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For quick context purposes, I'm a recovering alcoholic. I've been sober for 4 years. I used to love day drinking -- basically waking up in the morning and drinking right away.
 
One thing that helped me kick the juice is drinking O'Doul's in the morning. It's a habit I haven't really broken, and with being ... | YTA, but not for using a nonalcoholic beer as a stepping stone for getting sober (if it’s with your sponsor’s support/approval). Nonalcoholic beer REEKS like regular beer. You are actively making your office smell like beer every morning while drinking a full six-pack, which also makes other employees super uncomforta... |
Hi so I need to explain some stuff first... basically my (14f) little sister (6) and her friend (4-5?) play with stray cats in the neighborhood that they've named and made up stories about. They say the two "main" cats (one who's meant to be a cat engineer and the other one who's a cat doctor, so like our parents minus... | YTA, but not for that reason. I’m disappointed that you don’t support gay cat marriage, OP ###### |
Me and my girlfriend work for the same company, in Treasury. We sometimes bring some work home and finish it there since it’s much more peaceful. Last night was one such day and she was working on a tax computation. A couple of hours in she says “I’m such an idiot” I so obviously asked why. She says that she realised t... | YTA, but not for telling her to stop verbally abusing herself, but for yelling at her.
You might not be aware of this, but she might have experienced verbal abuse/screaming in her childhood or past. That’s why she might have (over-)reacted like she did.
I am talking from personal experience that might not relate ... |
So this has been getting to me still, months after it happened. I (20F) decided to get a boob reduction over winter break before going back to school in January. I have had back issues since I was a young teenager and my health insurance finally covered it (USA). I did not tell my bf of 1 year about it before or after ... | YTA, but not for getting a reduction, or not asking his opinion. He has no say in the issue. However, you are the asshole for not telling him you were getting a somewhat medically significant surgery. If something had gone wrong and you had been seriously hurt or died (especially if you had to he put under general ana... |
This happened a few years ago. I was at a waterpark with a few friends for my birthday. It was a group of 15. We all planned to just pay for ourselves and have a good few hours, but one of my friends decided he would pay for everyone as a gift to me. I tried to talk him out of it but he insisted on spending nearly $600... | YTA, but it was a weird situation that you had not had time to process.
You could have bought him a whole meal and still come out ahead of where you would be if you paid your own entry to the waterpark. ###### |
A while ago I took my family on vacation. We went to a casino, and I gave each of my children $50 to use before using their own money. My son lost all of it, but my daughter actually won a minor jackpot and walked away with a couple thousand dollars.
Last night, my wife showed me an Instagram picture of my daughter, ... | YTA, big time!!!!
1) if your daughter is old enough to gamble, she’s old enough to make the choice to get a tattoo. Respect her bodily autonomy.
2) you said it yourself, you GAVE her that 50 dollars, therefore, it is now her choose to decide what to do with that money.
You sound miserable to be around. ###### |
My brother and my SIL are having a small wedding party, about 10 people, because of the virus. Everything is planned out nice and socially distanced.
We were discussing it when I (26M) mentioned that my partner (25X) (non-binary) might wear a dress.
My partner is non-binary, but has masculine features including a be... | YTA, because you've only been with them 9 months. ###### |
As a bit of background. When my son was 17 he came out to me and my wife. I accepted him but my wife didn't this lead into a big argument between him and I vs my wife that almost ended physical. It ended with me and him packing our bags in moving in with my parents for a while. After 2 weeks she and I had a sit-down an... | YTA, because you don't seem aware of the choices you are making.
You are not neutral. You are standing by your homophobic wife and encouraging your son to talk to her.
You say she got better but it doesn't seem like your son agrees given he still chose to leave. Listen to your son's story and experiences. ###### |
My (43F) daughter (17F) and I got in an argument about this today and we are at an impasse. She suggested we post here to see who is right and I thought, hell why not. Could be an interesting little experiment.
Here is my side:
When out and about, I am very honest when people ask me how I am doing or how my day is go... | YTA, because it *is* polite small talk, and because there's a difference between saying, say, "I'm beat, it's a long day," and having an emotional breakdown at your waiter. There are limits and boundaries to friendly politeness, and it's a huge imposition to expect a stranger to play therapist while they're trying to ... |
I adopted my daughter in 2011, when she was 9. I’m an elementary school teacher and she was actually a student in my class at the time. She’d come into school clearly distressed most days, but would always insist she was fine. I couldn’t take it anymore and called CPS on her parents, and fought her custody of her and a... | YTA, as an adoptee I would want to know if my bio parents were trying to contact me. Also she is 18 she is an adult, treat her like one ###### |
My MIL is married to a man who was born in Iran and they go once or twice a year to see his family. They have a daughter who turned 13 the other day and MIL wished her a happy birthday on social media. She included a couple of pictures and in one of the pictures, MIL and her daughter were both wearing head coverings. T... | YTA, and you were rude to assume she was appropriating a culture instead of either doing your research or minding your damn business. You owe her an apology and YTA double for refusing on a basis of her getting offended by your offensive statement
Edit: and I love that you needed to say "technically wrong." You were ... |
My gf and I are redoing our roof deck which has involved seeing a lot of spiders today. Every time my gf sees one she gasps. She’s always been afraid of spiders and I know this, but her gasps make me think something more serious is wrong.
My gf is also kind of a jumpy person. Anytime I open a door too loudly or enter ... | YTA, and very ignorant of psychology. Fear of spiders is a trait that is hard wired in some people, and it has nothing to do with moral worth or strength of character. Being jumpy when someone silently approaches is in a similar vein.
Stop tellinlg her to be someone else. If you don't want to be with someone who i... |
This happened a few hours ago.
