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AITAH for putting in a simple boundary with my (now ex) friend? | So,this happened a while ago but I thought I would share it on here because why not? (Plus this post might make it onto cam kirmans channel).btw, I'm not going to be saying irl names/ages due to privacy reasons.
So, me and my(now ex) friend, who we will call j,were in this GC with our other friends.One day, j had add... | You sound incredibly selfish.
Your friend can have other friends even if you don't like it.
You need to work on yourself so you don't feel this way about people like "glasses" (hint: coming up with shitty nicknames for other people like this is a sign you hate yourself, not them).
You need to improve you so you don'... |
AITAH for blocking my ex’s number? | I (18M) recently separated from my ex-girlfriend (17F). Our relationship started out strong in July 2025. However, as time went on, cracks developed when we would hang out in public or with her friends because we would have major disagreements with me. Ultimately, she made the decision to break up with me after I texte... | NTAH. Blocking her after repeated silence sounds like you choosing emotional closure rather than continuing to sit in uncertainty. |
AITAH for going no contact | I’m 37, and my 51-year-old stepsister and I have a strained relationship. She believes I can’t take care of myself because of my disabilities (autism, ADHD, and mild anxiety). I feel like she treats me the same way she treats her son, who has Down syndrome, as if we are the same — which we are not.
She doesn’t think m... | NTA - If she refuses to treat you as the adult you are, why have her in your life? The fact that you had to move and not tell her where to protect yourself speaks volumes about her, not you. I would go NC. |
AITAH for not attending my friends wedding because my husband wasn't invited? | I lived abroad for a year after I graduated university. While living abroad, I met Kylie. Kylie and I are originally from the same country and actually went to the same university but we didn't meet until we both moved abroad. We became good friends for the year that I lived abroad. I also became friends with her then ... | Anyone who invites someone to a wedding and not their spouse is not a good friend. I’m sorry it’s not like you just started dating..you’re married. When you get invited somewhere you are invited as “one” not one or the other. You have the choice later if one can’t go or doesn’t want to go but if anyone every invited me... |
AITAH friendship over 6 years feels like it’s ending | I (25F) have been in a close friendship with two others (both 25F) for almost 6 years since the beginning of our college days. We have stuck through so many different variations of friends and always agreed with each other. However, recently, in the last 2 years one of them became super close with a new friend (25M). (... | Six years is a long time. If it feels over, it probably is. |
AITAH for expecting my bipolar bf to do his share around the house? | My boyfriend of 6 years, living together for nearly 3, has bipolar disorder experiencing depressive episodes and dips in his mood. I work from home so I spend more time than him at home, which along with my anxiety makes it crucial for me to have a clean home. Not spotless 24/7, just caring for basic things during the ... | Hi OP, is your live-in boyfriend compliant with his bipolar treatment? Is he medicated and in regular therapy?
Because he should be. He needs to be. And therapy would be a great place for you to bring this up or to ask him to bring it up for a professional's opinion of how he can address his work at home and not use h... |
AITAh for cutting off my mother | AITAH for cutting contact with my mother? Sorry its so long. A little back story, my father died when I was 2 and I am now 25, so she was a single mother with three young childern. There's my older brother who we can call Josh and he is 28 and my younger brother who we can call Kevin, and my father and two other boys w... | Well your mental health has deteriorated drastically since your last attempt at reconciliation I would imagine no you’re not the AH for cutting her off. |
AITAH for asking my boyfriend to block his friend of 3 years. | My (17f) boyfriend (18m) has an online female friend let’s call her M (21) of 3 years.
Him and I have been dating for 5 months along with off and on at the beginning of 2025. Ive known this friend exists basically since we met, and it hasn’t been an issue. She and him usually chat it up once every 3-4 months to just ... | >He also refuses to give me his login info when he has all of mine.
So he wants control of your info but won't fairly reciprocate. He blocks her to shut you up from complaining then unblocks her. He's already broken up with you once.
Why are you still with this jerk? You're 17- you are *way* too young to be with some... |
AITAH for flipping out over weed smell when my friend stopped by | I am friends platonically with my ex, we've known each other for like 20yrs and we're kinda trauma bonded, but we don't spend a lotta time together, but when we do, a fight always breaks out no matter how hard I try to avoid it. He just stopped by my apt for a quick visit, we're talking like 15 mins tops... While he's ... | >He thinks I'm overreacting.
Sure, because to him it's not a big deal, but if it's not a big deal then why can't he just walk a little further and save you the worry? NTA. |
AITAH /WWYD if you had to disinvite your friend’s ex, an acquaintance, from a trip coming up in 2 days. | I (24 F) am supposed to go on a skiing trip with my friend (26 F), her boyfriend (? M), and my husband (25 M). My friend and I planned this trip over a month and a half. Obvi being girls we did more of the planning then the men, what food were eating for meals, what time we’re headed in separate vehicles to the mountai... | 1. NAH - shit happens. It's better that they broke up now, than break up during the trip.
2. WWID?: He is automatically uninvited. It should go without saying.
While he might think otherwise, this is how it now pans out:
* if all 4 go, there will be, at best, that uncomfortable awkwardness you described; at wor... |
AITAH for feeling abandoned by everyone? | I (early 30s, F) separated from my husband about a year ago. We’re legally divorcing, but the part that’s been quietly destroying me is the religious side of it. We’re Muslim, and an Islamic divorce actually matters if you want to move forward. I asked his lawyers if he will participate in the process.
That was four m... | I’m sorry this happened to you. You’re not the AH. Make sure you keep yourself safe and do what you need to do to keep yourself healthy. |
AITAH for basically calling my mother's husband an idiot | I (f 21) was on FaceTime with my mom, while she and her husband (aka H) were getting ready for bed. H began pretending like he had left my dog outside in the cold, as soon as he started joking about it, I opened find my on my MacBook cause I have an Airtag on my dog. He kept saying how he can't find her and how she mig... | Nah, NTA. Some people just have dull minds and an even duller sense of humor. That joke would have only been funny *to him* if you had a big reaction like “oh my gosh! My poor dog!” Which, quite frankly, isn’t even funny. He has rocks for brains. |
WIBTAH if I evicted my roommate who has kids and no income? | First time using Reddit, so I apologize if this isn’t all formatted correctly.
