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AITAH for not wanting to talk about my mother's feelings with her? | Every since I was a little girl, my mother would approach me and ask me if I loved her more then my father. I always said yes because when I didn't she was sad, which I didn't want. So I just continued on doing this, for it made her mood slightly better. Then when we moved from an apartment to family house where in ha... | Ok first you are NOT the ahole.
None of this should be on you, and should have never been on you. Adult problems nerd adult help. Tell your father, or call your mother’s family and tell them. She needs serious help. Help that you cannot provide and shouldn’t have to.
You might need to move in with your father or ano... |
AITAH for being upset, even though the friendship breakup was my fault? | A lot of relevant background: I (26m) have bipolar disorder, and I also had encephalitis when I was 18. I lost my childhood memories. I never doubted when my parents told me they were my parents but I never felt love for them. I lost my ability to associate emotions to memories. It really messed up how my brain functio... | You aren't an AH for your feelings, but this is the consequences of your own actions. |
AITAH for asking my family to help pay for me to visit them? | I moved to California about 10 years ago. My family lives in Pennsylvania. I have flown to see them dozens of times over the years. My best guess is 30 times. I was a flight attendant for 3 years of those years, so the cost of flying was not an issue those times. I’m no longer a FA now and I don’t make a lot of money. ... | If you can’t afford to do it then don’t visit them. |
AITAH for cutting off a friend after trying to emotionally support everyone and getting blamed? | I (22M) recently cut off a close friend (22F) and I’m not sure if I’m the asshole.
For context, she comes from a very toxic family and isn’t allowed to date. Because of this, she relies heavily on external love and validation from friends and relationships. She dated my close friend (23M) for 9 months. I was never rea... | NTA but I think you should learn from this experience. Stay out of people's relationships. Let it unfold naturally. Perhaps saying she needs therapy was a bit mean. |
AITAH for Getting Upset Over a Comment My Boyfriend Left Under Another Girl's Instagram Post | I (31f) have been with my boyfriend (30m) for almost two years now but we have known each other since we were kids. I am currently 17 weeks pregnant with his baby so I am not sure if I'm right in feeling upset or if it's just the pregnancy hormones. Today I was doom scrolling on all my social media accounts and decided... | It is not pregnancy hormones. I hate how women have been conditioned to doubt their initial gut reactions. I'm sorry to say that it is time to have a conversation with your boyfriend. This isn't an isolated incident, is just the first you've seen. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. |
WIBTAH if I decided to do a petty thing? | My gym has a large locker room with many lockers in which you bring your own lock for securing your personal items. Each day I go in and open up a locker to put my belongings in only to find that it's already full but no lock (which would indicate it's on use and secure the person's things. No big deal. Except that, af... | YWBTA. find a different locker. Justice for what? They haven't done anything wrong. |
AITAH for not engaging in fake behavior to appease my in-laws | My (33F) fiancé (32M) comes from a very chaotic family: an alcoholic mom, an avoidant / emotionally distant dad, and constant fighting at nearly every gathering. I try to stay neutral, but over the years his mom has made several passive-aggressive & straight up aggressive comments toward me, so I mostly keep my guard u... | Ok I need to know what she did to SILs marriage tho!😱
When you say it was not unnoticed, do we think that the father-in-law is saying this because he specifically he noticed or do we think that she said something to him or she said something to the youngest sibling and then he said something to father? I only ask be... |
AITAH because I want him to stop drinking? | Hello everyone,
for context: my partner and I lived together, until he moved out last year June, so he could be closer (2 instead of 8 minutes) to his kids from a former relationship with an abusive partner. He basically fled from our home. This idea came after his friends there (next village) told him, that he shou... | YTA for staying in this relationship. |
AITAH for not wanting to give my mom my credit card. | Sorry for possible mistakes, English is not my first language.
I (26 female) have a difficult relationship with my parents (48 female and 49 male) and grandparents (65 female and 74 male), especially after i started dating my now husband (25 male). They controlled every step of my life, told me what to do, and if I d... | NTA.
Cut your parents off. If you want to maintain a family relationship with them, do so, but when the conversation turns to money, you shut it down.
The follow up here is that you won't be able to count on your parents for any kind of financial support moving forward, but it sounds like they aren't in a position... |
AITAH for dating a girl's sister after she initially showed interest in me? | So I 20M have been friends with 19F Miranda for close to 6 months. We initially met in a study group for a college physics class but became study buddies and friends on our own. About a month ago she invited me to a party at her place to celebrate her dog turning one (I literally just think she wanted an excuse to thro... | Right so... Miranda never indicated *to you* that she liked you, you never indicated to her you were interested? She can't call dibs on you, much less by letting you hear a rumour. |
AITAH for reporting a new hire ? | Hello!
So I work in a facility for older people. I've been here for a few years now, and I love it. I work in the dietary/food department of the facility, and it’s basically like a restaurant: they sit in the dining room, order from a menu, and we serve the food and then after service , we either clean the dining roo... | \>I don’t want to be the reason why she’s loses her job
I'll stop you there. You would NOT be at fault. I've been an office/manufacturing environments. You cannot make fun of people's speech like she's doing. She's out of line. Never let someone treat you that way at work. Once it starts, it gets worse and worse... |
AITAH for not liking my boyfriends dog? | Hello I would first like to start by saying I, 24 (F), love animals very much and have 2 of my own cats. My boyfriend and I, 26 (M), have been together for 4 years and have lived together for 2. Before we started dating, I had two of my own cats and he had a golden doodle. His golden doodle is very well behaved and get... | no - i love dogs more than anything and i would be LIVID if someone took my dog, which was well behaved because I spent time training it and replaced it with a terror of a puppy. I’d be driving it back to the in-laws and dropping it off with them. They got the dog, it’s not your responsibility. |
AITAH - i (f20) kissed someone (m20) who was talking to someone | hi, i was back from uni for a month and i ended up catching up with a few old friends and ended up partying quite a bit and going out and having fun. my friend brought a guy from his uni to go out with us, i found him handsome and i immediately knew i wanted to get with him at some point of the night.
my friend ended ... | What he's doing to her he'll do to you. |
AITAH if i wish my mom would kick her mooching cousin out of our house? | i apologize in advance for any errors, english isn't my native language
i (f21) live with my mom (f64) in an apartment in the city, and we have been for the past ten years. we live a pretty comfortable life, partly because my father has always offered to help pay a part of the rent since he has a higher salary than my... | NTA Sounds absolutely horrible. |
AITAH for kicking this guy out? | Sorry it’s a lot to read, but it’s driving me nuts please.
