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I (26M) live with my girlfriend (26F) of two years in Paris. She’s French, and I am American. My job is 100% in English. I can say a couple very basic French phrases, but that’s it. Nothing more. My girlfriend is totally fluent in English as she attended college in the UK, so there is no communication barrier ther...	YTA You're in a different country, so learn more of the language. Also. You are in France, have a French girlfriend--and yet expect her to use the language you want? I'm not saying to become fluent, but put in a little more effort for respect for the country you're living in and your girlfriend. ######
My (30) girlfriend (23) is having trouble sleeping lately. She has nightmares every night in a row for a week now and we don't know where they come from or how to get rid of them. She stayed over at my place yesterday and she moved and sweat a lot in her sleep wich made me to also wake up a lot and have a bad night. S...	YTA You're an asshole because you've made her problems all about you "whaaaa....her nightmares are keeping me up too!" You're an asshole for ignoring her perfectly reasonable suggestion that maybe she shouldn't spend the night at your house right now. It's not about you wanting to spend time with her. It's about h...
Ever since we got married my wife has been insistent that we eat dinner together every single night. The clock strikes 7 and she is forcing me to do the same routine every day. We've been married for a year now and it's getting to the point where I dream the hour but I love her so I do it with a smile. I am extremely ...	YTA You were already spending at least 2 hours per day on your hobby, immediately after work no less. Accepting that is hardly "incredibly unsupportive". You say that you're only just getting into a groove at that 2-hour mark, so I imagine you're now spending hours more at your computer. I don't think anyone would b...
My 14yo son goes to a private high school. Very pricey and the vast majority of the families are loaded with money. Money is no object to them. My son happens to get a partial scholarship so I can afford his education. A lot of the kids at his high school do a semester of studying aboard. Usually in Australia and Swi...	YTA You think your son doesn’t already know he gets less goods than his classmates? The best case scenario is he knows you’re ashamed of being middle class, so he’s learning that being middle class is a shameful thing, and he should be ashamed of growing up middle class, and poor people are just completely contemptib...
Hear me out pls!! My (20M) girlfriend (20F) had started a facebook page about a year ago. She posts her own memes, random texts and art on it. It was initially not a problem and I was proud of her, even supported her by liking, commenting and sharing her posts to my page that was bigger at the time. Recently her page...	YTA You sound controlling. Prepare to get dumped. ######
I (27f) am an anxiety ridden hypochondriac married to an alcoholic (27m). He has almost entirely stopped drinking about 6 months ago because he started to get jaundice. I begged him to get his blood tested, which was a massive blow out, and he finally did about 1 month ago. The tests showed his liver was "irritated," b...	YTA You should absolutely encourage him to go to the ER if you have concerns but you also need to calm the fuck down. He might be worried about it as well but you are taking up all the "space" in the relationship for medical worry. He can't ever express his worry to you because of your reactions and mental health. #...
For some context I (M30) have been staying with my girlfriend (F27) for about 6 years now. and in that time we built up a type of lifestyle where we pretty much do anything we want buy anything we want or go anywhere. So you could say it was somewhat of a lavish lifestyle. But when the coronavirus hit everything went t...	YTA You say in a comment that you lied about your income. > I had a better income, but I lied about how much it actually was. This makes you a huge asshole. You share expenses with this woman. Decisions about what each person contributes to your shared budget need to be made jointly with full information. You’v...
First of all, my girlfriend isn’t mad. She thinks this whole thing is hilarious. Anyway I was hanging out with my GF and her grandfather and some friends. He is like a sommelier or something and has been for decades at top restaurants. He’d had some bacardi, so i thought I’d play a prank on him. I rant to a gas sta...	YTA you purposefully embarrassed him for no reason other than that out of spite. it’s as simple as that ######
So my sister is pregnant and today she texted us (my other siblings and parents) that she and her husband will be having a gender reveal party in a couple of weeks. I’ll be honest I’ve always disliked the idea of a gender reveal party. It is pointless and IMO lame. I’m gonna love the kid whether it’s a boy or girl so h...	YTA You might not agree with such parties (god knows I think they're ridiculous - and it turns out a fire hazard) but you didn't have to be an asshole about it. Side note: any time you feel the need to preface a story with "I've been day drinking", it probably isn't a sign that you are going to be a lovable protagon...
