
Hello all! I'm in a bit of a pickle and am curious about your judgement.
I (M21) recently was drinking with my flatmates, my girlfriend (F20) and a friend of one of my flatmates (let's call him "Ben"). Ben and I began talking-- we shared some great conversation, and after a while I became tired and went to bed with ... | YTA. Finding someone else attractive isn’t a bad thing. But saying if you wasn’t together you would of hit on him is an asshole move that was not needed. She probably feels so unworthy now. There was no need to remark this. ###### |
My sister (22f) was recently terminated from her sales clerk position. she worked enough hours to pay her bills and her share of rent with her roommate but had no savings. she's been a thorn in my side and the family's side this happening; crying, fits of anger, you get the idea
I have 2 kids, one who is on the spectr... | YTA. Everyone who has ever been unemployed knows how annoying it is when people feel you are required to accept every job offer that comes your way. She doesn't like babysitting, you weren't going to pay her what she needed, and the time she spent doing the "job" you offered (were you planning on giving her benefits? ... |
Ok so I've met some pretty good liars in my life. I've been through horrible situations where people lied to me for months and now I'm generally skeptical of people until proven otherwise.
My bf on the other hand is an innocent until proven guilty type of guy and he prides himself on his honesty and loyalty. He trusts... | YTA. everyone deserves privacy. sharing passwords is really extreme and controlling ###### |
This was about a week ago. I got into a minor car accident at a crossroads, car was a bit fucked and I was a bit shaken up but obviously everything was absolutely fine. I was on my way to work so I got a taxi to work and texted my girlfriend telling her I’d been in a car crash but it was nothing serious, turned my phon... | YTA. Even ignoring the fact that you’re in a relationship and casually don’t speak to each other for 3 days, you dropped a car crash bomb and then didn’t follow up? ###### |
in my apartment complex, this little girl was doing the cliche, "lemonade, lemonade, come get your sweet lemonade!" thing and i decided to take a look since i want to become friendly with the neighbors. We made pleasantries and the dad even gave me a plate of food to go! i decided to make small talk with their daught... | YTA. Even chef Ramsey is nicer when it's a kid's attempt. ###### |
My wife and I have two children, 4, almost 5, and 6.
We’re expecting our third and final child in 3 weeks, her entire pregnancy was exhausting but it’s worse now that she’s closer to giving birth, she spent most of her pregnancy on bed rest as it’s high risk, it was the same with our youngest.
We had a family meal pl... | YTA. Even as a joke this is a pretty insensitive thing to say to other people about your pregnant wife on bed rest.
Also, when your pregnant wife says you hurt her feelings, you apologize. Because you care about her feelings. You don't invalidate her and say "It's just a joke toughen up". Not okay. That's the path to... |
My brother just finished freshman year of college last month. He's going to community college first to save money and then transfer to a 4 year school. He hadn't decided on a major when he started, but he's picked one now.
I told him a few months ago that I have $5K I'm willing to give him for when he transfers to a 4... | YTA. Either offer the money or don't, but don't dangle it in front of him with strings attached.
You're right, history might not be profitable. But at the same time, there's no guarantee that he'll find a well-paying job if he graduates with a business or engineering degree.
And honestly? It's better for him to go... |
Ok so to begin this let's just call my mom and stepdad my parents because that's easier and almist correct anyway. My parents are in their 30s so it's not unexpected that they still do it.
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night at like 01 or something. I didn't check but it was late. I obviously got out of my... | YTA. Dude. Dont open your parents door without their ok. It's common sense and respecting their privacy. ###### |
Using an old throwaway for this. My sister is pregnant and announced the name of her baby on Facebook. She told our family group chat the gender but didn't mention anything about his name.
The problem is that it is the same name of my ex boyfriend who I dated for 4 years. We ended on pretty bad terms and my family sa... | YTA. Dude, come on. The world does not revolve around you. You had a shitty relationship with a shitty dude, it happens to a lot of us. Stop giving that name power in your life. Let go of that relationship. If you had already this name bullshit wouldn’t be in issue. ###### |
Me - 30 year old man
Her - 26 year old woman
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Me and my girlfriend has been together for 8 years, and our relationship is nontraditonal. I've taught her about the universe, freedom and i've told her that i think marriage is a trap and having kids is not a good future. We still hang out and make love, but... | YTA. dude you've got some issues. if seeing people happy and in love makes you feel "a burning despise" that's a you problem. they're not hurting anyone, you are. you hurt your GF's feelings by making a comment that caused her to put a lot of effort into a nice outing, and then LAUGHING at her for it. ###### |
So I 26 M have a brother, 31 M. Hes been married to his wife for a few years. For context, we are Thai and his wife is Kenyan. When the family found out his wife was expecting, we were all happy.