I (37f) have a roommate/tenant (35f) who moved in with her three children about 6 months ago. We were in a relationship, but broke up due to us both having trauma and constantly triggering each other. We had a prior agreement that if the re... | So your roommate, who you used to date....who also dated your ex-husband for 5 years.....who also has kids that have grown up with your kids....who also is an alcoholic....who also is autistic...who also has PTSD.....who you're also considering evicting. You're just going for the reddit bingo, aren't you. |
AITAH for being mad at my boyfriend about this | Quick backstory, my boyfriend and I are in our early 20s, we live together at my parents momentarily and have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. Some months back he mentioned he was talking to one of his old friends from years ago, we’ll call him Mark. I remember my boyfriend telling me in the past about his fr... | NTA..you’re allowed to feel uncomfortable and set boundaries, especially given Mark’s history and your gut instincts, and your boyfriend should respect that |
AITAH for the way I act around a friend? |
English isn’t my first language, and this is my first time posting.
I (18F) have a friend, Tom (20M). We met this summer at parties through the same friend group and started hanging out over time. Tom lives in another city, so we don’t see each other often, and when we do, there are usually other people around.
A few ... | First a best friend is someone who would rely on when things get hard so how they are your bsf and can't offer mental support?
Second..he has a gf and yet your friends try to couple u together and you're fine w that? What they're doing is absolutely inppropriate .... I assume as someone who has some self respect shou... |
AITAH for using my fiancé’s card to buy a purse out of spite? | Ok I know that title sounds insane but hear me out. I (23F) have been with my fiance (24M) for a while. About a month ago on December 12 I got a “hey girly” text, if you know what I mean. He was messaging another girl fantasizing about getting her pregnant, etc etc (in the end he blamed it on a porn addiction/breeding ... | YTA. Grow some self-respect and break up with him.
committing credit card theft as an act of revenge isn't it, lady.
Now he has the power to have you charged. if the bag was really expensive, it could be a felony. I get what you were going for but this was total dumbassery lol |
AITAH for not warning my cousin she’s dating my brother | To be clear, my brother is not related to my cousin. My dad is a long distance trucker and a manhoe. As far as we know there are 8 of us with 6 mothers. But we all believe there are others we don’t know about, can’t ask Dad apparently it’s “none of our business”
Some of us are closer than others the “legitimate” kids ... | NTA
You didn't know. |
AITAH for telling my father to piss off? | I will keep it short. My father and I never saw eye to eye. My old man never respected what I had to say. It's always a mistake to speak my mind to him.
One of those things was asking money for my needs. I used to ask him for money for my needs like asking for my medical needs or educational needs. He always did what ... | How old are you? |
AITAH for Changing Schools & Leaving my Best Friend? | *Alt account because of penpals and the east coast-- not a long story but irrelevant.
**I just saw a tag for SH, so adding a quick disclaimer here for a mention of self harm. Nothing gory.
Background:
I'm a junior in highschool (16m) and about a week ago I called it quits. I've never been much of a student, to be ho... | NTA, and if you have no concentrational ability, are problematically sensitive to sound and light, and are burnt out despite no particular issues with learning--you just can't manage it, you're almost certainly neurodivergent. Yes, you probably have depression and anxiety--but it's from untreated, un-accomodated neurod... |
AITAH for finally saying no to my family after they used me for everything? | So I’ve been living with my parents for the past few years while saving up for my own place. I help them with literally everything, fixing their computer problems, running errands, paying for random bills when they “forgot,” helping my younger cousin with homework, even organizing family events. I never complained beca... | NTA. It sounds like you were giving constantly and getting very little back. Family help should go both ways. Saying no does not make you selfish, it shows self respect. Setting boundaries late is still better than never. |
Wibtah if I didn't let my dad's fiance come to my wedding | I (29) am getting engaged to my fiance (29) who is just the best and most supportive person ever. We haven't decided if we even want to have a wedding because of substantial family issues within my family.
My parents had a horrific divorce 7 years ago after my dad was violent with my youngest sibling, who is now estr... | If you don't have a good relationship with your father anyway, I don't really see why you'd need to invite either of them. Not inviting his partner would likely cause significant drama, unless he's really mature about being basically cut off by some of his family for the messy divorce and younger woman |
AITAH for getting upset at my mother (and potentially sister) for telling other people that I might be autistic | I will keep this brief, this is just a back story. My environment growing up as tumultuous and I was constantly being blamed for things as a child (and toddler). My father confirmed with me that I was a difficult child about a year ago. Now, as an adult, they have since divorced, but I still live with my mother who sti... | NTA. Your mom didn’t diagnose you, she diagnosed herself with a refusal to self reflect. Calling you autistic behind your back is not concern, it’s character assassination with a therapy filter. You’re allowed to be mad when someone turns your personality into their excuse. |
AITAH for setting and standing firm in a boundary with a friend? | I set a boundary with my friend and now we are not speaking. Was I too harsh?
