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Title says it all, sole provider for family, all credit cards maxed, negative bank balance, upcoming missed payments until my next check, basically destitute for the foreseeable future. My wife and I usually decorate on Black Friday, but this year I don't want to. The thought of putting up our fake tree knowing I'll ... | A very gentle YTA
Decorating with stuff you have wont cost anything but will make your wife happy. Christmas isnt about presents under the tree. Its the memories you make around that tree with people you love. Let her decorate if she wants to.
Youre also an asshole to yourself in this post. Listen. Debt cripple... |
My fiancé (m37) and I (f30) have started living together 6 months ago. I own a house and he moved in with me. I run online business from home which allows me to live rather comfortably.
A month after moving in, he quit his job saying how much he hated it and that he’s going to try and do twitch streaming for a living.... | You sound intelligent, is the D that good for all that BS? NTA |
Eversince I got out of the hospital for chronic problems, My husband has been introducing me to some games every evening. One game used to be about doing things while my eyes are blindfolded. involving puzzles, ruby's cube, shaped objects et cetra.... We'd take turns to do it just for entertainment.
Just a couple... | NTA NTA NTA
This is extremely suspicious 🤨 obviously he wants you to sign on something important…
Financial documents, loan, will, property, divorce papers???? List could be endless…
Do not sign on anything blindfolded- I would add do not sign on any blank paper from now on… |
Title says it all. My friend is one of those girls who always has a boyfriend, and that boyfriend becomes a central part of her identity. Last night we were having dinner and she said she needed a new hobby because she didn’t realize gaming could be so expensive. She dropped $2500 on a gaming rig because the guy she is... | YTA. She’s exploring hobbies when she’s around someone who has them. It’s normal.
Example: I’m into running. At one point my now husband gave it a go and for a time we ran together. It didn’t last for him, but he had showed interest in what I’m into.
YTA for calling her out rudely. |
My husband is an avid computer gamer - mostly WoW-type games. Approximately five nights of the week, he'll play games online from the time that our son goes to bed at 8:00 or 8:30 to about 12:30, so at least four continuous hours. That in itself is not at all an issue for our relationship. He spends plenty of time with... | NTA - My SO is a gamer similar to yours and in between games he has always came to check on me, kiss me etc. He has always done this from when we were dating to now living together. I think it’s really important, not only to check up on you but to let you know he is thinking of you (or maybe I have gotten used to it!!)... |
Link to original: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/iycyxr/aita\_for\_telling\_my\_wife\_her\_parents\_are\_not/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/iycyxr/aita_for_telling_my_wife_her_parents_are_not/)
First off I want to thank everyone who sent me supportive messages and advice, I never ... | I'm sorry you're going through all this, and I'm particularly sorry the one person you should be able to trust in this mess is on the wrong side. If you don't feel like therapy with her would be productive right now, maybe consider going on your own to see if you can sort through the anger enough to figure out the pat... |
Edit 8/21: I did leave a comment with an update for those who wanted to know
I’ll just get straight to it. I’m a college student and this is my last semester until medical school. I’ve never been able to get a loan I’ve worked 5 1/2 years to get this degree because I have to pay out of pocket so it takes way longer.... | DO NOT DROP THE CHARGES.
14k is a HUGE amount of money.
His family are lying. They are not going to pay you back. Your BF's first response was to lie: he only admitted the theft afterwards. They will take off and run, and you'll never see him or any of them ever again.
Why would you drop the charges?? He STOLE fr... |
I'm a 32 year old woman and I just bought my first house. It has 3 bedrooms, a yard and is just what I need right now. I'm single and have 2 dogs. My sister is 34, has 3 children and lives in a 2 bedroom apartment. Lately, she's been talking about how such a tiny living space is not enough for the four of them.
... | >I'm a 32 year old woman and I just bought my first house. ~~^(It has 3 bedrooms, a yard and is just what I need right now. I'm single and have 2 dogs)~~~~\~\~\~\~.~~ My sister ~~^(is 34, has 3 children and lives in a 2 bedroom apartment. Lately, she's been talking about how such a tiny living space is not enough for t... |
My oldest ( Bethany 16) has a step sibling ( Maria 14 almost 15). Bethany and I are white while my husband and Maria are Mexican descent They have been in each other lives since they were 6 and 7 and overall the relationship is good until recently. Maria quinceanera is coming up and my husband and his ex wife took her... | NTA
Quinceanera dresses aren't cheap and your daughter is old enough to know better. |
I'm 19f and live at home with my family. My younger brother 'Mike' is 14. He is has a group of friends in the neighborhood that he always hangs out with, they all enjoy skating and longboarding and stuff so that's what they're doing most of the time. The boys are 14-15 and really nice kids but most of their parents are... | NTA
She's an obnoxious pest with no legitimate business at your house. Peeking through your windows was especially creepy. This all allows a certain level of belligerence from you, including the divorce comments in the heat of the moment. |
To start me and my mother in law have never gotten along. She hates my guts and can be oversensitive often times. I tried not to give her the wrong impression about me but we just don't like each other.
Sunday, I was feeling sick (I'm a new mom btw) and couldn't eat what she cooked for dinner and she seemeed to take i... | NTA, you had to show that message to your husband. That was a very disturbing text. I also find it weird that she fainted, my son is diabetic and he has never fainted from being confronted. |
I’m a young MIL, I’m only 39. Had my kids pretty young and I am very lucky that my husband makes a lot of money so I don’t have to work. I was a SAHM for a long time and once they started to spread their wings instead of going to work my husband and I decided I would be a home maker and be active in the community. That... | NTA
Wow. She's a total AH. Just because you don't conform to her "Business Focus" personality doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. What you and your husband have works for the two of you AND you volunteer for the community. Whether it pays or not doesn't take away from your commitment and responsibility you s... |
Thowaway account for obvious reasons.