But the baby is 10 months old and I find it shocking how I’m the only one to see this. The baby does not look like my bro... | YTA. Dude he’s right, genetically mixed kids can come out all kinds of ways. But even further, this just isn’t your business and I find it suspicious the way you said his wife’s got him under a spell. It seems like you might have other reasons for not liking her and are grasping at this. ###### |
GF wanted to watch a movie I am not interested in. She ask a few times and I give in. I purchase the movie because it one of those In theater movies. Now I will say I am the type of you tell me let’s watch a movie, we watch a movie no phones, no distractions same way I’ve watch movie with my kids. That being said she’s... | YTA. Don’t know if you didn’t realize this but you’re literally comparing your GF to your children. You’re adults, stop being controlling. ###### |
It made me feel like he doesn’t trust me. We live together and spend most days together and he knows all there is to know about me. I understand that people come from things they don’t like talking about; I was abused for several years of my life (which we’ve discussed in detail). But, it seems like he doesn’t care to ... | YTA. Don't take something seemingly traumatic that happened to him and make it about yourself. If he ever wants to talk about it, great; if he doesn't, let it go. The more you push, the less he will ever trust you to talk about it. ###### |
So I'm happily married and the father of two boys. My poor wife lives in a house with a lot of testosterone. She's always taught our boys that girls don't fart, which I think is silly and if she doesn't let up they are going to be very disappointed by their future wives someday. Also I think she just needs to relax abo... | YTA. Don't pretend this is about teaching your sons anything positive about women. If this post wasn't enough proof, your history certainly is. ###### |
I am an IT professional currently working from home and my wife is an ER doctor working on the frontline. We try to work the same hours, so I don’t see why this should be different just because I’m at home and she isn’t. She, on the other hand, comes home, gets annoyed when some chores aren’t done and then even more an... | YTA. Doing 8 hours in the comfort of your own home is a lot easier than 8 hours of working + daily commute + working on the frontline as a doctor during a global pandemic. You should be doing more than half the chores. ###### |
My daughter has always been that smart kid who relies purely on that to go from grade to grade. She never does her home, never pays attention in class and studies the very morning of a test. Miraculously she still good enough marks in all he subjects except for history.
A couple months ago she had an essay coming up a... | YTA. Dogs are pets and part of the family. They aren't punishments. Find a different way to punish her. You are punishing the dog too and it didn't do anything wrong. ###### |
My daughter is currently in 9th grade and is attending one of the best public schools in this country. I am so proud of her and it breaks my heart to know that I will have to change it by next year. The problem with this school is that although it excels in education, it's a really non-religious school so to speak. Wha... | YTA. Do you really think that forcing her to change schools will keep her away from boys? Come on. She wasn't even doing anything wrong. ###### |
About a month and a half ago my 21 year old nephew lost his job due to the pandemic and then was illegally evicted from his apartment (he wasn't on the lease and his friend kicked him out so there's nothing that can be done). He was planning to move in with his girlfriend who lives in another state but that is not poss... | YTA. Do you make him sleep in the cupboard under the stairs as well? ###### |
I think it sounds a lot worse than it is.
I never promised them anything. I told them I would only put in a good word for them with her but it was ultimately up to her, and that is all I did. I didn't harass her or beg her to go out with any of these guys. I would just say "Alex is a cool guy and I think you'd like h... | YTA. Do you care at all about what your sister wants? I know you said you didn’t push her but even suggesting she date someone just because the paid you is highly unethical. ###### |
I (28f) have trouble with social interactions. Some time I say things with a tone that sounds really rude without realizing it. I think I'm being playful or helpful given the situation. My husband (30m) has only recently told me that I do this and thats why people get upset with me so often. I was upset that he hadn't ... | YTA. Do you -really- want him interrupting you to tell you you're acting like a jerk? I'm sure that sounds nice after the fact, but that never works. You need to learn to reflect on your behavior and change it for next time. ###### |
My girlfriend is 21F and I am 36F.
We live together and because she has no relationship with her controlling, abusive parents, I offered to pay her college tuition.
She’s a sophomore, and right now is taking summer courses. Last weekend, I had a work emergency in another state and was stressed out.
I told my girlfr... | YTA. Did you take lessons from her abusive, controlling parents? ###### |
Throwaway because my daughter browses reddit.
My daughter is 17. She’s a really great kid, extremely smart and talented and is in college a year early. Before she went away for college she was always a straight-edged kid, would never go out too late at night and was always home before curfew. As a single mom I put a ... | YTA. Did you really not expect her to change when she started living with a diverse group of people that you can't intimidate or control?
