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My ex and I divorced three years ago. She was cheating, but at this point I don’t care about the relationship anymore. The pending lawsuit has nothing to do with her or him, but rather their actions.
My ex and I have a son 13m that we split time with 50/50. He’s a great kid that interests have changed a lot tbh as I ... | NTA. Looking at it from just a monetary value, I don’t believe your friends would be saying the same if he had stolen $XX amount of money. He shouldn’t have entered your house without permission and he shouldn’t have stolen the sets. He broke the law, he faces the consequences of his actions. Its about as simple as tha... |
My brother died. He was an incredible, funny guy, I miss him like I lost one of my limbs. Maybe it’s stupid, but I want people to remember the person he was. My dad and aunts have been involved in planning his funeral and they have been planning a very Catholic funeral service. He wasn’t Catholic and wouldn’t like the ... | I was in a very similar situation with my brother a few years ago, and I would unfortunately have to say YWBTA if you did this. It's great that you want to keep your brother's memory alive in the way that you talked about, but the funeral isn't just for or even about him it's for all your family and friends, and doing... |
This has been going on for a few months now, ever since school let out. There are two girls in the neighborhood who are about 8-10 and the oldest about 10-13... I have a video camera outside our apartment and have caught them red-handed. The first package they stole contained puppy pee pads and garbage bags, second pac... | NTA, this is great. I hope they smell it and hate life in that moment but you might open your door to a burning box of shit someday. |
Throw away because some of my friends know my reddit account and I want to keep this as private as possible. Sorry if the answer seems obvious, but I've had so much backlash Im starting to question myself.
I am f25, my brother is m22. He lives with me since he moved out of our parents house, reasons are irrelevant. I ... | > 1) it was an accident. 2) they weren't a serious couple so he has no reason to help her. 3) she should have been more careful.
The people who said this are bigger assholes than you brother honestly.
NTA, if that is how he wants to live his life i can see why you wouldn't want to associate with him. |
28 years ago my wife and I combined our savings (most of which came from inheritance after my father's passing) and bought our "castle" in southern Europe. It was actually a derelict farmhouse with some land but it has a small turret so our family has always referred to it as The Castle. My wife and I decided we'd rath... | NTA - Do you know what your sister bought with her part of the inheritance? If so, good news, it's yours now. Be sure to let her know. |
I (F30) have been with my husband Ted (M34) for 4 years and we got married 2 years ago. His family and I haven't really gotten along too well. They're rich and are all about image. I only see them on occasions but that's when the drama is at it's highest rate. Last Christmas Ted & I traveled to spend Xmas with the... | NTA - change the locks while he is at his parents and hire a divorce lawyer is what I would do if my wife did what your husband did |
I have a son (4 months old), I'm breastfeeding, he's forever spitting up on me, and we're trying to give as much skin to skin contact as possible. Because of this, I've pretty much stopped wearing clothes at home. I'll wear them when I go out, obviously, but in the privacy of mine and my boyfriend's flat I just go bare... | NTA. First off, they shouldn't have let themselves in. Second, it's your damn house. You're free to do what you want. |
My 19-year old daughter Vanessa called me this morning and told that her girlfriend proposed to her, and wants her to move to her apartment. Now for context, my daughter met this woman online, and they’ve never don’t ever SEE each other besides a few quick weekend visits. Moreover, they’ve only dated for a little more ... | NTA. You said you'd give it to her if she went to go study. She's not going to study. You have been consistent in your behavior (in regards to giving money to your kids). |
So I practice BJJ for a couple of years, mostly attendings classes that require a Gi. This means that our bodies are pretty much covered (this is important).
A new dude has joined our gym recently - I saw him in a class but did not roll with him. Last week I attended a no Gi class and the coach pairs me up with new gu... | NTA. What kind of psychopath thinks swastikas and SS symbols are *politics*? Is your coach from 1930? |
[AITA For Leaving a Vacation I Planned for my GF After Her Friends Came Along? : AmItheAsshole (reddit.com)](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10w8kxl/aita_for_leaving_a_vacation_i_planned_for_my_gf/) From the bottom of my heart, thank you to everyone who sent me kind words and encouraging private message... | Aside from the obvious issues of her behavior, the thing that throws me for the biggest loop is that she didn't \*immediately\* follow you home.
If my partner had become upset enough that they \*left our anniversary vacation early\*, I would've been one step behind them to get home and unfuck whatever mess had been ... |
[First post:](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mf7ca8/aita_for_deactivating_my_nieces_social_media_when/) Short version is I let my 13 year old niece, who I adopted, have social media. She went against my conditions for having it, so I asked her to take an internet safety course, which she faked attendin... | >Mum essentially said that she can't believe I'd treat her like this and I shouldn't expect to hear from her for a while.
Honestly, sounds like a bonus.
Kudos to you on how you are handling it. Taking over responsibility for a teenager must be extra challenging. I applaud your desire to seek outside advice and being ... |
My wife and I divorced when my daughter was 6 years old, and my wife had custody of my daughter for the most part since I was too busy working 50 hours a week, she quickly moved on to be with another man 7 years younger than her. I knew from many stories I've heard that my daughter would probably end up being closer to... | YTA - It's HER day and you're already ruining shit. |
I had an accident when I was a baby and I lost my left eye. I don't have an eye socket I could put a fake eye in, it's just normal skin and some scars on a big pach of my face (they reconstructed my face with a later surgery this way). The right side and the bottom half of my face is completely normal.
