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My (31M) sister Anne (34F) got married on Saturday. My husband of 7 years, Mark (32M), was there with me and up until one point, is was an amazing evening.
After the ceremony, Anne wanted a picture with all of our siblings (there’s five of us) and their respective partners so we started lining up.
When Anne saw that ... | NTA
Has your sister always been shamelessly homophobic, or has the wedding brought out a new side of her? |
So a couple of months ago things went down with a new colleague who was lying about her language skills. Original here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/logumz/aita\_for\_accidentally\_calling\_out\_a\_new\_colleague/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/logumz/aita_for_accidentally_calling_... | Cathy at next job: okay, no common languages. I speak a dead language.
Colleague: oh, really? Say something!
Cathy, sweating: dead language as in speaking to the dead.
Colleague: ??
Cathy, panicked: I previously worked at the coroner’s office” |
He's been married 4 times now, and this wedding will be his fifth in the span of 30 years. I don't know how he has such a high turnover rate but I'm guessing it's to do with him being both rich and a raging narcissist. He invited me to get coffee and introduced me to his new fiancee. I knew he was going to do this beca... | NTA. You stood up for your boyfriend. As unfortunate as it is that the fiancée was caught in the crossfire, she didn’t oppose her soon to be husband’s views, so. |
To start, my ex and I were 19 when she got pregnant. We had recently broke up and she found out a couple weeks later that she was pregnant. She said she planned to get an abortion but only wanted her sister there.
So I was always under the belief that she had aborted. She only contacted me once saying it was done and ... | NTA! Your ex lied, your ex created this mess. I’m sorry she has passed, but she did this. You have no obligation to continue a lie you had no part of. Your daughter deserved the truth. |
Some feel I (32M) should’ve handled the situation but I don’t see how I’m wrong. Me and my sister (37f)are not as close as we used to be because of some messed up stuff that happened years ago. I had my son Jesse (9) pretty young. Months after that to my surprise my ex was pregnant again. Only I knew it wasn’t me beca... | NTA.. regardless of what happened in the past between consenting adults, Kieth is a child and is absolutely innocent. Bless you OP for having such a huge heart and opening up your home to another son! You rock! |
Okay, hear me out. I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here.
This woman alway... | NTA. She kind of had that coming. I hate women who think that workout outfits are asking to be ogled. |
I was hanging out with a friend of mine and a group of her friends. We were all talking and having drinks, and the topic of dating comes up in conversation.
For some background information; I’ve only had one boyfriend (I’m 24) we dated for 4 years, and broke up about a year ago. I’m mostly a loner. I’m fine with bei... | ESH
First, nobody should be harassed for not being sexually active, it’s not a badge of honour. Not dating isn’t a crime. Your friend sucks.
Second, I get why you were mad, but you suck fo waiting until you blow up. Someone harassing you? “Guys gonna say this only once - my dating life isn’t up for debate. You need... |
Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/je1p6k/aita\_for\_inviting\_my\_dads\_girlfriend\_over\_my\_real/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/je1p6k/aita_for_inviting_my_dads_girlfriend_over_my_real/)
Sorry for the late update it has been a busy 2 weeks.
First of all, I would like... | > I feel like it means she genuinely listened to me and tries to truly improve our relationship.
It really sounds like it! Seems your mum is showing you she meant her apology. She made a promise to try, and now is acting on that promise. Good on you for approaching her, and even having a suggestion ready, and standing... |
So pretty much the title, I don't think I am the A but I've been getting some flack for it so I really want to clear this up.
So I started a new job recently I work in small studio, there are several others in the building, think open plan office with sections assigned to each studio. The person I had an altercation w... | Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshol... |
I F(25) have been renting a house since I was 18 (7 years). When I moved in, the backyard was a large piece of dirt, no lawn or anything, just a decently big backyard with a fence all around. It was a cheap but not great house, but I signed because I wanted the backyard space.
Over the past few years I erected a smal... | NTA. This is a very classic story of landlord trying to benefit of home improvements paid for by the tenant.
If your landlord was honest, he would have asked you how much you wanted to leave the garden as it was. You owe him nothing. |
My husband has an obsession with TikTok he’s 40 btw not 14. He takes his phone to the bathroom and will spend ages just mindlessly scrolling. We have 2 young kids and I think he just does it for some peace.
But it means I’m constantly having to go and knock on the door are you ok? Are you going to be long? Will you co... | NTA.
Are you SURE he's not 14? Storming out because you didn't tell him the dinner you made was ready after you told him it would be 20 minutes is something a 14yo would do. A 40yo should apologize for taking so long and thank you for making dinner, feeding his kids and cleaning up.
You two need to have a long tal... |
Over the weekend, I (23F) went to dinner with some of my dad’s relatives who I don’t see very often.
My dad has never gotten along with my uncle (his brother) and I haven’t either. He’s rude, condescending, and we don’t agree with him on a lot of things.
Normally I just try to ignore him. However, at dinner, my unc... | NTA.
He asked a question. You answered. He insulted you, and you defended yourself.
Don't dish it out if you can't take it is my motto |
My younger sister and I were very close when young but no so much now. I was born in fairly well to do Hindu family. I fell in love and married a Muslim man and had to convert to his religion. My family was pretty pissed off that I converted but we've kept in touch.
Recently my sister announced that she was in love wi... | YTA. You sound bitter that your sister is going to have an easier path than you. It’s not at all weird that she fell in love with someone from her community— having that in common can be a real bond for people. You way, way overstepped and were really shitty to her at what should have been a happy moment. Apologize rig... |
I (F35) am infertile. My ex husband and I tried everything to have kids but it just never happened. He divorced me, went and married someone younger who was able to give him a kid and from what I gather, they're expecting a 2nd child together. It hurts like hell seeing someone else have what I couldn't. I get frustr... | NTA
It was a cruel thing to do of her. Especially after you are being so gracious towards them.