My parents are divorced. Throughout quarantine I (M17) have spent most of my time in my room when at my mom's (F46) apartment. I go down to the living room/kitchen area a few times a day to get food and see what's going on with my mother and sister (F15).
Today I hadn't eaten all day,... | YTA, and that's not what gaslighting is. ###### |
I love my (27m) wife (30f). I do. But this greatly annoys me.
My wife decided on a whim about a year ago that she wanted to learn Spanish. We didn't have money for lessons, so she borrowed a Spanish textbook and some kind of dictionary with pictures of objects labelled in both English and Spanish. Made a ton of flash ... | YTA, and I'm depressed to think how much the contempt you have for your wife has probably tainted her life. She's learning Spanish on her own, her fluency is growing, and all you can do is split hairs until you feel she's been put in her place. That's fucked up; the appropriate response to your partner accomplishing s... |
I (34M) have been spending a lot of time with one of my friends during this whole situation. We both work in the same field and became much closer due to our common struggles right now. Friend used to come over once or twice every week, and we would just play video games or drink and talk or something. It was a nice st... | YTA, and I'd be willing to contribute to a kickstarter funding her divorce from your disrespectful ass. ###### |
We really empathize academic excellence in our family.
I have three kids (16M,14F, and 13M). My older son is taking 4 AP classes for his junior year and also is Vice President of his Science Olympiad team.
My youngest son is a great coder and started an app development club at his middle school.
My daughter, howe... | YTA, and honestly, a straight A student suddenly running away and getting bad grades? Are you trying to find out what happened to her to make her take a nosedive? Something very bad could have happened to her that you don’t know about. Can you imagine she was assaulted in some way or has someone torturing her in schoo... |
So we’re a month-ish into school now (I’m a sophomore), and in history class, we were all paired up to do a group project. The people in the group were (it becomes relevant) two Indians (including me), one white guy, and a black girl.
After the class, I was talking to some people who are in that class, and one of the... | YTA, and honestly so is anyone who discusses or makes guesses and peoples grades.
Care about your own grades. Everyone else’s is **non of your business** ###### |
I (17f) and my friend/on & off boyfriend (18m) are both huge pranksters and we usually pull stupid pranks on one another. I am white and he’s Native American. He’s got long hair down his back. The other day I was spending the night at his house and thought it would be funny if I tied his hair around those metal bar... | YTA, and a very immature one at that. You behaved like a 5-year-old. And it *is* your fault since *you* were the one that tied his hair up. ###### |
I have two sets of kids from two marriages. I have three kids from my first marriage (all teens) and currently two from my second (1 and 3).
When I originally set up my will after my first three kids were born, I split some property I own three separate ways so that each child gets roughly 70 acres of land. I have sin... | YTA, after update.
(data received, they ain't): _Are_ the second set of kids being provided for equally? If so, - your land, your choice.
Speaking from personal experience, when there's a will and multiple families involved, there's _always_ going to be someone who's pissed off. ###### |
For context, I’ve been close friends with this person for 7 or 8 years. I’m not going to give his real name for anonymity’s sake, but I’ve been calling him an abbreviated version of his first name, the equivalent of calling someone Mark instead of Marcus or Nate instead of Nathan, for most of our friendship, like many ... | YTA, address them the way they want to be addressed. I have the reverse issue (people call me my full-multi-syllable name, rather than my nickname) and its annoying.
You get to decide what you get called, not what you call someone else. ###### |
A few hours ago, I read this post on the teenagers subreddit where a person was angry at his sister for shaving his head for tiktok. To be honest I feel like he was overreacting but all the comments were saying mean things about his sister calling her an asshole and stuff and this made me feel bad because I also did so... | YTA, a prank is something where both parties can laugh after its done, by shaving his head you get a laugh and he gets no hair ###### |
I'm 31, my GF is 30, my dog is 3. We have all lived together for almost 2 years now. 95% of the time my dog is a sweet and goofy boy, a little high energy but really funny and I love him. 5% of the time though, he can be a real dick. He tends to get jealous of me and will nip other dogs who try to get close on occasion... | YTA, 5% of the time is a lot of time for your girlfriend to be dealing with an aggressive dog. It sounds like you aren't seeing it because the dog is never aggressive to you but your girlfriend is probably feeling unsafe and on edge around the dog basically the whole time, since it can get aggressive any time. What a ... |
My wife finally succumbed to cancer after a three year long battle.
As her spouse, I had to take responsibility of her body. However, though we were legally spouses, for the last two and a half years my wife and I had been living apart. I had my own separate loft while the kids (13F,12F,10F) and her stayed in the hou... | YTA,
>I feel funerals are for the living
She has a family and 4 kids. You aren't the only one who is grieving her.
>I was also uncomfortable reliving memories with a woman who, for many years, was the cause of a lot of emotional trauma for me. All her insults and put downs made it impossible for me to stay in the h... |
This is sort of a throw away account as I wouldn't want this getting back to my wife.
I am from Canada and my wife is from Korea. We met in Korea, and decided to get married in Korea.
