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So my sister (14) ALWAYS steals my (16F) clothes, like I swear every time I go into my closet or jewelry chest there is always something missing. Her friends who live next door, have a pool in their backyard and she is always over there swimming with them, for the longest time my parents didn't let her wear a 2 piece ... | YTA for this particular situation. Being accused of stealing when you're in fact innocent can be quite hurtful. Be a big sister and apologize. ###### |
My son (23) has a learning disability. He's great with jobs that involve cleaning, stocking and facing.
He previously had a care aid come 2x weekly. She had another job at a pet store. My son expressed interest in employment at this store and I asked her if she could discuss setting up a tour with her boss for him. I... | YTA for that mentality of "If my son continues to make problems for her with his comments and making her feel uncomfortable, she can just quit again". Just comes off as assholeish knowing your son was the reason she quit and trying to force her hand/strong arm her out of her job where she has been first.
What comme... |
Okay to start off both my girlfriend and I are expecting a boy and we are 6 months in and we couldn't be more happy about her having her first child and me having my second boy. I love them all very much.
My girlfriend and I started a shouting match because she is barely eating I'd say like a quarter of a meal a day i... | YTA for that comment and for the guilt trip. If she's heavily nauseous, that's probably why she's not eating -- in which case, telling her she's a bad person will not help the food stay down. Maybe try being constructive and helpful for a change, like finding out what her stomach will best tolerate and making things e... |
There’s some backstory here. I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend “Kase” for almost a year. We went to the same high school, but we weren’t really acquainted for reasons I’ll explain further down.
We were on video chat last night, and he made a remark about how he was bullied in high school for his lazy eye. It’s tr... | YTA for telling him the bullying wasn't "serious" when hes telling you that it was. To him it ruined his self worth. You're telling him he deserved to be bullied and was in essence asking for it by acting like this and...not being skinny? Yes. He was cringey in high school so was everyone. Support him and stop victim ... |
So yea my gf has this really dumb friend who she had for like 7 years. She sometimes visits us and I have been avoiding her the last few times when my gf asked I told her straight and she was very upset and told me that it was very hurting to know how little I think to someone she adores so much.
Btw this girl is lik... | YTA for talking about your girlfriend's best friend like that. You aren't going to like all of her friends, nor is she going to like all of your friends, but part of being in a relationship means getting along with the people in your partner's life. That doesn't mean that you have to be her best friend or hang out wit... |
So I am 19 Male. I am away from college but I am still financially dependent on my parents they pay for my college they pay for my car insurance my gas for my car and give me a month spending budget of 600 a month. Well when I found out that I wasn't getting a stimulus check because my mom claimed me on her taxes last ... | YTA for sure! She claimed you because you're still DEPENDENT on her! Thus it's her money not yours. It's not even a month's worth of Your expenses. ###### |
Bit of a long story but need to post here as we are both completely convinced we are not TA in this situation.
So I went to a rave recently with a group of friends and not my GF. About a week or two after this rave I get a message on Facebook from some random girl I’ve never met or seen asking if I was the guy from *na... | YTA for stringing this girl along instead of correcting her mistake, and YTA for flirting with someone else behind your GF's back. ###### |
I fly a good amount, and especially now as airlines barely offer peanuts to their passengers anymore, I prefer to bring my own food onto the airplane. For years now, I love grabbing to-go food from any of my favorite local restaurants, lugging it through security and waiting to eat the meal on the airplane. Usually I g... | YTA for stinky food on a plane, but YTA for not realising that the air hostess has to agree with you - she can't be seen criticising the actions of a passenger who isn't being openly disruptive (just obnoxious). ###### |
Throwaway as step daughter uses Reddit
I have a family of 5. Two sons one wife and my step daughter. Over the last year or so my family has been using Netflix less and less as Netflix is getting rid of our favorite content.
This month only step daughter used Netflix. So I decided since there where new streaming serv... | YTA for setting up a vote you knew she would lose. If you said hey, we're getting rid of Netflix because x y z, fine. But you knew she was the only one watching it and deliberately picked only two other services beyond that one and said you would only have two services, setting her up to lose.
THAT part feels like a ... |
The title sounds really vulgar but my ”stepmom” is 29 and she has always tried to boss me around and still at 18 does it and I have had enough.
Today I just couldn’t take it anymore when she tried to make me come eat lunch even though I wasn’t hungry. She insisted like I was a 5 year old.
I snapped and told her to fu... | YTA for saying that to anyone. You've given no examples that warrant that reaction. ###### |
Okay, so this was kind of in response to a "trying to feed a cat vegan" post, and someone mentioned rabbits; it reminded me of an interaction I had the other day. My friend said she got two rabbits as pets and sent pictures... The cages are small, for starters. I didn't really know what to say about them because I d... | YTA for saying it to someone who was sharing her pets with you via pictures. If it had been said in a conversation about food in general no. ###### |
My grandmother is 90 this year.
I'm 34 and SIL is 30.
My SIL visits my grandmother with her children and my brother three times a week, I visit as much as possible which is usually three times a month but we usually Skype or call at least twice a week, I live further away so it just isnt possible for me to visit as f... | YTA for repeatedly saying your SIL is "not actually family" when she clearly is. What's your issue with her? ###### |
Two of my daughters are getting married on the same day (I know smh). The older one thought the younger one did it to be malicious, but we've since confirmed that the wedding hall that the younger one wants to get married at only had a limited amount of slots, and that the next available slot is almost a year later unl... | YTA for punishing your older daughter for the actions of her sister.