As a preface, this has been an ongoing problem for about 2 weeks. I am trying to resolve it, but nothing has budged, so I'm hoping for some insight to see what I did wrong and how I can do better. The other person in question is an avid Redd... | NTA, why does a man in his forties need the emotional support of someone over a decade younger than him? He's acting like a child. There's nothing wrong with having struggles, but he's more than old enough to know that friends are not responsible for catering to his emotions. If he thinks he sucks and *everyone* is lea... |
AITAH if I sleep in my own bed while a guest is over? | I (15f) have a family friend (40m) who visits every 2 weeks or so, i usually have to sleep on the couch in the lounge room whenever he is over because my mother wants him to sleep in my bed, im getting sick of it and i just want to sleep in my own bed without it smelling like a man. | I'm torn here because it's not unusual for younger kids to give up their rooms for older guests. However, he should not be stinking up your bed and if he is, it would be more than reasonable to expect the sheets washed and replaced after he leaves. I do think more context is needed here though who is this man? Why is ... |
AITAH for wanting to end the friendship with my bsf? | So I (f18) have a friend that i know for like 5 years now but we are only friends since 2/3 years because we kinda found something that we have in common. Basically it’s just that I lost interest in our friendship after she became very VERY obsessed with Korean people. She isn’t trying to turn into Korean boo but it’s ... | I think you should just distance yourself from your friend for sometime. Don't end friendship, they might change again in the future. |
AITAH do I refuse to pay for my bWhy do I refuse to pay for my brother-in-law's food because he picked me up in the rain?rother-in-law's food because he picked me up in the rain? | Hi, I'm Brazilian and this text will probably have grammatical inconsistencies because I'm using Google, so please excuse that, but let's get to the situation:
My parents and I were talking about ordering dinner where we could all contribute money, so I texted my sister and asked if she wanted to join. (because she ge... | NTA. Just because her "appealing to your emotions" attempt failed doesn't make you the AH. |
AITAH for not forgiving my mom? | I (36M) was born and raised in Korea until I was 7 years old. It was culturally appropriate at the time to literally beat your children. I’m talking wire coat hangers and bike chains to the palm and calves until I bled. And in between holding up textbooks over my head for hours at a time. Mind you I was 7.
Forward to... | NTA to distance yourself from your abuser. |
AITAH for not letting my daughters dad take her away right before my holiday? | Hey update feom my last post!
I have replied to comments but I thought I’d make another post here so everyone could see it.
I have gathered as much evidence as I can and made an album in my phone for screenshots and videos I found.
I found a video of mark smoking 🚬💚 and I thought I could use that and say he isn’t ... | Get him on child support immediately.
Don’t want another update until you have! |
AITAH for refusing to follow my family tradition of celebrating Christmas at my mom’s house & moving it elsewhere because my sister is abusive? | TL;DR: My younger sister is abusive to her kids. My mom enables it. Christmas at her house always ends in chaos. My kids and I don’t want to go anymore. AITA for ending the tradition even though my mom is upset?
AITAH for refusing to spend Christmas at my mom’s house anymore because of my younger sister?
I’m 42F. I h... | Host Christmas at your house and invite those you want. Maybe your older sister's family and the older nibblings of your younger sister.
Read books about C-PTSD - because folks in dysfunctional families are subject to such a diagnosis.
Offer at least the older nephew a safe place if he wants to leave, if you can do s... |
AITAH? For asking my husband to sleep facing away from me? | For context, I asked him to turn away due to his loud snoring and me being a very light sleeper. Usually his snoring is not bad but he is suffering from allergies so there’s that. He also refuses to take any allergy medication so he just “rides it out” and I have not been sleeping well, so last night it was so loud I a... | Separate bedrooms. |
Aitah for not telling prospective employer about a trip I’m not going to take. |
Husband and I own a business. We have a trip for business with pleasure mixed planned for March 2026. The plane tickets are refundable. It’s in Washington DC.
We’ve had a plan for me to stop being on his payroll and get a job in the regular work force. This was agreed upon August 2025. I had a serious bike acciden... | Damn are you ok? Your husband treats you with so much disrespect. It honestly sounds abusive. |
AITAH for choosing my BF over my friends? | So I would like to start off by saying this post isn’t with intentions to try and get sympathy. I want to know genuinely if I am wrong.
My best-friend and I had been friends for 14 yrs. I am 21 now this happened when I was 20. My bf is 22 and my ex friend is 19- she has an extremely late birthday but we’re both born ... | Nta at all.
I think you’ll be a million times better off without her or the other “friends” in your life. She sounds toxic af. And they’ve listened to all the bs she’s obviously told them. I don’t think any of them should have ever been classed as friends to begin with.
Everyone deserves a friend who supports and l... |
AITAH for not driving my situation-ship to class? | For context, I am 21M, situation-ship is 22F. We're both in university, and she's in the spirit marching band (I had the option but decided not to join despite her wishes because of my large course load this year). We live in the same apartment complex. but not the same apartment. Recently, this have been going pretty ... | A situation ship is that so it’s not complicated and you can break it off because you have no obligations to this girl. I suggest you do that. Also not everyone needs to know your private business like therapy, why you go etc… it’s very easy for people to use that against you. Information diet next time. |
AITAH for not wanting to have a thorough convo with a friend about how a mistake she made (that negatively affected me, but was resolved) is still making her deeply upset and hurt? | TLDR: aitah for refusing to have a personal conversation with my friend about how hurt she is that it upset me when she gave out my home address to a stranger without my consent?
(\*Sorry it’s so long. This shouldn’t even be a thing, IMO, but after writing this all out, I’m pretty sure IATA. Minor details changed, tex... | Unless you are her therapist, NTA to close a subject. |
AITAH for wanting to watch a show after my boyfriend told me it makes him uncomfortable? | It's a gay hockey show on hoo max called Heated Rivalry which has quite of bit of sex scenes. I actually started watching it with him but he didn't like it much so when I mentioned just watching it on my own I could see his visible discomfort. Later he told me, me watching it makes him insecure and uncomfortable but he... | This sounds like a job for a conversation. |
AITAH for dancing with another guy during a dance class where leads rotate? | So my boyfriend and I attended one of my dance classes. We were doing partner work during which the instructor has the leads rotate.(he knew this ahead of time)
At one point everyone was so out of order there was a scramble for dance partners. Basically you have to get to your partner in time to catch the beat and fre... | rotating partners is a standard part of group dance classes. if either you or your boyfriend has a problem with that, sign up for private lessons.
you did nothing wrong. |
AITAH for being hurt that my family doesn’t care about me anymore? | I’ve been no contact with both of my parents and my entire family for 4 years now, I was the oldest that they had at 16, they broke up then got back together and got married when I was 8 and they always just treated me like a burden and an afterthought and always preferred everyone else over me, so at 18 I moved away f... | You went no contact with them, they tried to reach out to you and you ignored it. What did you expect them to do? |
AITAH For Only Knowing What THEY Taught Me?! | Throw away because some coworkers know my regular account and I’m not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Honestly, did not think this would turn into anything serious, but now it has become a whole situation and people are acting like I did something wildly wrong, so I need outside opinions.