Btw, just a reminder, your worth is not connected to your ability to bear children <3
ETA: thank you for the rewards.
Oh, and to the people saying that worth kinda is tied to children (especially as a woman): no it's n... |
throwaway as my dad uses reddit.
so I'm close to graduating high school and have been applying to universities and looking at some by doing the tours and stuff.
my parents decided to give me a gift for when I graduate, its 10,000$ toward my uni costs. I remember screaming and hugging my parents and thanking them.
... | NTA for sure. That NTA hit hard. Your parents are HUGE assholes for trying to force your life. Don’t ever let someone force your life choices.
Edit: Wow I want to respond to everyone’s stories and the like but oof. First off to all the people saying “ARt Is NOt A rEaL suBJecT” no one asked for your input on what she w... |
I’m(22M) a legal guardian of my 15 year old brother. We’re very close and we have always been like that. He lives with me now obviously. He often gets really sad, we recently lost our parents, so I comfort him as best as I can.
So, about my girlfriend, we have been together for 2 years. She doesn’t live with me, she ... | NTA -
>she was just stating her opinion without hurting anyone
> My brother was in tears
Is your brother not a person to her? WTF. |
My brother lost his job along with all his savings several months ago, and soon after he asked me if it would be okay if he (28M) and his wife (30F) stayed with me until they could afford their own place again. I hesitated at first, considering I only have a 1 bedroom apartment, but according to them they had 'no other... | NTA. I would totally give them two weeks to vacate if they are going to be like this. It’s too much.
Edit: THANK YOU for the awards. They are my first ever on reddit. A few points people have mentioned:
OP, look into your state’s tenant/landlord laws. If they have been with you x amount of days/months, they may have ... |
My husband and I took a much needed vacation to the beach last week and the entire week before we left I sent emails arpund letting everyone know I'd be completely inaccessible for the week so to come and see me for any work materials needed, files etc. I gave everyone everything I knew or thought they'd need and left ... | What happened is unfortunate, but you were clear that you would not be working during your time off. NTA.
**Your office need a better system.** What if you get hit by a bus one day? Or quit? It’s a bad idea to have only ONE employee have access to vital files/clients. For many reasons. |
Me (28M) and fiancee (27F) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months. I also have a 7 year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence.
On Saturday, fiancee had a bachelorette party at home. I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there. However, *I made sure t... | She clearly doesn’t mean that much to you, so yeah, leave over this.
I have a cat whom I adore beyond reason and if my current BF accidentally hurt him, I’d be pissed and upset but your dog isn’t dead. If he’s more important than your woman, that relationship is doomed. I’ve been in a relationship where I would have ... |
UPDATE
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My account was suspended due to some reddit error. Probably because I made a new throwaway and received a lot of attention I messaged reddit and the issue was quickly resolved. So that is why the last post was removed(it's back now). I'm not sure what the rules on updates are here
... | NTA. You are raising a bar he doesn't want raised by getting things done. He wants to pretend he is a better partner than he is. He also doesn't want you to highlight things he isn't interested in doing.
In a way, you are unintentionally showing that he isn't the best partner material around. Keep doing as you are. H... |
To start, my fiance is willing and happy to take my last name-- he grew up with a horrible father. He has no attachment to his last name and no siblings. I have a very unique last name and a strong attachment to it.
I brought this up to my father and he said wasn't so sure about it, given my brother is the only male ... | NTA, your brother and father are being ridiculous and there’s no logic behind what they’re saying. |
My husband has been dealing with sone health issues the past few weeks and has been frequently visiting the dr. I asked if I could go with him but he refused saying it wouldn't be neccesary and when I asked why he wouldn't want me with him he said he felt more comfortable having privacy with his doctor. I jokingly ask... | YTA. You don’t have the right to invade your husband’s privacy after he requested to go alone. A signed piece of paper doesn’t give you the right to stalk your husband. You have zero respect for him, obviously. |
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I (24f) gave birth to my daughter six months ago and it should've been the happiest moment in my life. When my daughter was born her skin was very dark and looked like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent. My husband Jim (26m), fake name, was furious and accu... | NTA, get a lawyer. Now. Even if you’d like to work things out one day, or have him be a part of your child’s life, now that he’s shown you his true colors, you need to have the legal power. |
My daughter had a spelling test which included some holiday words for extra credit. One of the words was "Chanukah". My daughter spelled it the way I just did, but the teacher marked it wrong and corrected it to "Hanukkah". She said to my daughter "you're Jewish and you don't know how to spell Hanukkah?" I think she me... | NTA. You didn't make a big deal about 1 credit point. You made a big deal out of a teacher that incorrectly told your kid she was wrong when she wasn't, and she wouldn't listen to your daughters explanation. You just taught your daughter that if she's being treated unfairly, you have her back. You did well. |
This happened a few months ago, but my brain won't let this one go.
So I was hanging out with some friends. Two guys, one woman. We're all in our early 20s and have had our fair share of romance in life. The topic of sex popped up and we start talking about some of our past experiences. One guy joked about how having ... | NTA. As a woman, I’m asking you to please keep telling it to the girls who don’t know. Women need to understand their anatomy!! Sorry, pet peeve of mine. |
One of my coworkers who I had thought was friendly but that was it (he is married) sent me some inappropriate texts at like 3 am on St. Patricks Day weekend.
