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Ok so this happened a few months ago, I have 2 kids, one is 5 and one is 3.
The whole family went over to my brothers house for my Dads birthday, anyway we were having a great time and I put the kids upstairs with some sandwiches while the adults talked.
So later on my brother went to get the kids down to play a board... | YTA 100%. You were a guest in his home. You irresponsibly left your YOUNG kids wander upstairs. Young kids no matter the parenting are guaranteed to do stupid shit. It doesnt matter if he "knew you all were coming" and "should have protected it better," you caused destruction in someone else's home and should kindly r... |
I'm American, of mostly Irish or German descent i dont know nor do i really give a shit. I went to University in Poland and Lithuania and I speak both languages and know the countries really well since i spent a lot of time there.
I am back in the US at the moment and I was at a work event and everyone had name tags.... | YTA 100%. I hope the bad impression from the CEO and manager were on you because that was rude. You’re literally this person “I spent a year abroad so I know everything...”. Get over yourself and next time mine your business. ###### |
I try and stay fit. Keep some dumbells and bench inside my house. Work out 5-6 times Week at home currently. I think it has been start to rub off on her. She has joined past 3 days. Which I admire her for. If you want to change your life, take action. She has. Props to her.
Today was I working on my core. Push ups, Pl... | YTA — at best cluelessly, unintentionally, but still YTA
> You want to work out with me, I'm going to push you like how I would push myself.
Do you want to work out alone? Because thats how you work out alone.
Actually, hold up...
> This is where I say “Wheww you have long way too go”. she said sorry, Her energy ... |
My younger is 14 and has been giving both my parents the sudden silent treatment and avoiding them. My parents are very confused and concerned and asked me to find out what's going on with them. I asked my brother and he told me he doesn't want to talk to them because his voice has deepen very quickly and noticeable (a... | YTA
Your brother is going to have to talk to them eventually but if he asked you not to tell them and it isn't something putting him in danger I think breaking his trust would be an asshole thing to do. You're going to need the trust later when he starts dealing with more serious shit. ###### |
Yes you read that title correctly and no I’m not dating a 5 year old. So about a week ago my 20 year old girlfriend wet our bed and I haven’t been able to sleep with her since. After the incident she cried and was very embarrassed and I told her that it doesn’t matter because it doesn’t change my opinion on her. That n... | YTA
You told her:
>After the incident she cried and was very embarrassed and I told her that it doesn’t matter because it doesn’t change my opinion on her.
But your actions: refusing to sleep with her after several days indicate otherwise. Also comparing her to a five year old contradicts that statement.
I can g... |
My mom got hurt at work years ago and has since been out of work playing up being disabled. She is in pain, but I don't consider her disabled.
Having seen Walmart employees with missing limbs, a coworker who is paralyzed from the waste down, and another coworker with a serious birth disorder that effects his ability t... | YTA
You have no way of knowing what her pain is like. That’s nice that those other people are able to work, but they don’t sound like they are in pain. And assuming your mom is fine because she doesn’t visibly seem injured is just all kinds of not ok. ###### |
I have a 16 year old daughter, and ever since she got diagnosed with depression her privacy has been limited.
I try to keep her as busy as I can to keep her make sure she doesn’t have enough time on her hands to wallow in negative feelings but she does get occasional screentime. There is not a single text that goes t... | YTA
You actually monitor all her communications without her knowing? That's so terrible. You should watch Black Mirror - Arkangel - Season 4; Episode 2
Also - your daughter sounds like she has a great sarcastic sense of humour - I take it you don't? ###### |
So I am 19 Male. I am away from college but I am still financially dependent on my parents they pay for my college they pay for my car insurance my gas for my car and give me a month spending budget of 600 a month. Well when I found out that I wasn't getting a stimulus check because my mom claimed me on her taxes last ... | YTA
Yeah dude, sorry, mommy pays for your stuff so mommy gets the money needed to continue to pay for your stuff. ###### |
So my mother is quite unhealthy and she has been told by many doctors that she needs to lose weight but she always insists that she is the perfect weight. this happened last thursday when i was eating dinner with my mother. She asked me to make some hamburgers because those are her favorite. But because i am a vegan i ... | YTA
Why? Why do you gotta be one of the few vegans that literally force feeds **your** food preferences on someone else? Have you no concept of how viciously you undermine all your fellow vegans with this shit?
I’m not vegan but 100% support the choice **so long as they aren’t being an asshole about it** ###### |
I have a completely platonic, non-sexual friendship with a guy who likes to invite me over to his house when he cooks. He recently confided in me that he has HSV1. He just found out. I’m very picky about where I eat but I always trusted that he was a clean cook and it always tastes great. He’s said things like “it’s no... | YTA
What did I just read?!
Remember when people wouldn’t even TOUCH people with AIDS back in the 80s? This is the same concept.
Educate yourself. ###### |
The title sounds really vulgar but my ”stepmom” is 29 and she has always tried to boss me around and still at 18 does it and I have had enough.
Today I just couldn’t take it anymore when she tried to make me come eat lunch even though I wasn’t hungry. She insisted like I was a 5 year old.
I snapped and told her to fu... | YTA
What a ridiculous overreaction to a mild annoyance. You say your step mother is treating you like you're 5. It seems like she's just treating you at your maturity level. ###### |
I am an IT professional currently working from home and my wife is an ER doctor working on the frontline. We try to work the same hours, so I don’t see why this should be different just because I’m at home and she isn’t. She, on the other hand, comes home, gets annoyed when some chores aren’t done and then even more an... | YTA
This is the difference between equality and equity.
Sure, you work the same hours, does this also factor in your wife’s travel time to and from work, and length, frequency and accessibility of breaks?
