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So I used to babysit for a old high school friend and loved working for them they had two kids a little girl who just turned two and a boy who was 8. They were very well behaved kids and I really enjoyed watching them. The mom had asked me to come to the girls 2nd birthday party and I said yes without hesitation and re... | NTA.
The deceived you into coming and then tried to get free child care out of it.
You owe them nothing and were 100% in your rights to leave. ###### |
For context, my two friends (20F) and myself (19F) are all queer. This happened a while ago, but it still bothers me.
I’ve only been in two serious relationships and both of them have been with cis men. Still, I identify as a pansexual as their gender doesn’t matter to me.
In my first relationship, I didn’t really ... | NTA.
The behaviour they are displaying is 100% biphobic/panphobic. They are treating the LGBTQI+ community as an exclusive club that you have to be a certain way to get into and mimicking the very attitude that LGBTQI+ stands against. It is YOUR choice to identify as the sexuality that you do, and not theirs to tell ... |
Me and my sister share a car right now, and when I was driving home about 3 or 4 days ago I got into a minor accident that wasn't my fault. The car got completely totaled cause the axel got bent, I was fine and the other driver was fine but ow the only car that works (that we can drive) is my mom's which she takes to ... | NTA.
That’s a horrible thing to call someone good God. Of course you weren’t going to get her a gift, what did people expect? ###### |
Alright. So, kids are definitely a far off thing. I’m still under 18 and I don’t personally feel prepared to raise a kid, nor do I think I will be for the next good few years. But today some of my friends were talking about what they want their kids name to be (again just hypothetical future kids, none of my friends ar... | NTA.
That was rude and uncalled for. Why are they your friend? ###### |
I went over to this guys house to hook up. I am 19 years old, female, and live with my parents while I attend college. They are strict Christians. I do not have enough to move out as rent is a minimum of 1k a month where I live and minimum wage is 8 an hour. Anyway I got back and my mother took my car and has grounded ... | NTA.
That really sucks. You're 19 and, whilst you're still young, you definitely shouldn't be treated like a child anymore. *Grounding you*? Really?
Hopefully you get to move out soon and have your space. ###### |
I’m 20, when I was 18 my father told me that I have an older half-brother(23) we officially met when I was 19, from day one I knew there was something off about him, he really gave off bad vides so I did my best to keep a distance.
But my Dad started inviting him to our family holidays, my brother kept on being reall... | NTA.
Telling the rest of the family was a very smart move because Dad's guilt over not being there for him is overshadowing his protective instincts for you, his daughter.
Now everyone else knows something isnt right and can monitor the brother's interactions with you.
Absolutely stay far away from the pocket knife... |
My friend does not use social media and does not have a Facebook account. She’s not off the grid or worried about online privacy, she just doesn’t use it. Her dog has its own Instagram account though, FWIW.
She wanted to do a livestream yoga class that the instructor is putting on weekly and therefore needed to be ab... | NTA.
Tell her to create a facebook account for her dog. She can use that. ###### |
My father was born in ‘77 and my husband was born in ‘79. I just so happened to be born in ‘94. Now the age difference between my husband and I does not bother me in the slightest bit. Nor does it bother my grandparents or my siblings only my dad.
My father didn’t raise me. I lived with my grandparents my entire life... | NTA.
Stand your ground. It sounds like your father is more worried about how he thinks things look than how things are. He isnt concerned for your wellbeing (a reasonable parental feeling) so much as throwing a tantrum that you made an adult decision he doesnt like. ###### |
I met my boyfriend at the beginning of freshman year of college(I’m a junior now) and I moved into his apartment in January. I’m 5’9” and he’s 5’5”. So yes, I’m tall and he’s short and I can see how that could be a little funny at first.
But my friends have been making jokes about it for 2 years straight. Just incessa... | NTA.
Sounds like you've outgrown your immature friends. I hope you can find some more accepting ones, in addition to your boyfriend's friends! ###### |
My friend (M 20) frequently complains about his lack of men to date. He isn't unattractive but he is no male model. He however has very narrow tastes when it comes to men. He wants a tall, ripped male model who isn't feminine in any way. Which I've always found pretty shallow.
Yesterday, while he was compla... | NTA.
Sometimes you need to give your friends a reality check. He kept constantly complaining about how he couldn't find a single person because he's only looking for people he deems as a 10/10 when he could already have someone if he lowered bis expectations a bit. ###### |
first thing first, english is not my first language so sorry for any grammar mistakes. this happened back in January, and she still wont talk to me unless i apologize.
a little background, i am 37M. got married to the love of my life, my wife when we were both 28. unfortunately she passed away 2 years ago from cancer... | NTA.
She’s rude and insensitive and the whole offering up her daughter like she owns her is just disgusting.
Do not apologise. She’s the one who owes you an apology as well as her daughter.
If she’s stopped talking to you I’d count that as a win. Can you imagine if she actually was your MIL?! Blegh.
Facebook drama... |
So I (F19) had an argument with my step mom and dad the other night. It wasn’t related to my clothing but because of the argument, my step mom started listing off things the doesn’t like that I’ve been doing.
One of those things, the thing I believe is unreasonably at best and highly misogynistic at worst, is that I n... | NTA.
She's in a cult, and was probably raised by one. The last thing you want to do is expose your children to that, except to warn them away from anything related to it.
Your dad knows she's in the wrong, but he's weak and a coward, and he knows that the easiest solution is for you - the reasonable one - to acquies... |
So I’m a new mother, my son is 3 weeks old. Forgive me for any mistakes, I didn’t sleep much last night.
My sister lives with us, we own our house, she doesn’t pay rent, she lives with us because she can’t afford to live on her own. I had hoped she’d move out before I gave birth but she didn’t.
I normally feed our so... | NTA.