Your older daughter had her wedding planned first, and now because her younger sister thoughtlessly picked the same date, your older daughter is being punished by you not attending. I would never forgive my parents or my sister for that betrayal. #... |
Seriously, what is up with validation posts recently? The entire front page is full of them. You can see them from their title. For example : AITA for cutting of my wife's liquor consuption while pregnant? WELL WHAT DO YOU THINK? ARE YOU AN ASSHOLE FOR WANTING YOUR UNBORN TO BE HEALTHY? Another one: AITA for refusing t... | YTA for not using meta tags ###### |
I am a very deep sleeper. I have always been this way, and my wife knows this. When our daughter cries at night I never hear her. My wife knows this too.
I have told her many times to please wake me up so I can feed her and take care of her so my wife get some sleep, but my wife refuses to wake me up. Instead she wi... | YTA for not trying to find a solution. 2 seconds of googling found me wearable and vibrating baby monitors for deaf people. http://thedeafmama.com/equipment-lists/baby-monitors/
I’m sure there are even more solutions out there. Another option is you and your wife shift sleep so you go to bed early wake up early so yo... |
I have a 6 year old yorkiepoo who is, in my opinion, the cutest thing in the world. I used to only dress him for weather, like a jacket and boots if it was cold and a thunder shirt to help him with anxiety during storms, but I noticed that he seemed to really like the clothes I put on him. He would wag his tail and get... | YTA for not posting a picture of your doggie. ###### |
So, I've been living with her for almost 4 months now and recently I started to have issues about my personal space being invaded while I'm working.
Last time it happened I had to make an evaluation online and she didn't stop trying to be all over me or in front of the pc screen so, obviously, I told her to go into h... | YTA for not paying the cat picture tax. ###### |
Okay so immediately that title makes me look like a total fucking douche, but let me elaborate.
My friend Charlie and I recently rekindled our friendship, among rekindling our entire high school friend group, after the group broke up and went no contact for roughly 8 months. The group consisted of about twenty people... | YTA for not offering to pay for gas ###### |
So I'm 17. I've known my adoptive parents most of my life but they've only been "officially" my parents for about 2-3 years. Before that they were friends of our foster parents and adopted us after they died.
My moms (E and A) got divorced about 3 months ago. It wasn't messy, just two people who no longer really worke... | YTA for not explaining why she couldn't come. You could've told her about the guest limitation but you chose to hurt her feelings by saying "you're not invited". She seems to care about you, even if you teo never managed to establish a meaningful connection ###### |
I have four sons, ranging in age from twelve to five. My wife died four years ago and I've been dating my girlfriend for about five months now.
There have been multiple times now where one of my children have gone up to her, trying to show her something or asking to watch a television show with her or something along... | YTA for not dumping someone who’s mean to your kids ###### |
Me and my wife have been having an ongoing feud with our neighbors - they have a very large and obnoxious dog that howls into all hours of the night (We will be moving into a new house very soon, but are currently living in a townhouse beside them.)
Ever since our fat neighbor (37F) lost a bunch of weight, she has be... | YTA for not calling the RSPCA/ humane society/ whatever it is in your country to check on a neglected dog. Your concern is revenge and it should be animal welfare. ###### |
I (28F) bought my niece (14F) an iPhone for her birthday. My sister and her daughter are not the most affluent. (I'd say they're about lower-middle class.) This past weekend was my niece Bethany's 14th birthday and she's never had a smartphone. She has always told me she feels left out from her friends when they tell a... | YTA for not asking first. There are a lot of ways a gift like this can go wrong, whether it's the mom feeling one-upped or like her child will be given expectations she can't fulfill, or the financial implications for phone plans and data usage, or the question of whether the mom wants her child to have continual acce... |
A bit of context: Most food shops are closed. My bf and I don't live together but he visits me every night.
Last night I told my bf about a bakery that's still open with my favorite types of cakes and asked him to come by and buy me some when getting off work. He agreed.
This morning when he was at work I sent him a... | YTA for making two words more important than your boyfriend's feelings. Like goddamn. How many situations do you thank someone immediately after asking for a favour? Basically all situations. You don't thank them after it's done, you thank them when they agree to do you a favour. Its almost as if you care more about t... |
My step brother and me have never gotten along. He's very opinionated (atheist, feminist, Marxist, lgbt, etc) and always makes his opinions known, usually causing massive drama at family gatherings. Mum says he has histrionic personality disorder. I'm not sure if that's her diagnosis or his psychologist's.
Anyway, I ... | YTA for making a petty grievance the basis of your wedding decisions. Your fiance deserves for you to be committed to the wedding and planning it with sincerity and enthusiasm, not malice toward a third party. ###### |
So around when my son was 10 or 11 I told my wife that I thought he would be gay when he was older. (Or was already gay I reckon since you are born with a sexuality.) She thought I was being ridiculous. Now I want to make sure I say, neither me and my wife are bigots, neither of us care at all if our kids are gay or st... | YTA for making a bet on your child's sexuality and dragging your wife into it. Congrats, your son will face so many obstacles for being gay, but hey, your wife will give $50 thats essentially both your money anyways. ###### |
Ok so to begin this let's just call my mom and stepdad my parents because that's easier and almist correct anyway. My parents are in their 30s so it's not unexpected that they still do it.