I’m not sure what line of IT you’re in, how stressful it is and the risks involved, however, based of a gene... |
So yea I (29M) found my friend’s reddit account when she sent me a screenshot of a reddit meme which showed her username and I searched for it and was disgusted when I found her and her husband have been a cuckold couple for years and even have few videos (not showing faces) where there are like 5 men plowing her while... | YTA
The line that I personally draw to whether a person’s kink is “okay” or not, is if it affects themselves or those around them negatively. (On a physical or emotional level.) Their kink did not affect you- and it sounds like they’re both happy with the arrangement- so I fail to see what the issue was.
If the ac... |
So my friend (we'll call him Nick) has a new girlfriend (we'll call her Amy) who's a professional cosplayer. I've met her a few times and she seems nice and he really likes her. I follow Amy online (on my sort of anime fan twitter, not the one with my name on it) and she does a lot of good cosplays, so I tend to check ... | YTA
The fact that you aren’t planning on telling your friend indicates that you know you’re doing something wrong . It’s creepy and weird ###### |
My (29M) girlfriend (22F) has some bladder problems and has to pee many many times throughout any regular day. It is exhausting for her and bad for her skin because she has to wash her hands so frequently. I asked her if she would ever consider an adult diaper and she was very offended. I am just trying to help though ... | YTA
That’s just insulting. You want her to sit / lay in her own urine to make you more comfortable?
A diaper is meant to catch accidents for adults, not so they can sit through dinner without disturbing everyone.
Her doctor should be looking into this as it’s obviously a medical problem. ###### |
I’m using a throwaway because she knows my main. So basically, my girlfriend and I live together. Everyday when we’re about to have whatever meal or anything, she closely inspects each and every glass, plate, fork, knife, etc.
They way she inspects it is by firstly sliding it through her fingers (she washes her hands... | YTA
That is such a weird thing to get mad about and I promise you no one in any restaurant is noticing it beyond a cursory glance and then forgetting about it. ###### |
Early in my husband and I’s marriage, we got life insurance policies on each other. We also had secondary beneficiaries in the form of my husband’s nephews in the unlikely event we both went together. This was pre us having kids and we always said once we did, we’d switch over the policies.
Fast forward 25 years later... | YTA
So you went her entire life without a plan on paper that a court of law could enforce should something go terribly wrong? That was incredibly irresponsible.
Money changes people. What if you did die and your nephews had gotten everything and refused your own children? The only documentation you have goes to th... |
Earlier in the year, my daughter’s fourth grade teacher called me and complained to me that my daughter wanted excessive amounts of attention from her and was always near her. I was extremely upset by this because her teacher probably thought that my husband and I are not teaching her proper social behavior.
I told m... | YTA
She’s only in fourth grade, don’t be so harsh an her looking for affection elsewhere. There’s probably a reason for that. Talking to her, asking her why she seeks the attention from her teacher and kindly explaining the social boundaries coming with this kind of relationship would’ve been the way imo. ###### |
As you know, french bulldogs have breathing issues due to their deformed noses.
I saw a girl jogging with her french bulldog. I told my wife i wanted to say something, but she said not to, so I didn't.
A few days later, I saw the same girl and dog around my neighborhood walking, so I took this chance to say something... | YTA
She was dismissing you lol. You think you’re the mayor of dogs? The god of jogging? Why should she give a shit about what you think. Her routine seems very reasonable. ###### |
So this happened in March but my wife is still upset about it.
I have three children with my wife, 6,4 and 4months.
We bottle feed the youngest.
Come mothers day my wife is exhausted, I cooked breakfast with my youngest helping while our 4year old did some art work for her.
When my wife went for her nap I thought I... | YTA
She napped for an hour and you were gone three. You didn’t discuss it with her or even tell her you were going. Did it not occur to you she would want to know where her children are?
Edit. Worse. Four hours. It’s like you took half the day away from your wife without consulting her. ###### |
My daughter just got her acceptance letter today. Of course my wife and I are beyond extatic. She also has earned a scholarship that gives her an almost completely free ride that she has worked very hard to achieve. She is paying whatever it doesn't cover herself.
However, my daughter also gave us the news today tha... | YTA
She isn't trying to be a professional singer, she's trying to be a manager or composer. There is money in that, and more importantly, she'll enjoy it. ###### |
Something I’ve started doing since becoming obsessed with bodybuilding. I don’t have the appetite to finish all the meals so I started just tossing everything in a blender and chugging it in 10 secs because it’s faster and you finish the meal before getting full . My girlfriend cooked dinner last night and I did that a... | YTA
Sharing food is one of the basic bonding activities between partners. She has gone to the time and effort to cook something nice for you and obviously has considered the flavours, nutrition etc because she wants to delight you and support your fitness goals. It's a bit deflating and embarrassing for her that you... |
My daughter, we'll call her Lily, is 14 and she is in a wheelchair. She made a new friend, Barbara, also 14, earlier in the school year who also uses a wheelchair, and they've become very close. Barbara has, in a way, strained mine and Lily's once very close relationship. She thinks Lily should be able to hang out more... | YTA
Most other disabled people I know(physically and mentally disabled) refer to ourselves as disabled. It’s not a dirty word. It’s just what we are.
Secondly, here’s what will happen if you tell Lily not to talk to her pal. She will talk to her. She will talk to her at school, over her computer, her cellphone, and... |
My 4 year old is called Winifred Rose , we call her Rosie or, much less often, Freddie, she's named after my husbands grandmother, and I love the meaning behind the name, "blessed peacemaking"
I don't know why but MIL has taken to calling her WinWin and I just cringe at that, I absolutely hate it and she doesn't reac... | YTA
Mildly. You're right on the edge of your kid going to school and starting interactions, so I think you should disabuse yourself of the notion that you can control nicknames your kids get. This situation was more understandable, but in the next few years your kid is going to start getting and keeping nicknames yo... |
ok so im 16 and my stepdad has been with my mom for like 5 years now. he told me he was married before and had a daughter who's in her twenties now but idk what happened, i just know he doesn't really talk to her. he told me his first wife was a massive bitch and that's why he left but also said he used to drink a lot ... | Yta
It's really naive to think you'll message her and she's going to want to play happy families again. She probably has good reasons for her decision and her message didn't seem bitchy to me. Don't involve yourself in other people's disagreements in future, usually doesn't end well ###### |
Hello, I am writing this because my husband just told me I was the asshole but I strongly disagree.
