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My daughter is 23 and moved back home after the relationship with her baby’s father fell apart. Her daughter is almost 2 and we love having them both here. However, my daughter has always been boy crazy and it has been a problem since she was a teen. She is very immature for her age and has done nothing with her life. ... | YTA
>she . . . has been on several dates with different men. Her daughter is so young and should be her main focus.
If you didn't even know she had been on any dates until she had been on *several* of them, then it sounds like her daughter **is** her main focus. I feel like you would have noticed if she were actual... |
This happened months ago before the pandemic, but my girlfriend is still angry so I wanted some resolution. I have a sister who is 17 years younger than me. My mom said when she got pregnant that she was never going to be one of those parents who pinned the responsibility on her older kid, so she literally never asks m... | YTA
>My mom called me and said that she had a concussion from being thrown from a horse and my stepdad was on a business trip. She asked me if i could take my sister because she is dizzy, doesn't feel comfortable being alone with her,
>Then my mom remembered my girlfriend and said forget it, she would rather deal wi... |
I have a stepdaughter who i have never gotten along with . There is only a three year age difference, so I'm not entirely blaming her, but i think my husband did a shitty job raising her. She is just not nice, and not just to me, but she is rude to wait staff, entitled, something of a mean girl. She has always made sni... | YTA
> I told her once as an April Fool’s joke that her dad was leaving me everything in the will, and she didn’t even respond to me, she just tattled to daddy.
She doesn’t respect you because you’re an ass and sound totally jealous. ###### |
Hey guys so im currently a 19 year old college student and have been in a relationship since high school. My girlfriend and i have always been careful using condoms and birth control and i've even thought about having a vasectomy but can't currently afford it. So with this out of the way my girlfriend is pregnant. She ... | YTA
> I've decided to leave the state and maybe even the country and my dad supports me and has even given me cash to get out and luckily i have dual citizenship. AITA for leaving and never seeing this child again?
For that. Not wanting a kid is fine. Not facing your responsibilities, to the detriment of a child, is... |
So a bit of a backstory is I’m a (27M) in a relationship with a (25M). We’ve been together for two years now, and I do love my boyfriend. The only thing is that he has a pretty severe stutter. His speech impediment isn’t so bad when it’s just me and him, but his anxiety towards his speech goes through the roof when we’... | YTA
> He said he needs to practice speaking, but isn’t that what his therapy is for?
If you take music lessons are you not expected to practice outside of class to get better? ###### |
Title sounds bad but there's a lot more to the story. Me and my gf are both 21 in uni. I live at home so she doesn't really come here as my mother is kinda conservative and is against her sleeping over. I mostly go to her place and we have sex play video games chill, smoke weed just hang and have fun. My gf has this ha... | YTA
“Let her get away with it”
Let her get away with what? Having a period? Not explicitly telling you that she was on her period? Not making it clear that you might not get laid every damn time you see her? ###### |
Throwaway. We're all in late 20s.
My best friend and I have been dating our SO's for a while and a month ago he proposed to his girlfriend. They recently came to our house and we saw the ring he bought and my girlfriend swooned over it. She asked if this was a Tiffany ring and what carat size and my friend and his gir... | YTA
I’ve never said “oh I love your engagement ring” and then immediately turned to the person who proposed and demanded they inform me how much they paid for it, and whether it was market price or less and then how he managed to get it for less.
You even say that you changed the subject yourself. At what point du... |
My parents invited My brother (22M) for dinner as we hadn't seen him in a while. I (20F) was weirded out because he brought his roommate to a family dinner. Halfway through the night he drops the 'boyfriend' bomb. See my best friend had asked my brother on a date (just the earlier that day!) and he said yes. She's has ... | YTA
He didn't want to embarrass your friend in front of a crowd and was planning to explain it to her properly after. You're treating him like a child by telling him what to do. Honestly, you sound like a difficult person to deal with. ###### |
My (26f) boyfriend (26m) decided to throw a party with a good amount of his friends and family. We had been together at this point in time for eight months.
He spoke of his siblings often and positively so I was excited to meet them. At the party I met a couple of the last remaining friends of his I haven’t been in... | YTA
" I then said that was tragic and that I hope they come up with a way to do prenatal testing for autism, so that people don’t have to suffer with it in the future. "
So by that, did you mean that you hope prenatal testing for autism will give parents-to-be a heads up so they can have an abortion? Because, yeah,... |
A bit of background: I was involved in a bit of bad stuff. Let's say I did some illegal things. Like "sell sweets". But one day I got caught and got taken to prison. This was around the time my son was born. Now my wife was scared for her life and divorced me and moved out of the house we lived in.