Let me give some background:
About 7-8 months ago (so last year Aug/Sept maybe) this 18yr old I worked with was getting kicked out by his parents (now I see why). His dad was our new GM and ran the business to sh\*t so as a last F U I let his some move in wi... | YTA for letting someone live at your house just to piss off your boss? Who does that?
Just call the police if he won't leave. |
aitah for hating all my friends? | I know it sounds bad but i F(13) genuinely hate all my friends and not in a bad way it's just that I have strict parents but their not overly strict but they had said no to hangouts more than a few times (im talking 90% of the time) and my friends parents are a lot less laid back than my parents so they are constantly ... | Dear Lord, this is just one massive run on sentence. There are only about two periods in the entire thing. |
AITAH for telling my bf he is ungrateful about the plans I made for his bday? | I (25f) have been asking my bf (29 going on 30m) what he wants to do for his bf for about a month now and every time I ask he responds with “idk” or “I haven’t really been thinking about it” and I tell him to lmk so I can plan accordingly. He never tells me what he wants to do, so I planned everything for him. I made r... | [deleted] |
Skin removal surgery. AITAH? | I, 34F, have been with my boyfriend, 27M, for 14 months. I have lost 130 pounds total, but 60 of those pounds in the last 14 months since we met. We have talked about skin removal surgery, but I have a lot of fears. I tend to become obsessive and I am mostly concerned that I will hyper-fixate even more on my body. I am... | Why would you contemplate removing skin, going through major surgery and financial costs for a man you have only been with for 14 months. This is your decision and the only advice you need is with your doctor. If he doesn’t like it show him the door. And congrats on your achievement and only do things for you not for o... |
WIBTAH if I told my wife we start couples therapy or im out? | Background: I am 40M, wife is 39F. We both work full time. No kids. 1 cat, 1 dog, we both have significant chronic pain issues. Married 9 years in February. I work from home and she works in a clinic.
The problem as I see it: I work 40 hours a week, and make about triple what my wife does. She works 30-35 hours a... | NTAH. It sounds less like an ultimatum and more like you naming how exhausted and unsupported you feel after carrying so much for so long. |
AITAH for setting this boundary with my family? | Mainly need to vent, but I genuinely want to know if this was a valid boundary to make.
For context:
\-I have always struggle with weight. I'm currently overweight 70lbs heavier.
\-My main issue has always been psychological which I have worked and continue working with my therapist. Also fixing my relationship wit... | NTA, vacations are where you indulge. Maybe comment about every damn thing family eats. Because you know full well they aren't all eating just celery.
NTA, and people who think they have the right to judge other people's food choices end up on my no contact list.
It is alright to have a boundary about comments like... |
AITAH planet fitness locker room | I (male) just started going back to the gym. I’ve had a planet fitness membership that I’ve used dozens but not hundreds of times over the years. Went into the gym at 2am to find the overnight (male) employee sitting on a locker room bench playing on his phone. I just stashed my stuff and went out to the machines. A fe... | Yes? Why wouldn't it be? Maybe he didn't want to sit in the break room, maybe he was going to clean or service the locker room next so it was easier to chill there. Maybe he was waiting for the bathroom to be available.
Was he in your way at all? If not, I don't understand why this is an issue. |
AITAH for trying to break up my brother's relationship | I (20f\] have a older brother who is 25 years. old. Basically when we grew up my brother basically took care of me bcaucse we grew up in a very abusive home. My dad died when I was 16 and my brother moved out then because he didn't want to leave my mom and me in the house with my dad.
My brother has a girlfriend fo... | Your heart was in the right place but YTA. |
AITAH For Not Helping My Ex-Friend With Her Alibi | Ok so before I begin just know I'm not the best in terms of grammar and punctuation so I hope y'all can excuse any upcoming typos and such I will try and see if I can fix any.
This is my first time posting about anything like this and fair warning its a long story but I will try not to create a post the size of a nove... | The ex-con showed up with his lawyer and proof he was incarcerated from the warden, while the cops had just started talking to her?
Even TV shows don’t run that fast and smooth. |
AITAH for telling my dad I don't want him to attend my college graduation? | I (20F) am graduating from college in about two years, so this is sort of a premature conversation, but my sister (21F) would be graduating next year. Her actual graduation ceremony would take place a year after (so in two years). She was showing my father (66M) a tiktok video of a student whose parents surprised her w... | Your father is fighting you about a theoretical ticket two years from now for an "idiotic gathering" he already knows he won't attend.
Your father is an abusive control freak and your mother is used to pandering to him, whether that's to protect herself or because she's also an AH I can't tell from their post.
You ... |
AITAH For Letting My Annoyance Show | Yesterday while I was out shopping my wife texted me to ask what seat number I’d reserved for a show, so she could get the neighboring seat.
I immediately (albeit with misgivings—see below) replied to her text by texting her the seat number.
Later that afternoon I decided to take a little nap before the show. As I’... | NTA. If she isn’t going to read the response to her questions then she shouldn’t ask them in a text. |
WIBTAH if I broke up with my bf? | Hi all, I (f21) will start with the fact I am beyond pissed. I think my only option is breakup with my bf but I wanna know what you would do.
