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My 16 year old son used to work 8-12 hours a day doing construction , and that’s all he ever did. I had given him a month and a half to clean his room, but he always used the excuse that he was tired when he came home from work, and he’d always go to sleep. I finally texted his boss, and told him he was no longer worki... | YTA you got him fired because he didn’t keep his room clean? That’s so strange and controlling. He was working hard maybe you should have cut him some slack. Your username is misleading, definitely not a normal thing to do. ###### |
My brother and his GF have been dating for two years now and are both 18. His GF came around for lunch and they were talking about a movie that they watched. While we were all talking, they said that they love eachother deeply.
I asked them a question that was in my mind for a while now about how they are they togethe... | YTA you don't get to decide what constitutes a full relationship ###### |
I have lived in the same neighborhood for a few years. It's pretty Vanilla here. Recently, someone bought the house across the street. They seem nice enough. I have had no problems with them at all. Another neighbor came by recently and asked me if I had noticed the star. I hadn't. When they moved in, they had turned a... | YTA you didn't even notice it before they pointed it out yet you say your kids saw it and yet they didn't say anything. You shouldn't be pointing out things to your kids about other people's houses ###### |
My gf has recently got very into skincare stuff. She suffered from pretty bad acne until last year when she went on acutane and it cleared it up. Since then she's been excited about being able to try different products and stuff.
One of her recent favorite products is this moisturizer which has snail slime in it. I f... | YTA You deceived her and lied to her, all without giving her the chance to make the decision of changing moisturizer of her own will.
You should have just spoken to her, told her how you feel and take it from there. If she changes the moisturizer, great. If not, tough. It's her body.
Good rule of thumb is: if it's... |
So, my girl friend and I are in a long distance relationship and today is her bday. We live in different states so I can't see her or travel to her. We were suppose to be in the Bahamas right now, but due to everything going on right now, we couldn’t do that.
I booked a Bahamas trip this week for 4th of July weekend a... | Yta you cant just book stuff without telling your so and asking if its okay. ###### |
So! My girlfriend of a few months works in HR and we both live in a big capital city. For context I used to work in journalism.
She randomly messaged me saying John Smith (it’s a public figure who runs a newspaper in our country and pretends to be a Man of the People) apparently has a chauffeur drive him everywhere. ... | YTA You betrayed her trust in you ###### |
So I play a lot of video games, and like most gamers, my online friends are all in different time zones. Usually we all get on at around 12:00 am my time, and I stay up untill 4:00 am usually. It has been this way since quarantine.
We usually play games like Gmod TTT which can get heated at times and cause me to talk ... | YTA You are an adult living for free at your mom's house, the least you could do is respect her rules. And changing your sleep schedule is totally possible, you just don't want to. ###### |
While he doesn't scroll this sub, I don't want him to see this on my feed and feel bad.
For the past few weeks, my bf(24m) and I(24f) have taken to scaring the shit out of each other. If you scream, you owe the other person dinner or a back massage or other things like that. Pretty simple game. I've gotten my bf pret... | YTA yeah I think your kinda the asshole here because if you’re going to pretend so that he can get a win, why would you then go back on it and say oh actually I faked it you didn’t really get me? Either play the game properly or fake it and let him have his glory ###### |
We can have activities outdoor with 50 people in my city now. So my grandma threw me and my two cousins graduation party. We are all graduating college. It was super fun. My older cousins lent us their grad caps. I hired a photography and got him to take photos of me. My cousins wanted to get photos too but I didn’t le... | YTA wow you sound possessive, your grandma was willing to pay for him too, and he's not YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER he's a person. ###### |
I live in an eight-unit apartment building for the last year. It's quiet. except for this woman who lives above me. I work early mornings so I go to bed at 8PM. All late night long she's slamming cupboards, doors, moving shit, etc. all night long. This is LOUD. I did mention it to her and suggested that if she needs to... | YTA work with property management first. Unless you did and didn’t share that INFO. ###### |
My daughter has been calling her father every day when she’s with me, sometimes for an hour or more. She’s been doing this since around when the pandemic started. It’s very frustrating to me because she never calls me when she’s with her father, and when I call her she only talks for 5 minutes before saying she has to ... | YTA which is probably why she doesn’t call you when she is with her father... ###### |
We can have activities outdoor with 50 people in my city now. So my grandma threw me and my two cousins graduation party. We are all graduating college. It was super fun. My older cousins lent us their grad caps. I hired a photography and got him to take photos of me. My cousins wanted to get photos too but I didn’t le... | YTA what's wrong with you?
You paid this guy hourly, he's not your personal photographer. It's his job, why can't he photograph your cousins, for extra money, paid for by someone other than your mommy?
You sound nuts. ###### |
Me and my ex were together for 5 years and we broke up 3 years ago. It was a really abrupt end to the relationship and I didnt see it coming. I didn't get to say good bye to her family etc and I never really received any closure. Pretty much a month after we broke up I was in a bit of a mess and I started dating, my no... | YTA what the actual hell is wrong with you? ###### |
I (62M) was married to my ex (58F) for 20+ years until things went downhill. From her perspective I was emotionally cold and stubborn, and from mine she was so up and down. She suddenly left me (especially due to money issues) for another guy and moved to LA to live in his literal mansion.