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night at like 01 or something. I didn't check but it was late. I obviously got out of my... | YTA for making 30s sound geriatric. Hell yeah we still fuck! ###### |
Yesterday, I was talking in a group chat and this one person who I would be friendly with started to text in homophobic slurs, saying 'all gays should be sent away' etc. These comments have been a recurring issue with this guy for years and he has seemed never to back down on them even after I and others condemn them. ... | YTA for lying
> They fired him within hours. I didn't mean for him to get fired, only to have a conversation with him however I still have very little sympathy for him.
This is quite clearly untrue, you knew exactly what would happen as a result of what you did, don't try and pretend you didn't. People in this sub a... |
I'm the 33YO mother of two daughters, 8YO and 7YO. I have no problem with my children watching almost anything on Disney, Nick, and Boomerang, except I \*\*\*HATE\*\*\* a certain show about a sponge under the sea. I WILL NOT let my daughters watch it.
Apparently, 7YO has somehow been exposed to this painful cartoon an... | YTA for letting your general dislike of the show cloud the reality of it. Spongebob is a show that can be annoying, yes, but straight up saying has no morals or lessons is blatantly wrong. It’s a show that consistently teaches that lying/stealing, judging people, trying to change yourself too much to fit in, etc... ar... |
So because things are starting to open up, they’ve loosened the restrictions on gatherings in my country. To celebrate my brother recently graduating college, we decided to have a small barbecue.
We invited a few people who we knew took the quarantine seriously and probably weren’t sick, and one of them is vegan. We ... | YTA for inviting someone to a BBQ without providing anything they can eat. ###### |
My daughter (16F) lives and works as an actress/ model in LA.
Our family home is in Colorado where my son and husband still live full time.
I’ve been going back and forth between home and LA in an effort to preserve my marriage but lately my husband and I have been fighting a lot. Yesterday night we had such a bad ... | YTA for inserting yourself into your daughters career AND for letting her move away at 16 AND for fighting with your husband so badly that your son cried AND for not talking things out like rational adults AND for missing your son's birthday without even talking to him about it, though I feel like that is the least of... |
Throwaway because my wife knows my account.
I've (28M) have been with my amazing, sexy wife (29F) for five years. She normally gets pedicures to take care of her heels, but due to recent events she has not been able to, and it's killing me. I don't know how or why her heels get so jagged and crusty, but they look like... | YTA for how your talk about her. I get that you’re making jokes to entertain....redditors....but she is your wife. She may have crusty feet, and she may want to find solutions that you can help with, but there’s no reason to continuously disrespect her like that so anonymous strangers can upvote you. ###### |
I used to work at a cosmetics retail store. I was there for 2 years and about 18 months in, a girl named Fatima joined our team. She was professional, kind and a great sales rep.
There was only one problem. Her FEET. SMELLED. LIKE ROTTING EGGS. They smelled what I'd imagine would smell like dead rats, vomit and beatl... | YTA for how you told her. She is right, that was very inconsiderate. Why couldn’t you have just let her know discreetly and respectfully? She clearly has a medical issue and this needed to have been addressed well before you guys started making fun of her behind her back and didnt care that you were losing business be... |
My girlfriend (24F) and I (35M) have been together for almost a year. She comes from a wealthy family. They own several houses and buy my gf everything she wants whenever she wants it. They’re good people, but I think they need to treat her like a woman instead of a child. I worked hard for everything I have, which isn... | YTA For how you handled this.
Does she flaunt her wealth? Treat people poorly? Expect to get good grades because of her money?
Her laptop broke and her parents bought her a new one. NBD. Did you walk in on her screeching at the top of her lungs on the phone with her parents demanding a top of the line MacBook or is... |
So I’m getting married July 21st
(Corona be dammed, I’ll get married if I want) and for my wedding party, I have my bestie, my future sister in law, and my little sister(14). Now I am getting married to a poc, whose family all has this brown hair. My family also has very curly brown hair( not a Afro or anything just ve... | YTA for having a wedding during a pandemic and for asking your sister to dye her hair ###### |
I hated my grandma, she was a real bitch all the time. She played favorites all the time and treated me like trash compared to my siblings, she gave me really awful gifts compared to my siblings and cousins around Christmas and the holidays. So I was pretty hype when she finally kicked the bucket. My brother overheard... | YTA for having "poggers" in your vocabulary ###### |
Yesterday I was browsing Instagram and saw a pic with a girl with her whole ear pierced. I thought it looked awesome and spontaneously decided to get it done.
The only place open doing ear piercings was a local hair salon so went there and got 5 new piercings added to my left ear in addition to the 3 I had already. I ... | YTA for going to a hair salon to get piercings during a pandemic ###### |
Throwayay for obvious reasons, and I’ll try to keep this short. Also, this is not relationship advice, I just want to know if I presented things in a bad way.
A while back I started searching for some new jobs out of boredom basically. To my surprise I managed to land something that requires me to relocate to another ... | YTA for going for a job abroad without even discussing this with your wife. You now have some choices: You go to country B without your wife and either your marriage is over or you make the long-distance thing work. Or you find a job in your own area and get over it.
Marriage is not a dictatorship. You can NOT deman... |
I met her 27 years ago. We lived next door to each other for 3 years and she was a very good neighbor to have. Very nice. We reconnected 2 years ago and she's been to several of my parties. But she's really bad about inviting like 20 people to come with her and I'm invaded.