My son is currently in 8th grade and always tells me about the crazy things students do to each other in his class. While I do believe some were inappropriate, I just took it as they being kids and would hopefully grow ... | YTA
Ignorance is bliss. The teacher could have gone about her life not knowing all the nasty things said. Now she will remember that.
You've also damaged your son's trust in you and quite possibly made him a target of bullying if those kids find out.
You've inflicted emotional pain on two different people. And f... |
I met my (42M) wife (34F) 9 years ago, her son John is 14.
My wife has John 3 weeks of the month.
My wife is due to give birth any day, she was actually due last week, her pregnancy has been extremely stressful and she’s been on bed rest for most of it.
Her son has been extremely difficult lately; saying I’m not his... | YTA
If she can handle the stress of the pregnancy with her son there then you can too ###### |
Around two years ago, my mother slipped on a patch of ice in the parking lot at her job. She fractured her ankle in the fall, and needed surgery to have a plate put in. She went through physical therapy and can function without issue during her day to day activities. Her ankle is achey and can swell during rainy days, ... | YTA
I can see why her complaining is annoying but you could have told her that you were tired of it politely and without calling into question her suffering.
She had to have surgery and a plate and continues to experience intermittent pain. That’s not exactly a small injury. And $7k is not anything to turn your no... |
I(27M) have been living with my girlfriend (26F) for 2 years. We rent a nice apartment together. I make 3 times more money than she does, so when we moved in together, we agreed on I should pay 70 % and she should pay only 30% of the rent, and she will clean more than I will. She buys more food than I buy too, and she ... | YTA
Having more money doesn't mean you should not do any chores. So she is working a lot and should do the shopping, cleaning AND cooking? Are you insane? ###### |
Throwaway.
I have been very stressed lately. I have many projects that I want to work on, especially in the yard. Of course my husband and kids don’t want to do it, but we’ve had more time than ever recently to do nothing but yard work, and the faster we get it done, the better.
My 16 year old daughter has been fin... | YTA
First of all you are making an 8 year old do hard labor. Then when he understandabley makes a mistake you belittle him. I'm sure that wheelbarrow is heavy and he isn't used to it. Hell, I was doing yard work this week and I did the same thing a couple of times and I'm 18.
Cut the kid some slack.
Edit: I just r... |
So my wife and I have been doing a game night every so often with some other couples via zoom since we can’t go out and see people lately.
We were playing this card game that was like basically a trivia game for couples to play and you are asked a question and you write down your answer and your partner has to guess ... | YTA
Come on man, a woman you know in real life? There is such a clear difference between talking about a celebrity crush or a character from a TV show, but you chose someone you realitisically could hook up with, which is what your wife will be thinking about from now on when you go to spin class. ###### |
Our son is 1. Recently he’s stopped sleeping through the night. Previously he’d wake once or twice and was generally easy to drop back off again. We didn’t do any sleep training or anything, he just sort of did it himself.
For the past few weeks this has increased to 4-5 wake ups. We’re exhausted and don’t even have ... | YTA
A) for not communicating with your husband
B) for asking people to judge your parenting and then threatening them if they “mumshame”. What the hell? ###### |
Throwaway because my girlfriend has reddit.
My (34) girlfriend (22) have been together for a year and a half. She has recently started a Timothee Chalamet fan account. She watched one of his movies and became obsessed with him. She lost her job because of Covid-19 and decided to start up a fan Instagram thing or whatev... | YTA
1. Because it's not your place to tell her what she can and can not do on her own free time and on her own IG page, regardless of how your colleagues and family may feel about that and how embarrassed you feel. If it makes you feel THAT embarrassed then you don't have to follow her on IG.
2. Because of this.
>... |
My brother and his wife died, leaving their daughter, my niece, I'm sure a decent amount of money. She's very secretive about how much money it was, and it also came with the option to pay out their mortgage and own their house.
The house isn't great, but with location and lot size, it would probably sell for 500k, b... | Yta
>those who see reality, and people who think a 25 year old should have her own house regardless of anything else because.... question mark I guess.
It's almost like it's HER house huh?!?!?!? That people other than you understand that it's her house not a shared house because you share DNA
>She is TWENTY FIVE... |
My best fiend replies really slow to texts. Whenever she replies I reply back ASAP and then she takes over half an hour or more (sometimes even a whole day) to reply back. We rarely have ‘flowy’ convos where both parties reply on time.
Yesterday I got annoyed and told her that I stop whatever I’m doing to reply to her... | YTA
>This morning she asked me why I left her on read and I told her ‘I was watching a Netflix show and didn’t want to stop it in the middle:))’ and she just said ‘oh okay, text me when you’re free then’. How can she be so oblivious that I’m doing the exact thing she does to make her understand how annoying it is? I... |
I am not here looking for advice, I just need someone to tell me like it is.
My danger went into foster care from the ages of 13-15 (She is currently 15). I had her young, i made some mistakes as a parent, but after that wake up call I got my stuff together and got my daughter back. After coming back from homelessnes... | YTA
> I asked the family to cease contact with her, so that **I could demonstrate** to Hera that **I am a capable caregiver**. They reluctantly agreed.
> When she calls them, they don’t answer. This has given her some significant distress, but she is leaning on me more.
none of these actions are for *her* benefit... |
My girlfriend, Emily (23F) and I (30M) have been dating for a year. We live together. Emily is a freelance writer and she is also studying for her Master's.
