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I have two children who are 21 and 19. My wife did not enjoy being a mother, but in my opinion she was a pretty great one. She did everything she had to and went above and beyond to make sure our kids got to do activities and have fun childhood memories. She went to therapy for years to try to learn to like being a mot... | YTA.
If your wife actively regrets having children and it used to make her cry, then your daughters *definitely* picked up on it no matter how hard she tried. I have a lot of sympathy for your wife because that sounds incredibly difficult, but you're both awful if you won't acknowledge what having a mother like that... |
I’m 27/F, my hubs is 29/M, and we have three littles 4, 3, and 18 mos.
My cousin (C) is 26/F. She finally got married to her husband last year. She has been telling everyone that she and her hubs have been trying to get pregnant, but they haven't had success. Naturally people are worried for her and concerned, mea... | YTA.
I’m legit took me a few minutes to come up with something to type here bc I don’t know how else to say not only are YTA but you’re just a horrible person in general. Like your whole mindset is fucked.
Shame on you.
Edited to add: I bet a million dollars that when you disclosed your cousin had an abortion, you... |
My daughter, we'll call her Lily, is 14 and she is in a wheelchair. She made a new friend, Barbara, also 14, earlier in the school year who also uses a wheelchair, and they've become very close. Barbara has, in a way, strained mine and Lily's once very close relationship. She thinks Lily should be able to hang out more... | YTA.
Hi, disabled person here. It is absolutely not your call to decide whether you can call your daughter ‘special needs’ or not. She’s told you she doesn’t like it, so you stop. It’s that simple. The meanings of terms can change, and to be honest I’d also take exception to being called ‘special needs’ in this day ... |
My daughter has been calling her father every day when she’s with me, sometimes for an hour or more. She’s been doing this since around when the pandemic started. It’s very frustrating to me because she never calls me when she’s with her father, and when I call her she only talks for 5 minutes before saying she has to ... | YTA.
First: Your daughter is 15 and can call whoever she wants. Just because she wants more contact with him doesn’t mean you get to tell your ex to ruin what sounds like a great relationship.
Second: you are so lucky to have someone who is invested in his daughter so much when many single parents (dads and moms) ... |
My son recently accepted a very well regarded school. I have been saving for his schooling for a while, and have enough to cover it. The problem is, my son recently told me he wants to major in English literature.
I asked him a little bit more about this, and I really don’t agree with it. I don’t think it’s fair to m... | YTA.
First, you sprung this on him out of the blue after he worked hard enough to get accepted to a good school.
Second, you dismiss the value of a liberal arts degree based on nothing but your own assumptions. Here in the real world, plenty of people manage to build very lucrative careers despite their "useless" ... |
TL;DR i told my wife she cant associate with a person who just got 10 years probation for possession of heroine.
So today my wife told me about a friend she has had for a long time. This friend i found out just got a 10 year probation sentence for possession of heroine. I told her we will not associate with these kind... | YTA.
First of all, you can express your concerns, but you cannot tell her who she can and cannot associate with.
Second, why on Earth would this person come to your house and leave their drugs behind? That's...that's not rational at all. Also, who would be calling CPS if this did happen?
Third, there's no reason... |
I live in a house with 3 other girls, it's a tall old Victorian building and an extension was put in on the top floor. This means we have a flat roof that people can lie on, but it involves going on the balcony and climbing up the roof like the balcony.
Me and 2 of the girls have been going up there in turns to get so... | YTA.
First of all, I don’t think ANY of you should be on the roof if there’s a risk of it collapsing. How would it feel if you encouraged any of your friends to go up there, KNOWING that it isn’t secure, and someone got hurt? You’re all toying with each other’s safety. Not cool.
Second, I think you know you’re an A... |
So I like this girl and today I found out that she has been single for 2 years. Now obviously I know I’m not the asshole for asking her the question but perhaps I said it wrong.
Basically I find it weird she’s single because she’s really pretty and lots of guys on campus like her and she’s also really nice and humble.... | YTA.
>Now obviously I know I’m not the asshole for asking her the question but perhaps I said it wrong.
What?! Yes! Yes, you *are* the asshole for asking her the question...there's no right or wrong way to phrase it. ###### |
I can't believe this trivial issue has exploded into a huge right but here goes. I've been cooking at home almost every meal for the last month. Cooking makes a lot of dishes. I have told my boyfriend several times that he needs to do the dishes since I'm coming the food. Ordering out isn't an option and we need to eat... | YTA.
> Instinctively I thanked him for doing the dishes but then I remembered that is his responsibility and reminded him of how unfair it was to me for him not to do the dishes every day. I told him I take back my thanks and he should be doing more without me asking.
So, to be clear:
* Boyfriend does not do dishe... |
So, due to current events (I won’t say what because I don’t want to be filtered out), the “family group chat” was having a discussion about the apocalypse and what we’d do if it happened. We were all having a good time, just talking about who in the family would be on the apocalypse team, who would be the weak link, et... | YTA.
You're wife is right- you are very embarrassing. And gross. Nothing like singling out her adopted sister by saying she could have sex with her brother. *In a family group chat no less*. Yikes, dude. You have two left feet and they're both in your mouth. ###### |
2 months ago, my wife and I made 3 years of being happily married together. My wife expected me to surprise her with something nice like I did last year but unfortunately I was really busy that day (I had to work a lot more than usual) which upset her and she ended up going out with some friends. After I finished work,... | YTA.
How did you have no time to celebrate your anniversary with your wife, but then had time to go hang out with a co-worker? You know your wife made plans because you said you were busy, right? Clearly you weren't.
Then you ignore all of her calls? Petty.
You effed up.