So my fiancé (m29) and I (f25) went grocery shopping last night for essentials. We were buying a lot so the bill came to around 200 dollars. We went to check out and told the cashier to split it between our cards. She said okay and the next thing I know, 100 cash appears under the total with 100 left. My fiancé paid an...	YTA You knowingly stole 100 worth of groceries and someone else will be blamed for it. Your boyfriend and your coworker have just learned something about your character and it's not nice. ######
Hi y’all. I am married and we have two kids (6, 4) and I’m a SAHM. I have been a super mom for friggin years and the light at the end of the tunnel has always been side gigs and travel. Welp, travels curtailed cause covid so I’m stacking up side gigs. I have a booth at a local antiques mall and Im constantly on the loo...	YTA You have the attitude of "What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine". It's great you are able to get some side money but sometimes people who work really hard break mentally if they don't get a break. Your being unreasonable and making it clear you don't work as a unit. ######
I (18M) was in a pub in Paris France last weekend, and was having a good conversation with a girl I'd just met. The bartender came around and said that they'd be closing in 10 minutes, but I didn't want to leave, so I thought to myself that if I ordered two pints for myself, he couldn't kick me out as I had still had...	YTA You had fair warning they were closing. He even offered you a plastic cup. Don’t expect the staff to work late just because you want another beer. You are very entitled. ######
A while ago I took my family on vacation. We went to a casino, and I gave each of my children $50 to use before using their own money. My son lost all of it, but my daughter actually won a minor jackpot and walked away with a couple thousand dollars. Last night, my wife showed me an Instagram picture of my daughter, ...	YTA You gave her that money. Therefore; it isn't your money anymore, and you have no say in what an adult chooses to do with her body. It's nuts that you think gifts are retractable just because you don't like what a person does with it. ######
My brother started dating this new girl and I realized I recognized her from AA. I’m not an addict, but my lawyer recommended I attend some AA meetings to help strengthen my DUI case (and before you get on my ass for it, I made a mistake months back and got through it). I know it’s her because I remember her very uniqu...	YTA You expect us to not hold a DUI over your head and you went and did EXACTLY that to somebody else? Nothing like holding somebody's past mistakes over their head when they're trying to get help. ######
Hey all, My (F34) best friend's (F30) son just turned 8. I know him well and decided that he is old enough and responsible enough for his first gun. I got my first gun after all when I was 6. So I took her son out for his birthday. I took him to an empty field where I go shooting; and gave him a gift. He unwrapped it...	YTA You don't gift weapons to children without their parents' express prior approval. No guns, no knives, no shuriken, no nunchucks, nothing. ######
I (hopefully) will be getting married this October to my amazing fiancé. We’ve been together for 4 years, since we were 18. Over the past few weeks, my friends and I have done a weekly zoom call to gossip and discuss details. I asked them all to send me their intended hair and makeup for the day, to which they all di...	YTA You do not ask people to change their appearance to be in your wedding. Being in the wedding party is about supporting the couple not being dolls for the couple to dress up. ######
A bit of context , my daughter is 14 years old with no disabilities whatsoever , however , she’s extremely terrible at her schoolwork and often get low grades. My wife and I always tried to help her but she just won’t listen to us. So today we were eating dinner and I asked her to put rice on the bowl. Now , I do all t...	YTA You didn't just yell at her, you made her feel like shit, and in a teen's mind, you just told her that she will never be useful. She tried to help you, but instead you lose your shit? I get that you do the work, I do, but you don't just yell at your kid when they fuck up. And yeah! Your kid is going to play video...
So my friend has struggled with infertility for many years. I really feel for her and her efforts on becoming a mother. She told me that her and her husband in the process of adopting a baby. A girl a few cities over is eighteen and pregnant and has reached out to Facebook adoption groups in the area and they connected...	YTA You didn't have to say anything about the thing that doesn't impact you one bit and on which you have no knowledge. I'd never heard of this before your post, just Googled to see if it was real and my reaction is, "awww, that's awesome!" See how easy it is to not be judgemental and rude? ######
My girlfriend’s birthday was today, and earlier in the day I gave her the amount of her portion of the bills that are due by the end of the month. She asked if I could wait until she gets her first check from her new job so she still has some money because she said she didn’t have all of it, so I said that was fine, ev...	YTA You can't tell her the bills are due by the end of the month (9/30) and then turn around and say they are due today (9/6). That's unreasonable. ######
My wife and I had Drew young; she was 17 and I was 19. We struggled a lot especially when Drew started to act oddly but for the most part my wife took it in stride as she had a brother who has autism. Some of Drew’s quirks are; He will only eat with certain cutlery, he has his plate and bowl etc. He has his space ...	YTA You can't suddenly change a child's life so drastically...especially at a time when he is dealing with the loss of his mother and a new sibling. This goes for any child. Add in that he may have additional sensory and/ or developmental needs. You don't mention any medical, health or well being input...has drew...
I took my son (8y.o) to the toy store today at the mall to reward him for doing well with his home schooling. While we were there I told him he could walk around the store and pick what he wanted. I pretty much just followed him around. This store has no music and due to size you can pretty much hear all conversatio...	YTA You built a mental picture of a situation, called someone out on it, and ended up very very wrong. That makes you an asshole. You could have either not called it out and explained it away to your son, or just waited elsewhere if it made you so uncomfortable. ######
Wondering if I'm the one acting like an asshole girlfriend here. I asked my boyfriend a week ago if he'd be okay with me selling pictures of my feet, as I was considering it. He said he wasn't becauseof the risks. (He also said there wasn't really a market for it.): I get a few messages from men online asking if I'd...	YTA You asked him and, instead of respecting his opinion, you start to push your point on him? Definitly you are the AH ######
I love my girlfriend Celia, but I wish she had never signed up for roller derby. WIBTA if I tell her that? It all started over a year ago. Celia wanted to do some kind of sport because she wasn't happy with her health. And I thought she was going to sign up for the gym or sign up for a sports team through our colle...	YTA You are upset with her because she has a hobby she enjoys, while listing the hobbies YOU enjoy that you feel she is neglecting. She made her own friends. She’s healthier and happier and being social. Be happy with her or break up with her. It’s okay to be at wildly different places in your life and needing to br...
So for whatever reason my 15y/o daughter has taken a real issue with saying “I love you” or hugs, I’ve spoken to her about it but she just kind of laughs it off. I’ll say goodnight love you and she’ll say something like “Ha! Ok good for you” now I’d take that personal if she didn’t also say it to my husband and her ...	YTA You are teaching her that her personal boundaries do not matter. She doesn't have to give hugs if she doenst want to. The real issue here isn't what she is doing, its why she is doing it. That is what you should be more concerned about. ######
My best friend, Mia, has cystic fibrosis. The average life expectancy for cystic fibrosis is about 37, but Mias doctors don’t think she’ll get to 30. When we were kids and her CF wasn’t something I was hyper aware of, we agreed that we’d be godparents to each others kids. I recently gave birth to a baby girl, and obv...	YTA You are perfectly capable of making legal arrangements for your daughter’s care in the event of your death with someone other than her godparents - it happens all the time. Neither mine or my sister’s godparents were in a good position to raise a child, so my parents made arrangements with people who were while...