She has this "hobby" of making stuffed toys, tableclothes, scarves and stuff. But the most expensive and interesting ones are her glass cups and plates. She make... | YTA
"She hasn't talked to me and is being completely unreasonable and inconsiderate?" She isn't beating unreasonable or inconsiderate, you literally stole her creations and sold them without even getting permission. ###### |
Sounds bad but let me explain:
Long story short, my wife is an ancient history buff. She speaks Classical Latin and can at least read some kinds of Greek. she REALLY knows this stuff. She is OBSESSED. Sometimes it’s kind of awkward because she will use weird latin no one knows and then explain it but it’s whatever. O... | YTA
"Not changing clothes was more important to her than seeing our friends" ... no, standing up for herself and being proud of what she had made was more important to her than your ego and insecurity. She's right, the garment she made will fit well in the modern world with the right sandals and jewelry. ###### |
My daughter is an incoming junior in college. She is stuck between business/data science and medicine as a career path. She's taking an introductory data science course this summer along with a general biology class.
She told me that her biology quizzes are 15 minutes long with 10 questions, and you're not allowed to ... | YTA "Not smart enough or good enough" ###### |
Two weeks ago we had taco night. My mom made a bunch of meat, beans, corn, etc. My brothers got to the kitchen about ten minutes before me to make their tacos and as I entered, my little brother was finishing making his fifth taco and used up the last of the beef. I was pissed because they didn’t save me any and the me... | YTA (you and your older brother at least)
To be honest, your mom is probably tired of having to feed you and your older brother. You're 22, your older brother is presumably a year or two older at least, etc...
I had a friend whose parents started doing the same thing. Older kids never left, were still eating... |
When I was thirteen, I had a Bar Mitzvah, and was given some shares of Apple stock by my grandparents. Like any dumb kid, I was not thinking of saving for the future, so I asked my parents to cash it in and I wanted to buy stuff with it. My dad was hesitant, but he gave me the $3200 and I blew it in a few months on ... | YTA (sort of) The money/stocks DID belong to you, past tense, yes. However, you were paid for those stocks when you didn’t want them and wanted $3200 instead. So they’re no longer yours at all. They are your parents’ property now and they can split it between the two of you however they please. ###### |
I usually agree with my wife's critiques of things I shouldn't have said to my daughter, but this has bothered me for the past few days so I thought I'd get Reddit's opinion on this. My girl is almost 3, and is at that stage where she's very chatty.
A few days ago, my daughter showed me a broken fingernail and asked ... | YTA (ish). Not sure how many commenters here have kids. I always try to think 1) long-game and 2) what can the kid reasonably understand. Kids don’t understand sarcasm/joking at this age. All she knows is daddy thinks she did something wrong. She told mommy what happened. There’s a better than average chance she did... |
My girlfriend (29F) and I (32M) have been together for about 9 months. We are well into each other but we also like to have a joke, myself more than her at times. Some back story, recently she sent a meme which had a picture of three animals. Next to each animal had a small description, rabbit: "rabbits jump and they l... | YTA ... You seemed to be REALLY bothered by the turtle thing so you wanted to ‘get her back’ instead of discussing it with her. Did you explain ‘rat’ was because she works underground ? You should apologize for purposely trying to make her feel badly... she was just teasing you with the turtle thing. ###### |
My brother and his wife died, leaving their daughter, my niece, I'm sure a decent amount of money. She's very secretive about how much money it was, and it also came with the option to pay out their mortgage and own their house.
The house isn't great, but with location and lot size, it would probably sell for 500k, b... | YTA , why don't you gift the down on their luck family a place to live, I mean other then the one you don't own?
Not yours to give, she has a home because she has no parents at 25. She's not told how much if any money she inherited because you are the type of person who feels entitled to disperse it.
You want thei... |
A bit of backstory. I recently got my bike repaired and I been riding my bike alot of the past few days. I usually cycle down footpaths because I would rather not cycle on the road and I live in a medium sized town so there are no cycle lanes. While I was cycling down hil on the footpath this family of 6 were walking ... | YTA -the footpath isn't meant for bikes. ###### |
I have four boys - 16yo, 11yo twins and a 7yo. I can't explain it, but there has always been a buffer between me and my 16yo. The best way to describe it is like two magnets pushing each other away. I chalked it up to his wanting to be independent and expected that my other three would be the same. They are not that wa... | YTA -
I hope this is fake, cause that sounds like an incredibly heart-breaking thing to hear from your parent. If you had a strained relationship previously, you've just made things way worse.
From the sounds of it, it seems like maybe he's just less affectionate than his siblings. It's pretty common for the oldest ... |
I have an 18 and 21yo boys. My relationship with my 18yo is strained because I do far more for my other son and have no shame about it. The reason is that my 21yo is fiercely independent and rarely asks for help even when he should. He feels uncomfortable asking or getting help from anyone. On the rare times that he do... | YTA -
1. Your kid, you had 18 years to stop him being like this
2. You have called him manipulative and spilt since ages 11 and yet you spoil your older even when he doesn’t ask for it
3. Of course there is tension, older kid has a new cat and his insurance paid, younger has to walk or take the bus ###### |
My ex and I have an uneasy co-parenting agreement. Usually it's the details that sparks arguments. My biggest thing is that I don't want them drinking soda (sons are 10 and 13). Soda is awful for kids to drink. When they are with her, she lets them drink Coke for lunch and dinner. They are all hyped up on caffeine and ... | YTA -
>When they are with her, she lets them drink Coke for lunch and dinner. They are all hyped up on caffeine and sugar the next morning when I pick them up.
The half-life of sugar is less than an hour and they are not still "hyped up" on it a day after drinking soda. Would have probably said "no assholes here", b... |
This might sound bad, but I've always been the class clown, funny type of dude, usually, my son (M19) loves it, and he's more like a friend than a son (he's a great kid, honor roll, all that). The other day, he came to me and told me he had to tell me and his mom something super important.
Now, we had our suspicions,... | YTA -- for being a grown adult who refers to his personality as a "class clown". How long ago was high school, buddy? Might want to update those character traits.
Your son gave you strong clues as to what kind of discussion he wanted to have. He did not begin the conversation by saying: "Let's act out a skit that nei... |
Info- I met my boyfriend’s son about two months ago. He’s 13. My boyfriend was a single parent for most of his son’s life, so they’re really close.
