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Last night she put a pizza in the oven and when the timer went off I took it out. I yelled to the other room that the pizza was done and she yelled back for me to cut it. The scissors were handy and the knives were dirty so I thought to heck lets try it. Anyways, TLDR: I dont want to use anything else to cut pizza wit... | YTA - realistically your only route to a proper apology is buying her a new pair, no matter what they cost. You basically did the equivalent of using an Xbox controller as a hammer, or trying to tow a livestock trailer with a little 2 door coupe. ###### |
We have a 16yo son who has been hanging out with this girl named Cass who goes to a different school. He told said she is just a friend and nothing more. Last week, he asked me what I thought about this owl necklace. I said it looked like something someone would give to a girlfriend and not something a guy would wear. ... | YTA - personally this rubs me wrong
1. Your son asked you not to tell his father about it, and while I understand wanting to keep your husband in the loop, it would t have killed you to humour your son for a while
2. Your son clearly has a reason he doesn’t want his father to know, it could be what he said, it coul... |
A lil backstory: I'm 34M, and have never come close to having a SO. And I don't mean I'm one of those people things never got serious with, I mean I've never even had a woman express the tiniest interest or go along if I did. It goes without saying that I'm a virgin, but I've never even had a kiss or held hands with a ... | YTA - People aren't showing affection to their partners to spite you. They're doing it because they are in a loving and committed relationship, and they have the right to show affection in public. You don't have the right to choose what they do because it hurts you. I kind of get where you are coming from, but at the ... |
I am a queer POC living in a shotgun house with a het white couple. If you aren't familiar with shotgun layouts, there is no hallway so rooms just flow into each other, you have to walk through some rooms to get to other rooms. But our house has a side entrance, with the bathroom in the middle and the kitchen in the b... | YTA - Only because I think a month to month lease means that you should still give a month's notice, not just a couple of weeks. My suggestion would be to tell them that you're moving out May 1 but will still pay rent for the month of May. ###### |
Since I'm stuck at home I've been doing some cleaning and getting rid of a lot of stuff. Today I went through my jewelry. I'm a jewelry freak and constantly buy myself dumb trinkets but also have a few really nice pieces. I'm 25 so I was trying to clear out everything I don't/wouldn't wear to work and basically narrow ... | YTA - not for keeping the necklace, but for not being honest and transparent. Integrity matters in a relationship. If you can't communicate with your boyfriend properly - even about hard-to-discuss, emotional, and painful topics -, that is a HUGE problem in your relationship and one that you need to work out if you wa... |
I (28F) bought my niece (14F) an iPhone for her birthday. My sister and her daughter are not the most affluent. (I'd say they're about lower-middle class.) This past weekend was my niece Bethany's 14th birthday and she's never had a smartphone. She has always told me she feels left out from her friends when they tell a... | YTA - Me and my husband always check with the parents of our nephews if we're going to get them an expensive gift. Particularly a phone - deciding when a kid is allowed a phone is up to the parents. Your sister might have been fine with it if she knew beforehand. ###### |
My ex has been dating this woman for 3 years and she has been in my kids’ life since he was 2. I absolutely hate that my son likes this woman and talks about her as I feel like the only reason is because my ex forced my son to hang around her. My son already has a mom and doesn’t need another person confusing him by ... | YTA - massively. And you are going to give your child serious psychological issues if you don’t wake up and address this. This kind of behaviour makes me really mad, because you aren’t being a protective mum, you are hurting your child the most. But I’m going to stick to the problem at hand:
1. She’s not a stranger, ... |
Bit of background, my wife and I are key workers, i have been working at home the duration of the pandemic.
My wife has not been able to, So has been at home with the kids, only going in on a semi regular basis.
Ages ago my boss told us all to book X amount of holiday over the next four months , (so we don't go back ... | YTA - Look man I get it, life is stressful right now, but to hide something like this when you know your wife also wants a break is just not right. You both could've planned for this beforehand so that both of you could have a day off with yours being today(or whenever this day off was) and then your wife could have a... |
So my sister had a small informal wedding recently, and I stayed over at her place the night of. Basically it turned out that only a small amount of the wedding cake was actually eaten at the event, and she put the other 80% in the fridge.
I stayed up late and got stoned, and I ended up eating the entire cake. The nex... | YTA - like, it’s super duper clear that your the AH. Guest or not... learn some manners!
Edit: eating 80% of a cake is a far cry from helping yourself to the house “amenities” amenities usually refers to things like... soap and shampoo.... not wedding cake 🤦🏻♀️ ###### |
Hi guys, throwaway because I just made a reddit account for this. Also this happened a while ago but I'm thinking about it again.
I (24F) have been vegan for almost 5 years, and was vegetarian before that. My family is generally supportive but when I was in high school and still living at home I often cooked my own me... | YTA - let him eat his pasta with cheese! He's not making anyone else eat it. You wanted to make a vegan meal everyone would enjoy - and you wanted him to eat it even though he wouldn't enjoy it.
Leaving aside the fact that cheese on pasta is an incredibly common thing (so I don't really get why you're (???) about it)... |
I have a 19Yo stepson and since me and my partner moved in together all he's been a nightmare. My step son is a drug dealer, he brings all sort of shady people to our house some of which are now incarcerated and he has been arrested himself. He's never had a job is his life but I still see large quantities of cash in h... | YTA - just because your daughter sees she’s getting an expensive gift and that he has money doesn’t mean she’s going to grow up to be a drug dealer.
Your stepson clearly cares about your daughter. You need to have a talk with your partner about him and eventually have a talk with your daughter about money.
If he’s... |
So my girlfriend is a full time digital artist. Well like any job sometimes she needs to let out her frustrations sometimes. I usually listen to her vent But this time I felt like she was the one wrong. Today she was really upset because someone commissioned her and didn’t disclose that the commission was to be used in... | YTA - it’s actually industry standard to charge much, much more for commercial licensing than personal/one-time use, plus it may reflect poorly on her as an artist if her art is used on a medium that it was not intended for (and turns out looking crappy as a result.) She’s not in the wrong here at all. ###### |
My brother in law is staying with us right now and was conferencing into his usual NA meeting from the living room (our only home computer is a wired desktop in the living room.)