Throwaway account for obvious reasons My friend, let's call her Ellie, is a trans woman (MtF). She came out to me about two months ago and I was very accepting of her, however she was struggling to pick a name. Recently she messaged me over Discord telling me that she had decided on the name Ellie. Ellie is an extrem...	YTA You are overreacting. Who cares about the other two Ellies in your class? You aren't going to be in school forever. Grow up. ######
Y'all... I can't even explain how terrible these things are. He's making them right now. I hear him in the kitchen, and I'm scared. When I hear the metal spatula hit my cast-iron skillet, I know what's coming, and it fills me with dread. He makes breakfast burritos. When I make them, I do it the right way: Eggs, bel...	YTA You are letting him waste food. Be at least a little honest. But be nice. "Hunnie, I love how you love cooking for me, but the breakfast burrito recipe you use doesn't settle well after eating. Can we choose a different recipe together to try next because I don't want you to waste the food you are making for me...
As basic as possible, nearly 3 years ago my daughter asked if I could help her with the deposit for the house she wanted to buy with her husband. It was expensive so I vocalized that I could only help if it were going to be a loan she'd have to pay back. She then opted not to buy that specific house and found another h...	YTA You are giving your son something that has a monetary value. Doesn't matter how you got. Figure out how to treat both kids equally and stop making excuses. ######
Throwaway as my son browses Reddit I have a son and daughter who are both in high school. Both the kids are in grade 9 we adopted my daughter. My son this year has done pretty well and scored one b. My daughter on the other hand struggled this year and got c and b. So today during lunch my son wanted to tell me he ...	YTA You are doing a disservice to both kids here. First, you are teaching your son to hide his accomplishments just in case they make someone else feel bad. You should be teaching him to be proud of achieving results from his hard work. Second, you are shielding your daughter from even very slight possible disappoin...
I was sitting in my wife’s office when she started talking about her friend who was going through a lot, I was sitting and listening. Some context, my wife has had a wild past and I told her I don’t enjoy stories including men or anything like that. I wouldn’t talk to her about my past like that with her. So then sh...	YTA Wow how insecure do you have to be to not be able to handle that mild a statement sort of alluding to hooking up. It would be fine if you said it too. And to walk out and ignore her is super asshole behavior. You made it seem like she had done something wrong. Which she very much had not. You are not mature e...
My husband and I (60s) had already made arrangements to keep our 10yr old granddaughter (Lauren-not her real name) for 2 weeks this summer. This isn't new. Her and our daughter, her mom (D), have lived with us off and on for financial reasons and the father isn't at all involved. We are very close with Lauren. And ...	YTA Why the hell would she ever trust you to be left alone with her child after what you did to her growing up? Actions have consequences. ######
My husband comes from a big family. His dad was married twice and has five children, and I'll admit it is kind of a tough group to break into but besides one sister, i love his family. Both of my children are very close to their cousins and we go a lot as a family. My son recently got engaged to his girlfriend of two y...	YTA Why is it on the victim to toughen up instead of on the perpetrator to become a better person and be more considerate? ######
We rarely talk unless it has something to do with our kids. Lately our 12yo son has gotten "mouthy" at her and she asked me to talk to him. I found it ironic because she has always been a cold bitch to me lol. I did talk to him. He's not anymore mouthy than any other 12yo. He said he didn't know she was mad because d...	YTA What's the big fucking deal? I get botox ,but that's not the issue here. The issue is how disrespectful you are to the mother of your child and I'm guessing you do not hold back words when you're around your kid. ######
Had to repost, exceed the limit (M33) Just moved in with gf (27f) of 7months. Her mortgage is cheaper than my rent so seemed like a good idea. She won’t let me have equal say in the house. She doesn’t want my furniture in the living room as her furniture is “better” and fits the rest of the house more. She was prett...	YTA What fair share? It’s her house. Her inheritance is her money, it was given to her which makes it HERS. You posted her belongings for sale without her permission. Did you really think that was going to over well? If she’s smart she will not only get a lawyer to make sure she doesn’t lose anything but she’ll also...
I have a 30 year old son who is married with two children. My wife is not allowed to babysit because she has Histrionic personality disorder. She has been diagnosed and she got therapy when the kids were younger. The way she has explained it to me is she cannot control her thought process, but she can learn how to act....	YTA Usually, HPDers end up dating ASPDers or NPDers. It's clearly evident that this happened in this case. Your son is probably better off keeping his family far away from you both. ######
My DIL and my son just had a little boy a few weeks ago. When he was born my older grandchild called me and told me that the baby looked like her grandpa as they have the same nose. My husband has stayed with my DIL and my son for a few months after I had surgery and had to stay in a nursing home for awhile since I h...	YTA Unless you cheated on your husband, he is the father of your son. That means half of his DNA came from your husband. He can absolutely pass on features of his father that aren't apparent in his own appearance. ######
When my daughter came out as gay and asked me to walk her down the aisle, I told her I loved her but that I couldn't walk her down the aisle. My wife went to the wedding and my daughter stopped speaking to me. A year ago, my wife died and my daughter said she wouldn't come to the funeral if I was there. I told her not...	YTA troll or actually serious? youre using this funeral as a petty excuse to be homophobic and unaccepting of your daughter ######
I went on vacation for a week and setup an autoresponder, for colleagues only. The autoresponder mentioned when I was coming back and gave instructions for who to contact in case of emergency. Finally, the message also said something along these lines: *"If this is really important, I would recommend you send it again ...	YTA This sounds extremely snooty and unprofessional. Just take a day and go through your emails when you get back. I highly doubt you're getting thousands while you're away. ######
My SO and I are moving in together in a few months. We are going to find a new bigger apartment together. He has a cat. I'm not an animal person at all. I'm afraid of cats, dogs, ferrets, hamsters, you name it. I'm the kind of person that cries when a dog comes near me. When I'm over at his place, he puts his cat in...	YTA This isn't the only ultimatum you've issued your SO either, this is your second post in ten days about putting your foot down and demanding concessions from him. I really hope he sees sense and puts more than a living room's distance between the two of you. ######
My gf was walking from work to her home today and wanted to talk on the phone. We are currently long distance because of the pandemic, so I'm kind of used to us talking through phone - the usual how your day went, venting about customers, me talking about my buddies, my games etc. Idk why but after some time I just wa...	YTA This is less about talking on the phone and more about her being safe by being in contact with someone in a real time setting while walking home alone. If you dont always want to talk to her on her way home thats fine, but you should tell her this before you're her safety call for the day so she can plan accord...