I have big sid... | NTA 1000X, you followed his orders. Not your fault you only have one eye. Plus, if you told him "Im missing an eye." we all know his Teacher Instinct would be to have you prove it anyway lmao. |
My husband (m33)s best friend (m37) Will is infertile. He got divorced 2 times because of it and because he lied and hid his infertility. And his life hasn't been the same the day he was told he can't have kids. He has always had a soft spot for children and when he found out that my husband and I are expecting, he w... | NTA
Is your husband also building his friend an art room in your house?
ETA: thanks for the awards!
And for those who have no idea what I'm referring to here is a link to the BORU since the original was deleted. Enjoy!
https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/wmmphs/oop_wonders_if_theyre_the_ah_for_... |
My fiance and I are getting married in June next year. We're both vegans, and although we don't judge those who are not vegan, we wanted to serve vegan food at our wedding. We found a vegan caterer.
When we sent out invitations, we added a note saying that the food will be vegan. We also asked that everyone who has an... | NTA. Like you said, it is one meal and it’s FREE.
And most importantly, it is YOUR wedding. |
I was recently flying from NYC to LAX for a work trip and I had the displeasure of sitting next to a family and a little boy (9). I got on the plane in the midst of issues with my diabetes and I needed to eat within two hours so I began snacking. I immediately began receiving dirty looks from the parents and the mother... | NTA.
Even if you didn't have diabetes. People dont get to come into public space and dictate anyone else's acceptable behaviour. |
The title probably makes it sound worse than it was, but I’m still conflicted.
My (f21) boyfriend (m24) of almost a year, invited me to dinner with his family. (Mom, dad and his 16yr old brother.) Never met them prior to that. The only thing I knew about them is that they’re conservative and christians but lovely peop... | NTA. He could have warned you and given you the opportunity to skip dinner because you don't dine in monasteries.
Also you are not a three year old to be sent to the kitchen to eat alone. |
I(27M) and my wife(24F) have been married for 3 years. She is 6 months pregnant.
I have been looking for a job with a better pay since my wife said that she wanted to be a SAHM after the birth.
Today, I had this interview for a position at a very good IT company which would be paying triple my current salary.
The... | NTA, the 5th time? Why is she sabotaging you? Doesn’t she want you to make money? |
This is a throwaway because my friends have Reddit and I don't want them to find this.
I have a housemate (Jilian 26f) who is severely allergic to peanuts. There are 5 of us who rent a house together and we all agreed to put a label in our food containers to help keep Jilian safe and avoid contamination. I have a mini... | NTA
Literally none of this would have happened if they had not invaded your space, without your permission, taken food that did not belong to them, and eaten said food.
Perhaps this can be a lesson to them in the future, to not enter a space they don't have permission to enter, and to not eat food that they do not h... |
I got invited to my fiance's family christmas celebratory dinner. It's my first christmas with them. I have always been picky about what I eat. Can't help it and it has to do with psychological factors, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes. Before accepting their invite I let FMIL know that I wouldn't be eati... | YTA from one picky eater to another. I went to a Christmas dinner with my mom's family. There was nothing I wanted, so I just socialized and ate when I got home. Why should she have to make a whole new dish just for you? That is pretty entitled behavior. |
Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/erfvwt/aita_for_cutting_up_and_altering_my_wedding_dress/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
I posted approximately 5 months ago about my sister being mad at me for not giving her, what was supposed to be, my wedding dress.
So after being assured that I d... | I remember the original post it’s always good to read a follow up where people work it out in the end. Thanks for updating us! |
Throwaway.
So my husband comes from a 'traditional' family. Mum's a SAHM, father was sole provider. I come from the opposite - my mother pretty much forbade from ever being financially dependent on a man and drilled that into me early on.
My husband worked hard to unlearn the values he saw replicated at home. He (o... | Sucks the kids were there for it but he deserved worse. NTA
Should have ordered only enough food for you and the kids. |
Long story short: I (27f) started seeing 44yo "Dave" 3 years ago. I have 2 sons, 9 and 6. He has 1 daughter "Ann", 17. I booked a road trip for me and my sons roughly 3 months ago. A road trip consisting of roughly 26 hours worth of driving with stops in between. This is the first time I've ever been financially able t... | NTA
Time to stop seeing Dave.
The should have thought about their behaviour before hijacking your trip and being rude to both you and your boys.
I hope the rest of the trip was enjoyable with your boys. |
I (15F) am deaf in both ears after getting meningitis as a toddler. Luckily my parents really pushed intervention, so I can read lips, know sign language and have cochlear implants, so I’m basically like any other girl my age. I just can’t hear for shit.
My aunt (40) has been staying with my family-that’s me, my mom, ... | NTA and if I had a mute button for shitty people I would use it, too.
She's an adult, you are young/kids, and she should be able to deal with it. Glad to hear your dad is on your side. |
The air conditioner broke last week while I was out of town and my wife had to call an emergency technician in the middle of the night.
A company we’d used before without issues sent a guy over. He fixed the air conditioner no problem, but once he’d left I woke up to a million missed texts and calls from my wife, who... | NTA
maybe update the review to add that they apparently drove drunk to your house?
not sure how that was supposed to exonerate anything. |
I (f29) have been dating my boyfriend (m35) 'Ricky' for 5 months. He's divorced but hates this word and goes with the word "divorcee" instead since the first one makes it sound like he was "dumped" when it was him who initiated it.
