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It is the middle of the night, and my phone won't stop ringing because of my family.
To try and keep this short, my cousin "Jake" got outed about 4 or five days before his 18th birthday in the summer. His parents, my aunt and uncle, made arrangements for him to be sent to one of those awful camps that claim they could... | NTA. But weird that you think you’d be an asshole for protecting him from those fucked up conversion camps. Keep protecting him. Stick to it man. Make sure he knows he has a safe place to stay with you. |
Update [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/b7vz7m/update_aita_for_very_rarelyalmost_never_wanting/)
I've been with my wonderful girlfriend for a few years now, and we usually get along great, aside from this current issue. You can skip to the TL;DR if the exposition is too long.
She's a self-pro... | Good lord, completely YTA. Read the last line dude.
You said you have your own private chef. Do you think your wife wants to cook *every single night* for you? Fuck no. She makes sacrifices of her time every time she cooks for you, which sounds like a lot, so why can't you sacrifice some of your time to take her out ... |
I'll be quick, my f26 fiance m32 is blind. We don't disagree a lot except, he always gets bothered whenever I eat different food from what he's eating when we go out. Like, if we're having dinner out and I order else, he'd instantly get upset and accuse me of treating him as less than when I just have different taste ... | NTA
List of red flags:
Him insisting you eat the same food as him
Him feeling he has the right to check to make sure
Him putting his hands on your food
Him continuing to touch your food after saying he would stop
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There is something going on there, and you shouldn't ignore it.
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\*\*EDIT\*\* Th... |
My [OG Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/tzyzd1/aita_for_kicking_my_brother_and_his_family_out/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
So many of you have asked nonstop for an update, sorry it took me a while to log back on but lots of stuff have been going on.
Yes I found the ring!... | The fact that the kid refused to tell you where it was and his parents refused to make him means you are absolutely in the right and would be crazy to let them back in.
Little brat is going to end up in prison if his parents don't wake up. |
So I'm the owner of a wonderful rescued macaw. She is a wonderful bird but has a lot of issues due to an abusive former home. I've had her for 3 years and since then haven't taken any vacations or trips away as it would be too disruptive for her. She distrusts everyone and is very reliant on her routine. I love her dee... | Question. Are you literally never going to leave the bird ever again? If so that is not healthy |
My husband invited his new coworkers over for dinner. When they arrived he introduced me by gesturing at me and saying "this is mrs Smith (didn't even say my name)...the housewife!".
I looked at him for a second then I started laughing hysterically. I then told said "no honey I work full time and YES I still act lik... | NTA.
hint for hubby: don't want to be embarassed in front of your coworker? then don't lie. |
Heya.
So this happened a few days ago, and I'm still pretty worried about whether I'm an asshole or not.
I take the bus to and from work and it's quite a long commute. Background:
I have epilepsy. I have a seizure alert dog, and he comes with me on the bus. Because hes trained to do all kinds of support tasks, h... | NTA and his excuse is bs- his daughter has epilepsy he should know that a flash can be a trigger AND it's 2019 he can google a picture to show his daughter.
If she is young enough that it "is important to show her working dogs" (making it sound like the child isn't very old) then she is young enough that "I couldn't g... |
My husband (33) and I (31) used to have a 2 income home but in 2020 we've lost our home and one of our incomes (his). We moved into a smaller apartment, had to sell many things and give up most of our "costly" habits.
My husband has an expensive habit of going to the spa for a weekly massage session. we live in an urb... | NTA
He stole from you to buy a luxury.
Immediately cut him off from all access to your money and credit. Don't give him any money at all. And seriously reconsider living with him since he steals from you.
Also, is there any chance that this "spa" treatment actually involves him paying for sex? Because there's s... |
So I posted about a month ago about my sister requesting I wear a long sleeve ankle length black dress to her lakeside wedding in summer, while being 9 months pregnant and I’ve gotten many requests to update
Well, I ended up having my baby like 3 days after making the post so I was in the hospital when the wedding h... | Thanks for the update anyway! Love reading updates.
Link to original: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ckogu2/aita_for_not_adhering_to_the_wedding_dress_code/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share |
I went on a dinner double date with my girlfriend, my girlfriend’s friend Amy, and Amy’s boyfriend. We’re all in our early 20s. My girlfriend hangs out with Amy quite often. I see her from time to time, but I’ve never cared for her cheeky attitude. The tipping point was tonight.
Dinner was going alright until Amy’s ... | As someone who used to be super thin I can confirm that people make these kind of comments all the time. It's considered rude to comment on someone's body when they're fat, but perfectly normal when they are skinny - this is exactly what you have experienced here, the double standard. I can also confirm that it is defi... |
Throwaway. I (32F) have a 14 year old daughter Jess. Her father and my husband died in an accident when she was young, so it’s been just us two for a long time. As a result we are very close and she’s a lot more open to me then most kids are with their parents. Around a week ago she asked me if I could take her to the ... | NTA. A hit dog hollers. She was only upset by what you said because deep down she knows it’s the truth, and doesn’t want to admit it to herself or anyone else. |
[Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/pq2p6e/aita_for_telling_my_daughter_she_cannot_marry_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
Some asked that I update when I could. A lot has happened the past few weeks so I thought I would share.
Not long after I posted, Amy came to me to apolo... | Well, this is horrifying but also a huge relief. Amy found out NOW, she sought out counsel from someone she trusted, and Dan showed his ass and made her decision really easy.
Good for you for keeping the lines of communication open in your family so that Amy knew she could come to you for support and advice! |
This might sound bad but I don't know if I was TA here.