Asking me to come over and "have some fun" and saying that he had been into me for a while and knew I felt the same. (I don't, I'm a lesbian but not out at wor... | Go to HR immediately. NTA. |
I am 15f and I have diary, and to prevent my older sister from reading it I created a new alphabet and to make it even harder to decode its not just the Latin alphabet that looks differently, i made some sounds like Yu, Ya, Sh, etc as one letter, like they are in Cyrillic. (Alphabet Russian, Bulgarian, Kazakh etc use)
... | NTA.
Parents who force their way into their teens diaries are shitty parents.
Full stop.
Reading your teenage kids diaries is a violation of trust. They can basically expect you to never trust them as an adult, and to have a distant and likely shitty relationship with them.
They are wrong, and there is NO other sid... |
Hi Reddit, just dropping by to give you an update to my post.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cyadgx/wibta\_if\_i\_still\_give\_my\_stepson\_the\_birthday/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/cyadgx/wibta_if_i_still_give_my_stepson_the_birthday/)
Jack celebrated his birthday in Septem... | You sure did undersell you gift in your first post! It reads like you're talking about a hockey stick or something, not a freakin' horse!
What was Kim's gift? |
This is a hot topic in my family at the moment,
I live on an obscure little island near the UK. we have a local quiz show that’s aired on the telly that I appeared on a few years ago.
The premise of the show is that you can win prizes for doing challenges. Some of the challenges were physical, some psychological, a... | NAH. The TV producers are producing entertainment. You provided entertainment. Sucks that people lost, but its a windfall, not an entitlement. |
So I (f34) was having a horrible toothache, I'd taken medication to ease the pain but it was bad, like you-need to go-to the dentist level of bad. I scheduled an appointment and was told to come yesterday.
My husband's (m37) best friend "Terry" (m33) got into an accident and injured his knee. he has been staying wit... | NTA. Sounds to me like you should continue staying with your Mom and let your soon to be ex husband start his new life with his partner Terry. |
I’m going to try to keep this short since frankly - I’m exhausted. Any questions can and will be answered in the comments.
Long story short, my family(35m, 12m, 10m) and I(32f) just recently moved into a new apartment complex. Our unit is at the very back of the building, at the back of the property, so behind us is ... | NTA good for you! Your husband is out of line and frankly acting in a manner that could give your sons the idea that it’s okay to just “get” from women without respect for personal boundaries whether it’s looking or worse. A plus parenting from you and thank you for respecting your neighbor!
Edit: thank you so much for... |
My stepson is turning 18 soon and my husband and I decided that we will be getting him a car. I make more than my husband does and we will be splitting the cost of the car 70/30. That’s fine with me.
His mother is a woman who I make the effort to be civil with but don’t like. I am much younger than she and my husband ... | NTA
She wants to take credit for the gift, and with the way you described her, there is a big chance that she is gonna milk this if you let her pay. If she wants to be part of it so much, just let her buy seat covers, air freshener or something similar that's within her budget and could be used for the car. This way s... |
My (26f) boyfriend (27m) is really into cars. He recently discovered a charity project where they fixed up an old Jaguar. It's worth around $300000. You could buy a ticket for $50 to enter and the money went towards a good cause.
My bf is broke at the moment so I offered to go halves with the ticket. He didn't want to... | NTA. Ew dump his ass. No misunderstanding. He didn’t want to front the $25 to split the ticket and now he is trying to manipulate you. |
I'm a slave to the siren (a Starbucks barista). I'm pretty decent with most customers and I'm pretty good at having convos with customers and sensing when someone just wants the line moved forward.
Anyway, I was on register the other day, taking people's orders. Two older men were ordering from me. One of them said "a... | NTA - to the power of infinity.
Who says this?
"Wow, (this is) not the smartest gal that works here, huh? They could learn to use their brains a little"
Fast food is rough. To survive I recommend looking at it as live theatre. He probably is going home to 101 Dalmatian puppies that he is going to turn into a jacke... |
I (40f) have 3 kids. Maggie (14f), Levi (12m) and Charlie (10m). (**NOT THIER REAL NAMES)**Levi and Charlie share a bedroom
and Maggie has her own room as the oldest and also only girl.
Maggie is a great kid. She does her homework, helps with chores without too much complaint, doesn’t bug her little brothers (too) muc... | NTA. Interrupting everyone's sleep is unacceptable. You gave her plenty of opportunities to change her door slamming behavior and she didn't do it.
Let her sulk it out for a set amount of time (let her know this amount. . 1 week. . 3 days. . whatever you choose), then return the door conditionally for a trial. If ... |
I (29f) am working in an office and I have a colleague Bea, who routinely makes fun of vegans. I am vegan and i never make a fuss about food, i go to the same restaurants as my coworkers during lunch hour and i can always find myself something to eat without announcing my dietary choices. Bea keeps calling me out on it... | NTA. Sounds like she was waiting for you to eat it so she could go 'aha!' and tell you how much you enjoyed it. |
I(29f) work as a waitress at a restaurant with a point system. It's 1 point if you are late, 3 points to call off with notice, and 5 points for calling off within 4 hours of your shift. This is fine with me as I have no points this year and have only called off once since 2018. I'm the type who covers shifts, stays lat... | NTA
You were so sick that you needed to be airlifted by helicopter and relocated to seek special treatment outside of where you currently live, which is well outside of your control. Then you went above and beyond, by keeping your boss in the loop the whole time as if your boss were part of your family, something you... |
First off, thank you for the support, advice, and differing perspectives you provided on [my first post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mm0dw6/aita_for_not_answering_any_contact_from_work/).
