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So i have lived with my friend for 5 months now and we’ve been friends for 13 years. We both have kids she has a 2 year old i have a 1 year old. Just some background if y’all were curious.
So anyway I’m one of the millions of people who got laid off. So i obviously just stay home with my daughter. I do all the chor... | YTA, She's definitely an essential worker, especially right now when everyone is at home, and utilities are being stressed to the max. So many issues that never arose in apartments (because of varying schedules) will now be an issue. She probably has to work out social distancing measures, complaints, utilities, every... |
For some context I am 17F and coworker (let’s say Stacey) is mid 50’sF. We both work in the checkout section of a supermarket and our whole team are quite close so share a lot of our lives with each other.
Stacey likes to engage with the younger group of our team which is great, however she likes to get a little to p... | YTA, She needs to understand that unless you're inviting her to have that conversation, it isn't appropriate for work.
Ask her to stop and if she doesn't pursue other means to stop the behavior like speaking with mgmt or HR.
That said it doesn't mean you can make the jump that no one likes her. That feels needles... |
Me(15m) and my sister(22f) play the same online game which I will not be saying what. The game has 3 currencies and works like this:
1 is for the in-game stuffs, rewarded by clearing dungeons and tradable in the player market. 1 is for the cash shop, purchased with real life money, not tradable in game and can only b... | YTA, she lost her job and probably isn"t feeling great, she likes the game so you could have helped her out to make her feel better but you don't want her to be competition ? Ridiculous.. Instead you decided to trash talk her and go where it hurts the most. You f up and should apologize, and provide support, not be a ... |
Ao my fiancé works nights and sleeps during the day which is fine. I have no problem with that but lately for the past 2-3 weeks whenever I make dinner and try to wake her up to come eat, she gets all agitated and doesn’t eat which pisses me off big time.
It’s not like I wake her up at like 5-6 in the afternoon, I al... | YTA, she clearly doesn't want you to be waking her up to eat with her, but you've kept doing it. It's hard when you can't see each other as often or conveniently, and it's definitely something to talk about with her and find a compromise to make it work, but the way you're going about it is inconsiderate. ###### |
Last night she put a pizza in the oven and when the timer went off I took it out. I yelled to the other room that the pizza was done and she yelled back for me to cut it. The scissors were handy and the knives were dirty so I thought to heck lets try it. Anyways, TLDR: I dont want to use anything else to cut pizza wit... | YTA, sewing scissors can be incredibly expensive if they were high quality, and they should only ever be used to cut fabric. You're probably never going to get all the pizza out. You should apologize profusely and offer to buy her a new pair. ###### |
So in February my sister (12f) confided in me (21f) that she had started her period. Our mom died about four years ago so she didn’t feel comfortable telling our dad just yet. I told him and he had a conversation with her about it. I wanted to make her more comfortable with the whole concept of her starting puberty and... | YTA, seriously?? Not only are you The Asshole for humiliating her on purpose, but you're keeping on being The Asshole for calling her 'dramatic' and totally dismissing her feelings. ###### |
So for the people who dont know. ABG is a popular term used in Asian American culture where a asain female goes and takes a lot from black and white culture and is normally talking to a lot of guys at once.
Now this morning I woke to find out my(15M) sister(18F) dyed her hair blond. Which I then made a comment sayi... | YTA, not only are you judging your younger sister for her clothing choices and food which sets her up for a lifetime of insecurity but you’re gripping to this idea of “Asian purity” and implying that she’s a traitor for liking these things. Things that you say you also like/wear... ###### |
I (18f) has a boyfriend “Ed” (18m) who has a childhood friend “Kate” (18f) who he’s always hanging out with. Kate is friends with almost all of his friends, and lives next door to Ed, so she was almost always around while Ed and I were dating. I got jealous of her. She knows Ed a lot better than I did, is friendlier wi... | YTA, not jsut for saying that but for how you behaved and not caring that his brother was ill.
Everyone can get a bit jealous sometimes but it's 100% on you how you handle it. You handled it really really badly ###### |
For some insight, I follow a pretty strict skincare regimen (oil cleanse, regular cleanse, chemical exfoliation, dry, tone, serums, mask, moisturize, sleeping mask etc… - I even started sleeping on my back because I learned that it’s better for your skin). My body skincare is also strict since I’ve started using serums... | YTA, not for your skincare regime, but because you appear to have rage against your boyfriend just because he had an easier time than you. How tf is that his fault? ###### |
My wife (30F) and I (28M) have an 8 month old daughter. Since she was born my wife has not done anything besides go to work, and take care of baby. I, on the other hand, have gone to work, gone skiing, played golf, done yard work, and done other house projects and of course, taken care of baby too.
And before anyo... | YTA, not for the sentiment (which I actually agree with) but for the way you expressed it. She just made a human and then ejected it from her body, so the insistence that she relearn a sport or similar is probably both exhausting and self-esteem issue inducing. I'm sure there are a number of things you could suggest ... |
Restaurants Just opened in my city where I am, so I wanted to just relax with and talk with my family. We missed times like this so we figured it was the right time.
I told her let's go some where a little nicer than usual. Meaning like upscale place. I wanted to eat good that night. Told her it was a steak house, di... | YTA, not everyone has the same amount of disposable income that you do, and you could have at least told her the name of the place so she could have looked up the menu and price range ahead of time. She might have just blown most of her grocery budget for the entire week on one dinner, but out of politeness/obligation... |
Pretty much the title. Throwaway
My roommate has a short hallway leading to to her room, she has claimed the space even though it is technically not hers.