When I started dating my wife she had 15 year old daughter Lisa. Her dad was not in the picture. I was never tried to become her step-dad rather I was her mother's bf. My wife was homophobic when Lisa come out as lesbian she was shattered and disowned her. We had no contact with her for till now, actually Lisa tried sh...	YTA This doesn’t sound like she was even looking for money. How hard would it have been to give her a jewelry box and some photo albums? ######
I am a 28(M) had been dating my now fiancé now for 5 years. We live to gather. I pay 90% of our bills we have separate finances. Now IHave never ask my fiancé or even talk to her whenever I was about to make a major financial decision but I do get the input of my mother and father because my mother is my lawyer and my ...	YTA They say only a fool has himself for a client. The next step of that has to be letting your parents be your lawyer and financial advisor. Would a random financial advisor that you worked with have gotten upset that your fiance didn't take his tip? I doubt it. I wouldn't marry someone who's finance were in your ...
I (21M) have been with her (21F) for a year now. Recently, she did something which many people would consider to be not the smartest decision in our current environment (social distancing). Anyway, she, as a very social college student did something monumentally stupid and hosted a party with about 20 people. My gi...	YTA They just subjected her to misogynistic slurs and you indirectly supported them by failing to call them out on it. I agree her actions were irresponsible but they do not warrant sexist abuse of this kind. If I was her I'd have dumped you so quickly your head would be spinning. ######
Some background info: My child is a high functioning special needs kid. He has problems with how fast he learns new concepts. 90-95% of the time he is in general education with minimal accommodations. My child receives a daily behavior chart for entire school day. On the back of the chart is a list of questions for par...	YTA They aren't asking these questions for the hell of it, they are asking them so that they are best placed to support your child. You might not see the value in some of the questions, but are you specifically trained to know what stuff they need to know? You might reach out to them with the things you think they...
This is my throwaway account. My (37F) babysitter (16F) has been babysitting for me for about 2 months. She’s a very sweet and quiet girl and is good with the kids (4F and 8M), we’ve only had small problems here and there but nothing major at all. When she first started babysitting for me I had asked her if there wer...	YTA These are very unique circumstances, because in literally ANY other case of intoxicated childcare worker, you’d be right. But she did every single thing properly in trying to be a good childcare provider. She reached out to you the moment things got weird and she didn’t feel entirely stable. Honestly, if we’re be...
Today I was hanging out with my girlfriend for a bit at my place, and a friend of mine stopped by to help me out with something while she was making food. Me and my girlfriend have a very playful relationship and joke around all the time about anything and everything. As my buddy walked in, I told him my girlfriend...	YTA There's playful and plain sexist and disrespectful Even if you didn't mean to insult her, you need to learn the difference of what you can and can't say ######
So me (31M) and my wife (23f) have been together 3 years, married close to two. We started living together shortly before getting married, and she was super messy. Even before we moved in together house was a total mess. According to her family, they never taught her to clean so she doesn't know better. It always got...	YTA There was no possible good intent behind your words. You were trying to be an asshole, and succeeded. ######
I (20/f) have a small group of friends and recently a new guy joined us (Jack). Jack is pretty friendly & cute but he has the most SEVERE stutter I’ve ever heard in my life. Tbh, it’s tiring to deal with it. My friends really like him and put up with his speech but I find it extremely difficult. Whenever we all h...	YTA The general group consensus is that they wanna let him speak. If you can’t wait for him to finish talking then maybe don’t be his friend or don’t hang out with him ######
My dad and mum have recently moved (permanently) to sunnier shores and gave me the house. There's a whole lot of details revolving around that 'deal' which isn't really necessarily to mention for this post but long story extremely short, I'm on 'probation' for awhile and then it will officially/legally mine. The point ...	YTA The decent thing to do would have been to talk to her before asking the ex about moving in. It's also their past and not up to you to decide if it's been long enough for grudges to be over. ######
So this has been getting to me still, months after it happened. I (20F) decided to get a boob reduction over winter break before going back to school in January. I have had back issues since I was a young teenager and my health insurance finally covered it (USA). I did not tell my bf of 1 year about it before or after ...	YTA That’s a huge moment in your life, and like he says, you had a major operation. To freeze someone out entirely during something as serious as that is going to make someone feel like they can’t be there for you. Plus, you trusted him so little to accept your decisions that you thought this was the best approach - ...