My bf (m21) of 4 years and I are about to get our first home together we just got the mortgage approval. We were discussing the best options for joining our banks together.
Lo... | are you guys married? If not why the hell are you signing a 30 year note together? |
WIBTAH for banning my aunt’s friend and her daughter from my home after they kept showing up uninvited? | I work two jobs and am a full-time student. Because of this, I am very protective of my alone time and value it whenever I'm free.
My aunt has a friend, her manager let's call her "Brittany," who has a 12-year-old daughter, "Ashley." They live five hours away. Ashley acts much older than her age, gets mad and already ... | OP, don't sit in terror anticipating a knock on your door. Don't try to pass this job off to your aunt. Take this bull by the horns and handle it directly yourself. It isn't hard.
Get Brittany's phone number and call her. That's right, an old fashioned phone call. Talk to her directly.
DO not give her ANY details. Ju... |
AITAH for kissing my best friends ex. Pls help | I feel terrible and I’m not sure if I need to be told how much of an AH I am or for some strangers to tell me it’s gonna be ok. Context: I (22F) kissed my best friend of like 15 years’s ex (23M) a few months ago and can’t stop thinking about it. They dated for 2.5 years and broke up around two years ago. Things ended o... | This just totally depends on the dynamic! I have been part of groups with ex-couples in them where it would not have been a big deal at all, they were young then and are well and truly over it now. From the teeny context I have here, this may be the case for you.
For others, especially with bad breakups, it would be ... |
AITAH for wanting some time with just my wife while on her best friend’s bachelorette? | Hi there! I, Daeley (29F) and my wife (27F) (and co-maid of honor) are going on her childhood best friends co-bachelor/bachelorette party in a month and a half. They are doing a 4 day Bahaman cruise with a night prior in miami at an air bnb. all the bridal party and their spouses are going. So about 20 people in total ... | I highly doubt all these couples going on this cruise will be spending 24/7 with the couple anyway. You’re making something out of nothing and spiralling. Calm down and go enjoy the cruise you have night time hours together don’t you. |
AITAH for immediately saying "no" when my husband asked me to stop wearing earrings because he said they make a woman look older ? | My husband (41m) looks significantly younger than me (43f). Yesterday, my husband said he would like to talk to me. He told me loves me, and that nothing will ever change that. He said I'm an amazing mom. And more sweet things.
Then he mentioned how earrings makes a woman look older. He asked if I could stop wearing ... | How do earrings make a woman look old anyway? |
AITAH for getting someone to send me back my lost property and then keeping it? | About 1.5 years ago, I lost my Apple Watch while riding my motorcycle on a highway. I immediately put it into Lost Mode, and it stayed linked to my Apple ID the entire time.
Recently, a man from another country contacted my sister, whose phone number was set as the emergency contact on the watch. He told us he had bou... | Have you heard from him since he sent it?
ETA - I’m guessing the guy knew he was not getting the watch back. Anyone could look up how to deactivate lost mode on a watch. You could have done that without the watch. |
AITAH for refusing to do my best friend’s nails with products she bought | I 24 female have a big group of friends around eight girls from the age of 23 to 25. We all have best friends in between the group that we’re close with than others. I’m close with a girl named Stacy.
Me and her have been friends for a while and I’ve been doing nails since I was 11 years old. I loved doing them so mu... | NTA, but the solution seems simple. Just make her pay like everyone else, then she can chew and waste her money as she pleases. Win win. |
AITAH for confiding in my friends when my fiancé cheated. | My Fiancé (28M) and I (28F) have been together for 4 years. We had a baby and got engaged about a year ago. I have two kids from a previous marriage.
When we first got together, I had caught him on GRINDER looking at shirtless men. He explained that he was sexually assaulted by a man when he was younger and sometimes ... | NTA. He definitely is, though. He could have put your health at risk, not to mention he's a POS for cheating. |
AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he asked me to abort our pregnancy even though it could cause medical complications? | I recently found out im about 4 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend’s child. Im 21 and he’s 23. It wasnt planned at all, and after seeing a doctor I was told I might have a higher risk of complications because of my medical history. Because of that, making any decision about the pregnancy has been really scary for me and ... | Him telling you to abort is technically agreeing with the doctors who said that carrying a baby will come with a higher risk of complications due to your medical history. You said it yourself in the very first paragraph.
You can break up with him if you want. You did. Your NTA. He doesn’t want a baby, and neither do ... |
AITAH, am I the asshole for telling my sister not to talk to me until she becomes a better person. | Context:
Hi I (19f) have always been a people pleaser and have gotten walked over my whole life. Ik that's my fault for never sticking up for myself. My and my sister (16f) have never gotten along, we fought our whole lives mainly because she was my dad's favorite (my parents are divorced and we had mandatory visitatio... | NTA. Sometimes its better to love someone from a distance to protect ones emotional health. |
AITAH for trying to train both my dog and my parents atp? | My dog who's five years now, has been a practical nightmare, so im just gonna write a FEW of the things he does.
. pees everywhere
. over excited ALWAYS
. aggressive sometimes
. climbs or rests on people at the dinning table even if he just ate.
. ONLY listens to a command if he wants to (like lowkey i be tellin... | NTA. Your parents shouldn't be allowed dogs.
ETA. You should try and get him to a training class. Your parents need to come too. The dog isn't bad. Your parents are failing him. |
AITAH for talking back to my friend’s wife? | My friend’s wife would once in awhile message me two days after hanging out about things that I did that she didn’t like in a way that is very awkward and off putting. One of the examples could be if I don’t share the same interest as the rest of the group by not really wanting to participate in one activity such as bo... | Does she do it to the other people too?
You should ask the others if they get her crazed messages also |
AITAH for wanting to go to another country for another semester without my gf. | I (18 m) and my gf (18 f) are both from a 3rd worlds country, and were able to get into a good uni in italy. This year is our first of 3, and recently we have been made aware about the possibilities that come with studying in the EU (mainly erasmus). As far as I know, we are able to only use this opportunity twice (onc... | NTA
Make your decisions based on what's best for YOU and your future. Not your girlfriend. If she's threatening to break up, just let her.