Important info:
- I'm a caucasian F, early 30's. Married to a lovely mixed M and we have a 2yr old.
- I've cut contact with my family about 5yrs ago, mostly due to my mother's narcissistic behaviour and her being pretty darn racist (she hated me dating my now husband), and the r... | NTA at all. They treated you like a performing monkey, and you refused to play that game. Well done.
It is the height of insensitivity to ask someone to speak at a funeral *after the service has started*. Even without all the rest, that is fundamentally a dick move.
I take it that there was no apology for the fact th... |
I was blessed with three beautiful children and unfortunately, my eldest, Brooke, passed away when she was 5 years old. It rocked my world and I know I haven’t been the same since. I went through therapy and still attend to this day, but a part of me died too.
I will never let my daughter be forgotten. I bring picture... | You do realize that you've made your living children feel like they don't matter, right?
YTA. I cannot imagine your loss, but you've hurt your two living children by never allowing them to move on, and in your fear of having Brooke forgotten, you have ensured that they resent her memory. |
My future SIL Liz has turned into a bridezilla and is going to war with everyone over every stupid thing.
My natural color is red. I love my hair. Liz is a blonde but she loves to have red hair and in fact ever since meeting me she's been dying her hair almost exactly my color. I don't mind, I think it's weird that sh... | Absolutely NTA!!! Dying your hair + color correction to get back to your natural color + the amount of time it takes for your natural colored hair to grow out is a pain in the butt. |
This happened during this weekend, me being in my early thirties and my gf in her late twenties. I was invited to a wedding ceremony of a colleague and could bring someone with me. I asked my GF that I've been dating for a year if she would like to join me and she was really happy because she apparently loves weddings.... | Absolutely NTA - and your GF sounds like an attention-seeking nightmare.
Literally everyone knows you’re not supposed to wear white to a wedding. Even if she magically had not heard this rule, the second you mentioned it - a reasonable person would have changed dresses just to be safe. She clearly wanted to be cente... |
UPDATE: AITA for proposing to my girlfriend with a video game relic instead of a ring and refusing to purchase a ring after
Hello everyone, here’s a link to my previous post from a month ago in which I proposed to my girlfriend with the Amulet of Mara from skyrim, and was a big asshole (as many of you pointed out) bec... | Great, hope you have a very happy life together. Her ring is beautiful |
My husband's sister (38) lives with us and our kids. I'm well beyond fed up with her being here because of food issues. That's the only reason.
So, basically, every single time I make food his sister will come in and "doctor up" the food I'm making to her liking. Like I made steak and shrimp the other day (like Apple... | NTA
Especially considering they're just making your job harder by making your food inedible for your kids.
Your sister-in-law has overstayed her welcome. |
My (37f) husband (40m) has been working at his company for 10 years as a maintenance supervisor. About a year ago they hired Tabitha\* to work in their accounting department. Since the day she first started working there, she has had an infatuation with my husband that is now becoming unprofessional and inappropriate.
... | You are NTA.
Hubs, on the other hand, is a grade-A dyed-in-the-wool jackhole. ANY man who invalidates his wife's concerns over behavior THIS blatant is either banging side-chick, or is at bare minimum enjoying the attention... but doesn't want to *admit* he's enjoying it.
Either way, you're in the right here and if... |
So for those that don’t know, I have two children M20 and F19 and ever since the world went to hell, I got them therapy sessions at their requests because they said that this was taking a huge toll on them.
On Wednesday when my daughter went to attend the zoom session my wife had left to go take a nap. I didn't think ... | NTA. Wife is TA |
We (Me 27, him 30) together for 3, married for 2 months.
So here's a thing, I used to use pads for my periods but recently was able to start using tampons (I have medical problems) in comparison, Tampons work 10x better for me, especially when I'm outside...say like at work or traveling. My husband Ryan hates them, ... | Uh… what the fuck. NTA, at all. What is wrong with your husband??? He can be “uncomfortable” with your choice of menstruation products all he wants I guess, but he doesn’t get to make it *your* problem and he definitely doesn’t get to *throw away* your tampons. I can’t fathom what on earth he could be thinking. Based o... |
A little bit of context for you all, I ended up falling pregnant with my 10 year old daughter during a drunken hook-up with a friend in my mid 20s. Not the most glamourous or flattering truth but it's the truth all the same. When we found out we decided to keep the child and co-parent while remaining friends. We were n... | NTA. From the outside it sure reads like she wants to replace her partner's affection for his first daughter with his new baby. Of course it's creepy. |
I lost my late-girlfriend on 9/11 when TWC towers collapsed (she was on the 67th floor). I had no calls or texts from her, all I hope is that her last moments were painless and fearless. This year I suffered a near-death accident. After it, I did a lot of looking back on my life...and having lost family and friends in ... | YTA but very gently.
Hear me out. As someone who has also lost a significant other, I totally understand where you're coming from. She was a big part of your life for a time, and those events obviously shaped you into who you are today. I'm sure you think of her often. It's entirely possible to fully love your wife, ... |
[UPDATE ONE](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOFAMILY/comments/l3zvx6/update_my_sister_in_law_stole_my_pregnancy/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
[UPDATE TWO](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOFAMILY/comments/ljwe2i/update_i_made_a_mistake_and_went_to_my_sils/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_na... | NTA, your family’s all assholes for blaming you for assuming it was your SIL who is pregnant then not listen to you when you said it was you. |
I 24F have lived in the same apartment for 4 years in this time I’ve had 2 roommates one the first two years I lived here and the second for the rest of the time. My current roommate 32F (V) has been great until now. She’s in a long term relationship and over Christmas she got proposed to. Now they want to live togethe... | NTA.