Anyways, He always go on long rants about his exes and say stuff like "I hope you do... | OMG - GIRL RUN!!!! This is NOT a man you want or need in your life! Go, go, go and don't look back - like ever!! NTA by a long shot |
My sixteen year old son and I went to a wedding. When we got the invitation, we both chose to order chicken for the main course. There was an option to select a kid's meal version of each dish, but I never considered ordering one for my son because he is too old for kid's meals. I sent in the RSVP card with our meal se... | NTA, but depending on how expensive it is it might be worth paying to salvage the relationship.
>I think it's rude to feed a sixteen year old a meal meant for a six year old.
It absolutely is, and it was rude to not inform you that they had changed his choice as well. |
My (f42) husband (m44) and I have been married for 21 years. We have two adult children (m22 and m24), one is in college out of state and the other is in the navy.
When we first got married, my husband was in navy, and we spent the first 10 years of our marriage moving from place to place, wherever his new duty statio... | NTA - you gave yourself already the answer.
You supported HIS career for 21 years, you gave everything up for HIM, your social Life, your Family, even postponed your education.
And now, everything is settled, your doin finaly fine too - he accuses you of not supporting him.
He should start supporting you for a bit.... |
Hear me out please. I'm a 46 year-old father who lost a daughter (Molly) years ago to Brain Cancer. Molly's death broke me. She was my only child I'm no longer who I was before this tragedy. I married my wife when my stepdaughter (Sarah) was 15. Sarah had issues with her mom. Her mom would kick her out over small argum... | >I refused because Sarah asked me not to tell.
It begins and ends there. You are honoring Sarah's wishes. You would be a huge asshole to do otherwise. As it stands, you are the opposite of a huge asshole. You are a wonderful father. Congratulations on the birth of your granddaughter. May she be a light in your life th... |
I am 32F. I grew up with a narcissistic mom. I have never met my dad. The first hug I have received in my life was at 10 years old when Dan (my mom's BF) hugged me when I thanked him for a gift. My mom had my sister a year later. My sister was the perfect baby sister anyone could ask for. Mom and Dan split and at first... | NTA.
You did what you needed to do to protect your baby sister, and for that, you should be proud. Your mother was trying to deny her the right to an education in order to rob her. You were justified in saying whatever you needed to say to protect your sister's interests. Dan knew what he was doing when he named you ... |
I know the title sounds bad please hear me out
So I have severe epilepsy and have a service dog Onyx. Now Onyx does have time to cuddle and relax and be at rest and just be a dog. But when he is working he is WORKING at keeping me alive. He's saved my life multiple times
Now my friend has been coming over a lot recen... | NTA. You are totally in the right here. Your comment about “purposefully causing a seizure so her husband was comfortable” was spot on. Why is it so hard for him to believe you about your condition and your needed treatment? Your friend’s an AH for defending her husband and her husband is obviously a super-AH |
Throw away for obvious reasons. TLDR at the end.
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the relevant backstory: I have two daughters, one is 21 and in college, the other is 26 and because of a lot of factors finds herself pregnant, divorcing her husband and needing to live in our house for the foreseeable future and I am happily married to their ... | NTA. Her entitlement astounds me. She is a complete asshole for thinking she can remove a member of your family without consulting you. As far as I'm concerned, she did this to herself. |
Final Update: Thank you all for all the awards and comments. I’m known to be a huge pushover, and my friend knows this to be true and she can be pretty manipulative and caused me to second guess myself. She also still isn’t talking to me, which is fine by me. As for the package, our mutual friend found the box it was s... | NTA - major red flag. Don't fucking do it. |
So for background, my best friend has gotten into going to these Spartan races. He and a small group of his friends have started going to local ones but recently heard about one in another state they wanted to go to and compete in, but they didn't have anywhere to stay. So they asked me if they could borrow my truck an... | NTA. They’re spartan warriors, right? They should run home. |
My boyfriend grew up in a house that valued outdated gender norms. The women were always responsible for cooking and cleaning, so he didn't learn how to do any of that for most of his life. That is, until he moved in with me after college.
He's been good about a few things. He doesn't mind helping with dishes or hand... | INFO why you with some guy who can't manage to use a toaster? |
I have a good job, I make good money and I work hard enough to earn it. To the point that about 4 years ago after our son was born when my wife decided not to go back to work I became the only source of income.
This worked out well and everyone was happy until COVID hit. Once the pandemic started causing shut downs m... | NTA but working 14-hour days six days a week is simply not sustainable for ANY family or marriage. |
My wife and I (both mid 30s) have been happily married for nine years. We don't have any kids and don't want kids. We had the "what if" talk before getting married; she told me she would want to have an abortion if she ever got pregnant.
Yesterday my wife told me she's nine weeks pregnant. She's on the pill, but accid... | NAH
You aren’t TA for asking to stick with the plan. She's not TA for having a change of heart when faced with the reality of going through with it. |
6 years ago I met the best person in the world. She was a sweet old lady that moved in next door, named Maggie. Maggie taught me how to knit, we watch Mamas family together, i helped her give her cat her medicine, I helped water her plants when she got to frail to do it herself. She knitted me a hat for every holiday.,... | NTA
Your parents are being insensitive. They probably are just happy for you but never learned proper empathy for situations like this. They may be trying (in the worst way possible) to cheer you up.
But regardless they're going about this wrong and not letting you have your grief.
Might be worth trying to talk to... |
Context: So a couple of girls in my college friend group have a roommate called “Jan”. I am acquainted with her and we never really had any problems, we actually made quite a good beer pong duo. I’m a tall and lanky male at 6’1 and 155lbs. Jan is a white chick on the heavier-side.