Don't get me wrong! They're super nice peopl... | YTA for ghosting her and not telling her how you feel
You aren't at fault for not wanting to be her friend or for not liking her inviting people to your parties. You don't even have to apologize for thinking she's dumb.
But you are the asshole for not being upfront. Be an adult and tell her you don't want to be frie... |
So i'm a "vampire" (m15), and i'm friends with this girl from school (f15) and since we can't se eachother at school anymore, we talk via facebook.
I am very naturally pale and have colored my hair since age 12, and i mostly go out at night.
We were talking one day via facetime, and was asking me questions. She su... | YTA for gatekeeping a fictional species ###### |
My daughter has always been in dance recitals and plays were wearing makeup was both encouraged and expected, and never said anything about it. If anything, she seemed excited about getting to wear makeup (especially for her dance recitals, when the makeup is less cartoonish.)
Because she’ll be going to a new school ... | YTA for expecting her to wear makeup so she can get a boyfriend. I know deep down you just what wants best for her but I think you’re going about it wrong, and honestly it sounds kind of pushy the way you told her to “practice to she’ll be good at the start of the school year.” Does she want to wear makeup every day? ... |
So, there are absolutely no creepy intentions behind this, it’s just something we’ve always done and I kiss my daughters on the lips too. Just a quick peck, nothing creepy.
Anyway, when I visit my son or he visits me we hug and give a quick peck of a kiss on the lips to say goodbye.
My sons current girlfriend finds... | YTA for doing it intentionally to rub it in her face at this point. And I'm going to be honest-if that is a hard boundary for his significant other then he has to decide who is more important. It probably will cause issues down the line even if this girlfriend doesn't turn out to be the one, so be prepared for that. A... |
My girlfriend is 21F and I am 36F.
We live together and because she has no relationship with her controlling, abusive parents, I offered to pay her college tuition.
She’s a sophomore, and right now is taking summer courses. Last weekend, I had a work emergency in another state and was stressed out.
I told my girlfr... | YTA for dating someone 15 years younger than you and expecting her to be able to just drop everything because you want her to.
You are literally using your money to control her because you're cranky that she decided to put her education over your work trip.
Who are you to demand that she put her education aside beca... |
My husband is losing some mobility in what doctors assume is the start of a motor neuron disease. He has difficulty walking and has lost sensation in the right side of his torso. Considering the current world climate, wait times for specialist appointments and etc are extended. We'll be waiting a further 3-4 months bef... | YTA for caring more about a house that was BOUGHT for you more than the health and well-being of a man you vowed to love in sickness and health. ###### |
Just for some background on our family, I had my daughter at 17, she turned 15 March. Her stepfather and I have been married since she was five.
A couple of years ago she started shying away from church, and around the same time building an altar. At first it was just crystals and candles. She said it was for meditati... | YTA for airing her personal life and your family issues on Facebook.
I can see the concern over things like candles, they’re a fire hazard. But why in the world did you not just talk to your child? ###### |
My wife got laid off from her job due to the pandemic. Since I work in an office, I get to work from home. My wife hasn't really been looking for new jobs, she will occasionally apply for a job on linkedin, but she isn't putting in a lot of effort in her job search.
However, almost every day she took the car out to se... | YTA for a whole bunch of reasons.
You're married which theoretically makes you an adult, but your post reads like an angry 2 year old throwing a tantrum. You're obviously able to communicate so instead of hiding the keys, why didn't you try talking to her instead?
Or maybe this is entirely made up because I can't ... |
I’ll do my best to keep this short. I have 3 boys with my wife ages 10, 8, and 7. The middle one is the son in question. Let’s call him Austin. I’m no barber but I know how to cut hair. I cut their and my hair if it gets too long. Last year my son started wanting to skip haircuts and my wife said we should let him grow... | YTA first of all you’re allowing your other sons to call him a girl and bully him over his hair, so nice job allowing that to happen. With the attitude you have towards hair it’s no wonder they thought it was appropriate to call him names. Second you forced him to get a haircut against his wishes because you’re pent u... |
My son is 23 and got married two years ago. He and his wife are head over heels in love and her parents adore him. We invited them over for a Mother's Day dinner as we haven't seen much of them lately. They said they would love to and plans were made. Then they cancelled at the last minute saying they had to work. They... | YTA ffs if you have an issue with your son talk to his directly. Don't stalk his wife's facebook and then leave abusive comments like you're an internet troll. Maybe we've cracked the code on why they wanted to have dinner with her parents instead ###### |
Throwaway.
This happened a few months ago. I own a small, but popular burger joint in the middle of town.
I’m quite strict about money, and want to save whenever I can. I was looking over the heating bill and realized I was spending an absurd amount (over $500 per month) on heating alone.
As a result, I asked my e... | YTA Eugene. Get over it. Maybe you won't need it so cold if you sell more Krabby Patties ###### |
This might sound bad, but I've always been the class clown, funny type of dude, usually, my son (M19) loves it, and he's more like a friend than a son (he's a great kid, honor roll, all that). The other day, he came to me and told me he had to tell me and his mom something super important.