EDIT: Saw in one of your responses tha... |
There's no school and she doesn't have a job, so my stepdaughter has no responsibilities at the moment. For context, her dad was a single dad until he met me when she was 10, and now we have two more children together. Her dad is a GP so he works pretty much constantly and I'm left looking after 2 children by myself fo... | YTA.
"I'm spending my time educating my 5 year old so he doesn't fall behind."
And I'm just wondering how you expect the 16 year old preparing for college in a few years from falling behind when you are using her as a servant to free yourself?
Do you really think kindergarten or first grade is more difficult to ... |
My girlfriend, Emily (23F) and I (30M) have been dating for a year. We live together. Emily is a freelance writer and she is also studying for her Master's.
She has this "hobby" of making stuffed toys, tableclothes, scarves and stuff. But the most expensive and interesting ones are her glass cups and plates. She make... | YTA.
If you gift an artists some paints and they create the Mona Lisa it doesn't mean you fucking own the Mona Lisa. ###### |
I (f45) have two sons, one is 20 and one is 18. This is regarding my older son. He’s currently at university studying medicine but is home at the moment studying online. He’s been in a relationship with a girl from his university city since last December and they seem really in love, but I do have my concerns.
I thin... | YTA. "she isn't what I planed for my son" ???
Are you bloody kidding me? ###### |
My daughter is very angry at me for asking this and has said she will never forgive me. Previously, we both expressed our desire to lose weight and have tried diets together and always share tips. We are both very much overweight and definitely bond over this because we are open about our struggles.
About 2 months a... | YTA. "Do you think he cheated on you because you suck?"
It's not her fault that her partner possibly cheated. Ppl who get cheated on already have irrational, insecure thoughts. And a mother feeding those irrational thoughts is just awful.
Major YTA ###### |
I'm in my third year of college as an international student, and as my contract for student dorms is about to run out and I can't go home, one of my college friends offered for me to move in with him and his family for a while. I was excited about it at first, because I've known this guy since first year and we're real... | YTA. Your friend has had their entire existence effectively denied by their family refusing to acknowledge that they are transgender. When you consider that single fact, it should be pretty clear why they would hide that fact from everyone but their closest friends. The fact that he told you this doesn't change who... |
I woke up later than usual today and heard my daughter (16) moving around downstairs. I went down and she was playing a video game. We said good morning, and I asked her how long she’d been up. She said for a couple of hours.
I jokingly said “bet you enjoyed having the house to yourself for a while” because my husban... | YTA. You’re manipulative and annoying and you sound like a child. You’re baiting your daughter into these arguments. It’s pathetic. Like, what do you want from her? Why do you need so much attention? These power plays are dumb. ###### |
I know, it sounds like a favor. But isn’t this also a bit of being nosy?
We are all at their retreat and having a nice time. He doesn’t say much: takes his ultrasonic turbo jet and decides to wash my car. Granted, my car was dirty. But isn’t that my call to make?
So then my wife asks why I didn’t go compliment my in-... | YTA. You're mad because he washed your car as a favor and hands you napkins when he sees you're hands are dirty? This isn't not minding his business. This is caring about others and trying to be helpful. If he's overstepping, you can express some boundaries, but it doesn't sound like you've done that. You just wen... |
Edit: Thank you for the responses everyone, I appreciate them all. I've decided to take your advice and send everyone a meaningful apology, EXCEPT for the boy. I'll use a mutual friend to pass the message, however I'll tell them only to mention the apology if he happens to mention me. This was a short discussion, but i... | YTA. You're apologizing for your own sake, not for his benefit. Write a letter, burn it, and delete his number/social media. Be better on your own time. ###### |
I have two children with my ex, 8 and 7, I've been with my husband for 6 years and we have a 3 year old together.
I used to live just down the road to my ex so he would pop by every day to see the children but then my partner got offered a promotion meaning we had to move, it's about 120miles away from where we were ... | YTA. You're actually lucky he didn't kick up a fuss when you moved with your partner to another city. They have distance from their father because you decided to move them away. ###### |
My son is about to turn 23 and is about to graduate from college. He works full time and went to school full time in fall and part time in spring. He pays for all his own expenses like rent, food, insurance, and tuition so he is in quite a bit of debt coming out of this. I convinced him to let me claim his as a depe... | YTA. You used him to cheat the system and it backfired, now he’s out of pocket because of you. ###### |
My son is about to turn 23 and is about to graduate from college. He works full time and went to school full time in fall and part time in spring. He pays for all his own expenses like rent, food, insurance, and tuition so he is in quite a bit of debt coming out of this. I convinced him to let me claim his as a depe... | YTA. You reported him as a dependent to save $500 for yourself. And now that he’s depending on you for help you refuse to help cause you wouldn’t get any benefit from it. ###### |
A bit of backstory, im on mobile so sorry for format. So my daughter (23 F) doesnt leave her room much at all. She tends to play video games way too much as she says it helps her depression. I frequently ask her to sit outside with me in our garden as a bit of sunshine might help her feel better yet she always refuses... | YTA. You push her to go outside and she asked for your support. You were too busy watching TV to support your depressed child. She asked to spend time with you outside and you opted to watch TV. You didn't ask her to wait up for you to be done. You shut her down. ###### |
My daughter Savannah is 17. Last week she was at one of her friend's house. Basically her friends parents came home early from a business trip and busted their kid and my daughter drinking.
I was obviously pretty pissed and told Savannah that she can't go to Lily's house anymore. She basically told me that Lily is not... | YTA. You need to discuss the dangers of drinking with her. You are doing more harm than good by taking the actions that you are. ###### |
My roommate and I have been living together for a little over six months. She is a huge inspiration to me. She is gorgeous, I shape, intellectual, etc.