She has a new age-y altar that sits in the hallway. It is filled with candles. It has dried flowers, money, sometimes honey and other things. She has a couple of... | YTA, most of all for not taking down the pictures when she clearly feel very upset and violated by them. You do understand this is probably part of her religion, right? ###### |
My wife and I have a 6yo son. I grew up racing dirt bikes from the age of 5 and never stopped. My son has been asking to get one so I talked to my wife about it and she said no because it’s “too dangerous”.
Yeah you are bound to fall and break bones, but racing teaches you to not give up, and it’s a lot of fun, and m... | YTA, marriage and raising kids is a partnership. Why even talk to her if you were just going to do what you wanted anyways? Also, you seem very cavalier about breaking bones... ###### |
I (17m) will be moving out soon to go to uni. My sister (12) has made jokes about how she can't wait for me to move out so she can have my room, which is substantially bigger than hers. I said she couldn't have it as I plan to stay with my family a lot and don't want to be kicked out of the room I grew up in. When I sa... | YTA, let her have it. You’ve moved on to university. It’s part of growing up. She’s the teenager of the house now. ###### |
My sister (22f) was recently terminated from her sales clerk position. she worked enough hours to pay her bills and her share of rent with her roommate but had no savings. she's been a thorn in my side and the family's side this happening; crying, fits of anger, you get the idea
I have 2 kids, one who is on the spectr... | YTA, just because she's in between jobs doesn't mean she's cheap child care for you. Get over yourself, damn. ###### |
This happened back in September, but it's still a tension point for me. I'm nearly 60, and I have two daughters. First one is 26, still lives with me rent-free while she works full-time. Second one is 21 and in her last year of college.
My first daughter, who we'll call A, went to a state school and commuted from hom... | YTA, it's not your daughters job to finance her sister's university. As she said, either you should take a loan and pay for it yourself or the sister should. Just because she lives with you rent free doesn't mean you get to demand $12,000 for her sister's university course. ###### |
So in February my sister (12f) confided in me (21f) that she had started her period. Our mom died about four years ago so she didn’t feel comfortable telling our dad just yet. I told him and he had a conversation with her about it. I wanted to make her more comfortable with the whole concept of her starting puberty and... | YTA, it was her personal business and you spread it to anyone who would listen. why would a 12 yr old be thrilled about people knowing whats going one with her uterus. what in the ever loving fuck made you think this was a good idea. I sincerely hope this is a troll. ###### |
My fiance and I had booked a weekend at a glamping resort for a weekend in April. We paid in full for the two nights upfront and they have a zero refund cancellation policy, however, if you cancel in time they will issue a credit to be used at a later date. Now, due to covid the reservation was canceled, and we were is... | YTA, it sucks that they didn't offer a refund considering it was cancelled due to COVID but you paid and likely signed a contract accepting the terms of no refund. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean you're entitled to your money back and the bank will probably not accept the charge back because you agreed to ... |
I’m using a throwaway because she knows my main. So basically, my girlfriend and I live together. Everyday when we’re about to have whatever meal or anything, she closely inspects each and every glass, plate, fork, knife, etc.
They way she inspects it is by firstly sliding it through her fingers (she washes her hands... | YTA, it shouldn’t matter and it shouldn’t be her responsibility to do all the dishes just because you’re not thorough enough ###### |
English isn’t my first language, sorry if this is confusing to read.
I have been living with her and my best friend (M23) for a few months. Since she is a party girl who’s rarely at the apt at night and I had classes we rarely saw each other until now because we are stuck here.
This girl has some weird food habits. S... | YTA, it seems like perhaps she has some sort of compulsion, perhaps OCD? She clearly feels defensive about it, you don't need to continue to push her on it. If you don't want to eat with her, don't eat with her, but don't keep arguing with her about it. ###### |
So the situation is a bit sad all around.
We are two sisters, I'm the oldest, I'm 28. My little sister is 22 and in university. Our dad is kind of a deadbeat, so we just have our mother, who is 51.
Our mother really really wants grandchildren. She loved being a mother, she misses having little kids around. All her fri... | YTA, in no way is that your information to share.
Also,
>If you aren't ready to tell your own mother, then you aren't ready for sterilization
This is nonsense. Plenty of people don't share intimate medical details with their parents, that doesn't mean they are too immature to make those decisions. ###### |
I know, it sounds like a favor. But isn’t this also a bit of being nosy?
We are all at their retreat and having a nice time. He doesn’t say much: takes his ultrasonic turbo jet and decides to wash my car. Granted, my car was dirty. But isn’t that my call to make?
So then my wife asks why I didn’t go compliment my in-... | YTA, I’m not sure what your issue is with your FIL, but you are being unreasonable.
He hands you napkins when your hands are dirty? What a travesty.
He wanted to wash the car with his grandson? Then you whine that should be a father/son activity.
Some people are appreciative when others do things for them. It ma... |
I am a fourteen year old guy.
My birthday is in sixteen days, and my mom is asking for birthday ideas. (Where we should go, what I want, etc)
It’s quite obvious I can’t go to the local amusement park like I wanted. Last year, instead of asking for a gift, I asked if a friend and I could go there. It was really fun, so... | YTA, I'm sorry. I remember being a teenager that just wanted to enjoy life and have the means of doing it, but it's bigger than your mom not getting you what you asked for. The cat becomes a presence in her home, and she has to smell the litterbox, engage with your cat, potentially deal with veterinarian things in the... |
I (23F) was out at a club a couple weeks ago in the pre Covid era with a few friends, including Jane (22F) and my boyfriend Brad (24M). We'd just got inside and Brad left to go to the bathroom, leaving me and Jane alone at the bar. It was super loud and Jane was trying to get the barman's attention. A guy who I'd never... | YTA, I'm sorry. Don't understand all these N.T.A., to be honest. Am I the only one who read that you grabbed her and threw her in your lap?