Now, we had our suspicions,... | YTA especially because you still think it was a hilarious joke after he ran off crying. ###### |
One of my sons is in his mid twenties, a recently qualified doctor and has seemingly no regard for his own life. My other son showed me his youtube channel (fake name, face covered etc but it's without question his poorly hidden voice) where he's recorded himself doing idiotic things such as 100mph wheelies on his moto... | YTA dude. did you really fail as a parent so badly you want the medical board to try and play babysitter to your grown adult, 20-something year old son? does this affect his job/work in any way? no, it doesn’t. you would rather risk his job than let him enjoy his life doing things he enjoys? ###### |
Backstory: my brother is 5 years old and I am 14. He’s starting kindergarten next year and my parents are teaching him some basic math. I don’t really have a great relationship with him because most of the time, he acts like a spoiled brat and refuse to listen. I’m always seen as “the brother who hates his younger one”... | YTA dude, your brother is 5. Cut him some slack. The only one who thinks it's funny is you. No wonder people think you hate him, his brain is young and malleable and he is gullible, being a child, and you see nothing wrong with feeding him the wrong answers. ###### |
I (27M) got engaged recently to my girlfriend of five years (27F) and she was discussing wedding dress plans with me—we don’t have a date yet but she is a big planner. Coincidentally, my older sister (30F) also got engaged within a week of me, this is relevant for the rest of the story.
I was talking with my fiancé an... | YTA dresses and rings go down the female line unless other wise expressed or lack of female heir. ###### |
I was the best man at my best friends wedding about 4 months ago. I’d never been to a wedding before but had a great time and it was amazing seeing my best friend since childhood get married. I’m have a pretty nervous disposition, so the fact I’d be making a speech at some point during the day, I drank a bit more than ... | YTA don't propose at someone's event and don't propose when you are drunk
Edit- can't wait to see George Takei post about this, hi. ###### |
I’m her father.
I have told my daughter(age 15) to stop drawing on herself more than 3 times. She has disobeyed my orders and continued to draw on herself. Mainly on her legs and arms. She draws things like Chinese symbols and doodles and scribbles in marker and it looks trashy and ugly. Today I told her to stop drawi... | YTA Do you always act like a petty tyrant to your daughter? What makes you so desperate to control her? ###### |
There's a backstory, basically a few days ago I redownloaded Skype and saw he reached out to me saying "I need to ask you something" I'm assuming it was just the only thing I haven't blocked him on and his only way to reach me. I replied even though I was several months late and he said he'd forgot the question he was ... | YTA Did you post this just to get upvotes for fat shaming someone? You really shouldn't have been talking with him knowing he might have feelings and should have stopped it once photos of his girlfriend started being shared as it's crossing a line. You also could have hung up when she called and simply blocked the num... |
I'm M45 my wife is f34 and we've been married for 13 years and have 2 kids. I make a very very good living and started looking at turning our unfinished basement into a man cave, my wife and I spoke about it but she flat out rejected for no reason. I budgeted about 150k to fully renovate and furnish it, with a walk ... | YTA come on dude. I don't think I've ever seen an AITA when the conversation devolves to "well im the breadwinner so I make the decision without consultation. The end" where that person isn't the asshole. ###### |
in my apartment complex, this little girl was doing the cliche, "lemonade, lemonade, come get your sweet lemonade!" thing and i decided to take a look since i want to become friendly with the neighbors. We made pleasantries and the dad even gave me a plate of food to go! i decided to make small talk with their daught... | YTA but you're also hilarious, lmao ###### |
I can’t remember if it was a weeknight or not which is relevant but oh well.
Regardless the park closes at 11 and some kids were gathered being super loud and smoking weed which I didn’t mind until after the park closed and I got fed up. So I decided to take action. I put my speaker outside of my window, blasted the... | YTA but that is hilarious I remember when that first came out, It is annoying as all hell looking back and cringing lol
yes it is annoying with a loud music but you didn't hurt anyone you didn't threaten anyone you're a funny arsehole..
And it lasted 5 minutes it's not like you did it for hours..
Maybe next time just... |
There was a family reunion planned this month that got canceled for the obvious reasons, and that was where I was going to come out to my dad's side of the family. I don't care that much about coming out (I'm very privileged that I never had to guess if the important people in my life would love me regardless), and I w... | YTA but only for implying that sexuality is a choice that you made because of something he did or said. ###### |
My ex has been dating this woman for 3 years and she has been in my kids’ life since he was 2. I absolutely hate that my son likes this woman and talks about her as I feel like the only reason is because my ex forced my son to hang around her. My son already has a mom and doesn’t need another person confusing him by ... | Yta but not for being a protective mom. You’re being TA. You’re just trying to stick it to your ex and his gf. Your son will be the one who suffers from it. Very childish. ###### |
On my way to bed, I realized I had to send an important email before tomorrow.
While I was writing this email, my wife asked me if the parent of our kid's friend's full name was [redacted]. I told her I didn't know. Then she wanted to know what autodeposit on electronic funds transfer was. I told her it was pretty muc... | YTA but it is understandable to be annoyed when interrupted. We all have things that push our buttons.
A key technique when considering an argument with a loved one (both at the time, and when trying to make things right afterwards) is to think 'Did they genuinely intend to annoy me, or make me feel hurt, or was it ... |
My niece usually hang around me when I play video games or watch movies on my computer. Recently I decided to quit smoking so I had a small bowl filled with chewing gums, candies, etc. on my desk. Whenever I felt the urge to smoke I would just grab em.
My niece also enjoys them and I never mind at all.
Today my can... | YTA but I don't think anyone has ever quit smoking without being a bit of an asshole. ###### |
So because things are starting to open up, they’ve loosened the restrictions on gatherings in my country. To celebrate my brother recently graduating college, we decided to have a small barbecue.
