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AITAH for telling this guy he needs mental help and blocking him on everything? | I had a good male friend for about two ish months. Or so I thought he was. I told him from the beginning all we would ever be was friends and that I was not looking to date him.
Well apparently this guy thought he could change my mind. We hung out two times in the couple of months I talked to him and he seemed pretty ... | NTA at all. This guy is deeply unwell and dangerous, and none of that is your responsibility. You didn’t cause his actions, you didn’t “break” him, and you don’t owe him access to you. Reaching out to your parents and friends and sending threats is terrifying. You handled it appropriately by cutting contact. Please tru... |
AITAH for ruining my boyfriend and his families social life | This requires quite a bit of background, so bear with me as I go through the context. Genuine novel of background, I don’t think I can cut anything to paint as clear a picture as possible.
To start, I (19F) met my ex friend group three years ago. The sequence was that I met two people, I will call them Leah and Mike, ... | I’m still hung up on Leah allegedly being gay but being in love with this guy for years??? |
AITAH for not returning photos to the bride and groom? | I am a beginner photographer, more of a hobby for a few years, but I have been doing some weddings. Anyways, this past fall I photographed a couple friend's wedding. Or so I thought they were. I have known him a few years and he not even one, so I was only charging the $50 for the entire thing. From the time I got ther... | Even though they are friends, you clearly had a contract with them with terms of payment and deliverables on your part. They're clearly not treating you like a friend, so it is time you act like this is business and keep to the terms of your contract: edited pictures upon receipt of $50 payment.
NTA! |
AITAH for telling a guy to delete himself after me followed me out of a bar | I (21 female) went to a metal concert, yesterday and afterwards went to rock bar with a few people I knew from the music scene. While we were there we met some other people from the concert and chatted with them. My friends all live in a different county an had to leave for the bus home, and I was left with the other p... | You set boundaries, he followed you, then weaponized suicide talk. You owe him nothing. Stay safe. |
AITAH for making my parents mad | I (f19) have just been living life normally and doing chores around the house, going to work ect. when doing some washing my parents got mad at me for no apparent reason. they new I was going to be doing all of my washing that day as I had told them in the morning. After that they have just been strangely mad at me. no... | Maybe they had a fight or something and instead of dealing with it themselves, they take it out on you?
Some people do that, especially if it´s about random and innocent things like you mentioned. |
AITAH For Not Approaching My Sister First After Finding Out She's Upset With Me? | Hi, this is an alt account since I have family on my main. I've never posted before so bear with me. Please be prepared for a lengthy and rushed post.
I (20F) have recently learned that my (25F) sister Anna is upset with me and that she wants to "distance herself from our relationship."
For some context, my sis... | NTA
Ignore all this manipulative shit. If your sister has something to say, she should say it to your face. |
AITAH for declining invite to birthday due to relationship issues with my ex | Hi all, am I the asshole because I (38f) declined an invitation to my Ex's (47m) best friend's child's 2nd year birthday party due to the breakdown of my relationship and the stress of putting on a rosy picture because my ex is demanding that.
For context my ex and I have broken up and i am raising our toddler by myse... | NTA. You did the mature and responsible thing by declining instead of risking drama at a toddler’s birthday party, and you do not owe anyone a performance of a relationship that no longer exists just to protect your ex’s image. You are already carrying the full emotional, financial and parenting load while being verbal... |
AITAH for telling my gf that worst case scenario we could die in a bushfire | My gf was trying to decide whether to stay or go during the bushfires, I told her I was going to stay and fight the fire but the equipment we had and the current conditions made the fire a serious threat and if she wanted to stay that she should be aware that there was a possibility that we could die. She got upset and... | She needs to grow up |
AITAH For wanting to breakup a friendship of 7 years? | Me and my friend have been close together since we could remember, but sometimes she just makes me on the verge of crying sometimes. I feel like I no longer can trust her anymore, because she lies about things all the time. For ex, one time she lied about having ADHD and autism, which made people baby her for almost 2 ... | NTA. The people you associate with are a reflection of the type of person you are. If you are not like her, I’d cut them lose giving me time to get over the situation. Yes, you invested a lot of time together but you don’t control her behavior. You control whether you’re around them or not. Best wishes. |
AITAH for giving my boyfriend a deadline to get a job or I’m breaking up with him? | I (23 F) have been supporting myself and my boyfriend (25 M) for 2 years now. We live together, and finances are extremely tight. I’ve been paying rent, bills, and covering most expenses while he has been unemployed. I’ve tried to be patient, understanding, and encouraging, because I know job searching can be hard.
I’... | You should have ended it two years ago. |
AITAH for distancing myself from my sister, even though she is pregnant? | Am I wrong for distancing myself from my sister even though she is pregnant?
I am 20 years old and live with my parents and my sisters. One of them, whom I will call Z, is 23 years old.
For many years there has been a constant conflict between us due to a repetitive behavior on her part: taking things that are not hers... | NTA, you aren't responsible for your sister's happiness, pregnancy or no pregnancy. |
AITAH for not wanting a relationship with my sister? | hi Reddit. This is my first time posting on here so I’m sorry if I don’t use the right wording for everything. obviously gonna use fake names for the post.
for a little background, i’m the youngest sibling of four kids. i’m 21, and my oldest sister is 27. growing up, our oldest sister didn’t want anything to do wit... | NTA!!! I'm kinda the same way with my dad except I left him on read on the last message he sent. If he wanted to talk to me then the call button is right there & he has to initiates it. He believes that everyone else has to initiate conversation with him all the time but when it comes to him looking like the victim he ... |
AITAH for feeling dismissed and hurt by my friends joking? | Sometimes like tonight, my friend got all upset we were when he like insulted us or snapped at us and said “I’m joking! I don’t mean it! Stop being a bitch/sensitive.” And then said it was a generational thing. (He’s born in the 80s I’m in the 2000s). I told him “it’s because when you do that it’s dismissive of how peo... | He does mean to be insulting, hurtful and disrespectful, and to get away with it because he passes it off as a joke. Once anyone has told you to shut the fuck up, any relationship with them is over. You may feel that you are super close to him, but he really doesn’t care about you. If he did he wouldn’t behave like thi... |
AITAH for advising my adult daughter to dump her boyfriend because he said she's pretty but not sexy ? | My (39f) daughter (18f) surprised me by asking me how to be sexy. I asked her if she wouldn't prefer talking to her friends about this but she said it has to be me. She said she wants to me sexy like me but she doesn't want to cut her hair. I was so confused.