They say everything is too expensive of them, a 2-income household, but you, a 1 person household, should move out and live somewhere else, while you've been there longer, and on top of that, they're harassing you? Nah, bro. |
My (20f) 2yo daughter has had a heart transplant due to CHD and is severely immune compromised, as a result she cannot recieve live virus vaccines.
I'm in a young mom's group on Facebook and the topic of daycares and being a SAHM came up. I said my boyfriend is the breadwinner and I stay at home with our daughter beca... | NTA.
It’s clear to anyone who knows anything about vacccines and how they work. The whole goal of vaccines is to develop herd immunity so that people like your daughter who can’t get vaccines are safer. It’s not JUST for the general population, but also for people like your daughter. She was completely out of control... |
So my wife (26F) and I (28M) have been married for a year and began trying to conceive in September. No luck so far but the doctor did say at our first appointment that it typically takes close to a year for most couples to conceive. She’s been telling people that she’s infertile (which isn’t true, doctor said she isn’... | NTA. Your wife turned someone else's celebration into her own pity party, to be point that the guest of honor left her own shower, and doesn't realize she did anything wrong?
Do you really want to have a child with a woman like that?
ETA: thanks for the awards! |
I've been away since Thursday, house sitting for my mum, and it's currently Sunday afternoon where I live. Here, mail doesn't deliver on weekends, they only do that Monday to Friday, which means I had 2 days worth of mail in my mailbox.
My 30 something year old neighbours moved in on Friday when I wasn't here, and s... | NTA. Some people just need to mind their own damned business. Who cares when you check your mail?
Also, some people just do not understand sarcasm. At least she cared enough to call the cops for you, though. Good thing they were cool about it. |
I met "Will" when I was 22. Will was 29, with 2 kids, and had newly been widowed. We had whirlwind courtship where he introduced me to the kids and got me involved in their lives VERY early (first few days after I met him.) Will said really quickly he was sure I was "the one," not only for himself but also for his kids... | NTA. There is never a responsibility to never leave, that is ridiculous. Sure, a 10-year-old may reasonably think so, but a 25-year-old should know better. |
My friend [25F] is constantly late for everything. Be it work-related or fun activities, she will always be at least 15-20 minute late. She does not have a car, and so oftentimes I [25M] will pick her up from her house (I work at a university and she is a PhD student there, and her place is along the way for me).
Las... | NTA. You warned her. She also had 40 minutes to make other arrangements even after all her procrastination
Could you have been kinder? Yes.
Could you have reminded her about your time restrictions? Yes
Could you have given her a “final notice” with an “I’m going to drive away at 8:00”. Yes
Is it RUDE AF to ... |
Title sounds gross I know, maybe it is a bit gross.
Background: me (F23) and boyfriend (m22) have been together for 6 months, good relationship, healthy sex life that we talk about a lot and communicate our needs etc. A month ago I had the implant fitted (contreception) which has given me weird frequent periods. The d... | NTA. I would dump his ass. He literally got mad at you because you were on your period..... how much more childish can it get? |
I (23F) am an avid hiker in Australia. Last week I encountered a middle aged woman, around 50 years old as I was coming off a trail. She was walking in my direction as I came out of the bush. It was strange to see her, the sun was almost down and the weather was starting to turn. also, this was an intermediate collecti... | NTA.
I think calling fire and rescue was a kind thing to do. |
I’ve been in a committed relationship with my husband for 17 years, and overall, things have been great. We’ve had a few rough patches, but what’s important to note is that while he earns more than me and is considered the main provider, I have a substantial trust fund that ensures we’re financially stable. I work part... | NTA. This is completely unhinged. A man making 200k while married to a woman with a trust fund going to a food bank is unacceptable. I couldn't live like that, and I also couldn't live with someone controlling how the money was spent. You are absolutely not wrong to want space. I would want permanent space |
I met my wife Sonya at a restaurant where she worked as a waitress. It took me a while to finally be her boyfriend. I introduced her to my parents and they voiced out their disapproval after meeting her. My parents think that Sonya is only using me to achieve her American dream. I told them that is racist and I am very... | NTA and to all of you saying that you should not deprive your child of a relationship with his grandparents:
They are openly racist towards his wife/ the mother of this child. They will make remarks about that, they will make him feel bad about his heritage and will talk badly about his mother even when he is there. D... |
My husband (M33) got into a car accident almost a month ago, He's been bedridden due to a back injury and I've been his primary caregiver. The pressure has been too much from my MIL, she keeps telling me to take care of him and be there for him constantly. She begged me to take time of work and I did, asked me to sen... | NTA. Report it to the police. Let your husband go home to his mummy. |
My wife and I have always dreamed of celebrating our 40th anniversary with a luxurious vacation. Just the two of us, reliving the romance of our early years. We had it all planned out for years now and were excited beyond words.
Enter our adult daughter Jane. Jane and her husband got wind of our plans and prompt... | NTA
What part of the 40th Anniversary trip did your daughter and son-in-law not understand? Oh, boo-freaking-hoo, they wanted to spend time alone and designated the grandparents to babysit on what should have been their special trip.
If your daughter and son in law wanted alone time on a trip, they could have gone o... |
[Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gb0hkq/aita_for_telling_my_fianc%C3%A9_that_his_best_friend/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
It’s been a little over two months since my original post and a lot has happened.