Part of the ceremony in a Korean traditional wedding is bowing to your parents. Now, I am not talking about the bow your head or bend ... | YTA-you chose to get married in the Korean way, you should have done it completely the Korean way. That's not a great start to your marriage pissing off the wife and the inlaws. ###### |
I have a complicated relationship with my 17yo son. We were exceptionally close when he was younger. He has mainly lived with his mother since the 8th grade, but asked to stay with me because he doesn't get along with her boyfriend who moved in. The drama at their place is sickening. She and her boyfriend fight over an... | YTA-he’s still a teenager and you are an adult. Teach him by example. IMO you made an emotional, easy , knee jerk reaction by telling him to get the fuck out. Teach him that we all make mistakes, including you, sincerely apologize, and make amends. Don’t expect him to keep his side of the street clean if you can’t... |
I applied for a nursing course and had to do an interview, I'm a 22-year-old guy going back to school after an abusive relationship with my High school girlfriend. I had an interview yesterday and it was going pretty well I was acing all the situational questions and I was doing pretty well in most of the general quest... | YTA-for being dishonest. Besides if this is real, I'm fairly certain that would disqualify you being a nurse if you truly were addicted to drugs. ###### |
My wife (34) and I (33) are having our second child. We have a daughter (5).
She’s been grouchy her whole pregnancy so her sister offered to plan her a gender reveal party.
The plan was that all the food and decorations would be blue or pink and in the end we’d get one of those special sparklers that would light
u... | YTA-and I will be calm and explain why. Having a girl does not make you less of a man, and it doesn't make your child less interested in sports.
Your wife is hugely pregnant right now, hormones running rampant through her system, and this was a party celebrating new life that she is carrying. She has spent the bette... |
When I was 20 I had a kid with my ex girlfriend.
I was not at all prepared to have a kid and my ex told me that I would either have to step up 100% or to basically fuck off.
I knew I couldn’t be there 100% so I fucked off.
I’m now 40 and recently received communications from my son who is 20 (She named him Nic) ... | YTA-
You abandoned your son as a child and rejected him as an adult. You don’t get to make parental decisions about what’s best for him when you’ve never been a parent to him. ###### |
Throwaway cuz said friend uses reddit.
So I’ve known my friend B for about six months now. We met at work and we get along really well. She’s new to our company and from what I’ve seen, she’s a really good worker and fits the job well.
The other day she invited me over to her place for a girls night. I agreed and c... | YTA-
What you say you saw was likely a grand mal seizure, which is only one of many types of seizures. I have never had a seizure, but here is the link to the CDC website about them. [https://www.cdc.gov/epilepsy/about/types-of-seizures.htm](https://www.cdc.gov/epilepsy/about/types-of-seizures.htm)
Not only are ther... |
My daughter is 23 and moved back home after the relationship with her baby’s father fell apart. Her daughter is almost 2 and we love having them both here. However, my daughter has always been boy crazy and it has been a problem since she was a teen. She is very immature for her age and has done nothing with her life. ... | YTA-- She's an adult, you don't get to tell her not to date. And it doesn't sound like she's wasted her life to me, she went to school and changed her mind about her degree. Lots of people do that. Then she worked in a boutique for a while, there's nothing wrong with that. And then she got cheated on by someone she th... |
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years.
I have two daughters (6 & 4) with an ex and a son with my girlfriend (1)
My girlfriend, Vicki recently got a new phone and she’s attached to it almost 24/7 but she works off it so it’s understandable.
I went on her phone recently to text my ex as we were running late wit... | YTA- You have this woman in your life who you have a child with and you think she’s crossing a boundary for having a background of “your” kids? Don’t forget that those kids are also your son’s siblings. They are your girlfriend’s family as well. And if you get upset that she loves your kids like her own then maybe you... |
My daughter was in 6th grade a while back and her teacher would grade assignments on expression, grammar and quality. She wrote a poem about Thanksgiving and she got a "B" on expression, "A" for grammar, and "A-" for quality. She was bothered by the "B" on expression and I said, "I think it's because you didn't write y... | YTA- why would a teacher ding someone for not mentioning family? That’s a very narrow minded way of thinking you have. Teachers have students with very diverse family backgrounds, a lot of students don’t have families or have bad ones. It’s their job not to ostracize their students or judge them. You thinking a teache... |
A while back I had read about an indigenous tribe that never spanked or yelled at their children. They believe that yelling at a child is childish on the part of the adult. Instead they will tell them things like if you don’t wear your hat outside that a monster will come and suck out your brains, or if you get to clos... | Yta- unless you buy a monster costume and really follow though. Subvert expectations though, have a sit down with her as the monster, and let her know monster isn't angry, just disappointed ###### |
This is an ongoing point of tension in my household. My sister (20F) has some mental health issues, and a couple months ago after something of a family blowout, she changed her name from Carol (fake name) to Chel (fake fake name), which is a nickname she picked herself while working at a summer camp.
To be honest, I (2... | YTA- trans person here, dead naming isn't exclusive to the trans community. Everyone no matter their gender, whether they're cis or trans are allowed to change their own name and rightfully be angry when someone dead names them, especially if its on purpose. ###### |
Hello all! I am using my son's Reddit account after he told me about this group. Please don't "like(?)", as I don't want my son to see this.
So my son got a physical today, and he's in the 27th percentile in terms of weight. I was disappointed, to say the least. I and my wife are fit, why can't he be? He's 14 by the ... | YTA- This is so inflammatory that I’m sure it’s fake, I’m not even going to check your history.
Anyways, if it isn’t, don’t push your toxic ideals on your son, blah blah. ###### |
My fiancée and I have been engaged for a year now. We've just been stuck looking for the right time and place but we found one and chose a destination wedding in September. We found out she was pregnant three weeks ago and we're excited about that. Until today I didn't think that'd change anything but apparently it doe... | YTA- She wants to remember her wedding day as a romantic hopefully once and in a lifetime event...and I have heard being pregnant SUCKS! She will be hot and sick and bigger....be compassionate and suck up the cost. You have your wholes lives together....what’s the rush? ###### |
Here’s the situation. I (20F) have a boyfriend named “Lucas” (23M). We are in college, and Lucas lives with a roommate Xavier. Against Lucas objecting, Xavier moved his girlfriend “Hailey” in a few months ago.