This was 15 years ago, and w... | YTA way to prove you are "emotionally cold and stubborn" ###### |
I live in a converted apartment under a larger house. A day before I moved in she got news her father is on his way out sadly and has been in Arizona since May 1st. A friend of hers came by twice over the month to get her mail and so on, ever since the second I met him he made my skin crawl. Like no joke cannot stand t... | YTA unfortunately but you need to take steps to protect yourself.
You don't get to dictate who is staying in your landlord's house.
However you can request all information go through your landlord instead of the proxy houseguest. (Double check your lease.) Use language like you want all information to go through yo... |
So I just woke up, went into the bedroom, and it’s a disaster. Parts of shoe everywhere on the floor. I gasp.
Last night we were playing scrabble like good little quarantinee’s and he walked into the room gently holding her shoelace in his mouth, shoe trailing behind. I told him no, drop it, and he dropped it. I said ... | YTA train your dog. They are no puppy anymore, they need to understand that not everything is a toy they can handle like they please. ###### |
Hello everyone!!
I feel like I'm crazy in this one. But basically my husband just loves copying my favourite foods!! We've been married 26 years now and he started this around 5 years ago and it really annoys me.
Anything I really like eating, he likes it to and then he'll go and buy it everytime we go shopping and say... | YTA this is the dumbest thing I've read today. A lot of people share favourite food, it should be something you can use to bond with your partner not get angry about. I am so confused. ###### |
As you know, french bulldogs have breathing issues due to their deformed noses.
I saw a girl jogging with her french bulldog. I told my wife i wanted to say something, but she said not to, so I didn't.
A few days later, I saw the same girl and dog around my neighborhood walking, so I took this chance to say something... | YTA This is between her and her vet. And she was unfailingly polite to you, but you were rude to her. The thing is, being dismissed when it is appropriate for someone to dismiss you is not rude. It was your cue to end the conversation. ###### |
This happened a few months ago but lockdown is making all of us dwell on our past possible mistakes so why not.
My daughter (6F) has a type of ichthyosis which is a genetic skin disorder that basically makes parts of her skin very very dry and scaly. I'm used to her getting some funny looks in public and luckily she's... | YTA the teenager didn’t say or do anything to earn your aggressiveness. Calm down mama bear. It sounds like your child ran up to the small area where this girl was already standing, which honestly, is kind of rude, and she moved out of the way. ###### |
I'm f24 my bf is 23 and we've been together for 3 years, he got into a car accident 3 weeks ago and broke both his legs and his right arm. He will make a full recovery and there was no other damage other then some cracked ribs.
Because of this since he's been home I've been taking care of him, and making him 3 meals ... | YTA the guy cannot physically do it for himself right now so what do you expect him to do? I'm assuming you love him if you've been together 3 years and live together, is that really how you'd treat someone you love when they are in need? This is temporary and I'm sure he'll make it up to you when he's recovered if he... |
My roommate has said I'm a selfish cunt and that I should even move out so I guess I want the internet to say the same thing.
Yesterday a dog showed up and was barking under my window at my cat, who was in my window. I made a commotion and my roommate, who is a dog lover, got up and she got the dog.
We spent the mo... | YTA The dog was even coming back because they had no idea where else to go. You should have told your roommate you were on your last nerve and the dog NEEDED to find another place to stay, so they'd at least have an opportunity to help the poor thing.
Instead now the dog now also has a chance of getting hit by a car,... |
I \[14M\] was bored in quarantine, so I decided to post to r/AMA a post where I pretended I was a 14 year old with brain cancer, then reveal it's fake. The post blew up and got many awards, then I revealed it's fake. I expected everyone to laugh and leave it behin but now I'm hated all across reddit and I got death thr... | YTA that’s a horrible thing to do? Why did you think that pretending to have a serious possible lethal illness would be something that people laugh about? ###### |
Restaurants Just opened in my city where I am, so I wanted to just relax with and talk with my family. We missed times like this so we figured it was the right time.
I told her let's go some where a little nicer than usual. Meaning like upscale place. I wanted to eat good that night. Told her it was a steak house, di... | YTA that's a lot of money. If you're going to suggest such an expensive place maybe you should treat. ###### |
My girlfriend (24F) and I (35M) have been together for almost a year. She comes from a wealthy family. They own several houses and buy my gf everything she wants whenever she wants it. They’re good people, but I think they need to treat her like a woman instead of a child. I worked hard for everything I have, which isn... | YTA that was rude as fuck. you started the fight because you’re jealous and petty, she did nothing to deserve that ###### |
I've been with my GF for 5 years and we recently had an anniversary. We did a huge thing and exchanged a bunch of presents. One of the presents I got her was a silver necklace from a game that I really enjoyed as a child and consider one of my favourite games. The publisher released it with a cubic zirconium piece so I... | YTA That kinda stuff is really hard to appreciate if you're not a fan. Idk man I know it's just a pretty necklace from a popular game but at the same time it seems kind of cosplay-ish? And that is never something a person wants to do accidentally.
I would be so embarrassed to be unintentionally wearing something fro... |
I'm a pretty big and strong guy and I enjoy making people laugh and smile. My one party trick once I've had a few drinks is to lift people up and twirl them around. My GF loves it when I toss her around but as of late she's started to get annoyed that I'm touching other people.