The tone of your post is very disappointed, not in her choices up until now, but that she's not blindly obedient like you seem to think she was until this past year. It's entirely... |
I have 2 children, a 9 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. My son had a Minecraft world where he built quite an impressive castle on an island, which he was very proud to show to me.
Since school was canceled, he has had issues with waking up on time. He is supposed to wake up at 7 each morning, but for the past m... | YTA. Did it feel good kicking down the little boy's sand castle? Shame on you ###### |
A bit of context: My son had not been doing well in school at the start of this year - his grades were horrible and I had to be called in multiple times to the school to discuss this. Soon, me and my husband had enough and told him that if he got good grades for the next few months we would buy him a gaming laptop (as... | YTA. definitely. This child brought his grades back up, and the mistake (clumsily destroying his reward) was yours. To teach accountability, replace the computer.
Mistakes happen? Yes, they do. And honorable people take responsibility for those they make themselves. ###### |
One time a girl got super intoxicated at a party and started telling her secrets and pretty much making a complete fool out of herself. My friends were recording and laughing so I decided to join in. I started to feel bad the next day but my friends said it’s here fault because if she was an actual adult then she would... | YTA. Damn, is society so fucked that people can't recognize recording and exploiting someone during a weak moment is a shitty thing to do? ###### |
So due to this whole pandemic, I’ve urged my girlfriend to only order essential things from amazon. It’s a big risk to be ordering unnecessary stuff that could put us at risk. Anyway so as I was checking our orders I saw my gf ordered some kind of gloves. I clicked on it and they were these compression gloves meant for... | YTA. Compression gloves aren’t just for arthritis. If you’re having pain from repetitive motion or strain they can absolutely be helpful. ###### |
\*posting for my mom. I am not the daughter in question, I am the brother trying to stay out of the middle of this, and suggested Reddit as a neutral arbiter. throwaway so I can share the results with both of them\*
I'm not sure either of us is an asshole here, but I am looking for different perspectives on how my com... | YTA. Common sense not to comment on pregnancy weight.
And info - does the mother have a history of focusing on the daughter’s weight? Also might factor into the hurt the daughter is feeling. ###### |
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My (18m) girlfriend (17f) is bisexual. I love her a lot, but it took me awhile to get used to the fact that she finds more than one gender attractive. And tbh, I’m still not crazy about it but I deal with it because I love everything else about her. She really is amazing.... | YTA. Coming from a person who’s attracted to people of all gender identities, your way of thinking is wrong. I like to use the analogy of hair color. Let’s say your significant other is blond, but you’ve been attracted to people with many different hair colors over the years. Are you constantly looking at brunettes an... |
My wife (29F) and I (33M) had our first child at the beginning of 2020. Since my wife was breastfeeding, she always woke up to take care of the nighttime crying as our baby usually would need to be fed. During this time, I discovered that I would usually sleep through any soft crying, only waking up when our baby was... | YTA. Clean the bottles so that you can handle the night feeds a few nights a week, and look into sleep training. Not particularly safe for baby to sleep on her chest all the time and it’s simply not sustainable long term. ###### |
I(27M) have been living with my girlfriend (26F) for 2 years. We rent a nice apartment together. I make 3 times more money than she does, so when we moved in together, we agreed on I should pay 70 % and she should pay only 30% of the rent, and she will clean more than I will. She buys more food than I buy too, and she ... | YTA. Btw if your gf wises up and leaves you your rent is going to increase by 30%, your food costs will go up (because you admit she pays more than her share) and then you get to cook and clean everything. Does this send like a better alternative than helping out with some chores every week? ###### |
My sister and I had our babies 3 months apart, I'll call hers SB (sister's baby) and mine MB (my baby). Hers is 5 months old and mine is 2 months old.
My sister had to go to an appointment in the hospital and because of all the Covid she didn't want to take SB so she asked if I could care for him. I said of course, ... | YTA. Breast milk is still a body fluid, family or no, and breast feeding is a personal activity for a mother and her child. In the hospital we treat breast milk as a high risk medication and require two licensed people to sign off it's administration because it is a bodily fluid and even donor milk cannot be given wit... |
Throwaway because gf has reddit
I (19m) am straight and have been dating a (19f) who’s bisexual for a little over 9 months now (who we’ll call Anna). She told me she was bi a couple months into the relationship and I was of course, completely accepting and thanked her for the honesty and trust (she’s still closeted t... | YTA. Bisexual woman here. Bisexuality means you are not exclusively attracted to one gender. It is very common for bisexuals to have a preference with gender but if she’s chosen to date you shouldn’t you be extra complimented that her preference is for women? She could be up in some titties and has decided to be commi... |
So yea I (29M) found my friend’s reddit account when she sent me a screenshot of a reddit meme which showed her username and I searched for it and was disgusted when I found her and her husband have been a cuckold couple for years and even have few videos (not showing faces) where there are like 5 men plowing her while... | YTA. Big time. What consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes is not any of your business. Full stop. You owe them a massive apology.