School and your future is much more important than an 18 year old girl who is trying to control you. |
AITAH for letting my fiancé know that I will have to rethink marriage if he wants children? | EDIT- Thank you everyone for the comments, I appreciate them all even the blunt harsh ones, I spoke to my partner and he will be speaking to his friend and get him to apologise and said he would also tell him our business with relation to kids is off the table for conversation. We have spoken in a bit more detail too a... | You're never TA for making sure you and your future spouse are on the same page with major life decisions like kids/no kids. Nor for being honest about where you stand and that you're not changing your view on it.
I'd have another talk with your fiance about this and make it clear to him that you're not okay with him... |
AITAH for ghosting friends to focus on personal success? | It’s a little more nuanced than that, but I’ll try to be short and sweet. Had some long term friends who hurt me pretty bad. Friend A made some decisions that caused her to lose a relationship and 3 more friendships within about 3 weeks. Then said some nasty things about me, I told her that was unacceptable, she told m... | NTA |
AITAH for telling my husband I’m not going to Korea with him if he brings his dog? | Hi everyone, I really need some outside perspective on my situation.
My husband (22M) and I (23F) are both active-duty Army, and we’re scheduled to PCS to Korea for three years this October. By then, we’ll have an 18-month-old baby and three pets: two cats and a Mastiff mix.
Recently, we had a disagreement because my... | NTA - a Mastiff mix needs exercise and room - but do ask your parents or in-laws if they can handle him and you should also pay for his vet care. Three years is a long time for a favor. |
WIBTAH for "exposing" my coworkers to our manager? | Hi, alt acoount since some people in my life know my main,
So the story is: I (M28) work in a small department in a big company with 2 more people, S - (M52) and H - (F39). Since were so small, our direct manager is the manager of the much bigger department and he's never supervising us directly so we mostly manage o... | NTA- If you don't go in there "tattling" about how little your coworkers are doing, and instead focus the talk on how you are excelling at tasks and are seeking a raise to compensate for the fact that you are putting in maximum effort, you'll be fine. If there are consequences to your coworkers, that can not be helped ... |
AITAH for not letting my Cancer patient visit me in my house | Little background: We met through a Spanish class in our home country. Fast forward I moved to Canada (QC) and she moved to BC few years after me.We were never very close but we always kept in touch.
Few months ago the doctor told her that she has stage 4 cancer and she might not be here for too long. One of her last ... | Stage 4 doesn’t always mean a person is going to drop dead any minute. If she’s walking and talking, and ABLE to come to your house on her own, the chances are extremely slim that she’d die while visiting for a day. |
AITAH for "stalking" my friend | Im not a very social person. Im unemployed, searching for a job though and I dont go outside. My everyday routine is just wake up, do things in the house and maybe if my friend is on, just ask her to play.
I've known her for a long long time. Since we were kids. She was always hot tempered and would just ditch me for... | So basically she played you twice!! The minute you started to see the same old behaviours you should have just left it alone. Beyond that you’re responsible for your own happiness you’re never going to be happy being an unemployed shut in who doesn’t socialise with anyone. I really hope you start living a life and star... |
AITAH for not helping weird neighbor | When I was in undergrad I lived at home with my parents and commuted to campus everyday. I had this neighbor guy with his 3 kids move in next door. All toddlers. He was alright at first, became extremely close with my dad which was weird cause my dad was 20 years older than him and neighbor is about 15 years older tha... | NTA
Always trust your gut. Always. |
AITAH for not “repaying” my boyfriend after he treated me | Ive (f,25) with my boyfriend (m,26) 3 years. Yesterday my parents hosted a tea for my grandpa’s birthday at my family’s house. Earlier that day my bf called and asked if I wanted to go shopping with him because he wanted to treat me. Very kind, not an occasion. He ended up spending around £250 on me. I thanked him a lo... | You need to decide if you’re ok with a transactional relationship because that is what this guy is asking for. |
AITAH for calling the cops about an abandoned tricycle? | I'm visiting my Great Aunt. Near her home, there's a mile long utility road that's very hilly and grassy, has no one living on it, and has no surveillance or cameras on it. No one lives at either end of it, either. This all adds up to make the utility road the perfect place to snatch someone or commit a crime.
This m... | You literally just made up a narrative in your mind. Calling 911 (for emergencies only) to report you found a tricycle is excessive, especially since your entire story was based off your own imagination. If you were worried you could have called the non emergency line. It likely fell out of the back of a truck (the mos... |
AITAH for just wanting more | My (30f) husband (34m) are approaching our 3 year anniversary. We have a 2.5 year old daughter.
I loved my husband when we got married but the reason of when and how we got married is a tale as old as time. We had just gotten back together after a 1.5 year separation, then got pregnant. His religion is quite strict an... | > Does this get better?
Sure, when you divorce him. |
WIBTAH if I stopped inviting one of my best friends to my apartment | One of my closet friends and I have practically grown up together, he’s absolutely lovely and honestly saved my mental health from declining numerous times.
That being said, he is also completely reckless regarding my belongings, when I used to live with my parents he broke their wall (never reimbursed), has dropped ... | NTA and no you wouldn't be petty, he has a clear history of being so careless with your and other people's belongings, the fact that he doesn't care enough to do anything about his previous mishaps makes your reaction pretty much warranted, if you're scared of offending him at least have a talk about the previous encou... |
AITAH if I were to kick off at my SO if they started smoking again? | So me and my partner have been together some time and moved in together, and ever since we got together we agreed to both stop smoking entirely (I vaped and they smoked cigs and weed). But recently there’s been scenarios where they’ve been around smokers and smoking and have been tempted to smoke, they’ve held strong s... | It’s one thing to encourage others and something else entirely to claim you are ‘hurt’ by another person’s personal choices and demand they do thing how you like.