Now I had come out ... | YTA
*You* felt confident enough to “tell her”’you were a changed man??
You terrified her. You left her with a baby. You infringed on that sense of safety that took years to build. And you think you can waltz into your son’s life? No contact. No support.
Your entire post is about you, you, you. Your feelings.
You... |
I’ve (25F) been dating my boyfriend, “Van” (25M) for 6 months now. Van’s best friend is a girl named “Kayla”. Kayla is nice and I like her, but she has one annoying habit. She baby talks. Most of the time she talks in a normal voice but sometimes she whines or uses w’s behind her words because she thinks it’s cute. She... | YTA.
She sounds cringy and irritating. But _you_ sound like an incipient "well, MY ex-girlfriend--" one-upsmanship story.
You're allowed to have your peeves, but you're not allowed to try to enforce everyone else's behavior when they aren't doing anything that's actually hurtful to anybody, or dangerous in any way. I... |
For context, I’ve been close friends with this person for 7 or 8 years. I’m not going to give his real name for anonymity’s sake, but I’ve been calling him an abbreviated version of his first name, the equivalent of calling someone Mark instead of Marcus or Nate instead of Nathan, for most of our friendship, like many ... | YTA.
It's his name, dude. he's making it very clear he doesn't like being called the short one. Not your business why. Show respect and assist accordingly ###### |
Diagnosed with a kidney disease that ended up shutting my kidneys down back in 2017 and ended up on dialysis which has been a marathon of surgerys and hospital visits due to complications. I am on the waiting list for a deceased kidney but still looking at another 2-4 years before getting an offer. I’ve had several fri... | YTA.
I am sorry for what is happening to you, but you are not entitled to any part of your brother's body. It is an invasive procedure that will impact your brother as well.
Also, YTA for the way you are comparing your lives; just because your brother is unmarried and childless, it doesn't mean his life is any less... |
So I (55) have a granddaughter (14) who wasn’t in her bed when her mom, my daughter(32), woke up. She called police after she didn’t turn up for hours.
We live in the same city as my daughter.
The police called and wanted to ask us some questions.
My husband and I have a policy that’s served us well through the yea... | YTA.
I am an attorney, and can totally appreciate that as a general rule. In fact, I’m clapping internally!
But when a child is missing, rearrange your priorities. Especially when it’s your own grandchild. Unless, of course, you had something to do with it...in which case, probably still YTA. ###### |
My ex is calling me an asshole because I am taking my two kids (4 and 11) back 5 days a week when school starts when he is saying they would be better off keeping their 50/50 schedule since school will be online in the fall. I work 12 hour shifts 3 days a week (2 days on weekdays) so I told him my plan is to put my li... | YTA.
As a kid who grew up with split parents and them always fighting for custody, it’s horrible. Especially being left alone because they couldn’t get along. Your kids are older and it’s time for you to mature. Stop thinking of yourself and let your kids be with their dad. Just because you are their mother doesn’t ma... |
So I’m curious about the general consensus on this. I have a sister in law Jane, who I have a hot and cold relationship with. She can be very judgmental and righteous, but I don’t totally hate her. Jane’s commented in the past that my marriage makes her uncomfortable. Now I was the bitchiest sense of humor, and the fir... | YTA.
Your relationship with your husband is your business. I find the whole bet thing weird, but you do you. Where you become the asshole is continuing this in front of your family. The 'French Maid Costume' is a stereotypical kink thing as is dominance/submission. You guys were essentially doing heavy foreplay i... |
For context, I (22F) recently started a postgraduate degree in the UK, which due to COVID I was able to get in without sending official documents to prove I had met the requirements for the course. Instead I was able to send the university scanned copies of my certificates over email. I was not aware that I would need ... | YTA.
Your brother did you a huge favour, and made sure you got the document as soon as possible, to benefit you. And now you've left him hanging short of money. Better not ask him favours again. ###### |
My gf (31) and I (29) decided we would spend Saturday by getting pizza, eating it at the mountain which overlooks the city, and then heading back home to watch a movie and have some kinky sex. We hadn't done it in a while, so we were both in the mood.