She’s put me on to her lifestyle. With her help I have lost just over 40 pounds since she moved in, i feel better than I have in my whole life, since I’ve been underw... | YTA. You may think the picture is flattering and you're just expressing appreciation, but she doesn't. If you really want to express appreciation, you'd listen to how she feels about this and not offend the person you're trying to "thank." Instead of invalidating her feelings and telling her she's wrong and vain (a... |
I (22F) have lived in an apartment with 3 other people (all 22F) since August of 2019. For the last year, my roommates have been rude and condescending to me. They’ve belittled me for having what I see as a normal college experience, such as spending time with friends and going out on weekends. They are all extremely T... | Yta. You lived there too, you should go back and clean up. If you don't leave an apartment clean you can lose the security deposit. ###### |
Hi everyone! I've been a long-time lurker, but the first-time poster! I (26F) am so excited to marry my fiance (27M) this September! Unfortunately, we've had to postpone our bachelorette/bachelor parties for obvious reasons. Additionally, we may have to have a small ceremony of fewer than 10 people on our wedding date... | YTA. You don't own the entire amount of time before your wedding. They are getting married in May. You are getting married four months later. Four months. It's not like they are getting married the week before you. They are having a court house wedding. They aren't planning anything elaborate. They have the ab... |
So this past week it was that time of the month again. Sometimes mine are really bad and last more than a week. It was that way this time. Well my husband had been in the bathroom for a really long time. I knocked and he said he’d be out soon. I tried to open the door and to my surprise it was unlocked. I walked in at ... | YTA. You barged in on him *in the bathroom*, and shamed him for masturbating.
You sound like a troll, and you are for sure the asshole.
**YTA.** ###### |
My GF has about 5-6 of my T-shirts. I technically gave them to her. She mentioned one time something like “oh I have a whole pile of your shirts I just washed, I need to remember to give them back.” I said “don’t worry about it, you can keep them.”
Now here is where I’m not sure if it’s wrong or right. The shirts li... | YTA. When you give something to someone, it becomes theirs. You told her she can keep them, not that you like when she wears your clothes and can hang onto them while you're not wearing them. ###### |
Some background - I (19f) have been staying with my brother -B- (23m) and his long term boyfriend -K- (25m) for the time being for obvious reasons. My only other option was going home to our parents who I don't get along with.
Since living with them I've noticed a few things. Like when my brother cooks he always sets ... | YTA. They are housing you, and you expect catering and laundry service, too? This is way too much entitlement! As a guest who is intruding on their space, YOU should be going out of your way to help them and make things easier. Start cooking, pick up that iron, and make yourself a welcome presence, not a freeload... |
For the last two weeks I (27M) have been walking to and from work for about one hour everyday, because I don't want to take the metro. My girlfriend (26F) works as a teacher from home; she works for around 20 hours per week and I work 40 so she takes care of a lot of things in the house, and this week she took care of ... | YTA. She told you she was hungry. Twice. If you didn't want to eat the burgers when they showed up, you could've reheated them later. Or just made two separate orders. There was no reason you should've made her wait on you. ###### |
I am very stressed at the moment. I cannot complete anything, so I turn to baking to feel like I can at least get something done.
All of my kids and my husband are appreciative of it, except for my 16 year old daughter, who has been on this diet she doesn’t need to be on. She will eat cookies occasionally but since I... | YTA. She said she didn't want to eat any more cookies, not that you aren't allowed to make them. Throwing food away because you were having a tantrum is incredibly childish. ###### |
My boyfriend of 9 years and I are discussing marriage more and more frequently.
The only problem is that he wants a normal “small” wedding, and I don’t. I hate parties, I have social anxiety, and I don’t like spending money on things that bring me no joy.
My mother is also upset by my preference. She gets really down... | YTA. Seriously not wanting a huge, fancy wedding is one thing. Not being willing to compromise to even a small wedding when it is important to your partner is another.
Contrary to what the internet has up and decided in the last few years "bUt I hAve SOciAL AnxIETY!" is not really a valid excuse to actively cult... |
Hi, I’m new to reddit, and only saw it on a YouTube video, so I thought I would give I a try.
My son (15) last year asked about getting a gaming computer. My son has the tendency to really want something for around a week, but then drop it after I say he can’t have it.
He asked about building a computer and we talked... | YTA. Reneging on a promise to a teenager after he fulfills his end of the bargain is a betrayal, one that he won't soon forget. He's quite right - you did lie to him and got his hopes up. You're within your rights to question whether he should spend the $1100 on a computer or save for a car and discuss it with him,... |
Hey, so, we are feeling bad and guilty for deciding the euthanize our daughter’s kitten instead of paying for surgery.
We adopted a kitten from a shelter for our daughters birthday in mid March. Late last week she started throwing up, wasn’t eating, wasn’t drinking, and was lethargic.
We took her to the vet and the... | YTA. Monumental one. This post will be deleted if I express my opinion of you more freely but you should be horribly ashamed of yourself and should never get another pet - ever! ###### |
So, there's this F-list celebrity/influencer here in my country that got a sex-tape of hers leaked. She gave the fakest interview about it, saying how hard it has been for her to take the video down from porn sites and how much abuse and harassment she has faced over it. It was extremely obvious she was faking and tryi... | YTA. Just so you know, both those women you named legitimately had revenge porn released. ###### |
A few years ago i went to visit my youngest son's family. He has two daughters (i will be calling the Older granddaughter as OGD and the younger granddaughter as YGD).
When i went to visit their house, i lost my wallet.
OGD finds out about this and hid her own money to my stuff so i would not be worried, i presume Y... | YTA. It's kind of you to want to repay the older for her kindness, but that repayment should've been done on a separate occasion and in private.