Most of you agreed that I should not be working for my cousin. I mentioned on the last post that I'd had some o... | Congrats on the new opportunities coming to you soon!
**Everyone should remember:** Nobody enters into a work relationship with family anticipating it turning into messy shit. Nobody. So when you think to yourself, “I can’t see those horror stories happening to *us!*”, just remember: neither did the people in the hor... |
My f32 husband m35 I has a YouTube channel with over 14k followers. He's been doing live streaming a lot lately even though I told him that we have responsibilities to take care of. Before our daughter (she's 7 months old) was born he'd stream randomly and spend lot of time with his "followers". Answering questions a... | NTA - Dude was straight up neglecting his human child for some twitch viewers. If I EVER caught my husband doing that, I'd be reevaluating the marriage; A child's well-being and safety should be his first priority, not worrying about his subscribers.
(and before anyone tries it, he could have waited until OP sat down... |
UPDATE at the bottom
Edit2: Since many people are sending me DMs, me and my dads went to the principal today. Will post an update when the situation is solved.
Edit: please remove if not allowed mods. I’m talking to my dads today and will ask them to got he principal with me , the comments here made a little sacr... | NTA. Go back to the principal and tell your dads. This counts as harassment and an unsafe environment and your parents need to immediately start working with the school board to stop it |
I'm a 19 year old man with a 3mo old son. His mother surrendered her rights and is no longer in the picture. I work 4am-12pm at a gas station and I raise my son, that's what I do these days. Only one of my friends still speaks to me and hangs out with me. I live at home with my parents and sister (21) and pay a small r... | NTA. She only offered because she thinks she’ll be paid. Your instincts are correct. With everything she’s said about your son she’d be the very last name on the list. Remind your parents of the comments she’s made. You have no reason at ALL to trust her when it comes to your kid.
ETA: thinks she’ll be paid as she he... |
I'll start this off by saying that I, f32 have been with my husband Bob, m39 for 3 years, married for one. His mom has a habit of keeping me out of most of their functions with the excuse of "you work too much". Not true because sometimes I do make myself available but yet find myself excluded.
Last week. His mom in... | NTA. Op, is this level of disrespect really what you want for the next 20 years? |
My (25F) nephew (4M) passed away 1 year ago because of cancer. It was right on my birthday and there was no celebration, there was nothing, because everyone was devastated.
My sister Denise is still grieving, she's in therapy and making some progress, but it's been slow. My family and I try to be as supportive as pos... | NTA. You didn't make your mom or your sister celebrate with you. It was you and your SO. Does Denise expect you to NEVER celebrate your birthday again? |
I(28F) have a niece (16F). She is my only sister's only child.
2 years ago I married a very wealthy man (34M), and because of the pandemic, last Christmas was my first with my in-laws.
My MIL gifted me a coat that is worth more than $20k (I saw her wearing it, asked her where she bought it, and she said that it will ... | NTA. She ruined a $20k coat. She wasn’t even apologetic. |
My husband goes on annual vacations with his family. I'm on okay terms with them but since we've only been married for a short time and I don't see his family much, we still have that barrier that keeps is from being completely comfortable around each other.
His family arranged for the vacation last week. I out of c... | NTA
Does he even like you? |
I'm a high school senior and my brother is a high school freshman. I have a car that I bought with money I'd saved from work, and I pay my own gas. However my parents pay my car insurance, so they said that driving is a privilege for me, not a right.
They said I need to drive my brother to school even though there's a... | NTA they should want to make sure their son is hygenic anyway so he doesn't get bullied and ostracized. No one likes the smelly kid.
You are comfortable with their terms, NTA. |
I know this sounds bad, but hear me out. im using a throwaway cuz my wife uses reddit, so please don't upvote this. I just want honest feedback.
My wife (29f) and I (27m) do well financially, so we decided to have our fourth child. Every single pregnancy we've been through my wife has been a complete nightmare. Some t... | YTA
You want to play video games instead of watch the kids? You're irritated by what your wife is making dinner? You think that things like waking up in the middle of the night because she's puking are analogous to waking up in the night to puke?
You're a huge major asshole.
Now, your wife needs to handle some thing... |
I am living with my family, it's me a 15 year old girl, my twin brothers who are 17, and my parents.
My dad cusses a lot, and so do my older brothers. But apparently the standards are different for me, my dad overheard me saying a couple cuss words when I was on the phone with my friends and he got mad at me for my la... | NTA they agreed to it, they have to play by the rules |
Okay, she’s not my SIL yet but I used it to make the title simpler. She’s my boyfriend’s borther’s girlfriend.
I (f28) have been with my boyfriend (m32, Ian) for 3 years. We’ve decided to host a small, early Christmas dinner. One of the people invited was his brother, Jake (m26). Jake asked if he could bring his girlf... | NTA - ***nobody would have fuckin noticed if she didn’t drag the damn things out and yell about it like a buffoon***
Keep the box when you’re done. Leave it out if she comes over again. |
I f22 grew up in a family where men prank and tease each others. eversince my fiance (Tim 23) and I got engaged, my cousin, brother, dad and uncle joked about running some 'tests' to see what "type" of man Tim is. They've done stuff like forcing him to play chess 4 times in a raw, secretly slashed his tires to see if... | NTA. This doesn’t sound like pranking but more like bullying. Who slashes tyres as a prank? Or messes with someone’s health as a prank? Just they just seem like big bullies to me.