I (25f) was supposed to get married late April. Due to COVID, we decided to postpone. We've been postponing and finally our venue is opening up, but they've said we can only bring 20 guests. We originally had a guest list of over a 100 people, but due to the pandemic a lot of them backed out and said they'd attend over...	YTA That is way overstepping boundaries, even for a sister. It is their new house, she is 7 months pregnant and you want to have your wedding there? On top of this, we are in a pandemic so you are potentially exposing her to COVID-19. You have got to be kidding. ######
My Step daughter is 20 and recently single. She always has been a social butterfly to put it nicely. Her boyfriend left her over cheating rumours which I wouldn't doubt for a second. My husband and I don't share the same views and she's his little girl which is fair enough but I feel like she's too out there. She was o...	YTA Sounds like you're a bitter prude to be honest. As long as everything is safe amd consentual it isn't hurting anyone if she sleeps with the entire marine corps. Mind your own business and focus on your own sex life ######
Hello reddit, my husband told me that I was an asshole for the way I acted but I don't think so. Please take a moment to read and share your opinion on this. My daughter \[17F\] came to me yesterday and told me that she would like to see a therapist as her mental state has been down ever since she broke up with her ex...	YTA So, to begin, YOU'RE NOT A THERAPIST. If you were a therapist, it would be unethical for you to treat your own child. So you are both unqualified and wholly unsuitable. > she rarely has open discussions with me So you think you can force that to change? That forcing her to talk to you would help her want to...
My wife adopted a 12 year old boy. I participated in some of the process and was enthusiastic at the beginning, but things have changed since then. We talked about summer camps and after school programs back during the adoption process, but since the pandemic the kid has been home 24/7. I start work at 7am and stop fo...	YTA So you want to return a kid because he’s home more than you’d like (through no fault of his own) and you don’t want to be bothered to do dad stuff, like answer simple questions about your job or spend time with the kid? Yeah, you’re a dick. ######
My wife is a full-time nurse, a mom of two young children and in school for her masters degree. I also work a full-time job and I’m training for a marathon. She pretty much lets me run whenever I need to and I occasionally get to hang out with my friends. She’s pretty good about not saying anything when I need to do wh...	YTA So you decided to come to reddit and whine about how your wife pretty much let's you do what you want and when she needed you to step up to the plate you're pissed about it. Grow up. It amazes me people like you get married and have children. ######
Soo as many of you have been doing in these times, I’m currently doing work from home. I have a wife and two toddlers (twins). I need silence to work and I don’t have a home office (we are in a smallish apartment, just enough room for the four of us). It has been slowly pissing me off because I am working hours and I h...	YTA So much so I wonder if you're trolling. You can have total silence at home, or a family with young children. Pick one. Oh wait... you did. It's not realistic that anyone can keep toddlers silent all the time. You need a serious reality check. Also, if your work is confined to business hours, your wife's shou...
I have a step sister, We are both the age of 16. So today I was in the room with my girlfriend watching a movie, Then she just completely bust open my door and starts yelling at me in front of her “You fucking idiot! Learn how to put the toilet seat down! Omg you are so dumb” then storms out my room. I was so embarrass...	YTA So are you embarrassed now that your gf knows that you don't put toilet seat down? Why is it so hard.. surely you dont flush the lid open right? Sometimes embarrassing is way to get message thru. ######
My daughter is only 15. She is way too young to be dressing in a two piece, but my wife agreed to let her buy one without my knowledge. The last time we went to the lake, which was last week, after I had unloaded the boat and we'd started to pull out into the lake my daughter takes off her shirt and shorts and I see ...	YTA She’s plenty old enough to wear a 2 piece bathing suit. It is JUST a swim suit. No one will have an issue with this except for you. ######
My Step daughter is 20 and recently single. She always has been a social butterfly to put it nicely. Her boyfriend left her over cheating rumours which I wouldn't doubt for a second. My husband and I don't share the same views and she's his little girl which is fair enough but I feel like she's too out there. She was o...	YTA She's above 18. It's her life. Her dating and sexual habits are none of your business, and insulting your (step-)child like this is just horrible. ######
I (22F) recently bought a house. I worked hard at college and landed a pretty great job at the start of the year because of it, and I've been saving a lot due to working from home that meant on top of my other savings I had enough for a deposit on a new home. My mother hasn't been so lucky. My dad left her a year ago a...	YTA She paid for your tuition? So you are not $40 to $100k in debt, able to buy a house and have a well-paying job? You do realize that you owe this woman a huge debt of gratitude, right? Telling your mother what time to go to bed and to not "bother" you when you are watching movies or playing games is outrageous....
My GF and I are both in pretty expensive private college. We've been dating since October of last year and honestly I'm so close to telling her that I love her. But right now I feel like I've been lied to. In short, my parents make a lot of money and send me money while I'm in school. Sometimes it's more than I need so...	YTA She may have gotten into a prestigious school, but she can’t afford the prestigious lifestyle. So, to avoid having to be seen as lesser among her peers, she bought fakes. Apparently fakes so good that a brand hungry fan of streetwear couldn’t tell. (Which seems suspicious to me.) You found out because you butt in...
My friend (27, F) says she has a connective tissue disorder and says this affects her entire body and for nearly a decade she has a condition where the pressure of the fluid in her brain is low and this causes her brain to be inflamed which causes headaches, seizures and causes her to 'constantly hear things'. I've s...	YTA She may have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. You don't have her disability, you don't get to judge how she deals with it. If she has Ehlers, treatment is exceedingly difficult to gain access to. Once again. YTA. A massive giant AH. ######
Me [18F], my parents, my brother Tom and his girlfriend Lily [22M & 24F] went out for dinner yesterday. We were all casually dressed. I wore jeans, t shirt, trainers etc and my parents and brother dressed the same way. Lily was different. She wore a dark dress, full makeup, hair done, heels etc. She looked like s...	YTA She made a real effort to look nice for you and your family, plus this style is not at all out of character for her. She already is the odd one out, being the GF, not a blood relative, and the only one at that. You should not be doing anything to make her uncomfortable, but instead, be welcoming. You come acro...