We usually clear out to give him privacy, but in this case I forgot my phone somewhere in there and had to quickly go looking for it.
I h... | YTA - it's called Narcotics ANONYMOUS for a reason. If you put this person's job in jeopardy for daring to seek support with his struggle, you'd be an undisputed ASSHOLE.
Edit to add quote from OP re what type of work they do:
>We do quality and maintenance checks on aviation equipment. ###### |
Pretty much the title. Throwaway
My roommate has a short hallway leading to to her room, she has claimed the space even though it is technically not hers.
She has a new age-y altar that sits in the hallway. It is filled with candles. It has dried flowers, money, sometimes honey and other things. She has a couple of... | YTA - inside the apartment/house is not a “public” place like outside. It is a common area of the living space. The altar is also hers. So, you should have asked permission first. ###### |
I'm M45 my wife is f34 and we've been married for 13 years and have 2 kids. I make a very very good living and started looking at turning our unfinished basement into a man cave, my wife and I spoke about it but she flat out rejected for no reason. I budgeted about 150k to fully renovate and furnish it, with a walk ... | Yta - imagine if she spent the same amount of money without your agreement on herself. You’d be pissed - so YTA ###### |
I (62M) was married to my ex (58F) for 20+ years until things went downhill. From her perspective I was emotionally cold and stubborn, and from mine she was so up and down. She suddenly left me (especially due to money issues) for another guy and moved to LA to live in his literal mansion.
This was 15 years ago, and w... | YTA - If you don't want to interact with her at all that's completely your choice. However your son wants a group family picture and you won't even stand in a group with this women for a single picture because you're angry from 15 years ago?? That's massive overkill just stand in the same vicinity of her for one pictu... |
So I used to live with my roommate and she had a friend who needed to stay for 2 weeks. I won't go into to much detail but shwas escaping an abusive situation and she had to wait to move in to her new apartment. I never really saw her, she was out most of the time and only came back to sleep but I was still uncomfortab... | YTA - If you are within your rights to kick someone out then your roommate is damn sure within hers to leave. You reap what you sow. ###### |
So my gf and I have been together 4 months. We're both 27 and were happy. She has been texting her old guy friend recently and it's really starting to bother me. We dont get along with each other and she knows this. Apparently his cousin died but I doubt that and I think it's an excuse to talk to him . While she was as... | YTA - if this is real holy hell, please get help. She should leave you, this is veering very close to abusive. ###### |
I (28) have had a strained relationship with my dad (59) since I could remember. we both love one another he just has a drill sergeant approach and doesn't show emotions a lot. he was getting on my case about paying for the car he bought for me, with the expectation of paying him back. we got into a heated argument unt... | YTA - I’m fortunate enough to not have lost a parent, but you are absolutely in the wrong here on both counts.
Based off what you wrote, your dad was mad at you for a justifiable reason. You being mad at him was childish, and him wanting to be paid back for the car isn’t controlling AT ALL. You two made a deal, and ... |
throwaway because she has reddit.
So me (m23) and my girlfriend (f21) have been dating for two years and we’ve moved in together three months ago.
My girlfriend was living with her mother prior and they had a dog for four years, when we were talking about moving in together, she begged me to let her bring her dog an... | YTA - I’d leave you before I’d get rid of my pet. You already know how this will end.
And LOL @ the comment about her walking her dog 3 times a day. The NERVE. ###### |
Ao my fiancé works nights and sleeps during the day which is fine. I have no problem with that but lately for the past 2-3 weeks whenever I make dinner and try to wake her up to come eat, she gets all agitated and doesn’t eat which pisses me off big time.
It’s not like I wake her up at like 5-6 in the afternoon, I al... | YTA - I see where your intentions are coming from, but I totally get why she’s annoyed. Eating and sleeping are both activities that folks tend to like to do on their own timelines. Also what on earth are you making that requires hours of digestion time before someone is able to go to work? ###### |
My ex and I have an uneasy co-parenting agreement. Usually it's the details that sparks arguments. My biggest thing is that I don't want them drinking soda (sons are 10 and 13). Soda is awful for kids to drink. When they are with her, she lets them drink Coke for lunch and dinner. They are all hyped up on caffeine and ... | YTA - I say this as a big fan of Leprechaun (leprechaun in space, seriously?!) but you're naíve if you think the references are fully going over their heads and obtuse if you don't see why she might have a problem with funny, but sometimes racist, drug oriented mild gore. ###### |
My gf (23F) has always loved eating meat. Burgers, steak, fried chicken.
Anyway she always comments on how she's surprised that I've been a vegan for the past 5 years , and says that I must have a strong will-power.
It's not that hard, being vegan is more better for the enviorment, and I'm way more healthy.
My gf ... | YTA - I respect that you are living a vegan lifestyle, but you can't dictate or force how another person eats. You can educate them, yes. But you can't ignore your partner because "she couldn't control herself." If you care this deeply, perhaps you should look for a partner who is a full-time vegan. ###### |
I’m using a throwaway because she knows my main. So basically, my girlfriend and I live together. Everyday when we’re about to have whatever meal or anything, she closely inspects each and every glass, plate, fork, knife, etc.
They way she inspects it is by firstly sliding it through her fingers (she washes her hands... | YTA - I can see why it is irritating but it doesn't really affect you in any way. It's worth having a discussion about why she feels the need to do it and how it makes you feel but it's something you're just going to have to accept if you want to be with her. ###### |
AITA for not telling my soon-to-be wife that I have another child?