I think just **saying** that Jane was your girlfriend in a moment of desperation is OK, but why did you have to physically force her into a pose of intimacy? I don't know what ki... |
I’m 24 and am about to finish my first year as a kindergarten teacher. Sadly not the end of the year I hoped, but oh well. This story is about this girl I went to high school with who I’ll call Cal. Cal and I were never particularly friends in high school, we actually did not care for eachother.
She was very loud an ... | YTA, I'm sorry to say. I have 3 college degrees and taught for 31 years. Many of the para professionals (teaching assistants) I worked with were talented and dedicated teachers, though they did not have degrees.
It sounds like she was a mean girl in high school but you are acting like one now. Please grow up. sh... |
So last summer my boyfriend (20M) went on an archeological dig in Central America with his professor. He was to be there on the dig with her for 2 weeks and then travel as a tourist with a friend (independent of the professor or university) for 3 weeks. I was having a pretty rough time mental health wise back home and ... | YTA, I see nothing wrong here from the prof or your boyfriend or ex most likely. Fuck you are possessive.. ###### |
Background info
I’m 16. My dad married my stepmom like two years ago.
My step mom and I aren’t friendly but we don’t fight. We are just so-so. I’m not crazy about her. She likes to knit and make clothes and for me and my brother. They are always butt ugly.
Last school year my dad didn’t even get my brother and I ba... | YTA, I agree with your brother. If you hate a gift you don't blab about it for the world to see, you just say thank you to the gift giver and quietly get rid of the gift later. ###### |
My ex and I have split custody of our daughter, I get certain days of the week and he gets the others and we split through weekends.
This year, Father’s Day comes on a day that my daughter stays with me for the weekend up until the week, and I told her that she couldn’t go to his house on Father’s Day because of that... | YTA, he should be allowed to see his daughter on his day. Father’s day is a month away, work something out in your schedule to let him have the extra day then, and you take an extra day after or something ###### |
My son has a gaming pc that he built himself many years ago. He saved up for it himself and put it all together on his own. Fast forward to now, and I find out one of the parts he bought for his PC was faulty. This meant that they were giving out $30 to anyone who had bought one and could prove the purchase. I then app... | YTA, he paid for the part, that $30 is therefore his. Are you really so immature you're going to steal from your son because it was his birthday recently and you spent money on him? ###### |
Sorry for the format, I’m on mobile.
So this happened a years ago, but it came up again and I wanted to know if I was wrong for how I responded.
So a little background, my family is big on their history, almost everything has been passed down through generations, including names. It’s been impressed upon each gener... | YTA, family heirlooms are not just about how much they are worth, but the meaning that they have. Hence the term heirloom. ###### |
For some background. I am a F(17). My cousin just left high school. I don't like to talk to my aunts, uncles, cousins, or anyone in my family because i'm not a party person as them and like to keep to myself.
In this month of june. My cousin family wanted to throw a party during this time. I have a fitness watch for m... | YTA, even if it was unintentional.
Fitness items like this, gym memberships, etc... All of these are very bad gifts to give to people if they do not *explicitly* ask you for them, for exactly this reason. Most everyone is self conscious about their body, but most especially overweight people, and it’s really hard not... |
I am living overseas in a place that has the pandemic under control and want to return to the States having been offered my dream job, which I have worked 15 years to get. The problem is is that I am not willing to take my two small children (1 year and 3 years) with me. I do not mind risking my own health to travel... | YTA, especially when you describe how they will be treated by their other parent. You're saying it is okay to risk your health (up to and including death) and are willing to do so knowing the other parent doesn't put their best interest first, all the while YOU won't be putting their best interest first by leaving the... |
I'm sure plenty of guys are laughing at me now or saying "I wish I had this problem!" but here goes.
Both my wife (33F) and I (36M) are working at home now. It gives us more closeness and I'm trying to count blessings especially as we have different schedules.
However my wife has seemed to taken the opportunity to...... | YTA, especially for this line:
>[she's being] a little self-centered since she's obviously doing it for her gratification and not mine
Seriously, what the fuck? Her doing things for herself and not for you is being "self centered"? Is it "self centered" when she wears comfortable clothes? When she orders food tha... |
So, just to preface, my younger sisters (16&13 respectfully) eat all the 'normal' kinds of meat - sausages, bacon, steak, etc. However, my dad asked me to cook a stew and I'd never tried lamb's heart before (my dad has and absolutely enjoys it, so had no issue, but knew my sisters would refuse to even try it), so w... | YTA, don’t trick people into eating things. They’re not missing an essential aspect of life if they never try lamb’s heart. Even if they’re being excessively picky, it’s their problem, not yours. ###### |
One of my best friends is getting married next year, and I agreed to be in the wedding and have bought my bridesmaid dress already. I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend will also be in the wedding. As far as I know, we will not be walking down the aisle together, but who knows? I was a little apprehensive about be... | YTA, don't make her feel like she has to choose, just bow out. ###### |
AITA for reporting a girl to HR for harassment?
There’s this really fucking annoying girl in my office, Sarah, who is constantly pissing most of us off. She will brag about all the dudes she fucked off of tinder, how much of a fascist racist fat pig trump is and constantly reminding us how he sucks ( i don’t think Po... | YTA, could this be anymore fake? Good job writing though ###### |
Throw away because my girlfriend is on Reddit and knows my account.