This started about six ... | You’re definitely NTA. Sounds like you were given half the info and expected to read minds for the rest. If no one told you about the full process or the order, you can’t be blamed for missing steps. The real issue is poor communication, not you moving a thing around to help. Don’t stress it too much. |
AITAH? Imploring advice. | Hello. I'm really struggling with something. I recently ghosted my "sister-in-law" (husband's brother's girlfriend), who I have gotten pretty close with in the last 2 years. There has been no fallout. We have a great relationship. Here's the situation. Most of our conversations involve her complaining about my brother... | Soft YTA you should be honest and say that you don’t want to hear it. She can’t know this is bothering you unless you tell her. “If you’re going to stay with him and he’s not being abusive, I don’t feel comfortable hearing about the ins and outs of your relationship troubles so much. That’s still my BIL” is a fair requ... |
AITAH for still being angry years later after my dad didn’t tell me I was attending his pre-wedding dinner? | Hi! First of all, I'd like to apologize for any mistakes; I'm French, so English isn't my native language. This is also my first time posting, so I'm a little nervous.
I’m wondering if I’m overreacting or holding into something I should have let go of.
For background: my parents separated when I was 10 (my sister was... | I have just watched the latest John Wick, apologies: it depends how you use your anger and who you direct it at.
Seriously though: i think if you feel angry it's because you care. You need to decide whether you want your father to have this hold on you. Don't let him pollute and spoil your peace. Someone who has let y... |
AITAH for “forcing” my daughters father out of her life. | AITA for “ forcing” my daughter’s Father out of her life. This is seems so long so sorry.
My daughter is 10 years old. Her biological father (29M, I’ll call him “L”) and I have had a custody agreement since she was 2. I understand how custody works and have always tried to follow the agreement, even when it was emotio... | You know the answer. NTA, of course! Don’t let that man-child manipulate you. |
AITAH for refusing to let my roommate donate my shared plants to a charity sale? | I live with a roommate and we both tend a bunch of houseplants in our apartment. Recently, she decided she wanted to donate some of the plants to a local charity sale without asking me first. I told her no because some of them were gifts from my family or had sentimental value, and I didn't feel comfortable giving them... | Take a photos of the plants, it would not surprise me if some of yours went missing. |
AITAH for telling my girlfriend I like her mom? | I was invited by my girlfriend to spend winter break with her family. When I accepted she warned me that her mom is "a lot" and asked me to please not judge her on her mom's neuroticism and passive aggression. She said her dad and brothers are great, and putting up with her mom was worth it to get to know them, but to ... | So this is a phenomenon. Men hating their wives and then the kids follow. Its really sad. I wouldnt stay a part of this family. |
AITAH for telling my friend a mutual friend was being inappropriate after being told not to? | So boom I (16F) told my friend Jennifer (15F) that a mutual friend of ours was talking sexually to her boyfriend after deliberately being told not to by other members of the group. I'm going to use fake names but I doubt they'll ever see this. Basically, I was told on the bus Friday after school by David (15FM) that Mi... | She said it in front of your friend group. Here’s the thing about teenagers, they’re gonna talk. She’s going to find out. Dentist as motivation to do the right thing |
AITAH for not wanting to give my parents 50% of my paycheck? | I'm intending on getting an upcoming summer job, and discussed it with my parents who said that was a wonderful idea. They then followed up with me a few days later and said I'd be giving them 50% of my paycheck. i retaliated and all they really said is that I owed it to them. for context though, I only live under thei... | NTA. You’re under 18 and your parents are legally responsible for you, not the other way around. Asking for 50% of your paycheck when you barely live with them and they aren’t providing stable housing is unreasonable. Offering 25% is more than fair given the situation, especially since you’re covering your own food and... |
AITAH for ghosting my FWB? | I'm 18 FTM and began a friendship with this girl we’ll call Lena (20 MTF).
We developed this routine of me coming to her dorm to hang out. A couple of weeks went by, and I noticed that Lena called me her “situationship” to one of her online friends, which made no sense to me because she had a bf, and I even said we're... | FTM with a MTF. Almost like being straight with extra steps |
AITAH for not helping others? | I work at a manufacturing company as a Project Coordinator and I have about 15 projects im currently. Everyone day i come in an hour early to answer emails and get caught up on aspect of each project. Lately I've been good at staying organized and being on top of things to the point, im usually waiting for replies from... | If you have time to relax maybe you don't have to come in quite so early any more. |
AITAH for telling my sister to move out after trying to help her leave a toxic family environment? | I (54F) grew up in a highly dysfunctional family with a mother who displayed long-term emotionally abusive and narcissistic behavior. For my own wellbeing, I went no contact with her about 20 years ago. My younger sister, Daisy (52F), remained living with her for decades.
As the years went by, my sister’s situation de... | Helping someone doesn’t mean sacrificing your own safety or mental health forever. You tried. She crossed boundaries repeatedly and the journal stuff is genuinely scary. It’s okay to step back before things get worse. |
AITAH for wanting space from my friend | Me (f22) and my roommate (f21) are having a big disagreement.
For context we have been roommates for almost two years. Our other two roommates (f 21 and f21) left for clinicals back home so its just been friend A and I. Friend A and I have been friends for almost three years now so we are pretty close. However being ... | NTA. She won't "let you" see your other friends and boyfriend? Ah, no.
You don't owe her any more time than you give anyone else, and for her to say she owns your time is ridiculous.
Be a strong independent woman and tell this friend she acting like a child and to grow up.
Let friends B & C know what's up too |
WIBTAH if I dont rehome my guinea pig to someone over the animals gender? | Im trying to rehome my now solo male guinea pig, as his brother passed suddenly and I do not have the time or ability to socialize him and give him the level of attention he needs as a solo pig, especially now that im living in a studio apartment with my high prey drive dog. ( i used to live with my parents in a large ... | NTA, this is what a good person does in this type of situation |
So AITAH for refusing to drive for them??⁸ | So i am currently 23 years old. My family(including mom, dad, sister and me) never had a car. So from when i was 17 i always had to walk to my joint family function(which includes relatives, cousins etc). These cousins have cars, so they come in car and always have it easy. My family goes to function either by walking ... | Dude, in my country it's perfectly normal to go by public transport.