Recently, we had a watch party at Ja... | NTA don't dish it if you can't take it. |
I’m a 19 year old F with six older siblings. My parents spent most of my childhood spending money they didn’t have on my siblings, so by the time I hit my teenage years, I realized I was probably going to have to fend for myself financially when I turn 18. I started babysitting and doing odd jobs around my neighborhood... | NTA. Their poor financial choices are not your fault or problem, speaking purely based on you being a separate person.
The fact that they EXPECT this from their own CHILD is downright disgusting. I’m so sorry that you’re being put through this |
My wife and I recently found out we’re having a daughter. We hadn’t really talked about names before but we both agreed that each of us will retain veto power. When we did start discussing names, both of us wanted to name her after our late mothers. Her mom’s name was Karen and my mom’s name wasn’t a meme. I told her t... | NTA, it was a normal name, now it’s a joke. Imagine “baby Karen”. People are gonna make jokes all her life. |
I'm getting married (yay!) and my brother "John" asked me to include his girlfriend "Sarah" as a bridesmaid as a way to get her involved with our family since he wants to propose soon. I wasn't happy (she's quite snobbish, almost in a comically villainous way. She once made fun of the fact that I get most of my groceri... | NTA! A TIARA and a TULLE SKIRT? All in white? Someone was clearly jealous of the attention you were getting. If the drama continues, I would reduce the size of the bridal party by one. Lord knows what kind of stunt she would pull on the wedding day.
Edit: Holy cow, y'all! I'm a baby Redditor, and the response has been... |
A couple years ago, a close friend, Ashley, started a long-distance relationship with a guy, Chris. He has been really good to her and after meeting in person a few times, they decided to move in together. I was super happy for her as she had a few bad relationships over the years and it was nice to see her in a health... | NTA. YOURE 👏 LITERALLY 👏 SAVING 👏 SOMEONE 👏 FROM 👏 BEING 👏 BABY-TRAPPED. 👏 WE 👏 NEED 👏 MORE 👏 PEOPLE 👏 LIKE 👏 YOU 👏
Edit: Thank you so much for the awards and the record-breaking 27000 upvotes! :D - 7:30 AM
Edit 2: ty for another gold and 34K upvotes - 1:53 PM |
My former husband (42) came out as a transsexual woman last year. As a male he had recently started to get into crossdressing but assured me it was just a fetish, so I was taken by surprise when he came out as he was always a very traditional, masculine guy. She (now Laura) has not started HRT yet but is living fulltim... | NTA
Wearing 'drag queen' attire to pick up your kid from school on a Tuesday afternoon is not appropriate.
Asking them to not over do it for your child's sake is not 'a piece of shit' thing to do.
You want to express yourself after years of self imposed suppression, great! However there's no need to take your kid al... |
I’m still getting shit for this from my family so it’s possible I may be a bit of the AH here.
I’m 29F, the players are my mom, step-dad, and four step-siblings (35M, 37M, 40F, 42M) and their families. I’m the black sheep in that I’m the only one not married with kids, but that’s by my preference. I love living alon... | NTA - Hands down the best Thanksgiving showstopper ever. They fucked around and found out! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Edit: spelling |
I F30 started working at a company recently. I get along with most of my coworkers but been having some issues with this guy "Morgan". Morgan from what I understand is what everyone call "the handsome" guy in the office. He dated 2 of his coworkers and hit on several others. He seemed friendly when we talked, he seeme... | NTA. Immediately go to HR with this.
He is sexually harassing you at the workplace, and the excuse that "I wouldn't have harassed you if I knew your vagina was claimed by a different man" is disgusting.
Edit: shit. My inbox. |
I have a 4 year old daughter, Emma. I am an alcoholic and I’ve been sober for 2 years. My brother was Emma’s court appointed guardian from when she was 15 months old to just before her 3rd birthday.
I had to fight for almost a year to get her back. My brother and SIL are still upset that I “took Emma from them” and h... | NTA. Your brother and SIL are sabotaging your recovery and relationship with your child. I wouldn't be surprised to see then talk negatively about you and your history as she gets older. You may need some distance to feel safer and have the mental capacity to deal with them.
EDIT: Just want to say thanks for the award... |
This might be a bit long but thanks for reading.
I’ve been a single mom to two kids since they were 6 and 4 - their dad passed away. Around that time, my son was formally diagnosed as autistic. He’s not very verbal and prone to physical outbursts when he has a meltdown. He’s been in therapies of every kind for his en... | YTA -- But you only have so much of a choice to be. You've missed every performance, game, and ceremony. You hired a trained sitter for this event but didn't trust them enough and stayed yourself. Your daughter has it hard enough not having a dad to come to any of her events, but she never had a mom there either.
It ... |
I m33 lost my 27 year old brother to cancer a couple of months ago. We were so close and had a lot in common. He was a gamer and had all types of gaming gear including a gaming chair that he wanted me to have before he died. It's devastating because we were really hoping and had plans to spend Christmas 2021 together.... | NTA. Sell the engagement ring you bought her and buy back your brothers gaming chair. Proceed based on her reaction to that. |
I (17F) have been quarantined with my dad and step mom. My mom is a doctor so she was super paranoid about my family living with her during the pandemic, but as things where I live are settling down she let us come stay with her again.
My stepmom has known me for two years and our relationship has always been weird. ... | NTA - did you dad even address this massive invasion of privacy? What does your mom think? |
My newborn's pediatrician is always so crowded in terms of size of waiting room versus number of people waiting. It requires a certain amount of etiquette re: controlling your fuck kid, because there are no toys, no play area, no real space for shenanigans.