I was at the park with a few friends an... | YTA that girl was flirting with you before she asked you to choke her. The situation was inappropriate long before then. That's why she straight up asked you for a sexual favor in front of your girlfriend. You told her you were down for it with your actions. Many people consider flirting cheating and it sounds lik... |
I have four kids in total. Two girls, ages 15 and 21. As well as two boys, ages 17 and 19. All four play sports. Both of my sons are basketball players, and received full ride college scholarship offers in their 10th grade years. In both instances as a reward, their mother and I bought them a car at either Christmas or... | YTA sort of: unfortunately for your daughters. It is NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE to get a full ride scholarship for sports being a female. Universities do not put their money into womens sports. When I was applying for schools every school I spoke with said the max I could get for a soccer scholarship was 60% (guys could get 10... |
I’ve been with my husband for 21 years. I grew up with hamsters, ferrets, cats, dogs. He doesn’t like cats and has allergies, so I’ve given him that. I came into the relationship with a small breed dog and we got a large breed dog.. all learning experiences for him, but he loves our dogs. His only allergies that presen... | YTA so your argument for her getting a hamster rested on the fact that she would pay for it but she didn't pay for it and you bought it out of spite of your husband ###### |
Some background. We are pretty well off financially. Me and my wife still work luckily and have 3 kids the oldest is 18 graduated highschool and the youngest is 13. We told our kids we had rules. If they don’t plan to go to college they are out of the house at 21 and if they do, out of the house by 28 so either way the... | YTA So you gave her the choice of going to college or moving out at 21. So kind of an incentive to go to college I guess. Then, when she decides on college, you take that option off the table because you just don’t deem her to be a worthy investment.
People change you know. They can screw up high school but then reali... |
I am in a group chat with some of my classmates, including a girl with really, really big boobs. She never really talked about them being annoying. She posted on the group chat, “I’m getting a breast reduction! I’m so excited, say bye-bye to the twins!” I said “RIP” and posted a picture of a gravestone. It was intended... | YTA she’s excited about getting the reduction, how does your joke fit the tone of what she was saying? You should’ve just said congrats or something normal ###### |
My daughter has been calling her father every day when she’s with me, sometimes for an hour or more. She’s been doing this since around when the pandemic started. It’s very frustrating to me because she never calls me when she’s with her father, and when I call her she only talks for 5 minutes before saying she has to ... | YTA She’s calling him. Not his fault. Do what’s right for your daughter, not your ego. ###### |
So i have lived with my friend for 5 months now and we’ve been friends for 13 years. We both have kids she has a 2 year old i have a 1 year old. Just some background if y’all were curious.
So anyway I’m one of the millions of people who got laid off. So i obviously just stay home with my daughter. I do all the chor... | Yta she's an essential worker. People still need access to their landlords right now. Actual friends are happy for each other, not resentful ###### |
We've been married for close to 10 years now (I'm 37M and she is 35F). We have two beautiful and amazing boys (7M and 9M).
In spite of this, something has been up with my wife lately. She's been acting very melancholy and distant. Just prior to getting married, there was a pregnancy scare. Honestly I was terrified...... | YTA she opened up about her feelings and you were insensitive and guilted her with “don’t you care about our boys” ###### |
I live in NYC and my roommate has been quarantining with her parents since March so I have had the apartment all to myself. My boyfriend has been staying over more often (he also lives nearby in NYC) since it's just me in the apartment.
Well the other day the room above mine flooded and my bedroom was directly impacte... | YTA she extended the offer to *you*. Not to you *and* your boyfriend. Sex or no sex isn’t the issue. ###### |
So I (16 F) recently came out a bisexual to my parents. They were very supportive and I am happy for that, but my mom and I were sitting and watching tv when she just told me something very out of the blue
Mom- "So about sleepovers..."
Me- "Yeah?"
Mom- "You're not having sex right?"
Me- "what?!"
Mom- "well you sai... | YTA she didnt accuse you of having sex with all of your friends.
It's not unreasonable to check that you haven't been having sex during sleepovers upon first hearing the news since you could get well be attracted to/ dating/ sleeping with one of the friends you have for sleepovers. After all the reason most parents l... |
My last experience in this sub was bad but let’s try again. I (27M) have recently start working at a grocery store. My coworker (we’ll call her Kira) is pretty chill and we’ve become friends lately.
Kira loves trying new stuff with her hair and she’s had a lot of free time lately due to obvious reasons. She has been ... | YTA she asked if you though she'd look good with shorter hair, you took the opportunity to tell her to shave it off bc you think her hair looks like shite... so you didn't answer the question and you insulted her ###### |
So yea my gf has this really dumb friend who she had for like 7 years. She sometimes visits us and I have been avoiding her the last few times when my gf asked I told her straight and she was very upset and told me that it was very hurting to know how little I think to someone she adores so much.
Btw this girl is lik... | YTA read your last paragraph again. ###### |
So I 13M was born with aphonia and becuase of that I am effectively mute I am able to make very faint noise but it hurts to make and it's still very low. Now the past couple of days my sister(15F) have been having a sore throat due to her allergies. Well today she came down stairs signing (all of my family is fluent in... | YTA Playing the "I have it worse" game rarely keeps anyone from being the asshole. ###### |
Me and my ex are good terms still talk to each other frequently. I like to catch up on what's going on in her life and vise versa for her. We've been broken up for 3 years .has been going through a hardship recently, so I invited her over to just chill and talk with me.
My girlfriend is one of those people who thinks... | YTA or a troll
"So I tell my girl, that my ex will be coming over and should find something to do for a couple of hours. "Go for a walk, go hang out with friends just something". I'm the type of person that wants the setting to be intimate. It's personal" jesus
Edit- op is a bigger asshole than we thought, they ... |
My boyfriend (23M) and I (18F) have been dating for a year. We met at university. He has met my parents and grandparents, and they really like him.