Yesterday, my girlfriend showed me a building she was building in Minecraft. I asked her if I can look around the place, and when she went to the bathroom, I found a lot of TNT in one of the chests and thought it would be funny to prank her by explod... | YTA, complete disrespect for her interests. ###### |
My (30F) husband (35M) and I have been married for two years. He has this group of five friends that he has been friends with since his freshman year of college. They are all very close, they have a group chat where they talk to each other almost daily. There are two women in this group, and one of them is my husbands ... | YTA, but not just for unplugging the router. You're basically saying
a. You're jealous your husband has friends that aren't your friends
b. You're insecure because your husband is still on friendly terms with an ex and cares about how she's doing (omg, what a human thing to do!)
c. You're insecure because instead ... |
My girlfriend (21f) and I (20m) have been together about 6 months now. I met her at university but live about three hours away in a really small town. She was visiting at the time lockdown happened, so has been staying with my family and I. It’s been great and my family love her.
With restrictions being eased, my hom... | YTA, but not for why you think. Your girlfriend probably wanted to make a good impression on your friends, and no body likes being made a fool of. I would even go so far as to say that she was very kind to not mention anything in front of your friends and start a fight.
I’m sure you may not have even thought it was e... |
Throwaway due to friend following my account
So me (F30) and my boyfriend (M32) have found out we’re expecting our first baby. We couldn’t wait to tell everyone, but waiting until the 12 week mark to tell our friends and family.
So we hit the 12 week mark with zero problems. We tell our parents who are absolutely ecs... | YTA, but not for the reason in the title. You have the right to tell your friends, and she has the right to cry, but what you said basically amounted to “hey, I recognize that you have struggled with something for more than a decade now, but I really couldn’t give two shits about your problems” she wasn’t trying to ma... |
My (f30) brother (40) met his wife (38) in college, they got married 10 years ago and now have two kids (f8 and m6). I never liked her much because I’ve always felt she’s just with him for his money, and I’ll explain why. They both finished their degrees but she never got a job out of it, he did. He earns a good salary... | YTA, but I'll address the "you were out of line" issue. I think there is a question of etiquette here. The rules about what people should say when aren't just about what's true and how people feel, but what impact the rules themselves have on conversations. For example, why do many people have rules against discussing... |
So I was out working in the yard for about 2-hours and I come in for a quick break from the son and catch my breath. As I walk in, my wife and kid wake up from their nap. I take him out of his play pen and shortly after my wife notices he has a dirty diaper. She proceeds to tell my son to come to me so that I can chang... | YTA, buddy. You let your kid sit in his own filth because he didn't crawl to you on command? It takes literally 2 min max to change one diaper. You took more time typing this up than that, I'd wager. Even if you needed to catch your breath, you could still change him after a few minutes and a drink.
You're supposed ... |
Happened earlier today. I decided to go for my evening run that I have been conducting everyday for the past couple weeks. On the route I take, there is a particular house that is a little bit worn down and has a small dog that does ape shit crazy every time someone walks by the house. The house is fenced off and the f... | YTA, because its not the dogs fault if it's not been socialised properly and barks a lot, it could just be doing it out of anxiety in the first place and you've now scared it more. Also the woman probably witnessed a grown adult barking at her small dog and thought you were insane.
I have a dog that barks at every pa... |
The wording in the title is exactly how my 14 year old daughter phrased it, not necessarily my opinion. So I've been married to Lacey for 18 years. We have a great marriage and two daughters. The 16 year old isn't relevant in this and we'll call the 14 year old Madison. Madison and Lacey have been clashing a lot lately... | YTA, based on the post and the follow-up comments your wife is manipulative af and you are a complete enabler. Your wife is an adult and the world does not revolve around her yet she acts like a toddler crying to get her way and you give in. The message you are sending your daughters is that you care about your wife, ... |
I work in an office job (currently WFH now but still applicable). I am frequently bombarded with nonsensical and vague requests with unrealistic deadlines. I am in a customer-service type role, although the 'customers' are people from work, so I'm not dealing with the general public.
I finally got sick of the constant... | YTA, as you said “being polite doesn’t cost a penny” and the wording of this email is anything but that ###### |
So I just woke up, went into the bedroom, and it’s a disaster. Parts of shoe everywhere on the floor. I gasp.
Last night we were playing scrabble like good little quarantinee’s and he walked into the room gently holding her shoelace in his mouth, shoe trailing behind. I told him no, drop it, and he dropped it. I said ... | YTA, as dogs shouldn't be chewing on anything but their food or their chew toys. You're rewarding bad behavior. Your girlfriend shouldn't have to plan her decisions around a badly trained dog. Stop making excuses for destructive dogs; this is unwanted behavior that should be punished. ###### |
I'll tried to keep it short. I'm (30M) a gamer and have been for a long time. I've been with my gf (30F) for 6 years and i got her into gaming a few years ago.
We dont often play together as we are into different games however I convinced her to play a popular first person shooting game that we could play campaign co-... | YTA, as a fellow achievement hunter... it definitely adds to the game!! Wth, the game pushes you to to find different ways to complete the main campaign that adds to your skill and sometimes the storyline. Those achievements means you’ve completed everything that game has to offer in its experience and if you don’t ge... |
My parents (46M, 44F) split up when I (19M) was only 2 and shortly after my dad became a fetish vid producer.
My parents had split custody of me but honestly I fucking hated my dad's career choice. He was in femdom fetish videos and although no sex was involved, I was mercilessly bullied for several years once people... | YTA, and so pathetically insecure. I wish you could understand how you're showing yourself to be pathetic and weak, not your father. He is secure enough to admit what he likes - and even get paid to do it. Your ego is the sensitive one. ###### |
When I was in high school my ex and I had a baby right before graduation. We broke up before the baby was even born and then I moved away for college. I didn't get to see the baby much when she was little but my parents would check up on them and write checks sometimes if they needed money. I would go visit Gabriela so... | YTA, and so is your wife - but its obvious you have not put your foot down that Gaby is ***your daughter***, not "another woman's daughter" before now. You clearly care more for not rocking the boat with your wife than you do about Gaby. YTA. Congratulations. ###### |
I've (40M) got 3 children from a previous marriage 11,10,8 and we have two together 3 and 1.