Now Lucas and I are Christians and we try to witness to others and be the hands and feet of Jesus. Part of t... | YTA- she is 100% right, why is Lucas looking at her underwear in a sexual way? He needs to self-reflect on HIS behaviour. He is only in control of his actions, thoughts and behaviours and NOT hers. It’s creepy of him to think so and very rude of you to say so. ###### |
Yesterday, I (26 m) and my partner (22 f) were driving to my parents’ house for lunch. As I was driving down the main road of the village we live in, a little girl (maybe 4ish?) suddenly shot off across the road in front of the car.
I absolutely slammed down on the brakes, the car lurched and squealed, my partner who ... | YTA- no one can control children 24/7 and things like that happen. It’s not the moms fault that kid did it and yelling and cursing at her doesn’t help the issue and only makes the situation worse. ###### |
When my daughter was nine, she and her brother had spilled juice on two books and the head librarian went up to me and said “Ms. X, this book is all wet and it’s all damaged and I am very upset. Do you know what may have happened?” I saw immediately that it was a chapter book and got upset at my daughter in front of th... | YTA- Money that was gifted to her is her money! She was berated two times over 10$ and even paying it back and apologising wasn't good enough. She was 9!! I'm not surprised at all that she resents you. ###### |
I’m a lifelong fan of Richard Pryor and I a frequenter of a cafe for a few months. The cafe is somewhat of a mixture of hipsters and yuppies, which isn’t really my scene, but it happens to be walking distance from my apartment.
This morning I went in and played Blazing Saddles on my laptop for about half an hour. I di... | YTA- just put in some freaking headphones. Also I’m sure people don’t appreciate all the cussing (especially racist terms) no matter the context while at a cafe ###### |
My wife and I have a daughter who just turned 14. We are not made of money, but we told my daughter we would get her an iPhone when she went to highschool. School is starting soon so my wife and I bought phone and were planning to give it to her Friday.
Unfortunately my mother had some emergency plumbing issues in h... | YTA- It’s not ‘your’ money, it belongs to you and your wife. Big financial decisions are decided as a team (like when you decided to get your daughter a phone). By returning the phone you broke the trust with both. ###### |
My daughter is 23, moving out on her own after college and found a nice apartment nearby.
Over the past two years-ish she has taken up biking and has done it every day, in trails and paths around our town. She’s really good and bikes 20 miles every day.
She uses my older sons bike. He’s 27, still at home with us. W... | YTA- It’s his bike whether or not he uses it. It is not yours to give to another person. Just because you gave him the bike doesn’t mean you get to take your gift back. Perhaps if the request had come from the sister using the bike, he might have said “yes”, but the way it was handled would have left a sour taste in ... |
I (hopefully) will be getting married this October to my amazing fiancé. We’ve been together for 4 years, since we were 18.
Over the past few weeks, my friends and I have done a weekly zoom call to gossip and discuss details. I asked them all to send me their intended hair and makeup for the day, to which they all di... | YTA- it’s her hair, HER hair. Just cause it’s your wedding, doesn’t mean you get to decide that people need to change their looks for you. You shoulda read the room when everyone got outraged at you, but now you look like a bridezilla. ###### |
This happened on Saturday.
My girlfriend has twins from a previous relationship (boy and a girl). Due to personal circumstances, they are staying with me for a few weeks. They are 9 years old.
They wanted to watch a movie and they wanted to watch The Grudge. I warned them that it might be too scary but they insisted... | YTA- dude, you scared the girl aswell. You should have made sure the girl was in on it or not in the room. You scared her to prove a point to her brother. ###### |
I was recently spending time with some old friends from high school. A girl who I didn’t know too well was there. I knew she had gotten pregnant while we were in school and had then gone off to college. We were talking (her kid had not been mentioned), and I asked how old he was now and how often she sees him. As soon ... | YTA- decisions about keeping/giving up a child are incredibly difficult and personal. Asking a question like that when she hasn't brought up her child is highly invasive and insulting. It could also stir up alot of unwanted emotions if they hadn't wanted to give up their child but had to. Unless you know the situation... |
Basically, we were at a busy tourist attraction village and while we were quite separate from.the crowd, it's set out in a way that the majority of the crowd was facing us. I'm the sort of person that shys away from the limelight and or focus of attention so I told.my girlfriend that we should maybe move back a bit so ... | YTA- but a small one.
She 'got the idea' because you made it a thing before. I get where you are comming from but I get her annoyance too. Dont try to justifiy yourself that long on topics like that. ###### |
Throwaway because I’m not sure if my children are on Reddit.
I have two kids with a four year age gap, my oldest, Sara, is 26 and my youngest, Bella, is 22. Sara went to undergraduate school and her father and I supported her by paying half of her living expenses and college tuition. We did the same for Bella. They b... | YTA- “it’s time for them to make it on their own”
Yet you let one slide till she was 26 the other till she was 22.
Also of course Sara took it well enough, you’ve given her everything she’s needed up until this point she’s probably doing great financially, and has no problems, paying her phone bill at 26.
But Bella... |
While my daughter (now 21) was growing up, I always told her that I was her mother and not her friend. I believe that parents who tried to be friends with their kids are crappy parents who are just trying to seem 'cool.'
Now my daughter is an adult and lives on her own and on a recent visit we were talking and I asked... | YTA-
Her becoming an adult does mean that your relationship will change and the dynamics will shift. But I think you assuming you can be her “friend” now, rather than a parent is rather odd.
You harped on the idea that you could not have a “friend” dynamic for at least 18 years- it’s not going to go away in two or... |
My ex and I are expecting; when I first found out we were expecting he cut me off, didn’t want the baby at all.