You also said you presume the younger doesn't know what the older did, but that means it's possible she actually might know. ###### |
For some insight, I follow a pretty strict skincare regimen (oil cleanse, regular cleanse, chemical exfoliation, dry, tone, serums, mask, moisturize, sleeping mask etc… - I even started sleeping on my back because I learned that it’s better for your skin). My body skincare is also strict since I’ve started using serums... | YTA. It because you don’t want him to touch your skin, but because of everything else you said about him. So what if he’s got clear skin that he didn’t have to work for? How are his genetics and luck his fault? It sounds a lot like you feel resentment toward him that has nothing to do with your skin care regimen and ... |
I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me money for weed, £50 and that I would pay her back next when when I get paid. She said no since she is against weed and drugs in general, I asked why and then she said "well I will lend you money if you give me the double amount back, so £100 because I will put an interest rate... | YTA. If you can't support your drug habit, guess you have to pay the going rate or stop doing drugs. ###### |
I own a small business and my kids (10 and 12) help me with the business after school.
I don’t pay them, because we’re all members of the family who need to do our job and contribute.
They met some other kids who work at their family’s business and apparently those kids are making minimum wage, so now my kids are s... | YTA. If they're working, you should be paying them. Presumably you're paying yourself, or profiting off of the work you're doing for the business in some way, so why shouldn't they? Sticking to your guns just to be consistent when you're obviously in the wrong is bad parenting. ###### |
My sister (31F) is having a baby in August. It’s a boy, but they are not planning to announce the name until he is born. This has really pissed off my mom and grandma, and they constantly bug my sister about telling the name.
After a while, my sister got sick of it and started telling them fake names. This might seem... | YTA. If Mom and Grandma won't take no for an answer, Sister is within her rights. YOU are the one who can knock it off by telling Mom and Grandma that you don't want to hear it and hanging up the phone. There's no law that says you have to be anybody's sounding board. Rather than try to control what Sister does, tr... |
This happened last night and I have been told by my partner that I was selfish but idk.
There was a tornado warning last night where I live. This isn't too unusual in our state but we are in a city so we dont typically get actual touchdown or anything like that. When the sirens went off (around 6 pm) we heard a knock... | YTA. I have lived in the same major southern city for my entire life and we have never experienced a tornado (edit- that I can remember, I'm 36). I am in a very urban part of town. Because of the earth dying we have started to have tornado warnings, I can think of at least two this year. Last week about 15 minutes ... |
I work in an office job (currently WFH now but still applicable). I am frequently bombarded with nonsensical and vague requests with unrealistic deadlines. I am in a customer-service type role, although the 'customers' are people from work, so I'm not dealing with the general public.
I finally got sick of the constant... | YTA. I agree with your manager that the tone of your auto-reply is very snooty and unhelpful, bordering on entitled. If you disagree with your supervisor's request, then you are insubordinate and yes, YTA for that too. ###### |
My son is a young adult but he is low functioning, he has the mental capacity of a 12 to 13 year old. My girlfriend and son have always had a good relationship and she has always treated him like her own child. She has never treated him any differently.
Recently though, and I believe this may be due to his depression,... | YTA. His disability is not an excuse. I have two autistic brother, 1 low functioning. They know better because my parents taught them better. You are being lazy and using his autism as an excuse for your bad parenting. Sit him down and talk to him. If he is "cognitively a 13 year old" then he is cognitive enough... |
So in February my sister (12f) confided in me (21f) that she had started her period. Our mom died about four years ago so she didn’t feel comfortable telling our dad just yet. I told him and he had a conversation with her about it. I wanted to make her more comfortable with the whole concept of her starting puberty and... | YTA. Her period is her business, and without her permission, you had absolutely no right to tell the world. ###### |
Info- I met my boyfriend’s son about two months ago. He’s 13. My boyfriend was a single parent for most of his son’s life, so they’re really close.
His son often snuggles with him on the couch every night before bed, as he curls up next to him, he’ll say something along the lines of “Hey baby,” or “c’mere baby.”
H... | YTA. He's going to be your boyfriend's baby as an infant, at 13, at 43, and until your boyfriend is dead in the ground. You are insecure because your boyfriend and his son have a close relationship. ###### |
I shared an apartment with 2 other guys. At some point I wanted to have sex so I invited girls over. The website that used host fake accounts. I got scammed and my room mates found out. They objected to me having prostitutes over.
For a little background. I lived with these guys for some time and me living was hardly ... | YTA. Get a cheap motel. You’re not wise to bring sex workers to your home. Regardless of your roommates *you* shouldn’t want them to know where you live. The theft risk is later. Not when you’re paying them. Wise up bro. Do this better. ###### |
Pretty much the title. Throwaway
My roommate has a short hallway leading to to her room, she has claimed the space even though it is technically not hers.
She has a new age-y altar that sits in the hallway. It is filled with candles. It has dried flowers, money, sometimes honey and other things. She has a couple of... | YTA. Common area or not, it's not your altar. It's not your spirituality. It's hers, and you should not be appropriating it to farm Instagram likes for yourself.
It would seriously not be that hard, and would cost you nothing, to take that photo down. So I can't imagine why you're so unwilling to do that one simp... |
My wife got laid off from her job due to the pandemic. Since I work in an office, I get to work from home. My wife hasn't really been looking for new jobs, she will occasionally apply for a job on linkedin, but she isn't putting in a lot of effort in her job search.