Okay kinda long and complicated story
When I was 18, I went on a “lads holiday” to Phuket in Thailand. Whilst I was there we met a group of girls, from New Zealand and I’m from Australia. I slept with one of these girls and she ended up getting pregna... | YTA - how did you manage to see your daughter and not tell your fiancé? I just can’t even fathom why you didn’t tell her early on or how it didn’t come up at any point in your relationship. You’re definitely the AH. ###### |
I had a bit to drink last night, and was sitting outside on my porch. My neighbor came outside and was doing a little hula hoop and dancing, I got a bit bold and started completing her. I’m friendly with the neighbor, she’s an attractive woman. She wasn’t offended by my drunk behavior and showed me a few tricks with he... | YTA - Honestly she actually gave you a pretty light way to get out of it so suck it up. You don't accidentally call someone else sexy... and your wife is quite rightly pissed at you. If you don't want to be in the dog house then you'll want to take her up on it and remind her that you do find her attractive and not ju... |
My son is 25, working, living with us and paying rent. Since his bank account was created by us when he was younger, I have found out that for the past few months his savings were getting lesser and lesser and finally this month, emptied.
I had a talk with him and he got angry at me for checking his bank account when... | YTA - he is a 25 year old man you stay the fuck outta his bank statements like jesus jumping christ on a pogo stick does no one have any concept of when their children become adults anymore?
He pays rent doesn't he?
Leave him to do what he wants with his money. ###### |
My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 5. He supported me through college and we support my disabled mother.
My job was great until the company was sold to a larger company. The merger was horrible, soulcrushing, and drove me to a breakdown. I ended up quitting 2 days into my two week notice afte... | YTA - from everything I am reading your husband is completely supported you through all of this, I’m assuming outside of that he is supportive as well.
Yet your salty for having to share half a bonus check?
I mean honestly.... ###### |
My girlfriend bought a yoga mat she is going to use for exercise. She bought one and it arrived today, she said she was going to exercise for a couple hours and that I need to get out of the room. Now we live with my parents and this is my room, it's not the biggest room in the world so she will be exercising right in ... | YTA - coming from someone who also lives abroad with her BF and his parents...she needs space. She needs alone time for just her. You should go sit on the couch in the living for an hour or at the kitchen table for an hour to let her have this. I am assuming she left things behind to be with you in your country? Stop ... |
Me (36M) and my wife (33F) are happily together for 15 years and married for the last 7.
Growing up with a little sister that tried to hustle me through using and braking my stuff made me not wanting to share certain belongings.
Since i met my wife i have openly explained that i don’t like to share certain stuff like ... | YTA - Come on... she's throwing out underwear of yours that needs to be thrown out. She's using the battery pack for your toothbrush. She's wearing a shirt that you don't wear. I get that your possessiveness comes from your sister breaking your things when you were a child. From what you're describing, your wife i... |
Obligatory I'm on mobile please forgive my layout.
For Clarity we are both white and from the United States
I (26F) have a friend (32M) who I've known for a pretty long time, about 10 years we met through the anime convention scene and we've kept in pretty good contact over the years with a couple spats here and ther... | YTA - Calling him racist is a bit overdramatic. Was it racially insensitive? Barely...it wasn't about race but the state of affairs in N.Korea, but that doesn't make someone a racist. Literally, everyone makes fun of North Korea and its not about the fact they are Asian. ###### |
I know the title might already make up your mind, but please hear me out.
My fiance's family has very mixed views regarding sexuality and though I have tried my best to try and integrate my father into the mix, it hasn't worked out very well. Now, my father has always been very open about his sexuality and has been f... | YTA - By your own admission, this man is like another father to you. Keeping him away from the wedding is only going to be the start. What about holidays that you host where there are people from both sides? Are you going to ask him to stay out of those, too?
By asking him not to come, you have totally invalidated hi... |
My son is a young adult but he is low functioning, he has the mental capacity of a 12 to 13 year old. My girlfriend and son have always had a good relationship and she has always treated him like her own child. She has never treated him any differently.
Recently though, and I believe this may be due to his depression,... | YTA - being autistic isn’t an excuse for all forms of bad behavior. He can learn boundaries and consequences. ###### |
Hello everyone!!
I feel like I'm crazy in this one. But basically my husband just loves copying my favourite foods!! We've been married 26 years now and he started this around 5 years ago and it really annoys me.
Anything I really like eating, he likes it to and then he'll go and buy it everytime we go shopping and say... | YTA - are you 12? ###### |
My boyfriend (25m) and me (24m) have been together for 11 months now. The topic of kids has only come up recently. He has said he really wants kids about a month or so ago. I was originally fine with the topic but then I started thinking of all the negative effects (financial, having to give up your freedom, etc) and I... | YTA - A kid is not a motorcycle. It’s a living, breathing human being. It would be emotionally damaging to a child to bring them into a home where one parent actively resents them and refuses to participate in their care. If you don’t want kids, don’t have them. But don’t fuck up some child’s life. ###### |
I'm 17. When I was 16 my parents bought me a 2000 Subaru outback that was reasonably taken care of. I really liked my car and was very grateful to my parents for getting it for me. A year later (now)my brother is 16 and they bought him a 1994 Jeep that is really nice and is in super good condition. It looks new. I'm h... | YTA - A 2000 Subaru Outback is a great car! His jeep is actually 6 years older than your car. Despite the fact that it looks nice, it likely has more wear and tear on it. At the end of the day, your parents probably spent similar amounts of money on your cars and got the best available within that price range. Sor... |
Yesterday was Mother’s Day. Me and my wife have two boys. One is 7 and the other is 5. Yesterday I took mother out for a pick nick. Since we are in a pandemic, that’s all we could do. I made some food for me and my mother and we went to a park and we spent some time together there and then we went to her house (my chil... | YTA - “My bitch wife thinks I should have done something for her on mother’s day but I totally did by telling my very small children they could fucking look after themselves!” ###### |
So I know the title sounds really bad but hear me out. My friends were talking about our sexuality and then we got to the topic of homophobic people. They were all talking about how all of them are trash and I said that some people were led to believe that and if they are trying to stop I feel like they aren't bad r... | YTA -
The fact that some homophobes become not homophobic doesn't necessitate an impassioned defense of said hypothetical ex-homophobe just because someone said they don't like homophobes.