She's got a lot of nerve for complaining about breastfeeding for someone figuratively suckling at your teat. ###### |
I have never wanted kids. I have made this clear to every person I have dated. When I married my now ex, she knew this. She was okay with it, or so I thought. 3 years in, she mentioned adoption and I shut it down, reminding her I never wanted kids and that children deserve a parent who wants them. She stayed with me fo... | NTA.
She was being ridiculous, would've been hard not to laugh. ###### |
first thing first, english is not my first language so sorry for any grammar mistakes. this happened back in January, and she still wont talk to me unless i apologize.
a little background, i am 37M. got married to the love of my life, my wife when we were both 28. unfortunately she passed away 2 years ago from cancer... | NTA.
She sounds entitled, mean and petty.
Good for you for leaving.
Sorry for your loss, losing someone is always tough, and I suppose this isn't helping.
Stay strong ###### |
My husband and I adopted our oldest son in 2016, and biologically he is my husband's nephew (his mom is my husband's sister). Anyway, she had been making poor life choices for quite some time, but it ultimately came to a head in 2014, when her drug usage caused her to lose all of her kids. She went to prison for a whil... | NTA.
She kinda disappears from your son's life and still expects a congratulation on mother's day?
> but I dont see the need to make him solely responsible for maintaining a relationship he doesnt want in the first place.
Also this. If he's not interested, that's it. ###### |
Hello friends. I am a T1 diabetic, so I need to keep my insulin in the fridge. Lately I’ve been staying with my girlfriend who lives with her parents, who are very kind to temporarily take me in. I got there yesterday and I was unpacking and asked her if I could put my boxes of insulin in her fridge. She looked a bit u... | NTA.
She is iiterally telling you that you can't have your insulin because it makes people uncomfortable. I see that as a complete dealbreaker. ###### |
I’m a senior in HS. In December one of my classmates got into a bad car accident that did a lot of damage. She had several surgeries, and is in need of more for her face. Her insurance won’t cover it, hence the GoFundMe.
I was never friendly with this girl. She spread nasty rumors about a friend of mine, and I always... | NTA.
Send DMCA takedown notice to GoFundMe to remove the artwork, since they refused to do it (more info at [https://www.gofundme.com/terms](https://www.gofundme.com/terms) section Copyright Complaints). ###### |
So recently, I moved out of the state to start a new job. My gf who I had been with for about a year, decided to follow me a few months later. She had assumed that I would get rid of the dog when she moved in, but I had no plans to. She gets weirdly jealous of the dog, and is insistent that she is in her cage whenever ... | NTA.
RED FLAGS. Red flags EVERYWHERE.
You made a commitment to that dog, to take care of her for her entire life. You shouldn't get rid of her, and your GF shouldn't expect you to. Also, the way your GF behaves towards your dog is a huge red flag. Allergic or not, how a person treats a dog is a big clue to how they ... |
My(18F) mother always likes using the phrase ‘I know each of my children individually’. She always says this when I ask why the rest of my siblings(13M and 26M) don’t do chores. Like she would go out for groceries or whatever then comes back in the evening and asks ME why there are still shoes in the entry way(not even... | NTA.
Probably classic 'girls should do the chores, not boys' situation. Clean only after yourself and be super duper lazy. ###### |
So my girlfriend's sister has opened an online store selling creams, misc hair products/ jewelry, and prints. I was pretty suspicious of what she is selling as she has a habit of putting the cart before the horse when trying to start up these little businesses of hers (she has a history of creating and abandoning small... | NTA.
Please let the artist know that your girlfriend's sister is stealing other people's work. ###### |
So i was spending time with my mom today and my best friend decided to call me. i had headphones on luckily so i picked up and she seemed somewhat off during the conversation. while talking to her she kept moaning and sighing more and more often and said her boyfriend was fingering her while i was on the call. she then... | NTA.
People who rope other people into their kinks without consent are gross. Your friend is gross. Her boyfriend is gross. I don't know if that counts as a rule 1 violation but...ew at both of them. ###### |
Long story short, but my ex fiancé broke up with me around six months ago. She was supposed to be looking for her own place by now but has been dragging her feet. When we separated, while sharing the house we both rent, we agreed on a roommate situation where we both pay our equal amounts of rent and cost of living exp... | NTA.
Pay up or get out. She's not your responsibility and you've already been far more kind than warranted. She can be mad at you all she wants, tfb. She calls you an asshole, but somehow doesn't realize she's a leech. She's using you and she has absolutely no right to. ###### |
Me and my father always had a horrible relationship. I'm the youngest of 4 siblings and have 3 older brothers. I was born with a learning disability so it made me a little slow and be less intelligent. My dad hated that I had a learning disability and he would always call me names such as stupid, moron, idiot, etc. He ... | NTA.
Only you get to decide how you feel about your dad's impending death and if you've not had a good relationship with him then it's very reasonable to feel relieved on his death. You're under no obligation to feel sad simply because you two are related ###### |
my ex really wanted me to get a switch so i would play more games with him. I said over and over i didnt want one, i was happy with my ps4 and not super into games anyway. He kept insisting hed buy me one, even got mad at me when I said “absolutely not” to him spontaneously driving to gamestop to buy one when we were b... | NTA.
Oh, shit.
Is that how gifting things works?
I owe Santa SO MUCH.
Send help OP ###### |
This happened last year around October.
I was at home, it was a Saturday around five pm and someone knocked on my door. I'd only been home from work for about an hour after having been awake since four am, and I was sitting down eating my dinner. I went and opened the door, it was a group of people and they started si... | NTA.
No one should have religion shoved in their face like that. And the group shouldn't have outed the people that weren't interested. ###### |
Last year I (28F) decided to go back to school and my fiance (30M) supported me.
When his mom found out I was starting (we decided not to say anything until it was official) she flipped out.