In the days after that argument, my fiancé and I had a n... | > Then, this past weekend, my fiancé received a text from Tom. It wasn’t long, but thanked for everything he had done for Tom, apologized “for everything” and let him know that he was on his way to a treatment facility. He hoped he could stand at my fiancé’s side at our wedding, like my fiancé had always stood at his.
... |
Ugh! Hear me out!
So My bil (my husband's brother) was married to a women from Greece, Her name is *"Nana"*, and the reason for their divorce was because of how much my conservative bil tried to control her cloths and the places she went. He didn't want the divorce and was hopping Nana would accept the life he offer... | NTA. WTF? He drove his wife away by trying to police her clothes, and he has the sheer nerve to bring that subject up with you? You DID need to dig in to show him that his ex-wife was not an aberration, any woman would find it abhorrent to have a man dictate what she can or cannot wear. |
\- | NTA. The "beautiful and tragic moment" line really pissed me off. You're mourning your pet and they're mad at you for "ruining the moment?" Based on the sheer level of asshole going on here I'm going to assume they act this manipulative a lot more than just in this one situation. |
I (21f) was one of those kids who was born on Christmas Day. Which I wouldn’t have minded at all if my parents treated this normally for example my friends boyfriend was also born on Christmas and he said his parents would do his birthday in the morning and Christmas in the afternoon and I wouldn’t have minded that at ... | NTA. What were they thinking? What are they thinking? Why would anyone do that to their kid? |
I \[19M\] just started dating a girl I really, really like a couple months ago. I was hanging out with my friend (I'll call Joe\] who is also 19, and has a crush on this girl "Sarah" \[18F\]. Anyway, we were all hanging out and there were no more seats in the car, so I suggested she sit on Joe's lap, but she chose to s... | NTA. I think this girl doesn’t know how to handle rejection. |
Full disclosure, I do eat meat, eggs, and dairy. That being said I'm lazy and prepping and cooking meat takes more work than I'm willing to do a lot of the time, so I've built up a pretty okay repertoire of vegetarian and vegan meals. That's why I volunteered to cook last night for a small family dinner even though I w... | NTA. It's seems rude that you cooked a vegan dinner and she didn't eat any of it. What is the problem with olive oil? |
Awhile back, my brother married a woman who had an 11 year old son named "Billy". A year later my SIL gave birth to a little girl. Two years later, she gave birth to a boy. Billy, who was 14 by this time, was treated like an outsider. My SIL and brother saw him as a burden who spoiled their picture perfect family. If y... | NTA. She didn't even consider herself his mother. You saved this kid from a lot of rough shit he probably would have gotten into, and if he sees you as his mom, he should be allowed to call you that. |
I (F23) have been told my entire life that if anything happens to my parents I will be my sister's guardian. She is 33 and has some disabilities. She is currently living in a group home. The government pays for a good portion of the cost but not all. My parents have made sure that they have accessed every resource ava... | NTA.
Love how your brothers are mad because you're calling out this sexist BS
So your parents want you to put your entire life on hold to care for your sister with no actual benefit?? Why would you do that? I mean yes it's not your sisters fault but it's also not your fault. Split 3 wayz is fair |
My [29] husband [36] is the breadwinner of the family. I stay home with the kids who are preschool age. He pays for the mortgage, bills, household needs, food, kids needs.....etc he has set a monthly budget for each category and handles getting everything done. Recently, he has become overwhelmed and told me to handle... | NTA
With that said, something else to add:
Get the hell out of there.
I lost count how many red flags there were in this short story. Just to recap:
- You have zero knowledge of and input into your family's financial situation by design
- You have to get pre-approval for an action as mundane as grocery shopping
... |
On my phone, sorry about any formatting issues.
I(28f) come from a very traditional Indian family. I left them when I came to USA for uni because I knew that if I accepted their help in paying my fees they would hold it against me later and I got a part time job along with the financial aid I was receiving. I maintai... | NTA.
But don't go back.
In case they trap you |
My brother and my SIL have been married for 6 years. I love them both dearly. They adopted a little girl about a year ago. My parents were happy about this too, at first. They got really angry when my brother and SIL announced recently that their daughter would be their only child and they do not want biological kids.
... | NTA. Your parents can be disappointed that they don’t have a “biological” grandchild, but you were absolutely right to call them out on how cruel they’re being to your niece. What if your brother or SIL weren’t physically able to have children? I wonder if your parents would have thrown a fit about carrying on the fami... |
My daughter-in-law is pregnant with my first grandchild. She is suffering from placenta preavia. She is on bedrest. It would be dangerous for her to have sex. So my asshole son decided that he should cheat.
She found out and kicked him out of the house. He came to stay with us because "she was having crazy pregnancy ... | NTA - ***never*** TA for such integrity. Your son most definitely is and (I suspect) his enabling mommy is as well. Kudos to you for doing the right thing. |
hi please let me know because i’m honestly not sure. for context, my university is completely online, I’m male and 20 years old.
Okay, last week, a family emergency happened, and it required my aunt and uncle to leave their house at late night. I live close to them, and they have a baby that’s less than a year old. S... | No, NTA. you should take that note from the teacher to Academic Affairs. It’s inappropriate and out of line, and your grade shouldn’t be lower because of a professor’s bias. I’ve been in grad school and had peers bring babies INTO the classroom and there’s no penalty. Because you gotta do what you gotta do. |
There's me (25f,) sister (27f) and brother (28m) involved here.
We were raised together and until 2019 we believed we were a nuclear biological family. Then we found out our dad wasn't our bio dad, which even he didn't know, it then turned out my older siblings shared a bio dad but I had a different one. We were also ... | NTA. Your dad is lucky to have a daughter like you. Congrats on the wedding. |
My (39F) daughter (16F) has had a sensitive stomach ever since she was a kid. There are certain foods that will upset her stomach to the point where she's unable to stop throwing up.
