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WIBTAH if my sibling was not invited to our family wedding | After our parents died, my sibling decided (for reasons still unknown to me) that I was a horrible person and cut me out of their life. I was sent a letter full of such hatred toward me, but again, no reason for it, saying we were no longer siblings, and to erase any history behind us. Mutual parties, including their s... | I think you should tough it out, your sibling probably didn’t want you at their children’s wedding either but they got over it for the sake of their kid (with as much context as I have, this is what I assume). This wedding is for your child at the end of the day and if they want their Auntie there, then that’s that. |
AITAH for calling my dad useless | Hi y'all I 16f have divorced parents they have shared custody. I was with my dad last week since it was his turn. That Friday I went to a house party with a friend, I don't drink btw. She got drunk and left me at the party, I didn't even realize til I started looking for her. I will tell you why I was looking for her. ... | NTA A parent that doesn't collect their kid from a situation in which they feel unsafe is, in fact, useless. Your saftey is the priority. If there is a lesson or punishment those come later. |
AITAH for not following through with my in laws christmas activity? | AITAH?
Relationships with in-laws are always tricky but I want to change that, but I need your opinion. I'll start with pure facts and then go into details.
Facts: Late October 2025 inlaw family sent message to group chat that they wanna go tubing instead of Christmas gifts. My husband and I say sure!
Dec 19th nothi... | NTA, they dismissed your plans, but end up doing the same thing on their time, obviously thru care of you go, they pretend being the victims because they invested you at the last minute, after 5’years it’s time for your own traditions m, 🫶🫶🫶 |
AITAH because I called my friends (44M)+(28F) disgusting for hooking up while his fiance/her friend (40+F) was in hospital. | (Sorry, This ended up longer than expected)
*edit - so surprised how many people dont understand the first thing I say. We are not family we are like family. From the kids point of view its mum, dad, Auntie and uncle. Sorry I didn't put names (not that it changes anything)*
For context our group dynamic is closer to... | I’m confused. What’s with the mum/dad/aunt/uncle thing. Just give names. This was weird to read.
Edit: going with YTA for not telling “mum.” |
AITAH for calling out my sister’s boyfriend for being a hypocrite? | Throwaway account, so I don’t want this drama (HAH) to be linked to my main. And this may be a bit trivial lol.
I (21M) am a cinephile and am a film student. The problem is, no one else in my family shares my passion and love for film. They watch like 3 films a year, and then when awards season rolls around, they are... | YTA for implying that Sinners, an actual masterpiece, is a "dudebro-y" type film.
ETA: Also YTA for not understanding what the word "hypocrite" means. |
AITAH for basically ignoring my tutor? | Hello Reddit. Currently I’m in my final year of high school and I only have a few months left until summer and then college (I live in the UK so I assume it probably works differently from America). But basically for reasons I don’t massively want to get into I am currently working off sight in a library with a tutor t... | Do you know what a paragraph is? |
AITAH for considering comfort in my relationship | I, 32F, am in a LDR relationship with my bf, M27, for about 7 months. He’s been great so far. He’s never been in a relationship before and acts very chivalrous, romantic and very very very loving. He says I love you a lot. Isn’t ashamed to let people know I’m in his life. He shares his life with me. Gives me updates ab... | Respectfully, it's a 7 month long-distance relationship. You don't know him that well. You have no idea what he's like to be around, to live with, if you can argue productively, how he'll mesh with your family (and vice versa).
Is he pushing to come live with you? Is this something you have to decide right now? |
AITAH for lying to my colleague about him cheating on his partner? | A few years ago, while attending a conference in a different state, my colleague, Chris (27M) got super wasted at a bar we went to. There was live music and dancing at the bar, and he began dancing with another conference attendee that we had just met at the conference and got along with (also mid/late 20's M, also ver... | [deleted] |
Am I a bad friend? “WIBTAH” | I don’t know what is going on with me. I’ve been distant from my two close friends, and I don’t know why. I can feel myself being distant and putting up a wall between us. I don’t know why, I’m okay with texting them but in person I have a hard time talking and hanging out with them. I avoid them on purpose because I d... | It's amazing that you managed to write a rather long paragraph and still were not able to give us any actual context to judge...
If you just don't like them any more, then stop being friends with them. If you think there something deeper wrong with you, then speak to a professional.
But, it's impossible for us to te... |
AITAH for not wanting to choose between my parents and my girlfriend? | I(17F) am unsure of whether I should stop contact with my girlfriend (17F) for 4-5 years and continue to live with my parents and learn about religion with an "open mind".
sorry if this is poorly written, a lot of things happened and I'm unsure of what to not include and English isn't my first language.
For context, ... | It’s hard to let go of family, but dude they sound nuts and super controlling. A panic attack leading to hospitalization because you, an almost legal adult, are *gasp* dating someone? If your parents were mine I would’ve given dad a full on heart attack and killed him if he had found out what I was doing at 15/16 lol. ... |
AITAH for telling my friend the truth about her boyfriend cheating, even though it ruined my friendships? | For context, back in 7th grade a lot of new students joined my school. Among them were a boy and a girl. I’ll call the boy B and the girl U. B was introverted and nerdy, while U was extroverted and full of energy. I like making friends, so I started talking to both of them and became close with them pretty quickly.
Ea... | Never the AH. NTA.
You need better friends. |
AITAH for going no contact with my only sibling? | This is genuinely a short one because I’m curious.
At what point is sibling fallouts/fights considered just downright bullying?
I endured a lot of shit when I was younger, the likes of being strangled and threatened constantly on top of the embarrassment on social media status’/posts (Facebook was just becoming a big... | That wasn't normal sibling stuff, that was abuse. If contact still hurts and they've never changed or owned it, you're right to go no contact for your own peace. |
AITAH for making my gf choose between me or her gay best friend? | Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about three years now and things have been going pretty great, only the small issue being I feel her gay best friend is more of her partner than I am. He's always been her best friend and they're obviously very special to each other and I have no problem with him or them bei... | Soft YTA.