I (F30) have been dating my boyfriend Rhett (M31) for 4 months, we live in different town and he's not from here, (he's american living here) he usually visits on the weekends, This time I decided to visit his town and eat out at a diner.
Rhett was already ... | > I asked if it was acceptable to do this in america and he said "yes because people there usually don't give a shit"
American here... No, it's not, and yes we would. That's incredibly rude, and beyond inappropriate. You are NTA and your BF is a rude, entitled AH who would be thrown out of most restaurants in the US ... |
My daughter(15F) dyed her hair dark reddish brown for her birthday.I didn’t let her dye her hair in middle school but said she could in high school. The school has a dress code for hair that just specified “natural hair colors only”. Which I took to mean browns, blondes, reds, black etc basically natural tones. Her nat... | Live in the U.S.? Go talk to the ACLU about your daughter's rights being infringed upon because she is Asian. NTA. |
My uncle Jesse, aunt Lola and cousin Poppy(F, 6) visited us today. It had been Poppy's birthday last week and we hadn't been able to visit them to wish her, so we gave her the gifts we had bought for her.
My parents bought her a doll house and some clothes and I bought her a remote controlled car and some toy binoc... | NTA for giving a basic education about gender socialization and human biology. Your uncle sounds like a bigot. From experience, though, I will say that you might not be able to change your uncle’s mind, so perhaps it’s better to focus on being a positive influence in Lola’s life. |
My (20) girlfriend (21) has a very severe phobia of cold things. We live in England, so this is an issue for like, half of the year. She refuses to touch anything that might be cold, including the floor with her feet in winter, door handles, walls, cold water, absolutely anything. She has to run a full bath of very hot... | NTA. If this phobia is affecting her ability to work, maintain social relationships, and even go to the toilet, she needs help. You sound very very patient here. |
Hi. So, i (f21) am currently staying with my family on my dad's side. My step sister is 19. We never got along. I grew up in Korea and have a Korean name. I won't say it here but it's the same as a Blackpink member, not too hard to pronounce specially after 7 years of being my step sister but she always gets it wrong t... | NTA. You didn't make her seem uneducated. You revealed that she's being racist by refusing to pronounce your name correctly. |
This seems like a really weird meta post, but I just wanted to warn people that Captain Sparklez, a YouTuber with a high child/teenager viewer base, spent almost a whole Trails episode talking about this sub. It's bound to get us some new subscribers and bring up that young sub number.
It seems like it's good for peop... | Also don't forget that the nature of reddit causes people to pile on to the very first few comments. a lot of posters just want to be on the "winning" side, and a 50/50 situation could look very one-sided if the top few replies lean one way. |
This happened a couple weeks ago but I'm still getting shit about it.
A friend of mine Daya (fake name) asked me if I wanted to come with her on some errands and see her new car. I said yes because I had some things to get done and my car was being checked over. (We're in the same bubble and stayed masked the whole ti... | NTA. You could get into financial, legal trouble (insurance fraud) for lying. You did the right thing. She's mad because she brought all this on herself. |
This is an update to my other [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ixsv9j/aita_for_not_agreeing_to_a_paternity_test_unless/).
Thanks to everyone who commented on my original post. Unfortunately, this is not a great update. If you don’t want to read it all, the bottom line is we’re heading toward divo... | I'm sorry it turned out like this.
I have a feeling he has some deeper issue and he was never going to accept any answer other than "he's not the father" because he's got it in his head now. I hope he gets the help he needs, and I hope you find peace in your future. |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/uuhzi2/aita_for_not_waking_my_partner_up_and_causing_him/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
After posting this I received messages expressing concern and advice so I thought I'd update about how things turned out.
The morning after this incident my partner got out... | He sounds like a keeper :) messed up, realised it, made concrete steps to make it better ❤ |
My wife wants to quit her job. She wants to be a SAHM to spend more time on with 4 year old daughter and stop leaving her at daycare centres.
In order for her to do that, I would have to sign for a higher paying job schedule, about 2 hours more per day and occasionally half day on Saturdays. I told her that I if she ... | NTA
Being a stay at home parent means taking care of the house while the other parent takes care of the income. It's not discrimination against women, since it would be the same logic if you were a woman working full time and she was a stay at home husband. You would spend like what? 8 hours a day, maybe 10, bringing ... |
This is my throwaway account.
My (37F) babysitter (16F) has been babysitting for me for about 2 months. She’s a very sweet and quiet girl and is good with the kids (4F and 8M), we’ve only had small problems here and there but nothing major at all. When she first started babysitting for me I had asked her if there wer... | You're an ungodly asshole. Those seltzers are newish in the alcohol world and I wouldn't expect someone who hates alcohol to know that. How mature of her to let you know. How immature of you to do what you did. YTA. |
I (f17) live with my parents. I have an older sister (29) that they had when they were super young. Like I think my mom was 19 and my dad was 18.
They did not do a great job with her and she has a lot of problems. She is chronically unemployed and she is a thief.
She has two kids that are okay. They live with us ... | NTA - "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes"
>I just asked them if a lock for my door would have been cheaper.
LEGEND |
I (F21) am currently living with my uncle and his family while I attend university. In my family it's tradition for everyone to invite out their family for their birthday. The person celebrating their birthday pays.