You’re crossing the line from encouragement to enmeshment here. It’s not your partner’s job to manage your emotions with what they choose to consume. |
AITAH for drunkenly calling my GF a "c***" when she threw a needoh full force directly at my crotch? | So Tuesday night is our traditional bingo night. Tonight it was me, my gf, her mom and her sister. Her mom decided to drive and that led to us other 3 having a little too much. We head out to dinner afterwards and all of us (minus her mom) are acting like full on drunks.
After dinner, we get into the car and my gf de... | [deleted] |
AiTAH for tell my mom not to talk about me to my siblings | First of all I want to say me and my mom moved away from my siblings for a new start.The day we moved my brother (30M) told me if I treated my mom with disrespect then he would come down and sort it out himself,and it was fine for a while because I am that kid I would not fight back...now in 2026 I grew a back bone and... | NTA-Tell your sister if it’s a problem then come pick up mom because you won’t be treated like a child by either of them. As an adult you have the right to make adult decisions and one of them will not to be threatened by either of them. Then let your mom know that it is your place and if she doesn’t like it then she... |
AITAH to allow my bf to stay friend with his toxic ex girlfriend | I (24f) and bf (28m) let call him Rob. Rob and I have been together 4 years now and we also have a child together…. Before Rob and I started talking I had a son from a past relationship and he accepted him whole heartedly….. Rob had a girlfriend that I knew very well and he knew that I knew her, she even confronted me ... | They don’t see the down side of our relationship |
AITAH for losing trust in my girlfriend after I found out she’s been venting about our private issues to her ex? | 28M and 27F. We’ve been together for a little over 2 years.
My girlfriend and I have had a mostly good relationship, but like any couple, we’ve had some rough patches. Over the past few months, we’ve had a few arguments about communication and time together, nothing explosive but definitely sensitive topics.
A few we... | NTA. That is a complete breach of trust.
I’d say being buddies with her ex while in a relationship is already a red flag. Sharing relationship secrets to get emotional support? Naw! That is exactly how affairs start. |
WIBTAH if I (25) cite my boyfriend's (29) sleeping habits for break up? | Throwaway, he knows my main.
For context, I've never dated a man before, this was the first time, I was excited beyond my best reasoning. Lol.
I knew he had been somewhat of a playboy, he never hide that and I was okay with his past. I've dated a few people myself had been cheated on so I was clear to him that he mus... | Just tell him it’s not working for you and you’re breaking up with him |
AITAH for cutting contact with my mother over repeatedly not respecting mine and my wife's wishes with our 3 month old child? | So to begin, my wife (24F) and myself (26M) welcomed a beautiful, happy, and healthy baby girl into the world this last September, she's everything we could've ever dreamed of and more out of a child. Sleeps all night, never cries, and always has a big beautiful gummy smile on her face.
We do have some rules however ... | *Standing ovation* 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 |
AITAH for calling my husband a jerk for giving a waitress a 10 % tip because she refused to date our adult son ? | My husband (48m) and I (45f) were out at a restaurant with our son (23m). Our son kept staring at this waitress, who looked like she was in her 30s. At some point, my son asked the waitress on a date and she politely declined.
At the end of the meal, my husband gave the waitress a 10% tip, which is the lowest tip I'v... | NTA. It was definitely a jerk move since tipping is supposed to be based on the customer service provided, & she’s not providing dating services. |
AITAH for cutting contact with my friend of 5 years for being kind of an asshole | It all happened like a half a year ago but I still wonder if what I did was the best of what I could do
Let's start from the beginning, it all starts around the year 2020 when in 2nd year of highschool I met Steve (not his real name), he moved from another school and I kinda took on the responsibility to show him arou... | Yes because e |
AITAH for asking mom to let me Zelle her for my food for this week when I don’t have access to my card ATM | So I don’t have my card atm and it doesn’t work with Apple Pay and need get food for the week and other needs so I ask mom if she can help and I even mettion I can zelle her the exact amount while we check out and all she does is swipe her card or give me the card and I can Zelle before I swipe if she doesn’t want to g... | Have you either been drinking, had a stroke or just don’t know how to form a coherent sentence?
This makes no sense! |
WIBTAH for reporting my illegal cousin to ICE after he outed me as gay to my family? | I (18F) have a cousin (25M) who moved to the U.S. from India a few years ago to get his masters degree. He started his masters when I was a sophomore in high school and I am a freshman in college now, but he is still working on his masters that was supposed to be a 1 year program. He’s doing this because he can’t find ... | Your cousin could end up dead while in ICE custody. Let that sink in. |
AITAH for refusing to make amends with my elderly mother after she told me "you don't have a mother" to protect her favorite son? | Things don't get easier even when you're older. My mother used to go out of her way to protect her elder son, the favorite. A few years ago he was an asshole to my wife, and I had a fight with him. I expected the family to at least see how his harrassment was unacceptable. My mother took his side as usual, and to get m... | No you are not the ah they are you did what a husband is supposed to do and protect your wife |
Can’t make friends birthday AITAH | My friend of 10+ years lives about 4 hours away. We’ve consistently tried to get together for a year now, but never actually solidified specific dates. It is worthy of noting for the last three attempts, we each for one reason or another, couldn’t find correlating dates with our work schedules.