Why? Because I wouldn't be around to do anything they (I drive his mom, sister, 6 nieces, and his foster brothers where they ... | NTA.
Laugh in the faces of people who try to guilt trip you. Someone else will drive. ###### |
I have a group of friends from my old college, and we've been doing video calls often. A couple of my friends have a new friend John, and he'll join for zoom. I was nice to him at first but honestly he's been kinda creepy to me, like wanting to get my Snapchat even though I say I haven't used it in years and don't even... | NTA.
John didn't take no for an answer. That's creepy and unacceptable.
Leaving to talk with your friends without him is perfectly acceptable.
If some of your friends don't like that (notably it sounds like they're only guys), then you've learned something about them too.
A suggestion for the future if you're will... |
So my freinds found out about a way to get American Netflix when we are in Australia. And one of my freinds didn't want to tell me. But the other one convinced that friend to tell me. So they told me and I was happy. I went home to my dad and told him all about it. He then proceeded to tell me about how it will never w... | NTA.
Jesus Christ, get some new friends. Pestering you to pay them, even when you don’t owe them anything, is just straight up manipulative. ###### |
Some context: I worked a 60hour work week job last year for like 4 months so I could buy some nice stuff (I’m 20) I bought all the parts for a fancy ass gaming PC, I’m talking RTX 2070, Liquid Cooling, you get it. Well I donated half of the parts from my last PC to my brother so he could build his own, that I built for... | NTA.
It’s your PC, he isn’t entitled to its use. Why does he even he to use it if he has the same game on Xbox?
If the Xbox and Switch are yours, please take them from him if he is going to be this entitled about it. ###### |
Sorry for eventual errors: English is not my first language.
I (16F) live with my parents and my older sister (20F). I'm an average looking person: I'm tall 160cm, and my weight is 52 Kg (so, pretty normal: I'm not overweight -important to the story-), I have dark and curly hair, I mostly wear band shirts or movie shi... | NTA.
It’s one thing for your mother to be concerned if you just lay around the house without participating in any physical activity whatsoever, but if she’s focused specifically on your weight for no other reason than for the sake of your appearance, she can go kick rocks. ###### |
My(17M) brother(23M) is dating a girl(24F) for over a year. His girlfriend is just a really giving person and she came over our house today and she ordered food for her and my brother but she also offered to get food for my sister(19F) and I(17M) well we both took her up on that offer. My brother didn't seem to mind fo... | NTA.
It’s not being courteous to offer something you don’t actually intend to give. If she didn’t want to buy you food, she shouldn’t have offered. Unless you’re leaving some critical detail out, like you saw them ordering and were standing around hinting that you wanted some takeout too, you’re in the clear here. ... |
So my husband and I have four kids. The one in question is our 16 year old daughter. I'd like to think my husband and I are quite progressive parents so we let her live her own life. She has a 17 year old boyfriend and they've been going at it for 8 months (I think). He's okay but crosses too many boundaries.
Against... | NTA.
It’s a house that is shared amongst members of the family. That’s inappropriate. If they want to do anything, take it to the bedroom.
Another concern is that they might not be practicing safe sex. Your daughter is still very young and finding a cum stain on a couch is unsettling to say the least.
I think the ... |
My 16 year old brother was diagnosed with lactose intolerance about 8 months ago, he has it fairly bad I think he can’t eat anything with lactose in it without having to leave in the bathroom for like 2 days afterward.
My mum has bought lactose free and vegan food to accommodate him while trying to not majorly change ... | NTA.
It’s a bummer situation for him, but he’s been given options and opted out.
Enjoy your damn ice cream. ###### |
I (28F) got engaged to a lovely bloke (38M) at Christmas, and I am super excited about it. We are getting married next year and I decided I ask my long term friends if they’d be a part of our special day, as my bridesmaids.
My sister and I have a mixed relationship, I personally feel I am the one who makes all the eff... | NTA.
It's your wedding and if you don't think your sister will contribute or is able to be relied on, don't lose sleep over it. ###### |
My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year and we had birth control failure (broken condom) that resulted in me getting pregnant just a few months into the relationship.
The entire time I was pregnant I worked full time and was getting put on best eat quite a bit. He would not keep a job. He would not get ... | NTA.
It's your tip money and also money that will likely be needed for your son not his cigarettes. His behavior is incredibly entitled!
My ex used to do this all the time too refuse to work and expect me to pick up his habit it was awful. ###### |
So, as Disney Plus was coming to my country, I managed to convince my parents to get an account, only if it was through ma pocket money. So, I decided, eh. fuck it, imma get it. So, it was all sunshine and rainbows for a while until my dad asked for the password to give to one of his friends. I was reluctant at first b... | NTA.
It's your money. So you should be able to decide who gets to use it. If your parents were paying for it I would say differently. ###### |
I always had a bit of a weird family, especially my father side. Lots of mental health issues, too.
My dad died almost 3 years ago. It was cancer, so prolonged hospital stays - people had plenty of time to visit him in hospital in the last months of his life.
Obviously, when I knew the end was coming, I contacted hi... | NTA.
It's your life and you don't have to be there for people who weren't there for you if you don't want to. ###### |
So she’s been learning to play video games, she’s not that bad but obviously is nowhere near as good as the maniacs who play online. So I said if she plays while my PSN is logged in I’d prefer if she plays offline or against the computer. And if she absolutely has to then please not on FIFA because I don’t want to get ... | NTA.
It's one thing to use this account and not realise what she's doing but you'd explained to her not to use it. And she disrespected your wishes. She obviously knows you're passionate about the game because you must play alot around her. I take the video game part out of the equation when deciding because it doesn... |
My husband has been temporarily laid off. Previously he worked full time (overtime, long hours) and I was a stay at home mom by day / worked part time at a restaurant in the evening / finishing my master’s degree at night (my mom often babysat the kids because my husband wouldn’t be home in time). Now my job has close... | NTA.