However, almost every day she took the car out to se... | YTA. At no point do you mention having a discussion about this before hiding the keys. ###### |
My daughter (13F) insists on sitting in her room (on her computer) and doing her school work. She gets about 5 hours of work on weekdays and none on weekends. I would much prefer she sit downstairs in the living room and do her work so I can a keep an eye on what she's doing and who she's talking to. Apparently (accord... | YTA. At a certain point, children need a certain amount of privacy to do their work or to concentrate. Also, an hour on her phone? That’s it? You got upset over an HOUR? ###### |
She’s 6 months away from being 18 so by then it’ll be out of my hands but until then I don’t want her to cut her hair, and I’d rather see her not get it cut for a very long time. She has beautiful long brown hair (down to her hips) and she wants it cut just below her ears but that would mean a lot of hair to be cut off... | YTA. are you a troll? Because this is ridiculous. It's not a "waste" to cut her hair, she enjoyed it and now she wants it gone. ###### |
My brother and his wife died, leaving their daughter, my niece, I'm sure a decent amount of money. She's very secretive about how much money it was, and it also came with the option to pay out their mortgage and own their house.
The house isn't great, but with location and lot size, it would probably sell for 500k, b... | YTA.
It's her house. You are the asshole for telling her she has to let people live in her house, you are the asshole for cutting her off for how she manages her house. Whether or not you think a 25 year old should have a house is irrelevant. It isn't your house. It is her house. She's not trying to split the f... |
My brother is 40 and to the best of my knowledge has never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I suspect he is gay though. He's never married. He announced last year that he was going to be a father and we were shocked. I thought maybe he got someone pregnant. No. He hired a surrogate and even more weird is that he used a... | YTA. "Do I have sufficient extended relatives" is a weird requirement for whether one is in a place to have a kid. It sounds like you're looking for excuses to look down on your brothers nontraditional path to parenthood ###### |
Okay, here is some background info. My wife and I are divorced, and my wife remarried a very wealthy man and I believe they are spoiling our daughter (12 F) and attempting to turn her against me (42 M). I work in a restaurant and am a single father, so I can't afford ridiculous luxuries such as new iPhones and air pods... | YTA. Allowing your 12 year old to work outside the home is a decision big enough that both parents should agree. Many states don’t even let 12 year olds work. It also seems like you’re just really salty about your child’s stepfather having money. Put your daughter above your pride and let her enjoy an iPad ffs. ... |
My son is about to turn 23 and is about to graduate from college. He works full time and went to school full time in fall and part time in spring. He pays for all his own expenses like rent, food, insurance, and tuition so he is in quite a bit of debt coming out of this. I convinced him to let me claim his as a depe... | YTA.
You committed fraud to save $500 and you cost him $1200. The *least* you should do is offer to split the difference and give him $600. ###### |
So yesterday was my husbands 40th birthday. We’re Hispanic and pushing kids faces into the birthday cake is a big tradition. This also extends to adults birthdays, especially milestones. We have three children who are 10, 7, and 5. The 10 year old is very sensitive and caring and it’s been a difficult adjustment for my... | YTA? Your husband's boundaries should be decided by him? You intejected and stopped your son from being part of the fun..
>The 10 year old is very sensitive and caring and it’s been a difficult adjustment for my husband who grew up in a very macho household. He tries. He could be better but I know he tries.
Also c... |
So my gf and I have been together 4 months. We're both 27 and were happy. She has been texting her old guy friend recently and it's really starting to bother me. We dont get along with each other and she knows this. Apparently his cousin died but I doubt that and I think it's an excuse to talk to him . While she was as... | YTA!!!! What. The FUCK. You are 100% undeniably a huge asshole bro. How DARE you lock her out of her own phone and who are you to tell her who she can and cant be talking to????? You are NOT mature enough WHATSOEVER to be in a relationship, holy shit dude. I hope she finds this and RUNS.
Edit: WHAT YOU DID WAS ILLEGA... |
This happened early in March and I've been constantly thinking back on this because I don't know if I was being an asshole in this situation or not.
I was out on my run at a large park that is near by. There is a playground near one of the edges, and behind it there are a bunch of short nature trails that lead out to ... | YTA!!!! On so many different levels!!! I am a black woman w biracial children and i have been afraid from DAY ONE that i would come across someone as racist as you when i had my younger children. All three of them look like me in various ways but are extremely fair complected. I cannot imagine the stress you put on a ... |
I’ll try to keep this short. I got my dog as a birthday gift when I was 16 (23 now) and I love her. She slept with me every night, followed me everywhere, and only really paid attention to me. She is constantly right underneath me, but that’s what I love about her.
My boyfriend never really liked animals and being tha... | YTA! You seriously want to give your dog away (that you claim to love) so your boyfriend will pay more attention to you? He probably isn't mad because he is seeing the dog less, he is mad because he is dating a girl that would ditch her dog because she is jealous! ###### |
I (f45) have two sons, one is 20 and one is 18. This is regarding my older son. He’s currently at university studying medicine but is home at the moment studying online. He’s been in a relationship with a girl from his university city since last December and they seem really in love, but I do have my concerns.
I thin... | YTA! He got into med school, I'm sure he can decide what's best for his time management!
If you don't like her because you think she's under achieving, at least have the courage to say that to your son, rather than going on about what you think his priorities should be. Maybe you should ask him some questions about he... |
I 23M have been living in a condominium building since January. When I first moved into this building this tall beautiful woman caught my eye who lived on my floor. We would usually get on the elevator together in the morning when we were heading to work. I introduced myself to her as her as we were waiting for the e... | YTA:
NOT because you don't want to date a trans woman. You aren't obligated to date anyone you aren't comfortable with. You are not in the wrong for basically not wanting to hook up with someone
The reason you are in the wrong is because of your disgustingly ignorant language and feelings. You're still straight and i... |
Me(25f) and my bf(27m) live together.