We invited a few people who we knew took the quarantine seriously and probably weren’t sick, and one of them is vegan. We ... | YTA but how do you not have a single vegetable/fruit/vegan food in your whole house???? you have to have scurvy or smth??? ###### |
I'm a cashier at my local supermarket and I live in the United States in a small town where about 50% of the population is hispanic. Most of them speak Spanish and English, varying in abilities in each language. I'm a white guy who also happens to speak both languages and I often speak to people in spanish if they pref... | YTA But a small one. You should never assume what language someone speaks because of how they look, those are some very dangerous grounds to get into in this day and age.
Unfortunately, the fact they did speak Spanish doesn't change the outcome, even if you were right.
Edit: Get a pin or something that says "I al... |
I was playing uno with my family, and I had to team with my sister. I didn't want to do this cause she was known for being absolutely awful at UNO, so I asked to do individuals, but my parents said no. The entire game, she ignored my directions, and at one point, even accused me of cheating.
Over the course of the g... | YTA but ‘incompetent snail’ is pretty funny. ###### |
So I’m quite high up in the public sector and my friend, we’ll call him Don, broke the lockdown to take his wife Maria and their 4-year-old son out to a castle on her birthday. Don works for me so the rules don’t really apply to him and since it got out I’ve been put under incredible pressure to sack him. The thing is,... | Yta Boris. I can’t stress this enough. It’s not even about the post. You’re just an ass ###### |
I had a girlfriend in college that is to this day still the love of my life.
A couple years ago we reconnected face to face.
She’s been in trouble with the law and when she was incarcerated we wrote each other whenever we could and when she got out I got her a job at my business and helped pay for her first apartme... | YTA big time
This sounds so ridiculous it has to be fake. How can you not realize how shitty and wrong this is? ###### |
This happened early in March and I've been constantly thinking back on this because I don't know if I was being an asshole in this situation or not.
I was out on my run at a large park that is near by. There is a playground near one of the edges, and behind it there are a bunch of short nature trails that lead out to ... | YTA big time.
Do you not realize nanny’s exist? Babysitters? ADOPTION? Unless that child was screaming or pulling away looking terrified, you had absolutely no right to say shit.
You’re without a doubt racist as fuck and should be ashamed of yourself. ###### |
My younger brother is married to an Indian woman who is very nice, and I only have a single issue with. She will wear Indian clothes to family events even though we are white. She looks very out of place and I think its disrespectful to not dress according to what is required. When we go to weddings that request formal... | YTA big time.
"She will wear Indian clothes to family events even though we are white" yeah you're white, she's not. She is wearing clothes that are part of her culture and identity. And you all suck for trying to change that. She has every rigth to wear her clothes where ever she wants just like you are allowed to w... |
I (34M) have been raising my sister (17F) for the past 7 years. Our mom passed away and had her via sperm donor, so I got custody. Our mother was a pretty wealthy person, with expectations for both of us. While we both have trust funds and college funds set up, our mom didn’t want us going to college for anything “friv... | YTA big time. You are prioritizing the wishes of a dead family member, instead of the needs and future well-being of your currently very alive family member. I assure you, if your mother was alive and posted here saying "AITA for wanting to fund my kids' studies but only if they don't pursue an arts degree" she would ... |
So my step daughter (20) moved in with me, my husband (her father) and our two children (13F & 15M) at the start of lockdown because I don’t know, she wanted to. She’s was adopted by my husband and his ex wife because her biological mom died when she was almost 5, and had been a druggie and things like that. She ... | YTA big time. Like that was way harsh, Tai. She was trying to connect to you as a human being and also to get outside and you exclude her? Like, you realize that this is a family and not high school. You can't tell her to sit at the other lunch table. Using the chores as an excuse us such weaksauce. She's 20, not a ch... |
Throwaway because my girlfriend knows my main.
I (30M) have been living with my girlfriend (27F) for a while and mostly it’s been great. The problem is this: she gets tension headaches from time to time. Not too often, but often enough. The way she prefers to deal with these headaches is wrapping an ace bandage ar... | YTA big time, I hate being that person to say it, but wtf you told her you find her less attractive with the bandage on her head while she’s in pain???? Wtf
And as someone who regularly gets migraines and tension headaches, no painkillers rarely work and get rid of the pain completely, she has her way to deal with it... |
This was about a week ago. I got into a minor car accident at a crossroads, car was a bit fucked and I was a bit shaken up but obviously everything was absolutely fine. I was on my way to work so I got a taxi to work and texted my girlfriend telling her I’d been in a car crash but it was nothing serious, turned my phon... | YTA because you're currently in an LDR and didn't check your phone for three days despite working in a hospital during a pandemic. She had reason to be worried unless you expressly told her it was just a fender bender ###### |
My sister (22f) was recently terminated from her sales clerk position. she worked enough hours to pay her bills and her share of rent with her roommate but had no savings. she's been a thorn in my side and the family's side this happening; crying, fits of anger, you get the idea
I have 2 kids, one who is on the spectr... | YTA because you should have dropped it after she said no the first time. Not everyone wants to work with kids, and not everyone wants to work for their family. Telling your parents that she can't find a job is not a blanket statement of "I will take any work offered by anyone" ###### |
So, just to preface, my younger sisters (16&13 respectfully) eat all the 'normal' kinds of meat - sausages, bacon, steak, etc. However, my dad asked me to cook a stew and I'd never tried lamb's heart before (my dad has and absolutely enjoys it, so had no issue, but knew my sisters would refuse to even try it), so w... | YTA because you gave them food and lied about what it was. It doesn't really matter what your opinion on whether they should like it or not was, in fact it's actually a little worse that you knew they wouldn't have chosen to eat it.