I told her to start from the beginning. She said her boyf... | NTA, since when did short hair equal sexy? Also the fact that your husband said the "sexy woman" is the woman they just want to bang is really weird. First of all, this is his daughter he's talking about. Second of all, it's weird to act like sexual attraction isn't an important factor for the majority of relationships... |
AITAH if we kick a member out of a group because of his girlfriend even though he hasn't done anything to us directly? | Basically the title. I need the perspective of women in relationships and men.
Sorry, I’ll be a bit generalize a lot because one of the things we do when we get together is listen to Reddit stories while we eat or send posts to each other in the group chat. Even though it’s in Spanish, I don’t want them to come ac... | for feeling uncomfortable at all. I’d be annoyed too. But if you kick him out, you’re basically letting his gf control the group from the outside. You didn’t cross lines, he defended you, and the drama isn’t coming from you. I’d set boundaries, not nuke the friendship. |
AITAH for being uncomfortable around my fiancé’s disabled brother? | I know the title sounds horrid, but hear me out. I (female 30) and my fiancé (male 40) have been together for about a year and a half. When we met, he had just moved back to the area and was working on moving his mom and two brothers down with him. They are all disabled in one way or another. Because this was his plan ... | NTA. This is simply not a living arrangement that is going to work for you. You really shouldn’t be having to support three other grown adults in the first place.
And you’ve known them for like one year?!? And got engaged in less than a year?!?
This is craziness |
AITAH for breaking a friendship over bad hygiene | AITA? For months perhaps even years I’ve watched a friend of mine neglect their dental health so badly that I believe they have at least 5 cavities.
Let me explain. For months I’ve watched as they sit next to me ABSOLUTELY ANYWHERE as they constantly have their hand in their mouth picking at their teeth for majority o... | What a terrible day to be literate. |
AITAH for falling asleep while my husband doordashes? | I (F26) and husband (M24) go door dashing at night when I get off of work. My husband goes doordashing when I get into work. I work from home as CSR and I have second shift. He works with DoorDash from the time that I go into work to the time that I get out which I get off at 1 am. And for those who know how call cente... | NTA. It’s insane that he forces you to ride shotgun the entire time. |
WIBTAH if I cut off my annoying friend/ started a new server without him? | I (16 F) became friends with someone in one of my extracurriculars (17 M) a little bit into sophomore year. I'll call him Kyle. Kyle reached out to me via social media because of a funny post I made, and him being a bit eccentric and bold in reaching out made me want to hang out with him more. He was born in another co... | You’re 16. You have a long journey of making friends and ending friendships. Nta. Just start to distance your self, tell him you want space. Don’t apologize. You haven’t done anything wrong. You’re just enabling him by apologizing. When/if he starts to get all depressed just let him. Don’t engage anymore. And tell your... |
AITAH for hitting my cousin after she disrespected me | I (20F) and my cousin “Lexi” (18F) live in the same household and share a room. She’s known for having a short temper and saying whatever is on her mind, even when it’s hurtful. I usually ignore it to keep the peace.
A few weeks ago, I was away for the weekend visiting my aunt. I was expecting an important work packag... | Why isn't she living with her own family?
NTA
Why do your parents tolerate her? |
AITAH for cutting this guy off for asking people inappropriate questions about me? | So, I (19F) have some older friends that wanted to try and set me up with one of their mutual friends (22M) from the military. I obliged because I have been single for quite a while and even though I love meeting new ideas and am open to the idea of meeting new people I choose to be single for personal reasons.
My fri... | NTA at all!! Always trust your gut! Good job doing the right thing! |
AITAH for proposing to my gf w/out her brother's blessing since im only her fb | throwaway because everyone that will be mentioned in this story knows my main and this story is a bit long and names had been changed. with that, I, a 25 year old man WAS married once but did not work out for many reasons that I will not elaborate, but one of them is my ex wife is an emotionally abusive woman. After ge... | Why are you even asking that? Her brother is an AH and she said yes. Why are you so worried about what her abusive brother thinks? |
AITAH for forgetting my fiancés deceased son’s birthday? | So yesterday would have been my husbands deceased sons birthday. I usually remember special dates, like birthdays and the date a loved one passes. However, it’s usually for people I know or knew personally. His son died 10 years ago, so sadly, I never got to meet him. My fiancé reminded me as we were going to bed, that... | When you lose a child, it feels like everyone has forgotten about their existence. Reassure him that this wasn’t purposeful and ask for forgiveness for forgetting. Then ask him if he’d be comfortable sharing some memories of him. Also ask how you can help him grieve. Ask what you could do to comfort him on these hard ... |
AITAH for ending a Monopoly game with my partner early due to their obnoxious attitude the entire time while playing? Isn’t there a fine line between friendly competition & sore sport? | So tonight, I 27F, tried to play a game of Monopoly with my partner, 48M. I was super excited initially as I have not played that in a while and it’s one of my favorite childhood games!
However from the second we started, before either of us had ever even rolled he got obnoxiously competitive.
I am talking neither h... | This whole post reads like 16 and 19, not 27 and 48 |
AITAH for being angry at my brother for inviting over my ex-friend who treated me badly? |
So basically, I (19F) is staying with my mother (55F) and my brother (21M). I’m only home about less than half the year because I’m at university, so I’m mostly here during breaks.
My brother became friends with a girl named Laura (19F) right after she and i stopped beeing friends. She used to be my friend, but we ha... | " I would’ve gone back to my apartment early, but my birthday is planned for Saturday, so I can’t leave yet." .. you can. And you should.