It's that kind of thinking that prevented gay marriage for so long. ###### |
My girlfriend (21f) and I (20m) have been together about 6 months now. I met her at university but live about three hours away in a really small town. She was visiting at the time lockdown happened, so has been staying with my family and I. It’s been great and my family love her.
With restrictions being eased, my hom... | YTA. Besides the obvious part where you’re an asshole for pushing someone who cannot swim into any body of water, you also embarrassed the hell out of her in front of your friends who I’m sure she was hoping to impress considering it was her first time meeting them. I know you’re young but if you’re going to have a pa... |
I know the title might already make up your mind, but please hear me out.
My fiance's family has very mixed views regarding sexuality and though I have tried my best to try and integrate my father into the mix, it hasn't worked out very well. Now, my father has always been very open about his sexuality and has been f... | YTA. Basically you’re saying your fiancé’s family is homophobic and to keep peace you want your father’s partner to not be present at your wedding, even though he’s always supported you and been good to you. That’s such an AH move. You should be standing up for your father and his partner and want them there regardles... |
I've been married for two years and for the most part I'd say we have a great marriage. My wife has had some conflict with my family, and in the past I've always taken her side. My parents are both Persian and they were not happy when I married outside the race, but they have not said anything directly offensive. I gue... | YTA. Assuming your wife knew nothing about your culture beforehand, why would you even think it’s *remotely funny* to make her the laughing stock? Also-
> this objectively makes no sense because my grandfather is pretty well off, so why $300?
Does your wife know that? And even if she did, if she doesn’t know anythin... |
A friend of mine is getting married to this chick through an arranged marriage. He is really naieve when it comes to women and to top it off he doesn't know that much about her. Call her Nikki. Now, my buddy's mom actually told me and my girlfriend that if we know Nikki or people in her family to let us know, mainly be... | YTA. Assuming someone has had sex because they hung out with dudes and maybe drank is some antiquated bullshit. Why are you snooping through her shit anyways? and what’s it to you if she is a virgin? Jesus, man. ###### |
Ok, so my fiancée (21F) and I (24M) have been together for 4 years now. Our relationship has been rocky lately especially being stuck together in quarantine. She moved out here 1000+ miles from her friends and family but hasn’t made an effort to make friends here, so really I’m her only friend. She’s a really sweet, sm... | YTA. As the only person she knows in 1000 miles why couldn’t you be more understanding and sympathetic? She’s a thousand miles from family and friends during a pandemic and is obviously emotional. Personally I think you should “man up”. ###### |
I'm a RN who works in NYC (I commute from a neighboring county, takes about 45 minutes to get to work with no traffic).
I don't need to explain how horrible the situation is right now on my unit, but today at least I saw more dead patients than alive ones. I wrapped more bodies for the morgue than I ever have in my 6 ... | YTA. As an RN you’re all too aware of the situation medical professionals are facing. What if you got in a car accident because you were speeding? You *know* what the situations are like in hospitals, even with less people on the road you easily could have hurt yourself or another person. Is that a risk you’re willing... |
My fiancé James and his twin brother Jack celebrated their birthday recently and I got the two of them the same gift: dive watches with their name engraved on it. I gave my gifts to them separately, James got his gift first at our house while I gave Jack his gift later when we all met at their parents’ house for lunch.... | Yta. As a twin he’s probably super tired of always feeling as ‘one of two’ and you, the one who should appreciate him as himself alone above everyone else just treated him as ‘one of two’. ###### |
Okay, so this was kind of in response to a "trying to feed a cat vegan" post, and someone mentioned rabbits; it reminded me of an interaction I had the other day. My friend said she got two rabbits as pets and sent pictures... The cages are small, for starters. I didn't really know what to say about them because I d... | YTA. As a former rabbit owner I can say that people who think they are clever for pointing out rabbits are often eating are super annoying. Its like asking if you can get something for free if it doesn't scan correctly at check out. Trust me. You aren't the first person to say it.