Her birthday is around... | I believe that your true friend would understand that, and she fully knows that you’ve tried everything to be there |
AITAH for refusing to live with my boyfriend | I (38F) met my boyfriend (25M) 5 years ago (YEAH I'M AN AH FOR DATING SOMEONE SO YOUNG EVERYONE REMINDS ME OF IT EVERYDAY). We were at the same university and met during a class we both take, though we studied different subjects. He invited me to be part of a group project, than he invited me out to lunch, than to his ... | YTA It’s entirely possible that he just wants to live together and not have children, not everyone is baby crazy. It kind of seems like you conflate a lot of milestones. Are you in therapy? Also stop referring to him as a boy, he’s your partner of 5 years, you should respect him more than that or part ways. |
AITAH for making someone move their car? | I’ve worked at the same job for about 18 years and for the last 10 years, I’ve parked in the same parking space at the very bottom of the parking lot the furthest away from the front door of the building recently someone started parking and what I consider my Parking space. Now we don’t have assigned parking but it’s a... | YTA
It’s not your parking space. You need to start acting like an adult. |
AITAH for feeling less like a man and leaving my girlfriend multiple time becauae she’s not having sex with me? | I (M 30) am in a relationship with my girlfriend (F 27) since about 4 months. We had a lot of conflict since the begenin and I think she’s wrong on lots of points, but she don’t think so.
First, she consider her bunny like her child…and I think she love him more than me. And because of that I became jealous of him. I ... | You're bloody joking, right? YTA. I stated this in response to another comment, but OP, if you were the last man on Earth, I would demand a recount. |
AITAH for not attending a party because a friend I cut ties with was invited | I (Black, born and raised here) recently cut ties with a friend, let’s call her Anna, because of repeated disrespect, boundary-crossing, and several racist comments she made. For example, she’s said things like, “you don’t bother me, so you can stay,” implying that my right to exist in my own country is conditional. Fo... | NTA. You are never obligated to be around someone you don't like. While backing out of plans can be annoying for the one hosting it, a reason like this is perfectly acceptable and the party host should accept that fact. |
AITAH for declining guardianship of a my sister? | I (27M) emotionally lost my mom when I was a teenager. And when I was 15, my stepfather died after a long illness. Less than a month later, my mom moved on fast new relationship, rushed marriage, and then a baby girl. Everything happened so quickly that I felt completely pushed aside. I stayed quiet, finished school, a... | Not your circus, not your monkeys. |
AITAH for not messaging back my friend when she needed me? | Hello, I’m at 30 year old woman who is an introvert. I get moments where I want to be to myself whether I’m socially drained, going through stuff mentally, or just simply want to be alone. My best friend Michael (31 year old male) has been married to Jane (35 year old woman) for 10 years and within that time me and Jan... | NA - she’s too needy and a clingon….you’ve turned into her emotional support animal |
AITAH for leading a boy on supposedly? | This was when I was around 13, so this was a WHILE ago. I'm now 15. Even when I was 13, I was pretty gay. I met this guy in a server "David", who went by "Davey". He was 14 years old, FtM like me, and he supposedly spoken a bit of Latin, and besides English, French and German. I really liked German, so I was pretty exc... | NTA, you didn’t lead him on but I think he lead YOU on. |
AITAH i don’t want to talk to my best friend anymore…… | me and my best friend have known each other for about 1 year, we became good friends immediately after we met and eventually best friends. this entire situation might seem silly or immature but its really taking a toll on me and our friendship. my best friend, she is a really sweet and a person with good intentions in ... | Sounds exactly like many of my ex friends. You’ve placed boundaries and tried to tell her what she’s doing, and she won’t listen. Time to move on.
I wouldn’t, however, try to do what the other commenter said: sit her down to try and list all the reasons you want to stop being friends. That doesn’t sound like it will ... |
AITAH for not wanting to use my credit cashback on a family outing? | Last year I finally got accepted for a credit card that offers 3% cash back on all purchases. After a while of using it, I noticed they had an option to add family members so they can build their credit.
My Mom has been a housewife her entire life and had 0 credit. I proposed the idea of her getting a card so she coul... | NTA. You took on risk by enabling them to open cards based on your account. You owe them nothing. |
AITAH for going no contact with my dad and sisters | I 21F, was SA’d by my older sister from ages 6-9. When I was 11 she started catfishing me and continued until I chose to cut ties with all the accounts at 19. She never stopped catfishing, just lost her access to me.
It started off with her pretending to be a friend of hers that took her phone then it turned into her... | NTA.What you went through was abuse and exploitation, full stop. You were a child, and the adults around you failed to protect you and then minimized the harm afterward. Going no contact isn’t punishment it’s self-protection.You are not obligated to maintain relationships with people who dismiss your trauma, defend yo... |
AITAH for bailing on a friend shortly before a project I had committed to and not wanting to apologize? | I (22F) and my friends—let’s call them Chloe (22F) and Sophie (27F)—are all photographers, and we recently started a joint project to create an audiovisual production company.
All three of us have our flaws and we clash sometimes. We’re friends, but working together is hard. To be honest, I tend to be a mess and a bit... | Honestly? ESH , migraines and breakups are real, but backing out last minute *and* refusing to acknowledge how badly it left her scrambling is where you lost people. An apology doesn’t mean you’re 100% wrong, it just means you recognize the impact, and right now that’s the part you’re dodging. |
WIBTAH if I send my wife’s AP’s GF evidence of their affair? | I 32M have been married to my wife 31F for little over a year, we’ve been together for 9 years in total and have a 10 months old baby. Her behavior was off and something was just nagging me to check her phone. Man, did it hit me like a train. Turns out, she met a guy like a week ago in a bar in our neighbourhood. The g... | YWNBTA
>I can’t stand her, but I’m rethinking filling those papers because of the baby.
Do you want to teach your child to put up with a partner who cheats on them?
>I’m torn between I don’t want to ruin their relationship
You wouldn't be, he ruined their relationship when he cheated on her. |
AITAH if I seek retaliation towards my MIL | WIBTHA if I posted someone's number who has mine listed as their own and I get spammed daily with over 50 calls from "potential spam" asking for this person's property to be bought or bills to be paid? I feel it would be sweet justice to their number with the world to have them called so many times a day?! It would be ... | Can you sign her up for phone calls? Like insurance agents or something. Or list something for sale at a ridiculous low price. |
AITAH for thinking that I should only be the one using my own bath towel? | My husband thinks I shouldn't get angry when he uses my bath towel, despite him having his own. I think it's unhygienic and disrepectful as I have repeatedly told him not to do it. We do have a separate hand towel, but I use my towel. Towels are washed weekly. | NTA you don’t need to justify personal boundaries, you want your own towel. If he’s being an antagonistic asshole about it, ask him why he’s choosing this hill to die on.