Stand up for yourself, and leave?
NTA |
AITAH for Not Wanting a Part in My Sister's Wedding for her Second Marriage? | My youngest sister (late 20s) finalized her divorce in early 2025, and got engaged to her partner (late 20s) of 1.5 years at the end of Dec 2025. Her fiance is nice, abundantly patient, financially responsible, and has jumped into bonus parenthood of her kids - I have no objections to them getting married and I'm genui... | The only people obligated to rearrange their entire life for a wedding are the people getting married. Your sister sounds insufferable. NTA |
AITAH for not letting my friend room with me? | At the time I was 32 years old. Let's call my friend Tina, she's 5 years older then me. We first met while being roommates during DragonCon 2018, been roomies for 3 years.
If you don't know what DragonCon is, it's a huge fandom convention for us nerds. I been attending since 2013.
Tina, & I got a long great. We ha... | Paragraphs are a wonderful thing |
AITAH for telling how I felt | So after many years of science I wrote to my ex friend and I was not nice, a little background, I had this friend years back that I met trough gaming we knew eachother for a decade online we talked almost daily and we had similar interests, however through the years he has been somewhat toxic and condescending with me.... | Why reach out to someone like this in the first place?? You just told him he was still relevant in your life. If it's been years, let to go! |
AITAH BY TELLING MY EX/BABY DADDY HE NEEDS TO BREAK UP WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND AND GO YO THERAPY?? | So me (f24) and my ex- fiance (m25) broke up when our son was 3 months old. It was difficult break up, he wasn't ready to be a father due to past traumas and the fact he thought he would never be a great father.
Before getting pregnant we were madly in love, life was good. We worked in the same place, and lived a hap... | Yes, YTA for even considering having him be part of your life. And caring who he is dating and how mentally damaged he is.
Fun fact, you can block him without cutting off his family. I'd recommend it. |
AiTAH for being annoyed that I’m not getting a new cell phone after all? | So I (24M) am on the family cell phone plan but I reimburse my parents on a monthly basis for my share of it, and I own my phone outright. I’ve been obsessed with phones since I was a kid, and I’ve always looked forward to getting new ones.
I hadn’t thought about a new one in quite some time as I figured no point In ... | You're 24. It's time to get your own phone plan and make these decisions for yourself. |
Aitah for reporting my elderly neighbour for SA | Saturday afternoon 2pm, I was expecting my mate Chelsea to come round, get a knock at the door and yell out for her to come in.
No response- so I walk to door and open it to my 78yo Greek neighbour with a tomato and cucumber from his garden.
He handed me the vegetables then said “can I have your phone number”
I w... | I wonder how many times someone has just brushed this guy off. I doubt (unless he has some sort of recent brain trauma ie a stroke) that this behavior just started.
I'm saying this next thing to reassure you not to minimize. I don't think he is going to break into your house a rape you. I think you are relatively safe... |
AITAH for exposing a former friends dark secrets? | So I’m wondering, AITAH after exposing a former friend and the fact that she was an absolute pathological liar. I had met this former friend through one of my longtime childhood friends, and she was very charismatic and we hit it off quite well. We enjoyed hanging out together and would frequently take out her only chi... | once someone fakes licenses, dead ppl, and heritage, the friendship NDA is void. that’s not tea, that’s fraud-adjacent. |
AITAH for getting upset over labels | My boyfriend (54M) of 1.5 y went to a bar alone today that we've frequented together. When the bar tender asked "where's your girlfriend" he replied "we don't do labels, we have fun and hang out. She's out of town and will be back next week." AITAH for getting upset that he's denied our relationship?
As he was tel... | If he calls you his girlfriend in private but calls you a bit of fun in public, that's not your boyfriend.
NTA but I'd peace out. He either doesn't respect you or is trying to appear single to get attention from other women. Probably both. |
AITAH for calling out a pay gap at work in front of everyone? | I’ve been working at the same company for several years and have always had a good, professional relationship with my coworkers, but something happened recently that made things really uncomfortable. During an informal conversation at work, the topic of salaries came up and one of my coworkers mentioned how much he mak... | Entirely appropriate. Only the bosses win when salaries are taboo conversation. That's why your boss came down so hard. The answer is to talk more, not less.
I would suggest that you do it in smaller groups, no sense getting yelled at more, but definitely do it.
NTA |
AITAH For Wanting My Fiancé To Stop Watching Porn - NSFW | I 22F am engaged to a 31M. we’ve been together for about three years now. I have never been in a serious relationship and I went into this relationship as a virgin. TLDR at the bottom.
A few months after we started dating Ray (fake name) said he had an addiction to porn. I asked him if he could start trying to stop (a... | “I 22F am engaged to a 31M. we’ve been together for about three years now”
🤦♂️ |
Aitah for not talking to my parents about what and how I will get when they pass? | I am the last living child of my parents. My brother died and left 5 children now I have helped out where and when I can. However the death did make them tell about the trust they set up I know very little and have ask to know very little about who and how much. My family has almost been torn apart by death money that ... | NTA. It's not yours until they die. They may change how they want to distribute it. |
AITAH for telling my husband to start making his own food? | So for context I am 26F and my husband is 29. We have been married for 3 years and we have a great relationship. Yes we have our problems but nothing that we haven't been able to overcome. Normally I am the one who makes breakfast, lunch, and dinner for us. For the past month I have been noticing that my husband will n... | Could he be ill? It is very strange.... |
AITAH for being friends with my friend's ex? | So my friends, lets call them Ryan and Addie. Ryan and Addie were dating for a few months and a cute couple. We're in high school and they seemed to be sweethearts until Ryan broke up with Addie because he liked someone else. At first i was mad at Ryan and thought he was a jerk until he explained himself a bit more and... | NTA.
Once you get past your high school years, your social circle will expand significantly which will allow you to find better friends.