It sounds like an already existing problem that was just magnified under this situation. ###### |
***Happened in October and recently came up in conversation***
I made a reservation at a nice restaurant for my anniversary. Our reservation was for 8:30 p.m. but the hostess said they were running a little behind. After 20 minutes of waiting, a couple walked in behind us and asked for a table. They didn’t have reser... | NTA.
It is ridiculous that she would expect you to give up your reservation because she, a stranger, decided to have a kid. ###### |
Hey all,
Read a post on here that made me think about something that happened a few months ago.
In August of last year, I adopted an 8 year old cat. She was surrendered with a dog by her previous family that June because of an owner illness. According to the volunteer, the family came back for the dog two weeks later ... | NTA.
In the post you were referencing, the person didn't get their dog from a shelter. That dog wasn't surrendered, it escaped after a fire and it's owners still loved and wanted it back very dearly.
In your situation: They already made the choice to get rid of their cat. ###### |
my(18f) girlfriend(19f) is bisexual and i have always known this. however it did not bother me until she admitted that she was curious what having sex with a man would be like. we’ve talked about wanting a future together and i’m her first relationship so it bothers me because i know it’s something i could never give h... | NTA.
In relationships where both parties are mature, one doesn't openly verbalize a desire for fantasies that their partner is unable to fulfill. Doing so intentionally is asshole behavior.
The problem here, though, is that I think your partner's behavior is not exactly intentional/unintentional. I think that she'... |
I’ll do my best to keep this brief.
Earlier this week my parents came to visit my wife and I because we recently had another child. While they were visiting, my father used a word, which I won’t repeat, but it ends with a hard R, and I told him he can’t use that word in front of my children or in my home. Good time t... | NTA.
In any way, shape or form. Your father seems to have issues with being called out for his flaws and thats a him problem. Not yours.
I would probably tell him why you've chosen to ignore him though. ###### |
So if the name didn’t give enough explanation, here is some back story. My brother is slightly special needs. Nothing major. He mainly acts younger than his age. There may be some mental stuff there but my parents never told me about any.
Anyways, my brother loves fire alarms. He plays with them like toys, constantly... | NTA.
if your parents don't give a damn about you and only about your brother - point out that right now, *they're training him to think fire alarms are fun playtime*. and they're training him and everyone around him *to ignore the sound of a fire alarm.*
so what's going to happen when there's a real fire?
he'll sta... |
My partner injured themselves last December and has Piriformis Syndrome. It's where a muscle becomes inflamed and pinches the sciatic nerve. It causes shooting pains down the leg. They refused to go to the doctor for months and after diagnosis refused to take any medication to help them heal. They prefer to heal natura... | NTA.
If you need help, ask for it. If you don't feel like you can ask for help from someone you're in a relationship with then that's a whole different kettle of fish.
It sounds like attention-seeking behaviour. I've no doubt that it's genuinely painful (sounds shitty for you both) but the fact that they change thei... |
So last week I quit my job (I got an amazing offer from an amazing company).
My almost-former boss asked why and I told her (via email due to COVID) the complete truth: microagressions, lack of diversity (or interest in bring more in), nepotism, exclusion and subtle racism, homophobia, and sexism. I copied her bosses... | NTA.
If what you're saying is true they probably don't want to acknowledge what you said for potential legal reasons. Don't worry about it.
Good luck with your new job! ###### |
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I have two kids one 14 year old son and another 16 year old daughter. A few weeks ago was my son birthday and he got a Nintendo switch two games and a pro controller. My daughter was upset and wanted me to make the gift a family gift. I told her no as it was my sons birthday gift and that... | NTA.
If she wanted a switch, she should have asked for it.
I would tell your daughter that her 650 dollar art supplies were not a family gift, and no childs birthday present should be a family gift.
Tell your ex wife to pound sand and get her the switch herself. ###### |
We normally get along but we are having a dumb fight about this and I'm having a hard time communicating to him why it annoys me when he asks me these kinds of questions. I made dinner last night and when it came time to clean up, I asked him to put away the chicken. He asked what do I want him to put the chicken in... | NTA.
If men can handle complex and difficult careers outside the home, they have no excuse for not being able to do basic household tasks too. It's feigned ignorance. ###### |
Our first child is 7 months old next week and I've had an issue with how my husband speaks to her. She'll do something like getting stuck and pick he'll her up and say "oh you're just a stupid baby." Or when she's crying say, " stop there's nothing wrong. You're fine." Sometimes he has unreasonable expectations like ge... | NTA.
If he's starting like this it'll only continue and escalate. Maybe he thinks this is on par with saying things like, "silly baby," and, "oh no need to cry, don't worry, it's okay."
But his language is too harsh and even if he doesn't mean badly soon enough she will understand and be hurt.
Even at this age she... |
I’ll cut to the chase. My boyfriend recently found out he’ll be getting laid off in a month due to his company being acquired by another.
He’s been horribly down and depressed the past few weeks as a result. Last night while on the phone with him, he was sounding very, very depressed. The conversation went as follows:... | NTA.
If he was frustrated by being asked the question there are more adult ways to handle it than lashing out with insults.
The fact that it’s a stressful time does often mean people are more likely to snap; but that isn’t an excuse to not apologize and try to do better. He’s basically saying if times are tough it’s... |
I (16f) found out a few days ago from doing an ancestry kit that my dad isn’t my real dad . That wouldn’t have bothered me that much but it turns out that my biological father was my mother’s ex boyfriend who my mum cheated on with my dad.
Bio dad didn’t know my mum was pregnant until after I was born as she ended it ... | NTA.