Making her choose isn’t fair when no one crossed a line. This is about your insecurity, not his sexuality or their friendship.
You don’t compete with a best friend—you build your own lane. If you need a different level of closeness, talk to her about that directly. If you can’t accept the bond she already h... |
AITAH for not letting my colleagues sing happy birthday to me? | I don’t like to celebrate my birthday or be the centre of attention and I can’t think of many things worse than a group of people singing happy birthday to me.
My team at work knows this because I’ve told them and I’ve successfully gone 3 years of them not knowing when my birthday is.
However, this year, they found o... | NTA, Someone actually sued their employer for doing this, [https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-61141421](https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-61141421) |
AITAH for telling guests they didn’t need to bring any food to Christmas lunch? | So I have waited a little while after Christmas to post but I’m still annoyed so here it is. For years my husband and I lived in a home that was too small to host his parent and three brothers (and their family’s) for Xmas. So we always went along to their lunches and happily brought along whatever food we were asked t... | It sounds like the norm is for family to bring dishes to share on all the other years.
I disagree with evety saying how thoughtful you were to host and provide everything.
Its not just YOUR Christmas, it was the family Christmas that you were finally able to take a turn hosting.
So instead of happily hosting and kee... |
WIBTAH If I stop being friends with people I have known for years over one person? | I F15 hold grudges hard and I am seriously considering getting rid of like the majority of the people I hang out with even though I have no other friends as they are very clearly kind to and hang out with a girl who said horrible stuff about me my cousin and about people of the same nationality as me and many of the pe... | NTA. You can be friends with whoever you want. You don't have to keep friends because they've been friends. Some people mature and others don't. |
AITAH for cutting off my closest girl friend? | I (24 F) have been friends with this girl (21 F) for over 3 years throughout university, residence, and in our day to day lives. Throughout those years, I’ve had a crush on this guy (25 M) for 2 years. Those 2 years have been in the up’s and down’s of him letting me down, then proceeding to go on dates and be let down ... | NTA with a caveat. She asked you in a performative way and ignored your response. Then essentially rubbed it in your face with pics and updates. She's not a friend. That said, why are you asking her about their intimacy? What are you getting out of investigating that? If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn't be asking ... |
AITAH for telling my bf that getting raped is the risk I take when going out alone to sex parties? | I (23f) am a polyamorous swinger. I’ve been in lifestyle for a year now and have gone to lots of parties and events alone and with others. Admittedly there are some parties I attend that can be a bit shady. By that I mean that the people who go can be gropey/rapey towards the women who attend. One swinger couple I know... | While his phrasing needs work, his heart is sound. When you invite people into your intimate life feelings develop. A loving and good man would have an issue with what you are doing. Sorry but YTA. |
AITAH for losing my shit and ask my fiance why he is with me | (First off let me say this whole thing was petty and I dont know why it got so big) me (31 f) and my fiance (39) have been together since I was 19, in the beginning of our relationship it started with accusations of cheating ( I understood for a little while bc his ex cheated) which was weird because I made it clear ho... | NTA, and it's time for this relationship to end. Life is way too short for this. It's been years, nothing has changed, time to start formulating a plan |
AItah?Am I right to be upset? | So my(23f) birthday is in a couple days, I've had this birthday dinner planned with a club I'm in for at least a month. I've told my family this multiple times while visiting(I don't live with my parents) including the date of the dinner more than once. It's a dinner I've mentioned also being really important because i... | Their expectations are not your obligations. Their emotions are also not yours to manage.
NTA |
AITAH for going no contact with my ex after she dumped me and then spiraled? | I (26F) went no contact with my ex (23F) and now I feel like I am being made out to be cold and heartless, so I need an outside opinion.
My ex broke up with me because she wanted to try being intimate with other people. I was very much in love with her and completely devastated, but instead of doing the healthy thing ... | NTA this is literally what it means to break up with someone. |
AITAH - Watching porn vs. my girlfriend feelings | I just got in an argument with my girlfriend looking for some perspective;
She found out a week ago that i watched a specific type type of porn, specifically porn with known actress from our state/area. (by going thru my browser history)
Honestly I don't watch porn every week and the genres varies but often end up i... | Bro, just dump her because you know as well as I do you aren’t going to stop looking at it and she deserves a guy who isn’t a gooner. Just the fact that you have to ask Reddit vs taking her perspective seriously says all I need to know..Save her the pain , end it now. |
WIBTAH for breaking up with my partner of 6 years because he’s too introverted? | My(28f) partner(28m) and I are currently having relationship issues. We have been together for 6, almost 7 years.
When we started dating, we both heavily played games, had terrible sleeping schedules and spent all our time at home, watching twitch streams. After Covid, I got a full time job, sold my pc and stopped gam... | You've grown out of the relationship.That's ok. |
AITAH can a cheating secret be kept forever? | I cheated on my girlfriend: I downloaded Snapchat and hinge after coming home from the bar few nights ago. I messaged some girls on both apps. I knocked out and next morning woke up hungover and asked and received nudes on Snapchat and went on to porn to get myself off. I watched porn again right after for same reason.... | 1. Wrong sub.
2. If you're looking for judgement, then yes, YTA. Cheating = YTA. Always.
3. Come clean, unless you want to be even more of an AH. |
AITAH for suggesting my pregnancy maybe to blame when my husband asked about my oily face? | I (25f) went with my husband (25m) to the wedding of one of his cousins. I am 4 months pregnant. When I got in the car after the wedding, I was horrified when I saw my reflection. My face was super oily. My hair looked greasy. I felt gross.
When I got home, my husband asked why my face is so oily. He asked if it has ... | NTA
Your husband sounds insecure. Producing extra oils is 100% a possibility while pregnant because of the extra hormones your body is producing. |
AITAH for leaving my partner even though he was a good provider and a good dad? (long as fuck sorry) | AITAH for leaving my partner even though he was a good provider and a good dad? (long as fuck sorry)
I (F30) just left my partner T (M47). We lived together with my kids. On paper he looks like a dream which is why everyone has an opinion and why I’m sitting here wondering if I’m the asshole.