We've seen countless doctors, but so far nobody's been able to give us a clear answer. The only advice we keep getting is to identify al... | Not sure if I'm gonna be in the minority or get down voted (oh well), but I'm going with NTA
She's 16 and for sure smart enough and mature enough to know better. As the clichè the saying is and as much as it's over used on reddit..... Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. This isn't a case of a 7 year old that doesn't... |
Background about my husband : He stays up late at night and has to wake up early to go to work. So when he gets home at 5, he has to get his 2hrs nap so he could both make up for lack of sleep and also be ready to stay up late to play with his console.
He values his sleep and has one rule in the house that he enforce... | WTF did I just read? Your husband takes an early evening nap so he can stay up late to play video games? Do your kids have any relationship with him because it sounds like he never sees them awake. Obviously NTA. |
Sorry for the appalling title. My stepdaughter is living with my husband and I for the next year. Shes an educated young professional who’s saving up to buy her own home.
Since she’s moved in with us (past 3 months) she’s become increasingly snappy and unhappy with how her dad and I run our lives. We aren’t environme... | NTA.
Veterinary nurse here. As explained above, cats are obligate carnivores, they absolutely need the taurine that only meat can provide. Cats cant thrive on a vegan diet. My mom is a pretty hardcore vegan and still feeds all her pets a species appropriate diet because she aware that's what they need to be the healthi... |
[Link to my original post](https://ps.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mkps8k/aita_for_checking_my_blood_sugar_at_my_desk_when/).
I’m really glad I posted, it gave me the reassurance I needed that I was doing the right thing going to HR. I took your guy’s advice on how to approach the conversation with HR. I said t... | Good for your HR for supporting your testing schedule and for trying to find a way to make everyone comfortable. I do feel bad for James and hope he finds a way to manage his phobia. |
I’m not a super healthy person. At school for lunch, I usually get cheese fries. I know, very unhealthy. But one of my friends sure likes to steal my fries, as well as food from our other friends at the table. He’ll grab a bit from our trays and eat it when we’re not looking sometimes. It’s not usually a lot; it’s more... | NTA
This was a valid response. And you are 100% correct his dietary choices aren’t affected by YOUR food. That’s the key point here YOUR food. |
So I am the owner of a large house with a huge property surounding it. When I bought my property 5 years ago I basically lived at least 5 minutes away from the nearest house, however the villages and towns have been expanding and as a result started developing houses next to my property.
I was fine with it, nothing I ... | NTA. Your property, your rules.
Also, if you DIDN'T do this, you could potentially have ended up giving them a right-of-way easement without realizing it depending on your local laws.
Don't budge. Leave the fence. Maybe they'll think in the future about asking permission in the future instead of forgiveness. |
I had my son fairly young and I recently had a change of life baby. When I was four months pregnant my son, who was in college at the time told me that he had gotten his girlfriend pregnant. I wasn't very happy but I've been supportive and I've given them a lot of financial assistance.
I had my daughter two months ago... | NTA
they have no claim to the name. You can name your child whatever you choose. Are they planning on making everyone with that name change it? And if they’re “responsible” enough to have a child, they should be perfectly capable of supporting themselves without your help financially.
EDIT: spelling |
I was given up for adoption right after I was born.
Unfortunately my adoption didn't work out and I grew up in foster care until I turned 18.
I'm now 19 and in college.
In February, I got a Facebook message from a man claiming to be my father. We messaged back and forth and while I kept a lot of my childhood detail... | NAH. You have a right to your life. And they have probably spent the last 19 years clinging to the idea that you had a better life then they could give you - being hit by the reality that their happiness now is built the opportunities they had by condemning you to misery has probably hurt them quite a bit, but thats no... |
OP:
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I just want to thank everyone who commented, I read through them all and it really helped me process the situation.
I spoke with my mom a few hours the nigh... | Ngl I teared up at the end after reading how excited your grandpa is for your wedding :’) I’m so happy for you and your wife, and glad everything went well after the original post |
I (m32) have two older brothers (m38 and m40) and a sister (f34). Note the age differences. Our dad passed away 5 years ago in our hometown (a more suburban town in Wisconsin).
Our family was relatively modest when my brothers grew up, so they were cared for a lot by my parent’s families who are very conservative. My ... | You're NTA for helping your sister get out of an abusive relationship. You probably saved her life, especially since he is now stalking her in NYC. |
Hello, I am the (42) father to a 16 year old girl.
About 3 months ago we found out via a visit to the hospital that our daughter had a late stage form of brain cancer and were told that survival was not likely. We tried anyway, but despite our best efforts we found no improvement in the cancer. My daughter is aware of... | Hospice nurse chiming in. First NTA. Let her experience what she can while she can still enjoy it. I'm assuming she's either got DIPG or Glio - both devastating. Just be careful if she's taking narcotics for pain or benzos for sleep/anxiety. The systemic depression combination of those drugs mixed with alcohol rea... |
Earlier today, I was driving my friends back home after we worked out. We passed these two girls walking and one of my friends rolls down his window and says "I like how those t****** jiggle, how about you give the boys a flash." I instantly got angry when he said that. I pulled around the corner and told him to get ou... | NTA - the only way to change entitled men who think they can comment on women they pass is by showing them it's wrong. You've done this. Way to go! |
I (23) am getting married to my boyfriend of 6 years in June. We're having quite a large wedding (fiance has a big family, and we have a lot of friends), but my family is very small. My only family is my mom (never met my dad), and I have an aunt and uncle who are childfree. Since I was little, having no father I al... | Nta.