Lately he's been watching this anime show called re: zero. At first I was curious to see what it was about but I find out that his favorite characters are extremely sexualized maids.
I ask why he's watching a show that has characters like that. He says that I have no right to dic... | YTA: You can’t control what other people do, you’re an ass for trying.
Now if this is a deal breaker for you, you would not be an ass for moving on. ###### |
I have four boys - 16yo, 11yo twins and a 7yo. I can't explain it, but there has always been a buffer between me and my 16yo. The best way to describe it is like two magnets pushing each other away. I chalked it up to his wanting to be independent and expected that my other three would be the same. They are not that wa... | YTA: You basically told your kid you had a favorite. NEVER TELL YOUR KIDS THAT. ###### |
Due to a fire in my apartment I [30m] temporarily moved in with my girlfriend [29f]. I thought it would be great but it has sucked.
She has really bad insomnia, so getting to sleep and staying asleep. She's been to doctors, and sleep tests, and has tried medication but she says the best solution she's found is sle... | YTA: why aren't you sleeping on the couch? ###### |
I have a friend who went on the keto cult for several months and she managed to lose 110 lbs and she's much slimmer now. She's been so ecstatic about her weight loss that she turned her Instagram into a fitness page and she's really passionate about it and sharing her weight loss journey. She makes videos on her story ... | YTA: she isn't claiming to be a doctor or dietician. People who succeed will always be approached for advice. Given that she lost SO much weight, no wonder people want her advice. It's none of your business. If people want to follow her advice without consulting a doctor, that's on them. You don't *just* lose 110 lbs.... |
Yesterday was Mother’s Day. Me and my wife have two boys. One is 7 and the other is 5. Yesterday I took mother out for a pick nick. Since we are in a pandemic, that’s all we could do. I made some food for me and my mother and we went to a park and we spent some time together there and then we went to her house (my chil... | YTA: not just that, you’re a HUUUGE asshole!!
Your children are young. They are not “independent”. They need you there to show them how to be good and loving towards their mother, instead you tossed some food at them and left for the day. I bet I know who cleaned up after them, too.
THEN you got on the phone with ... |
Last night my girlfriend accidentally dropped her laptop down the stairs (our dog kind of jumped at her while she was going up). It still turns on but the only thing connecting the screen a keyboard are a couple wires and the screen is showing all those weird colors. Anyways she was freaking out about it and I helped g... | YTA: look, she needs to get that work done, and accidents happen. Plus I’m sure she’ll be extra careful with your laptop, considering she just had hers broken and you helped save her data. If she isn’t, then you have bigger issues to deal with in your relationship. ###### |
So I have pretty good reason to suspect that my girl has been cheating on me. She’s just been generally acting shady and doing things that don’t make sense unless she’s cheating on me. I keep bringing it up kind of subtly but she just kept making jokes at my expense in response, so it just made me more suspicious. I al... | YTA: it’s impossible to prove a negative. If she’s not cheating, and shows you her phone, are you automatically going to believe her, or are you still going to wonder because she could’ve deleted the messages? If you feel you can’t trust her, break up with her, but do it because of you not because she can’t prove it t... |
**Reposting because the mods locked my last post because of the fake names I chose for people.**
My husband (29M) and I (27M) live in the same neighborhood as my parents, my brother and his wife. We walk to each other's homes for dinner on a pretty regular basis.
My SIL (we'll call her "Jill") is, for lack of a bette... | YTA: In this particular context, what you said was an unwarranted attack, and I'm pretty fed up with gay men thinking they have a free pass to insult women without reproach. Unless you have left out the worst of her behavior, it sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder about her/your brother's straight privilege? ... |
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My (28M) SO (24F) recently started noticing that her hairline was receding. She claims that it got really bad really fast and doesn’t know why. Now, she’s often one to overreact about everything, so when I found her crying in the bathroom about this, I went about my business as if she wasn’t ther... | YTA: hair loss in a 24(f) is indicative of a medical issue—especially if it’s sudden. She’s probably scared. Also, she’s allowed to have feelings about her appearance that exist outside of how attractive you find her. Thirdly, it’s always shitty to dismiss someone’s feelings. You don’t have to validate the belief that... |
My 12yo nephew is getting a bit of a unibrow and bushy and seems to be unaware of it. So are his parents. I don't want him to be teased and doing something stupid like shaving it, so I pointed it out. I said "dude, you need to fix those brows. You need them waxed and trimmed" and it's something I do regularly like shav... | YTA, YTA, YTA!!! It doesn’t seem like the kid had an issue with the way he looked until you convinced him he didn’t look correct according to your standards. This is so not cool. ###### |
I(37F) live with my kids(10F,13M,14M). I’m letting my nephew(16M) stay with me for few weeks. I have some rules in my house, such as: no locked doors, no phones after 9pm, wifi gets turned off at 8pm and turns back on at 11am, kids have to be up by 8am and make their breakfast, they should do homework, then they can pl... | YTA, your rules are shit. a 14 and a 16 year old have to be up at 8 am and can't lock their door? sounds like a nightmare. your rules are not reasonable and you need to consider why you think they are ###### |
My brother has two kids, 9 and 13. Their mother is out of the picture. Our family has been very supportive of him and his kids. My brother remarried and it was more of a "rebound" marriage for him and a marriage of "convenience" for her. My brother is a nice guy and makes good money. He only started to seriously date b... | YTA, your brother should be the one having that discussion. ###### |
I try and stay fit. Keep some dumbells and bench inside my house. Work out 5-6 times Week at home currently. I think it has been start to rub off on her. She has joined past 3 days. Which I admire her for. If you want to change your life, take action. She has. Props to her.