I've never understood these kinds of people who go around with different men expecting nothing to ever happen to them, and then when it does blatantly lie about it. You deserve the truth, nothing less of it. ###### |
So I’m a straight dude and I have two gay roommates. I, obviously, agreed to live with them and have no issues with them being gay at all. Although they’re way more comfortable in the bathroom together than I am. In fact I’m not comfortable being in the bathroom with them ever, but they don’t have an issue with it. For... | NTA.
I've been married for 7 years.
I still don't let my husband in the bathroom while I'm going and probably never will. ###### |
I'm in an LDR and my gf has been lonely and uncomfortable in her cramped studio apt during COVID lockdown. This woman she goes to grad school with knew that and gave her the key to her place while she's out of town for the summer, but they're not really friends, more like colleagues, and she assumed my gf was only goin... | NTA.
I'm willing to bet that someone who gets annoyed at being called out on their bullshit would definitely have been upset to have their privacy invaded... ###### |
I have a non identical twin brother named Justin. I'm under no illusion that he's the better looking between us. He's a great guy if not a bit philandering.
Since we were bored yesterday, we video called my friend Jay and his wife and we just caught up with each other over a couple glasses of wine. We eventually got t... | NTA.
I'm a person who usually believes that if you aren't going to like the answer then don't ask the question but not for this situation. Usually when someone mentions a "cheat pass" they're generally talking about celebrities- *not their spouse's siblings*. Plus it was uncool of her to also say that they'd "fuck a... |
I'm literally in tears typing this because I don't know what I've done wrong.
Here's some background:
I'm a second year university student, I've come home because my university shut down because of what's going on. Ever since I came home, I've literally been helping my mom in every way she asks me to.
I sweep the flo... | NTA.
I wish I had advice for you, but it doesn't seem like your mom is a reasonable person.
>and my mom says I'm too fat to use a mop so I have to be on my knees and clean
Your mom sounds like a miserable person.
Please don't blame yourself. ###### |
My daughter and her girlfriend, 19F and 20F, have been together for 8months.
My daughters girlfriend recently kicked her out, I haven't been told why but I'm sure they'd tell me if they wanted me to know.
I said that she could stay and to let me know before she got here so we could all talk.
When I got home she had ... | NTA.
I was kicked out before as a teenager, and my ex's family let me stay with them. They asked that I just slept in the guest room, and I was appreciative to have a bed to sleep on. I could've slept in my ex's bed but I respected his parents and slept in the guest bed, they would make dinner for me and even encoura... |
I’ve been together with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we’ve been talking about the future and marriage but have a few hang ups that we’ve been trying to work through. One of the things that is a major source of tension between us is that he goes on a “mancation” with his dad, dad’s friend, and dad’s friend’s son eac... | NTA.
I was fine until you said the 'Mancation' was TWO WEEKS!'
For most family's in the US, all they get is a two week vacation once a year, if your lucky. I was thinking a long weekend or something with the guys, but 2 weeks is definitely unreasonable to be away from your family constantly.
I have had a 'friends... |
My wife has been asking me to get things for her upstairs multiple times a day for the past several months. This morning she asked me to get something from our room (she was not busy and could have done it herself) and I asked why she never got things herself but was always asking me to do it. I asked her if she was ... | NTA.
I second your 7 y.o, I find it funny. ###### |
My mom knows I (17f) can’t stand the taste or smell of teriyaki sauce. I have told her this multiple times, because the smell/taste makes me sick to my stomach. I ask her for a heads up whenever she makes something with teriyaki sauce in it so I can grab something for myself to eat.
I went grocery shopping for my mom ... | NTA.
I have the impression that your mom tried to back you into a corner and force you to eat to prove a point. She called your brothers so they could "gang up on you" which is wrong. You're allowed to not like certain types of food (for example, I hate anything with peppers, so I tend to stay clear of 'em).
Could ... |
I'm (17M) required to eat breakfast at 10:30am sharp and to finish by 11:00am (Lunch and Dinner also have their respective eating times but it was specifically a "violation" of the breakfast time schedule that caused me to write this). It's not the amount of time that's absurd, but rather the fact that I can't eat when... | NTA.
I have a very very small earing disorder because of my parents being so strict about what I eat growing up. I have a problem now, even as an adult, about eating out and hiding it from people.
It drives me husband nuts, but I absolutely can't handle comments about my eating habits. I also have an issue with ea... |
Two years ago my cousin's dog was diagnosed with a life threatening medical condition. The veterinary bill eclipsed $10,000 AUD. My cousin didn't have the necessary funds, and for whatever reason ended up in my house begging and pleading for a loan.
I should mention here that I'm not rich by any means. Rather, it's th... | NTA.
I guess you've learned to never lend money to people again though. Never lend what you wouldn't gift. ###### |
Okay, so I'm 20 F, and I'm living with my parents.
So this happened today at lunch. We'd all sat down to eat, and there was fish. I hate fish. I hate most non-vegetarian food. Nonetheless, I didn't want to start a fight, so I sat down and ate almost all of it, except for a little bit which I just didn't want to anymo... | NTA.
I get trying not to waste foods or whatever. But she pick a fight with you, and you fought back. But next time you probably don't need to eat it at all, as in, dont even pick the food. ###### |
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about two years. As a fat kid in high school, I really wanted to change how I felt about myself, and I transformed myself during my stay in college, to the extent that I was fairly ripped all the time and had abs.
This was when I met my girlfriend. She has never been to the gym... | NTA.
I don't understand why you're with her. She is extremely shallow and rude. She told you that you too won't be having sex until you get abs. She is telling you that she only likes you for your body when you are ripped. ###### |
I (21F) recently moved in to a new flat, now I'm living by myself and the cats, which is much better because I was having a hard time with my ex-flatmate. Where I used to live, my boyfriend (M23) had the keys, for a while it was ok but suddenly he started to make some suprise visits and I got really scared it could be ... | NTA.