In my family we tease each other and play jokes and trust me this is not what we do! Pranking is meant to be HARMLESS fun. None of these a... |
this is an ongoing situation, and am currently writing this as my niece is having a full-on meltdown. so I apologize for any mistakes.
today was my day off and i decided to whip up a batch of pot cookies (cookies that have weed extract in them) so i can snack on them for the weekend. after they finish baking i left th... | NTA. It’s polite to give people a heads up before you drop by, by 8 years old you should know not to take things without asking, and locking herself in a bathroom over *not getting a cookie* is ridiculous behavior for an 8yo. |
I own a printing company that I run with my wife. Her cousin came to us and wanted us to do all the signage, banners, guest books, life-sized cutouts, etc for her wedding.
We do this all the time for friends' weddings and events, and we never charge. We're happy to help out and it's usually a lot of fun working toget... | "sorry, we had to downsize the discount to cover close friends and family only"
NTA. |
I got in trouble at school this fall, I'm a junior in high school.
(Edit to add what I got in trouble for since a couple people asked... I smoked weed with a guy in the woods after school once and got caught. I also made out with him a couple times and my parents found out about that too)
As punishment my parents to... | NTA and I find it hilarious how spectacularly that punishment backfired. |
(not from my husband)
My husband and I are on our honeymoon. His parents gifted us a week in an all inclusive hotel at no cost to us as a wedding gift, and we were really grateful. On arriving we found out that they'd also booked a room at this hotel for themselves for the whole week and want to do group things. Outsi... | NTA. Why are you sitting here writing this? Go! Catch your train! Be free! |
Throwaway.
My brother, “Paul,” and I are not close at all. We have very different worldviews and have incompatible personalities. I can tolerate him, but I would never consider him a friend. He’s been married to “Lisa,” for one or two years now and they have a beautiful daughter together.
My girlfriend, “Amy,” and I ... | > wrong to shame a father on his child’s birthday
"Father". lol ok.
Your brother could not be bothered to help his wife prepare for his child's party. One time thing or not, that is not acceptable. He then handed his baby over to the first available woman to deal with a diaper and soiled clothing.
*During his child... |
Throwaway bc flatmates have reddit.
So I [20m] live in a flat with 3 other people; childhood best friend [23f], a guy from my uni course [20m] and his cousin [26f]. For the most part we get along really well and rarely have disagreements. However this has been a real point of contention lately.
About six months ago... | NTA. If your roommates dont want your partner over, then your roommates shouldn't be allowed to have their partners over. Are your roommates in heterosexual relationships? Because if so, I smell some major homophobia. |
eta: I made cupcakes using some tips you guys gave me and omg it was so much better (not as dry as they were before), thank you. <3
I saw a lot of messages and comments wanting an update so here it is. I'm sorry if I didn't get to your message, there were so many of them so I thought i'd make a post instead. I got a l... | I’m so happy for you, for taking steps to remain you, in all your glory. What a wonderful update. |
About three years ago my dad was injured in a really bad hit and run car accident. He broke just about every bone in his body, and left him paralysed from the waist down. Our relationship has always been really good, but I hate seeing him in pain and admittedly try to avoid seeing him because it just makes me uncomfort... | YTA, show this post to your fiance and let him run away from you. |
My husband and I have a 7 year old daughter together, Layla. A few months ago, Layla got a "boyfriend", Lucas. They are both 7, so it's obviously not a real relationship. They just hold hands sometimes and they drew each other hearts for valentines day.
This week, Layla was apparently holding hands with another boy - ... | She's 7. It's ridiculous to call her a "cheater".
At the same time, you can sit her down and explain why Lucas is upset and doesn't want to see her. That's more than enough of a lesson.
NTA. |
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Hey yall, so a while back I made a post about how my twin sister started an onlyfans and I was considering kicking her out of our apartment (This is the ... | This is some Phoebe and Ursula Bouffay energy. |
Me and Diomara (12F) have had a rough summer. She's been more defiant than usual. I've been dating her Mom Mara (30F) for 2 years now. 9 moths ago, they moved in with me, Maple (33M). Both Dio and Mara have an on again/off again relationship with Dio's Dad (Dynasis). He's pretty much never paid child support, come... | ESH
This situation is so sad.
You're making this about you. It isn't about you.
This little girl is 12, and her home life is fucked. Of course she's acting out. Puberty is probably beginning to hit her like a ton of bricks, which isn't going to make her the most clear-headed person. This is when she needs the adul... |
I’m Sam, my roommates name is Lauren, and her boyfriends name is Mark.
Lauren and Mark have been dating for maybe four months. Mark always hits on me. Like always. As soon as Lauren walks away, Mark is laying it on thick with compliments, and asking when our lease is up.
I wear a lot of body-con and sometimes low c... | >”I always dress like a slut Lauren...” will probably forever be my favorite comeback. Not something you expect to read everyday. 10/10 NTA just for making me laugh. |
I need an unbiased opinion on this because I don't know if i was the asshole.
Throwaway because I am active in other communities and I don't want this to mix.
So I was supposed to get married 2 moths ago to my ex partner of 5 years. Sadly we broke it off because he cheated on me on his bachelor party with a striper.
... | NTA. I think it's pretty insensitive for your sister to expect to use your wedding dress. She needs to consider how painful it would probably be for you to sit at her wedding and watch her walk down the aisle in the dress you were supposed to wear for your wedding, which then turned into a terrible memory. You do wh... |
Just recently my husband (31) was promoted to assistant manager of the warehouse. We both work on the ups of 50 hours a week. I am shift manager at a behavioral disorders facility. Both jobs are very hands on and strenuous.