Yesterday my immediate family and I went to the cottage. Not technically our cottage but a friend’s that we borrowed from. My BF was invited. My family is Christian, and m... | YTA only because you knew the rule when you went. You were invited and should have abided by and respected your grandmas rules. If you didn’t want to abide by the rule then you shouldn’t have brought him. Yes you’re an adult but you’re also a guest.
Also, your BF is the bigger AH for ignoring the rules all together ... |
So my sister had a small informal wedding recently, and I stayed over at her place the night of. Basically it turned out that only a small amount of the wedding cake was actually eaten at the event, and she put the other 80% in the fridge.
I stayed up late and got stoned, and I ended up eating the entire cake. The nex... | YTA obviously. Even if it wasn't wedding cake you shouldn't be eating fucking 80% of a cake. Let me guess, you're one of those people who eat all the leftovers or good snacks in the house within a day or two and use the whole "if you wanted it you should have eaten it" excuse. This is so rude and you definitely need t... |
I can’t remember if it was a weeknight or not which is relevant but oh well.
Regardless the park closes at 11 and some kids were gathered being super loud and smoking weed which I didn’t mind until after the park closed and I got fed up. So I decided to take action. I put my speaker outside of my window, blasted the... | YTA not to the kids, but other neighbours. You were doing the same thing as them, only worse. Also I don't see you mention asking them politely to leave? Maybe they are loud pot smoking kids, but maybe they aren't little shitheads. When I was a teen I was loud and annoying as most teens are, but if you asked me polite... |
For the past few months I’ve been going on a few (okay lots) of Tinder dates. I’m single minded and I’d like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. One specific date I went on upset a few of my friends and they’ve since started calling me “Uber”.
I invited a gentleman to meet me for a drink. We’d been cha... | YTA not necessarily for saying it, but how you did it seems unnecessarily theatrical and cruel. I also don’t really think anyone needs to say anything after a first tinder date. Don’t ask the person out again. If they ask you out again, tell them no thanks. ###### |
Getting set up on a date that didn’t work. Was I an Asshole.
So many years ago when I was single and dating. I got set up by friends with a girl for a date
Friends of her,friends of me. They thought we’d click. But I didn’t get that connection.
We didn’t really click. But everyone said just go out for a date or ... | YTA not for ending the date, but for how you ended it. Be an adult, use your words. Don't just walk away without even telling the other person you're leaving. ###### |
I used to work at a cosmetics retail store. I was there for 2 years and about 18 months in, a girl named Fatima joined our team. She was professional, kind and a great sales rep.
There was only one problem. Her FEET. SMELLED. LIKE ROTTING EGGS. They smelled what I'd imagine would smell like dead rats, vomit and beatl... | YTA not because you told her but because of the way you told her. ###### |
This is such a quarantine argument btw lmao...
So, my wife was reading a book yesterday and kept going on telling me about the book. Not like a, "oh this book is good, its about xyz". I'm talking she is trying to tell me about characters and their interactions, why this one character's childhood caused her to go into... | YTA not because you don't care (you can't really help that) but because of how you went about communicating it. Also, it's really not that hard to pretend to care. Your wife is excited about something and was loving the book and wanted to share it with you. It seems she is highly bonded with you and wants to share thi... |
My girlfriend bought an outfit online. It’s a tube top and a short skirt. The tube top just covers her boobs and the skirt is short enough to where her ass hangs out. I think it’s really hot, but I told her I didn’t feel comfortable for her wearing it in public because I felt like it was too revealing. She told me she ... | YTA no, you don't get a small say in what she wears in public. You think you get to claim some type of ownership because you've been dating a while? Your comfort level doesn't matter here, if you don't like it then don't hang out with her when she chooses to wear it in public. What are you afraid is going to happen? #... |
My husband kept some multi-generation steak knives in a junk drawer. He used them fairly frequently, but for Christmas we received a new knife block with new steak knives. I didn’t know that they were special to my husband and offered them up to my mother, who was looking for hand-me-downs for my sister’s new apartment... | Yta never give away something that is not yours. You should have asked.
The fact its still bothers hi. Should be a damn clue to get them back. Double YTA ###### |
My daughter (13F) insists on sitting in her room (on her computer) and doing her school work. She gets about 5 hours of work on weekdays and none on weekends. I would much prefer she sit downstairs in the living room and do her work so I can a keep an eye on what she's doing and who she's talking to. Apparently (accord... | YTA massively. If she’s getting her work done then does it matter how much time she spends on her phone staying in touch with friends?
Fast forward to when she’s married. Her husband takes her phone away from her because she’s spending too much time on her phone. You wouldn’t stand for that would you? You’re basicall... |
Two weeks ago we had taco night. My mom made a bunch of meat, beans, corn, etc. My brothers got to the kitchen about ten minutes before me to make their tacos and as I entered, my little brother was finishing making his fifth taco and used up the last of the beef. I was pissed because they didn’t save me any and the me... | YTA lmao. If you were like 13-15, I’d understand, but you are a 22 year old man. Buy and cook your own food so you don’t have to worry about your mom being “unfair”. ###### |
I know I’m sorta in the wrong for making the bet in the first place, but let’s see.