My birthday was yesterday and luckily restaurants here have already opened up. About a week in advance ... | NTA! Also, isn't a lot of Moroccan food plant based and healthy?? |
My M27 fiancèe F25 has an obvious permanent burnscar from an accident that caused her mother (her only parent) to pass away from injury. My fiancèe had a long recovery it's been 7 years. The scar is on her collarbone. it goes down her chest but isn't showing. Unless she's wearing scoop/square tops. She often wears hood... | NTA. Uninvite anyone who insults your fiancee, imo |
I(43F) have been with my partner(50M) for 6 years now. We have been living together for 5 of them. We are not married and we do not plan to marry in the future.
I have a son(19M) that is currently a highschool senior. My partner has a daughter(21F) who is going to college.
The background you need to understand the is... | NTA.
WTF.
My first European vacation was when I was 31 years old and cost a total of roughly $2500 including airfare.
Jesus Christ. |
UPDATE: wow this got a lot of comments!!!
So I have done a LOT of snooping. And it is way more soap opera than I thought.
1) apparently since child 1 didn't look like him at all, she made up the paternity test scheme to trick him into marrying her. But, THEY ACTUALLY DID PATERNITY TEST THAT KID and the real test said... | NTA, personally I’d rather know and be told than live in the dark. |
Prvious post [here](https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ihnydy/aita_for_not_letting_my_child_speak_her_native/)
So I posted about 2 weeks ago looking for your judgment. It took a while, but I agree with it. Some develops have happened since then so I thought I would update:-
1) I admitted to my wife I wa... | I remember this post. Good for you for starting to learn Welsh. Its a fascinating language and i hope you enjoy learning it. |
I (30F) met this guy (28M) in January and he became my BF in February. Comes March, the world goes down the drain and we decided to move in together for the time of the pandemic. Everything is great.
In the morning, we have this routine where he browses Reddit and gives me the highlights. A few weeks ago, he shows me... | LOL.. this is hilarious and congrats on your personal best. You don't need a physically stronger man, but you definitely need an emotionally stronger man, because that's where your BF is weak. You shouldn't have apologized for being better at something you work at than he is. That's your only error here. He wanted ... |
Pleased read the full story.
My husband's brother (BIL 37) and his wife (SIL 35) struggled with infertility for years after trying so much for long they decided to stop. But started...sort of living the experience of having a child by doing the things that parents do like getting a nursery (they removed it now) buy... | NTA - they do need therapy
And it may be his child as well, but he doesn’t get to volunteer his place in the delivery room to them
You and your alone decide who gets in and who doesn’t and at this point your husband doesn’t deserve to be there either |
Sorry for the wordy title, my (18M) dad left my mom when I was 6 (not because of my step-mom), four years ago he met and married my SM Aida, she had 3 kids from a previous marriage that my dad loved to parent instead of me, after they got together I saw him, at best, 7-8 times every year because they moved 5 hour away.... | NTA. You’re completely justified. And it takes a huge set of balls to ask an 18 year old for money to buy a car for their father. He should be getting you a car. |
I(28F) am a mother of a wonderful 8 years old son. This whole thing happened last April, but I am still getting complaints. So here I am asking strangers for a judgement on the internet.
So last year was my kid's first year in "big kids' school" like he calls it, since his first grade coincided with the pandemic. We a... | NTA. You invited FIVE children. I am honestly boggled at any parents that think it’s okay to confront you about the fact their child was not invited. That is absurd honestly. |
Yes, I know the title sounds awful, but please do hear me out before making a judgement. I will accept whatever judgement I’m given.
I (30m) purchased a 3 bedroom condo in Toronto, Canada 5 years ago when I was in my second year of medical residency. Soon after the purchase, I rented one of the rooms to my roommate (f... | NTA
It's your home. You are allowed to live with who you want to.
She's an adult. She has six months to figure out a new living arrangement.
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Since some people were wondering why I said NTA instead of another judgment:
OP has been nothing but generous and compassionate over this situation. They have even edit... |
Hello. My girlfriend, myself, my parents, and my brother and his wife all went on vacation in another country a week ago. My brother and I were the ones who did most of the planning of the itinerary although we did ask everyone else for input. For background, I make around $150,000k as an IT consultant, my girlfriend i... | YTA.
You make three times what she does. You knew she had to take a second job to be able to go. You planned the holiday/the activities. She even said while you were there that she could only afford to eat two meals a day.
Don’t plan for your budget when you know she makes so much less than you.
I think it’s safe... |
My sister in law and I have an agreement. She watches my kids 3 days a week, and I watch hers 3 days a week. This agreement has stood since March 2020 without issues. Any changes have been discussed weeks in advance.
A couple weeks ago, we had an argument. The next day, I brought my kids to her house, dropped them off... | NTA. The only delusional person here is SIL. Who calls the police on an essential worker out of spite? Let her struggle to find childcare or lose her job. You could have easily lost yours. |
[Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/i3rv2v/wibta_for_sending_neighbor_a_cease_and_desist/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
It's a very happy update!
I drafted the letter with some legal assistance. Prior to sending it, I wanted to ensure I had proper cameras in the event he decided... | Isn't that an amazing feeling? We had a horrible neighbor when we moved into a place years ago. He threatened to shoot our dog, not because it was barking, but because we were playing darts with friends with our garage open and we were playing music. Not even loudly. At 7pm. He called the cops on us. They shrugged and ... |
This happened last year but since it still gets brought up during arguments every now and then and I just discovered this Subreddit I decided to check what you guys think.
Me and my wife have two children (15F & 11M). My wife is a stay at home mom since the birth of our second child. I (46M) work full time and earn a ... | YTA: that’s a gift for the household and not her. It shows you primarily regard her as a housekeeper and not a partner. What interests does she have that are not about serving you and the family? |
I'm 99% sure I'm a megga asshole but I came here to just be sure.
my sister 23f is a megga pro life advocate, here is the stupid part, I held her hand a year ago when she got her abortion. she never mentions it and I can guarantee that I'm the only one who knew.