Enter lady with four kids: A newborn, two toddlers, and a ki... | NTA. Some kids just don't get the point until you raise your voice because their parents have never enforced boundaries. |
I (F20) recently had to move back in with my dad, step-mum and 2 of my step-brothers (15 and 17).
The last time I lived here was 2-3 years ago. Back then I remember getting very pissed off when my step-mum asked me to stop using the bin in the toilet to put my waste sanitary products and use the one in my room (on th... | NTA - it’s not like her boys are 8 years old (which shouldn’t really make a difference anyway) but they should 100% know what periods are at this point? This is a very odd request and your step mom is absolutely the asshole in this situation. |
Growing up every year around the holidays my mom would make fudge. The story was this amazing fudge recipe came from her grandma who snagged it from a famous candy maker. My mom didn't get the recipe until she was an adult and we were always told that we couldn't have it until we were 30.
In my late teens my mom ask... | I say NTA - do it. Because this:
>*"It came out that I had the recipe early and my mom and her mom were both outraged.* **I was given many warnings against sharing family secrets and told they were disappointed** *at my sneaking around them*"
**What is even the point** of having a cherished family tradition, if it c... |
My mom left my dad when I was 17 (I’m 29 now) and had a new boyfriend literally straight away. We all suspected that she was cheating with this dude beforehand but there was never any proof and she even to this day refuses to admit it. She had 2 more kids with this guy.
When my mom and dad broke up I moved out to liv... | NTA.
>For the last couple years or so my mom has been on my case to reunite with her.
Your mom had no interest in a relationship with you until it would benefit her and her "new" family. If you want to set your half-siblings up with a college fund (that your mom can't touch), go for it. If not, don't, and quit fe... |
I(27M) have been apart of a small friend group, around 8 people total, basically since college.
For some background, 2 people from the group, Susan and Greg, are just absolute leeches. Going out for lunch? Expect them to order the most expensive on the menu then feed you some sob story about their finances and then du... | NTA
Is it not possible to ask the waiter for separate checks—i.e., everyone gets their own check for what they ordered—ahead of time? While some people think this is a *little* tacky, it's not anywhere near as tacky as ordering a meal that costs five times as much as anyone else's, and expecting them to cover it. |
I (f50s) have 2 sons, Dan (m22) and Sam (m27). Dan started dating 'Fran' in their junior year. Towards the end of senior year, Dan came to me and said he wanted to marry Fran. At the time, Dan had multiple college options which he was going to decline to stay in our town and marry Fran. I obviously didn't support this,... | NTA. And your son should seriously rethink this relationship. Fran doesn't sound very nice. |
I’m a 41M single dad with a 13 year old daughter Lacey. My wife died in childbirth and it’s just been me and Lacey all her life. My sister has been a big help in raising Lacey, and we do keep in contact with her maternal grandparents.
The issue started a couple of months ago when Lacey started her period. I knew this... | NTA.
Periods aren't gross. Getting your period blood all over the place is. She needs to learn basic period hygiene now or she will deeply regret it later in life. You're a great father, OP. But maybe consider having her see a therapist or someone more qualified to deal with why she is reacting this way. |
I (34F) have a (5M) son who attends preschool. A few hours after I picked him up from school today, I got a phone call from his teacher. She made absolutely no effort to sound kind when she, in an extremely rude and annoyed tone, told me to stop packing my son such “disgusting and inappropriate” lunches. I felt absolut... | Report her to the principal. Her comments regarding your son’s food are “disgusting” and “have an unpleasant tone” aka *cough cough* racist tone.
*She’s* too inappropriate to be teaching at the school any longer.
NTA.
ETA: Thanks for the upvotes and awards! |
I (32F) have been married to my husband (35M) for 3 years. We dated for 2 years before that. I want to start this off by saying that he really is a good guy in other areas.
My husband’s parents, his 2 brothers (ages 38 and 40ish), and his brothers’ girlfriends/fiancées have a tradition of going out to dinner once a m... | Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshol... |
Okay, I know how this sounds. Please hear me out at least.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 years, since I was 15. His mother has HATED me since the first day she met me. She hated me due to my ethnicity, (Kosovan Albanian) she hated me due to my career, I work as a model and she decided that makes me an empty heade... | NTA. This is getting dangerous. Maybe a restraining order? |
For context_ I'm a sahm with 2 kids (3yrs old & 6months old) My husband is an ambulance driver, he works odd hours and comes home unexpectedly, he expects dinner or lunch ready whenever he gets home, whether I'm sleeping or busy with the kids. It's exhausting but do it because I know how hard he works.
After struggl... | OP
NTA
STOP 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
This is not about food
This is about control, this is about respect.
This is not something you're going to be able to handle on your own, you and your husband need neutral professional assistance to navigate this discussion.
The behavior your husband is demonstrating is absolutely atrocious... |
I (20f) babysit for some extra cash on the side. This just happened and it's eating me up so here we go.
So, the family ordered pizza for dinner. Mom left cash on the table for me to pay. It was me, and two boys (7 and 10) large cheese pizza and breadsticks. I have always been under the impression that the babysitter... | NTA. I'm sure they had enough to eat. Were they expecting leftovers? |
My good friend Gracie made me aware a few weeks ago of a phrase that made both of us laugh til we were sore, a dirty phrase which is ‘the key to a successful marriage is to keep a mans stomach full and balls empty’.