My sister-in-law-to-be announced that she was pregnant two months ago. I was really suspicious about this. I’ve heard rumors of her faking a pregnancy before. Again, I didn’t blurt it out, but that’s what I thought. The timing was too... | YTA leave it, please. He's got a lot things to deal with atm. Be supportive. ###### |
I was at work yesterday and it was time for my break. I went down to the break room with a few of my friends. While we were eating, there were scenes of the protests on TV.
My friend made a joke saying, "all of these white people always cause shit". For context, he is black and I am white. I found the joke funny and r... | YTA kinda for assuming that just bc one black coworker didn't find something racist, that the other wouldn't as well. POC aren't a hivemind. ###### |
I met a guy a while ago and we hit it off. We talked every hour of every day for 3-4 months, but chose not to date because of our differing plans for next year. We both agreed that we’d come back after next year and decide to date or not. We continued acting like a couple without formally calling it a “relationship.”
... | YTA kind of. You can't tell someone that you just want to be friends with them and then get upset when you find out they're dating someone else.
It's none of your business what he does and who he does it with in so far as he keeps his relationship with you friendly. ###### |
So I live with my girlfriend and her friend (also female) in a two bedroom apartment. Today while the gf's friend was at work I took a shower. When I got out, I came out to the living room without getting dressed and went to sit on the couch. My girlfriend got upset and asked me what I was doing. She insisted that I go... | YTA just no. No no no no no. I own my sofa, and share a house with my kids. It's my house, so my rules, but I would never sit naked on a shared space. My bed? No problem.
Do you not consider anal leakage? Dropping pubes? And YTA for making me have to type this.
Just ugh. ###### |
Last night my girlfriend accidentally dropped her laptop down the stairs (our dog kind of jumped at her while she was going up). It still turns on but the only thing connecting the screen a keyboard are a couple wires and the screen is showing all those weird colors. Anyways she was freaking out about it and I helped g... | YTA just let her finish and make sure she leaves the computer in one location. ###### |
My sister (31F) is having a baby in August. It’s a boy, but they are not planning to announce the name until he is born. This has really pissed off my mom and grandma, and they constantly bug my sister about telling the name.
After a while, my sister got sick of it and started telling them fake names. This might seem... | YTA it’s not your sisters fault your mom and grandma aren’t respecting her boundaries. Not to mention she is a freaking genius 😂 It’s also not her fault they are trying to loop you into it because apparently no one taught them the meaning of the word no. I really hope your sister sets some boundaries soon before the ... |
My sister called today asking for money, saying she needs it for food. I asked why because she told me she works at a grocery store as her job(she’s in college and has her own apartment, I still live at home, I’m going next year). I thought grocery store workers were essential workers(which they are). She said she got ... | YTA it’s not your place to say something like that, especially if there was a chance it could cause family conflict.
If she wanted them to know, don’t you think she would have gone to them in the first place? In fact, she only told you when you kept asking why she hadn’t asked your parents... A CLEAR indication she d... |
Me: 20/f
Stepsister: 23/f
Parents: 40s m/f
I have a younger brother (18/m) but he is staying with my mom and stepdad for reasons.
Corona virus basically ruined my college experience. The school closed down when we were on spring break, so a lot of my stuff is still there. My best friends and boyfriend live far ... | YTA It’s not a competition. Also you’re basically complaining that you’ve gotta experience what your sister has to go through for the rest of her life for what, a summer? ###### |
So due to this whole pandemic, I’ve urged my girlfriend to only order essential things from amazon. It’s a big risk to be ordering unnecessary stuff that could put us at risk. Anyway so as I was checking our orders I saw my gf ordered some kind of gloves. I clicked on it and they were these compression gloves meant for... | YTA it’s common for artists to get arthritis at a young age. She could be starting to see signs and not wanting (or able) to see a doctor. She obviously needed them or she wouldn’t have ordered them. ###### |
Bit of background, my wife and I are key workers, i have been working at home the duration of the pandemic.
My wife has not been able to, So has been at home with the kids, only going in on a semi regular basis.
Ages ago my boss told us all to book X amount of holiday over the next four months , (so we don't go back ... | YTA it's understandable that you need a break, but why are you sneaking around and lying to your wife!? Suck it up, be an adult, and talk to her. I'm sure she'd be happy to help cover you for a day off if you offered the same to her. You're both working hard and full of stress during quarantine. You need to be a team.... |
My 14 year old son decided a few days ago that he was going to uninstall Windows on his laptop and install another program called Linux on it instead. I told him that I didn't care either way as long as he can still do his schoolwork on it.
The very next day, our desktop computer as well as his dad's laptop both got i... | YTA it's impossible to get a virus on another computer by installing linux on a separate one if both of your computers got the virus that's on YOU.
Linux is not a program it's a separate operating system ###### |
So last July my brother announced he had proposed and the wedding was scheduled for mid 2020 ish (they didn't lock in a date thankfully because they'd have to postpone it due to this lockdown stuff) and the girl seems really nice. A little uptight tbh but definitely someone who can be chill and fun to be around after y... | YTA it sounds like you barely know this woman, why would you send her a risqué gag gift? You had no idea if she was ok with those kind of jokes or if they would make her uncomfortable. That’s an awful way to start a relationship with a SIL. ###### |
I (20M) live with my large family, and I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation. It's been a tough month, and my mother (47F) has been looking for ways to make money.
She's had some credit card debt. Nothing major, but because her businesses' incomes have dried up, she hasn't had any way to pay her d... | YTA It sounds like she took an old bike that you abandoned on her property, one that she likely paid for, and turned it into cash. Dick move for sure.