Your wedding. He doesn't have to even be there.
It's your day.
You're making memories for your family.
He's not part of that.
The fact he's tried to ruin it by getting your uncle involved days a lot about him. |
My (25m) wife died 19 months ago. It was real hard on my the first few months but finally started putting myself back out there. I met girlfriend (23F) 7 months ago. It was going pretty well and she moved into my apartment around 4ish months ago. In hindsight we probably rushed this.
My girlfriend is very overprotecti... | NTA.
Don't let her back in your life, she needs therapy for her issues. |
I have been remarried for a year now to my wife. I have a 15 year old daughter and a 11 year old son from my first marriage. I also have a 15 year old stepdaughter.
My wife has always gotten along with my children very well and has gone above and beyond to integrate our families.
And although at first my daughter was... | NTA Your daughter is old enough to know not to read someone's diary. I really feel for you, mate, you're in a no-win situation. |
I am black, and my wife is also black. I spent my most of my childhood in the foster system, but for a good part of it I was taken care of by an elderly Russian gentleman (we'll call him Dimitri Petrovitch). While he never formally adopted me, he played a major role in my upbringing, and I am very grateful for all that... | Black guy here. NTA
Tell her family to shut the fuck up.
EDIT: Wow, thank you all so much for my 1st through 23d reddit gold!
EDIT2: I'm so surprised and thankful for all the reddit silver and gold I've received. Don't ever forget to tell someone to shut the fuck up when they need to hear it. |
For context: I haven't seen my full family together in quite some time, so they set up a get together at a park today. The family gathering includes me (22m), my brother (21), my sister (25), her husband (29) and their two kids, my dad, step-mom and her kids (6 and 9) aunt, uncle, my two cousins (15 and 20), grandma, a... | NTA - I love you took your quiche with you too. |
So some context: I am a uni student and in my free time I crochet a lot.
I was spending a week at my grandma’s to help her wash the windows and do some cleaning. My cousin (31F) came for a visit and asked me to show her what I was working on.
Currently, I am making a starburst granny-square blanket ([pattern](https... | NTA
As a crocheter myself, I totally agree with you. It takes hours and hours to make a full-size blankie and much longer to make a king-size one. The yarn can be very expensive but just because someone pays for the yarn, doesn't mean it's any less work. Stick to your guns! You never offered a free gift and it's rude... |
I'm a nanny for a high profile family. I signed a very extensive and strict NDA. Anyone directly involved in my life, mom, dad, sis, and husband, also signed an NDA. The nanny family recommended this, to talk about the job without getting into any legal trouble or putting them at risk.
Recently ran into one of my pare... | NTA, your mom crossed the line and could end up costing you your job. I would be livid. |
I'm a 31 year old single guy who lives alone in an apartment complex. I've lived there for 6 years. My neighbor across the hall, a woman around my age or a little younger (I actually don't know her first name but I'll call her Katie) lives across the hall from me diagonally and has for about 2 years. We exchange hellos... | **YTA**.
Honestly, OP: Thank you. So many people on this sub are just struggling for self-awareness, wading through uncharted territory, or trying to figure out how to navigate a complex situation with many moving parts and lasting social repercussions. Sometimes it's hard to know what to say, how to reach them, and e... |
[Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/i2dhv3/aita_for_not_letting_my_friend_live_in_my_spare/)
I wasn’t sure whether to post an update, but actually this sub really helped me. However, judging by the responses I got, I’m not sure whether anyone will like what happened!
I first had a conversa... | >Through my N-T-A validation, I was kind of getting annoyed at Bill, thinking ‘what right did he have to my home, and how dare he be mad about an offer I made 4 years ago’. And then I read the above comment and suddenly thought, yeah, he’s got no right to be mad at me but if he really is one of my best friends, then su... |
I (F33) have been engaged to my fiance (M37) for 5 months. We don't share finance because that's what he wants. I got a raise on my salary. now I earn 30% more than he does and I noticed that he's been using this to ask me to pay for him and his friends. Whenever I say "no" or "why should I pay for this?" he'd respo... | Why are you marrying someone who insists that his money is his money, but your money is also his money?
Editing to address judgment due to question being answered. NTA. |
I always suspected my mom preferred my sister over me. Growing up, she spoiled my sister with whatever she wanted and took her word over mine whenever we argued. I was always in second place compared to her. For example, when we turned sixteen, I was given my aunt's old clunker that ended up dying within six months.... | NTA, not from my point of view. You found peace and love elsewhere instead of with them. No need to drag up all that toxicity again if you’re in a good place. |
My husband and I have been together for 4 years. I have two kids (17m /19f). and their half brother is 3 years old.
this past week. My husband had an emergency (dad had a medical emergency) and wanted someone to watch our son. he asked my older son and he refused because he was going out with friends. he also asked ... | YTA
Let’s fix the title of your post:
My husband canceled our holiday trip because my kids & I are unreasonable & he just found out that we couldn’t care less about him or his family
Edit — Thank You kind award givers!
ETA more — Seriously, OP stop adding edits!! You are so far away from being helpful to anyone, i... |
My husbands family likes to drink. Every holiday includes multiple bottles of wine/cocktails. I hate drinking I have never drank my father was an alcoholic I think it’s childish if you can’t have fun without drinking.
This year I’m hosting Christmas for a change I decided since it’s at my house no alcohol allowed we a... | YTA and the Grinch who stole boozemas
Edit: Thank you all for awards may you be blessed this boozemas |
I've always cleaned as I cook so that when it gets to the end of the meal, there's minimal mess. My husband is the opposite. When he cooks, it's like a bomb went off. I've encouraged him to clean as he cooks, and if we're doing a big meal/holiday meal together I often make sure to assign him that role.