I've been with my wife (31F) for 6 years now.
Usually during her "time of the month" she spends 4 out of 7 days in bed because, I'm going off what she says, they're so painful it leaves her unable to do anything even with pai... | YTA, and here is why:
> Usually during her "time of the month" she spends 4 out of 7 days in bed because, I'm going off what she says, they're so painful it leaves her unable to do anything
1) Just say period. Nothing bad will happen if you do. 2) Of course you have to go off of what she says, it is her pain not you... |
Me(25f) and my bf(27m) live together.
Lately he's been watching this anime show called re: zero. At first I was curious to see what it was about but I find out that his favorite characters are extremely sexualized maids.
I ask why he's watching a show that has characters like that. He says that I have no right to dic... | YTA, and he's right....re-evaluate your relationship if you're too uncomfy with this. ###### |
My daughter Savannah is 17. Last week she was at one of her friend's house. Basically her friends parents came home early from a business trip and busted their kid and my daughter drinking.
I was obviously pretty pissed and told Savannah that she can't go to Lily's house anymore. She basically told me that Lily is not... | YTA, all this is going to do is teach her how to lie and get her into worse situations than just drinking at her friends house. Talk to her about the dangers of alcohol but don’t stunt her social growth
Edit: spelling ###### |
So long story short during the quarantine I've been trying pretty hard to keep active and fit. I've been pretty successful at that and honestly I've been in the best shape of my life.
Anyways while I was talking to my friend to see how she was coping with being stuck in doors the topic of fitness comes up and she star... | YTA, absolutely. Instead of just listening, you rapid-fired a bunch of advice and and then told her you "hate self-pity." That demonstrates spectacularly low emotional intelligence. It's also just really unkind. ###### |
Me (20f) and my sister (22f) fought yesterday and im not sure if im in the wrong here.
So my sister is already working in another city, but since the lockdown happened she decided to stay here with the family. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of 7 years because she found out he is cheating on her. We all comfo... | YTA, a 7 year relationship is a large thing to mourn and its not going to be simply wrapped up with a weeks time and a bit of consoling. I dont see where your sister did anything intentionally wrong or mean. I believe your sister is seeking this closeness with family and specifically your mom for comfort and couldn't ... |
Just finished up my second year of college and it fucking sucked. I really don't wanna listen to professors tell me what to do all day and I don't wanna work some stupid job where some middle-aged dude with a beer belly bosses me around all day either. I fucking hate school and I fucking love music, so I decided to dr... | YTA-you want to make adult decisions, then you should support yourself as an adult and pay your own bills. Definitely do not go crawling back to your mother of the fame and fortune never happens. ###### |
My son (15M) turned in a Spanish assignment one day late. His teacher emailed him saying that she wouldn’t accept the assignment. He emailed her back saying that the school policy during remote learning was that any missing assignment is put in as a 50% and it can be turned in in the next five days for full credit. Sh... | YTA-teach your kid to use his actual words instead of insults. If this teacher is flouting the rules, then you need to go over her head to the principal. ###### |
On my way to bed, I realized I had to send an important email before tomorrow.
While I was writing this email, my wife asked me if the parent of our kid's friend's full name was [redacted]. I told her I didn't know. Then she wanted to know what autodeposit on electronic funds transfer was. I told her it was pretty muc... | YTA- Youve answered your own question. It could have been handled better ###### |
I've been married for two years and for the most part I'd say we have a great marriage. My wife has had some conflict with my family, and in the past I've always taken her side. My parents are both Persian and they were not happy when I married outside the race, but they have not said anything directly offensive. I gue... | YTA- you're wife (even IF she was gullible) was put in that position by your mother and felt stupid because of what she did. It was completely unnecessary and petty, and If you always take your wife's side why would you NOT in a situation like this? ###### |
My brother and his GF have been dating for two years now and are both 18. His GF came around for lunch and they were talking about a movie that they watched. While we were all talking, they said that they love eachother deeply.
I asked them a question that was in my mind for a while now about how they are they togethe... | YTA- you sound bitter as hell. ###### |
So my girlfriend is a full time digital artist. Well like any job sometimes she needs to let out her frustrations sometimes. I usually listen to her vent But this time I felt like she was the one wrong. Today she was really upset because someone commissioned her and didn’t disclose that the commission was to be used in... | YTA- you need to learn about how art is priced. They paid $100 for personal use of the art but didn’t disclose it would be used commercially. Personal use and commercial use are two different things. Your girlfriend is trying not to get scammed and here you are trying to act like a fainting maiden. ###### |
I moved in with my significant other of 2 years after my pay was reduced in February due to everything that’s been happening and it didn’t make financial sense for me to live in my own apartment anymore. My SO asked me to move in with him so I took up his offer. My SO is my ex-bf’s dad, and I’m now living in the home w... | YTA- you are banging his dad, moving Into his childhood house, and clearing his room out and donating anything he can’t fit in his place. This almost has to be a troll with the amounts of time deafness
Edit: I love the “ I’m being so patient with him” line! Damn this post is a train wreck ###### |
Was checking out at the self-checkout. Realized I had two extra frozen meals that I did not need. Crazy time right now - just wanted to get out quickly so I set them on top of the candy rack in front of me.