Yes he’s a good provider... | The first time I heard the statement " he's a good man, he doesn't cheat or hit me", I thought good God when did the bar get so low.
This is the case here. The man was/is emotionally abusive toward you. So not a good dad and money means nothing in this case.
NTA. |
Wibtah if take our roommates nasty garbage she has piled up and put it in front of her door? |
I (22 F) and my bf(23 M) live in a 3 story house with 6 other people and a new baby.
We pay $1000 in rent for the downstairs livingroom area, no doors. Everyone else who pays something only pays $500. And they all have doors (mini rant over sorry)
We live in the basement with a couple and their new baby. They have 2... | I can't get over the fact you're paying 1k a month for..a living room? And nothing else? The main assholes here seem to be you and your boyfriend for doing this to yourself . What even. |
AITAH for making my husband pick up our daughter from school and take her home with him | I F32 asked my husband M30 to pick our daughter F4.5 from school since he was leaving work early. He's not sick or anything he just "doesnt want to be there". I normally pick her up after school on Mondays and I have to bring her to my work with me since we're normally both still working when she's done. My work is pre... | Bro your husband is acting like a child not a father. What kind of dad doesn't want to spend time with kids? Not cool man |
AITAH for not wanting to do anything with my Dad’s sister after wha she did at my brother’s funeral? | Long story short, my dad’s sister yelled at my mom and aunt (mom’s twin sister) for asking my brother’s abusers to not show up at my his burial after all that they did to him. She yelled right as my brother was being loaded into the hearse. I told my dad I wanted nothing to do with her and he keeps trying to mediate. I... | Leave your father with no uncertainty about what will occur if he doesn't stop trying to mediate (I can't say it any clearer on Reddit without getting banned), also, leave him with a clear understanding about what will occur if he defends your brother's abusers within earshot of you.
You may have to demonstrate conse... |
WIBTAH if I refuse to look after my granddaughter for 4 days? | I have bipolar disorder and I have been in my current depressive episode for some time now.
I have been so unwell that my psychiatrist is doubling the dose of my medication weekly with the plan of starting ECT (electric shock treatment)in a couple of weeks if there has not been a significant improvement in my symptoms... | NTA. Your daughter sounds very inconsiderate |
AITAH for threatening my partner with a breakup if he doesn’t take my business plan seriously? | Edit: I understand that threatening to breakup with him was an asshole move. But everything else is too nuanced for you Redditors. Good day :)
My partner (M,30) and I (F,27) have decided we want to plan for our future. He has extensive experience in his field, he is a concrete service Foreman. He wants to get married ... | Leave this man alone. YTA for wanting to change somebody who doesn't want to change. |
AITAH for not wanting to be with my ex. | | 19M met this girl 17F in high school, and we became friends. She told me she was 15 when I was 16, and we just talked and hung out as friends for a long time. After graduation, we started to get closer, and eventually, we started dating. I really fell for her, and I thought we had something special. However, after a ... | Not sure if this is an AITAH post but you do you what is right for you & you alone. There's no point in staying in a relationship that you are unhappy / uncomfortable in just so that the other person (who in this case lied to you about their age) is upset. |
AITAH for blocking my ex-girlfriend | So my ex has been on and off homeless for the better part of the time I’ve known her because of her family situation. She’s always had mental problems as well as addiction problems but I knew that going into it and was willing to try to make things work. The entirety of the relationship, she’d only spend about 10-15 mi... | NTA
You should have blocked her a while go, but hindsight huh? Move on from this dumpster fire. All she wants from everyone is a handout, not help. |
AITAH for refusing to talk to my fiancee after she secretly replaced my wedding dress with a cheap copy to save her money? | 27M and 27F. Getting married in Feb. In our culture, the Groom buys bride's wedding dress, and the bride buys groom's wedding dress.
The groom's dress is called "Sherwani" and the bride's one is called "Lehenga". To keep things fair, the price range for their dress is decided in advanced.
We're a little sentimental f... | NTA. I think you have some hard decisions to make on whether this is someone you want to marry. |
WIBTAH for blocking my neighbor | For context, I've been staying in my apartment for close to two years and in those earlier years when I recently moved in, a situation occurred where my then neighbors came to my aid and I wouldn't say ve became close but there was some sort of riendship. Along the way, I got to know some of heir friends from when I'd ... | [ERROR] |
AITAH if I like my guy BSF? | Edit: forgot to add some other details.
I (19f) am friends with a guy (19m). Let’s call him Gary (not real name).
I met him in November of 2025 and we became friends over some funny circumstances but we instantly clicked and became close. My friend , let’s call her Mona (not real name) also met him at the same time... | NTA - You aren't an asshole for any of it, feelings are feelings.
At the end of the day you said you werent into him, admitting you lied now would cause real friction. |
AITAH for calling CPS on my SIL? | I (28F) have been married to my husband for 8 years. His oldest sister (“Kim”) has four kids (ages 5–10). Their grandma feeds and takes care of them most days. Kim receives food benefits for the kids.
Recently, Kim sold all of her food benefits and bought no groceries. After arguing with their grandma, she took the ki... | NTA. Putting the needs of children first is not a ‘family matter’ IMO. It is a moral compass. What is she selling her food assistance for? What else may be hidden in this situation? |
WIBTAH: canceled date due to poor sleep? | I (29F) have been talking with this guy, "Bob" for a couple days on Bumble. He's seems quirky and cute and loves books more than I do. He lives at least an hour out the way, I'm physically disabled, (I've told him) and I even think he's autistic.
I make a point not to cancel last minute as no one likes being stood up... | If you really do need to cancel that’s fine, but tell him you want to reschedule at the same time or he might think you’re making excuses to not see him.