Don't get me wrong, I think it's pretty dumb / hypocritical too to eat some parts of ... |
I love my wife, I really do. We’ve been married since we were 19, together since we were thirteen and have three children together. Our eldest is a thirteen year old girl, and we have two boys aged 7 and 5. Our sons are pretty much carbon copies of me, whereas our daughter is the carbon copy of her mother.
My wife has... | YTA because you display no concern about how your daughter’s traits affect her, only about how they anger you. Also, no child is a carbon copy of a parent, start seeing your children as three individuals rather than clones of your wife and yourself. ###### |
A bit of backstory, im on mobile so sorry for format. So my daughter (23 F) doesnt leave her room much at all. She tends to play video games way too much as she says it helps her depression. I frequently ask her to sit outside with me in our garden as a bit of sunshine might help her feel better yet she always refuses... | YTA because you are the parent, and your kiddo finally showed interest in doing the thing you have been trying to get her to do.
It's a discouraging response, not a supportive one. ###### |
I can’t remember if it was a weeknight or not which is relevant but oh well.
Regardless the park closes at 11 and some kids were gathered being super loud and smoking weed which I didn’t mind until after the park closed and I got fed up. So I decided to take action. I put my speaker outside of my window, blasted the... | YTA because you also were blasting it to your neighbors. ###### |
For context, we are in our late 20’s.
I had headphones on and was watching some NSFW context. My girl came home from work earlier than expected and caught me doing it.
The first thing she does is ask a series of questions. The conversation goes like so:
Her: *Is this the stuff you usually watch?*
Me: *Uh... it ... | YTA because when she asked if you would CHEAT on her, you really didn’t say no? Come on. What were you thinking. ###### |
We don’t live together yet, but we will be moving in together in 4 years once I complete my doctorate degree. He knows I will be bringing my cat with me when we move in, and he knows my cat hates big dogs (my cat once sent me to the ER because a 40lb dog jumped up to say hello while I was holding my cat, and my cat cli... | YTA because ultimately this won’t be a problem for another four years. I think it’s bit unrealistic to ask someone to hold off on something for four years. Why not introduce the two now while the dog is young? Start slow, swap blankets that have the animal scents, etc. ###### |
So, I'm going to be in high school next year, and I know for a fact my schedule will be extremely, extremely busy: I'm taking 4 APs, playing varsity soccer (tryouts have already happened for next year's fall sports) and year-round competitive club lacrosse, am going to join the debate team, and have an internship with ... | YTA because living in a shared house it's not all about you and what you want. Learn to work through the distractions ###### |
I broke up with my GF a few months ago. I started dating a girl lately, but I always said that I might still have feelings for my ex. So the dates turned out more like friendship which was okay for us both. We started talking about amusement parks and soon decided that we would go there together. So she bought a ticket... | YTA because if you have to preface a date with
>I always said that I might still have feelings for my ex
then you shouldn't be dating other people. Pay her back for leading her on. ###### |
Recently I've been talking to a girl who's gorgeous, sweet, funny, and we get along really well. The only downside between us is that we have a big height difference. She's about 5' 2", and I'm 6' 4". I asked her once if she thought we would work out given our height difference. She said that it didn't bother her and ... | YTA because I’m pretty sure this is some kind of bait.
But if it’s not I’m 5 foot nothing and my boyfriend is 6’5 and nothing you mentioned has been an issue. You’re allowed to have preferences but if you really like her why not give it a shot? ###### |
This will sound really stupid, but last year my wife and I made a bet where the winner got to choose the name for our baby. This was right before we were going to start trying and at the point where we have four finalists - two girl names and two boys names which we each liked. Those were the four finalists we agreed o... | YTA because I doubt you'd be having second thoughts had you won. ###### |
My wife and I were driving to work this morning. We live near the harbour and the port authority has an empty parking lot across the street. There isn't any houses for about 100 or so meters, but we were driving by and saw this lady with a city provided garbage can down there. She was taking all the contents out and th... | YTA because as you yourself recognize, 911 is for actual emergencies.
Get a sense of perspective.
If you want to improve your Karma over this situation - go to the parking lot and pick up the trash, yourself. ###### |
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I have two boys one is age 8 and one is age 14. I have one girl who is age 12. Me and my son recently moved out from our apartment to our new house with my husband. The house has three bedrooms one for us and two for kids. I plan to give one full bedroom to a girl because I feel it's not a good idea to put g... | Yta bc of your comments. Clearly you don't care about your son, you're just mad that he's acting out. ###### |
My brother and his wife were doing their pregnancy announcement with the family through Zoom today. They're expecting twin girls in a few months. I asked my boyfriend and his kids if they wanted to join in. They all said "Sure."
Unfortunately, my sister in law was more way over the top than I expected her to be. She'... | YTA based on a combination of the post and your other comments. It doesn’t sound like you have a lot of empathy. ###### |
I (28f) have trouble with social interactions. Some time I say things with a tone that sounds really rude without realizing it. I think I'm being playful or helpful given the situation. My husband (30m) has only recently told me that I do this and thats why people get upset with me so often. I was upset that he hadn't ... | YTA as you and you alone are responsible for your behavior.