I’ve picked the name Dorothy - Anne Rose, or Dora/Rosie as a nickname.
Dorothy is the name of my ex’s mother; I’ve known my ex since I was 15 (I’m 24 now) so she’s a mother figure to me, Anne is my grandmot... | YTA-
>My ex cut his mother off about 4 years ago
You've known him for 9 years. I find it hard to believe you don't know why he cut his mother out of his life.
Also after your ex finds out your pregnant and leaves you, you want to name the baby after his mother?? You did this knowing that he doesnt speak to her any... |
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(M33) Just moved in with gf (27f) of 7months. Her mortgage is cheaper than my rent so seemed like a good idea.
She won’t let me have equal say in the house. She doesn’t want my furniture in the living room as her furniture is “better” and fits the rest of the house more. She was prett... | YTA- "I want what's mine". You aren't entitled to anything just because you're dating this girl. She has a right to be cautious financially, and by the way it sounds she should be with you. You don't own half of that apartment just because you guys are dating, so dont act like it. If you want a new apartment that badl... |
I’m not going to try to defend my wife’s reaction. She can be very emotional and irrational. We had our children and grandchildren at our house the other day for my sons birthday. We have two children and honestly I can’t stand the woman our younger son married.
The kids ended up having a cake fight and just to be cle... | YTA Your wife was already in a cake fight with no problem, but as soon as the DIL you don't like got involved, she flipped her shit & acted like she was being a problem. Then demanded they get out & tried to take back a gift. Now your kid is mad that you essentially agreed by forcing them out, no matter what your reas... |
My husband (28) and I (43) had a small birthday celebration for my daughter (15) in our backyard.
She was able to eat and hang out with her two best friends. Everything goes fine until her stepdad walks out with a buddy of his to grab some chips and drink a bottle of beer.
We have a very large deck and they were si... | YTA your husband commandeered the deck to drink with his mate and instead of calling the selfish dick out you sided with him and punished your daughter. It was her birthday party which was already small and awkward because of covid and he made it worse. Congratulations your daughter will probably end up hating you for... |
My daughter is 14.
She was 12 when we moved countries two years ago. She also started puberty around that time.
Prior to the move she had many friends, took care of herself, though to be fair things were easier beging prepubescent at the time. After the move she made an honest effort to make friends and gained a clos... | YTA your daughter has bigger problems then waxing her lip that it seems like you are ignoring. You’re more concerned with her looking good on the outside than feeling good on the inside. ###### |
We have four kids: ages 11, 16, 17 and 21. We're also expats of 5 years (Sweden to Canada).
We've always lived in close quarters, we just couldn't afford an apartment with rooms for everyone. So our 11 year old daughter has shared a room with us for most of her life. We've always tried to quarter it off a bit with a s... | YTA your daughter deserves a space of their own especially at 11. You are basically saying that everyone’s comfort is more important that her. ###### |
This happened in January but the repercussions are still very much happening now.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for over 5 years. When we went to a fertility doctor, we were told my husband had a low sperm count. A few months later I was diagnosed with endometriosis, making our chances of natural conce... | YTA your best friend’s fucking wedding?? come on. ###### |
Look, I know what I did was shallow. I know. But it was a personal thing, and I’m not sure it makes me an asshole. I could be wrong, but I want everyone to hear me out.
I got married a little over six months ago. I gave each of my bridesmaids a group picture of us, these were portrait style pictures. For my personal ... | YTA you're just salty and embarrassed you got caught. Don't try to deflect to the friend who noticed, there wouldn't have been anything to draw attention to if the photos hadn't been edited. ###### |
Long story short, my ex's brother and I were co workers (how I met my ex). As much as we worked well together and had some bant, we weren't close at all and weren't friends which is why I was shocked to get a call from him four weeks ago asking if I could take care of his shih tzu while he went to the hospital. Apparen... | YTA You write “Apparently he’d called all his friends... I was his last option” so you know you were his last resort. This in **no way** fits with your manipulative attempt to make us think, “Oh, it was the dying man’s wish that OP take care of his beloved pet.” By saying you’re almost 100% sure he knew he was dying. ... |
Me and my girlfriend work for the same company, in Treasury. We sometimes bring some work home and finish it there since it’s much more peaceful. Last night was one such day and she was working on a tax computation. A couple of hours in she says “I’m such an idiot” I so obviously asked why. She says that she realised t... | YTA you were being "verbally abusive" towards her as well. You could have asked her to stop more nicely, she already was in distress and you just made it worse. ###### |
I did not include it because she not her mother. Yes. she is her stepmother, but my daughter doesn't call her mom, momma or anything like that unless she is sick, but they have a good relationship and are very close.
So when I had the jewelry made I only included my son's birth date and stone, nothing for my daughter... | YTA you should be overjoyed that she sees your daughter as her own. ###### |
First and foremost, I have a heart condition. Medical people call it minor, but it's major enough to me. It's not going to kill me so long as I don't do stupid things like aerobics or calesthenics or get angry enough to spike my blood pressure. Anger management is a crucial skill with arrhythmia.
So. I live in an apar... | YTA You said yourself you don't leave the house that often, so why do you need the closest spot? You could be a nice person and let her use the spot until her ankle heals. I seriously doubt the extra 50 steps a few times a week is going to kill you. Is it really that difficult to be a nice neighbor? ###### |
It’s as simple as that. We like each other, we support each other, we do things for each other often. It irked me that he needed me, his wife, to sew a button on his pants because he didn’t know how (that was his explanation about why I should do it.) It felt demeaning in that ‘because you are a woman and I am a man ... | YTA You made this into a gender issue when it was a skills issue. Why be so combative with someone you're supposed to love? ###### |
I have a good friend who had been trying to conceive for awhile. She and her husband were very excited when they found out she was pregnant. I gave her a gift off her baby shower registry.