Both of us are in our 70’s and jovial and sprightly if I may say so. I liked the phrase – it was funny... | NTA. You are the type of grandmother I aspire to be! |
So, right now I'm in kinda a shitty situation. I've been treating my ex-fiance pretty cold and demanding a paternity test for the child she's caring. All of my friends are saying i'm being a major asshole but I don't feel that way, heres the story.
I knew my ex for almost 10 years. We go back all the way to high schoo... | NTA. She has friends and family apparently. They can equally "help her till the baby is born even if it isn't theirs."
Edit: thanks for the gold!
Edit 2: and my first platinum. Wow. Judging people has been so rewarding today. |
I have three fingers missing on my dominant hand. It's fine. I can type and everything and even manage to tie my shoelaces most days (and on the days I can't, that's the dyspraxia). However, I won't deny that it looks a bit odd to most people. I only have my fourth and fifth fingers so my hand looks a bit like a child'... | NAH. This is funny and anyone offended is being way too uptight. |
I (25f) fucking hate wearing bras. They're uncomfortable, constricting, and expensive. With work from home, I spent the last year and a half basically never wearing a bra and got used to it. Quite frankly, my boobs are nonexistent anyways.
I recently started going to the gym again and started working out braless. I sh... | NTA. Report it to your gym, he had no right to comment on your body at all, and no right to try and assert his "help" onto you, if he can't control himself from staring at another person's body then he shouldn't be at a place where he's going to encounter all manner of bodies. |
I (16F) used to have a good relationship with my mother. That has since crashed and burned since she dated and married my stepdad “Gary” six years ago. Gary treats his son “Ian” (19M) like he’s the center of the universe and expects my mother to as well, so she does. Anything Ian wants, Ian gets and that usually comes ... | NTA. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said he was worried about losing your child support.
I hope your mother has a hon because she is going to have to pay child support to your dad. |
I (f, 28) have been with my husband "Shaun" (m, 33) for 2 years, Married for 5 months. Most of his family are decent people but his mom can be a little of a passive-aggressive and tends to criticize me a lot. Shaun sees it as "her still not getting used to me being around" but IDK because she treats his ex "Julissa"... | NTA, but the whole ordeal could have been avoided had your husband done what he should have done, and gave you his seat while he went to fetch another one. In fact, he should have already had an empty seat beside him waiting for you. I can’t imagine putting my wife in such an awkward situation. |
Last week was my stepdaughter's (SD) 14th birthday. She was in the hospital days prior for a medical issue and now she's better. My husband threw her a small birthday party.
Unbeknowest to me, my boys (16) & (12) decided to pull a funny prank and mess with the birthday cake that they made for her. Instead of adding ... | Let me rephrase that: "AITA for telling my husband he exaggerated for calling my boys bullies who ruined his recovering daughter's birthday?"
Duh...YTA. times a million. |
Throwaway.
My girlfriend, “Rose,” and I have been together for 4 years and she is 5 months pregnant with our first child. My mum seemed to really like Rose (or at the very least tolerated her) - but after we announced that we were expecting, something definitely switched in her.
She has become extremely rude and dis... | NTA but I would put boundaries on the mother seeing the baby. She shouldn’t see the kid unless she can respect the mother.
Edited: wow I’m the top comment. Thanks for the awards you guys. I get to tell my mom I’m internet famous now lol. |
Necessary information: When my oldest son was 16 he got his girlfriend pregnant. After a lot of trouble they made all kinds of promisses and decided they would care for the baby, this led to the girl getting kicked out by her parents and she came to live with us. Except that when the baby was born, the girl broke up wi... | NTA. Grandparents are not obliged to provide free daycare, and small kids are exhausting. Tell your son you love him, and you love his child, and if you were 42 again you'd be happy to help out, but at 59 it's just too much. |
Our region has done well handling COVID, so my husband and I had a small group of family over for a backyard BBQ a month ago.
We’re the only ones in the family “left” who don’t have kids. We’re not going to. We prefer our lives as mountaineers. His family thinks we'll change our minds. Mind you, husband had the sn... | NTA. You both are probably going to have to block her and cut her out for a while. Life is too short for this kind of drama. |
Background: I have diagnosed bipolar disorder. I’ve been on medication over a year and it’s the best damn decision I’ve ever made. That being said, I have a tendency to go off my meds when I’m manic. It’s not fun when the meds wean out of my system and I go nuts. In order to not sabotage myself, I take my meds everyday... | If Q had behaved appropriately they would never have gotten suspended. It's probably worth noting to the higher ups that this report got spread which is creating a hostile work environment for you.
NTA |
I (45f) am currently divorced from my ex Thomas (47m) of 30years. We ended up seeing a lawyer to help with dividing stuff. Everything was pretty much wrapped up till he said he no longer wanted any part of our kids' lives (5m) and (12f). I didn't argue with him about it since I already know what it's like having a par... | NTA,
He had the right to sign off his rights.
He did not have the right to paint you in a bad light and make you look to be at fault and evil/manipulative.
That's defamation of character.
You had the right to set the record straight.
His mom had the right to go no contact with her son - a grown man who didn't ... |
My wife was more than five months pregnant when we learned that our daughter would not survive outside the womb. We were devastated, as this was a very wanted pregnancy. My wife made the difficult decision to have an induction abortion. The procedure itself went as expected, and she is physically fine. Emotionally, we ... | NTA
I’m so sorry about your baby. “Incompatible with life” is one of the most devastating phrases in the English language.
Your BIL brought it on himself. How unkind of him to harass a grieving mother, and your sister isn’t much better in defending him. |
My nephews both graduated from high school this morning and I wanted to sit up front so I camped out a bit in front of the entrance. I brought my folding camping chair and my headphones to listen to my show.