Unless something is wrong with your... |
While the company I [21F] intern at was preparing to switch to wfh protocol, my boss’s [38?M] wife [3?F] came into the office to help him move his computers and stuff more quickly. I saw her car idling outside the building and stopped to say hello. She snarked back something about telling it to my coworker, who would d... | YTA. Are you kidding me? Your behaviour is totally inappropriate and you're being blinded by your immature crush on a married man. ###### |
So, due to current events (I won’t say what because I don’t want to be filtered out), the “family group chat” was having a discussion about the apocalypse and what we’d do if it happened. We were all having a good time, just talking about who in the family would be on the apocalypse team, who would be the weak link, et... | YTA. Are you for real? That’s an outrageously inappropriate joke. You’re lucky we’re in quarantine and your wife can’t bounce. Embarrassing doesn’t even begin to cover it. ###### |
My daughter is currently in 9th grade and is attending one of the best public schools in this country. I am so proud of her and it breaks my heart to know that I will have to change it by next year. The problem with this school is that although it excels in education, it's a really non-religious school so to speak. Wha... | YTA. And, if you want to alienate your daughter and eventually drive her entirely away from you, you and your husband are *definitely* going the right way about it so far... ###### |
Throwaway because a few of my coworkers use reddit.
So I'm a teacher at a relatively low income school. If you didn't know, this week is teacher appreciation week and though school has been cancelled for the rest of the year we still give lessons online.
My school's administration set up a drive through so that we ... | YTA. And this:
>I stand firm in my belief that as a soon to be college student she should have experience driving a wide range of vehicles
Is a stupid belief. Of course she bloody doesn't have to. Are you sending her to college to become a professional car mover ?! ###### |
I’m 24 and am about to finish my first year as a kindergarten teacher. Sadly not the end of the year I hoped, but oh well. This story is about this girl I went to high school with who I’ll call Cal. Cal and I were never particularly friends in high school, we actually did not care for eachother.
She was very loud an ... | YTA. And I say this as a teacher. Sure, she may not have a license, but she spends a lot of time professionally caring for kids in a school-like capacity.
You just sound petty and judgemental. ###### |
I’ve been married to my wife for two years now and she’s always wanted to have a child with me. She mentions it often. I’ve even been “trying” to have one with her. The problem is that I’ve had a vasectomy and she doesn’t know.
My ex wife came over and dropped off our 3 kids 9, 5 and 4. And she’s pregnant by her now ... | YTA. And I love that your ex called you out on this. YTA for not disclosing the vasectomy before you got engaged to your current wife. This may have been a deal breaker for her and you misled her into a marriage with you. Come clean and accept the consequences. ###### |
I have two children with my ex, 8 and 7, I've been with my husband for 6 years and we have a 3 year old together.
I used to live just down the road to my ex so he would pop by every day to see the children but then my partner got offered a promotion meaning we had to move, it's about 120miles away from where we were ... | YTA. And alienating. Your partner got a promotion, not you. You chose to move the children 120 miles away from their father because it was best for you. He's their fucking dad and you're acting like he's more of a beloved uncle. They aren't just your children they're 50% his. It's worse for the kids to be alienated fr... |
When I was zoomin with the boys a little bit ago and we were all adding funny backgrounds. I decided to step it up a notch an found an ISIS flag image that worked as zoom background (it’s harder than you think). Well it was a hit with the boys so I kept it on there.
Well today my fiancée joined a zoom using the IPAD ... | YTA. An immature joke between you and your buddies is fine, but you made it your fiancee's problem. Grow up, man. ###### |
My girlfriend and I are having a baby. She is six months pregnant. She keeps asking me when I'm going to quit and she gets mad when I say I will soon. I was planning on waiting until I took paternity leave to quit but she wants me to quit now. She keeps saying the smoke smell is bad for her and the baby, but my parents... | YTA. Among other things, you plan to try to quit smoking...during paternity leave? When your girlfriend is going to have a newborn child she'll want to have help caring for probably and who you are meant to bond with? THAT'S when you want to start trying to kick an addiction?
Dude. Quitting is hard; don't plan to squ... |
I’ll do my best to keep this short. I have 3 boys with my wife ages 10, 8, and 7. The middle one is the son in question. Let’s call him Austin. I’m no barber but I know how to cut hair. I cut their and my hair if it gets too long. Last year my son started wanting to skip haircuts and my wife said we should let him grow... | YTA. Although he doesn't miss it now, that could have turned out totally differently. Meanwhile, you've completely undermined your child's choices because of some outdated societal pressure that you personally feel.
If kids are making him feel bad about having long hair then I'm sure he'll decide for himself to chang... |
Throwaway because my girlfriend has reddit.
My (34) girlfriend (22) have been together for a year and a half. She has recently started a Timothee Chalamet fan account. She watched one of his movies and became obsessed with him. She lost her job because of Covid-19 and decided to start up a fan Instagram thing or whatev... | YTA. Also, you're 34 and she's 22??!?!?!?!!?!?! Stop parenting her. If she wants to run a fan account, she runs it. Mind your own business. ###### |
This happened a few months ago in January, and I still feel kinda conflicted over this.