Your friend's comments were clear in-context and if you're often antagonizing everyone with nit-picky hand-wringing like this,... |
Throw away because my girlfriend is on Reddit and knows my account.
Yesterday, my girlfriend showed me a building she was building in Minecraft. I asked her if I can look around the place, and when she went to the bathroom, I found a lot of TNT in one of the chests and thought it would be funny to prank her by explod... | YTA - If your girlfriend was a painter, painted something beautiful and wanted to know if you liked it, and then you threw it on the ground and smeared feces all over it...are you the asshole or is she overreacting to a prank?
Activities with progression aren't "just a..." anything. People spend time creating. And... |
I’ll try and keep this as short as possible. My girlfriend loves musicals. I hate them. I find them incredibly stupid and unnecessary. Anywhere we take turns having a movie night I constantly have to veto her musical stuff. She’s mad because she watches all of my stuff but I won’t watch her stuff (I just won’t watch he... | YTA - “are you gonna fucking pick something else for once? Seriously?” - Disrespectful and mean.
Nothing to do with Musicals. ###### |
Me: 20/f
Stepsister: 23/f
Parents: 40s m/f
I have a younger brother (18/m) but he is staying with my mom and stepdad for reasons.
Corona virus basically ruined my college experience. The school closed down when we were on spring break, so a lot of my stuff is still there. My best friends and boyfriend live far ... | YTA Your life hasn't been ruined. People are dying and oh, boo hoo, you don't have all your way and the whole world isn't accommodating your needs and you think you're worse off than your sister with a SEIZURE disorder. Quite the piece of work. ###### |
My friend had been dating a girl for about 10 months and I could tell that he really loved her. Whenever we would hang out she would be there too and I didn't really have a problem with it because she was pretty cool. About 2 weeks ago he asked me if I wanted to chill at the skatepark. When I got there I noticed that s... | YTA You're justified in not liking this girl, but it does you no good to call her names, & it will only alienate him from you. You can be honest & say that you think its an unhealthy relationship, but putting her down (& dismissing/belittling his feelings in the process) will only make him feel like he cant talk to y... |
Me (M23) and my girlfriend (F23) have been together for 2 years. Me, my gf, Bob (the gay friend), we were classmate back in highschool. I didn't date her back then and Bob didn't come out at the time. I'm not a close friend with Bob to know if he's gay or not, but my he's my gf's best friend after graduation, and she s... | YTA This is petty and ridiculous. If Bob was straight, you'd still be ridiculous. You either trust your girlfriend, or you don't. If you don't even trust your girlfriend with someone who is gay because she can't even associate with any other penis but yours, you've got issues.
If you don't trust your girlfriend,... |
So for the people who dont know. ABG is a popular term used in Asian American culture where a asain female goes and takes a lot from black and white culture and is normally talking to a lot of guys at once.
Now this morning I woke to find out my(15M) sister(18F) dyed her hair blond. Which I then made a comment sayi... | YTA
>she started coming at me for the stuff i do like how i play a lot of league of legends so i must be a stereotype. I told her she was taking it way to personally and i left the room.
Don't start none, won't be none. ###### |
This happened back in Feb but it’s still an issue which she brought up recently.
The title makes me sound like I’m definitely the asshole, but just let me explain:
So my (25M) girlfriend (25F) was picking up something at my workplace. This is an office job, but it’s very stressful. Anyway, I went down to the lobby t... | YTA I don't blame that girl for not wanting to be the boss's little fetch it girl. He's got legs.
And if you were to be fired for "allowing" your girlfriend to comfort that crying girl, do you REALLY want to work at a place with such a crappy boss? I wouldn't want to. ###### |
I'm 38M and my sister is 35F
When my sister was 21 she got pregnant from a one night stand, baby didnt make it unfortunately which devastated my sister but with therapy she moved on.
She met her partner a year later, four years ago she had their first child.
We're currently living with my mother to stay close toge... | YTA
And even if you think 'her partner should have known anyway', it's not your place to tell him, it's not your news to tell.
You've shown a real lack of empathy here - what happened to her may be one of the most traumatic things she's ever gone through and you just casually bring it up like that when he... |
Since being at home, my wife and I have had a lot of extra time to watch movies and TV shows. Most of the time we swap off who picks the movie. However, I feel that we have pretty different tastes. I appreciate movies that are more subtle and realistic, and she likes action-packed, over-the-top type films.
The last fe... | Yes. YTA. Definitely.
Also you’ve been voted TA on every single post you’ve made on AITA so I think it should be fairly obvious by now that you’re just sorta of TA in general.. ###### |
I (36F) am getting married to my fiance next week. It was scheduled for a few months ago but was delayed for obvious reasons. My wedding has a black & white color theme, with all the bridesmaids wearing black dresses. My niece is the flower girl.
However my niece has fiery red hair. I'm afraid her hair will mess t... | Yes, YTA.
What the fuck is wrong with so many brides who think they have any right at all to tell people their bodies don't look right enough to celebrate with you?
You have literally just told your niece that a *picture of you* is more important than her. ###### |
Firstly, yes I am pregnant and I do realize the reality of my emotions, but I am extremely irritated.
My fiancé has two daughters from his ex-wife, 5 and 7. He has a relationship that he titles as “friends”. They text, Snapchat and hangout at family parties together.