Just be truthful on why, and reschedule for sometime soon.
Stuff like this happens. If he has an issue with that then red flags found and avoided before the start.... |
AITAH for getting irritated while shopping? | I (F20) went shopping with my mom and aunt for some clothes at boutiques. While shopping, the sales lady forced me to go try on some garments which I didn’t like, and told my aunt and mom about it when I came out. I specifically used the words that X product isn’t good, it’s not doing what it’s supposed to do.
Now, b... | Ehh, YTA. I get becoming irritated, but by 20 you should have figured out how to politely decline with the salesperson and say you don't need assistance. A simple "if I need you, I'll let you know" would suffice. |
WIBTAH if I tell my neighbor's clients about the guy coming to her house? | I live in a townhouse. My neighbor, who I share a wall with, runs an in-home daycare. I don't really care because her operating hours don't overlap with my sleep schedule. She is open Mon-Fri from 7AM to 6PM. I work Sun-Wed and have to get up at 2:30AM for work. When her last kid leaves there is usually no noise, and I... | He spends all day in that house during day care hours and conveniently leaves when the parents are picking up their kids? I would be pissed if i had kids she was looking after wtf is he doing all day there. Is he employed by your neighbour if so why leave before parents pick up the kids? Ask one of the parents casually... |
AITAH for cutting off two friends after they betrayed my trust and caused ongoing drama? | Hi Reddit, I’m going through a tough situation with two former friends, and I’m not sure if I did the right thing. I’m in college and have been friends with them for a few years.
One of my ex best friends started posting really hurtful things about me on social media. He used offensive language, made personal attacks ... | You’re asking if you’re the AH for ending relationships with two backstabbing lying losers who secretly hated you while pretending to be your friend? Are you serious? |
AITAH for giving my siblings baked goods for Christmas? | Hi this is the first time I’ve done this and I’m only doing this cause this has been bothering me, i am a 34 year old male, I have 3 siblings one older sister +1 years older than me, 2 younger brothers -3 and -4 years younger than me, my sist has 2 kids one daughter 10 yrs and a son 5 yrs my middle brother has a son th... | Whoever complained get them nothing next Christmas. |
AITAH for wanting to walk on my treadmill when my partner and I watch tv at night? | My (37m) partner (30f) and I live pretty busy lives. Some of the most reliable and consistent time we spend together is spent watching a tv show together before we go to bed. I’ve been trying to exercise more, and I recently got a treadmill. Sometimes after I get home from work and finish doing everything I need to do,... | NAH
It seems like there's room for compromise here. If you get home at 6, you have 4ish hours before you need to go to bed. Can you exercise for 30 minutes right when you get home and then spend the rest of the evening together? Or spend part of your TV time exercising and the rest cuddling?
It doesn't need to be one... |
AITAH for being impatient on a girl’s trip? | Before the flight there, she was late about an hour after our agreed meeting time to the airport to check in. Didn’t end up being a big deal because we still had plenty of time to wait to board, plus our flight kept getting delayed, I kept a mental note she’s not punctual for most things we plan so I intentionally said... | Honestly, I probably would have left her. Why should you miss your flight because she can't be on time? You need to be honest with her if you want any chance of maintaining this friendship. |
AITAH for being uncomfortable with GF sleeping in same bed as non-binary friend this week? | my GF told me last week that she was gonna spend the day and then sleep at her friends house where they’d be sleeping in the same bed, to which I assumed was a female friend. Come that day she casually slipped in that her friends (biologically F) is identifying as a M and is attracted to F, which I didn’t know prior t... | How did sleeping in the same bed become the only option? No spare bed, mattress or couch available? |
AITAH for refusing to pay my parents rent | I would like to start by saying, yes i understand the rise of entitled children in my generation. i understand that entitled people are obnoxious. so let me know if i am being entitled.
I don’t exactly know where to start since my flip-out was caused by years of frustration.
i am a broke 19 year old college student w... | Just move in with your boyfriend. |
WIBTAH???? | Would I be the asshole if I left my partner because his deliberately choosing to do things his way only and no one else?
Hi reddit, I think I need a different perspective regarding my situation.
I'm sorry that this may be a bit long but I'm going try and explain everything so it all makes sense.
I 26 (f) and my par... | NTA. Kindly, OP, you have been an AH to yourself and should leave. You deserve much much better and I hope you get it after healing from this. |
AITAH for insulting my best friend in front of my friend | My friend(17M) P , bsf U (18M) and I (17F) we're talking in a group chat last night about scheduling a meetup for them cause my bsf and I have only been friends for just over a year but P has known me since I was 10 and so U wanted to know about something from my past that I am honestly too traumatized too talk about. ... | I think it's normal to joke around with friends, but sometimes it can cross a line without realizing it. If you apologize and clarify that it wasn't meant seriously, he might understand. It might help to be more aware of his boundaries in the future, especially with sensitive topics. |
WIBTAH if I address a situation I acted ok with at the time due to feeling blindsided and put on the spot? | I 28F learned new info about my BF 29M relationship with his best friend 29F and now I don’t know what to think.
I recently spent Christmas with my boyfriend’s family in his home town, he has a best friend who still lives in said home town.
I want to preface this by saying my issue isn’t (or should I say wasn’t) that... | You're never the AH for talking about the way you feel. Hope it goes well! |
AITAH for yelling at my mil for not training her dog | Background: live with my mil. Her and I have a 15 month lease together because I felt bad about her situation at the time. My husband has been away due to personal reasons I don’t wish to get into but he cannot have his phone 90% of the time. So therefore makes communication hard. He is coming back this Thursday! He is... | Didn’t read all of this- you need to get a baby gate with a cat door on it for your bedroom. Keeps the dog out but gives cat freedom of movement. Of those are too expensive, get one of the cheap pressure mounted ones and when you put it in the doorway- give about 4-6 inches of clearance from the floor. Cat will go in ... |
AITAH for choosing a BTS concert in a different city (and possibly VIP) instead of going with my friends? | Hi, this is a throwaway account.