FWIW: Ryan certainly plays into the drama a lot for a guy. You may regard him as a “friend” but you shouldn’t trust him. |
AITAH for screaming at my neighbor after she called animal control on my dog for barking during the day while I'm at work? | My dog barks a lot when I'm at work but always calms down by the evening. Today I got a call from animal control saying my neighbor reported him and I lost it. I went over and ended up screaming at her telling her to mind her business and that my dog isn’t neglected. She looked shocked and now I feel like maybe I overr... | Geez man "My dog barks all day but calms down in the evening" - yah, sounds like you are a problem. You just expect your neighbors to listen to that shit all day long? |
AITAH for asking my friend to delete a photo of me she posted without permission? | I recently found out that my friend posted a photo of me on her social media without asking me first.
The photo was taken at a small hangout with friends. I wasn't expecting pictures to be posted, and honestly I didn't like how I looked in it. It wasn't a bad or inappropriate photo, but it just made me uncomfortable t... | OK - but if friends are telling you to "let it go", it leads me to think that it went beyond a single simple request to remove the photo.
Regardless, you asked, and she responded - a real friend would have had your back and just deleted the photo.
NTA. |
AITAH for not knowing where a fitted sheet was that I washed? |
My husband(H) and I(both in early 40's) have been married for 14yrs and have 4 kids ages 3-12. He works in tech and I'm a SAHP. I do all the the house cleaning and cooking while my husband does all the laundry, and washes dishes when he's home.
Backstory: My two sister's stayed with us for a couple days over New Year... | It's exhausting just READING this conversation.
Here's how a healthy version of this would sound:
H: Do you have any idea where daughters fitted sheet is?
M: It's in the laundry room. In a basket.
H: Gotcha, let me go check the baskets.
End of conversation. If he still can't find it, you look for it together. His ... |
AITAH for draining water from my plants onto my neighbor's roof? | I water some flowerpots from my garden daily, and some of the water drips over from my balcony onto my neighbor's rooftop. Since his house and roof are very poorly kept and he moved in recently, he has some infiltration issues on his porch (that also happen with normal rainfall) and asked me to stop watering the plants... | Nah you’re not some evil plant villain lol but you should’ve stopped the water instead of fixing his roof. That kinda backfired. He sounds paranoid and messy. Best solution is simple trays or moving the pots so nothing drips over. Peace > being right. |
AITAH for not caring when my parents drop their past traumas. | There’s been times where my parents have lectured me but always find someway to involve themselves into the lecture saying me and my sister are the only family they have and start talking about the way their family members have treated them in the past. Personally, I can’t find myself to show any sort of empathy toward... | Fuck 'em.
that said, for your own sake to keep getting money from them, I'd dial it down a bit and throuw out a few "Oh that's terrible" and so on. |
AITAH for asking my daughter to endure my boyfriend during her birthday? | Hello Reddit! I (47F) have been in a relationship with my partner (54M) for 10 years now and I want to specify that I am using the term "boyfriend" in the title purely for legal reasons, we are not legally or religiously married, but refer to each other as husband and wife and, overall, see ourselves this way. We also ... | Your daughter shouldn’t have to endure something she doesn’t want on *her* birthday. YTA |
WIBTAH for quietly cutting off my friend? | Hi, i’m on moble so sorry for any bad formatting. ill provide a bit of backstory.
I (17M) had a boyfriend who I’ll call Joey (17M). He broke up with me in October, saying it wasn’t that he didn’t like me but that he felt he wasn’t adequate. I was heart broken for a week or two before pulling myself together. At first ... | Man, nah, you wouldn’t be the asshole. Honestly, it’s not even about Joey at this point, it’s about trust. If she straight up believed their version instead of checking with you, that says a lot. Sometimes people just… aren’t really friends, you know? Ghosting might be the cleanest way to protect yourself. |
AITAH for not wanting my mom at my wedding? | \[There will be a TLDR at the end\]
Backstory: growing up I (26m) was always closer to my dad than my mom. I was one of four sibling but the only one from both my mom and dad. It wasn’t like my dad treated my siblings any different from me. When my brother had cancer my dad would drive him to appointments 6+ hours awa... | NTA dude, she is already ruining a hypothetical wedding of her own creation. How much more of a red flag do you need? |
AITAH for judging my boyfriend for sharing his underwear? | ok so we’re taking about how his dog keeps chewing up all this shoes, and i ask him- why don’t you close your door? he says “my brother keeps leaving it open” and i’m like well why is he even in there to begin with and he says “to get underwear”…… i immediately start teasing him because its kids gross in my opinion. Un... | NTA - Sharing underwear is fucking weird, full stop. |
AITAH for cutting my sister out of my life | Hello reddit, I'll apologize in advance as even I don't know where to start from and don't even know if this is the correct sub. I'll be happy to answer any question in the comments if something is not clear. This is my point of view and I am aware that I am currently talking through emotions and it can be biased, I'll... | NTA she needs to be sober much longer than 30days to have any chance at recovery. I am a child of 2 addicts. That behavior does not change in 30days. She has abused and broken your trust. Do not feel bad for cutting her out. There is absolutely nothing you or anyone else can do to help her if she does not want to help ... |
AITAH because I called my brother in law out on facebook | I (34f) want to know if AITAH
Ok so about 3 years ago my fil (65m) died. He called my husband (36m) and told him that if he didn't get a kidney transplant that the Dr's gave him a week to live. He told us that he was choosing to die alone and to not come. He had always said he didn't want to be a burden in death and w... | I certainly think you were right to ask for some clarification of all that. |
AITAH for telling my mom about something that I was told about by my dad? | I (22 F) and my dad was on the phone talking about how his girlfriends daughter wanted a new dog but she isn’t taking care of the one she has because my cousin let’s call her Maya posted about it and my dad said he didn’t know that Maya would have anything to do with the person or that side of her family.
Because let’... | Well, I'm pretty sure this one isn't AI, folks. |
AITAH for telling my best friend that I'm sick of hearing about her boyfriend? | Throw away account but long time reader. My (35F) best friend Sarah (36F) has developed a new relationship with her boyfriend Adam (40M).