I always feel like she is being super hypocritical be... | ESH but this is a good reminder that statistically women who are anti-choice are just as likely to have had an abortion than women who are pro-choice. Weirdly. |
I’ve (m32) been dating Siobhan (f32) for 6 months now. She’s always been very vague about what she does for a living (sati things like writing and working from home writing) but recently, one of her friends mentioned something and I finally dragged it out of her. She’s an author, she write and self published romance an... | YTA
>I have a right to know what she writes
Based on what? You WANT to know what she writes - don't confuse that with having any sort of RIGHT to the information. |
When my son (14) was eight, we got a dog. He's half Great Dane and half some dog my friend's dog met during an unauthorized absence. My son loves this dog and does all the care for him (except vet stuff) and is a very responsible dog owner. This dog is pretty much his best friend.
My wife is 12 weeks pregnant, and eve... | I would micro chip the dog, if you haven’t already. Make sure info is up to date, and see if she will seek counseling/compromise. Your kid needs his dog. NTA
Edit: jeez thanks for the awards y’all |
My partner (34f) and I (28m) have been together for 5 years. She has a daughter (8) from a previous relationship. Right off the bat, it was made known I had fertility issues and likely wouldn’t ever be able to father a child. I moved slow in the relationship, although I had fallen in love with her fast. When things got... | NTA
That prank was just beyond cruel! And then to announce it with everyone and not tell you privately is insensitive and immature.
Your reaction was to be expected. I see both these as red flags for your relationship.
Congrats on the baby though, although I’m sure you’ll have doubts until paternity test happens |
I'm (28M) my brothers care taker (21M mental age 7-8), our parents decided at 18 to tell us to screw off, so when my brother (let's call him Bill) turned 18 I grabbed him and enrolled him to get his GED since he didn't finish highschool, and take care of him. His chores are too clean his room, help with laundry and se... | NTA. If she was so freaked out, she could find a different aisle. She's raising her child to consider people with disabilities as scary or abnormal, and that's just shitty parenting. Unless your brother was saying or doing something inappropriate, she had no right to ask him to leave. |
I've \[F21\] recently encountered a new sexual partner. We used a condom, but after words I felt a little uneasy as to this was the first time I have ever hooked up with someone I just met. My previous sexual partners have all been someone I have developed deep connections with in some kind of way. While condoms greatl... | NTA. 150% report her to HR. Do it right now. This is rude, regressive, none of her business and could actually deter women from getting care. You'll be doing yourself and every other woman who walks through those doors a kindness. |
A story as old as time. My (f27) father (50) cheated on my mother for 5 years with a younger woman(currently 32) and he left my mother when mistress got pregnant. It tore our family apart.
I resent my father because my mother actually loved him and she is still dealing with this. Even 1 year after he left her.
I staye... | NTA. You kissed another guy once when you were still a kid. Your dad hid the fact that he's been screwing another woman, did it for 5 years, and knocked her up.
The situations aren't even comparable. Your dad is trying to manipulate you by saying "you cheated too". The situations are not the same. He's the asshole. |
My husband (35) does not have a car. He sold his old one to help pay for his brother's wedding. I did not agree on this but he had this car before we got together so it's a shared property. besides that I have my own car so that did not affect me til my husband started complaining about having to commute to work and h... | NTA
But I get the feeling that there is a lot more going on here. Your husband sold his car to help pay for his brother's wedding? Even though he needed it to commute? Is your husband prone to making bad decisions?
ANd he paid for his brother's wedding, even though you, his wife were not invited to it? I'm sorry, bu... |
I f36 have always been into jewelry. I used to own of variety of jewelry sets but due to unfortunate circumstances most of them had to go so I could afford rent after I lost my job. My husband never got lucky to land a job since 2013. Thankfully now I have a stable job that gets us by from month to month.
I also k... | NTA The financial abuser here is your husband. Get the set back and kick him out anyway. |
My wife wants to be an influencer on TikTok and YouTube. She has been creating mommy content and content about her day to day life. When she told me this is something she wanted to do I didn’t have a problem with I only said that I don’t want our children (4m, 2f) in ANY of her content. I didn’t monitor her channel bec... | NTA - people who make profits from their kid's misery are the AHs here, and it seems like your wife is more interested in being a TikTok celebrity than being a caring wife and mother.
No one should ever be shilling out their kids for likes and imaginary internet points. |
Ok guys I’m extremely tried and it’s been a long ass day so please excuse any poor grammar or spelling mistakes
To begin my brother Ben (39m fake name ) has been in a relationship with Abby(39 fake name) 18 years. They’ve been engaged 8 years they’ve nearly gotten married 3 years ago but months before the wedding Be... | NTA. You did her a favor by having her hear it. You did something no one else ever did for her. The truth to move on. Everyone saying Y T A OR E S H have their own issues with being told the whole truth.
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Let’s look at this in a few years, Imagine the heartbreak she would have felt if she had a kid with h... |
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I (33f) have had fertility issues for the past couple of years with my husband (35m). We went through with consultations and while we had very promising results for treatment the cost did give us pause. It wasn't that we couldn't afford it we just weren't at the point yet where we were willing to... | NTA , I’ll say it loudly every time: if you insist on pushing people past the polite answer you may get an answer you don’t like. You have only yourself to blame if the truth hurts you then. |
My f/21 sister Jess, f/30, is married and has a 5 yo stepson. her husband works full time and she is a sahm.