I (23F) have two close friends I met in college. We became especially close because of BTS. One of them actually introduced us to BTS, so this group means a lot to all of us.
BTS just announced tour dates in two different cities in my country. One option would be very expensive for me... | NTA! you have the membership, you're doing the booking, and you're going to want to enjoy the show! Choose what works best for you!
Hope you enjoy the concert :D |
AITAH for expecting my sahm wife to do majority of the housework since i pay 100% of the bills? | I work 40hrs a week and my wife stays home. She decided she wanted to be a sahm, and despite me not agreeing, she did it anyway. I told her dual-income was better because if one of us lost our jobs we'd still be okay, but she said she didn't want to "miss out" on her son's elementary years.
She has a 10yo son and i h... | You're only married for a year. You don't have children together. Get out now- lesson learned. |
AITAH for wanting my sister to seek proper medical advice? | Almost ten years ago my father died of Parkinson’s disease. It was devastating, and terrible to watch. About three years ago, my sister started having health issues, many of them neurological related. Troubles with balance, chronic pain, tremors. Of course the entire family was deeply concerned, and we imagined she wou... | You’re NTA for caring and wanting her to seek proper care, but you can’t force her. My mom ended up killing herself in stubbornness because she refused to receive proper treatment for a preventable blood clot that she was diagnosed with, and I’ve had to go through years of therapy to cope with the guilt of being unable... |
AITAH for watching a movie without my husband. | I (30f) watched a movie without my husband (31m). We got a new streaming service a bout a month ago and I had mentioned that I wanted to watch a certain movie. He agreed that it looked interesting and said he also wanted to watch it. Since then I have mentioned twice that we should watch the movie but he always has an... | NTA. Your husband is a child. |
AITAH for telling someone to stand on the tube | Basically, the London tube was fairly busy, all seats taken. People getting on and off, and then an elderly man gets on the tube, and a younger guy takes the last seat. I said to him, 'actually I think you should let that man sit there' and they guy basically told me to f off. I think I did the right thing | YTA
Some people have invisible disabilities. Why didn't you tell off everyone else who was sitting? You don't know whether this person needed the seat or not and it's not your place to single them out and lecture them. |
AITAH for getting mad at my work schedule? | So I (23F) just started working at a fast food about a monthly ago and so, when I applied and started working a supervisor told me that the only available spots she had was of the night shift closing the shop which I understood and accepted because I needed the job desperately.
Here's the thing, right after December ... | Sounds like he didn't need the job as desperately and told them they could work with his schedule or not.
This is a lesson to advocate for yourself, especially in minimum-wage jobs which are plentiful. If someone is abusing your time, you can always find another fast food gig.
Tell them that you need some morning shi... |
WIBTAH if i deleted my mums dating app | For context I (17m) my little brother (12m) and my mum (50f) lost our dad/co-parent back in 2024 and since then we’ve been on our own.
Now my mums friend has told her about some dating app and shes currently using it actively. My mum and dad weren’t ever really romantic as long as I can remember and only really staye... | YTA. Key piece of advice here - don't stand in the way of your Mum's happiness.
I understand you feel hurt by it and you feel you're looking out for her which is respectable, but doing this isn't. She is an adult and doesnt need you making big decisions for her. |
AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend? | So two weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend of basically two years. One of the main two reasons I broke up with him was he had a MASSIVE porn addiction and would not stop looking at stuff despite me telling him that it made me severely uncomfortable and I considered it cheating. (don’t flame me for that it’s just my ... | you're free! dobby is free!! now run as far as you can! (edit to add NTA) |
UPDATE - looked through my boyfriends photos and found nudes and vids of his ex. AITAH? | original post for context:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/uEv6wrt1b1
in regards to my original post, i truly believe all comments, advice, and words were honestly helpful in guiding me on how to admit my mistakes and also my concerns. like i mentioned, i knew that i was in the wrong and could very well feel the g... | I can't believe more people are upset about you going through his phone than they are of your bf literally having nudes and sexual videos of his ex??? That is WILD to me. I'm glad you guys had a good and productive conversation OP, but you're being too hard on yourself. He was absolutely right to delete those. Keeping ... |
AITAH for making my husband a roommate? | I (33F) married my (40M) husband in 2017 and he adopted my 2 kids shortly after (the kids were 2 and 3 at the time).
This is a long one that I will try to shorten, but still keep relevant details.
I am bipolar but wasn't diagnosed or medicated until several years (like 3) into our marriage. We did struggle with our se... | NTA. Sorry, this sounds awful for you. I get why you are still living together but the kids must be picking up on the atmosphere between you both. You may have to consider a way of living apart from him, in your own place, however difficult that may be. |
AITAH for suggesting one friend not to do something our third friend doesn’t like | A friend group of 3, I(26F) 1st friend (26M) 2nd friend (26F). We 3 go back a long time 9-10 year old friendship.
Male friend keeps light flirting with us both, thats the dynamic since 10 years and we are aware that its for fun and doesn’t mean anything. Again one day he sent a flirty something post to me and my femal... | I don't understand why she wouldn't have told him herself that she didn't like these texts, if y'all are so close. But this feels like a really immature conflict. |
AITAH for taking my stuff back after my sister tried to steal my bedroom and my family isn’t backing me? | So, I (22) live at my grandma’s house. My dad (50) and my sister (17) also live here. Ever since I came back, my sister has been acting like she owns my bedroom. She literally moved all my things out into the shed while I was away visiting friends and started claiming, “This is my room now.”
My dad keeps saying she’s ... | You rebuilt that room and she tried to take it while you were gone, you just reclaimed what's yours, and your dad's excuse doesn't change that. |
AITAH For Wanting To Find Other Employment? | Im 20 and this is my 3rd job and first factory job. I have been with this company for 7 months I've thinking about this for the past 3. And I believe I need to find employment elsewhere. I've been trying l. I was asked what position stood out to me the most. I explained that I was quite interested in Boxing, as it seem... | I don’t think there is ever a scenario where you’d be the AH for wanting to find a new job.