They're both divorcees and have children of their own. I've known Sarah since college and we've stuck like glue, her youngest son (5) and mine (6) are best friends. We've never rea... | NTA
Anyone who invites a third on a trip that is supposed to be just two is always the AH.
Honestly, I would have said something a lot sooner about the dirty talk in the GC, no one wants to hear that shit. |
AITAH for taking back an invitation for my brother and his girlfriend to stay with us because he told me his girlfriend has a criminal record? | My wife and I invited my brother, who I haven't seen in a while, and his girlfriend, who we haven't met yet, to stay with us for a week. During this week we would be able to catch up with him and get to know the girlfriend. All of us were excited and looking forward to it. Last week he called me and told me that he kne... | NTA. What's surprising is your brother's girlfriend appears to care more about your comfort level having her in your home than your brother does. She's the one who pushed him to tell you she had a record.
However, his reasons for refusing to say *what* she was convicted of are unclear. Is the GF reluctant to say, or y... |
Aitah for not speaking to my dad or his partner anymore despite my siblings | I apologize for the length of this and I’m gonna do my best to be as clear and short as possible but some details are definitely important. I (21F) refuse to talk to my stepdad. So I guess let’s start back when it really started. In August of last year my parents split after 16 years of marriage. He swears he never che... | NTAH drunk driving with you in the car is a seriously dangerous situation. You need to prioritize your peace and safety, putting up boundaries and having low/no contact with him is perfectly reasonable, don’t let anyone tell you what to feel when it comes to your relationship with your dad and how you respond to his be... |
AITAH for not “helping” him? | My bf (35M) and i (38F) have been together almost 3 years. Our whole relationship he has had issues where he confirmed from the beginning he would be seeking professional help for.
After a few months of dating, he would insist he needed time to do it bc of bigger issues he needed to handle at the time.
About a year... | It’s manipulation. He’s a grown ass man and you are not his mother. |
AITAH for inviting friends over without telling my roommate who has OCD ? | Alright, dumb question tbf, of course I'm an asshole for not telling them sooner but here's what happened. I've been living with my friend and roommate for a few months now (we've known each others for a year). They have OCD, pretty wild OCD even. Having someone over at our apartment means they gotta touch nothing, sit... | This person should not be living with others. They also need serious help. And you are doing a disservice to yourself by making excuses for them.
ESH |
AITAH for not giving my mom my bank account credentials? | I'm 19M and I've opened a bank account recently. Now, my mom's been very controlling for a long time and wants me to share every personal information with her. I am against this idea. There should always be a boundary and I just don't wanna tell her everything happening in my life.
Now today, I had to set my debit car... | She is wrong and bad. Keep your account info private. If you have to you could open an account in a different bank/different name and location and do not tell her anything. Clearly you cannot trust her. Do not give her your new info. She is obviously intending to take your money for herself - selfishly, but also with N... |
AITAH for not saying hi | Ok so first a little back story. My bf has a little girl who has recently started getting her hair braided. I love this little girl like my own. Her and her hair braider get along very well she comes over to our house and they play when they are done, she loves kids and I think that's great. Last time for some reason m... | NTA - I find it a bit weird he refers to the hair braider as "her stepmom". That's.... Not funny? Like, this whole situation smells like the ocean because it's so damn fishy. |
Aitah for not trying in my relationship (according to my partner) | This one is going to be a bit long.
I 21f and my boyfriend 20m have been together for 3 years. Our relationship started off pretty good until I moved in with him and his family. His dad was and still is one of the most narcissistic and stubborn people that I met. He would always pick on me and my boyfriend would have t... | Oh no, honey…run, just run.
You’re only in your 20s and he already been physical and aggressive with you? People can change, don’t get me wrong, but they need to WANT to change and he’s very direct about not seeing anything wrong with his behaviour. This can’t end well. *Maybe* someday he will wake up and become a bet... |
AITAH for „forcing“ my friend to break up with her bf? | Long story short: My friend(18) had a pregnancy scare and her boyfriend acted completely out of line so I(17) spoke up and she decided to break up with him and he and his friends along with some of me and my friends‘ mutuals are calling me jealous and lonely and whatnot.
For the sake of this story I’ll call my friend... | NTA. His behavior was coercive and abusive. Forcing someone to take unnecessary Plan B five days later? That's not stress, that's control. You didn't force anything, you gave your friend the reality check she needed. |
Am I wrong???? AITAH | Soooo I’m married. My husband has a daughter that just turned 14 years old today. He talks to her and does for her. Her mom is SORRY AF and dates a stud who is even sorrier. I’m pretty sure if it wasn’t for us, she wouldn’t have had a Christmas. I’m not even going to make a big deal about how he goes out of his way to ... | Yes you are in the wrong. YTA. |
AITAH for thinking about letting someone new into my life while being a single mom? | A few weeks ago, someone new came into my life. I want to be clear that I haven’t crossed any boundaries or started a relationship, but this is the first person who has really listened to me and understood me without judging. He respects my child, accepts my past, and never makes me feel less than for being a mom. His ... | 9 days ago you posted about your husband.
Now you’re dating a guy that came into your life a few weeks ago. Like, a few weeks ago you were posting about your struggles in your marriage with a new baby.
To be fair, I don’t believe any of your posts. They are written so…strangely. |
AITAH for ghosting my best friend after finding out what her parents said about my mom after my dad died? | I (26F) have been friends with L (23F) for over 10 years.
To give some background we met abroad when I was asked to show her family around our school, since we spoke the same language and they didn’t know English at the time. There’s obviously an age gap here, but even though we weren’t in the same grade our families ... | You said it yourself. It’s not fair to your friend.
Her mom might be a terrible person (which has likely been awful for L her whole life), but L has never once given you a reason to doubt her.