I have been extremely blessed to get pregnant and ... | Yes, YTA. Your fiancé has a friendly relationship with the mother of his children which is a good thing. He brought over second-hand baby stuff (very common) that his own children used. I’m sure he associates it much more with them than with her. Her children and your child are going to be siblings but you sound like ... |
I'm 17. When I was 16 my parents bought me a 2000 Subaru outback that was reasonably taken care of. I really liked my car and was very grateful to my parents for getting it for me. A year later (now)my brother is 16 and they bought him a 1994 Jeep that is really nice and is in super good condition. It looks new. I'm h... | Yes, YTA. When I was old enough to get a car, I got my sister’s hand me down, and my parents bought her a new car. I didn’t think it was fair, but I was grateful to have had a car in the first place, when so many people either don’t have one, or have to buy one for themselves. Just let it go, it’s not worth the battle... |
I'm a dad of six kids (17m, 14f, 6m, 3f, 1f). My 14 y/o has always helped out with taking care of the younger ones, and we often jokingly refer to her as the "3rd parent".
She takes care of small things, like making sure the younger ones have brushed their teeth and are in bed on time, or making them breakfast in the... | Yes, YTA. She’s 14 years old. She isn’t a parent and she isn’t a babysitter. Why don’t you try stepping up and being a parent instead of expecting your 14 year old kid to do it for you.
Just because previously she *liked* to help out doesn’t mean she has to continue to like it. And you thinking she should just makes... |
So daughter lives a few states away from us with her husband so we don’t see them too often. We are currently visiting for the week but things are rocky right now because of what I’m about to explain.
They like to use those Alexa devices. Before we arrived I told her I would not tolerate that she keep them out while w... | Yes, YTA. How dare you? If you were so damn concerned about it, you should have stayed in a freaking hotel. ###### |
Since world events -- staying at GFs.
She works from home -- I dont have to work but have full salary. I kill time by watching shows, playing online games and hanging with GF when she's not working.
Yesterday -- my laptop broke -- I don't know what's wrong with it and I will have to bring it in.
My GF has 2 lapto... | Yes, YTA. It’s her laptop, not yours. Give it back and be a responsible adult (get yours fixed or get a new one).
She’s not “spoiled” by having all these things. She works hard, earns money, and buys them. Like a responsible adult. ###### |
Me and my daughter have been haven’t been getting along so well recently and I feel as though I’ve been under-appreciated because she doesn’t seem to realise how much I really do around the house. I’m a single parent (there’s just us in the house) with disabilities that stop me from doing certain things such as taking ... | Yes YTA. You have a disability that keeps you from doing any chores so you use your 14 year old daughter as a maid??? You said she doesn’t realize what you do around the house but like what DO you do around the house? ###### |
I (25F) have a friend that we’ll call J (30F). J is married to T (32M). We were all friends and hung out together at their house a bunch.
At one point, T caught some feelings for me, and there was some inappropriate texting. Yes, I fully know we were both assholes there, but that’s not why I’m here. Everything was bro... | Yes YTA, as is T. It doesn’t matter if it’s “innocent” (which I really doubt and I’m sure at least you still like each other, but giving you both the benefit of the doubt), he cheated on his wife with you. It’s so inappropriate for you two to have any kind of personal relationship and private communication now. You’re... |
Throwaway because a few of my coworkers use reddit.
So I'm a teacher at a relatively low income school. If you didn't know, this week is teacher appreciation week and though school has been cancelled for the rest of the year we still give lessons online.
My school's administration set up a drive through so that we ... | Yes YTA- even your version of events you come off harsh. She a newish driver even if she started at 16, hates your truck, had you screaming in her ear, not an easy thing. Not to mention this can’t be the first time you treated her this way, she probably was so afraid of your wrath if she screwed up it became a self fu... |
Throwaway because my girlfriend follows my main. Also sorry I'm on mobile.
My (M19) girlfriend (F18) and I got into an argument over this and we resolved it but I can't stop wondering if I was TA.
My GF was telling me about how sick and tired she was of the cat calling she and other women get. Now, my GF is gorgeou... | Yeah. YTA. Telling her to shut up? Try supporting your girlfriend a little.
Also, cat-calling isn't a 'compliment' that women reject. Cat-calling makes women feel objectified and unsafe in some - if not most - situations. Usually men only cat-call when women are alone or with other women, not when they're walking wi... |
I have always tried to teach my daughter to be respectful to others and herself. When she was 16 she had wanted a tattoo and I told her that it was her choice but a condition with living in our house was that such a thing is not permitted. I told her that I felt that tattoos were something that I believed were unnecess... | Yeah, YTA. You don’t get to tell your 20 year old how to spend her money. You can ask her to start paying rent for living with you, but that’s it. ###### |
My girlfriend (24F) and I (35M) have been together for almost a year. She comes from a wealthy family. They own several houses and buy my gf everything she wants whenever she wants it. They’re good people, but I think they need to treat her like a woman instead of a child. I worked hard for everything I have, which isn... | Yeah, YTA. Spoiled brats throw tantrums for what they want. It sounds like her parents are very generous, and it's not really any of your business if they buy her a laptop rather than paying someone else's rent as long as she's not expecting you to do the same.
Not anyone can be a doctor, even if she's given lots of... |
Sooo.
I’m friends with a guy who I ended up falling for, and I confessed these feelings to him last summer. He said he didn’t feel the same way. Cool. Whatevs. We’re still pretty good friends.
The only thing I wish he’d quit doing is complaining about his (lack of a) dating life. He’s in his 30s, and says he should... | Yeah YTA
Don't be friends with someone you pine for if you can't handle the fact that they still want a relationship with someone else.
I'm sorry that the feelings werent returned. It's a bummer but being mad at him because he wasn't interested isn't fair to him.
The friend zone is a made up concept by angry people... |
Throwayay for obvious reasons, and I’ll try to keep this short. Also, this is not relationship advice, I just want to know if I presented things in a bad way.
A while back I started searching for some new jobs out of boredom basically. To my surprise I managed to land something that requires me to relocate to another ... | Yeah YTA.
Firstly because you 'demanded' your wife has to relocate (not nice at all), second because you did this without consulting her, and third because you're not taking any of her feelings in to account here.