Editing to add: OP, I think you know you aren’t an AH, but I think you really want to just vent, in which the sub s/vent is the better choice. |
AITAH for cutting off my entire friend group after one of them groped me? | Last summer, my (18F) friend group consisted of me, 4 girls (friends since secondary school), and 4 boys. One of the boys, Zach, had been a close friend of mine since February. Throughout our friendship, he repeatedly made unwanted advances, which I always shut down however we were really close and I valued our friends... | You can’t ditch a group that ditched you first, but either way you deserve better. NTA |
AITAH for not letting someone borrow my book? | This is going to sound overblown, but I’ve been mulling over this for the last few days and would seriously like your perspective, and I will be as objective as possible about what happened.
I recently attended a conference in my field with a classmate who I shared a room with. For context, we worked on the same proje... | NTA she is very entitled and needs to pay attention better. She can easily just get the title from you and buy it online |
AITAH for not inviting my soon to be ex husband to our daughter’s 3rd birthday party? | TLDR: My ex and I divorced because he claimed to be poly and want the lifestyle while I did not. 10 years, 4 of marriage, raising his child 15 and our child 2F. He starts dating someone while we are in process of financially separating, leaving me home with our child to go out/sleep over at her house. Once I move out, ... | You are trying too hard at something that shouldn't happen.
Celebrate with your daughter when you have your daughter. Do not reach out to him. And you have to accept that he has her during his time. Do not ask for exceptions. |
AITAH for saying I was busy when my dad called me? | My dad was downstairs.
I was in my room, on my phone with my boyfriend, and changing into my regular clothes after finishing up a burlesque dance routine.
My dad yelled for me from downstairs to say he was home, and I said "I'm busy!" intending to acknowledge what he was saying and then go have a longer conversation ... | NTA but maybe something like "just a minute" would have been a little softer? I'm busy wouldn't offend or upset me personally but we are all individuals and react differently. |
AITAH for how I handled helping my girlfriend while she was sick? | I’ve (23M) been with my girlfriend (23F) for 2 years. Recently our relationship has been very fragile as we argue a lot and were on and off for a few months. About a week ago, we decided to start fresh and genuinely try to make things work cause we love each other and wanted to be together.
Yesterday, she stayed home ... | I’m 67F and would like to console you. What you’ve said here suggests to me that you need to break up with her and stay gf-free for a while and then find a more mature, less childish and manipulative partner. It may cost you the $500. Btw, financial irresponsibility is a major red flag in relationships. |
AITAH for dropping out of my best friends bridal party and ruining a 11 year friendship? | My best friend did not make me the maid of honor. I was a little sad and shocked but that is okay, the day is not about me…BUT then she tells me she doesn’t think the MOH would plan the bachelorette because she was too shy and basically implied she didn’t trust her with the plans. I was even more upset because at this ... | Wow, she really made you middle management for her wedding party. And when she threw you under the bus? Yeah, I'd send screenshots of her text showing how she feels unloved, then dip. NTA, she's not your best friend. |
AITAH - water damage | AITAH - Water damage - am I over reacting?
So - I got up around 8:15 yesterday, my girlfriend got up before me around 7:30. When I go into the kitchen, she’s mopping up water. When I asked about the water, she said she spilled a glass of water. I mentioned that it seemed to be a lot of water, but walked the dog and st... | Did she ever say why she lied 2x?
That’s extremely bizarre |
Aitah for telling my Son's secret at a family gathering | Hello Reddit, I am writing on a throwaway account and I'm typing on a cellphone, so don't expect much.
I (40M) have a son (14M) and a daughter (13F). This story starts a week ago when my son told me something at the dinner table. We were in the middle of eating when his mom brought up something he told her, which was ... | bro, do you ever say anything nice to him? |
AITAH for wanting privacy during massage | My niece, 16 years younger than me but an adult, stayed over at my house for a few days. My wife and my niece went out two evenings while I took care of kids at home. The day after a concert night, both my wife and my niece were tired and hung over. I prepared lunch that day so my wife could relax a bit. After lunch, m... | This story is creepy AF |
AITAH for telling my boyfriend that what he said is … RACIST! | My (29) boyfriend (30) is Polish and I am black (African born and raised) we both in the UK. I have seen racism taking all different shapes and forms and can sense even the subtle racism from a 1000 meters.
Today while chatting after work, my boyfriend told me that his brothers girlfriend in unwell because of issues w... | Jesus 🙄 you're clearly fishing for drama. YTA. |
WIBTAH to leave my boyfriend after he went to a strip club while on vacation with his best friend. | I [19 F], and my bf [20 M], and we have been dating for 9 months and everything has been going really great so far with the normal up and downs along but generally we get along like best friends, he recently left for a week to go on vacation to see his best friend, [20 M], a few provinces over, this morning I woke up t... | I mean, he did tell you where they were with an explanation. It’s probably worth talking about it with him first. |
AITAH for having different beliefs to my mother? | I am 1 month postpartum and my mother has come all the way from India to help me with this journey. She has been an absolute blessing with looking after the baby and me. She does all the household chores including cooking and cleaning and also looking after my two cats. I don't know what I would do without her.
Howev... | NTA the child is yours and not your mothers. I completely agree with the other comment where she is allowed to disagree but interfering isn’t necessary. I completely understand where you’re coming from this sounds like a tough situation but I feel like the older generation of mothers oddly just tend to be like this? Wh... |
AITAH for not wanting to go to my niece's birthday party? | I (24F) have told my mom I dont want to be around if my older half brother (29M) is around. I didnt go over there for Thanksgiving or Christmas because he lives there. He has no job nor a car so he is always there and theres never a time he isnt there.