But you guys need a keyword to make corrections easier and unobtrusive.
Like "Octopus." ###### |
During Freshman year of HS, my twin sister and I made a deal that whoever had the lower rank had to do the other person’s chores. We’re both extremely academic focused people, so that’s probably a reason. Our mom agreed to this, and we made a full on contract.
Fast forward to Junior year. So far, I’ve always been hi... | YTA as well as your parents.
Why they would allow the competition, the contract etc to continue between you both for so long is gross.
You sound entitled and spoiled. Seems like you also enjoy bullying your twin.
Hopefully she realizes one day you give her “nothing of value” and cuts your toxic crap out of her l... |
I have a 23 year old son who is married and currently staying with us due to financial issues, and a 19 year old daughter who is home from college. My wife has been having bouts of crying recently. She just began menopause so I'm sure that has something to do with it, but I do think there are underlying issues that the... | YTA and your wife. Basically you two are lamenting that your children aren’t your clones and have their own independent thoughts and beliefs. ###### |
The title sounds really vulgar but my ”stepmom” is 29 and she has always tried to boss me around and still at 18 does it and I have had enough.
Today I just couldn’t take it anymore when she tried to make me come eat lunch even though I wasn’t hungry. She insisted like I was a 5 year old.
I snapped and told her to fu... | YTA and your title sounds vulgar because what you said to your step mom was vulgar. It was also uncalled for. She did nothing to warrant that type of response. ###### |
Ok, let me explain! A few pieces of information about me needed first. I am a 33 year old single female, I live on my own and one big thing about me is that I don't and have never wanted kids - this is hard for some people to grasp but I have no maternal feelings, I plain don't like kids/babies and I won't apologies fo... | YTA and you sound edgy as fuck. Use white noise (like a big box fan) and earbuds. You could also talk to your neighbors, like an adult, and explain that your room is right next to the baby's room and see who would have the easier time moving their room.
The world doesn't revolve around you. You're just as much of an... |
Throwaway cause my girlfriend is on reddit.
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So my girlfriend and I were out for the dinner tonight and after we both finished my plate was clean and she still had a decent amount of food left. I was still hungry, and we often share food so I asked her if I could have what was left of hers. This happens a... | YTA and WTF. Order some more food for yourself if you're still hungry. You don't get to literally eat someone's meal just because you want it. You paid for it ostensibly out of generosity and not because you want to hold it over her head when you want to take her food. ###### |
So last summer my boyfriend (20M) went on an archeological dig in Central America with his professor. He was to be there on the dig with her for 2 weeks and then travel as a tourist with a friend (independent of the professor or university) for 3 weeks. I was having a pretty rough time mental health wise back home and ... | YTA and thats a bananas thing to do. I think your boyfriend is being generous. I don’t think you’re too rigid about rules, I think you were jealous and trying to blow up this woman’s professional life as revenge. There was no evidence she slept with your boyfriend, which I think is what you suspect, or that she knows ... |
A friend of mine is getting married to this chick through an arranged marriage. He is really naieve when it comes to women and to top it off he doesn't know that much about her. Call her Nikki. Now, my buddy's mom actually told me and my girlfriend that if we know Nikki or people in her family to let us know, mainly be... | YTA and sexist af ###### |
Hello all! I'm in a bit of a pickle and am curious about your judgement.
I (M21) recently was drinking with my flatmates, my girlfriend (F20) and a friend of one of my flatmates (let's call him "Ben"). Ben and I began talking-- we shared some great conversation, and after a while I became tired and went to bed with ... | YTA and not for finding Ben attractive, but for the "had I not been in a relationship, I would have hit on blank" part. There's ways to discuss people's attractiveness with your partner without making them feel like you don't want to be in a relationship with them. ###### |
For reference, I live in Texas.
For april fools, I thought it would be funny if a couple friends and I dressed up, and pranked our friend who’s a DACA recipient. His parents are undocumented despite coming here a long time ago; they also speak only spanish, and very broken english. The timing for this prank was perfe... | YTA and I am baffled how you do not see that. Your friend likely has a very real fear of his family being broken up in this manner and you treated it as a joke for your own amusement. It isn't a joke to him or his parents, who by the way certainly did nothing to deserve the stress you no doubt put them through.
This ... |
So, my mother (39F) brought a new dog about a year ago. She knew I (19F) was uncomfortable with getting a new dog given that we already own 2 cats. When i first met it she could tell i was pissed but decided not to address it and told me the dog was named 'Lucy'.
I got more annoyed over this as time went on with her ... | Yta and extreamly immature. ###### |
I pay the internet bill for my household. My internet company lets me sort every Wifi- connected device we have into different profiles. My brother, sister and I each have our own profiles that I can set time limits on. Since we’ve been stuck in the house more than usual these past few months I have set time a daily ti... | Yta and a liar. This isnt about data, this is about you wanting to control another human being. You are not his parent. Back off. ###### |
I'm a single dad, 43 years old. Computer programmer. My son, let's call him Jack, is 17 years old. Jack's mom died when he was 10, but thankfully we both handled our grief together quite well.
When Jack got his first laptop, five years ago, I took my time explaining how the internet worked, the dangers, etc. I allowed... | Yta all the way. That’s an enormous invasion of his privacy ###### |
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