Try and act like an adult and have a proper discussion. ###### |
My girlfriend always calls herself her cat’s Mommy. She’ll pick him up and say things like, “Do you love Mommy? He loves Mommy!” And then she’ll say to me, “Aw, he wants to see his Daddy” and just hand me her cat. She calls her Dad “Grandpa” and her Mom “Grandma” to this cat. It’s a cat!
I told her that it’s weird and... | Yeah YTA. With that logic, people who adopted kids wouldn't be allowed to call themselves their kid's parents because they didn't birth them.
It's kind of a common thing for people to do this with pets too. If it's not okay with you that she's doing this, it may become a dealbreaker because it's something some peopl... |
I’m a 25 year old guy and I’m married to my wife who is 24. Okay so recently I’ve noticed that she’s gained a bit of weight, not crazy or anything ridiculous, but a bit. I’m into fitness myself so I like to stay active and healthy in general. Well her birthday was a couple days ago and along with some other gifts, I go... | Yeah YTA. Putting the “woman and her weight” thing aside, what you basically did here is get her a birthday gift that was something either *you* wanted or you decided she *should* want. It wasn’t at all related to her interests or values. That’s not a gift—it’s an expectation, or a request.
tbh any self improvement t... |
Throwaway... Also please don't just assume 'YTA' just because of the title.
So I like painting/drawing, it's a great hobby of mine, and I love to do it in my free time.
My gf is a very clumsy girl. She'll trip on air. Which is surprising since she loves to bake. She can bake really good cakes/desserts, tho the clumsi... | Yeah YTA. Accidents happen, it sucks, but you can be mad/frustrated without lashing out at people excessively. You should be apologizing to her as well and making it up to her. Just keep your paintings out of the way or something next time. ###### |
Hello Reddit!
So our group of friends consists of me (19 F) and 5 guys (20-21 M), one of them being the friend that I will talk about next.
He has a gf about the same age as us, and they've been together for a around a year. The girl is ok, she's ok to have an occasional chat with, but what bothers us is that she h... | Yeah YTA, it doesn’t even sound like you’re trying to include her. Also why do you have to adjust your behaviour/conversations when she’s around?
You seem quite bitter that there’s another girl hanging around, we get it, you’re one of the boys. ###### |
My girlfriend and I (27F and 34M) have been together for 5 years and living together for 3. To start off with, I am disabled an unable to work due to some mental health issues (severe anxiety and depression mainly.) She knows this, and has always been the provider.
I was going to propose to her, but last year she quit... | Yeah YTA for several reasons. I was gonna say E S H but going through the comments, 100% YTA. Lets sum it up.
-You claim to be depressed and to have anxiety, which i cannot confirm nor deny and im not trying to, but yet you minimize the mental health of your girlfriend. She claims her job was affecting her mental hea... |
I asked my girlfriend if she could lend me money for weed, £50 and that I would pay her back next when when I get paid. She said no since she is against weed and drugs in general, I asked why and then she said "well I will lend you money if you give me the double amount back, so £100 because I will put an interest rate... | Definitely YTA she didn’t want to lent you money for drugs, you begged and she offered you a deal which you accepted and now your having a cry about it! Might be time to rethink your budget, habit and also grow up.
Oh and by your replies your definitely need to stand back and look in the mirror, you ask if YTA and th... |
I was talking with my friend who is very sheltered and didn’t know there were people who weren’t straight or cis. Anyway, we were talking and at some point I said “me and my girlfriend have been dying to see each other again” and she said “I thought you hated when girls referred to there girl-friends as girlfriends?” I... | Definitely NTA.
You answered questions from a curious person, and properly. You haven’t ‘corrupted’ her or hurt her in anyway.
Her parents being homophobic is not your fault, so don’t beat yourself up over it. And, unless she tells her parents everything that happens in her day(no teen really does), then I see no p... |
Ok people of reddit I need your help. This situation is weighing heavy on my heart and noggin and I’m completely unsure what to do.
I am dog sitting for an owner and it is very clear to me and others that have seen the dog that this dog is being neglected.
Here is the information/facts I have:
• dog is only fed once ... | Definitely NTA.
When it comes to abuse, you have to report it when you see it. It is hard to report someone because we fear the consequences, but you're one of the few people, if not the only one, who can help this dog have a better life. ###### |
My 3 year old daughter loves to spend time at my mom's house but my mom has never been the "good" parent, she has always tried hard to be the fun one no matter what. Over the last year or so she ha taught my daughter my daughter many bad habits that have been hard to break. Some notable ones are, she taught her to figh... | Definitely NTA. Your mum has zero respect for you or or wife, which she has demonstrated repeatedly. You need to find alternative child care ###### |
Some context: I have a strict "no lending" policy on money, I won't let anyone starve, but I'd rather buy you lunch rather than give you the money. It's something my parents taught me and it helps to weed out who's just lying to get a fix of whatever.
Due to lay-offs, we are all struggling, but I have a savings accou... | Definitely NTA. Your money, you earned it, you decide where it goes. The end. ###### |
I (17M) program as a hobby. I've been pulling all nighters working on a project with my friends and on my free time I play CSGO and Hypixel Skyblock. My mom recently put locks on my laptop and blocked certain programs that are essential to my hobby (vscode, unity, etc) Luckily for me I found a loophole that allows me t... | Definitely NTA. You wouldn't have had to bypass in the first place if she would loosen up ###### |
When I say every single time, I mean every single time she does it in front of me and it's becoming a problem with the family because they think I'm being disrespectful and she's old and doesn't get it. Even my husband is like "I agree with you but she won't budge so just let it go"
No I dont think I will.
My son is... | Definitely NTA. You would be doing your son a disservice not to speak up. ###### |
Sorry for anything misspelled or the format being weird I'm on mobile
Ok so I'm a 17(F) I was born on May 9th my sister (Mia 14(F) not her real name) was born on May 13th. Ever since she was born we've shared a birthday party. That includes the cakes and the presents, the cake is usually an issue for me because I cant... | Definitely NTA. You were born on separate days and so it is appropriate to have separate celebrations.