I have a mutual friend let’s call H. I don’t how his guy has so many friends, he’s not a bad guy, he seems like a very naive and gullible guy but I find his personality to be quite strange. Most of his personality and interests and... | YTA. All you are is mean ###### |
My daughter has been doing digital art commissions online for the past 5 years. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m glad that she is able to be completely independent with this and support both herself, and her boyfriend while he attends college. But my problem here is that I feel like she is wasting her life. All of her frie... | YTA. All I heard in this post is about what *you* want, what will make *you* feel good, what *you* want to be able to tell *your* friends. Newsflash buddy, this isn't about you. Your daughter is her own person with her own life and interests and if *she's* happy and supporting herself, that's all that matters. Sucks t... |
My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) have been living together for almost a year now and everything has gone smoothly until corona forced us into lockdown. My boyfriend works an IT job and has been working from home since March (no issues with that). He doesn't start work until 8:30 but wakes up at 4:30 everyday, while I lik... | YTA. After reading the comments, you're definitely the asshole. OP states that the boyfriend has made efforts to quiet down, but OP has done nothing.
OP refuses to wear ear plugs
OP does not adjust the sleeping schedule to the boyfriend.
OP would prefer the only WORKING person in the house eat at a later... |
We don’t live together yet, but we will be moving in together in 4 years once I complete my doctorate degree. He knows I will be bringing my cat with me when we move in, and he knows my cat hates big dogs (my cat once sent me to the ER because a 40lb dog jumped up to say hello while I was holding my cat, and my cat cli... | YTA. According to you it's 4 years. That's plenty of time to acclimate your cat to a big dog. And honestly, who knows where both of you will stand then. He should put such a big desire on hold for something 4 years away.
If you were moving in sooner I'd understand, but for something 4 years away, that's excessive. ##... |
During Freshman year of HS, my twin sister and I made a deal that whoever had the lower rank had to do the other person’s chores. We’re both extremely academic focused people, so that’s probably a reason. Our mom agreed to this, and we made a full on contract.
Fast forward to Junior year. So far, I’ve always been hi... | YTA. A whole summer of no chores because you barely eked out better grades than she did? Way to ruin your relationship with your sister. If you value your sister at all you’ll amend this “contract” and come up with something more equitable. ###### |
Some background:
My cousin and my aunt have been staying with my parents and I for a little over a month. She separated from my uncle and had to leave the house .
I live in my parents basement apartment and when I was working and going to school I only saw them briefly. Now that we are home together, I have been taki... | YTA. A well meaning one sure. You cousin may not necessarily be unhealthy he’s just not used to walking in a hilly area at probably a rapid pace.
Not being conscious of your words and the fact that he’s still a child might have set off something like an eating disorder. Boys get those too you know ###### |
I was putting my boyfriend’s kid to bed earlier when she told me she loved me. I said it back and then she said “Are you and my dad going to get married?” I replied that I didn’t know, because well, I don’t know. We’re not at that stage yet. Then she asked me what would happen if her dad and I didn’t work out and whet... | YTA. A simple "I hope so" would have been fine ###### |
My daughter (13F) insists on sitting in her room (on her computer) and doing her school work. She gets about 5 hours of work on weekdays and none on weekends. I would much prefer she sit downstairs in the living room and do her work so I can a keep an eye on what she's doing and who she's talking to. Apparently (accord... | YTA. A lot of what you described is very controlling behavior, and you indicated that only an hour of this daily screen time is to chat with friends (which is especially important in lockdown), and the rest of it is actual work. An hour is nowhere near unreasonable. You also mentioned that she is listening to you and ... |
My little brother (21, I'm 29) were watching a show with a deaf character. He said, "As a deaf person, I'm glad they didn't make her look like a helpless burden." I asked him when he lost his hearing, and he said he can still hear. I told him he's not deaf then. He said he can only hear quiet muffled sounds in his righ... | YTA. A lot of deaf people have some form of hearing they are not all totally deaf. ###### |
My ex and I have an uneasy co-parenting agreement. Usually it's the details that sparks arguments. My biggest thing is that I don't want them drinking soda (sons are 10 and 13). Soda is awful for kids to drink. When they are with her, she lets them drink Coke for lunch and dinner. They are all hyped up on caffeine and ... | YTA. A drink of soda the previous day doesn't make kids hyper the next day, that's your own made-up bullshit. Your excuses for showing them a blatantly unsuitable movie don't stack up either. ###### |
My wife (30) and I (31M) have been married for 5 years. We’ve always wanted kids and were discussing having a kid once everything calms down. The problem is that for the past year my wife gained a few extra pounds probably because she started working longer hours in a high stress environment. She recently started worki... | YTA. 140 and 5'2 is not crazy overweight, and unless her doctor says otherwise, won't cause significant issues for her labour and delivery. You basically just told your slightly-above-average weight wife that she's too fat to have a baby, and that's a major asshole thing to say. ###### |
I’m (19M). My twin sister is (19F). We have little brothers who are (15M) and (13M). We’re all living together at the moment. Pretty much out of the blue yesterday, my (13M) brother asked me who my favorite sibling is. He never asked me this before. I didn’t hesitate to say that my twin sister is my favorite person in ... | YTA. 13 is still young and he obviously has some type of feelings about his relationship with you guys. I've heard twins have a special connection, but I don't know why you need to make your little brother feel like you could never love him as much. ###### |
Throwaway because my niece uses Reddit.