Store manager confronts me. She says “are you planning on putting that back”? Like for fucks sake, am I back in ... | YTA- They're frozen, theyll go to waste if not. ###### |
A friend of mine started dating this girl, they are long distance. Now I love my friend he is a super talented engineer but he is a bit socially stupid. He hasn't dated any girls before and now started dating a girl that is nothing but red flags. She is a single mom and the way she describes her life as if she is a per... | YTA- There’s a lot of negative stereotyping about this girl in your post. Slamming her for being a single mom, claiming she’s cheating just because your friend and her are in a long distance relationship, spending money with his cards (which I’m assuming he gave to her willingly) and criticizing her past relationships... |
Some time last year there was a Halloween party for the entire grade 10. Everyone was invited and every kid showed up. This is my first "real" party (alcohol and over 10 people) I've ever been to and I am extremely excited.
So I get to the party, drink some beer, drink some more cause I wasn't feeling drunk (never had... | YTA- The expectation with parties that serve alcohol is you drink to enjoy and socialize, not get super drunk and act like an idiot. Also, you were harassing people; using the "I was drunk" defense doesn't work here. The host clearly just wanted to socialize not host a drunken free-for-all. If you really want back int... |
About a month ago a stray cat showed up on my doorstep. She had no identification or microchip. I took her in, fed her, named her Bertha, but I was also actively looking for her owners. I don't have the ability to permanently take care of another pet, but I wanted to do the right thing and make sure she had the best ch... | YTA- the cat hasn't been missing for a month guys, the ladies husband died a month ago and she's been struggling since. Don't take the cat anywhere- it's not yours but perhaps talk to the family about this issue and together you can find a resolution that is manageable for everyone. ###### |
I woke up later than usual today and heard my daughter (16) moving around downstairs. I went down and she was playing a video game. We said good morning, and I asked her how long she’d been up. She said for a couple of hours.
I jokingly said “bet you enjoyed having the house to yourself for a while” because my husban... | YTA- shes 16, she’s a teenager, it’s nice to have time away from one another especially when we’ve all been in lockdown. She even told you she didn’t mean it like you said it, you sound too sensitive ###### |
ok so im 16 and my stepdad has been with my mom for like 5 years now. he told me he was married before and had a daughter who's in her twenties now but idk what happened, i just know he doesn't really talk to her. he told me his first wife was a massive bitch and that's why he left but also said he used to drink a lot ... | Yta- She wasn't bitchy either, she was very kind and calm. ###### |
Throwaway account because I think my kids might have seen Reddit on my phone.
I F40 have two kids, (F14) and (M11). When I married my husband, I discovered we had vastly different lifestyles. He ate junk food, I preferred to stay healthy. Unfortunately this has been a problem with our kids now.
My daughter eats pre... | Yta- not only are you damaging your relationship with your daughter you are damaging her self worth and mental health.
What kind of message are you sending her by doing this that a number on a scale is more important than anything else! ###### |
Just finished up my second year of college and it fucking sucked. I really don't wanna listen to professors tell me what to do all day and I don't wanna work some stupid job where some middle-aged dude with a beer belly bosses me around all day either. I fucking hate school and I fucking love music, so I decided to dr... | YTA- let me ask you this. What if it doesn’t work out and you don’t become a music producer and then you’re left without your dream career AND your mom? She doesn’t owe you your rent payment or any other money. It’s fine if college isn’t for you. It’s not for everyone. But if you’re going to chase your dreams you need... |
I have two daughters
Ella (22F)
Lauren (19F)
Ella and her boyfriend (26M) are living with me currently because they’re saving for a house so they’re living rent free, Ella works part time and goes university while Lauren doesn’t work and goes university.
Ella doesn’t really wear jewellery apart from a ring her b... | YTA- Lauren didn’t accidentally break something of Ellas in the normal course of her day she made the decision to steal something that she knew was very valuable from her sister and then was careless enough to wear it to the beach of all places and lose it. Could Lauren have been more polite when talking to you sure b... |
Me: 30s/F
Brother (Sean): 30/M
His fiancé: (Ashley): 31/F
Ashley’s sister: 33/F (I’ll call her Kate)
My brother Sean has been dating Ashley for 2 years, and they got engaged about two months ago.
Ashley has always been very kind to me and my family. But she isn’t close with her blood siblings. And by not clos... | Yta- it’s none of your business why she isn’t close with her sister. Stay in your own lane. ###### |
My girlfriend always calls herself her cat’s Mommy. She’ll pick him up and say things like, “Do you love Mommy? He loves Mommy!” And then she’ll say to me, “Aw, he wants to see his Daddy” and just hand me her cat. She calls her Dad “Grandpa” and her Mom “Grandma” to this cat. It’s a cat!
I told her that it’s weird and... | YTA- It’s harmless. People say it all the time. There’s no actual issue here, you’re just being controlling. ###### |
*My stepdaughter moved out when she was 19, she got a flat with her boyfriend a year later*
*I moved in with her dad the same year with my daughter (12F) and everything's going great, I've never seen eye to eye with my step daughter, I don't approve of her job as a cam girl but she says it pays very well and is very o... | YTA- is your daughter going to have to pay rent through college as well? Or is she exempt because she’s YOUR daughter? I’d tread carefully, you don’t have a child with him yet and as much as he may consider your daughter his daughter too, he has an actual biological daughter whose life he wasn’t very present in and th... |
My 12yo nephew is getting a bit of a unibrow and bushy and seems to be unaware of it. So are his parents. I don't want him to be teased and doing something stupid like shaving it, so I pointed it out. I said "dude, you need to fix those brows. You need them waxed and trimmed" and it's something I do regularly like shav... | YTA- if he had asked you to because he was self conscious it would still be questionable without consulting his parents but you created an insecurity just so you could fix it. 100% AH move. ###### |
So around when my son was 10 or 11 I told my wife that I thought he would be gay when he was older. (Or was already gay I reckon since you are born with a sexuality.) She thought I was being ridiculous. Now I want to make sure I say, neither me and my wife are bigots, neither of us care at all if our kids are gay or st... | YTA- I’m glad you’re not a bigot but this is something so silly and tbh kind of dehumanizing for the kid. I’m a lesbian and it would break my heart hearing my parents bet if I was a lesbian or not.