Your worries are understandable, but unfounded. Until you know L has participated in the gossip/slander/judgement, you are t... |
AITAH for not wanting to have the heat turned up for my roomate's health? | I'm in school right now, and have 5 roomates, we've been living together since September. Around November, fights started happening around the thermostat. We would find the heat at 75 or 80 degrees when it wasn't even below 0 outside (for context, we live in Canada. Yes, winters can be pretty extreme, but I'm used to l... | NTA
But sounds like you need to find new roommates before next winter.
I cannot stand the house being above 68 during the day (and that’s even pushing it for me) and it’s down at 60 at night just so I can sleep. I get major health issues having it too warm.
Edited to remove a random word that didn’t belong |
AITAH for telling my family about my mom using Ozempic | Hey there!
This happened at Christmas and I just can’t seem to let it go so I thought some judgement on the internet might help make up my mind lol
So a little backstory:
I (f, mid 20’s) have always been kind of chubby, did all kinds of dumb diets as a teen but could never seem to keep the weight off for long. The ... | Ok...I view this as you finally snapping. Her recent comments being the straw that finally broke the camel's back. Yes you *can* think it is valid and is also a cheat code...not all cheat codes are bad. There is no reason for me to punch a calculator multiple times when a simple Excel formula would do.
If she does no... |
AITAH for calling my husband a heartless monster | Hi everyone I 34f have 4 kids and I had the fourth last year in early December 12.
I was 40weeks when I went into what I thought was labour, when my husband 40m (Brandon) and I got to the hospital we were told it was a false alarm, this was on the 11th around 7am. Then this happened again and this time I waited it out... | You left your husband over this and want to get divorced.
This is already beyond our paygrade, if this is even true. |
AITAH for posting my availability on LinkedIn after being stalled for a promotion twice? | I work at XYZ in Accounts Receivable. In August, I informed HR and my Director that I'll be earning my MS, and I'd like to pursue a raise or promotion, given that a co-worker of equal tenure and less educational background was given Senior in July/August.
I was informed to finish the MS, and to check back. I did so, a... | NTA, but you know what the score is now. You're not going to get promoted. |
AITAH for not leaving my Dnd group? | I (26M) and a night owl and love to play dnd so fu\*\*ing much (Idk if I can curse here or not) and with a group of friends over Discord, each one of us lives in different countries btw. We’ve been playing together for over a year now, and when we have sessions it usually lasts 4–6 hours. We start around 10pm and usual... | NTA
You have the right to have a Hobby.
You don't have to spend every spare free moment with her. |
AITAH for throwing away a baby’s dummy I found on the floor at work? |
I (F 22) work in a food retail environment.
Last night while cleaning the floor at the end of my shift, I found a baby’s dummy lying on the ground. It was dusty and clearly had been stepped on. Because I work in a food setting and the item was unhygienic, I threw it in the bin.
Today, a woman came in asking if anyon... | NTA it was left behind and was dirty, I'm not sure why she'd expect you to keep it for her. |
AITAH for calling my mum a hypocrite and exploding at my dad? | Hi, this will be a long one because I feel like context is necessary.
I (26F) have been working away the last week due to the snow that fell in the UK so I decided to stay closer to work because of my shifts. While away, apparently my mum (50F) caught my sister (20F) smoking vapes and uncovered that this has been hap... | You’re working yourself ragged your fiancé doesn’t have the luxury to be waiting for the right job. He needs to get any job. You’re shouldering a lot right now. The first thing you need to do cut your hours. Your fiancé gets a job and start pulling his weight. |
AITAH - Ive (32F) changed what I initially wanted with my husband (33M) | Married 8 years together 10. Initially I was on the trad wife wave, said to my husband I’d like to be home with the kids be a home maker but once we had kids. We’re both quite ambitious people.
Had our first baby in 2023, second 2025. Unfortunately I had quite bad PPD which required a hospital admission for about 2 m... | Youre allowed to change your mind. What a crazy thing to ask. People change their minds all the time. You don't have to stick with something you wanted 10 years ago. NTA |
AITAH for not telling my ex best friend my mom died? | For context this was a person my for lack of a better term best friend for over 10 years. It all started when her mom died last year and I attended the funeral. Things felt a bit off and I thought I was just imagining it. We spent the night before the funeral on a 3 hour long video call. It was to distract her and she ... | Why in the world would she ask for your bank details if she was there to see your mom? Doesn’t seem like your mom was a priority for her. Put it and her out of your mind for good. |
AITAH for refusing to move abroad with my boyfriend? | Hi everyone, I'll be using fake names for anonymity. I'm wondering if I'm really an asshole. My friends and family say no, and that I should take things at my own pace, while his side says I'm a traitor. My boyfriend, Dustin, and I have been together for two years. We live in a country where men are currently banned fr... | **EDIT**
NTA
I would NOT move overseas with a person I wasn't married to.
You could leave & they you'd both break up. |
AITAH for talking to someone that is mad at me | So, background I (M16) and ex-friend (F15) who we'll call A had a big falling out over something. So freshman year of high-school we were really close and I thought of A as my best friend. Then during summer break I was on a Discord call with A and another friend, and this other friend after some joking around said "Th... | At this point A has proven they are not a real friend. Real friends do not refuse to communicate or hide things from you, let alone gang up on you and say hurtful things to you or about you. Sometimes in life, people will change how they treat you and you won’t always get an explanation, but again, that just proves the... |
AITAH for asking my dad what his freaking problem is with my girlfriend | I’ve always had a great relationship with my father but lately it feels like he’s lost his freaking mind. It all started a few weeks before Christmas he asked for me and my girlfriends wish lists which my girlfriend provided and a few days after he has a talk with me about some things on there that he was confused abou... | This isn’t really anything to do with your gf they are transphobic and wanted a reason to cut you off and your gf is collateral damage so they don’t look bad. Return the favour and block them. You don’t need that in your life. Plenty of people within the lgbtq community can hold prejudices against others. |
AITAH for wanting to break up with my “boyfriend” | So as the title says, AITAH for wanting to break up with my “boyfriend”?