I can't **STAND** entitled people. Your boyfriend thinks he's entitled to a key to *your* house which he doesn't pay to live at; and then he pulls a victim card by saying that he's afraid that you're going to put his life in danger because of it being a dark street.
No.
He just wants the power to come in and o... |
So since I’ve been working from home I have meetings 2 days a week. But even during the days I don’t I still dress decently and wear a little makeup because it makes me feel good, and also my boyfriend compliments me a lot when I dress well, and say what you will but it’s nice.
But our roommate yesterday asked why I h... | NTA.
I admit I'm a little biased - I spent one day of lockdown in a fur coat, tiara and a prom dress (which was great.) Fashion is a passion of mine and it's been cheering me up. If you enjoy dressing well, then that's up to you.
Everybody is a little sensitive/stressed right now so maybe don't go too hard on her, ... |
So some quick information is im 15F and I’ve had two very obvious surgical scars on my body my whole life. A feeding tube scar and a open heart surgery scar. If course im thankful i’m alive but I could definitely do without scars. I’m pretty insecure about it and it sucks sometimes I cant wear low cut shirts, some crop... | NTA.
However, be warned, if you're gonna get a tattoo on scarred tissue it can hurt a bit more than usual and also sometimes the ink doesn't take very well. It'll be a good idea for you to search for a tattoo artist that has experience with surgical scars + it's probably cheaper than plastic surgery. ###### |
I feel like a dick so that's why im asking the impartial internet.
So my boyfriend and I (F17 and M16) fall asleep on the phone every night. I work mornings most of the time so I go to bed relatively early while he stays up all night and sleeps through the day. I tend to go to bed around 10:30pm or so, but I normally ... | NTA.
Honestly, I think his behavior makes sense.
There's nothing more romantic in my eyes than playing the latest computer games while ignoring my girlfriend.
Talking or interacting with her at all, of course, is entirely un-romantic as it distracts from my very romantic video game.
I see his predicament, though. ... |
Bg: I'm 17 years old. I live with my mom and dad but for the past few months, my sister's 3 kids have been living with us. They have no manners, are disrespectful, and are destructive. For example, they scribbled over my expensive drawing tablet (their mom blamed me), ripped up the dining room chairs, and threw things ... | NTA.
Honestly what are you supposed to do? Let the kids trash the house since they never get disciplined? I feel like it was good that you warned them that there was going to be a punishment and you followed through with it. Children need to understand that their actions can have consequences. It's not like you spank... |
Post ahead so get in.
Backstory: I am the oldest out of 5 and have graduated high school and moved from my state to go to college. My family is no strangers to drug and alcohol use, one of the family members was selling drugs for a long time but got arrested for getting caught. My parents were drug addicts and my fat... | NTA.
Honestly I would say you are obligated to report this to CPS. Her brain is still developing and heavy drug use has severe effects on it. ###### |
So basically what happened is that last night I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone in a discord call and then he started cuddling his dog, which he's had for a long time. I don't hate his dog or anything and I understand he loves his dog and I'm completely okay with that. But then I was talking to him and he igno... | NTA.
Here's the thing. It isn't even about the dog at this point.....it's about the fact that he's not considerate of your feelings. Calling you crazy? Bringing his mom in for back-up?
In my opinion, you were being a little insecure, but there's no reason for him to be an ass about it. He should have just apologized... |
My eldest daughter is in her 20s with two kids. She lives about an hour away. I still have 3 kids at home, work a full time job, etc. I do see her and my grandkids (or did before the whole world shut down) but it’s not often. Before the shut down, my daughter and I got into a fight and we’re still at a loss.
Like I sa... | NTA.
Hell, I lived 2 miles from my parents and I was the youngest (so they were empty nesters). Wanna know how many times they watched my kids? ONCE.
We didn't ask them if it was OK for us to have kids. Thus, childcare is OUR responsibility. Period. ###### |
My BF (30) and I (26) work in the IT industry. I work overseas (Germany) so we were in a long distance relationship for a while. We were living together so when I left the country, our place was left under his name. I send him money to pay half of the bills and everything was fine.
First quarter of 2019, his mom died ... | NTA.
He’s a grown man, he really shouldn’t nag at you cause of a job application when he can, infact look for a job himself ###### |
This guy I worked with asked for a ride home after our shift, we both live in the same town, so I said sure. He said after work he had to get somethings at a store close by.
work ends we get in my car and I needed to stop for gas. I get to the gas station and fill my tank, I paid by CC at the pump. After I am done fil... | NTA.
He stole money from you while you were doing a favor for him. Yeah it may have been only $3 but he stole from you while you were doing something nice for him. ###### |
I actually met Dani all the way back in 2008 and I must admit I had a big crush on him. We were kids so what ever. I moved then I went back to home town to visit people and met Dani. We began to talk and strung up a relationship. It was nothing serious. He would come visit me and we would spent weeks together.
I also k... | NTA.
He should have no say in who his sister is friends with.
It was a long time ago and he’s the one who cheated - you did the right thing when you found out. ###### |
Two days ago my(22F) dad (52) accidentally found out that I‘m gay. I was listening to music and was on Tinder and didn’t notice that he was in the room. He came up behind me and saw what I was doing. There was no point in denying it (he knows how the app works) and I thought that this might be the time to finally get t... | NTA.
He said some pretty horrible things to you. Take as much time as you need to think it through. There's no reason to rush. If you're not ready, you're not ready. Maybe he does want to sincerely apologize, but that doesn't mean you have to hear him out just yet. Take care of yourself first. ###### |
We were getting ready to park inside of the private lot when all of a sudden my friend starts throwing up. For some reason he decided to throw up first and then open the door instead of just telling me to stop and him getting out to throw up. I think he threw up because he was drinking heavily before I picked him up an... | NTA.