I’m not wishing you Ill will or saying your a bigot but this does come off as insensitive. Even if there were factors pla... |
I didn’t pay for it all me and my brothers chipped into it and helped buy her a new car (which is essential to her right now). My wife doesn’t need a new car right now as much she she might want one. Her car is a little old (2012) and has had some problems but I fixed those issues.
My wife’s angry and bitter right no... | YTA- I’m a little shocked at all the NTAs. Are these people married? And would they be ok if their spouse spent $4k without discussing it? $4k is a lot, especially if your immediate family unit doesn’t have enough to comfortably buy a new car. ###### |
A few months ago I flew with my 2 twin sons (aged 11) back to the UK from a trip in the USA.
I had booked economy tickets for the 3 of us. We were all booked to sit together in the left 3 seats. However when we boarded, someone was sat in my seat and it turned out that for some reason my seat was double booked.
The a... | YTA- I would never have done that. Anything could happen, your wife is right about that. Kids get scared when turbulence gets bad and need a hand to squeeze. What if they just wanted you to buy them a drink. The stranger could indeed be a creep. It just wasn't cool. ###### |
I have been running around a lot lately amd my hamstrings are getting kinda tight. I was stretching them in my backyard in a sports bra + shorts. When I was turning over I noticed the neighbour looking out his window at me. As soon as he saw me look he left the window. The next time I looked he was back when he noticed... | YTA- get over yourself. You seriously texted his wife? Ridiculous.😂 ###### |
My girlfriend usually cooks for the both of us, and she's an AMAZING cook, really. Lately however she's been very busy with work, while I've had a lot of free time. At her insistence, I finally decided to do the cooking last night.
Now, I wouldn't consider myself an amazing chef, but I know my strengths and weaknesse... | YTA- from your other comments she was just commenting on the taste and maybe even offering advice on how to cook in future. You didn't 'overseason' the food you deliberately wrecked her meal and made it inedible. So yeah YTA ###### |
A few months ago I flew with my 2 twin sons (aged 11) back to the UK from a trip in the USA.
I had booked economy tickets for the 3 of us. We were all booked to sit together in the left 3 seats. However when we boarded, someone was sat in my seat and it turned out that for some reason my seat was double booked.
The a... | YTA- children under 13 that fly alone are watched over by flight attendants. There’s reasons for that. Why wouldn’t you just give the other person the seat and sit with your kids. ###### |
So I'm 18M and I live with my older sisters(20F/23F) our parents pay all our expenses and we go to college and stuff. Well today we had to go grocery shopping but since only one person can go at a time I was picked to go. When my sister(23F) texted me the list I asked if I can not buy the tampons and someone else can g... | YTA- As a girl, if I saw a guy buying tampons I would think “how sweet he’s doing that for her.” ###### |
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wou... | YTA- Animals are a lifetime commitment and honestly if a cat is a deal breaker you should have been an adult.
This is controlling abusive behavior akin to destroying someone's thing because you're upset at them, made so much worse because you put an innocent animal in a vulnerable position where it's scared, alone, ... |
I very recently had my first daughter, she’s 9 weeks right now.
I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, he has a 10y/o and a 9y/o with an ex - they’re still very much friendly and split custody equally.
I want to move back home, my mother is sick and I want to give her a chance to know the baby- even if we only stay f... | YTA-
It’s a tough situation for you with your mother being ill but you met this man where you are now and settled down with him knowing his custody arrangements. You’re asking him too much. Imagine him moving away 11 hours from your newborn now and the other woman saying “Well, he can visit.” It would break your hear... |
I am a landlord in a relatively small city in New England (less than 15,000 year-round residents). I inherited several rental properties but my company has been steadily growing so that we are now the largest property holders in the city and control roughly 60% of residential rentals. This problem has cropped up over t... | YTA- It was reasonable until you mentioned you own 60% of the local rentals and are continuing to grow. It seems like you are turning away people with nowhere else to go. I would also point out people who so easily turn their backs on friends, or worse family in need tend to be less like-able then they believe they... |
I (25F) have a friend that we’ll call J (30F). J is married to T (32M). We were all friends and hung out together at their house a bunch.
At one point, T caught some feelings for me, and there was some inappropriate texting. Yes, I fully know we were both assholes there, but that’s not why I’m here. Everything was bro... | YTA- if it wasn’t a problem, you’d tell her. ###### |
I had a bit to drink last night, and was sitting outside on my porch. My neighbor came outside and was doing a little hula hoop and dancing, I got a bit bold and started completing her. I’m friendly with the neighbor, she’s an attractive woman. She wasn’t offended by my drunk behavior and showed me a few tricks with he... | YTA your title is really misleading and your behavior was totally inappropriate. You're married dude, what are you doing getting drunk and then catcalling/making comments about your neighbor's body? ###### |
I am a fourteen year old guy.