Recently, their daughter got sick (she is now five), and when I visited in the hospital, I brought her the Strawberry Shortcake d... | YTA you LOANED a child a doll? Do you really think a 5-year-old understands the concept of a loan? ###### |
My mom and wife don’t really get along. My wife said she doesn’t like my parents because they have no morals and they aren’t the greatest people but they aren’t like abusive or cruel or anything. My wife tried to ban my mom from our house because of something that had nothing to do with her and she tried to make it int... | YTA you feel like you betrayed her because you did!
You've made a bad situation even worse and you know you've fuc#ed up.
There is going to be waaaay more to it than what you're telling us as your wife will not have issues with your mum for no reason. If I were you, I'd stand by your wife more if you want to come ou... |
I (17f) was a bitch in middle school and first 2 years of high school. I admit it. I’m not proud of it, I don’t really even have an excuse for it. There was one girl I was really bad to... she was fat, weird, and kinda obnoxious but she’s cool now. and she and I recently got assigned to work in a partner project togeth... | YTA you can’t TELL someone to forgive you. But you CAN apologize, which it sounds like you didn’t do. ###### |
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I (26M) stumbled upon pictures of a girl who looked remarkably like my cousin (20F). There was information for an OnlyFans account and to confirm it was her, I bought temporary "membership" so I can see the pics, screencap them for evidence, and delete my account.
Unfortunately, it was her. I confronted h... | YTA you are the one using it as blackmail against her.
what is it with men always feeling like They are co owners of the vaginas of their family members.
she is an adult, she can do what she want and while I don’t really like this either, I have no concern over it , and I would certainly not take the ultimatum from ... |
Originally it wasn't a big deal, or so I thought, till we went into an argument over it.
I visit this Chinese teahouse about once or twice a month for a dish, in which I pick the ingredients and one of the cooks cooks and mix different spices into a sauce to be added into a soup in front of me.
I always request a s... | YTA you are ordering from a restaurent not from a specific person. If they offered you the choice of who made your food as a service, they would list that option on their in house and takeaway menus. Asking a restaurent to change how they work for you means YTA, then causing a fuss about it and complaining to the chef... |
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I (31F) have one son, 3M. He’s very sweet, calm, low-maintenance, and a great kid. I lucked out with him. We asked one of his daycare providers, B, to watch him for 5 hours, from 1-6 since I had to work. B knows he’s an easy kid and she knows him well, so she went with a lower charge, a... | YTA you agreed upon 1-6pm. YOU didn’t make your end of the deal so she’s well within her means to request compensation for the extra time she waited. She’s not doing you a favor watching your kid. It’s her job. ###### |
I always encouraged my children to be themselves and find their own path. I don't think I put any pressure on them, but I also didn't hide who I was from them. I am very very vain. I grew up with a father who valued my looks over everything. I did some child modeling, and then I pursued a career in the entertainment in... | YTA You **think** you never pressured her. You almost certainly did. ###### |
My daughter (13F) has very long hair, down to the middle of her back. She always wears it down and she doesn't always wash or brush it and it looks very ugly and messy. Seeing as she isn't responsible enough to take care of her own hair properly, I offered to cut it. After all having long hair can take up vitamins and ... | YTA YES it is your fault that you cut it that short! There's no way she was moving enough to get to the point that it had to be up to her ears from her middle back.
Side note: long hair doesn't take up nutrients from your body. ?????
Poor kid. Way to set a precedent for her not to trust you with anything in the futu... |
I have never done this before, so apologies for any issues.
My son (14) drink ALOT of water. If we don't regulate it, he will drink 3,4, or 5 bottles of water a day. He just says he is really thirsty.
The problem is tap water in our area is terrible so he can't drink that, but buying so many water bottles is inanel... | YTA wtf. Two water bottles is about a liter which is actually far too little. You have a kid that WANTS to drink water instead of soda and you react like this? What kind of a control freak are you?
EDIT: I'm still angry just thinking about this you PUNISH your son for drinking water what the hell man. What else do yo... |
We went to a restaurant the other day for FILs birthday. MILs friend was there and she is from Indonesia. We had a private room but they went out to the bar and I guess some guy was hitting on both of them and when they rejected them they started saying horrible shit to her friend about Asian women loving white dick an... | YTA wtf? Even if the things you said about her were true, that was not the time to bring it up! It was not relevant, super awkward, and tbh makes it look like you're supporting the racists.
You really are TA. ###### |
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Recently I (24M) went to a small party with my gf Erica (21F) at a friend's house. She gets along with my friends so I knew she'd be able to stay engaged for a while, but she has her own friend groups she normally prefers to hang out with. She was planning to meet some friends at a bar to celebrate her 21st ... | YTA would you have been cool if the roles were reversed at it was some random guy your girlfriend was engrossed with at a party?
At minimum you should have looked around once in a while to see how she was faring. If random girl hadn’t gotten up to go to the bathroom I wonder how long it would have taken you to rememb... |
It's literally 5 minutes of music and 5 minutes of commercials. I don't understand it, so I asked my roommate why she got a radio when she can just get Spotify. She said, "Because I wanted to." I asked her again because that isn't really a valid answer. She said that again. I asked her once again, to which she says, "I... | YTA why do you try to “win” conversations?