My wife (38F) recently decided that she would like to lose some weight. I (38M) think she is beautiful regardless of weight but if she wants to lose weight that's fine too. We could definitely both stand to have better eating habits. Yesterday she informed me of this plan and asked if I would be "supportive." I tol...	YTA Really dude? Fucking really? How old are you, 8? All you had to do, if her specifically saying the words is so important to you (and yes, I can agree that she should’ve just said what she meant), was to ask her: ”are you asking me to specifically change my cooking/cut back on my red meat intake?” ######
I’m an adult finishing up my Bachelors degree. I realized I got a few scholarships last semester that I didn’t apply to. I didn’t apply to any scholarships for that matter. Now the school keeps pestering me to meet with the donors via zoom to thank them. I believe it was around 1000.00 usd. I don’t want to. I’m a...	YTA Prerecorded: "Hey there, thank you for your good deed! it warms my heart that we still have this kindness in your midst!" That is too much work for you. That's how much of an asshole you appear to be. That much. ######
I married my husband 2 years ago and my relationship with my stepson (12) has never been well. We tried everything but nothing seems to work. His behavior towards me is so terrible, he shouts at me, swears me, and calls me worst “mother” ever. His 13th birthday is tomorrow and since my daughter (7F) birthday is only...	YTA Please answer me what a 13m and a 7f have in common other than being in the same household that would warrant them sharing a birthday? Or does it just make life easier for you? You're an arsehole because you're clearly vying for dominance with a CHILD that you're supposed to be protecting and loving. Kids are ...
My boyfriends parents divorced when he was in middle school but they never really got over each other and they both cheated on multiple partners with each other. The mom ended up getting pregnant from the last round of cheating and his dad left his fiancé to get back together with her. They both think it’s funny that t...	YTA No matter how you feel about people, you do not leave them alone in medical emergencies. ######
Son is 14M, cat is 3F. My son’s bedroom is one the third floor of our house, so it’s basically a finished attic. Early in the morning, a thunderstorm rolled in. It was pretty brutal, and it shook the house especially up in his room. I yelled up to him to come downstairs to the first floor, just in case something happen...	YTA No his cats LIFE can not be replaced. Necromancy and cloning only exist in the movies. I mean you can adopt another son... so i guess his life can be replaced too by your logic. ######
Ok Reddit, I’ll try and keep the brief. I’m a leading member of the US senate, but for the sake of anonymity, just call me Moscow. So 4 years ago the opposition party held the presidency. Several months before the election and Supreme Court position became available. Normally the president nominates a judge and I cal...	YTA Mitch is a prolapsed sphincter of the highest degree. A bright pink rosebud. ######
I am now in extremely shitty situation. My daughter(Jane) cut all contact with me after my wife made some racist comments about her bf. I agree what she did is disgusting but Jane told me choose either between her or wife. How the hell I am supposed to do that. TBH my wife comes from racist family I called her out many...	YTA Look man, it sucks that your daughter cut you off, but look at it from her perspective. Her own father wouldn't defend her against racism. That's extremely fucked up of you. It sucks that you feel like you have to choose between your daughter and your wife, but frankly, you made the wrong choice. You chose ra...
My oldest daughter is expecting her first child with her partner. She, I think, overshares when it comes to her pregnancy, but it's not my decision so I don't say anything. I see most of the updates on her Facebook, so really there's no need for me to ask her about the pregnancy when we talk, not that I really want to ...	YTA Jeez, got a little pang of sadness for your daughter just reading this. Your daughter is going through something exciting, difficult, often painful, and life altering. You could at least act like you give a shit. ######
I love my girlfriend Celia, but I wish she had never signed up for roller derby. WIBTA if I tell her that? It all started over a year ago. Celia wanted to do some kind of sport because she wasn't happy with her health. And I thought she was going to sign up for the gym or sign up for a sports team through our colle...	YTA It’s okay to express have feelings and express them, but ultimately, you’re saying “I wish you never developed new interests or grew as a person so we could stay the same forever.” ######
So we wanted the internet to settle this debate. I've been staying with my friend Kate for a little while at her beach house. We've been best friends since college, so obviously boundaries have kind of gone to the wayside. Kate has two daughters who are 18 and 16 and the 18 year old's boyfriend was visiting. His famil...	YTA It’s a joke when everybody laughs. If only half the ppl are laughing, it wasn’t funny. That’s not to say it wouldn’t have been funny if the daughter wasn’t there- but you gotta know your audience. ######
My parents are very wealthy and I grew up spoiled and completely unprepared for life. When I met my wife she has a lot of issues with my family and especially my mom. My mom has been diagnosed with a personality disorder but very few people know that. My mom was very clear that we were not allowed to tell our significa...	YTA It's not your money. Not only that, you're asking for money from a person who's trust you broke. You're an actual AH. ######
My wife and I had Drew young; she was 17 and I was 19. We struggled a lot especially when Drew started to act oddly but for the most part my wife took it in stride as she had a brother who has autism. Some of Drew’s quirks are; He will only eat with certain cutlery, he has his plate and bowl etc. He has his space ...	YTA It's not coddling when someone has a disability. Some sensory issues can be unbearable/painful for autistic people. It's not just a "preference". It's similar to say that giving a paraplegic a wheelchair is coddling them. ######
Throwaway because I don’t want this associated with my main account. 5 years ago, my ex-husband and I divorced after I admitted that I cheated on him. My husband ended up winning full custody of my child and he told me that he never wants to see me near him or our son ever again. My marriage was never a happy one, an...	YTA It's not about your husband much but what would be best for YOUR SON You are not thinking of him at all which makes you an asshole still. Seems like you treated him horrible for so many years, your husband is right, you should not be anywhere near that child. Hope your son is happy, probably way happier without ...