Every monday, she'd call my mom at 9am to get her to go over to her house and watch her stepkid for few hours, I live at home with my parents and so I've noticed this routine for weeks now.
Last week mom we... | NTA. So is your sister having an affair, or is she a drug addict? |
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Throwaway. Long time lurker, first time posting.
I am the oldest daughter of 4 children. I’m currently 25, 2nd oldest is 23, 3rd is 20, and youngest is 18.
When I was 8 years old, my mom had an affair with a family friend. I, being the oldest has remembered most of it and my younger siblings only remember growing u... | OPs Mom: I want your honest opinion
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When my wife \[32F\] and I \[32M\] got married eighht years ago, she made about 15K more per year than I did. Our agreement at that time was that we'd keep separate checking accounts plus a joint for household expenses, with the understanding that money left over after contributions to household expenses, savings, reti... | ESH. Is this tit-for-tat counting nickels really the way you want to approach your marriage? Get some couples therapy and talk this out. Talk about how you felt when she didn’t share with you and maybe she can share why it was important to her then but she feels differently now. Sounds like you both need to grow up. |
I [M47] been with my wife for 2 years. She has a 21 year old son. I have a 14 year old daughter from my previous marriage. My late wife passed away in 2014. She left a few things for our daughter. Including a gold jewelry set. Her mom was devastated she didn't get to gift the set to our daughter on her wedding day. I k... | NTA and don't back down. A 20 something step kid is stealing your daughter's heirloom.
The family are all flying monkeys.
Edit Dude! An award, I appreciate it |
So right now both of my kids (16 year old son and 9 year old daughter) and my ex are extremely mad at me because I won't give up my appointed time with them. My son wont even talk to me and my daughter is crying all the time.
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A little backstory. Me and my ex divorced shortly after my daughter was born. I bl... | YTA. Your ex gave you months of notice for this trip. Have you ever been to Disney? That's the kind of trip that takes a lot of planning, especially if your ex is trying to coordinate it with a large extended family. If this is the only weekend that his whole family can go, then do you really think this is the kind o... |
I (F23) have been dating my boyfriend “Jake” (M23) since our freshmen year of college. In our last year of undergrad, we decided to rent an apartment together. We split everything 50/50, including utilities, groceries, and rent. We continued living together in the same town as our college after graduation, but recently... | **NTA**
Rent isn’t $400, it’s $2,100. Point out that if he wants to split rent then do so by having your dad charge the full amount which means his portion is $1,050. Pay your dad that & dad can give it back to you or put it in escrow to save for a future house.
The $400 is a major discount for him & dad lets you ha... |
I met a guy on a dating app, we hit it off and we arranged for our first date. Things were going well, we had sat down and had started some small chat. Our waitress comes over asking us what we want to order.
I say what I want and gesture to him so he can order. He orders and then pulls what I think is about 15 dollar... | NTA - so he made her nervous, which likely made her service worse
Then, then he has the absolute gal to say
“Can’t always be nice to these people, it’s not a respectable job”
What???
He is using the service she provides and yet insulting her and all the people who share the same job
Jesus above |
My stepsister impersonated me and cancelled my wedding venue reservation. She's 18 and a jealous cow.
I got the reservation for a steal because I booked early and covid made things uncertain.
Well now demand for wedding venues has skyrocketed. The venue is now asking nearly triple the original cost for the same date... | NTA. If he won't let you do the thing that would get you your original rate, then he can pay the difference.
Institute some kind of password system with all your vendors though. Because she WILL try this again. |
I bought a house in a community without an HOA I wanted my home to be MY home, and that includes making it look the way that I want. I also chose a neighborhood that already has fun, colorful houses instead of just plain earth tones.
I finally got to the point where I could repaint my house. I picked a soft peachy col... | NTA. The house’s color scheme sounds gorgeous - something we’d have here in our Inman Park neighborhood. My guess is your neighbor is more upset about the kitchy items in your front yard than the color of your house. Maybe you need some pink flamingoes. 🥰 |
My wife and I are both 32.
Since we got married and moved in together five months ago, my wife has simply not made nearly enough food for me. This is not a kind of situation where I'm constantly agitated at her for incompetence or anything like that. I would be more than happy to microwave a burrito. I would be more t... | It’s a little concerning that she goes full passive-aggressive when you say something to her. It sounds like she has a REALLY hard time when her carefully crafted mental image of herself is even slightly challenged.
NTA |
Original: [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/krodkm/wibta_for_reporting_a_coworker_to_hr_for_trying/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). Further detail [here](https://www.reddit.com/user/0587throwaway/comments/ktb7u0/peg_comments/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf... | Go see an employment attorney. They are creating a hostile workplace.
And put out your resume. This place is toxic.
Edit: Thanks for all of the awards! |
My husband "Mickey" loves his mom's cooking. He always praises her for the food she makes and even mentioned it in his groom speech at the wedding!
I consider myself a good cook. In fact, I'm going to just say that I'm even better than his mom. but the problem is he doesn't even want to try my cooking or give me a ch... | Info - why would you marry someone who refuses to eat your food and makes his mother make him dinner everyday? |
I F26 been with my fiancè for 3 years. We both work and we both share rent and other expenses. But My fiancè is currently looking for a new job. He lost his old job 3 months ago. My family lives 30min away and although it's been difficult this year I decided to get my brother (who has a chronic condition and struggled... | Nta
You may want to consider trading in the fiancé though...... |
In January of 2019, my husband was diagnosed with a brain tumour. It was in a completely inoperable part of the brain, and was told me had six months to live. He stuck it out and died in October, three months longer than he was expected to. He was always positive, and decided a few weeks after his diagnosis that he wou... | YTA and she's right, you are selfish, and a thief. That wasn't yours to keep.