Have fun at your friend's house at the celebration they're throwing for you! ###### |
I am a 22f living at my parents home due to the state of the world. We live in a nice neighborhood out side of city limits. Each house sits on about three acres so there’s a fair amount of room between houses. Growing up the neighborhood was quiet with very few, if any, disagreements. Within the last few years a new f... | Definitely NTA. You have secondary reasons to back yourself up—noise complaints and whatnot. However, the biggest reason is, like others have said, regarding these kids’ safety. One has already seriously been injured. Now it seems the others are getting wilder in spite of it. Please call the next time it happens. It t... |
I'm due in the fall and where I live, visiting restrictions will probably be lifted so it's caused a rift between me and my MIL.
Title says it all. I just wouldn't be comfortable with my legs spread apart screaming in front of my husband's mother. He's 100% supportive of this and says he's not going to let her come. S... | Definitely NTA. You can have whoever you want in the room, and disallow anyone you want. Make sure to let the medical staff know to restrict access to anyone you don't specifically say is allowed in. ###### |
my six year old daughter died a couple months ago and the mourning process is already difficult enough. my ex-best friend keeps texting me about my daughter and he says things such as “it’s a damn shame” and he’s in “pain” but he never even met my daughter! it’s tearing me to pieces so i blocked him! a bunch of our mut... | definitely NTA. there is nothing worse than when someone takes a tragedy that happened to someone else and make it about themselves. i’m sorry for your loss. ###### |
So my cousin and I(both 22F) are only 6 months apart and her birthday was in early March. A few days ago in the family group chat she sent her cashapp and asked for family to send their birthday gifts there. 1) once you then 18 in my family it’s very rare to get a birthday gift from everyone. 2) she’s 22 with a job and... | Definitely NTA. She’s super entitled and shouldn’t be asking for money as a gift, and definitely should not be begging for it. I get that there’s a crisis going on, but having a birthday 3 months prior and trying to guilt trip people, especially family, into giving money, is messed up ###### |
Throwaway because my parents browse this sub
So today my father set a challenge for me and my mother.
Who ever completed the 5km loop around our house would get anything they wanted( as long as said item was under 100 euros)
So I can do 5k in 27 minutes while it takes my mother 40 ish minutes so I was sure I was gon... | Definitely NTA. She’s got issues ###### |
I live in an apartment that I moved into in September 2019. Since arriving, I have had probably close to 20 packages show up at my door addressed to someone I've never met. Let's say the name is Autumn. The packages all have my address and Autumn's name. Since they're not addressed to me, I just leave them outside and ... | Definitely NTA. PUT A STOP TO THAT. You don't know what's in the packages and if it's illegal, you could be an accomplice ###### |
I moved to this flat a year ago, like most of the Londoners I rented a room in a house share. We don't have any living room which restricts me socialising as much as I desire. That is the main reason I wanted to move out initially.
Since I moved here, I requested from landlord to change just the bath as it was rusty a... | Definitely NTA. Not even close to TA. The rusty bath was always the LL's responsibility from the beginning and the fact he's even trying to lord this over you is laughable. ###### |
A little background: I (20) grew up in a family of Christians farmers and handy workers. I was seen as "very smart" so they had high hopes for me. They are really traditional and we are french.
So when I was about 7 I went to my uncle house and didn't want to kiss them ( they thought I was being impolite and rebelliou... | Definitely NTA. No one should ever be under any obligation to kiss or hug anyone if they’re not comfortable with it. Your family don’t seem to be very open to recognising your needs so to make yourself more comfortable and make your life your own I would say that if cutting them off will make you happier then do it. #... |
First some back story... my sister and I have never been close. I’m a bit older than her but because of life I still love at home with our parents and 2 years ago she moved to the other side of the country with her bf. Because we were never close and now she lives so far are basically just acquaintances at this point. ... | Definitely NTA. Doesn't even really matter what day it is, if you don't want to go then there's no real reason to do so, but especially on your birthday? That's ridiculous and inconsiderate of them. ###### |
My step mom has been my step mom since I’ve been 5. We have a decent relationship but it’s been rocky as of lately. I caught her purging after meals for the last few months. I don’t know if it began during quarantine or I just noticed because I’m always home. My step mom has always been critical of my weight and my hal... | Definitely NTA. Based of this I’d say your step mom is actually pretty abusive. Berating anyone for their weight is disgusting on its own, let alone her hypocrisy. ###### |
Throwaway account for privacy reasons. Also, english is not my first language so I want to apologize in advance for any mistakes.
For context, I’m 18F and he’s 20M. We have been together almost a year now, and from time to time we disagree on how frequent we should be having sex. This happens because he has a much hig... | Definitely nta! That's awful that he kept trying when you weren't into in and for making you feel bad for saying no. You dont owe him sex and it's sad because all he's going to do it make it so you don't want to kiss him at all because you'll worry it'll just be him trying to have sex and not just being romantic. I th... |
My uncle is a doctor, and makes good money. My Dad told him I needed money for school and asked for 1,000 bucks. He even had me thank him for the money and told everyone how my uncle helped him pay for school.
Turns out it was all a sham, my Dad used that money for drugs. My Mom showed me solid evidence of that, and I ... | Definitely NTA, Your Uncle needs to know the truth and your Dad needs serious help if he’s doing drugs. It’s not fair that your uncle had his money used to fuel your Dad’s drug addiction ###### |
So we have a daughter who turned three in January. Personally, I think she's pretty advanced for her age. She has complex conversations with us and can even read simple words already. She's now home with us all day while we work because of recent events. She's definitely getting more screen time than we would n... | Definitely NTA, it seems your daughter understands the show and isn't scared of it or anything. You should try talking to your wife about how she doesn't get nightmares of anything and you don't see the harm in letting her watch. ###### |
I (22f) have a prosthetic glass eye. This guy isn't my boyfriend, but we have gone on a few dates.