So here is my situation:
Basically I been talking to a boy (he is my classmate and in the same friend group as I) and he was really kind and supportive in a crazy situation/kind of hard time. In that time he told me that he liked me and even tho... | Esh, you never should have agreed if you had no feelings for him. Break up now, explain that you are struggling and adding him in is too much. Are you in therapy? Seeing a dr for your mental health? If not, please reach out to a counselor at school and tell them you are struggling. |
AITAH for asking for a day to myself? |
So I’m 2 months postpartum. I had a c-section and have had prior mental health problems so the chance of me getting ppd is really high. I’ve expressed this to my baby dad (who I live with, but we are not in a relationship) but he really doesn’t seem to care.
I give him days and nights where he doesn’t take the baby... | NTA
Make up enough formula for a day. Give baby to Daddy and head to your Moms for the night. |
Update! AITAH For refusing to get married to my fiance until she proves herself me? | UPDATE!
Thank you everyone for your comments. Its been a month since I last posted. A lot of stuff happened since then. Right now im sitting at a bar trying to drown my stupidity. Im not sure where to begin. I called her on her bullshit. We got into a fight about her behavior. After that it seemed she started changing... | And everyone clapped. |
AITAH for emotionally distancing myself from my sister after she backed out of my commencement to attend a bachelorette trip? | I (mid-20s F) am graduating from university soon, and my commencement has been planned for a long time.
Almost three years ago, when my younger sister planned a trip to visit me, my older sister told me she wouldn’t come on that trip because she wanted to save her visit for my commencement instead. Since then, she has... | I think its natural for anyone that's been hurt by someone to pull back somewhat, a totally normal response. NTA, she hurt your feelings. |
AITAH if I told my husband that I feel like I’m a single parent | So, let me get into a little back story here. My husband started an LLC and his job calls for him to be gone three weeks in another state and he is only home one week in the month. I have a full-time job and I take care of our child a long with our chicken farm. He makes a lot more money than I do. And he pays for the ... | NTA - This relationship isnt going to work. For the obvious neglect and financial abuse. |
AITAH for exposing bullies online but not reading the room well enough | Exposed bullies now I'm being reported
Reported for exposing bullies online. What should I do?
For context I am autistic, struggle with social cues so am a bit unique, but this doesn't excuse anything it's just important to bear in mind
I was clubbing and wanted to film myself, I set up phone on floor (as was only ... | > I noticed she went over to her friends and 2 of them were whispering and laughing at me. I am neurodivergent, and I assumed they were judging me
First of all, this entire situation began with you making a negative assumption about them without any real information. You have no idea what they were saying or why they ... |
AITAH for blaming my dad for causing my English grade to drop? | So I (M15) asked my father (M46) to buy me a book for my English class on the 9th of January. I then proceed to ask for a follow up on the 12th since the book is due the 14th; he tells me that he will order it “now”. I then asked him today if he ordered it for me but then he said “Shit, \[insert name\] why didn’t you r... | Honestly, you did your part by asking multiple times, your dad dropping the ball shouldn’t tank your grade. Sounds like he needs to step up, not gaslight you. |
AITAH for not going to work on my first day off in weeks? | Sorry for the bad English it’s my 4th language
So I am a 21 year old college student and I’m paying for my college alone, my dad is dead and mom abandoned me years ago for her new family.
I have this weird job at our local hospital where basically I’m a caregiver for patients who can’t be left alone, think suicide... | NTA and check your coworkers on their shit. Be cold if you gotta, tell them if they have a problem with what shifts you cover then you’ll let management know to contact them from now on. |
AITAH for wanting my partner to go to rehab & recovery center after? | My husband has been addicted to kratom for over a year. There have been lies after lies about how much he was taking. We started a taper plan but he has changed the plan multiple times and while I thought I was in control of the pills there were always some hidden that I found. Now it seems like he is genuinely trying ... | As a recovering addict I just want to say this....we all think we can do it ourselves. We can't. In the past I had tried multiple times to detox at home, but with access to money, phone, vehicle etc, when the detox gets to its peak and you're shitting and puking all at the same time nothing will stop you from getting w... |
AITAH in this situation? | So, about a few months ago I was in a relationship. But I ended it because I still had PTSD from the last one (but I never told them I had PTSD till about a month on) so I'm curious if I'm the asshole here | Not the a**hole ptsd can be crippling although i think u should tell them why u ended it maby they would understand the worst thing is never giving giving urself a chance to find out what could of been taking that leap can be hard but worth it in the end, just be honest with them if they are willing to take things slow... |
WIBTAH if I went against my boyfriend's wishes and got my tongue pierced? | This post will be blunt but this has been a topic in our relationship for a very long time. I (18F) already have 7 piercings on my face alone, I met my boyfriend (20M) when I was an emo 14 year old with snakebites & an eyebrow piercing so he knew what he was getting into and is alternative himself but he absolutely hat... | I mean, NTA. If he finds piercings so distasteful you’d think he’d be dating someone who feels the same way. Like if he’s just going to give you grief and make you feel bad about the piercing who needs that negative energy? |
AITAH for not wanting to pay for my boyfriends recovery | Being vague so as not to identity anyone in this story…..
TW// mentions of drug abuse
Over the last few years my boyfriend (M30) has been in and out of rehab for drug addiction, I (F28) love him dearly but it’s been a hard road for us all. He was doing well for a bit but a death in the family turned everything on its... | NTA
At what point do you draw a line and realize he has taken so much from you? You willingly chose to put your life on hold but at what point do you say, enough is enough? |
AITAH for wanting to move out when Im 18? | So Im 17 Female, I lived with my adopted parents, I have only been adopted for 4 years. They are better then what my bio parents where but are still strict. They come home from a concert today. Its 10 at night and I get up to see what they are yelling about. Apparently I didn't do my chores. I did. I always do. I do al... | You concentrate on your education so you can get a successful career and support yourself financially |
AITAH for saying 'im in love with an artist' | I'll do my best to keep this as short as well and this is a throwaway because my boyfriend knows my main.