My dad died when I was 17. Do you have any idea how hard it is to marry a man my dad never got to meet? To walk down the aisle without him? My wedding day was supposed to be one of my best memories and instead it was just so hard. A letter w... |
So this didn't happen recently, but it was brought up last night and my boyfriend seemed to get really mad about it, so I figured I would bring it to the group to see if I'm the asshole or not.
My boyfriend has terrible time management skills and is late for everything. I absolutely hate it because I am the kind of p... | NTA. He's being extremely rude and inconsiderate of your time, and everyone else's.
In the future I would recommend leaving without him. Tell him: "It starts at 1pm, I'm leaving the house at 12:45pm (or whenever) and I would love it if you were ready and came with me. But if you're not ready I am going on my own and... |
You can read my original [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/lursho/aita_for_not_wanting_to_give_any_money_to_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Hasn’t been that long but thought I should update since many of you wanted to know.
Following what a few here suggested I tried talki... | I’m sorry to hear about your disappointment, but you did everything you could to help (to a reasonable extent) by providing resources for her to look into. |
I go hunting every year. I'm not a trophy hunter by any means I do it for meat and almost purely for economic reasons at this point. Taking a few of deer off my property once a year keeps my freezer stocked and the grocery bill way down which is important because finances can be tight sometimes. As a little relevant ba... | NTA, I’m a vegetarian myself and I’d argue what he’s done is worse because the deer have now died for no reason.
Plus it’s not okay for him to intentionally ruin the family’s groceries and waste money
Buying a new freezer might be overkill but I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all to clean it
Edit: I stand corrected... |
[Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f49nth/aita_for_yelling_at_exdhs_gf_in_front_of_kids/) is the original post.
It's been quite a while. I wasn't planning on it, but many of you have personally messaged me asking for an update. Thank you for all the kindness and concern for my family.
Early March ... | Holy shit that woman sounds like a psycho!
You're being a great mother, keep up what you're doing and make sure that woman isn't within spitting distance of your kids.
Edit: A family bath? What in the actual fuck is that about?! |
Backstory, I’m 26 and a fairly successful artist. My sister, “Lucy” (24) and her child “Ethan” (9) were at my house during a late New Years celebration. I had a sign posted on my art studio saying “DO NOT ENTER” and specifically made it clear to all guests that nobody was to enter that room.
I’d also like to note that... | NTA.
A) kids weren’t welcome at your event. She CHOSE to bring her child.
B) you CLEARLY marked off the room
C) she wasn’t supervising her child, which is how he was able to gain entrance to a blocked off room, and destroy your WORK
You absolutely deserve to be compensated for your work.
ETA (because it got bur... |
To start off I want to say that my husband (36M) has an old friend (33M) that he's known since highschool. they're inseperable and spend the entire week together. like they're really really close.
My husband and I struggled with fertility issues for years. we recently started new method (IVF) in hopes to get at least... | NTA. That was money you saved/inherited. That means you ARE the one paying for it and he DID steal from you. |
As stated in a prior post I was kicked out at 15 for being gay. From 15 to 35 I had no contact with my family. Over the years they have somehow managed to work their way back into my life. Only in a small capacity.
My sister who is younger than me called earlier and asked what me and my husband were doing for Thanks... | NTA. I feel like it would interest her to know the REAL saying: "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". bonds formed by choice run deeper than those by relation.
(edit to add this is apparently not actually the true saying, my apologies for misinformation! thank you to the commenters who let... |
I'm a lesbian, and I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now.
My family, including my sister, is all fine with me being gay and supportive of my relationship. However, her fiancé comes from a very regressive and religious family, and while he himself is fine, his extended family is very traditional and ant... | NTA. You deserve to be treated with equal respect as your other siblings. Your sister is the AH for siding with her homophobic in laws and going through with marrying someone who would demand that he sister be treated with such disrespect. Exactly how long does your sister expect you to exclude your partner or any futu... |
My husband (58 M) and I (56 F) recently met my son’s (24 M) girlfriend for the first time. He’s been crazy about her. Apparently they’ve been dating for a year before he decided to have her meet us officially.
What he’s told us about her all seems great: she just got her degree, was enjoying her job, family-oriented,... | NTA.
I'm pretty liberal, and open minded, but FFS I'd never lead with that meeting my BF's parents for the first time. Or say that, EVER.
Like, seriously? You opened the door and that's what flies out of her mouth?
Was she nervous? Did she seem embarrassed at all? Did she try to apologize? Is there anything that cou... |
My M46 daughter (16) is a highschool junior. I noticed recently that she's been behaving in a bad manner constantly commenting on other people's looks, belongings, calling them stuff that isn't cool and just being insensitive. It's like she lost a filter or something because usually she's polite but my wife suspected... | NTA, but you should give your housekeeper a week off with pay, and make your daughter take her place, unpaid. |
Apologies for the late update. This gained far more attention than I had anticipated and feel I owe everyone a sort of resolution to the problem. The original post here [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g6l1l5/aita\_if\_i\_tell\_my\_daughter\_grandma\_is\_ashamed\_of/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAssh... | I’m heartbroken for your daughter. It’s clear she loved grandma. But you’ve handled this absolutely right. That racist doesn’t deserve such a loving granddaughter.
Best of luck to you going forward |
I F, 34 have been with my fiance M, 37 for 3 years. Getting married before the end of this year and recently moved in the house that I inherited from my mom. The house is in my name and it took a lot of talking and convincing from him to have his name on the title as well. Now honestly part of me doesn't think this is ... | NTA
Red flags all over.