He intentionally damaged your property because you asked him NOT TO RUIN HIS ENTIRE SIDE OF THE INTERIOR OF YOUR CAR by getting out. What he did to your car was uncalled for, drunk or not. I mean I would have guessed he'd see the error of his ways when he sobered up, but apparently he has decided to run with it,... |
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So first some background... I’m a short woman (5’2” ish) and my husband is pretty tall (about 6’3”) so when we go out together he usually asks me to wear heels which I don’t really mind depending on where we are going/ what we are doing.
So anyway, one day we are going to the mall and it’s early fall so I put... | NTA.
He expects you to wear heels because of your height difference.
He doesn’t want people looking at you together in public.
He had a tantrum and berated you for not changing into shoes that weren’t appropriate for the venue.
You’re his wife, not a purse. He’s due for a serious adjustment in his perspective and ... |
My daughter’s college completely refunded this quarter’s pay. She came back home because they couldn’t keep dorms up. I got a cashier’s check of $14,937 from the college. I was honestly surprised that they refunded it.
When I told my family, my daughter complained and said that it was her money. I completely disagre... | NTA.
Had a similar situation as an undergraduate and my parents got the money back. They used it on my tuition the following term.
You paid for a service she was using. The service refunded YOU not her.
Edit; you say she was paying rent. Is this a rent refund for the dorms as well or just tuition? ###### |
So I'm from a traditional Indian family in England, my parents compare me to \*everyone\*, from my sister to the neighbour's kid etc. My sister is 5 years older than me \[26F\] and has been working for 2 years after graduating from a fairly prestigious university but earns the usual 2 years into your career wage (£35k,... | NTA.
Good on you for taking the option that's better for your sister's mental health. You have no obligation to tell them anything, and it sounds like you're better off leaving. I hope your sister has left too. ###### |
I will try to not make this too long, also on mobile, blah blah blah.
So yesterday I(13) was making some ballon dinosaurs and I was using scissors to cut the paper, stupidly I left them out last night and went to bed. I am woken up by my step dad throwing open my door and yelling about how I left the scissors out. My ... | NTA.
Gonna be honest, your stepdads reactions seems borderline abusive. However, you should pack away scissors when you’re done with them. But a single, typically harmless mistake doesn’t necessitate that sort of reaction. ###### |
I am an atheist and my last roommate was a devout muslim. She used to be very regular with her prayers and practices and was a pleasant person to be around overall. I never interfered with her religious beliefs, and in fact, used to co-operate with her to assist her with it, eg I took down the poster of an actor near m... | NTA.
Fun fact about religion, or not having one - some people are only ok with it as long as you fit in theirs completely. If not, then that's when the peer pressure conversion is attempted. That's on them. It's possible to be religious AND impartial.
I feel like your burst was fair, although cold. It's important to... |
I know, this title is ridiculous. How on earth could I be an asshole when seeking medical attention? I’m not sure but my coworker seems to think I’m the world’s biggest asshole.
So around 11pm yesterday I started having trouble breathing, I chalked it up to asthma. Well I then got sick to my stomach. At 7am I called t... | NTA.
Fuck, what is wrong with your colleague, you were sick you couldn't breathe.
You were right to go the ER.
Edit: correction of a word ###### |
My sister just had a baby and he’s a couple months old, kinda in that ugly chicken phase. She has been trying for a baby for over 10 years and I’m super proud of her because I know she was hurting with infertility etc.
She co-owns a successful business w/ my parents and it’s her job to post pictures on their website ... | NTA.
Frankly, your sister is acting very unprofessional and hurting the business.
I could at least in some capacity understand her using her baby as a "model" if they were promoting baby related items (clothes, bedding, furniture, etc), but a baby has no place in product pictures of items that are not baby related. ... |
I just gave birth to my daughter. Of course my MIL is crazy over the top, over the moon. She wants to come over all the time to see the baby. I’m ok with that. I really am. I can use some company and advise. My only request is that she please call me first ahead of time. Call me so I can change out of my sloppy ... | NTA.
For some advice r/JustNoMil
Your request is reasonable, you want to look better then your worst when she visits. Make it a thing, that if she doesn't call ahead, she isn't coming in. ###### |
(I'm not a story teller like some here, so sorry if this is disorganized or boring.)
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Hello Reddit. Tomorrow is my (f/28) birthday. I wasn't planning on doing anything this year because it's my first sober birthday (I quit drinking 9 months ago) and I try to avoid parties since everyone usually drinks at ... | NTA.
First, your birthday your rules.
Secondly you're freshly sober, avoiding temptation is a smart move.
If your friends can't accept or understand that, you can question their motivations and canceling the birthday party for your own health is the right move. ###### |
My bf of 2 years went on a camping trip right before all the lockdowns and quarantine measures started. He went with 2 girls from his college outdoorsy club that he doesn't know very well and who I've never met. I'm not gonna lie, I wasn't super thrilled about that, but I didn't say anything cause I know that was just ... | NTA.
Even if nothing happened, the two of you *already established that sharing beds was a boundary*. Not only did he willingly, and unnecessarily break that boundary, he lied to you about it. Or at least, tactfully decided not to mention it, so lying by omission.
I’d be so fucking pissed. A small hole in a sleepin... |
So this happened couple of weeks ago but my sister is still bothering me about it. Also English is not my first language. TLDR at the bottom.
So I (f27) and my boyfriend (m30) are childfree by choice. My sister (f25) is pregnant for the first time and had a baby shower a few weeks ago. It was a small gathering of abou... | NTA.
Elle had *no* business bringing up you being child free.