The reason I dont want to be around my brother is because growing... | This should read "AITAH for holding firm to my boundaries" because you DO want to celebrate your niece, but you do NOT want to be around someone that caused so much trauma for you. Celebrate your niece a different day with just the two of you. It's clear your mom will never agree with you and that's ok. You don't make ... |
AITAH for acting out when my coworker implied she was coerced into sexual acts | Edit: Ive already left this job for other reasons - me and this coworker are no longer speaking to each other.
TW: for mentions of possible sexual abuse
Context: Everything I have heard about this guy is through my coworker, and since all of this has gone down I have been told the possibility that she could've been e... | I dunno if YTA exactly, but yeah, threatening a stranger based on gossip is a bad move |
AITAH for cutting off my friend after she got my bf kicked out of his apartment | My friend (20F) and I (21F) got into this argument in July, and it is still weighing on me even though everyone I’ve told about it says that I’m in the right. My boyfriend (23M) was only living in his apartment for 6 months and I was not in the lease, even though with how often I was there, I was practically living the... | Don’t lie to landlords. It makes them mad, and you may find yourself scrambling to find housing rather than having time to look for what you want. That’s on you and your boyfriend.
Your friend is a jerk. You’re going to have to find a way to communicate since she needs her stuff and you need her to pay her debts. |
AITAH - My (34M) GF (29F) doesn’t want me to watch porn. I kind of agree, but also don’t know if to commit to not at all? | My GF and I have been together for 9 months. We live together and have a great sex life. I’m not even kidding, she is down for it whenever and most times wants it even more than I do. She also is willing to give me the other stuff (not full sex) also pretty much anytime I want. When we’ve talked about porn she is just ... | You should spend less time watching porn and more learning how to make your GF feel good or orgasm |
My mom tells my dad everything I tell her and I feel betrayed and exposed...AITAH for feeling this way? | I’m really struggling with my relationship with my mom and I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if this is actually as messed up as it feels.
My mom and I have always been close. I used to tell her everything and trusted her with very personal things about my life. There was even a time when I did something really stup... | NTA. narcissist never tries to reflect on their behavior, it will be best to keep your distance and relationship with your mother, don't pour our your heart to her when you guys talk coz clearly she looks for information to throw you under the buss and make you look like a bad person |
AITAH for being mad my parents want me to go to a community college? PLEASE READ | I don’t know if I’m being dramatic or unreasonable, but I am so disappointed that my parents want me to go to a community college. I have neglected almost every other aspect in my life to just studying. I even did the IB program because my whole life the goal was to go to a good university and get a good job like most ... | NTA but you can't force him to pay. If you truly want to go the university route, you might have to find the funding yourself. But keep the unfairness in mind for whenever they need anything from you. |
AITAH for keeping payment for work I completed after a former Boss claimed it was his? | A few years ago, I worked as a subcontractor under a guy for about three years. He handled talking to management, and I did all the actual work. At the time, I was new to the trade and didn’t mind the arrangement.
Over time, I became very good at the work and ended up doing essentially 100% of the jobs myself. Everyon... | NTA
You took all the right steps to protect yourself. Its unfortunate he got zero in writing so he would get paid. If it goes to court, you have more than enough documentation to back up your claims you did all the work. I would suggest turning off commenting capabilities in your social media accounts. Once the dust s... |
AITAH for not staying my step kids | My husband and his first wife divorced and I met him when his children were young (5&8). We moved in together about a year later. My family is very comfortable and my father is generous so he bought the house we live in as a wedding gift to me prior to our marriage. My husband and his ex agreed it would be best to ... | NTA, he can buy the house from you if he needs to have that address or rent a smaller house/apartment in the area. You shouldn't be hostage to your ex for kids that dont even seem like they have a great relationship with you. |
AITAH for wearing sweats in front of my husband's fancy boss ? | My husband (26m) and I (26f) got married last November. Before we got married, he got a major promotion in October.
This weekend, he gave out his car to get some type of enhancement. He was going to use a service to go work on Saturday. But since he was going to hang with me after work, I offered to pick him up from ... | Honestly its a little weird that he felt that way, especially because you and his boss had a good meeting. Its not like you knew youd be meeting his boss either, he sounds kinda childish tbh. |
AITAH For not reminding my mom of my surgery? | On mobile, sorry for formatting.
I had a surgery last Tuesday (1/6), where everything went as planned. This surgery had been planned for 3 months and I had told my immediately family about it multiple times, as I needed someone to come stay with me over night the first night.
My grandmother (father’s mother) volun... | NTA
Your mother is more of an egg-donor than a mom. She hasn't put much into the mother/kid relationship, so there's little reason for you to offer her more information than she needs. I disagree with your grandmother. Keep people like your mother on an information diet. Just live your own life. |
AITAH for very bluntly telling my gf she shouldn't accept an instagram follow request from a stranger who was likely flirting with her? | I got a text from my girlfriend (we are long distance) that was kind joking said "tell me how to reject someone" with a bunch of skull emojis. I just said Lmao and asked what happened and she called, telling me some random guy at the grocery store complimented her hair, starting talking to her more and asking what she ... | Why was she even asking you? This is all so bizarre. |
AITAH for not responding to my dad? | (first post on reddit so if formatting is weird or there are errors i apologize. i also kind of suck at storytelling so bear with me if i accidentally go on a tangent)
i (22F) just had my birthday and while i was out at dinner my dad apparently called me and had left a voicemail. all the voicemail was was him singing ... | Reminder not to downvote assholes | This is simply a copy of the original text, it is not a sign you did anything wrong |
Original copy of post's text by /u/One-Birthday-6041: (first post on reddit so if formatting is weird or there are errors i apologize. i also kind of suck at storytelling so bear with me if i acci... |
AITAH for wanting to lick my girlfriend’s shoes/boots/heels? | This is a throwaway account for obvious reasons. So, I (20M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (19F) for a couple of months now. Overall, we’re very compatible. There is emotional chemistry.. we share similar values/principles, and we also have similar goals/plans for the future.