Since his promotion he has developed an entirely different attitude. Extremely entitled and da... | NTA someone needs to knock your husband off his high horse. You two need to have a serious talk that at home you're equals and he's not the boss. Hell, if he's treating employees like this, things won't go well at work either. Husband and I work an equal amount of hours so we split the chores and take turns cooking. So... |
I feel like I need to say this for this post not to be removed, this is not about the date, about relationships or something I want a judgement on me walking out of there.
Cast: Me (25M), Joe(26M), Jane(24F)
To give you a little background to this situation, I met Jane through Joe's girlfriend at her birthday party l... | NTA
But your friend obviously is. Setting someone up with someone who rejected that person is cruel. Not the fact that you turned around. I would honestly done the same..... |
My kids attend a year round school and started back up for the new term 2 weeks ago. My eldest (16F) ended up getting her phone confiscated for using it during class to watch TikTok. We had discussed this before she even got the phone, then had some issues last year. As a last resort, I told her if that happened again,... | NTA. The school's policy is stupid. Your daughter was in the wrong, but many high school students need their cell phones for communication re: younger siblings, jobs, and medical appointments. Some kids stay home alone in houses with no landlines or drive, making having a phone a safety issue. While the school is withi... |
So I recently got together with a guy from my hobby, he asked me out first and I had some doubts that we'd work together as a couple because of the age difference, he's 35 and I'm 22.
So, in my apartment, since it's an old house that was originally a single family house, there isn't much soundproofing. And the floors... | NTA
Women his age don't put up with that behavior. |
My husband Jared and I have been married for 3 years. He's currently out of work (used to work at a high paying job but got kicked out the company over a fight with a co worker) and I'm the one paying for rent and utilities.
We dedicate some time to see his family weekly. They don't know he's unemployed because he t... | So he:
- got fired for an argument with a coworker and kept it a secret
- insulted your body in front of his family, and then tried to spin it as a "piece of advice" given out of "support and encouragement"
- yelled at you and asked why "you coudn't have held your effing tongue?!!"
NTA.
EDIT: Thanks for the awards! ... |
For several years I was a stripper. I have no shame about what I did, and only quit when I got a better job offer. In the time I worked as a stripper, I intentionally lived as cheaply as possible (shitty little studio flat, living off ramen, wearing old clothes) because my coworkers all told me that they were able to b... |
>"I can't talk to you when you're in this state".
>saying I'm overreacting/irrational and I need to think of this realistically rather than emotionally.
NTA. This is classic gaslighting behavior. He also wants to coown with you at only 18 months into the relationship? Helllll no |
I had a dog when my wife and I got married. I loved her, she was my buddy. When my wife got pregnant, she became increasingly paranoid that the dog would be a danger to the baby. She brought up rehoming, and I refused. She was an "aggressive breed", but she was trained. One day, she called me crying at work that the do... | NTA
Get a dog after your divorce dude. |
I (f26) have 3 older siblings. This is about my oldest sister “Abby” (f37). Abby has a son (5) and I have a daughter (1). Abby dealt with years of fertility issues and had probably 10+ miscarriages. Then she had her son and of course, he was Abby’s miracle rainbow baby, we were so happy for her. But then it leads to Ab... | So, I have dealt with multiple miscarriages and do understand the pain. Still NTA |
EDIT - UPDATE ON MY PAGE -
Here's the situation. My husband [36] and I [30] have 3 kids [2, 4, 7] . I'm a sahm (full time) and I take care of the kids while my husband works (full time).
My sister's wedding was last week. We live hours away which is an issue for my husband. When we first got the invite he told me ... | Financial abuse? Yup
Isolating you from loved ones? Yup
Controlling behavior? Yup
NTA and please leave the AH (he should be required to give you child support and alimony).
You are not neglectful, your kids were taken care of. |
My bf and I go to the climbing gym regularly. He is really into it and I just started and climbing a few times a week. He’s stupidly competitive about it and quietly insults beginners who are not as good which makes me feel self conscious because I’m a beginner.
Last night we were at the climbing gym again and he was... | NTA
He was being petty, jealous, and a bit sexist calling her out. None of his business, and she told him off. |
Many of you were asking for an update so I thought I’d share.
Here’s the original post btw.
[AITA for wanting to bring the partner of my brother to his funeral?](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hejlns/aita_for_wanting_to_bring_the_partner_of_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
M w... | You are a good person and I'm so glad that your brother had you and that M has you to turn to now. I hope time brings peace for all of you. |
I'm m23 and few months ago I was at a nice bar in Toronto with my boys and I saw this really hot girl. Decided to shoot my shot and we spoke and danced for a bit and I offered to buy her a drink and she gladly accompanied me to the bar, when I got there I was like can I have a beer and whatever she wants. She promptly ... | I was all ready to say you were TA till reading the part where you offered her a drink and she ordered FOUR! WHAT THE HELL.
NTA, she tried some bull move that you rebuffed. She knew she was taking the mick when she patted you. I'm impressed with your nerve to straight up reject that and walk away.
Side note hilarious... |
My (25F) girlfriend, Molly (26F) for the last... 6 months started with a joke that I've already made clear that I don't like. It consists of her saying "No" quickly to anything I ask.
I know it sounds silly, but I ask her to get a glass of water for me, she says no and after 1 minute, I'm almost getting up, she says ... | NTA why would you sign up for this permanently? |
I lost my son to congenital heart disease and he did not survive the open heart surgery at the age of 1 year and 6 months. He was the greatest blessing I had in my life. Everyone kept telling me things will get easier with time.
I know that no matter how much time goes by I'll still be missing my baby and everything ... | NTA, i work in nursing in ICU and I see people like your MIL *often*.