On Friday I 24 F was at a birthday party with my boyfriend 28M 'Oscar' my friend and I were talking about music and we have fairly similar taste so I asked her if she knows said artist and she said she never heard... | I’d considered it good riddance at this point. He sounds like a teenager, not a full grown man. |
AITAH for free gas | For pumping a $10 of gas into my tank because I think someone chose the wrong number I mean I looked around for awhile before doing so then just said f it maybe the person before me said pay it forward but then as I was leaving I think the couple next to me was wondering why their gas wasn’t working | Lmao a bit but not really if you thought someone was just paying it forward. I would have asked them in your situation though. People putting 10 dollars in a tank usually dont have more money for gas. I’ve been there. |
AITAH for attending job interviews to brush up my interview skills | So my sister is contemplating to find her next job (she is now on her 1st job ever in her life which she get thru recommendation from college/University),and she feels that she do not have the confidence to excel in her job interviews. She is quite an introvert and not that good in talking.
I told her that from my exp... | interviewers waste hundreds of people's times. it's ok |
AITAH for halfassing computer support for one group | I (F43) do first level IT-Support in my workplace. If someone has computer problems I assess the issue, try all the usual tricks and if necessary report the problem to the real IT-department.
We have three work groups and I work in group B (normal deskjob, the IT Support is an additonal task so that the real IT doesn’t... | Justified AH. Standard workplace bullshit but if they are mocking you to your face you should let someone know. |
AITAH for leaving my dirty underwear on his toiletry bag? | Hi everyone, I’m new to posting on Reddit and ran into a situation that I have been conflicting over the past day and my eyes are just so puffy from crying and I feel alone. I just need to know if I deserved what happened and want some more clarity on this situation.
I (25F) recently started dating my boyfriend (23M) ... | Wow your BFs brother/cousin really is jealous of the time you spend with his brother.... Hair, if they have a mother, is something they should be able to deal with.
Dude definitely found a pair of your underwear somewhere to plant to make this into a bigger thing because he found no hair this time.
\*I got Dan and St... |
WIBTAH if I told my flatmate not to cook at midnight? | So I’m in a brand new flatshare (moved in 15 days ago) and my room is right off the living room / kitchen and the walls are super thin so I can everything that happens outside my room with crystal clarity. Closing the door does not help - it’s like I’m sitting in the kitchen/living room when someone is in there.
So, ... | White noise machine. Earplugs. Maybe even just a fan would help.
It’s unfortunate, but you did know she cooked late already, so this isn’t new behavior or a surprise. |
AITAH for getting mad at my partner? | Okay so for context, he really wanted a child, I was unsure since I was just starting a new job and didn’t have much money. He owned his own company making pretty good money so he told me we would be okay. I worked until the day I went into labour. He almost mist the birth cause he was working. Then I went on maternity... | This sounds like a bigger issue than just a “AITAH” .. |
WIBTAH if I didn’t tell my parents I was moving till last minute like day of or day before | I (19F) feel absolutely like shit right now trying to figure out how I’m gonna deliver the news to my parents about the fact that I have a place to stay now. Honestly panicking about the whole thing and wondering whether I’d be in the wrong or not if I did that. I was thinking of being straight up about the situation b... | NTA. Go to the National Domestic Violence website and look up how to plan to leave safely. Get your important documents out first. You don't have to tell them til you're gone if you don't feel safe. Do it when they are not home. Get a friend to help you. You can even ask for a police escort to help you get ypur things ... |
WIBTAH for moving home knowing that my mom and I are going to constantly fight about food | I got laid off from my job as a software engineer about a year ago and am about to run out of EI. I haven't been able to find anything in my field after applying to thousands of jobs across all levels, industries, and locations. I've tried anything from mass applying, to customizing with LLMs, to hand writing resumes a... | *it's hard to even buy my own things without them going bad or being contaminated.*
...what? Why? A mini fridge and lots of plastic would probably help keep your food safe |
AITAH for being upset that my girlfriend isn’t going to the dance with me? | Some background information, I (F) (not using ages but we’re both in high school and nobody in this story is a freshman) have been dating my girlfriend (let’s call her Rosie) for ten months now. This is neither of our first relationship, although I’m not sure that matters.
This past October, it was homecoming season. ... | Did either of you ever officially ask each other to go? I lean towards ESH. You shouldn't just assume your gf knew plans that you didn't clearly communicate, and she should've told you about her plans sooner and/or could've asked if you were going to make plans together. Neither of you communicated very well. |
AITAH for rejecting someone | Sorry for grammer mistakes, I've been in a bit of rush.
So this guy (let's call him John) has liked me for a while. I've known he's liked me for quite some time as well. I'm not really close with John and don't even talk to him often. John also talks to my friends, and talks about me to them all the time. John often a... | NTA, you dont owe John anything, and it seems like you dodged a bullet with how he reacted to being rejected |
AITAH for feeling uncomfortable with the financial pressure and outside influence around my friend’s bridal shower? | I (F, late 20s) am one of five bridesmaids for my friend **Lena** (27, turning 28 soon). Her Maid of Honor is her sister **Maya** (26). The other bridesmaids are **Sofia** (28), **Ava** (23, the groom’s sister), and **Karen** (40s, the bride’s coworker).
For additional context, Sofia and I have been close friends with... | NTA. Tell the maid of honor (sister) that you’re excited to contribute for the wedding day essentials - dress, hair, makeup, and will otherwise be saving money for your other life expenses. The bachelorette was enough.
For a bridal shower - let the sister and bride’s immediate family control it and cover all costs. Le... |
Aitah for not speaking to my dad or his partner anymore despite my siblings | I apologize for the length of this and I’m gonna do my best to be as clear and short as possible but some details are definitely important. I (21F) refuse to talk to my stepdad. So I guess let’s start back when it really started. In August of last year my parents split after 16 years of marriage. He swears he never che... | One of my (35M) biggest lessons growing up was learning that grown-ups are people too, and even though he’s been a big part of your life growing up, the decisions he is making and behaviour are disrespectful to you and others. Sometimes we have to let go of those who are hurtful, not because you don’t love them, but be... |
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