His son often snuggles with him on the couch every night before bed, as he curls up next to him, he’ll say something along the lines of “Hey baby,” or “c’mere baby.”
H... | YTA - Your two months of knowing your BF’s son, vs the thirteen years they’ve had? Who are you to tell him how he should talk to his son who you’ve only known for 60 days. ###### |
I spent a fortune putting in an apple and avocado trees. They have to be planted in a certain spot in the yard to receive maximum sunlight. Fruit is starting to drop and some of it is dropping into my neighbor's yard. I kindly asked them to put anything that falls into their yard over to our yard. Instead, they're eati... | YTA - your tree is encroaching on their Property. It is very annoying that you put it so close. They now have to ensure they pick up their yard every time they want to mow their grass and make sure they don’t allow fruit to fester. And apparently it comes with an annoying neighbor who feels entitled to make demands an... |
My ex and I have a 12yo son who splits his time between us. We literally live across the street from each other. We both had to work at our offices and our son asked to stay home to do his online classes. My ex wanted him to go to work with me but I said to let him stay and be independent (he is at my house today).
I ... | YTA - Your kid skipped school. I would have taken his XBOX too ###### |
My daughter (15) had come to me to tell me that theres a possibility that social services or police might contact her and I would have to be there too. This is all because her best friend (also 15) had been telling her about how she had been abused by a relative. They have been texting about it, and my daughter had tol... | YTA - your daughter did a brave and helpful thing, often times victims have trouble telling authority figures they are being abused. Are you really OK with a child being abused a day longer than they had been ###### |
I (37f) am going through a very nasty divorce with my husband (40m). We have a 13 year old daughter.
2 months ago my husband was at his parents house. I went to a bar and had a one night stand for reasons I wont state here. He found out and immediately filed for a divorce and didn't give me time to explain (which I a... | YTA - you’re the reason why you’re getting divorced, and you don’t have the guts to tell your kid it was you? You’ve essentially brainwashed her into thinking that you’re the better one, and using her to ruin your husbands life. If I was your husband, I’d have filed for divorce sooner, you manipulative lobscouse #####... |
I know this is very small stakes, but here it goes.
I have a kind of uncommon name, that if you take away the last letter becomes a very common name. Eg. Imagine my name is Vickie, where Vicki is the much more common spelling (It’s probably not as uncommon as Vickie though). I cannot count the number of times that pe... | YTA - you're taking out your collective frustration on a random individual.
it's not going to change anything about how often you encounter this issue, it won't teach him a lesson and you're never going to interact with this person again anyway.
you did something deliberately, something that you personally find real... |
Throwaway. This was a while ago actually,
So (before lockdown) me (20M) and my gf, and friends used to go hang out and stuff, since we're all close.
Anyway so my GF wanted to bring her friend, lets call her friend Lily, who she's been friends with for a while. I knew Lily was her friend but I haven't ever met her, ju... | YTA - you're absolutely blaming her for people's gross behavior. People shouldn't be creepy period. It's not her fault. It doesn't matter what she wears. ###### |
Ok please hear me out before you judge...
Me and my friend have always been very into dieting and watching life style vlogs and overall keeping fit. The past few months she’s started gaining quite a bit. I don’t want her to become this unattractive person after all the work we have put in, I want her to be happy and m... | YTA - you sound like a narcissist. Why does your friend's body matter to you anyway? ###### |
So, my girl friend and I are in a long distance relationship and today is her bday. We live in different states so I can't see her or travel to her. We were suppose to be in the Bahamas right now, but due to everything going on right now, we couldn’t do that.
I booked a Bahamas trip this week for 4th of July weekend a... | YTA - you should never make expensive or
Extravagant plans that involve leaving the country before consulting the other party. I can see you were trying to do a nice thing, but your execution was poor. She could have any number of things planned- especially during a holiday. You should have asked instead of automatic... |
My fiancée is 7 months pregnant. Pretty exciting and everything's been going according to plan with no complications. Only problem is that my beloved fiancée has the world's weirdest cravings and when they hit, she becomes crazy until she gets it and then she wouldn't eat it saying it's disgusting. Between that, consta... | YTA - You should have had a face-to-face conversation with her about your plan. And I’m sure she didn’t mean a week disappearance when she’s so far along.
And maybe you should have communicated some of your issues with her. Not bottled them in and then disappeared. ###### |
I (27M) met her (26F) a little over 1 year ago, and it was actually her who asked me out. At first it wasn't serious but within a few months we were officially dating. I did grow to love her but it did seem like she was more into me than me into her, but now I'd say its equal.
Anyway, for the longest time I avoided m... | YTA - you said yourself that you didn’t want to meet the family because it would mean y’all were really serious. You weren’t as into it as she was, as you said. But after finding out her family is wealthy, and you were offered a probably lucrative job yourself, THEN you decided you’d propose.
From the sound of your ... |
I met a guy a while ago and we hit it off. We talked every hour of every day for 3-4 months, but chose not to date because of our differing plans for next year. We both agreed that we’d come back after next year and decide to date or not. We continued acting like a couple without formally calling it a “relationship.”
... | YTA - You made it clear you wanted to just be friends, so no he doesn't owe you a heads up if he starts dating someone.
You have a right to feel upset that someone you have feelings for has started dating someone else, but you don't have a right to be angry at him for not telling you. ###### |
I know, it sounds like a favor. But isn’t this also a bit of being nosy?
We are all at their retreat and having a nice time. He doesn’t say much: takes his ultrasonic turbo jet and decides to wash my car. Granted, my car was dirty. But isn’t that my call to make?
So then my wife asks why I didn’t go compliment my in-... | YTA - you haven't told him that you for some reason feel violated, and it appears he's just trying to bond with you. A thank-you is not gonna kill you and it appears you just don't like him.