All the ways we try to find to keep the wife happy, whilst this dude is going out of his way to cause trouble. |
AITAH for making comments about my partner smoking weed and casual drinking? | My partner (27M) and I (26F) have been together for 8 years. We both have drugs and/or alcohol addiction that run in the family. I don’t smoke (I have tried weed when I was a teenager but don’t like it) or drink maybe once a year. My partner, however, does. When we first got together he only really chewed tobacco and o... | It seems like he traded his chewing tobacco addiction for a different addiction. It doesn't sound like he really changed for the better.
ESH
His habits are hurting his health, finances, and the relationship. You're trying to play "the bad cop" and that's a failing path that breeds resentment, it's not the right ap... |
AITAH for not opening the front door for by fiancé | My partner (M27) and I (F24) just got back home from having dinner at his parent’s house. As we arrive on our street, we remember that it’s bin day tomorrow as all the neighbours have put out their bins.
We park the car and my partner asks if I could open the back door for him when I go inside, so he could grab the bi... | Im deleting reddit. |
WIBTAH for cutting my mom off? | my parents are abusive, not in the physical way but more on the emotional side. Im confident that i want to cut my dad off because he's the reason for a lot of the abuse but im not sure if i should cut my mom off as well. She's more complex as she has stood up for me when my dad tried to kick me out but she wouldnt do ... | How do you cut off someone you have to live with? I don't think that phrase means what you think it does. I think you mean you want to start giving them the silent treatment.
Until you leave home, you're stuck dealing with them. Keep to yourself as much as possible. I don't think you can maintain silent treatment ... |
AITAH for asking a question at work, then getting let go | I started with this plumber guy last month. He's a master plumber and I'm a helper at this point. For a few days everything was going okay, we got along, we worked together. Then one day, we were getting loaded up to unclog a drain and he needed the commercial plumbing snake loaded in the back of the truck. I asked him... | I don't know that you're going to get a lot of good answers here. You haven't provided enough context for anyone other than a plumber to understand the problem. |
AITAH for not letting my ex see his child | I (30's F) won't let my ex (30's) male (let's call him John) see his son We broke up a few years ago as I'd found John was cheating on me since we found I was pregnant and was also messaging women through social media saying he wanted to meet them and he loved them. I'd found out 2 years later After we broke up I said ... | You need a lawyer and a custody agreement |
AITAH for messing with my friend about a "local" food rule and making him embarrass himself at a dinner? | i(26M) live in a big city and i’m always trying new food spots, especially when friends visit. one of my close friends m(27M) is weirdly intense about “authentic” food. like he’ll correct menus, tell servers they’re doing it wrong, and act like there’s one official version of everything.
last weekend i invited him ... | "His beliefs"?
lol that BS line alone is enough for me to vote NTA.
All you did was pop the little bubble of pretension he'd been living in. |
AITAH for getting angry at my mother about this? | I'll start with my family situation: My sister (31) still lives with my parents. She doesn't pay rent or contribute to household expenses, only paying for her cats and luxuries: travel, restaurant meals, clothes, skincare, technology, etc. So much so that if she buys something expensive at the supermarket, she keeps it... | It’s okay to be my mad. Sounds like your mom is jealous of your freedom. Do like se say, get a life beyond the family home. |
AITAH for not liking my boyfriends little sister? | Hi everybody just wanted to say my english isn't the best so sorry if it makes no sense! Just for some context, me (17F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been dating for almost 3 years now, and for the entirety of our relationship we have been long distance but live in the same country (New Zealand). I live in the South Isl... | ngl this kid isn’t “quirky,” she’s straight up feral 😭 throwing cats + cussing her mom?? that’s not a personality, that’s bad parenting. ur not crazy. |
AITAH FOR "HUMILIATING" MY 15 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER IN FRONT OF HER CLASSMATES | Hi everyone this is a throwaway account so I hope my parents dont find this. Something happened last year that is still affecting us til now and I dont know how to go about it.
I 45f and my husband 47m have 4 kids (17f, 15f and 11m). My 15year old Alexia (fake name) is a bully. We found out last year after the victim... | NTA. Apologizing isn’t humiliating. She still doesn’t get it and is still acting like a bully, and unless this is addressed properly, the same girl will keep being bullied. |
AITAH for never telling my older brother I loved him? | My 19F older brother 25M just died a few weeks ago, just days before Christmas, he had a heart attack and died at the hospital, it destroyed all of us especially my dad, he hasn’t been himself since then.
My older brother was obese, we always tried getting him to go to the gym or get on a diet but nothing helped, for... | You do know that it’s possible to both be hard on someone while assuring them that they are loved, right, OP?
Yeah, YTA. Sorry. We all make mistakes when we are young, and the regrets we have when people die aren’t regrets that can be tidied away through any amount of self-justification.
Just try to be kind, find y... |
AITAH that my boyfriend gets coughed for weed? | Long story short: Im 29(f) and my boyfriend 32(m) were dating like 1,5 years. One month ago we had a really big fight so some of our neighbours called to police, when police came in our apartment they had separate conversations with me and my partner. I was in tears because he did really scared me that night but I didn... | Just leave him. The situation isn't going to get better. It only gets worse. Involve the cops again. Tell them he is threatening self harm.
You're too young to let this shit become your life. You're not describing a relationship. It's a fucking hostage situation. Run before it gets any worse |
AITAH For Choosing Lord of The Rings Over My Girlfriend? | Hoping to get some objective feedback on this situation as it’s gotten so emotionally tangled between us.