Edit: also this isn’t you asking about her hobbies. This is you interrogating her and telling her she’s wrong. If this is how you go about “asking about her hobbies,” no wonder she doesn’t answer. ###### |
I'll just try to keep this short. I have these two friends and they are a couple. They're literally obsessed with each other and spend every waking hour together. The problem is in the fact that they look very similar to each other — creepily similar. Essentially, if you saw them out on the street, you'd assume they we... | Yta who the hell cares what they wear. Also this story seems weird i doubt that many people whisper and take pictures that's just weird, they wear matching clothes and im guessing they're not celebrities ###### |
My very mentally ill brother died recently. He spent his money on properties, all of which he poorly understood what he was buying, and didn't maintain at all. The entire estate essentially breaks even except for one property, which was willed to my daughter.
Basically put, he invested in a luxury hotel chain that wa... | YTA what’s up with parents on here always trying to rewrite wills? He left it to her for a reason. Those were his wishes. ###### |
I am 36 and have a 16 year old daughter.
I have full custody of her because her mom, 40, had a mental breakdown and has been in and out of rehab.
This January, I started dating my girlfriend (21F).
Then quarantine happened and that time apart made me realize that I wanted to spend my life with her. So I proposed ... | YTA what the hell? You're forcing your daughter to 'respect' someone only FIVE years older than her as a mother figure. Are you serious right now? You're 36 and your ex-wife is 40, which is a 4 year age difference. That difference is almost the same as the one between your fiancee and daughter. Obviously she is not go... |
My 49-y-o cousin put my 90-y-o aunt up to informing our family that his 23-y-o daughter died from a drug overdose.
Of course, I sent my cousin my unconditional condolences right away without asking any questions.
Then I looked at his FB page.
“John” posted that prior to his daughter’s death, he spent 13 hours in the... | YTA what exactly were you gaining by this? You can join the dots to satisfy your morbid curiosity, you do not take it upon yourself to start interrogating a grieving father like that. ###### |
Bf and I are planning our wedding. One thing we thankfully share in common is our distaste of jewellery. It makes us cringe whenever we're around metal accessories hanging on someone's body. Whenever I hug someone wearing a necklace I hate feeling the metal on me.
So my bf and I NEVER wear jewellery. The only exceptio... | YTA weddings aren't an opportunity to add stupid control measures on to your family and friends. ###### |
I (34M) have been spending a lot of time with one of my friends during this whole situation. We both work in the same field and became much closer due to our common struggles right now. Friend used to come over once or twice every week, and we would just play video games or drink and talk or something. It was a nice st... | YTA WAY TO BURY THE LEDE -
"She says he's followed her up to the bedroom before and things like that, which I doubt, because he wouldnt do such stuff when I'm right there in the house, if he really was a creep." ###### |
I (29f) have been with my (30m) boyfriend for 5 years.
He is a alcoholic and has wasted so much money because of this. He has sober times and then he goes off the rails again.
The thing is he's bought the police to our door twice due to him drinking and our landlady has said that the next time she'll have to ev... | YTA to yourself for sticking around in this situation. You’re enabling him at this point. He’s going to keep drinking and you’re going to lose your home over this... and then he’ll blame you. Walk away OP, you deserve better. ###### |
My boyfriend M22 cheated and lied for the first 4 months of our relationship with his ex, I F21 forgave him. But a month later I caught him inappropriately messaging a friend from his workplace and I forgave him after that again. A few months have past since then and I’m still dealing with severe trust issues since he... | YTA to yourself for staying with him. He’s clearly not willing to be in a monogamous relationship or a none cheating one so why are you doing this to yourself. ###### |
My boyfriend M22 cheated and lied for the first 4 months of our relationship with his ex, I F21 forgave him. But a month later I caught him inappropriately messaging a friend from his workplace and I forgave him after that again. A few months have past since then and I’m still dealing with severe trust issues since he... | YTA to yourself for not just dumping him. ###### |
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I have got two kids, one is 16M and the other is 17M. I have their daily internet time restricted to two hours (through some special hub my hubby got), but my kids' screen time isnt restricted, except for at night, where at 11:30pm sharp, I confiscate both of their devices.
My sons have very recently... | YTA this is way too strict for young adults. I can understand the sleeping hours boundary, but kids socialize 24/7 on the internet. Especially in a pandemic you’re putting them at even greater risk of isolation and depression. ###### |
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I am a freshmen in college, my first semester starts in two weeks. I’ve worked since I was 15 years old to pay for my first car, tuition and books. So I manage my finances pretty well. I did pretty well and high school and... | YTA this is pretty clearly an accident and not really your neighbors fault at all, if they live alone it probably isn’t weird to just open up all the mail and not check specifically who it’s for. It would be one thing if he didn’t come knock and drop it off, but you and your mom are both kinda weird for assuming it wa... |
Im currently on a trip with family, specifically my Mum, Stepdad, my Uncle and Auntie, and my cousin.
My cousin and I are both millenials. Our parents are all boomers. I say this cus there's a chance this is just a generational thing but im not sure. I love my whole family to bits and this trip has been very fun, exce... | YTA they're not explicit, they're not gross. You're just making it gross.
You're an adult. Act like one ###### |
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I \[46M\] have a strict no swearing policy in my house. Recently, my oldest daughter \[16F\] has been extremely rebellious. She has been talking back to my wife and I, using her laptop for hours every day, and does not listen to anything I tell her.
A few days ago at around 11pm when I walked in to chec... | YTA there are FAR better ways to handle escalating discipline than 0-100, real quick.
Also, you don't get to police how she talks with her friends if it's not out loud and not directly affecting you. And reading her messages, at 16, just because you were pissed? Yikes.
Money doesn't buy love. And it doesn't indicate... |
This happened on Saturday.
My girlfriend has twins from a previous relationship (boy and a girl). Due to personal circumstances, they are staying with me for a few weeks. They are 9 years old.