Also maybe it teaches her that those kind of comments can really hurt someone who isn't child free by choice. ###### |
Hi reddit community. I wanted to ask for advice. The story begins on 2015 when my father passed away and me and my fathers family got into a legal argument over the inheritence that my father left me. In conclusion I got the inharintence even though I didn't want it and my fathers family cut all contact with me. I thou... | NTA.
Donating an organ is a serious thing and you have every right to decline doing so for whatever reason.
But especially in this case.
You aren't an organ factory. ###### |
I have a medically fragile kid (genetic condition/feeding tube/just home after 2+ months in the hospital). Our neighbors know all of this. They have always just let their 8 year old walk into our driveway and yard without permission. I asked them nicely via Facebook yesterday if they could keep him out of our space and... | NTA.
Currently dealing with this. I'm very very pregnant, my daughter has breathing issues, mom is here staying with us to keep us fed, and our houses are basically on top of each other.
My daughter is 4. My neighbour's son, her best buddy, is 4. They understand enough that they cannot leave our driveways, they can... |
My wife and I had a private gym in our house with a bunch of different type of gym equipment.
Back in November a gym opened up a block from our house, so we each got gym memberships and decided to get rid of our personal gym equipment so we could use the room for something else.
I tried selling it all, but couldn’t ... | NTA.
Convenient how she suddenly decided to make room for the weights when it suited her. She never answered any of your calls and wasn't interested in picking them up until it suited her. The offer was made **months** ago. If she didn't pick it up in December, that's her problem. It's too late.
She should respect t... |
I (M34) bought my boyfriend (M32) a 2018 Macbook Air on sale a few months ago because he needed a new computer. It did not come with a warranty. Two days ago, he got annoyed at me that I asked him to come to bed (it was 2am), slammed the laptop shut and came.
Then, he discovered the next day that his slamming the lapt... | NTA.
Classic manipulative behavior. "Look what you made me do."
I'd watch out that he doesn't continue to blame you for his behavior. ###### |
TL;DR is the title, throwaway account, English is not my main language, blablabla
So I (17M) begged my parents (mid 50s) for a Netflix account for YEARS before i gave up, and just bought my own account. I have the cheapest plan possible, so about 10$ a month (i think) and it's costing me literally half my pocket mone... | NTA.
But this is going to backfire big time.
If you're paying for this with allowance, allowance they give you. They'll just take your allowance away. Then make their own account if they're so inclined and not give you the password.
Don't bite the hand that feeds. ###### |
Throwaway, mobile, all that jazz.
Tonight I was a Suspicious Sally and checked my husband's text messages from his smart watch. I see a series of messages to an unsaved number and while they're not explicit they essentially allude to wanting to meet up again. The weird thing is that it only displayed one side of the ... | NTA.
But let's be honest. You seem to have all the information you need in this situation.
I'm sorry, and it sucks. I hope you can figure out where to go from here. ###### |
I'm a 29 year old mother of a 6 year old son. He had been just the normal kid growing up, curious and enthusiastic as ever. Lately I have noticed him roleplaying feminine characters while playing, favoring more feminine attitudes and toys/games. That was completely fine by me and his father and we never discouraged it... | Nta.
But as a lot of other comments are pointing out that kids are mean, I think you should have an age appropriate talk with him. Something along the lines of "you are allowed to wear whatever you want and I'll be there supporting you, but there are bad people out there that might make doing what you want difficult.... |
I can't even believe I'm writing this. It feels so ridiculous but I feel like I'm going out of my mind.
Several of my friends have now expressed that they think it's "covert racism" and "culture appropriation" because my Animal Crossing character is black.
I'm a white female but when I started playing I decided I wo... | NTA.
Blackface is a racist charicature of black people for the purpose of mocking them.
It's not racist to pick a black character in a video game and nor is it a charicature. It is, therefore, not blackface ###### |
Had a new countertop and sink installed, and the countertop people don’t do plumbing, so I needed someone to install the new facet and disposal on the new sink. I can do it myself, but it’s it what brings me joy, plus I’m working. So I decide to just hire a plumber.
Company I called is well regarded, I explained cl... | NTA.
Asking you to pay $70 for a quote was not done in good faith, not when this is something they could have at least ballparked over the phone. Something like, "It's going to be $400 just for the faucet and garbage disposal install alone, plus parts."
This was an attempt to use the sunken coast fallacy to charge a... |
I want to be clear before we start, I TOTALLY understand that being pregnant has a multitude of different effects on different women. I understand that some women have it easier than others in terms of their pregnancies, like some women can work on their feet until the day the baby is born whereas some can't after 3 mo... | NTA.
As someone who had difficulty getting pregnant I can say stress can play a factor. However it doesn’t mean she should live completely stressed free while expecting you to carry the financial burden and also half of the house chores. She can only do half of the job of trying to conceive. She needs you to do th... |
There's an unofficial rule in my house that if you're cooking an evening meal from scratch, you make four portions of it.
Unfortunately, this limits _everyone_ to what my dad likes. And he is _very_ limited in that regard.
No pasta, no vegetarian meals, nothing too "foreign", and nothing "unusual. Basically he'll acc... | NTA.
As a kid growing up, I can't count how many times my father told me "yiou eat what we prepared". And as a child I was told... "If you don't like it, you can cook your own meal or go hungry".
The same should apply when the children start cooking for the parents. They don't like it? Cook your own meal, or go hung... |
So, I had this big pot with menstrual cups in it on the stove. The pot was sort of covered with a lid and when I left the kitchen for a few minutes my roommates boyfriend (34) apparently walked in and checked what was inside the pot. He gave me a weird look when I returned, but I didn't think anything of it.
Later,... | NTA.
Are you supposed to sequester yourself during your "unclean" time, too? Periods are a normal function and need to be treated as such. It's not like you were free-bleeding on the furniture, FFS. ###### |
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