I (45f) recently saw my niece (24f) for the first time in almost a year at a small, outdoor family get together for the 4th of July. We’re all very proud of her as she finished her bachelor’s, works full time at a job she loves, lives alone and supports herself independently an... | YTA. 100%. No question.
1. You started off by saying that your niece has her life together. At her age, that's impressive.
2. She is an adult & gets to make her own decisions...which includes a lifetime of mistakes and lessons to learn.
3. You're not her mother & you have no business acting like a controlling paren... |
I've been sitting on this for a couple of weeks now and I'm really torn on what the right thing to do is.
The felon is my ex, Mark. Mark works as a sous chef at my friend’s restaurant.
I dated Mark for a couple years, starting when we were 15, we were each others firsts and he ghosted me when I told him I was pregna... | YTA. 1) you’re convinced it’s him with no real proof after almost 20 years, that’s weak. 2) if it is him, there’s a very real possibility that he could have disclosed his past to his employer but introduces himself by another name to the public. this is not illegal and it is not uncommon for ex-cons to be ashamed of t... |
My friend Tina is a very large person. She is like 5'5 and around 300 pounds. She claims to have a thyroid problem. But really she just eats all day everyday. Nothing she eats is healthy, and she really doesn't like to exercise.
I, myself, go to the gym everyday and I eat vegan. I've tried to get her to eat vegan wit... | YTA. “But I think if you can put your mind to it, you can do anything.”
Yeah, and people with depression should just stop being sad and people with eating disorders should just, like, stop and eat normal or something instead. Just put your mind to it!
From one thin, vegan chick to another- you’re a bad friend. She... |
My ex and I broke up in 2017 we had two daughters together and I had a son from a previous relationship. Back in 2019 I got married to my now wife.
My daughters mother and I get along ok. I had actually cheated on her with my now wife so those two didn’t get along for awhile and it was pretty awkward when we first st... | YTA.
You cheated on your ex With your current wife and you expect her to be cool with that but you won’t talk to her fiancé that she got with after you broke up? There’s no scenario here where you aren’t the asshole. ###### |
My(56M) first marriage ended 6 months after the death of our son (then 16) because my ex wife became a zombie who refused to move on in any shape or form.
Now, two years later, I have a one and a half year old daughter with my wife (33). I can’t spend enough time with her and she and her mother two of the greatest jo... | YTA.
Your divorced your wife within months of your son's death (and timeline wise, you were having an affair with your current wife as well) and then ditched your older daughter because you are selfish. Your wife is selfish. YOUR CHILD needs you. Not the toddler, the older child screaming for help. ###### |
Throwaway because my girlfriend knows my main.
I (30M) have been living with my girlfriend (27F) for a while and mostly it’s been great. The problem is this: she gets tension headaches from time to time. Not too often, but often enough. The way she prefers to deal with these headaches is wrapping an ace bandage ar... | YTA.
You’re going to be in for a surprise when you find out people don’t always look bangable for the partners 100% of the time.
Example- when you’re sick, when you’ve given birth.... when you have a debilitating headache.
Try being supportive to HER needs next time OP, not your aesthetic. ###### |
Hi guys,
So my sister said I should share this here. I volunteer with middle school kids doing science type stuff because I am a science major about to go to medical school. Anyways, I went to judge at a science fair and they told us there was this big emphasis on them being able to explain things correctly. One litt... | YTA.
You were there to judge. While it could have been a teaching moment, you should have at least let her finish first. One of the biggest things you can learn as a teacher is to not talk over/jump to correct struggling students, because it could stifle their willingness to try again in the future.
This little gi... |
My brother has two kids, 9 and 13. Their mother is out of the picture. Our family has been very supportive of him and his kids. My brother remarried and it was more of a "rebound" marriage for him and a marriage of "convenience" for her. My brother is a nice guy and makes good money. He only started to seriously date b... | YTA.