I (28M) and my girlfriend (28F) have been together coming up on four years now. We love each other very much and although problems and disagreements come up we have always been able to work through them with empa... | NTA
For some reason she's trying to manipulate you into giving way on one of your passions to "prove" she means more to you.
Does she test you in other ways? |
AITAH for telling my mum she is at fault for my cat dying? | In September unfortunately my cat passed away. He was about 8 years old which is young for a cat to pass away. We don’t know how he died we just found him in the morning where he seemed to be sleeping before dying.
For months he was showing concerning behaviour and he was constantly ill which I brought to my mums atte... | So sorry for your loss, yet so glad you advocated for the other. NTA, it is your mother's fault a cat has died, she's such an Ahole. Keep being a good and responsible person! |
My (32M) GF (29F) says she is a “shell” of who she was and that I made her insecure. She says she loves me but she doesn’t love herself anymore. AITAH for this? | We started dating about 10 months ago. She really is a lovely girl and we clicked instantly, shared similar views, and just get along so well.
Early on in the relationship though, I was not very sure what I wanted and I really hurt her. She was all in about pursuing me after a couple weeks. She said she canceled/calle... | Omg dude. YTA X4 things in this one post alone.
Work on yourself. |
AITAH For just stopping communication with my brother? | Let me preface this whole thing by saying, this is gonna be a long post and most people view me as leaning towards an asshole because I am extremely blunt. One of the ways I am blunt is that I don't believe one person's morals should negate the morals of another person. Example, I am not religious, I do not believe in ... | You do realize that this sub is mostly bleeding heart liberals and they're going to crucify you, right? |
AITAH for wanting my brother to be kicked out. | My brother is a 19 y/o guy who still lives with my mum and dad, I call them my because I don't feel he deserves them, or any family. For some context, my parents are saints to my brother, they took him in from a dysfunctional home when he was young and adopted him, as they did for me. My mother spent 73 days and nights... | I think you should tell your parents they are failing HIM right now, because they are enabling him to behave very badly without negative consequences. He needs to be put out into the real world where he can learn to be a functioning human and member of society. |
AITAH for disagreeing with my mom over setting a boundary with a viewer | This is my very first post so please be patient with me.
For some context I am a twitch streamer, a vtuber specifically. My model is completely covered, and not meant to be super attractive. A few weeks ago I had a viewer who started popping in regularly and began making flirty comments and insinuating physical adv... | nta I get the vibes she just wanted you to agree with her which is ??? you have the right to your own opinion |
AITAH for not wanting to drive to my friends place to return her the keys from her apartment | My friend from another city (let's call her Stacey) came to visit me during the winter holidays. Initially, it was planned that she would stay at my place, but due to my mother's unexpected visit (which I couldn't influence in any way), Stacey had to find another place to stay for a couple of days. So, I asked my other... | This is too long and annoying to read. Can’t believe I (almost) got through it. But from the basics that I can gather, you asked Jessica to house your friend that she didn’t know. She did that. I actually think Jessica also asking for you to pay for her to be able to go home is extremely reasonable. Meaning that this e... |
AITAH for not liking "cute" things? | I don't know if I'm looking into it too much or being too sensitive but you can't be cute without being childish.
Nothing cute has not been childish, for example the biggest examples of "cuteness" are chubby cheeks, big eyes, innocence and etc etc. and those traits are in all children. The things we consider cute are... | It depends on how this manifests. Do you see say, an adult woman in pigtails or who has stuffed animals and automatically assume she’s infantizing herself to appeal to pedophiles? Do you see say, media marketed to young girls and automatically assume such?
Because that could be a reflection of misogyny. Do you have t... |
AITAH for getting annoyed about my cleaning attempts? | 32F/30M. Here is what happens. He is currently and has been home for an extended period. Prior to this extended stay at home I would clean 2-3 hours a day since I WFH. It’s important to mention I also have ADHD so when I want to do something it’s important I do it in that moment if possible. Or it’s important if I make... | https://www.spiescoaching.co.uk/blog/w9x1pdbrnu5aahioh7cdmfadn01ueh
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AITAH for telling my partner's friend's fiancé he had cheated on her? | All of us are around 30.
Let's call my partner's friend "Sam" and his now-ex fiancé "Kim"
Sam and Kim have been together for about 5 years, they got engaged around a year ago and were planning their wedding.
Kim has had a stable job the entire time, Sam has been in and out of work.
Sam has been repeatedly ly... | You’re NTA.. telling Kim the truth gave her the clarity she deserved, and Sam’s behavior wasn’t your responsibility to protect |
Should I participate in a threesome? Or is that stupid? AITAH? | The relationship I have with... (we'll call him Kriss) is quite unusual.
We met three years ago at work; we worked the same shift and started talking. Then I changed jobs, but we stayed in touch. I remember the first time we got together was at his house (it's always at his house). Everything was great, and I have no w... | Ma’am, this is a Wendys. |
AITAH for getting upset when my friend makes SH jokes? | So, my friend struggled with self harm, but nothing That’s could cause serious medical issues. She has these small almost like scratch marks on her arm that she likes to show off when she makes new ones. I also struggle with self harm, but to the point I’ve needed stitches, and even months after a relapse, some aren’t ... | ‘Friend’, are you sure? You need to distance yourself from people like this. They will never allow you to heal.
Edit: NTA |
AITAH for feeling this way | So, I just received some bad news: my father has bone cancer. My father hasn't really been part of my life, so I don't feel much right now. I think, oh, that sucks, but that's about it. Nothing else. I don't wish this on him or anyone else. Now, I'm worried that I might be an a\*\*hole for feeling this way. I don't wan... | Your feelings are your feelings. It's not unusual or wrong to feel less upset about something awful that is happening to someone who's not really been part of your life. From your perspective, I'm sure you have as much sympathy for him as you might for any stranger.
But you can't force feelings of concern and worry w... |
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