About 40 minutes before the school would let us inside, a pregnant woman got next to me since somebody let her ... | NTA. You refused to give up the chair you brought because you needed it due to your own health conditions. I do feel for the woman, but she and her partner should have brought their own chairs and not assumed they were entitled to yours. |
My F/33 Dad passed away and left me one of his last and favorite ship model, I had it on display in my living room. but for some reason I never actually mentioned it to my boyfriend M/37 of 6 months. Maybe because we don't live together and he don't visit often.
The other day he and his friends came over to my place... | NTA
But he is 37? And treats you (mocking you that night) and your possesions like that? You deserve better. |
I graduated from high school back in December. As a gift my parents got me a cruise. It was also for my 18th birthday. It was also a family vacation. We usually stay at all inclusive resorts but I have always wanted to go on a cruise.
I told my parents it was different and that if we went on excursions we had to foll... | NTA they seriously think the ship will delay for 45 minutes, yea no. The docks and ship have a schedule to keep. They are adults and need to be responsible for getting back on time. Which is something you have figured out in less than 6 months of being an adult. At least you don’t have to go on any more vacations with ... |
My friend Jack and I after a long stressful week like to go to the local pizza place. It's not fine dining by any stretch of the imagination but there are booths and tables of people sitting down. I see a large table near us of like 10 people a few couples and bunch of small kids between like 4 and 8, and the kids are ... | NTA.
Her exhaustion / boundaries / parental philosophy create no obligations for you.
Your personal space was invaded, you reacted to repair that. |
I'll admit I'm biased right off the bat. I couldn't stand her.
I call her "his ex" to myself and others. He called her "his friend".
We're all in our early 40s. She died recently - aneurysm.
I've been with him 10 years now, but he'd known her for 20+.
The way he tells it: They were friends in college, decided to d... | YTA
When he divorces you, he probably won't have to explain his friendship with you to the next woman because, seriously... who'd want to stay friends with a woman who had treated you like this? |
I’m a 27 year old male and my grandmother passed recently. In her will she left me her 4 bedroom 2 bath house. Now before my grandmother passed she was in danger of losing the house because of unpaid taxes. She asked various family members for help but none did. I was in college at the time and I had a huge student ref... | NTA, where was she when granny was about to be homeless?? |
My wife and I have been together for 3yr. I have a daughter from my previous marriage. She's 14. I also have a stepson who tends to be rude at times but civil enough around adults. He's 16. He and his step sister get along well. No arguing, no yelling even better than most siblings I know which is great and it's quite... | > My wife said she was trying to be a parent but I treat her as an outsider to my daughter.
She was trying to *parent* the wrong kid. Daughter didn't leave the used products on the toilet tank or seat. It was in the trash. Wife should use this as a good teaching moment for her son.
NTA. And good on you! |
[Original post here if you haven’t read it already](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/heoy9x/aita_for_changing_the_package_pickup_each_time/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
A few of you asked for an update so may as well.
First of all, there was a lot of questions on the last pos... | This is awesome, excellent update! So glad the guy apologised and seems to realise he was being a twit.
Bravo. NTA. Whatever you need. |
Pretty much the title, My f22 brother m27 is currently engaged to his fiancèe f25. he bought he a new phone for valentine's and asked my boyfriend who's trained in computer and software to install a hidden tracking app on the phone so his fianceè won't see it or notice. I overheard them talking and when I entered the... | NTA
Tell her. But also have your phone checked out, cos your BF is throwing out CRAZY red flags. |
My daughter’s English teacher refuses to pronounce her name correctly.
She has a Japanese name and we live in Japan. Her name is Kanae, pronounced Kaa-Naa-EH.
Recently, Kanae told me that her English teacher(an expat from America) at school calls her “Kah-Nye”. She told me that she told the teacher “My name Kanae. I... |
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Usually for Thanksgiving, we head out to go see family. Someone else always hosts (we typically help "sponsor" the host by paying for clean-up, etc, our home is just too small to host the 30+ folks who typically show up through the day). This year that's obviously not happening.
Other than us talking about not doing t... | Heavy NTA. Also the way you handled this conversation is absolutely how I would have.
I laughed out loud at “Well I know I didn’t. Did you?”
Also you all live in the same house and share the same kitchen I’m sure he would have noticed a turkey in the fridge if there was one.
I’m sorry your husband has child-like t... |
First of, I want to start by mentioning that my wife is a cancer patient, She unfortunately started losing her hair due to chemo therapy and she's been incredibly insecure about it, her lack of hair in particular. She got a wig and started wearing it, I don't mind it, I 100% support her since she only wears it around ... | NTA. At ALL. For fuck’s sake they were recording- they were actively trying to humiliate your cancer stricken wife. You better evict them. Your poor wife. Holy shit.
Edit: don’t let your dad even approach your wife over the phone. Seriously don’t- he’ll try to convince her she’s wrong and not those horrid brats. |
My sister (35f) and her husband (37m) have been struggling with infertility since they got married 12 years ago. They've tried absolutely everything, from medical to spiritual, but unfortunately, nothing works. Now that she's approaching late 30s, they're starting to look into adoption, but it's also been a slow going,... | ***NTA***
Hey, adopted kid here. I can give you tips on how to be an AH if you want to be, because this story inflames me anyway.
Your sister and her husband, much like my parents, tried EVERYTHING ELSE before even considering adoption. That makes their future kid their very last option. They clearly would rather hav... |
Ex(31) and I(m32) had C, (F16) way too young. We're friendly co-parents. One big rule we share is if our daughter breaks something, she pays for it.