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>I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation.
It also sounds a bit more like they're stuck with you. ###### |
I'm a RN who works in NYC (I commute from a neighboring county, takes about 45 minutes to get to work with no traffic).
I don't need to explain how horrible the situation is right now on my unit, but today at least I saw more dead patients than alive ones. I wrapped more bodies for the morgue than I ever have in my 6 ... | YTA ish. You're still speeding, by a lot. That's 13 over which is considered reckless driving (I believe) I'm an RT so I understand but he's also doing his job. How are you going to help anyone by getting into a wreck or killing someone for speeding. ###### |
My gf has recently got very into skincare stuff. She suffered from pretty bad acne until last year when she went on acutane and it cleared it up. Since then she's been excited about being able to try different products and stuff.
One of her recent favorite products is this moisturizer which has snail slime in it. I f... | YTA in the category "we could have had an adult conversation where I would have told her I'm slightly put off by something she does, but instead I chose to do something creepy with the underlying idea that I know better than her what's good for her and she should now just be grateful because I solved the problem in sp... |
I have custody of my 23 year old autistic brother who has about the functionality of a 10 year old. I have always treated him no different than I would anyone else and I feel like if he wants to try it he should be able to. At the same time... I have a 9 year old daughter and there's no way in hell I would be ok with h... | YTA if:
He does not meet the Brady test for informed consent, which was mentioned already.
You do this without consulting medical professionals.
You do this without a proper environment to keep him safe, which may involve having professionals available on-hand to deal with extreme behaviors.
I raised a child with ... |
I have custody of my 23 year old autistic brother who has about the functionality of a 10 year old. I have always treated him no different than I would anyone else and I feel like if he wants to try it he should be able to. At the same time... I have a 9 year old daughter and there's no way in hell I would be ok with h... | YTA if your brother doesn’t meet the Brady test for being able to give informed consent, and you’re not gonna pay for or be responsible for any potential negative outcomes or behaviours he exhibits while high.
Edited because spelling ###### |
I’ve been married to my wife for two years now and she’s always wanted to have a child with me. She mentions it often. I’ve even been “trying” to have one with her. The problem is that I’ve had a vasectomy and she doesn’t know.
My ex wife came over and dropped off our 3 kids 9, 5 and 4. And she’s pregnant by her now ... | YTA if you’re not a troll, you sound like a sociopath trying to pretend you have emotions about this. Who the fuck lies about being able to have children with someone they are married to and actively trying to have kids with? For two fucking years!? ###### |
Title says it all. My son 18m, has moved out of home, but is living in our property with his mates at a severely reduced rent. He’s looking at upgrading his computer and says he will “sell” his old one to me when he gets his new one. I want a gaming desktop so I can learn about online games. I current play console only... | YTA if you try to demand the whole computer. You could argue to getting half of the profits off the computer. Honestly though the way you talk about you son sounds like you view the relationship as transactional. You don’t get a cookie for helping your child out especially if financial you are able to. ###### |
I'm 34F, he's 36M, we've been married for seven years. He's been a musician his entire life but unfortunately had his left arm removed at the elbow three years ago in an accident while hiking. Our house has a dedicated music room which unfortunately he doesn't visit much often anymore. Despite his love for the guitar, ... | YTA if you push him to sell them.
It was okay to ask. He declined. End of story. He may come around to the idea in time, or he might not. ###### |
I’m currently pregnant with twins, one boy one girl, and my fiancé and I are thinking of giving them kind of unconventional names.
I recently told my family some of our top options and they got mad, telling us we’re going to ruin our kids’ lives if we choose these names.
Anyways the names we chose all sort of play o... | YTA if you name your son Demon. Wth is wrong with you? Why don't you just name him Evil or Satan, since you care more about being cute for 5 seconds than the lifelong self esteem of your child.
And if you name your daughter Moon,, all the other kids will be showing her their bare butts at every opportunity.
Some... |
Hi all,
First post so apologies.
My husband works in almost an all female environment and has done almost 20 years, I accept these work friendships
Last few weeks I've been telling him that co worker texting him after 10pm asking for a lift is inappropriate, he agrees but doesn't control when they text him.
hubby has ... | YTA if you don't give your husband a chance to have a polite and sensitive conversation with the co-worker before you step in. He needs to let her know that she needs to reach out to someone qualified to help, provide a local crisis hotline number, etc. ###### |
For context, we are in our late 20’s.
I had headphones on and was watching some NSFW context. My girl came home from work earlier than expected and caught me doing it.
The first thing she does is ask a series of questions. The conversation goes like so:
Her: *Is this the stuff you usually watch?*
Me: *Uh... it ... | Yta if you can't answer " would you cheat on me with this girl" with a resounding no then why are you wasting this girl's time? ###### |
Ive (25m) just recently moved in with my GF (26f) - I am black, and she is white.
Growing up my parents drummed it into me that white people using fake tan is equivalent to black face, and i thoroughly believed this until I met my GF.
For context my GF was raised by her mum, her dad died after her sister was born, ... | YTA if you asked her to stop, but your parents obviously are assholes whatever you do.