Even people who have cares often take public transport as it's more convenient in many cases (you don't need to find a parking spot).
Your extended family seem very low class in their behavior.
>So, i told them that i dont know how to drive and ref... |
WIBTAH: if I took my Bestie on a trip instead of my mom | For context: me(23f) and my mom(45) got into a fight because she had her bf(45) stay with us but the lease and everything was in my name and he overstayed his welcome and it was becoming a problem.
Our relationship has gotten a bit better now that we both live separate and have better boundaries with each other but it... | Lowkey it’s a bit cold but u gotta be real with urself. going on a trip together when the vibes are already dead is just asking for a massive fight in a foreign country. save urself the drama and bring someone who actually makes u happy. u’re making the right call. |
Seperated, lied too, used. AITAH | This is a long one, I’ll do my best to keep it straight forward and sorted.
There is a preamble up to the the point of separation
Together 18 years, married 11, 3 kids, the youngest twins. Later realized I was anxious type, she was avoidant.
Starts after kid one, 2014, the talks on more children begin, I have many v... | NTA your wife seemed like a really manipulative, two faced, narcissistic sea hag
Wish you the best … give yourself time and prioritise yourself |
AITAH for not wanting to leave a study room | My college has study rooms you can reserve, but today I found a room that wasn’t slated to be used until 11:00 am so I decided to sit in there. I was planning on staying in there until whoever was supposed to come in kicks me out. Here’s the thing though, when reserving a room, the rules state you have to be there with... | I’m getting the vibe that this meant a lot more to you than the study room, I’m guessing because there’s other stuff going on, like you said you’re not in the best mood. Sometimes I catch myself reacting negatively to a minor inconvenience more harshly because I’m not in a good mood. I would say they are in the wrong a... |
AITAH for telling my dad I will clean my room after im done with homework? | Im (17F) and my dad is (64M), I just got home from a practice. I walk in the door and talk to my mom (53F) for a little. Things are fine, I start my chores while they sit down and talk. There talking gets little heated because my mom was upset about something at work. After they stop talking, I am done with my chores a... | NTAH. I think this sounds less about chores and more about constantly moving expectations and being blamed for things you can’t realistically control. |
AITAH for telling my sister I don't want to hear about her pregnancy? | My sister (31F) has been trying to get pregnant this whole past year. Throughout that whole time, she has also confided in me that she is unsure about her fiance and that she feels she has faced borderline mental abuse the past 3 years being with him.
This is recurring. She has sent me loadssss of negative pregnancy t... | NTA.. You’re not judging her, you’re protecting yourself and being honest. Supporting her pregnancy while she’s in a toxic, unstable relationship would feel disingenuous. It’s okay to set boundaries and step back when it’s too much to handle |
WIBTAH for wanting to confront my friends of over 10 years or am I overthinking? | There are many things I want to say so I'm sorry in advance. I am a 25F and I only have like four close (only) friends. My family has certain opinions on them so I know to some extent I'm not overthinking things but I want an outside perspective.
Background context: Three of the friends are sisters. Sister A is my age... | You are absolutely not overreacting. The whole situation sounds frustrating as hell. I totally get why you’re torn about confronting them, but you’ve been putting up with this for so long, and it’s clearly bugging you. If they’re really your friends, they’ll listen and hopefully understand where you’re coming from. |
AITAH for not wanting a relationship with my older brother | I,(15F), have recently decided to not have a relationship with my older brother,(27M).
Some background information, me and my brother grew up with my narcissistic and abusive dad(we have different dads). My parents divorced when I was 6, and when my brother was 19.
Throughout my life, my brother and I have always be... | NTA. You’re a minor and your brother has been emotionally and physically abusive toward you for years. Wanting distance from someone who hurts you is not cruel, it’s self-preservation. None of this is your fault, and you did not “cause” his behavior by telling the truth. Please prioritize your safety and mental health,... |
AITAH For Assuming Spanish was Someone’s Preferred Language | I feel incredibly insensitive and mortified right now. I am a high schooler helping out at a preschool and I’ve been studying Spanish for a few years now. I’m no master, but I speak with a lot of the kids who do not understand English fairly well. I was with a rather unruly kid today who was curious about two guys work... | NTA
You're making too much out of nothing. If anything he sounded glad to see a teen speak his language. |
WIBTAH for cutting of my family after realizing they don't like me? | Hi, I'm currently 26F and these past 3 months I realized my family don't like me but are too chicken shit to admit it. I always knew deep down my mother never liked me even when I was a kid, she would call me names, disowned me once simply because I was failing in school etc.
She has a ton of health issues now so I'v... | NTA. You’re not obligated to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm, even if they’re family. Caregiving for eight years starting at 19 is huge, and it sounds like it came with emotional abuse and guilt-tripping on top of it. Wanting a life of your own doesn’t make you selfish or cruel. You can have compassion f... |
AITAH for being pushy with my (16f) boyfriend (17f) to hang out? | sorry for any formatting and the typo on 17m, i’ve never posted before.
okay so a little background, my families power went out yesterday because we’re pretty tight on money right now and aren’t able to pay all of our bills. i’ve been looking for any sort of excuse to get out of the house, it’s cold, it’s dark, and i... | NTAH. This really reads like 2 overwhelmed teens missing each other and talking past one another and it’s understandable you felt hurt when you built your whole day around plans that never quite solidified. |
AITAH for not offering guests drinks? | I (33F) am American and my husband (35M) is Korean. We have been married one year. A few months ago, my in-laws visited from Korea and stayed with us in our new house in the US. They recently (months later) told my husband that they were surprised by my lack of hospitality during their visit. They mentioned that the le... | I wouldn't say YTA exactly but at this point you're obviously just choosing not to offer drinks to guests, since it's been pointed out to you multiple times |
AITAH for what I said abt my coworker's botox use? | I wanted to hear if you guys think what I said was harsh.