Many people would yearn for a FIL this considerate and kind
He gave you a napkin when your hands were dirty??? HOLY FUCK WHAT ... |
Basically, a few months ago I got kicked out of school. I deserved it, my behaviour was wrong, and I truly do feel bad for what I did. Although I do still feel bad, I was really happy for the clean slate it gave me. I started at a new school, made some new friends, got in with the "right" people and I'm really really h... | YTA - you gonna end a friendship because they are gonna move to a school you admitted you deserved to be kicked out off?
Yeah you are the asshole here ###### |
My fiancée I always knew isn’t the strongest person, she struggles to open jars and lift stuff sometimes, but that never seemed like too much of an issue.
Last week I was watching one of those stupid videos where the guy does 50 push ups a day for a month. My fiancée sat down next to me and commented how impressive it... | YTA - you gave her chore, not a present. How would you feel if she got you *insert tool for a chore you hate here*? ###### |
I’m currently dating one of my employees, we’ll call her Scarlett but I just went through a drawn out divorce and she doesn’t want people to think she’s only succeeding in her career because she’s sleeping with the boss so we haven’t told anyone. There is another woman who works for me and we’ll call her Nicole.
Nicol... | YTA - You don’t get to decide what is and isn’t triggering for someone. You’re on your way to a lovely little meeting with HR if you keep up the complete lack of regard for your employees’ emotional well-being. ###### |
I’ll try and keep this as short as possible. My girlfriend loves musicals. I hate them. I find them incredibly stupid and unnecessary. Anywhere we take turns having a movie night I constantly have to veto her musical stuff. She’s mad because she watches all of my stuff but I won’t watch her stuff (I just won’t watch he... | YTA - you don't compromise at all. If she's watching your shows/movies/whatever then you can watch her musicals without throwing a fit. Also what's with this veto thing? Does she get to veto your stuff? If not, then you don't respect her opinion.
And they do serve a purpose, like every other movie/show/etc. Musicals ... |
When I was 18 I got pregnant with my boyfriend at the time. He really pushed for an abortion but I had extremely strict parents who were against it, so I had her. She’s now 13, beautiful and very popular. Her father isn’t in her life. I love her, it’s a given I love her, she’s my daughter.
I’ve never been an overly a... | YTA - you do realise plenty of parents don’t actually love their kids right?
How is she suppose to know you love her if you don’t show/tell her
Just because your suppose to love her doesn’t mean you do/will
Worse still you won’t even have a conversation about it, you won’t even let her explain herself or how she f... |
I had 3 kids before getting married my husband has none. We just had our first child together and I got on birth control soon after birth without telling my husband.
He loves our/my kids but wants more but I don't. He also the sole provider and I'm a stay at home mom. AITA for "trying to conceive" knowing it ain't gon... | YTA - You do not "owe" your husband more children, but you do owe him honesty. Tell him you don't want more children. ###### |
It’s in the title, my gf has been feeling insecure about her own body (she’s gorgeous) and she made me unfollow this girl from work because supposedly she has a “nicer body than her” (find her average imo). The coworker came up to me and asked me why I unfollowed her and I said it was because my girlfriend made me unfo... | YTA - you dissed your gf to another woman - one your gf is insecure over because of you looking at her pics.
In expository terms: you discussed private relationship info with someone who didn’t need to know to stay in that person’s good graces - when you could’ve just said a white lie like “I work with you and felt ... |
So my sister (14) ALWAYS steals my (16F) clothes, like I swear every time I go into my closet or jewelry chest there is always something missing. Her friends who live next door, have a pool in their backyard and she is always over there swimming with them, for the longest time my parents didn't let her wear a 2 piece ... | YTA - you could have handled that better, and why not apologize? ###### |
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I (20M)) don’t think I did anything wrong, but my friends are all saying I’m an asshole. So I have a group of friends and we’re quite frankly, nerds. We met this girl I’ll call L two years ago. The other guys all like her, think she’s great and she knows all about things we’re into, but I had a fee... | YTA - You are SO the asshole. This is a major problem in what is now male dominated fandoms (yes, I'm calling sports a fandom). Women don't need to know every single thing about a series/game/sport to be a fan/nerd. There is no reason for gatekeeping like this. A lot of men wonder why they can't find women who like... |
My best fiend replies really slow to texts. Whenever she replies I reply back ASAP and then she takes over half an hour or more (sometimes even a whole day) to reply back. We rarely have ‘flowy’ convos where both parties reply on time.
Yesterday I got annoyed and told her that I stop whatever I’m doing to reply to her... | YTA - You are not being denied “basic human decency” if someone doesn’t respond to your texts immediately. Honestly, you sound exhausting. ###### |
I am a 35 year old man. I have a 17 year old daughter and a 15 year old son from a new relationship. My daughter a week back told me she hates me and told me that she decided she does not want me to be in her life because I did not like her girlfriend and I was strict on her compared to my son who rarely gets in troubl... | YTA - you are her PARENT. she is a child. children have moments of anger, pain, and hurt. she is experiencing that and because of the way you treat her, she is reacting.
By retaliating and taking away her college fund, you are convincing her of every single negative thought she’s ever had of you.
Take it from some... |
Me and four friends have a WhatsApp group where we post pictures and talk about girls, mostly girls we know in real life, who we think are hot, and then the others can weigh in on it. It's quite interesting, for instance I found out that the girl I had quite a crush on for a while now, my friends don't seem to find muc... | YTA - You are an asshole for the way you've gone about discussing this. You actively made a separate whatsapp group for you and friends, specifically to post pictures of people you know and judge/rate them based on their looks. It's one thing to have that discussion with a group of friends in a conversation, as you sa... |
I (F24) am getting married to the most amazing man this summer - we'll call him Ken (M22). He has invited 2 of his best friends from college, Alex (M23) and Nicole (F22). I have hung out with both Alex and Nicole several times, but Ken is closer to them than I am.
So Ken and I both think our religion is really importa... | YTA - you are absolutely the judgy, presumptive, rude asshole.