You don’t have to voice every thought in your head. Like we teach our kids, first THINK.
Is it True? - maybe. It’s your perception of the situation but officially she is their step mother.
Is it Helpful? - definitely not.
Is it Inspiring? - nope.
Is it Necessary? - nope.
Is it Kind? - really big nope.
... |
Disclaimer: This happened last February. My colleagues have been giving me shit for it ever since.
I am a High School English teacher. Last February, I was teaching mythology. During the test on the subject matter, I caught a student peeking off another student's paper. I took the test from him and he got an automatic... | YTA.
You clearly are not conveying to the class that it is okay to cheat on an exam, he got a zero. The only way you would be signifying that was if you only offered HIM the extra credit. The whole class is eligible for it, so yeah, you are punishing him twice. ###### |
Throwaway, mobile, etc
My (28M) SO (24F) recently started noticing that her hairline was receding. She claims that it got really bad really fast and doesn’t know why. Now, she’s often one to overreact about everything, so when I found her crying in the bathroom about this, I went about my business as if she wasn’t ther... | YTA.
you are viewing her hair loss in terms of how attractive that makes her to you. she's upset because losing her hair affects her self-esteem, and her self-esteem is not wholly dependent on how attractive you find her. it also depends on: 1) how attractive she finds herself 2) how colleagues/friends/relatives per... |
Ao my fiancé works nights and sleeps during the day which is fine. I have no problem with that but lately for the past 2-3 weeks whenever I make dinner and try to wake her up to come eat, she gets all agitated and doesn’t eat which pisses me off big time.
It’s not like I wake her up at like 5-6 in the afternoon, I al... | YTA.
You are upset because your finace won't adjust her sleeping schedule so that you can "eat together and chat" when you want her to? Because you've decided that she needs to eat at 9 or else "she won't enjoy her meal"? And for some reason she's incapable of digesting food and working at the same time, so you thin... |
My girlfriend [24F] and I [27M] have been dating for 5 years now. I don't have any social media - no facebook, instagram, twitter, snap etc. I am a private guy and like keeping my personal life to myself.
My girlfriend on the other hand, is obsessed with instagram. She has over 800 photos posted on instagram and is c... | YTA.
Why would you delete her account instead of just breaking up with her if you weren’t happy? Did you genuinely think she’d be like “well my instagram’s gone. Guess OP and I will go for a walk in the park and then stare into each other’s eyes for a few hours before a passionate love making session”??
Get real du... |
I knew when our son was born I was probably going to take a back seat in my wife’s life, but not like this. Every time I get home she mostly talks about him. He’s 8 months now already and still he’s the topic of like everything she brings up. She’s always holding him and kissing him while I feel neglected.
I told her... | YTA.
What else does she even have to talk about when she's at home with him all day? ###### |
My husband and I started saving for my daughters (28) college fund since she was born, we both worked really hard for our money and we accumulated a lot for her. She ended up getting a scholarship to cover a lot of her college so we had about 20k left over, we offered to give to to her at the time and she said she’d ra... | YTA.
To be clear, you aren't obligated to pay for your daughter's wedding. If you could no longer afford to contribute because your financial situation or priorities changed since the last time you discussed the money and its intended purpose, that would be understandable. But by your own admission, the only reason ... |
Please excuse my English as it is not my first language.
My wife is a really greedy person when it comes to food. She hates sharing. At first I found it cute but now I feel like she is overreacting. Whenever she buys sweets she always hides whatever she buys for herself so that me and the kids wont eat it. This is bec... | YTA.
Ok, there are lots of things going on here. Speaking as someone who is also pretty overprotective when it comes to food, it would irritate me if you just "took a little" from my sweets without asking me beforehand. I prefer everyone in the household having their own stash. You know that your wife is like this, ... |
I'm the 33YO mother of two daughters, 8YO and 7YO. I have no problem with my children watching almost anything on Disney, Nick, and Boomerang, except I \*\*\*HATE\*\*\* a certain show about a sponge under the sea. I WILL NOT let my daughters watch it.
Apparently, 7YO has somehow been exposed to this painful cartoon an... | YTA.
Lightly because your heart is in the right place, but your head is forgetting some stuff.
My mother hated the show too. She did let me watch it, but she always complained about it throughout the show interrupting jokes and generally making it unpleasant for me to watch it. Except she didn't remember something,... |
I find it really funny to touch my bf's tongue when he yawns. It was funny until he started doing it back. So now I cant yawn in peace. We made a truce a while back and there was peace for a few months. But then last week I impulsively did it. I regretted it immediately. As soon as my fingers hit his tongue I knew I ha... | YTA.
Leave that mans tongue alone 🤣 ###### |
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