Me (26f) and a 5 of my coworkers (all f between 30-50) had a conversation abt skincare at lunch (i was complaining that I can't use most of it bc my skin is really sensitive, and they were trying to give me advice). Eventually they start talking abt anti-agi... | ESH for this inappropriate conversation at work. |
AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? | I (22F) and my girlfriend (25F) are both in our final year of uni, 5 months away from finishing up our degrees.
5 years into the program, my gf decided she doesn’t like the topic she’s studying at all and feels very depressed and directionless in it. I understand this because I also had a career/major change later ... | You dont get to “let” her do anything. She is an adult and can make her own decisions. Dropping out of college may be a bad idea, so be supportive of her and try and get her the help she needs. |
AITAH for making plans to move in with my boyfriend and not my friend? | Hi everyone, I'm still ruminating on a situation and I just wanted to share it. I don't think I'm a saint in this situation but I think I'm still being treated poorly. It's kinda long and I apologize.
Let me give a little history that provides context for how I navigated this:
I (28F) have a friend (27F) (Let's call ... |
I get that you want to help her, but it seems like you're also putting a lot on your shoulders by trying to make it work with someone who’s not really showing up in the way you’re hoping for. If she truly wanted to move forward, she’d be more proactive, and it’s okay to focus on your own plans and move forward with th... |
AITAH for blocking my friend for going back to her ex again | I want to start if by saying I have been in a toxic and abusive relationship before and I understand the gravity of how hard it is to leave and in no way am I trying to victim shame my friend in this post.
Last night I called my friends ( I'll call them Ava and Sarah) to talk about some personal issue I have going on ... | Not the ah
In my opinion I have also experienced this in the past and it feels as if you are a part of the relationship with constant calls and you cannot leave your friend as well, but since you already gave her advice and she didn't take it you could be angry at her
But blocking her was maybe a bit harsh as it coul... |
WIBTAH for going no contact with my father and anyone in my family who doesn’t agree with it? | Extremely new here. I’m hoping this reaches Charlotte Dobre.
So I f (28), has had an eventful childhood. I have 3 sisters including one on the way, and 2 brothers. Me, Stacey, Jim, and terry were from my parents. The last 3 sisters are from a woman my dad began messing with at her age of 16. (All fake names)
Things I... | Wow...
That...was...wow. I am going to go wash my brain now with some disinfectant and see if that wipes what I just read.
NTA OP |
AITAH for removing a colleague off Facebook and Snapchat | Basically I work in a school and there’s a newish man let’s call him Tom he’s been working here since September. He requested me on both apps so i accepted that’s when it all started he put something on Facebook saying he’s never been so low I dint really know him but I said are you okay he proceeds to tell me that he ... | I'm old and it has never occurred to me to put a coworker of mine on FB or any other social medium. NTA for removing such workplace acquaintances (not ''friends'') from FB. |
Aitah constant fighting | (little side note, arugements mostly end with it being my fault)
Ok little back story, im a 29m on probation for assault. Shes a 30f trying to get her kids back.
Been together 9months. Had hiccups along the way like her friends telling her my charges will never let her get her kids back from cps. And a landlord that d... | If i dont reply im mostlikely sleeping it off...and dw im bot downvoting anyone. Just want genuine opinions |
AITAH for making fun of a guys appearance even though apparently he doesn't like it? | I (18F) recently became friends with a small band through mutual friends. One guy in particular (22M) is kind of the center of the group writes most of the songs, talks the most, etc.
My personality is pretty sarcastic and teasing (I do not EVER comment on things a person cant change, and I'm never cruel), and that’s... | YTA and you sound exhausting.
> My personality is pretty sarcastic and teasing
Occasional banter is fine but people who make sarcasm their personality are the worst. Don't be that girl because no one likes that girl. |
AITAH for wanting my boyfriend to set boundaries, or for thinking he would want to set boundaries with his FEMALE best friend?? | I (45F) was in a relationship for 12years with my late wife (45F) we married 7 years into dating. I lost her at the end of 2024 to suicide. (I’m so sorry this is such a long post, I’m trying to give lots of context)
In October of 2024 is when I lost my wife. In November an old friend/flame (42M) and I came back in co... | Uff da not gonna lie. I didn’t read it all. If he doesn’t want to, then move on if it’s an issue for you. |
AITAH for going off on my mom over lunch? | Me (27F) and my mom (47F) are currently at bats over lunch. We play a game with some mutual friends on the weekends and during so we made plans to have lunch at her place. We talked about what lunch would be had (pizza from a place in town) and around what time. I asked her to call me so I’d know when to go over there,... | Nah this feels like death by a thousand little cuts. People love saying it’s just lunch but it’s really about feeling ignored and talked down to. You tried to communicate and she shut you out. That’s on her, not you. |
AITAH for basically telling my granddaughter that probably she will having a harder time staying thin after she reaches 40 ? | I'm (63f) a grandmother. My granddaughter (10f) was looking at pictures that included me when I young. She said I used to be beautiful. I thanked her. She asked me how come I let myself put on so much weight.
I told her bad habits and aging. She asked what I mean by aging. I said a lot of women find it hard to stay t... | NTA. Telling younger people age appropriate FACTS is something more people should do. I'm curious what the mom would have told her daughter should she be asked a similar question? |
AITAH for disliking everyone in my year | So basically everyone became rude and annoying in my year to eachother, ive basically gone quiet because I’d rather not speak to most people in my year. I wish I could say different for my friends because we’ve got friend b here who ive not really liked idk we just never really bonded but I tolerated him because he n... | It does sound like YTA …. Everyone else is wrong and rude and you are the only one who is good? That doesn’t sound right :)
But it also sounds like you are very young and struggling to find your space and your own circle of friends. It is hard to find your people, your safe space where you can be yourself. This phase ... |
AITAH for asking my family to 'keep up not catch up'? | I live with my partner and two children (neither are his). He supports us with wages, I help out with my disability payments. Since he works I do most of the housework, despite continuous issues with my hands and feet (surgeries, often an inability to lift/walk, pain, etc). AITAH for being upset that my partner can't p... | Put a big box by the door. That's where his things go. Anything you see anywhere else put it in the box. |
AITAH for entertaining a guy that was hitting on me | Hey there Reddit. I feel like I might be the A hole in this situation but I also can’t help but feel like what happened wasn’t that bad. For back story, around 5 months ago I (F25) was at the grocery store and this guy came up to me and started chatting with me about my sneakers (a pair of Jordans that they don’t make ... | >he’s saying he can’t believe I would do something like this
Like what? Shaking an acquaintance's hand? That has been the thing to do since the 9th Century BCE...