Today was I working on my core. Push ups, Pl... | YTA, you're not her personal trainer, you're her SO. You should be encouraging and not condescending as fuck. ###### |
AITA for letting my boyfriend know that it bothers me he calls my family "our" family? We've been dating for 9 months and have a baby on the way (I'm 40 and he's 44). He's met my dad and sister maybe three times. He insists on calling my family members our family and it bothers me because I don't think he knows them we... | YTA, you're having his child. You've been together a short amount of time but you clearly judged him as good enough to be having a child with him, so I think it's ok that he thinks of you as his family. By extension, he considers your family as his. ###### |
I’m a mom to three kids, 2F, 9M, 14M. A few nights ago, I walked into my teen’s room to put something up. As soon as I walked in, he threw something under his covers. When I asked what he had, he lied and told me he didn’t have anything, I got frustrated and lifted the covers up. I found a stuffed lion that he got when... | YTA, you're a psycho. Plus he didn't feel as if he could come to you and let you know he wanted to keep the stuffed animal. Keep that in mind ###### |
My daughter is an 8th grader entering 9th grade. All incoming students had to go to a sort of orientation today, where they would get their schedules, IDs, the like. She had planned for my wife to take her.
I am physically disabled from an injury and can’t walk. She didn’t want me to take her because she knew I wouldn... | YTA, you were asked not to go by both your wife and daughter, yet you decided to not listen to what your daughter wanted and go anyways ###### |
My son came out as LGBT a long time ago, I have been supportive of him. I am not going to lie, I wish he wasn't but I know that's how he is and there is no changing that. I have provided him a college education and even told him I would help him if he went to law school. I bought him a car when he turned 16. Generally ... | YTA, you try to control the life of your child with your money. This is abusive and disgusting.
It is your money, you can give it to whoever you want. But when u set conditions for how he will get the money it makes u TA ###### |
My roommate and I have been living together for a little over six months. She is a huge inspiration to me. She is gorgeous, I shape, intellectual, etc.
She’s put me on to her lifestyle. With her help I have lost just over 40 pounds since she moved in, i feel better than I have in my whole life, since I’ve been underw... | YTA, you shouldn't post pictures of anyone without their consent no matter how beautiful you think it is ###### |
I know this isn't the practice for all people or couples, but I think it is good hygiene. This is even more true during summer when people sweat more and have more body oil.
In the past when she would spend the night, I never said anything, but now that we are living together and sharing a bed each night, I told her ... | YTA, you say in a comment that she showers in the morning, her hygiene is fine, you are being controlling in a very weird way.
>I told her that she can't come home and crawl into bed without taking a shower. She has to take a shower unless she is sick or there's a good reason why.
The thought that you feel like yo... |
To start off me and my boyfriend are both childfree, but he is to the extreme he got a vasectomy but still begs me to use birth control and he uses a Condon. I suspect the reason he is this concerned is that he has a family history for certain learning disabilities.
He said he wouldn’t be able to handle having a chil... | YTA, you said he hasn't had the vasectomy yet and so he clearly just wants to ensure he doesn't risk getting you pregnant. He can't tell you not to stop birth control, but he still gets control over his body. He's right, you're trying to infringe on his bodily autonomy. ###### |
I moved in with my significant other of 2 years after my pay was reduced in February due to everything that’s been happening and it didn’t make financial sense for me to live in my own apartment anymore. My SO asked me to move in with him so I took up his offer. My SO is my ex-bf’s dad, and I’m now living in the home w... | YTA, you left your ex boyfriend for his dad? Then moved into his house and decided to clear out your exes room? I hope this is fake. ###### |
So I have pretty good reason to suspect that my girl has been cheating on me. She’s just been generally acting shady and doing things that don’t make sense unless she’s cheating on me. I keep bringing it up kind of subtly but she just kept making jokes at my expense in response, so it just made me more suspicious. I al... | YTA, you don't trust her so leave. Cheating is the least of your worries right now. ###### |
This is extremely hard for us. I [54(M)] have three children's one is 22(F), 20(F) and 1(M). They both lives with us.
I will go straight to the problem, I pay for everything so they can concentrate on their studies. Due to medical conditions it is not possible for my wife to handle my son alone(This occurred sometim... | YTA, you cheated with the nanny and now your wife won’t accept a nanny for your son. It seems like you are leaving too much info out. Such sounds like a miserable household which the daughters stay only because you pay for their school. Don’t be surprised if they go nc with you in the future. ###### |
I’m going to try to keep this short. I have a 19yo cousin who has never had a job, doesn’t go to school and has severe anxiety. I bring her around my boyfriend and our friends a lot to help with her loneliness. She eventually started talking to my boyfriends band mate. I told calmly told her how I didn’t like that beca... | YTA, you can't introduce someone and then say that they are not allowed to be friends. ###### |
This happened back in September, but it's still a tension point for me. I'm nearly 60, and I have two daughters. First one is 26, still lives with me rent-free while she works full-time. Second one is 21 and in her last year of college.
My first daughter, who we'll call A, went to a state school and commuted from hom... | YTA, you can't force the responsible daughter that chose to go to an inexpensive school and commute to shell out $12,000 because her sister is going to some crazy private university. Your older daughter probably feels slighted by the whole thing anyways because you are showing obvious favoritism to the youngest! If yo... |
Me (18M) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for a few months now. Before quarantine kicked in we lived together on the same floor at our university hall. The food there is catered, and both of us would always go for the vegan option. When I asked him if he was vegan too, he said he was, and we both kinda got reall... | YTA, you can't control his dietary choices. I completely understand you wanting to be with someone else who is vegan given it's important to you, but it's unfair of you to force that on him, so either accept he isn't vegan or break up with him. ###### |
A friend of mine started dating this girl, they are long distance. Now I love my friend he is a super talented engineer but he is a bit socially stupid. He hasn't dated any girls before and now started dating a girl that is nothing but red flags. She is a single mom and the way she describes her life as if she is a per... | YTA, you are sounding extremely sexist and misogynistic, being a single mom is absolutely NOT a red flag, and I can easily spend $50 at a drugs store in makeup, hair products, and snacks. ###### |
My boyfriend (23M) and I (18F) have been dating for a year. We met at university. He has met my parents and grandparents, and they really like him.