However, sexually, there’... | NTA. If you aren't compatible you aren't compatible. And part of that is the physical realtionship. |
AITAH for reporting my unhinged friend to the authorities? | Bare with me, this will be long... skip to the ⚠️⚠️ part if you want a quick read.
Maybe this doesn't add much to the main part of the story but i dont have anyone to talk to, so this is my way of kind of venting.
For a little context, this was my best friend for about 2 years. We met through a mutual church going ... | So, people can be dramatic when they talk. But saying off the woman coupled with everything else? That's definitely dangerous territory. |
AITAH My ex is waging a personal war on me through our kids and I’m tired of being treated like it’s “just co-parenting.” How us this happening? | I’m divorced. Two daughters. One is 18, one is 15. Their dad, "Chad", has decided that the best way to “move on” is to turn everyday parenting into a power contest with me.
He doesn’t yell at me in person. He does something better. He rewrites reality, delays basic decisions, dumps responsibility onto the kids, and the... | you know you're NTA right? maybe it'll be better if your daughters don't stay in their father's house while you guys settles things out... i feel like since that's how your ex behaves he may have given them trauma that you didn't even heard of until now. please prioritize safety of your kids. if he don't want to co-par... |
AITAH - Emotional Affair + His Addiction | I am opening myself up to a lot of criticism, but I need perspective...
- I got married at 18 and moved countries to be with my husband
- He treated me mostly well, but when I'd try to go out with friends and experience life a bit, he'd get controlling
- After 2 years he started name calling (sl*t, etc) and getting a... | Yikes. I’d just count it as a total loss and dip. Yes, you’re both the AH. You deserve to be with someone who will make you happy, but cheating is always a shitty thing to do. |
AITAH for feeling this way | I’m a 19-year-old female, and I turned 19 in late November 2025. I had plans to spend my birthday with my grandparents and my aunt, who I’ll call Ella (she’s 30). About a week before my birthday, Ella asked me what I wanted as a gift. She suggested a few ideas, like a gift card or going out to dinner. I chose a gift ca... | Speaking as someone in my 30’s, this is not the behavior of a mature adult. Nor one that has things together. I wouldn’t take it personally. It sounds more like a personal issue and not about you. Even her reaction to your gift was wildly immature. I wouldn’t take just attempt to match her energy. Not by making empty p... |
AITAH for no longer wanting closure from my ex? | I was with an ex for 2 months. I got incredibly attached, saw a future with them, and when it ended, I was devastated.
It took me about 2 years to genuinely heal and to be able to see things more objectively, rather than through rose colored glasses.
On December 8th, I sent a script that included everything I felt. E... | Wait, you dated someone for two months and then messaged them two years later about it? wanting closure?
Move on, lmao.
NTA, you're definitely a little weird though. |
Aitah cause I cared more about my privacy being leaked than thier hurt? | For context, I am F(17) and i have a bf, i went to him about my day and the what makes me sad or upset or my traumas. So recently my "friends", especially A and Z decided to go through my texts. Well to be exact, i logged in to my account from A's phone and i later told her to log out of it like few months back, then d... | This isn't a normal, respectful, or kind relationship.
Friends do not invade each other's privacy; friends don't publicly expose each other.
Change your passwords and keep these people at arms length. Protect yourself. |
AITAH for NOT changing a contact name that was a joke. | So for context I F23 and my boyfriend “chase” M25 have been off and on for the last 5 years. I cut off family and moved states to be with him when I was 18. Last year he moved back to our home state and left me in the new state with his family. And he was moved out and we were broken up for 10 months. He moved out the ... | Racoons in a dumpster |
AITAH crazy for thinking what my mom and sister are doing to the dog is abuse. | So my mom got us a dog when I was in about seventh grade. I’m in college now the dog was a Great Dane. and I love this dog the most out of my two other siblings. I was the one who really bonded with my dog. I would sleep with his dog I would go and walk with my dog, etc. His dog was my best friend the first few years
... | So the dog isn't even that old. I would bring the dog to the humane society and tell them you found the dog limping outside. This is abuse and the dog is obviously in pain. I'm guessing he/she is allergic to something in the house, could be the filth. Licking is a common symptom of allergies. They could have at least ... |
AITAH For financially cutting off my cousin. | Don't get me wrong he's been through a lot in life and I've been trying to get him right but he dropped out of college And than wasted his settlement money of around 50-75K on a hellcat. I told him before he got the money to get a nice Honda or something reliable and than get an apartment .
It's his money so it is wh... | NTA. He can sell the hellcat. |
AITAH for being mad at my mother for not replacing underwear when she ruined some of mine? Or for struggling with my mental health? | I'm 26F and my mother is 61F. We are forced to live together and do not get along at all. She's very toxic and always acts like I'm the problem and she's always right. She forces Christianity on me when she knows I'm not a Christian and always tells me I'm going to hell or that she should have put me up for adoption.
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AITAH For skipping church to study for an interview? | Hi, this is my first time posting on Reddit. I don’t post on here I only listen to stories on YouTube while getting ready so I’m not sure if I’m doing this right but need to know if I’m in the wrong. My (19F) fiancé (20M) got upset with me for skipping church to study for an interview. For some context I’ve been workin... | NTA! he wants to show a united front in church, yet is fine being disrespectful to you in private… that doesn’t seem right at all. the kicking of your shoes was unnecessary, and he’s not practicing the word of God that he is so persistent to get you to go listen too. He’s the AH. |
AITAH Friends friend convinced for assault | One of my close friends ex boyfriend/friend was convicted of very serious assault charges. I can’t go into detail, but he will at least stay in prison for up to 10 years and it was to do with a minor.
She is absolutely adamant that he is being falsely accused by this minor despite being convicted. Because of the sever... | NTA. She’s in denial or she’s an enabler.
People that commit sex crimes against children need to be jettisoned off this planet into the cold dark of space. |
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