We were hanging out when this happened. I accidentally rubbed my eye wrong, and my prosthetic fell out. He screeched and jumped away. I didn't take offence - he didn't know and I could imagine being shocked seeing what l... | Definitely NTA, I get him being surprised but that dude was just being an ass. ###### |
Sorry for anything misspelled or the format being weird I'm on mobile
Ok so I'm a 17(F) I was born on May 9th my sister (Mia 14(F) not her real name) was born on May 13th. Ever since she was born we've shared a birthday party. That includes the cakes and the presents, the cake is usually an issue for me because I cant... | Definitely NTA and your mom seems to be very biased in a negative way towards you.
>(shes tge same as me and cant eat cake so my mom makes her a big cookie).
>for birthdays my mom uses the rule that the birthday girl/boy doesnt have to help with ANYTHING this includes my 26 year old sister.)
Is this something you ... |
This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and I'm still pissed from work. I'm a girl.
My new job is a very labor intensive job, moving heavy objects, pushing carts, packing shipping boxes. It's summer in the south on top of that, so it's hell hot. So of course I'm sweating with all the manual labor and the lack of... | Definitely NTA and I suggest you up the anti by wearing Axe body spray. Then they’ll beg you to go back to old spice ###### |
So this happened a few years ago but I always wonder if I was in the wrong. My brother (21M) and his girlfriend (20F) has been dating less than a year when my fiancé and I started writing our guest list for our wedding. We decided to invite my brother’s girlfriend even though they had only been together for a short tim... | Definitely NTA
it's your wedding' you can invite who you want. It would be bad enough for your brother to ask you to unnvite someone but his girlfriend who you barely know? Ridiculous ###### |
Okay, this is kind of of a weird one. I have been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I want to preface all of this by saying that I love her and that this post makes her sound worse than she is. She is one of the most genuine, sweetest, and hardworking people I have ever met. But, this whole situation has been so o... | Definitely NTA . I'm curious . . . . you both haven't been dating that long. Who was her bathroom buddy before you? Did she just start doing this with you or has she always been this way?
It's pretty neurotic, and also covertly controlling. I'd suggest she see a therapist because, nope. ###### |
Earlier today, my aunt and her young (seven year old) daughter came to visit to celebrate my father's birthday, with masks and gloves and all that, and I was wearing a short sleeves shirt because it was hot out. My scars are incredibly noticeable, so I wasn't really surprised when my aunt came to me and demanded that I... | Definitely NTA - You're scars are a part of you and you shouldn't be shamed into covering them just because it makes other people uncomfortable. ###### |
I admit, I do regret it a little but I'll give full context so you can understand. My gf has been writing since she was around 10, and has improved a lot. She primarily writes fanfiction but recently has branched out into original work. She has a decent ish following, and her writing isnt half bad. I supported her all ... | YTA— So if it was playing video games or sports would it be “you’re never going pro so stop?” Why was it necessary to try to destroy her work? And what makes you an expert anyway if she has a following? Would you have read 50 Shades of Gray and seen it was worth millions? What great accomplishments do you have to show... |
I (30 y.o. bisexual male) have been friends with a married couple for a few years now. We’ll call them Jennifer and Anthony. Both of them work in the same industry as me. Jennifer and Anthony are almost 10 years older than me, and established in their careers. Together, they make significantly more money than I do, and... | YTA
You are right that would likely be a bad relationship to enter. But... Yes, you could have been more polite considering they genuinely wanted a meaningful relationship with you. Since you have been such good friends with them so far, it sounds like they would have been understanding if you had just declined pol... |
So here is the story. Me and a friend went on a restaurant at like 10 o clock. So 5 mins later someone takes our order. 5 mins after that, a big group appears( 8 people and not imidiate family members so they were not allowed to be sited in the first place according to my countries covid regulations) they get sited an... | YTA
The appropriate thing is to let the manager know that you waited for an hour and then your food was undercooked, and only then do you leave without paying. ###### |
For context,
I am a relatively secretive person and don’t share much about myself or my personal things with my parents or friends in general. My parents are also similar and don’t like to share many things with their friends/ relatives.
Whereas my GF is a very open about sharing information with her parents. She shar... | YTA
That is totally normal information to casually share with your parents. If you have an expectation that this type of information shouldn't be shared, you need to realise that your expectation is pretty far outside the norm. ###### |
I (M18) have been with my girlfriend (F17) for two years now.
Throwaway
My girlfriend is black and I am white.
I love her so much and her curly hair, I really love the way my finger gets looped in one of her tight curls, it's really cute.
Her and I are planning to get married and have children one day, so I thou... | YTA
I think you should apoligize to her properly. Sit down with her tell her why you did what you did. Tell her why it was wrong of you to do it. (It was controlling and kind of a bratty move). Then say sorry. Sorry for assuming you knew better sorry for trying to force her to stop sorry for not listening to her. At t... |
My son (13) has an anonymous meme account on Instagram with a few k followers. He posts really offensive an in anti semitic memes on it apparently (I haven't look at it personally my wife/ his stepmom told me about it). My wife found it since she went to burrow his tablet and she saw that Instagram on it. She got real... | YTA
Your son is posting anti-Semitic memes, and you're telling your Jewish wife it doesn't matter?!?!
WTF? ###### |
Hi there!
My husband (29M) and I (28F) have been together for 6 years and married for almost 2 years.
In the entire time we have been together, I have told him that I do not want to have kids. Every time I have brought up the discussion, it will go something like this:
Me: So I know I’ve told you that I don’t want ... | YTA
You've asked him multiple times and don't trust his answer. You're basically asking "am I the asshole for not trusting his answer, based on absolutely no evidence what so ever?". You're projecting your own fears about not being assertive enough onto him. Not cool.
He hasn't betrayed your trust. You still have tr... |
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