Fake tanning being equivalent to blackface is just ridiculous. It is a surrogate for tanning, so unless your parents also believe normal tanning to be racist (which would be just as ridiculous), there should be no reason for them t... |
We just started streaming a new TV series to pass the time during quarantine, we're about a season and a half into it. I saw her earlier today reading wikipedia pages for the show on her computer and asked why she always reads ahead and spoils things. She said she hadn't read any spoilers and I said inevitably you'll r... | YTA If she doesn't spoil it for you, whatever information she chooses to look up does not concern you. It can still be enjoyable for someone to read about something and then watch it play out on a screen. We don't all "enjoy" things in the same way. ###### |
Hi guys,
So my sister said I should share this here. I volunteer with middle school kids doing science type stuff because I am a science major about to go to medical school. Anyways, I went to judge at a science fair and they told us there was this big emphasis on them being able to explain things correctly. One litt... | YTA if only for interrupting her and calling her sweetheart.
But you also made the assumption that the subject was too difficult for her to grasp.
This whole encounter was super condescending. ###### |
I (27M) met her (26F) a little over 1 year ago, and it was actually her who asked me out. At first it wasn't serious but within a few months we were officially dating. I did grow to love her but it did seem like she was more into me than me into her, but now I'd say its equal.
Anyway, for the longest time I avoided m... | YTA if learning that she's rich was the main motivation for proposing. I really hope she makes you sign a prenup. ###### |
The Starbucks in my town has recently reopened for take out business only. These people have been put of a job for about a month now, so I don't exactly expect them to be stellar at their jobs at the moment. My gf and I had to get her car from the shop, so we decided to get Starbucks for ourselves and the family while ... | YTA If I paid for a hot drink, I want a hot drink. You can nicely ask them to remake a drink for you. ###### |
Some background - I (19f) have been staying with my brother -B- (23m) and his long term boyfriend -K- (25m) for the time being for obvious reasons. My only other option was going home to our parents who I don't get along with.
Since living with them I've noticed a few things. Like when my brother cooks he always sets ... | YTA I'm also a woman and I couldn't take a 30 minute shower if I tried
Adults pay rent and/or buy food or contribute. End of story. They have a routine and a life.. they are kind enough to let you encroach on it. You're not entitled. ###### |
This is a throwaway account. Some of you are going to think I’m TA just based on the title but I urge you to read to the end. I have 4 children. 3 sons ages 17, 14 & 11 and 1 daughter age 16. My 2 eldest are both very athletic. My son plays football and baseball and my daughter plays softball -it’s a girl version o... | YTA I was willing to hear you out all the way up until I got to this little gem:
>my daughter plays softball -it’s a girl version of baseball for those who don’t know. They’re pretty different
You are treating her differently because she's a girl. You can wrap it up and explain it however you want, but that's what i... |
Just for some background on our family, I had my daughter at 17, she turned 15 March. Her stepfather and I have been married since she was five.
A couple of years ago she started shying away from church, and around the same time building an altar. At first it was just crystals and candles. She said it was for meditati... | YTA I mean why can’t you just ask her to share what the items signicance are instead of getting confrontational and give ultimatums? If you asked nicely maybe she’d have told you but now that moment has passed. Is she sacrificing animals? No? Then let her be. ###### |
So yesterday was my husbands 40th birthday. We’re Hispanic and pushing kids faces into the birthday cake is a big tradition. This also extends to adults birthdays, especially milestones. We have three children who are 10, 7, and 5. The 10 year old is very sensitive and caring and it’s been a difficult adjustment for my... | YTA I hate when people blame culture for doing something that is borderline abusive ###### |
I'm a second-year radiology resident in a city in the Pacific Northwest. I'm a decent-looking guy, but a bit short and very socially awkward. So until recently, despite my best efforts, I've never been with anyone in any way at all. I was beginning to think I'd die a virgin without ever having been kissed...until I mov... | YTA I got chills reading this, this is so scary and sick. ###### |
My grandmother is 90 this year.
I'm 34 and SIL is 30.
My SIL visits my grandmother with her children and my brother three times a week, I visit as much as possible which is usually three times a month but we usually Skype or call at least twice a week, I live further away so it just isnt possible for me to visit as f... | YTA I don't even get why you are the first point of contact when you are further away from the care home. Also family isn't just about who is related by blood ###### |
This happened back in Feb but it’s still an issue which she brought up recently.
The title makes me sound like I’m definitely the asshole, but just let me explain:
So my (25M) girlfriend (25F) was picking up something at my workplace. This is an office job, but it’s very stressful. Anyway, I went down to the lobby t... | YTA how would your gf had known any situation that is going on in your office? She was being empathetic.
Also what is the frequency of your boss asking this coworker to get him tea bags vs. Everyone else? Honestly she may have felt like it wasn’t her job to do it, especially if it’s not and she was fed up? ###### |
I live in a house with a park nearby. I am pregnant, so I am considered high risk so we barely leave the house, and when we do we leave at non-peak times (either before 9am or after 7pm). I and my husband have a four-year-old, who is a very high energy kid, and my husband is teaching her how to cycle using stabilisers.... | YTA how the hell do you have to be told you’re the asshole after yelling at a young child?
I hope you’re embarrassed. ###### |
The title probably screams NTA, but before you judge him hear my story.
I (f24) cook dinner for my boyfriend (m26) almost every night and he does the dishes, so we have a good system going. I usually try to make something that we can both enjoy, but I have one dish that I love eating and used to make a lot before we m... | Yta honey, I don't see the issue. You get to make something you like and he eats something he likes. It's just one dish he doesn't like and he doesn't feel also cooking. ###### |
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wou... | YTA holy shit. There's really no justification for your actions. ###### |
Hi guys, I'm new to Reddit because I follow this subs Twitter account, and I wanted your opinion on this.