Yesterday my immediate family and I went to the cottage. Not technically our cottage but a friend’s that we borrowed from. My BF was invited. My family is Christian, and m... | YTA, you and your boyfriend. A rule was set by the people who arranged to borrow the cottage and who are, presumably, footing the bill for any expenses while you're there. It is really disrespectful to violate that rule just because you don't agree with it. Also, your parents and grandparents DID really like your boyf... |
I don’t mind that my girlfriend hasn’t shaved her legs in a few months, because we’ve just been home together, and she has always worked from home so shaving her legs really only happens when we’re going out somewhere nice and she’s wearing a dress and doesn’t want to wear tights or if we’re having a beach trip.
Well... | YTA, why don’t you just put on some pants if it bothers you? ###### |
Getting set up on a date that didn’t work. Was I an Asshole.
So many years ago when I was single and dating. I got set up by friends with a girl for a date
Friends of her,friends of me. They thought we’d click. But I didn’t get that connection.
We didn’t really click. But everyone said just go out for a date or ... | YTA, why didnt you end it earlier? ###### |
My wife is terminally ill. Because of that, she has been unable to show me any forms of physical affection and the spark in our marriage is nonexistent.
We cannot divorce because the legal logistics would rattle shareholders in our company. Therefore, she agreed I could see others if I kept it away from the family.
I... | YTA, where to start? So much for "in sickness and in health," I guess, or were the vows at your wedding "in health and such other times that my sexual needs are 100% met, otherwise forget it"? And your wife is compassionate enough to okay your affair with ONE rule and you go out and break it and complain about it bein... |
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So I like painting/drawing, it's a great hobby of mine, and I love to do it in my free time.
My gf is a very clumsy girl. She'll trip on air. Which is surprising since she loves to bake. She can bake really good cakes/desserts, tho the clumsi... | YTA, though I understand when you pour time and effort into your craft, having someone ruin it (even unintentionally), elicits an immediate, emotional response. My AH verdict lies in my perception that you shamed her for a mistake she immediately regretted, then went on to shame her for a thing she can't control (her ... |
She’s 6 months away from being 18 so by then it’ll be out of my hands but until then I don’t want her to cut her hair, and I’d rather see her not get it cut for a very long time. She has beautiful long brown hair (down to her hips) and she wants it cut just below her ears but that would mean a lot of hair to be cut off... | YTA, this is very creepy and I think you need to get used to the idea that she will cut her hair. She could donate it and help a lot of people! ###### |
My mom is a medical worker. She doesn't come in direct contact with COVID-19 patients. Her hospital doesn't treat them. but we can't be sure about asymptomatic ones. She gets to come home around 4 PM for around 1.5 hours everyday. She has facilities of living and eating in a quarter at her hospital. It's obviously nece... | YTA, this is probably her mental break time. Yes she has space at the facility for her breaks between shifts, but I can only imagine how draining her work must be, and sometimes you need that change of scenery to actually break away from it. ###### |
Backstory: I've been with my husband for nearly 5 years, married late last year. He has a 6 year old from a previous relationship.
When we first me to was about 3 months before I met his kid (even then it was as a playdate with my nephew) and about 6 before he introduced me at his partner and I actually started spend... | YTA, this is not about your husband sticking up for you with his ex. She is the mother and he is the father.
As a family court lawyer, in my opinion, it’s highly inappropriate for you to get involved in the legal proceedings/mediation/school meetings if the mother is uncomfortable with it. I acknowledge that thes... |
Throwaway for obvious reasons but I need to know if I’m wrong here. Yesterday I overheard my roommate talking shit about me not doing the dishes for the past few months. And while she’s right, I have a good reason for it. I’m an essential worker and since I’m so high risk, the last thing I want to do after a long day o... | YTA, there was absolutely no reason to bring her size or showering habits into the conversation. If she's working as well now that restrictions are being lifted then you really have no leg to stand on. She wasn't even riding your arse about hygiene she just wants you to do your own dishes from the sounds of things. ##... |
So my wife and I have been doing a game night every so often with some other couples via zoom since we can’t go out and see people lately.
We were playing this card game that was like basically a trivia game for couples to play and you are asked a question and you write down your answer and your partner has to guess ... | YTA, the fact you answered a real person that you could actually genuinely cheat on your wife with makes you an asshole. I'm not sure what's hard to understand about that? ###### |
My son and DIL recently had a baby. They were at our house last night and my wife's God father was there as well. My wife's father was kind of a creep. He had multiple wives and a couple of them were younger than my wife, and this was his best friend so he is a bit of a womanizer, but a very nice man. My children have ... | YTA, sounds like the guy is a creep and she called it like it was. "A bit of a womanizer, but a very nice man". Nope, he's a creep. Just accept it and tell him to stay in his lane next time he gets creepy (if you still insist on having him in your life). EDIT: This is some typical boy club "boys will be boys" ish... |
I am honestly so heart broken right now. I can’t believe this is actually happening.
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I’ve been dating my ex for 3 months. The last month we had multiple arguments and I decided to break up with him. None of us were really hurt by it since he also stopped having feelings for me.
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1 week aft... | YTA, so much so that I’m having a hard time even believing this post lol ###### |
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