Now, sis (27) and I are the only grandkids. Aunt never married. Instead, she worked with Gma and Gpa at their seamstry store, and took it over when they retired.
Sis's g... | NTA absolutely not. She “ruined” her own future. In my mind, that dress wasn’t twelve, or even fifteen thousand dollars, it was priceless. It could have and should have been passed down for generations. I’m horrified your daughter did such a thing. Most kids don’t go to college with savings, so she’s just going to have... |
I am(30f) a musician, playing gigs and at an orchestra as a violinist. Rehearsals just resumed so orchestra is my main source of income atm.
My sister(26f) is a social worker, working 3days a week so minimal income but she adores her job.
I live in a small 2 bedroom apartment (both rooms around 9-10sqr meters), usi... | NTA- Noise canceling headphones...problem sloved. If she is unable to do the absolute bare minimum than she clearly doesn't mind being homeless.
It is absolutely absurd that she would touch a musician's instruments, in their house, and not know that there would not be a repercussions. You even gave her a second ch... |
Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we alw... | NTA. Dump him. He's sexist and toxic toward women. Imagine you have kids with him someday wtf.
Using people you know to find jobs is 100% normal and called networking.
Cybersecurity is not some top dog where no one earns more than that field. His attitude toward your major is gross.
Getting a promotion because you... |
Me and SIL, Daisy, have been friends since High School (15 years ago). I started dating her brother, Dan, when we were all in college. Daisy married Matt sometime after I married Dan 10 years ago.
Matt and Daisy wanted a baby and starting trying right after marriage but they were having a lot of trouble. I am talking... | It was very harsh what you said, but I'm going with NTA. I might get shit on for this, but while I think it was a very harsh comment, she deserved to receive it based on her attitude towards you. You've been helping her for years, even tried to leave her abusive relationship, but she was (stupidly) stubborn and stuck w... |
I (23M) have a coworker (25M) who is a mooch. If you get something for lunch, he wants you to get him something too, but expects you to buy it for him because since you mentioned it, he says you offered. At first I thought maybe he had money problem, but then overheard him laughing and bragging to someone in another de... | Definitely NTA. He got what was long overdue.
It's not like you went out of your way to narc on him - HE is the one who narced on himself by whining to your boss about you.
Had he not brought up the issue and forced you defend your actions (what did he think was going to happen? That you were just going to roll ove... |
[original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/i683wb/aita_for_saying_that_my_daughters_best_friend_has/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
First of all I want to say thank you to everyone who gave me advice and I apologize I couldn’t respond or post an update earlier.
We went to ... | Glad that the kid is getting the help he needs. Good job OP |
I had lent my bf some money few weeks ago because of something he needed and he promised to pay me back asap.
He was supposed to pay me back 5 days ago but something came up and he didn't. I tried to be patient.
Yesterday we had planned to go out with some friends at night for dinner. Yesterday after I came back from... | NTA. You may want to consider your relationship here.
Did you tell your friends or BF that you were robbed? If yes and they acted like this then they are not your friends.
Edit typo and NTA ruling. Wow, maybe I should go study for my (fake) law degree. 😁
To individuals thinking I'm actually studying for the bar, it w... |
The title sounds awful but please read all the way til the end. DO NOT SPEED READ THIS.
My (22f) sister "Anna" (21) is "special need". She has severe autism and while she is verbal most of her communication is "physical" like sign language due to her social discomfort. She does speak around family though and has pr... | NTA. I don’t care if I get downvoted. You’re right, she is incapable of leaving your fiancé alone on the only day she needs to leave him alone. Best wishes to you and your future husband!!
ETA: since this blew up, let me clarify: she needs to leave him alone EVERY DAY and that is solely the responsibility of the paren... |
A while ago, my doctor found a cancerous lump in my breast. Thankfully it was stage 1, but I did end up having a mastectomy. It was a stressful time, and when my friend was over a few days before my surgery, we got on the topic of the “boob-voyage” party from Jane the virgin. I asked her if she would throw me one of th... | So you went through a life changing experience and he made it all about himself? NTA. |
My husband just got promoted to shift manager 3 weeks ago. This meant that his 10am-6pm shift has now been switched 4am to noon. He isnt a morning person AT ALL so most mornings he will start huffing and puffing as soon as his alarm goes off and he will instantly turn on our light and very loudly start looking for his ... | NTA He is being completely disrespectful. Honestly, if he can't get up in the middle of the night without waking his partner, _he_ should be the one sleeping in the guest room. But since he seems to be completely inconsiderate I recommend you stay there. You are not overreacting, not even a little. |
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ebjcyh/aita_for_demanding_the_same_christmas_present_my
Here's the update some of you have been asking for.
I decided I needed a break from my dad and his family so I spent the holidays exclusively at my mom's house. I will most likely not be continuing the week on/off ... | I love that you’re enjoying time with your grandma. I grinned involuntarily at that part. |
I (15F) live with my parents (mid-40s) and my brother (9M). It’s always been a dream of my parents to adopt (me and bro are bio-kids) and they had come to the decision that they want to adopt an older kid. They got matched with ‘Jess’ who is 13. Due to the current situation, she is not living with us, but we’ve met bef... | NTA. I bet your parents think that taking in Jess is such a kind thing to do, they can't possibly be wrong and everyone needs to just get on board. However, you are a person and your feelings also matter. They are being really heavy-handed and not making any effort to make you comfortable.
Can you ask them to attend ... |
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