My (30F) half-sister (28F, let's call her Ava) was born from an affair. We found out about her when I was 10 because her mom died and there was no one to care for her, so the government came looking for my dad. He... | YTA here OP. You say that you're "very lucky" compared to her. In a sense that's very true - because you had everything given to you. Your sister, at age 8, lost her mother and had a father who wanted nothing to do with her. He didn't pay any child support and when he died gave her absolutely nothing. You got enough m... |
My (26F) BF (27m) wasn't feeling well this morning and I woke up to him getting sick at 7am.
He was being really loud, and I was alarmed when I woke up. I got him water and reminded him to clean up after himself. I emphasised taps and handles. He got back in the bed a few minutes later and went to sleep.
The smell w... | YTA he’s sick. Just grab a Clorox wipe and do it yourself. You are supposed to care for the people you love. If your first thought when he’s sick is that he has to clean up after himself, then you are definitely the asshole. ###### |
My (26F) BF (27m) wasn't feeling well this morning and I woke up to him getting sick at 7am.
He was being really loud, and I was alarmed when I woke up. I got him water and reminded him to clean up after himself. I emphasised taps and handles. He got back in the bed a few minutes later and went to sleep.
The smell w... | YTA he’s sick, and did an ok job of cleaning up. If he has noro he’s probably weak, shaky, and sweating. Even the smell of cleaning products can turn your stomach in that situation.
Not a lot of sympathy in you huh? I’m sure he appreciates it. ###### |
Me(25f) and my bf(27m) live together.
Lately he's been watching this anime show called re: zero. At first I was curious to see what it was about but I find out that his favorite characters are extremely sexualized maids.
I ask why he's watching a show that has characters like that. He says that I have no right to dic... | YTA He's right. You have no right to dictate what he watches as long as he doesn't have an unhealthy obsession with it. Stop being so controlling. ###### |
I'm f24 my bf is 23 and we've been together for 3 years, he got into a car accident 3 weeks ago and broke both his legs and his right arm. He will make a full recovery and there was no other damage other then some cracked ribs.
Because of this since he's been home I've been taking care of him, and making him 3 meals ... | YTA He is badly injured and cannot take care of himself. I understand it’s a lot to do, but, if you actually love him then you should want to do it. If you don’t want to maybe ask yourself if you do love him? ###### |
So i'm a "vampire" (m15), and i'm friends with this girl from school (f15) and since we can't se eachother at school anymore, we talk via facebook.
I am very naturally pale and have colored my hair since age 12, and i mostly go out at night.
We were talking one day via facetime, and was asking me questions. She su... | YTA Go watch the blade series and tell me black people cant be vampires ###### |
I've \[M29\] known this person \[F32\] since 2004. That would make me 14. We live in different countries, so our friendship has been always via technology. Back at 2004 even the most basic webcam was a luxury and only few had it. Now it's 2020 and videocalls and streaming is within the reach of almost everyone, and hen... | YTA geez what an entitled post. So because you can’t be there in person you expect her to make her wedding revolve entirely on you being able to video call in? No. Just no. It’s an added hassle on an already busy day, sorry you can’t be there but that’s not her fault. ###### |
My son is 17 years old and over the past few months he's been acting very peculiar and we came to blows over this and he spoke back to me saying that they're not his fault and he doesn't know how to do. Here is what I noticed from him
* He's suddenly gone very lethargic very quickly. He'll get up, sit on his chair for... | YTA Fucking take him to a doctor Jesus Christ ###### |
Before I start, I just want to say my gf is beautiful. Since quarantine, she started working out at home. She also changed her diet. She lost some weight but she’s also been toner. Especially around her ass and wait. I’ve complimented her at first but now she’s getting a bit cocky. All she talks about is working out an... | YTA for trying to manipulate her to get what *you* want rather than addressing the issue with her like a mature adult.
She is smart and hot. You two have nothing in common. ###### |
Throaway acc.
I was very badly verbally abused as a kid which made me have some kind of trigger to being talked to a certain way. I'm not upset at criticism at all or anything that isn't rude but sarcasm and being rude as a joke sets me off. I always have given people warnings that I don't like to be talked down to, e... | YTA for threatening him. You said you where badly verbally abused as a kid but you pretty much just verbally abused this guy. ###### |
My son and DIL got married this year and they are expecting a little boy in November around Thanksgiving. She has three kids from a previous marriage a set of twins 5, and a 2 1/2 year old. My son has always wanted to have a farm and this April they bought a bunch of animals that they have been taking care of.
Well m... | YTA for this:
> She also is a rather plain Jane as she doesn’t even wear makeup or wear nice clothes just a t shirt and maternity jeans.
YTA for this, too:
> When my son left the room I told her that she needed to go back to work and pull her own and her kids weight and that my son shouldn’t have to support her and... |
Throwaway due to friend following my account
So me (F30) and my boyfriend (M32) have found out we’re expecting our first baby. We couldn’t wait to tell everyone, but waiting until the 12 week mark to tell our friends and family.
So we hit the 12 week mark with zero problems. We tell our parents who are absolutely ecs... | YTA for this sentence alone:
" I’m the one who’s pregnant and who’s going through a life changing experience, not her."
Sorry I didnt' realize having multiple miscarriages wasn't a life changing experience. ###### |
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