They wanted to watch a movie and they wanted to watch The Grudge. I warned them that it might be too scary but they insisted... | YTA the film is R rated and you scared the shit out of a child already scared senseless to prove a point to another child. THEY ARE 9. If you were any dumber you could be added as a raising ingredient to bread. Tf is the matter with you? Please say this is made up and Billy goats scare you, please. ###### |
I enjoy going to massage parlors every so often, especially if I worked many hours. I see it as a way to wind down. As such, I am generally familiar with the rates/what to expect.
I decided to try a new massage parlor that isn't too far from where I live. I went down there and the girl who gave me the massage was very... | YTA The euphemisms won't make you look less of a creep. ###### |
I'm 31, my GF is 30, my dog is 3. We have all lived together for almost 2 years now. 95% of the time my dog is a sweet and goofy boy, a little high energy but really funny and I love him. 5% of the time though, he can be a real dick. He tends to get jealous of me and will nip other dogs who try to get close on occasion... | YTA the dog is randomly biting her and she doesn't feel safe. You didn't train your dog and your girlfriend is the one feeling unsafe.
I love my dog but he is not allowed to randomly bite people, thats a huge red flag. He drawing your girlfriends blood and she still putting up with you.
This situation should have be... |
My wife has always been active on social media - more active than almost anyone else I know - and that has not changed since she got pregnant. If anything, it's worse, and the posts have gotten more frequent.
Once we announced she started taking a weekly photo of her stomach to show her growth, but she posts a tons o... | YTA that’s a great way to make a pregnant woman feel self conscious about the changes to her body that happen while growing a human.
Her social media posts aren’t about you. Don’t try to make them about you. ###### |
So my GF technically has an account with Disney+. Someone ended up creating an account using her email address (it wasn't the account creator's fault, it was a fuck up on Gmail's end). She's never used it because she has no interest, and I didn't either until recently.
Some context from my GF: "About a year ago I star... | YTA that's theft
Edit and you changed the password, could they then report it as fraudulent? ###### |
Hi guys, been working up the courage to post this shitstorm for a while now, but here goes. I (16F) have a brother (21M) called Sean and we were raised in a pretty typical Christian household. We both were made to go through church school and Confirmation and all that, but we both stopped going to church after Confirma... | YTA that wasn't an accident dude you used him as a point against your mother wtf - even if he wasn't how do you think that call would have gone? "No?" "Well your sister said you were!" .... Like.... What? ###### |
This is a throwaway account because the father Im talking about knows my main. So yesterday my friend(f24) gave birth to a baby boy with her husband(24). He was very excited to see his baby for the first time and actually about to cry when he saw him. The problem came when he started talking about bringing the baby hom... | YTA That is total bs ###### |
Every time my mom has people over, she expects me to clean my room and make my bed in case someone comes in. I always tell her that people really shouldn’t be coming into my room, and she yells at me, saying that guests should be allowed to go wherever they want and it’s not up to me what they do. I know what you’re th... | YTA Stop arguing with your mom and clean your room! ###### |
I have a 15 year old daughter, and a 25 year old stepdaughter. They did not grow up together and they don't like each other very much. My husband thinks his daughter is an absolute princess, so she can be something of a spoiled nightmare. SD has been married for a year and I always suspected my daughter had a crush on ... | YTA Step daughter does not have to accept your daughter's apology graciously. She may be t a the rest of the time, but she is absolutely justified in this case - your daughter tried to break her marriage.
Crushes on older people happen. Pining is one thing, but action is another. Have you spoken to your daughter abo... |
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, I’m 21 and she’s 19.
She’s currently living with me and my parents after an argument with her parents, I won’t go into the reason but I don’t think she’ll go back to speaking with them.
My friends have a friend, “Brad”, Brad is a doctor around 40 and married.
My g... | YTA stand up for the people you love. Especially since it was your mother and it would be harder for your girlfriend to speak up in that situation. If you love her defend her. ###### |
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two years now. Our relationship has been rocky lately, and the reason is because I don’t feel like he has involved me in his life or future. We’ve been working on it.
A really sore spot, that I brought up about 6 months ago, is his relationship with his ex-wife. They are extremely cl... | YTA specifically over your question here. The ex won't be there, and of course his daughter is more comfortable in her own home. That said, in a broader sense it does sound as if there's been some boundary issues between the two of them which I don't think you've been wrong to raise the alarm over. ###### |
My sister (33/F) texted me and the whole family to let us know she and her boyfriend were engaged. Everyone was like "congratulations!" but I left her on read and muted the chat.
My mom (72/F) texted me later and said that her sister was going to ask me to be her MOH and wondered why I wasn't responding. I told my mo... | YTA sounds to me like you’re bitter and jealous. It’s not your sister’s fault you don’t have a relationship. It’s your choice either way, but yes, you’re the asshole ###### |
The title might sound a bit confusing but I’ll try to explain it here. Last Christmas, my parents were on vacation so they gave the gifts to me before hand to give to the kids. I have 3 kids with my ex, and my new husband of 2 years has 2 kids of his own. My mom has constantly taken the stance of “my grandkids are the ... | YTA slightly. Your effort to mesh families is admirable, but your mother made her intentions clear. The kids should be able to understand that they are a blended family and that they have separate grandparents. Your mother even got them gifts. ###### |
A little context. I (M34) have always had a very sensitive sense of smell especially to unpleasant odors. They really bother me. I think I might be a super-smeller or something.
Anyways, this causes issues when my GF (F25) is having her special tie of the month. I understand that it is something that girls have to do... | YTA simply because you call it "the special time" and refer to women as "girls." Between that, the age gap, and this whole situation, you come across as the World's Biggest Creep. ###### |
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