Like most peopl... | NTA.
In my opinion, the whole “I cook, you clean” should *only* be applicable when the one who cooks also cleans along the way, and the one who cleans does the dishes, etc. after dinner.
It does not work when someone takes advantage and leaves the entire mess for the other to clean up.
It sounds like you tried to ... |
Basically this. My roommate (21m) and I (20m) aren’t close friends but we live together because it’s convenient for both of us. He has a new girlfriend and lately she’s been staying over a lot.
Our apartment has two bathrooms, I’m saying this because it’s relevant later, one is in my room and the other one is in the ... | NTA
you were in your own space and she barged in. she should apologize to you. |
Me and my ex gf, Hayley, have one daughter 15F, Elle.
I genuinely don't know if I was right to do what I did.
Around 4 years ago, Hayley had a very bad accident. That ended with her being wheelchair bound. This caused her to develop a lot of resentment towards me. She would get angry if I worked out or played any s... | > Elle just begged me to go to court, so that I can get full custody.
At this point, there are no rules or obligations or important factors outside of this one right here.
Your child begged to get out of their situation, you made that happen. That is what a parent does. My hat is off to you, sir.
I pity... |
My brother 'Fred' and his wife 'Sarah', are not very financially stable, so it was a bit of a surprise for my sister, 'Katie' and I when they announced that they were pregnant. However, we kept it to ourselves. A few months ago, Katie planned a family trip. Brother and SIL decided to opt out as they were cutting costs ... | NTA. You did well. Your sister on the other hand, acted as one of the greatest AH ever |
I (27 F) got married a month ago. My dress was this long, lacy gown that my mom wore at her wedding. My mom passed away about 2 years ago.
Because the dress was so important to me, I had a big plan to keep it safe from any damages. I would only wear the dress at the wedding itself, and I would switch to a more casual... | Why??? WHY would you wander around with a glass of wine next to a white wedding dress that had such extreme sentimental value??
NTA.
I just.
They couldn’t have waited? They couldn’t have waited to have wine?
IMO, even if the dress wasn’t sentimental because of your mom, the fact that’s it’s your wedding dress autom... |
Just for context, I am 6'2 and my wife is 4'11. She is insecure about her height and while I try my best to tell her that she is stupendously beautiful the way she is, she got bullied about it pretty bad and it's just an aspect she doesn't like about herself.
With this in mind, we recently went to one of my favorite p... | YTA
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Dude, come on! You know this is a point of pain and insecurity for your wife. Like she's told you that she's been bullied for this and you laugh at this to the point where there were tears? And you haven't apologised for this? She's your wife man. So Yeah. You're the A-Hole here bud. |
We all go through phases and pick up annoying habits, and sometimes we just need our loved ones to gently tell us if we've picked up a particularly egregious habit.
Sometime in the last year, my husband has picked up a habit where he talks like a baby. At first it was funny, but passed into embarrassing, cringeworthy ... | NTA- I'd sit him down and have a serious heart to heart.
I did not marry a toddler. I married an adult partner to build a life with. I have told you repeatedly that this is not a joke, I find it annoying (and whatever other adjectives you'd like), and it has caused me to lose all sexual attraction to you and not havin... |
This is ridiculous and I can't believe I have to ask if I'm an asshole, but here we go.
I (f27) have been together with my husband Nate for over 10 years and married for 4. I don't have the best relationship with my MIL as she always seem to police what I eat.
Everyone in my family have fast metabolism, I am also wor... | NTA. I hope you stared your MIL dead straight in the eyes as you took the last bite of your steak. |
Happy news, everyone. The wedding went off this past weekend,and not only did my wife's cousin not get married on our wedding day, she dressed as a normal guest. She did, however, get drunk and pee in some bushes. No one in her family was surprised to hear about that.
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAss... | YOOOO Brittany is the real fucking MVP! Shouts out to her, give her a moment of honor at the wedding! She gets shit done!! |
I 29 f recently started working again after having my daughter (4m). Daycare is too expensive so my husband 35m reluctantly agreed to stay home. It’s important to know that he’s been unemployed since 2021. He receives benefits. It’s also important to know that he’s extremely lazy. He doesn’t cook, clean, or help out in... | Sleeping with noise cancelling headphones as the only adult in the home caring for a 4M old?! Absolutely NTA |
If I’m the AH here, I’ll own it. I’m not sorry, but like it would be good to know because the rest of my family thinks this went too far.
My (24F) mom died when I was 7 from leukemia. I have very few memories of her from before she was sick and I didn’t get to spend a lot of time with her in her last year but she was... | NTA, i have a saying "If the truth about your conduct paints you in a bad light, the problem isn't with the truth. Its with your conduct." If the truth hurts your dad its his own to deal with and not on you.
Edit: Thank you all for the many awards! I wasn't expecting it to blow up the way it did ❤️ For those loving t... |
I 35-F been busy with work (I'm a nurse) and taking care of my 6 months old baby girl and her 6 years old sister. My husband work night shifts-3 nights a week so he's usually sleeping at home during the day. He got himself a ps5 a month ago. He started spending time playing. He used to handle some of the house chorus ... | NTA if my husband did this him and his ps5 would be out the door. |
My sister “Julie” has tried to have a baby for 5 years. She had a miscarriage 2 years ago and outside that, has been unable to get pregnant. My heart hurts for her. However, one thing I don’t agree with is how my family has handled it. We’re not allowed to talk about babies around Julie. Any kids younger than 3 can’t c... | NTA. Your sister is taking this way too far. Your point about her (possible) child is totally valid.