You were done so dirty, and NO ONE, ABSOLUTELY NO ONE will ever understand what you and your husband went through and the kind of horrific choices you had to make. People like to think modern medicine can cure anything and it's just not true. Treatm... |
So my situation is a little difficult so I thought I would confide in the good professional people of reddit. Couple days ago me and my brother we’re hanging out late night doing regular guy things drinking, watching sports, etc. We haven’t seen each other in maybe 5-6 years so naturally we started talking about life a... | Upvoted for real conflict.
YTA if you tell her now. I am usually on the side of "the cheated partner absolutely deserves to know". But here it seems to be a thing in the past, your brother has genuinely regretted it and improved his marriage. So it's better if you don't stir the pot now. |
This happened on Halloween and the day following.
My neighbor, 38F (super vegan) has 2 kids. I (26F) also have 2 kids.
My apartment complex didn’t do traditional tick or treating on Halloween.
Residents were advised to set out prepackaged individual candy bags on their patios/front door areas if they wanted to parti... | NTA gelatin is like the first thing you figure out isn't vegan anyways and I say this as someone who did try veganism. It's takes 0 effort to google that and also 0 effort to not be a dick to kids. |
I (M37) have a daughter (now 13) "Olivia" from my former relationship. Currently, I'm married to my wife who has adaughter (16) "Britney"
So, Britney is the opposite of Olivia. for example, Britney s a social kid, Olivia is introvert. the list is long but they're just the complete oposite.
Olivia's 13th birthday was... | NTA
It’s Olivia’s birthday, not Britney’s birthday. The cake should be the flavor of what the birthday kid wants. This is a special day for Olivia, therefore there doesn’t really need to be “fairness” between your daughters. I don’t like chocolate, but when it’s my sister’s birthday, we get chocolate because it’s what... |
My mother-in-law calls every night to ask what we're having for dinner. Then she brags about what she's cooking to make me look bad, especially if we're getting takeout. I used to care but not anymore. But my husband would ask me to make dinner only for him to go eat the dinner his mom makes at her home. which's 10 mi... | NTA. Why in world is he telling you to go heat dinner? Did a t rex attack him and eat his arms on the way back from his mom's? Did he try to catch a piano falling from the sky so it didn't land on a child playing and all his fingers are broke? Did he anger a forest fairy and she cursed him and now he has two sets of le... |
It has been a little under 2 months and I have received quite a few requests to make an update over the past 9 or so weeks, looking at you SnooChipmunks3950 , at first I was going to make one a week or 3 ago but I decided against it and instead chose to wait till I had some proper updates, but well, here goes.
Previo... | Whoa she's definitely a wacko dude. Definitely dodged a massive bullet. Keep all the screenshots and if required file a restraining order if it escalates. |
I (48M) and my wife (47F) both have very well paying jobs. I am a Pediatric Doctor and she's an Attorney, which have allowed us and our kids (20F), (17M) and (15M) to have a more than comfortable lifestyle.
My wife has a tendency to say things like 'Money doesn't matter' and that 'material things don't matter' and sh... | NTA. People who have always had money seem to be delusional about it. Money absolutely does matter when you’re poor. |
My (42M) niece (17F) recently confided in me that she is a lesbian. I supported her, let her know I'd be there, etc. Usual ally stuff.
However, she told me she was going to come out to the whole world this week. I let her know she should absolutely wait for her grandparents (my parents) to pass. My father is incre... | Oh God, I'm torn. This is honestly an excellent case study for an ethics class. My gut instinct is to say that you should never encourage someone to stay in the closet longer than they want to, but yeesh, that's a life-changing amount of money.
NAH, besides your parents for being raging homophobes. |
This is my first post and im on mobile so apologies if I get it wrong.
I (22 male) just finished college and went back to my hometown while I figure out what I want to do next. I was planning to share an apartment with my old friends, but my parents wanted me to move in to help them out.
Covid has hid them hard and a... | NTA. Grounding a 22 year old man and taking away his computer is totally ridiculous, even if you didn't pay rent (which you do!). You tried to help them out, they treated it like they were doing \*you\* a favor. Go go go and don't look back. |
I (37f) have two kids with my husband (41m); a 14-year-old daughter and a 10 year-old son.
Our daughter has always been a little socially awkward to the point that we've had her tested since we suspected her of being on the spectrum. Turns out she isn't on the spectrum; she's just a natural introvert.
However, this y... | YTA. Did it ever occur to you that the reason this girl and your daughter “clicked” as friends is that they’re *both* socially awkward?
She’s a 14 year old kid. Even with the best social skills, they often put their foot in their mouths. Let it go. Don’t ruin your daughter’s friendship because your ego was hurt by on... |
Not a clickbait title, that's actually what happened. I got called an asshole for it, so now I have come here out of curiosity for you fine people to help settle the disagreement.
I met a girl online and we clicked, and have gone on a couple dates. Two nights ago was our third date and I was treating her to dinner at ... | Yikes, YTA.
The non-asshole way to do what you did would be to say "Excuse me, I'd love to give some positive feedback to your manager if they are available," not dangle the idea that you were going to make a complaint in front of that poor minimum wage worker's face.
You were showboating. It was more of a stunt than... |
This isn’t necessarily my proudest moment but I am tired of being the outcast.
My (32f) husband “Pete” (34m) comes from a family where the women are all bakers. I am a baker myself and I used to sell out of my house under my states cottage laws but stopped because I like it just being a hobby.