I'm quite sure Nicole is an adult and has heard of weddings and churches before....I'm sure she understands how to conduct herself at family gatherings.
If you don't respect her enough to trust her to dress herself why are you even having her at your wed... |
My girlfriend (29F) and I (32M) have been together for about 9 months. We are well into each other but we also like to have a joke, myself more than her at times. Some back story, recently she sent a meme which had a picture of three animals. Next to each animal had a small description, rabbit: "rabbits jump and they l... | YTA - yeahhhhh, swing and a miss. You many have meant nothing by it, but you called your girlfriend a rat at the end of the day. She probably won’t hold it against you, but I’d keep shopping for that nickname. ###### |
I just met my neighbor yesterday officially and we’re talking and we brought up handwriting. I said schools need to stop teaching cursive because it’s beyond outdated and useless. She got offended because she is a graphologist(someone who studies hand writing) she also wrote her dissertation on it. I told her we’re in ... | YTA - wtf you just tore apart her passion for no reason? It doesn't matter if you think it's pointless. If someone enjoys something, and it's not hurting anyone else, then you are absolutely the AH for ripping into it for no reason ###### |
My boyfriend had passed away due to heath complications and I have been crying ever since. My son hasn't really shown any emotion to his passing but I thought that he was just holding it in, so yesterday I called my son downstairs and asked him to talk. I told him that he doesn't have to hold in his emotions about him ... | YTA - Who the heck are you? The grief police?
You don't get to dictate how your son sees and values the people in his life and how their passing affects him. Grow up and stop projecting your feelings on your child.
Edit: Thanks for the award! ###### |
I (20M) have responded very well to this lockdown. I live in the UK.
I've tuned out all the news (blocked it all) and have isolated myself further from even calling friends. I've focused on myself and went deeper and deeper into the depths of my mind. I've underwent a voyage into my mind. An odyssey of sorts.
I'm me... | YTA - while you are in the depths of your mind, try and find some empathy. ###### |
So my girlfriend got laid off from her previous job and has been searching ever since. I still have my job and have to work from home during this time which led to my co worker quiting abruptly because she had her own issues so now I have double the workload. My girlfriend sent her CV in but hasn't heard anything or go... | YTA - while it was good that you tried to get her a job. Dropping her in cold, without any prep, into an impromptu interview is a good way to make sure she fucks it up. ###### |
My boyfriend has very long hair. To keep it out of his face while he is at work and to keep comfortable he wears bandannas. to put it simply: he wears them too much. I told him I wanted them to stay in his locker at work or in his truck. He told me that he enjoys wearing them around the house and when he is doing yard ... | YTA - what on Earth is wrong with you? ###### |
I’m currently pregnant with twins, one boy one girl, and my fiancé and I are thinking of giving them kind of unconventional names.
I recently told my family some of our top options and they got mad, telling us we’re going to ruin our kids’ lives if we choose these names.
Anyways the names we chose all sort of play o... | YTA - what kind of names are those??? Literally a middle schooler puts more effort into names for their fan fiction than you have with those names. And I agree with your family, names aren’t just something you personally refer to them as and it’s isolated, you essentially are branding them for their entire professiona... |
I'm 38M and my sister is 35F
When my sister was 21 she got pregnant from a one night stand, baby didnt make it unfortunately which devastated my sister but with therapy she moved on.
She met her partner a year later, four years ago she had their first child.
We're currently living with my mother to stay close toge... | YTA - wether or not to talk about was her decision to make. You're an even bigger asshole for throwing the baby she lost in her face. ###### |
Ok so I asked her if she wanted to play a game with me sense we can't meetup in person and the only one that fit the criteria was dbx2.
We both start playing around the same time and I get past the tutorial and decide to wait for her to finish. I start doing random story and side missions while I wait, she sits there d... | YTA - way to make your girlfriend NEVER wanna play with you again ###### |
Hi guys, throwaway because I just made a reddit account for this. Also this happened a while ago but I'm thinking about it again.
I (24F) have been vegan for almost 5 years, and was vegetarian before that. My family is generally supportive but when I was in high school and still living at home I often cooked my own me... | YTA - Vegan here and I do think you were being controlling. Adding cheese to his own portion is like putting hot sauce or olive oil - a matter of personal taste. Does it suck when people aren't more willing to try vegan food? Sure. But you know they aren't, so you can't hold them up to that standard. ###### |
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I have two boys one is age 8 and one is age 14. I have one girl who is age 12. Me and my son recently moved out from our apartment to our new house with my husband. The house has three bedrooms one for us and two for kids. I plan to give one full bedroom to a girl because I feel it's not a good idea to put g... | YTA - THEY AREN'T HALF-SIBLINGS. You lied about how they were related throughout the post! They are step-siblings, who barely know each other, and you didn't even TELL THEM BEFORE HAND how the rooming situation would be. AND you gave your sons's things to your step-son without asking! This is TERRIBLE parenting. I ho... |
This might sound bad, but I've always been the class clown, funny type of dude, usually, my son (M19) loves it, and he's more like a friend than a son (he's a great kid, honor roll, all that). The other day, he came to me and told me he had to tell me and his mom something super important.
Now, we had our suspicions,... | YTA - There are times and places for joking around, your son coming out is not one of them. So many kids struggle to come out to their parents, you made it sound to him like you're not taking it seriously, something that he thinks is a very serious topic and has probably spent a lot of time planning on doing. ###### |
I live in a house with a park nearby. I am pregnant, so I am considered high risk so we barely leave the house, and when we do we leave at non-peak times (either before 9am or after 7pm). I and my husband have a four-year-old, who is a very high energy kid, and my husband is teaching her how to cycle using stabilisers.... | YTA - The girl was 10. 10 year olds don't fully understand social distancing. You flipped out on her for caring about your hurt child.
>I'm pregnant, and if you had the virus and didn't know it, you could hurt me or my babies.