I doubt she is doing this with friends and coworkers. |
This happened pre COVID btw.
I've had hearing loss for most of my life , but it was diagnosed when I was about 7 years old. So I learned to read lips at the same time I was learning to speak. I'm very proficient in reading lips.
Whenever I work with someone new, I make sure to let them know that I have hearing loss a... | NTA. Sounds like you taught her a very important lesson and she was embarrassed. Glad you called her out and stuck up for yourself. |
My boyfriend (37M) has two daughters. A 10 year old and a 13 year old. We've been dating for about 3 years now. I get along well with the younger daughter and she and I'm kind of like a big sister/auntie to her. The older daughter does not like me and makes it clear that she would rather her father not date me (or anyo... | NTA, but... You are dealing with a 13 yo child. Be the adult. Use this as an opportunity to grow the relationship. Tell her you spent time picking it out for her. Give it to her, no strings attached, maybe even wrap it up again. Then smile, tell her it looks better on her than you even thought. If you wish for ... |
So years and years of backstory here. Ex wife has BPD and life with her has been a continuous struggle. We are in the middle of a divorce because while she’s lied, stolen, abused, hit, etc... she never cheated. But she crossed that line and enough was enough. Divorce is bitter and ugly.
For financial reasons we had s... | NTA But you might cause irreparable damage to your relationship with your children. |
My ex and I had been together for 2 years. It was rocky for the last couple months when she lost her job and just seemed to refuse to look for work just living for free in my house causing me to have to financially support us both. I also suspected she was cheating on me, and eventually I broke up with her and she le... | >She, her friends, and even a few of our mutual friends are texting and messaging me about how I'm a terrible person for doing this to that innocent child.
Suggested reply to each and every one of those cocksuckers: "Lead by example: even though the baby isn't yours, let her live with you. Show, don't tell."
NTA. |
So for context my f29 boyfriend m34 is a doctor, Most of his friends are from work and they all seem to dislike me and act distant maybe cause I'm not a doctor too? Idk and don't care honestly, since we started dating they've been asking to hang out without me and they leave any event I'm at. My boyfriend said they'r... | Use that red flag as a cape and fly away
NTA |
Last weekend I (F27) ended feeling a wee bit poorly with what turned out to be appendicitis. We were away for the w/e with my partner (M39) so I had surgery at a hospital 3-4h away from home. I had a small complication during surgery so I had to stay until Wednesday (yesterday). My partner returned work on Monday but h... | **Get out of this "relationship" NOW**
You are NTA. Your "partner" however is a world class giant AH.
He put a **game** over you! A *game*!! He wasn't playing in it, he wanted to **watch** other people **play a game** leaving you stranded at hospital and THEN he had the AUDACITY to be mad at YOU for interrupting *hi... |
My grandpa passed away a few months ago and I inherited a little over $4 million from his estate. I had no idea he had that much money and was honestly not expecting to receive anything, as I assumed it would all go to my mom.
After I got over the initial shock, I took the opportunity to finally quit my job (which I ... | Nta as you’re not married - I’d be very wary of marrying him though at this stage if this is his instant reaction to your finances.
Get some urgent legal advice on the precise law where you are regarding locking up your money into a trust with named beneficiaries (you and any future children), cohab agreements, commo... |
I (36F) have a daughter Sadie (12) with my ex-husband John (39). We got divorced 5 years ago and I have primary custody while he sees her two weekends a month. Last year, he got married to Amanda who has sole custody of her kids (10&8F) from a previous marriage. Amanda is a SAHM (not for any health reasons or so on, sh... | NTA - And I would make the school aware that any decisions about your daughter need to go through you so he doesn't just do it behind your back |
I'm just going to be direct and quick.
I (M35) have 2 sisters that I'm close with, I also have a niece (Leah), Leah's 16 and after my ex wife decided to split up and divorce due to inferitility problems that lasted for 5 years. I started a college fund for Leah to help her go to her chosen college. That was in 2019 ... | Clean NTA. Generosity stops when you are unkind to the hand that feeds you. What a surprise.
Sorry about your loss.
Edit: I've read before that if you dont let people be angry at you after you have wronged them, you are just taking more away from them. Leah needs to learn that. So do your family members.
Her age exc... |
Last night my roommate was about to leave for some fancy dinner she was attending at her boyfriend’s parent’s house and I noticed she was wearing my dress. I asked her if it was mine and she said yes. I asked her if she had gone into my room while I wasn’t there and taken it and she sheepishly said yes. Just to be clea... | NTA LOL, she’s a thief who’s trying to guilt-trip YOU. People like that are just looking for people to take advantage of. They want you to think you’re the AH so they can pull stuff like this on you again in the future. |
I got a needle stick injury at work (Im a healthcare worker) and my family doctor filled out a lab requisition for baseline bloodwork to be done. One of the tests is HIV.
I went to an external lab to get it done because my family MD office is closed. It’s a typical diagnostics lab. In the waiting area there are 5 othe... | NTA that’s a HIPAA violation (if in the US), she can and should be fired for this. Keeping health thing private is very important |
I(26F) bought a hoarder house back in May 2018. It is a big 6 bedroom 4 and a half bathroom house.
When I bought it, the contract stated that I take ownership of the house and everything in it. The lady who owned it died, and her heirs could not deal with the stench and literal mountain of junk and waste in it (you co... | NTA- Recovering hoarder here. Legally, you are in the right. Morally, you are also in the right. And though I cannot speak for the woman whose things you now own, I can give you insight into how I would feel if I died before I could find homes for my treasures: I would want someone who cared enough to restore and respe... |
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