His SIL “Kay” (39) is t... | NTA, but Pete's family is full of AHs. |
My brother died before his firstborn child was born, because of this I've had an above average involvement in my nephews life. One thing I’ve always done is build him toys and furniture. It was a way of providing without the awkwardness of handing over cash. Also, between my late brothers cash and life insurance via wo... | NTA. First, my condolences on the loss of your brother. Your SIL is beyond entitled! She lives in a house for by your late brother and benefits from a trust and then has the gall to criticize your gifts to your nephew, OUTRAGEOUS! |
I know from the title, it definitely sounds like I would be the asshole but please hear me out. I have an older cousin whose son, my nephew, is in his early 20s. My nephew is autistic and holds a part time job, but is significantly delayed in many developmental areas (I don’t know the specifics) and will never be indep... | NAH. You *were* understanding the first time around, but this time he got physically aggressive and presented himself as a possible danger to your wife and child. It’s a perfectly reasonable request and you handled it very maturely. |
I’m currently in medical school and live across the country from my brother/family. I was surprised when his fiancé asked me to be a bridesmaid because I barely know her, but she wants to have all siblings in the wedding. I made it clear that their wedding was during my final exam week, and while I was able to get an a... | Group Text:
“I would LOVE to order my dress. I would have LOVED to order my dress a long time ago, in fact. I don’t like being pushed to the wire anymore than anyone else, and I can see why this delay would particularly stress out the bride. BUT, I have repeatedly, REPEATEDLY asked for the color of the dress and have ... |
I come from a conservative christian family. All my family members were/are involved in the church and have church based jobs. When they met my wife they loved her and embraced her as their own. We dated for 2yrs and discovered she was pregnant after we got engaged. Invitations were already given at the time and we d... | NTA
Let your family know that like a good Christian, you are willing to forgive, BUT…
They have sinned against you and God.
Jesus’s highest teaching after loving God is to love everyone as He loves us. Including *sinners*, non-believers, and enemies. *Their* actions toward you were not about love, but *ego* and pri... |
I am one of five children, and we all have grown up/late teen children. They're everything from lawyers to accountants to welders to hairdressers, and everyone is happy.
My sister Paula's daughter Amy is the most successful of the bunch. She's 22 and has recently graduated from one of the best universities in the wor... | N-TA for telling this to your sister. But I might say E-SH because it was done publicly, even if she is an adult.
INFO: Does Amy get special treatment because she demands it? Or because her mom demands it?
Edit: added hyphens as commenter below suggested. Thanks! First time commenter here, appreciate the pointer. |
On my gf's birthday I gave her a necklace that I spent $400 on. I wasn't expecting her to spend the same as me, but I was expecting something.
Here's how it went down. After dinner she asked me if I was ready for my gift, I said yes and she started giving me oral. She doesn't like giving oral and I'm ok with it. S... | NTA. Sounds like she couldnt be bothered to think about you and went with the laziest possible option.
Bad head is worse than no head. |
I'm not gonna be shy about this. My sister sucks. She is a horrible self slcentered person who thinks she is the main character.
She is not only a horrible person, she is a step monster.
She married this guy... Who is a freaking push over... 3 years ago. He has two children. 10 and 6. My sister constantly complains ab... | NTA - those kids are clearly being abused by your sister, and clearly their wellbeing is being neglected by their father. I'm normally not a fan of people injecting themselves into someone else's relationship, but you're looking out for these children and there's nothing at all wrong with that. |
My SIL has never liked me. She had always tried to one up me. We were both pregnant at the same time. Her due date was 6 days after mine but her girl came early so she gave birth roughly 2 weeks before me. We had already announced our name because MIL wanted to make a blanket with baby's name in it.
SIL said their nam... | You know what I love most about this?
Every year, watching the middle school drama happen, I tell my students over and over again, "if you don't play, you can't lose."
This? This might now be my go-to example of that precise philosophy. You didn't win, you didn't lose, you just weren't playing the same game because t... |
I (27F) am not a professional chef, but I have taken a bunch of cooking classes and love making elaborate meals for friends and family. About two years ago my brother, Greg (25M) married Cheryl (34F). Cheryl has a daughter from a previous relationship (Becca, 9F) who has several health conditions, including celiac and ... | For some reason, I read that and felt sad for you. I’m honestly in disbelief you thought you did something wrong. You were incredibly thoughtful in how you handled ensuring she had a meal suitable for her. You have ADHD and are well aware that mistakes are so easily made so to ensure you didn’t seriously put this child... |
Last night my (35M) Fiance (38F) left in the evening to give a friend's son a ride back to his home. She implied she'd be home before 9. She left at around 7:45.
10:15 rolled around and she still wasn't home. I texted and she apologized to me, saying that her friend's son was actually in the next town over (maybe 30 m... | NTA...but you know she's lying, right? |
[Original post here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/grza29/aita_for_possibly_making_my_parents_homeless/)
Hey folks! It's been like three weeks and many, many things have happened. I graduated high school (go me!), I turned 18, and I moved out! I finally feel like I'm adulting, kind of. I moved in wit... | so you can't come downstairs to compliment me, but you can come downstairs to tell me to go upstairs to get my phone and then come back downstairs so you can see my reaction to you complimenting me? I see how it is.
honestly I'm just happy you're here. I told you before, me and Michael and Daniel have been waiting so ... |
Hi all. My family is Indian-American, but I like to think I am pretty progressive. I (40F) have a son (16M) and a daughter (15F). My daughter has started to become a tomboy over the last 2 years, despises feminine clothing and style. While it has definitely been an adjustment in my perception, I have always tried to be... | NTA. You even gave her the choice of what type of formal wear to wear. It's extremely disrespectful to show up to a wedding in a tshirt |
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