Seriously? You shouldn't go outside if you're going to act like this. ###### |
About a month ago a stray cat showed up on my doorstep. She had no identification or microchip. I took her in, fed her, named her Bertha, but I was also actively looking for her owners. I don't have the ability to permanently take care of another pet, but I wanted to do the right thing and make sure she had the best ch... | YTA - the fact that the cat is returning to your house after you fed it is absolutely not a sign that your neighbor is neglecting it. You can’t just STEAL someone’s cat (while they are grieving their husband/father...) and take it to the pound. That’s what this would be, taking someone else’s cat.
I have some qualms... |
i want to preface this by saying my boyfriend is not very fond of pranks in the slightest. i have pranked him in the past and he’s never taken them well, so i’ve made sure not to make him the target of my pranks anymore because of this. i respect his wishes and don’t wanna ruin the relationship by pulling stupid pranks... | YTA - that's not a prank.
Pranks leave the target laughing and saying "oh boy, you sure got me, what a good time". They entertain everyone.
This left your friend confused and worried, and annoyed your bf. Real fun. ###### |
So here's the situation - my wife is in a high level corporate position at her job. What she does is extremely stressful and I don't blame it for taking a toll on her. Recently though, she's been having a really rough time with work and is clearly stressed out about it. She's visibly upset much of the time, but she doe... | YTA - That's a serious boundary violation. You should have talked directly to your wife about this.
Even if she doesn't want to talk to you, that's her choice, not yours. Clearly her career is important to her, and you essentially helped take some of that away without her choice or involvement. Even if it's not a ... |
My girlfriend [24F] and I [27M] have been dating for 5 years now. I don't have any social media - no facebook, instagram, twitter, snap etc. I am a private guy and like keeping my personal life to myself.
My girlfriend on the other hand, is obsessed with instagram. She has over 800 photos posted on instagram and is c... | YTA - that was her account. Additionally those picture were her memories that you had essentially erased. ###### |
It made me feel like he doesn’t trust me. We live together and spend most days together and he knows all there is to know about me. I understand that people come from things they don’t like talking about; I was abused for several years of my life (which we’ve discussed in detail). But, it seems like he doesn’t care to ... | YTA - sometimes things are so traumatic that people just don't talk about it. It could be something like that. He (or anyone really) doesn't need to tell you every last detail about themselves. It doesn't mean they don't trust you, it just means they don't wish to share it with anyone. Don't push him to tell you. Drop... |
My BF recently lost his dog of 17.5 years. He’s been in mourning and having a horrible time getting over it, so last week I got him a puppy to surprise him.
Well he wasn’t mean but he did tell me off.
He told me dogs shouldn’t be surprises and if I had told him he would have wanted to be apart of the selection proces... | YTA - so you got him a breed of dog you knew he didn't like..? Doesn't add up. It sounds like you got yourself a dog..
I get the intention and thought process behind what you did I really do, you were trying to be kind. But you have to accept that what you want to do isn't always what someone else wants to happen. Th... |
My (30F) husband (35M) and I have been married for two years. He has this group of five friends that he has been friends with since his freshman year of college. They are all very close, they have a group chat where they talk to each other almost daily. There are two women in this group, and one of them is my husbands ... | YTA - so much so, I almost don't believe this happened.
>They each wanted to go around and say something nice or share a memory.
>My husband started his off by saying how beautiful she was, and complementing her musical talent (I don’t have rhythm to save my life). When he finished I muted him and asked him to compl... |
So a year ago my daughter got invited to go to Washington DC from a program called envision. When she got the invitation in the mail she was so excited but when she saw the price tag she decided it’s best for her not to go because it was something around 2.5k but I figure that hey she’s moving out in a few years this m... | YTA - She was ready to pass on it because of the price. You made a promise (apparently one you couldn't keep). Now you are asking a 17 year old to pay off your debt? ###### |
Just the other day, I was looking at some fashion magazine which I helped produce. My gf walked into my room (we're sheltering-in-place together), struck a pose, and asked how she would fare if she was a model.
Since I work in the young n' steamy n' hot/sexy sector of the modeling industry (lots of skimpy clothing, bi... | YTA - she was asking you to tell her she’s sexy, not looking for a serious critique of her ability to make it as a model. And you couldn’t stop at telling her no, you had to top it with also telling her she’s not pretty. Saying you like it that she’s not pretty doesn’t make you any less of a massive asshole. I’d be su... |
My friend \[17f\] has a somewhat popular instagram account-- think 10-20k followers. She posts a lot of photography/artsy stuff with a few pics of her in cute outfits. Our high school is in her bio (like how people put the acronym of their school and their graduating year) and her photos are all tagged with location, s... | YTA - she owes no one a response, especially not (what I assume to be) an adult male that she does not know sliding into her DMs, and it’s not your place nor your business to comment on it.
Edit: additionally, I’m assuming you’re not a female. Many of these people who slide into strangers’ DMs are persistent and obno... |
My (28M) girlfriend (25F) was into competitive ballroom dancing pre-covid. If you're familiar with competitive ballroom dancing, it's not just graceful waltzing around a ballroom. It's a lot of lifts, lots of close proximity, hands pressed against the body quite intentionally, and perceived chemistry counts for a lot. ... | YTA - She has worked for a long time to be a good dancer. If you ask her to choose, she'll probably pick her dancing. If she wanted to date her dance partner, she'd be dating him. The fact that she isn't, means she's not interested in him, but rather, she's interested in you. Get over yourself and your jealousy. ... |
ok so im 16 and my stepdad has been with my mom for like 5 years now. he told me he was married before and had a daughter who's in her twenties now but idk what happened, i just know he doesn't really talk to her. he told me his first wife was a massive bitch and that's why he left but also said he used to drink a lot ... | YTA - she didn’t say anything bitchy to you. she didn’t want to have contact with him and you flipped out and didn’t respect that, that’s why you got blocked. When divorces happen she could have been caught in the middle and you didn’t respect her or your stepdad by bringing it up. ###### |
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