Your boyfriend is trippin'. |
AITAH for not wanting to share my stuff in a shared house? | I (28F) and my Fiancé (26M) are sharing a house with his friend(mid 40's) and his daughter(15). The house was initially theirs but since his separation from his wife the house was his until he approached my Fiancé and told him the house is ours if we want it as long as we cover the rent whilst he's there with his daugh... | Bahahaha why would he leave? He conned you two into paying his rent. Where is his incentive to leave?
YTA. For being stupid trusting. You have a baby on the way. |
AITAH for telling my closest friends that my fiancée was having an emotional breakdown? | TLDR - last week my fiancée seemed to hit rock bottom and brought up killing himself. I felt scared, hurt, and didn’t have anyone to talk to so I told my best friends. Fiancée is now unbelievably angry and feels betrayed.
I ( 37F ) have been with my fiancée ( 38M ) for almost 7 years. This last year has been the hard... | NTA.
You left out intimate details, but you’re trying your best to support him.
**People tend to forget that the people supporting us in our worst times also need support.**
If the roles were reversed, i have no doubt he would be asking his closest people for advice or comfort on how to help and support you.
You w... |
AITAH for stopping my husband from correcting a woman who called me "Sir" ? | To avoid confusion, we live in a part of the US that doesn't snow. I (31f) have a blonde pixie cut. On that day, I came from the gym. I was in sweats. No makeup, no jewelry. I met my husband (28m) in a crowded place.
While walking with my husband, a woman (possibly 30s) bumped into me. She said "Sorry Sir." My husban... | NTA. I’m sure that woman could not care less, husband TED talk or not. |
AITAH for getting mad at my boyfriend for using AI | Ever since AI got popularized earlier in 2025 my boyfriend (25M) will use it for everything - sometimes to the point of using it instead of Google, and it gives me the biggest ick. I (24M) feel so much sense of rejection towards him for doing it. It's almost like I stop being attracted to him for a second every time he... | NTA - using generative AI consistently has been shown to decrease the brains ability to think creatively and critically. At the end of the day, his constant use of it says something about his personality and values, and they might just not align with yours. |
AITAH for disowning my father even if it upset my mom? | I (f21) have decided to fully cut of my father (m53) from my life even tho my mother (f43) is very upset about it? To give you full context on why I’ve decided to cut him off and no longer associate with him being my biological father I should start with what actually happened. About 2 years ago when I was 19 I moved o... | NTA… This is just weird. Your father sounds like a creeper… does he have a drinking or drug problem?? Regardless, I think it makes complete sense to totally cut him off. Disowning him seems like a drastic move but you’re an adult. And it that’s what you want to do, I say do it. Why not at this point |
AITAH for being mad at my Fiance because he got me Swordfish while pregnant | Y’all, I think I’m going crazy. Maybe it’s because of my hormones or whatever but I am so fucking pissed right now. I’m pregnant, in my 1st trimester and today I don’t feel like cooking and I wanted to eat something not home cooked. So I asked my fiancé if he could get me something from our favorite restaurant and I SP... | “My fiance brought me the wrong food … anyway, here’s several paragraphs about his brother that have nothing to do with the title… but swordfish, amiright?!?!”
HUH? |
WIBTAH if i was super petty and signed him up for spam calls? Help | So about a week and a half ago, I meet this guy J- (32?) his original profile said he was 29, I thought he was cute he was nice. I gave him my number, I gave him semi spicy pictures. And when he sent ones back, it was rather off putting, because I told him no thank I don’t want any pictures like that. I rather see his... | It sounds like a lot of the frustration that you're having is because of your own actions leading up to it. Gonna say YTA, for all of it
Maybe wait longer than 5 minutes to send spicy pics. |
AITAH for kicking my sister out of the family Life360? | Family started a Life360 a few years ago, mostly because my mom wanted to know where my youngest sister was when she was not at school. Everyone joined, (nobody was forced)even my sister who lives across the country, why? fomo? Idk. Anyways, My older sister joined temporarily and then turned off her location.
This was... | Turn off your location and just ignore her texts/calls. I would try delaying your response to her texts/calls….. by a few hours. |
WIBTAH if I were to date my toxic ex's twin brother? | I (F23) was in a six-month relationship with a (M31) after moving from Memphis to Omaha with him. Over time, it became clear that we were incompatible. He has bipolar disorder and displays strong narcissistic traits. During the relationship, conflict often resulted in him withdrawing affection, shutting down emotional... | You have to know this is a really bad idea, right? Its his twin brother, nothing good will come from dating him. Move on. |
AITAH For going no contact with my whole family | TRIGGER WARNING. I have to word everything appropriately.
I female 31, and my youngest half sister 25, have to make the decision to go no contact with my whole family due to my predator adoptive brother.
Brief backstory, my 2 younger half sisters and I were adopted by their Aunt and... | NTA! I don't have any particular advice but I'm glad you're outta there, and I hope your sisters realise the gravity of the situation and stop bringing their kids near him! |
AITAH for cutting off my best friend | My best friend(f) came into town to come visit me for my birthday. A month prior to this I got into a bad car accident that total my car so I was depressed because of the accident. I felt like I was transparent with F about everything that was going on with me, if I needed time to myself to smoke because stuff was gett... | Hope you’re not still skipping so many meals. You need nutrients to get your body and brain working better. |
AITAH for being happy being single and alone even though everyone thinks I'm secretly lonely | Hello everyone I'm a male (23) and for years now I've been very content with being a single guy and being in the company of myself. I've always been a introvert so the idea of just being able to go home after work and not have to have social interaction is amazing to me.