1. He pressured you into putting him on the deed? That's weird unless he has selfish motives. My husband literally suggested he *not* be on the title to my car to maybe help with insurance costs. Because we're gonna be married anyway, why does it matter? 🤷♀️
2. He is very immature. You don'... |
I was hosting a big garden party at the weekend. I invited my entire friend group plus their partners, one of my friend takes her dog everywhere. I told her no pets were allowed. Although it was a garden party we were in and out of my home and I have 4 cats. My cats do not like dogs and neither do I.
Anyway my friend ... | NTA - You asked her nicely not to bring the dog but yet she did. You asked her to leave but yet, she didn't. She wasn't even *WATCHING* her dog. If the dog dies, it's on her. |
My neighbours are often super loud, blasting music at 2am, yelling, blaring the TV. I’ve gone round various times politely asking if they could be quieter. We have concrete walls and carpet, so for sound to get through they really have to be loud, which they are. They also periodically have loud sex, with the woman scr... | NTA
Everytime they are loud, record it to have prove.
But also go to their door and press the bell. Press it like ding ...... ding ...... ding ...... ding ..... and so on until they are annoyed as fuck an open the door. And just say "hey I heard loud noises is everyrhing ok?" Play the dumb. |
So My fianceè (F, 24) & I (M, 27) got engaged in may and are currently planning for our wedeing in Aug. It's worth mentioning that I'm the sole earner because my fianceé is still in University, I've saved up decent amount of money to afford the wedding.
Thing is her parents get involved in everything. From picking t... | NTA but this is a very good peek into your future. Your MIL is going to do this all the time about everything and it doesn’t sound like your fiancée has the spine to stand up to her. You need to have a conversation with her about your partnership and her mother. If you’re happy to deal with this for the rest of your li... |
When my sister, Annie, was 18, and I was 21, she got pregnant and had a daughter, Sophie. She developed what we believe was post partum depression, but was never diagnosed as she refused therapy. When Annie's school started up again our mother took on all childcare of Sophie. As mum took on more childcare, Annie seemed... | NTA NTA NTA NTA and PLEASE stand your ground. You have provided those two little girls with a stable, loving family for the last 5 years. You are genuinely the only true mom and dad they’ve ever experienced and it is so unfair of your sister and parents to expect you to relinquish custody of your daughters whom you hav... |
My daughter (14) had anxiety problems ever since she was little but it was not severe. 3 months ago, my daughter changed drastically. She stopped eating, talking to us or her friends and her marks dropped. We were really concerned and her teachers strongly suggested we take her to therapy which we did and she was diagn... | "She's returned to normal." I don't think you understand how depression works.
It sounds like all you care about are her grades, and not that she gets to a better place mentally. YTA |
Sorry if some of sentences feel awkward, I am not a native speaker.
I work from home and my job is relaxed and doesn't require me to be glued to the screen, my girlfriend works in a stressful customer service job and most of her days are terrible. In the 2 years we've been living together, I do practically all the chor... | Nta- and I'm about to pull up with some petty shit as a woman, but you should hit her with the "since I do all the housework, I've decided you make a shit woman and you need to step up to the man or woman plate. Your choice of which, but right now you're neither."
That gendered thinking is a deal breaker. Do you ident... |
My (27F) husband (32M) and I have been dating for 6 years and married for 4, we have a 3 year old baby boy and since we don't plan on having more children, I told my husband that I wanted to get my boobs redone because I wanted them more perky and I had surgery last year.
My MIL has always been sniffy because my husb... | NTA. They're acting like you put a dildo in the cutlery drawer and waited for them to discover it while cooking dinner.
It's not a trap, it's just another drawer in your bedroom.
Edit: all the funny comments about cutlery and sex toys are killing me! |
2 weeks ago my son [Ethan, 27]and his wife [Jess, 30] bought a small one story house in the town we live in. After settling down they invited us for a small party for the occasion.
We sat for dinner and talked about the house a bit. Me, my husband and Jess continued conversing after Ethan excused himself to take an ... | >My husband went on and on about how paranoid and controlling I was to basically be "demanding" a copy of the key to the new house
He's right. YTA
Edit: So this blew up quickly. Thanks for the upvotes and awards. |
When my (27F) fiancé and I first announced my pregnancy to my family, my sister (34F) was a little jealous, I'm assuming it's because she was trying for a baby with her ex partner but they broke up because he was a cheat.
I gave birth to my daughter seven months ago. Her name is Kaia. When I returned to work after 12... | NTA at all. You need to protect your daughter.
Your sister needs some serious help. What she is doing is not healthy at all. You could try telling her that she can see your daughter only after she gets into therapy. |
This goes back 3 years when my mom and her girlfriend got engaged. My mom put in so much time and energy into organizing this wedding and was so excited. She sent out invites to all our family members 4 months in advance, & almost everyone confirmed they would be going.
Barely a week before the wedding, she received ... | NTA. I'd have done the same thing. Exclude my mother and you'll be forever excluded by me. The fact they RSVPed yes then pulled out makes it even worse. |
I am a 31 yo man and was at a large store yesterday with my 5mo son when he did what babies do. I went over to the restrooms and saw that there wasn't a family/companion restroom, just a men's and women's. I went into the men's room and saw there was a cubicle and a few urinals, but no changing table. The sink didn't h... | NTA
That store is 100% to blame for this. I wouldn't be shocked if they've received complaints about this in the past and haven't done anything about it. Your mom was way out of line. You needed to change your kid. What'd she expect you to do, change him on the floor??? Drive home with him in a dirty diaper??? Your... |
Me 26F and my fiancé 28M been engaged for 4 months, we're planning on having our wedding on October 18th, My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions for choosing the right wedding dress, and said that she knew better and tried to get me to approve of wedding dresses that she chose and when she... | NTA.