Throw away for obvious reasons. I know the title sounds bad but bare with me! I had my son when I was 19 and my daughter when I was 21. My daughter is now 19. My daughter was raised mostly by her grandmother for the first five years of her life because I worked full time as did my children’s dad, we had to so we co...	YTA It sounds like both your children have been impacted developmentally by their upbringing. What did you do after when you noticed their behavior was so extreme? Did you get them into therapy to work through the emotional neglect they felt as young children? You basically said who she is as a person means she's n...
My daughter in law, Katy, is currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first grandchild, a baby girl. I really love Katy, her and my son have been together about 6 years now and I have a good relationship with her, but we’ve recently come to a head on this discussion. Due to COVID, the hospital Katy plans on delivering her...	YTA It is absolutely not your place to have a say in this. You will soon find yourself on r/JUSTNOMIL (if you're the MIL, you could be DIL too) It's Katys baby ( and your sons), Katys body, Katys birth and even your son is fully onboard and supportive of her choice. ######
I am a 35(f) married to a 38(m). We are both the sort of people that like cartoons and other fun stuff, but not to an overwhelming degree. We will both watch cartoons from our childhood together from time to time, and we both like adult animated shows (such as Rick and Morty or Bob’s Burgers). We also both have Knick k...	YTA Is he enjoying it? Yep. Is it hurting you at all? Nope. Let the man have his nostalgia and joy. ######
My daughter (16f) is really introverted, and doesn't really play any sports, so my husband and I decided to fill up her schedule with afterschool activities every day. She has robotics two days a week, tennis practice three days a week, and band practice for two days a week. She was strongly against it, but went along ...	YTA Introverts need alone time to recharge. You overscheduling her like this means she doesn't have enough free time to recover, and you are adding A LOT of unnecessary stress to her daily life. ######
I (30M) have been dating my girlfriend Jean (21F) for about a year now. Part of what I love about her most is that she is so supportive of me. I'm stuck in a dead end job, really unhappy with where I am in life currently so getting to hear her talk me up and tell me how awesome I'm doing is probably one of the few th...	YTA Imagine wanting a supportive person to stop being supportive of other people because you think there's a finite amount of supportive things she's allowed to say. ######
Throwaway for obvious reasons. So my fiance (30F) and I (26F) were discussing baby names for our future children. She has no interest in carrying a baby to term, so I would/will be carrying any children we have. As we were discussing names, I asked if she'd be cool with the idea of passing on my name to my child (ex: ...	YTA if you are gonna start the whole "I carried the child so I have more of a say"-dispute you guys better think twice about having that kid no offence but I think that's an important discussion to have before having the child ######
My BIL and SIL were going camping with their kids and invited my 8 year old son to join them. I was a little hesitant because we have very different parenting styles, but i decided to let him go. He was excited and then SIL casually mentioned that she had invited MIL and her new boyfriend. I have two major issues with ...	YTA I'm confused, is your MiL going to embezzle the 8 year old's smores money? Is her husband going to be bringing his dirtbag clients? Are they going to spend the weekend telling him how cool being evil is? Or are the kids going to spend 3 days hanging out with each other in the woods eating smores and "hiking" 10 m...
My (26f) little sister (23f) has always been very experimental with her hair, starting with hot pink at age 11 and progressing from there. She had been mentioning wanting to bleach her hair so she could go light purple. She wanted to get her hair bleached professionally, and she would do the purple herself. But then CO...	YTA I'm an oldest sister and my little sis is 2 yrs younger than me. She has always had so much more bravery with her style than I ever had. I'm the mainstream one too. I copied ny sis all the time when she did cool ass shit that I was always to afraid to try. And my sis would get pissed too but she never put it li...
I have a stepdaughter who i have never gotten along with . There is only a three year age difference, so I'm not entirely blaming her, but i think my husband did a shitty job raising her. She is just not nice, and not just to me, but she is rude to wait staff, entitled, something of a mean girl. She has always made sni...	YTA I was gonna say that's an immature thing to do, but given you are barely older than her AND immature, it's kinda overkill. >Honestly I was kind of pissed off. My husband is wealthy, but her boyfriend is legit rich, so she is doing exactly what I did, marrying a man with a large age gap, and marrying a man with a...
I’m really into this game, Europa Universalis 4. Basically you play as a country. My wife also recently got into it. When I play against someone, I’m obviously going to destroy them. Absolutely. That’s what I did. I absolutely wrecked my wife’s Empire, the Ottomans as Austria. Through a couple wars, I eventually ma...	YTA I play EUIV. you don't have to target her empire at all. you don't have to compete. you can each manage your empire, and you can even work together. in fact, in all the times I've played EUIV multiplayer, it's never even occurred to me to NOT co-op it with my friends. it's weird that this didn't even occur to yo...
I 20(f) have decided to live child free. I used to be really Close I’m older sister but once she had kids I cut back on the time we spent together. At one point I made it truly clear I can’t be around kids at all. My sisters husband is rich like really rich. So because of the pandemic he decided to rent a yacht for two...	YTA I have a friend that doesn't like kids, at all. Like, seriously doesn't like kids, won't pretend to, won't humor them because they're kids, doesn't want to be around kids. She's never mean, just doesn't ooh and aah over their drawings or think they're cute when they say something, or want to be around them ev...