My birthday is in sixteen days, and my mom is asking for birthday ideas. (Where we should go, what I want, etc)
It’s quite obvious I can’t go to the local amusement park like I wanted. Last year, instead of asking for a gift, I asked if a friend and I could go there. It was really fun, so... | YTA your mom doesn't owe you a cat or a dirt bike, dude. You're not a guy, you're a boy. You are too young for road rages on a dirt bike and if you're living with your mom, a living animal is not yours alone. If you fail to clean its poop or socialize it correctly she'll be the one cleaning up its messes for you. Just... |
Ok so this happened a few months ago, I have 2 kids, one is 5 and one is 3.
The whole family went over to my brothers house for my Dads birthday, anyway we were having a great time and I put the kids upstairs with some sandwiches while the adults talked.
So later on my brother went to get the kids down to play a board... | YTA your kids are your responsibility. If they break someone's property intentionally or not it's up to you to repair or replace it. You were rude to your brother and justified your kids breaking his things because "he knew they were coming over and should have protected it." Under that logic if your brother decides t... |
I have a daughter (16F) and a few weeks ago she sat me down and told me that she was struggling with purging. She said it was due to mental issues going on with school and her friends, and she talked about how she was feeling sad all the time.
In response, I told her to start a journal and think of at least three pos... | YTA your daughter opened up about some serious issues she is having and her told to think positive and write a journal. Get her some actual help you insanely huge asshole. ###### |
So my dad constantly asks for my netflix password. I have the cheapest account and I don't want him messing up my recommendations. He has hundreds of channels on his smart tv plus sling and hulu, so he has plenty of crap to watch. But he wants anything I have. (This happens ALL the time- he tried to take an art piece I... | YTA your an adult in the same house, it’s crazy to have two Netflix accounts. You know you can set up multiple profiles... then your recommendations won’t be affected. ###### |
My ex and I got divorced five years ago. Our youngest was 17. All of our kids were fine with it and have their own lives. I see them as much as my ex. My youngest "blamed" me for the end of our marriage. I was very close with him when he was a kid so this baffled me.
All of a sudden he blocks me from all aspects of h... | YTA you’re the parent. The child doesn’t owe you anything. Your adult decisions affected his entire childhood. Now he’s prolly older and trying to make amends for things he did AS A CHILD and you’re acting like you’re 12. Goodness gracious this is ridiculous. ###### |
I'll tried to keep it short. I'm (30M) a gamer and have been for a long time. I've been with my gf (30F) for 6 years and i got her into gaming a few years ago.
We dont often play together as we are into different games however I convinced her to play a popular first person shooting game that we could play campaign co-... | YTA you've literally told her she's having fun the wrong way...... ###### |
I own a small business and my kids (10 and 12) help me with the business after school.
I don’t pay them, because we’re all members of the family who need to do our job and contribute.
They met some other kids who work at their family’s business and apparently those kids are making minimum wage, so now my kids are s... | YTA You're teaching them that their labor should be free and setting a bad example. The least you could do is put wages toward a college fund. ###### |
I (20M) live with my large family, and I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation. It's been a tough month, and my mother (47F) has been looking for ways to make money.
She's had some credit card debt. Nothing major, but because her businesses' incomes have dried up, she hasn't had any way to pay her d... | YTA you want 100% of the money but didn’t bother to say anything first. You know she is trying to pay bills but you assumed she was selling it for you? ###### |
A friend invited me over a while ago and said “It’s been a while, let me buy you dinner and we can catch up.”
She ordered us a large pizza and salad. We had a good time. Then it was time to go. She said she was buying me dinner, so I packed the leftovers up and took them home with me.
Later the next day she texted m... | YTA you took them without asking when she paid for it. That's just bad manners. with leftovers, who ever paid defaults gets the leftovers unless they offer.
And it's not about if they could afford it and it wasn't that much. It's the fact that that was disrespectful and then when she brought it up, you made it clear ... |
There's no school and she doesn't have a job, so my stepdaughter has no responsibilities at the moment. For context, her dad was a single dad until he met me when she was 10, and now we have two more children together. Her dad is a GP so he works pretty much constantly and I'm left looking after 2 children by myself fo... | YTA you started with you had 2 children, false you have 3. Maturing children into responsible adults is important, however I feel you have classic Cinderella step mother syndrome. ###### |
I'm a second-year radiology resident in a city in the Pacific Northwest. I'm a decent-looking guy, but a bit short and very socially awkward. So until recently, despite my best efforts, I've never been with anyone in any way at all. I was beginning to think I'd die a virgin without ever having been kissed...until I mov... | YTA you sound like a serial killer in training. Yikes ###### |
Me - 30 year old man
Her - 26 year old woman
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Me and my girlfriend has been together for 8 years, and our relationship is nontraditonal. I've taught her about the universe, freedom and i've told her that i think marriage is a trap and having kids is not a good future. We still hang out and make love, but... | YTA you sound extremely condescending with your whole "I taught her so much, I am the master of enlightenment and she was taught by me, the great master" attitude right of the bat. Like she couldn't possibly understand what 'freedom' is or can't possibly learn about the universe without you.
Then you ridicule her for... |
My ex-wife and I had a horrific divorce when my son was 10 and my daughter was 12. Originally my wife had been cheating on me but truthfully we were horrible to each other and this showed in the divorce. We ended up with a 50/50 custody but she fought tooth and nail to get full custody and for 2 years we kept slogging ... | YTA You said yourself your ex-wife poisoned them against you, so is it really their fault? In any event, she is your flesh and blood and is reaching out. You could at least hear her out and give her a chance. ###### |
So, I’ve been dating H for about six months and everything going great, though if I had to pick on thing to change it would be that she’s a pushover, and can’t say no to anyone. Still when we’re alone or around our friends everything is going really well. The biggest issue is her overly zealous mother, who she was fo... | YTA you licked your girlfriends cleavage in front of people ###### |
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