Girl do you hear yourself?? Your fiance took your wedding dress without permission and allowed multiple people to try it on!
Do you understand how disrespectful and innapropriate that is? You not only have a bad mother in law problem, you have a HUGE fiance problem. Needless to say, id be doing more than postp... |
So, my life's turned into a bloody soap opera recently and I could use some outside opinions here.
I (24F) am the product of my mom having an affair. Fortunately my dad decided to forgive my mom and keep me, and I had a pretty good upbringing. But I don't really look a lot like the rest of my family (I'm the only redh... | NTA, she needed to know that, that's weird and a little too close to home.
Also it's kind of messed up that your older sister was never told about this key part of her family history.
Also if your bio-father knew who she was and her relationship to you that's really weird and creepy. |
I (30M) live in a nice little neighborhood, everyone knows everybody, we all have our own space and many have flower gardens. I have a green house in my backyard that is visible from the street and behind a four foot picket fence.
We got a new neighbor, haven't had the chance to meet them until today. I have a came... | NTA - she stole from you. She should have talked with you beforehand. The fact that she has the lie “I know the owner” ready to go makes me think she’s used to stealing. |
I (31M) have been with my wife (30F) for 10 years now and she always has had this habit of making me look bad with our finances. Whenever anything regarding spending money comes up she will always say how broke we are and she doesn't have the money to do this or buy that. The thing is we are doing well financially. We ... | NTA. She was dismissive of your feelings and was constantly lying to the people around her. It’s a classic case of play stupid games, win stupid prizes. |
My sister Angel claims to use “hands-off parenting” with my niece Sofia and nephew Parker. In actuality, Angel is entirely permissive and refuses to discipline them. She expects other adults to step in when Sofia and Parker’s behavior is getting out of hand.
For this reason, I asked Angel to get a babysitter for Sofia... | NTA
Angel attempted to get social sympathy and you smacked it right down. Good for you! |
My family just got back from a weeklong cruise, and there is still some tension about this. My wife and I took our 20yo son, 16yo daughter, 13yo son and 7yo son. Our oldest spent most of his time on vacation doing his own thing, having breakfast and dinner with the family but being seldom seen otherwise. My wife and I ... | Green flag, green flag! What a thoughtful way to acknowledge your daughter. You're right, your 20 year old son got a free vacation as did your 13 year old and 7 year old. Your daughter graciously did a service for the family.
NTA Your wife does not seem to want to recognize that your 16 year old daughter is not ... |
My girlfriend just bought a house and is so excited. She invited a ton of people over for a housewarming. She put so much work into everything. The house looked amazing, and the food was delicious.
Right after dinner, while my girlfriend was getting dessert, her brother proposed to his girlfriend. I was mad because he... | NTA. It is just plain rude to start hijacking events for your proposal. Oh my sister bought a new house? Perfect situation to make sure it revolves all around my proposal. Your BIL sounds like a cheapskate who thought he could get away with it. Is he normally so entitled? |
My daughter turns 11 in ~6 weeks. She has been BEGGING for a Nintendo Switch. Due to poor grades & overall bad attitude, we decided not to get a Switch. Money isn’t the issue... it’s her behavior; she acts very entitled & she’s lying left & right. I just don’t feel now is the right time for a Switch.
The theft:
On E... | NTA - I personally think this could be a good learning curve plus think of how happy it would make the cousin! I actually think it’s a really good idea. |
A few months ago, I posted [this post]( https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/achoyx/aita_for_very_rarelyalmost_never_wanting_to_go_to/) asking if I was an asshole for not wanting to take my girlfriend out to restaurants. It blew up. It ended up on Twitter. People shared it to Facebook.
The general consensus... | Sadly, YTA still. Im sorry for your situation man, really. But its hard for me to be too sympathetic. From your post, the impression im getting is your gf was still cooking every day, just now she wasnt cooking your favourite meals everytime, but casserole instead.
It boggles my mind how you went through that whole f... |
My sister and her husband were sent to prison at the start of this year, and sadly won't be released for a few years. That left me to look after their 15 year old daughter Amy. I was perfectly happy to do this, but as most of their wealth was seized for being "ill gotten", it's meant that I've been having to care for h... | NTA, obviously.
But how are you supporting this child’s transition? Is she in therapy yet? |
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Throwaway and usual mobile formatting apologies.
I 32(f) and a Gemologist, I spend my days in the lab testing and identifying stones. From the nature of my work I also have a large and valuable collection of jewellery but also gem specimens that I keep in a safe I specifically bought and had in... | Definitely nta. I wouldn't trust anybody with the code. Money does weird things to people. Even the ones you trust completely. |
I've "lost" my job and have been ostracized by my family, so I figured I'd come to the court of public opinion.
One of my best friends of over ten years lost her battle with the big C word on Christmas. Fuck cancer, y'all. I'm not handling it well, tbh. I feel like a really crazy person. I literally haven't stopped cr... | NTA, it’s your hair!
also get a lawyer. Your parents should have been saving money in an account for you! They should have lived off their portion of income and saved quite a bit of yours.
When you leave, you shouldn’t be leaving with nothing.
Plus hair grows back. Get a cute cut, and new management.
This is why a c... |
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