My parents are from a much different generatio... | NTA, you know what makes you happy, and being single and content isn’t something that needs fixing. Your parents just don’t get that enjoying your own company is perfectly valid. |
AITAH for not staying in bed to keep baby asleep? | Ok so my husband and I have a 16 month old. She sleeps in bed with us. My husband wakes up at around 5 am for work. He goes to bed around 9. I find it very hard to get things done with the baby throughout the day. I put her to sleep at 8, set up the baby camera and get to washing dishes, cleaning bathroom, litter boxes... | You stay up until he gets up for work? Like, you spend the night cleaning instead of sleeping? This sounds more manic than healthy. You need to see a doctor and tell them about this. |
AITAH for telling my dad I want him dead? | Context for this one:
I am F (26), I live with my parents because we all live in a foreign country where it has been really hard to become independent, so it saves me some money to live with them.
We’ve always had a good relationship with the exception of a couple episodes in the past (16 years ago) where my dad was ... | Hey, love.
You are NTA. Protecting your mom from his abuse does not make you an asshole. But it’s common for abusers to make you feel that way and for victims of abuse (your mom) to “side with” their abusers and make up excuses for them.
Talk to your mom when your dad is out.
Make a plan.
Both of you leave.
I... |
AITAH For being too judgemental? | This is my first time posting to reddit, and its a throwaway account, because both these people use reddit alot. Sorry that this is so long
I, (21F) am currently talking to two people. We'll call one of them Jess(21F) and the other one Maria(20F). I started talking to Maria about halfway through last year (june, 2025... | Honestly… I don’t think you’re being judgmental, I think you’re clocking a ton of red flags and trying really hard to talk yourself out of them. The lack of basic appreciation alone would be a dealbreaker for me. Add in the mixed signals, the weird possessive comment, the cleanliness stuff, and the drunk behavior and y... |
AITAH if i want to walk out from a "healthy" relationship because of bf's toxic mom? | I (28f) and my bf (29m) have been together for 3 years.
My boyfriend and I started living together about six months into our relationship. We lived in a nice townhouse apartment right next to his parents, who own the property. Early on, my boyfriend was transparent about having a difficult and unhealthy relationship ... | NTA. He's not ready to get out of the toxic relationship completely, and nothing you do is going to get him there any faster. It's a shame, but I think you're being very clear sighted about this. |
AITAH for being mad at my best friend? | Let me explain. We've been friends since elementary school. A few weeks ago, my long-distance boyfriend came over to my town to visit some family he has here (I've known him since kindergarten, 1 year of relationship) and I wanted my best friend to meet him. We went to a park and bought ice cream, and I invited our kin... | NTA.
She is in the wrong for making your boyfriend cry.
However
“ if the jokes were made at , I would’ve been okay with them, since it’s the humor we have together “
So this is yals humor… you wanted everyone to be comfortable. She took it a step too far but that’s you guys humor. She was trying to be comfortabl... |
AITAH for being upset with my manager | Me and my manager and new coworker, travel to different buildings to do process walks and identify any inefficiencies. Since we all travel together, we agreed on a system where for each trip we take together a person chooses where to eat. That way we rotate it and it’s fair
Today I was choosing and my manager is very ... | NTA. honestly, he's sounding kind of childish. as a grown adult, he should not be using his manager position to decide where you eat. sounds to me like he's just trying to eat at his places of choice more |
AITAH for basically telling my mum she didn’t do her job and then getting mad when she started crying? | Sorry if this seems all over the place, I just wrote out a whole thing then my phone died. Also im using a throwaway for this. Tw for mention of mental health issues, but there isn’t any details at all.
So i, 15f, (turning 16 in two weeks!), and my mum had an argument last night. It was basically over counseling. My m... | NTA - suggest she does counselling, because it's not normal to cry when your kids express independence and a desire to get help for mental health things. She could probably benefit with discussing this with a professional.
And you can stick to this line too - "Oh mum, I'm sorry, I'm not your therapist, I can't help yo... |
AITAH for burning all bridges with my brother? | My brother (25M) and I (19 F) have fallen out. Some backstory to understand the dynamic, my mother (41 F) had my brother at 16, we have separate dads as his was totally controlling (she couldn’t have her own money and things like that) our mom left his dad when my brother was 3 she lost custody due to some legal forger... | Off topic: so your mom lost custody due to forgery and then never saw her own son again. Wow. what a fucking bitch.
The only asshole here is your mother: I think you did an innocent thing sharing something with your mom (who is a piece of shit but you seem to be in denial about it). I'm assuming your brother never tol... |
AITAH for leaving my friendgroup | I 23F have three friends we'll call them A, B, and C. All three of them are my husband's lifelong friends' wives. I have been friends with A longer than the other two, the other two have only been around the past 2 years. A and I have a complex history of an off and on friendship, there's a lot of pasts there we decide... | Choosing your peace over forced friendships is always worth it even if it feels hard at first |
AITAH for complaining to my brother that his son is playing with my underwears? | For context - my brother's son is almost 8. My family has to babysit him during his mother's shift at work everyday. My parents take care of him for half the day, everyday. I work in healthcare so I have to be on duty every day too.
So I have been noticing for a long time that his son keeps "playing" with everything i... | I don’t think you’re the A-hole, but I understand your hesitation to punish him. At 8, he should know better, but it sounds like the bigger issue is the lack of support from your family in enforcing boundaries. You might need to have a more serious talk with your brother about respecting your space. If your parents are... |
AITAH f46 for looking in my partners m53 phone again when I promised I wouldn’t do. | Update:
We have reconnected over the last couple of weeks. Spent some time together and booked a holiday to Barbados for in 3 weeks time.
But I had messed up again. He has spent the last weekend at my place. But last night I was worried again because he now has his WhatsApp locked with Face ID also. I asked him. He s... | YTA. If you can't trust a guy dont be with him. For fucks sake move on. |
Update: AITAH for immediately saying "no" when my husband asked me to stop wearing earrings because he said they make a woman look older ? | Update to:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/GAyYs1SMzB
Before the update, I (43f) want to answer a frequent question:
My husband (41m) had said on Saturday something about earrings highlighting a woman's face. How it can highlight wrinkles. That's why he said earrings makes a woman look older. To clear up some confus... | If he thinks he was flirting and you think he was criticizing, there is a major disconnect in communication happening. |
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