Hi this is my first post, and I’m posting from my cellphone sorry for the format. Okay so my(24f) sister (28f) she is married, live with her husband and they just had a baby. She is breastfeeding and I am okay with that but the problem is that she wear reveling clothes just because it’s easier to feed her baby with ...	YTA I don't know where people get the balls to tell someone how to dress in their own home, but I'd be taking off more clothes. ######
Me and her are whatever in terms of a relationship. Sometimes I can stand her and sometimes I can't. We share a kid so I try my best. My place was near to a doctor's appointment she had that morning so she figured she would Just grab stuff at my place that she keeps forgetting. Two birds with one stone. I was alrigh...	YTA He's your kid! It's not like a friend went over and let their kid wander around in your house. Yes, she was watching him, but he's still your kid! You said you generally try your best with her, but you added extra detail just so we'd all know how irritating you found her. *Oh no, she gave you a heads up that s...
My brother just turned 25 so we had a small family gathering to celebrate on Labor Day. It was just me (27F), my husband (27M), my mom and step dad, and my brother (25M) and his girlfriend. My husband and I brought a yard game to teach everyone, and we decided to do a little tournament. When I was playing against my b...	YTA He probably wanted to hear the rule from someone who is rather neutral (not you) and who isn't new to the game (not his girlfriend), so that leaves only your husband. But you jumped straight to sexism. ######
I'm not sure why I'm so disappointed. I think it's because whenever I used to think about my wife being pregnant I imagined her with an adorable big bump, really glowing and looking pregnant. She just passed 32 weeks and it's so small, which is kind of surprising because I'm a big guy. She is very petite but I still ...	YTA Generally probably not a good idea to tell the woman carrying your child that you're disappointed with how her body looks. ######
This happened last year but my girlfriend is mad at me now for it. Last year we had our Freshers week at university, it's a week known for drinking and debauchery. One one of the night me and the guys decided to have a "pull a pig" night where you try and kiss a larger chick. There are some real rotters at my uni so it...	YTA Either you're a troll, or you're a disrespectful, arrogant, superficial jerk who's getting off on playing with peoples' feelings. ######
Throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main. My girlfriend is a talented musician. She plays multiple instruments and has an angelic voice. She's dedicated her life to this excruciating task, and it's truly paid off. My sister has 2 boys, a 10 year-old and a 8 year old. They are extremely active and love r...	YTA Dude, you are the only one that put the instrument and bow in a child’s hand. You are completely to blame One redditor mentioned how pricey the bow could be. I suspect that’s why he really doesn’t want to pay ######
My friend is deciding between two offices of the same company. One is in San Fransisco, and the other is in New York. Instead of considering factors such as career progression, cost of living, social scene, etc.... he literally said he’s choosing the New York office simply because they have a much more traditional bu...	YTA Dress code is top 3 reasons I will turn down a job. I have worked places with unflattering polos, uncomfortable dress codes, and I hate it. I absolutely hate having to wear uncomfortable clothes all day because someone thinks it will look good. I've turned down jobs that would require me to wear something that I ...
Yesterday I was supposed to spend the night at my friends house with some of my classmates and we were playing truth or dare. There really is no reason for us to choose truth since we already know a lot about each other so we mostly went just with dares. It was pretty fun and we had some weird challenges. I was stayi...	YTA Don't post on public forums if you don't want the responses to be public Also maybe he felt uncomfortable speaking up. Ever heard laughing nervously? ######
Okay so first of all, yes my username is a joke, and no, I’m not Chinese. Anyway, I (28M) am going to get married to my fiancée (28F) once covid is all over. Recently, I got one of those AncestryDNA/23AndMe DNA tests to find out all about my genetic ancestral history. I’m an super curious about what my future wife’...	YTA Don't force people to do what they are uncomfortable with, you don't have the right. ######
(Posted on behalf of someone who doesn’t have reddit - I’ve been discussing this all day with her) My (57 F) daughter (32) recently gave birth and called and let me know hours after the birth. I was the first person she told but I think it’s strange she didn’t ring me immediately. She didn’t have a long labour and was...	YTA Did you want her to call you the second the baby's head popped out? I would say a couple of hours later is more than acceptable. Give the mother a chance to clean up and get acquainted with her baby first! Have you actually told your daughter you would like to visit? Did you explain to her that you just want to ...
I (24 M) was playing Risk (online, so other people were not involved) with a friend (24 M) that we will call David. It was David’s first time playing so he asked me for advice on what he should do. I told him he should fortify his troops on China. David: “What should I do?” Me: “You should place your people on China” ...	YTA But only moderately. Showing it to him on the map? Not a bad thing to do. Repeating the question, and hammering the point home when he made it clear he legitimately didn't know where it was however, that was a dick move. I'd recommend apologizing to him. From the sound of things he's aware this is a shortcoming o...
My friend draws art in her spare time and frequently does commissions. I asked her if she could draw something for me and she charged the standard price, which I found a bit steep. I asked if she could just count this as doing a favor for a friend and do it for free and she laughed and called me cheap as a joke. I did...	YTA Art takes time, and time is money. There is nothing wrong with asking for a discounted price, or if they can do it for free (I guess) but you aren't entitled to it. ######
Cast: Me - Assistant manger of a restaurant Ray (37) - Store manager, kind of creepy Kelly(18)- Fresh out of high school hostess, very shy, scatter brain Joe - District manager Ray has had a history with female workers. nothing that has gotten him in any trouble or had anybody quit, just remarks on appearances, fl...	YTA Absolutely. You should have told HR that Ray was behaving inappropriately and that she felt compelled to go along with it in order to keep her hours. Instead you told them they were both at fault and unsurprisingly they punished the more vulnerable, disposable employee. Furthermore, she didn't ask for your he...

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