Everything was going well, enjoying the usually warm weather, eati... | YTA.
You skipped on a date that was not only already set, but were CURRENTLY ON in order to hang out with friends for a very spur-of-the moment get together.
Get the biggest bouquet of flowers you can find once you’re done sleeping at your parents for the week. You owe her at least that much. ###### |
I have 2 sons, R and K. R is 14 and K is 10. My kids are very different. R is very intelligent and has always excelled in school without giving any effort at all. He was always quite independent, and I never had to involve myself with his school, so I didn't. K, on the other hand, was never very good at school or at fo... | YTA.
You seriously told your 14 year old son that he doesn't deserve success? What the fuck dude ###### |
The title makes it sound a lot worse but basically I was in a bad mood the day it happened and she happened to ft me. She was asking me loads of questions and I was just frustrated is all and I just snapped. I didn’t say anything rude I just responded in an annoyed tone. She hung up shortly afterwards and I could tell ... | YTA.
You know what, I actually get being a bit snappy and upsetting a significant other. I've done that. I've then apologised and definitely didn't characterise the other person as overreacting.
But you know she's been in abusive relationships and you say she's overreacting? Absolute asshole. Apologise to your gf, t... |
I have HSV-1, the virus that typically causes cold sores in over 50% of the population. I sometimes also get it down there, but it’s the same virus. I went on a date with a guy I met on bumble last night. One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Yes we used protection. I wasn’t having an outbreak, so... | YTA.
You have an STD.
>I wasn’t having an outbreak, so chances of passing it to him were slim to none
Just because you aren't having a flare up doesn't mean you don't have to tell him about it. It's not your decision to make about what the chances are and whether those risks are worth it.
Equally, you must have c... |
(Throwaway for obvious reasons.)
For some context, I (45M) have been dating this guy (42M) for around 4 years. We’ve had some pretty bad dips in our relationship, but I love him the same. He has three kids from his past marriage, two girls (16 and 12) and one boy (8M).
I have my own daughter (13). She has been diagno... | YTA.
You have a crap way of interacting with your daughter, and neither you nor your boyfriend are teaching the boy how to eat in the company of other people.
Misophonia is a real thing. You lack empathy towards your own child, as well as dismiss professional assessment of her disability. YTA and I feel sorry for th... |
I’m not Catholic at all, but I’m pretty sure that Catholicism states that you can’t have sex before marriage. My dad’s girlfriend and my dad aren’t married or even engaged, but they have sex at least once, if not more times per day, while she’s moaning at the top of her lungs. She’s also said some variations of “oh sw... | YTA.
You had zero reason to humiliate your Dad’s girlfriend, but you chose to anyway. Just because an idea crosses your mind, doesn’t always mean that it needs to come out of your mouth.
And stop listening to your Dad fuck. It’s creepy and weird. ###### |
Throw away for obvious reasons.
I know the title sounds bad but bare with me!
I had my son when I was 19 and my daughter when I was 21.
My daughter is now 19.
My daughter was raised mostly by her grandmother for the first five years of her life because I worked full time as did my children’s dad, we had to so we co... | YTA.
You essentially victim blamed your own daughter. What a shitty thing to do. The gf cheated - that's all on *her*. Your daughter isn't responsible for her gf cheating. ###### |
I was with my brother and we were going to get food, and for some context stuff like this happens all time when I'm with him and I had just worked a 12-hour shift in the hospital as a neo-natal nurse and as you can imagine I have to see a lot of babies dying. My brother has always been more successful with women than m... | YTA.
You could of worded it way better. What’s wrong with you?
“Hey, I’ve had a long day. Can I please place my order and you can continue talking to my brother”
Not “stop trying to suck my brothers dick”
She has no idea what you go through in a day, it’s not personal. She started to serve you and you STILL deci... |
My DIL and my son just had a little boy a few weeks ago. When he was born my older grandchild called me and told me that the baby looked like her grandpa as they have the same nose.
My husband has stayed with my DIL and my son for a few months after I had surgery and had to stay in a nursing home for awhile since I h... | YTA.
WTF is wrong with you? ###### |
Me and my girlfriend of 3 years were out for a dinner in a restaurant (outdoor setting). We were having a pretty good night, the conversation was fun.
We both ordered chicken breasts. She always makes fun of me that I ask for ketchup because she "doesn't like eating chicken breasts with ketchup".
After we start eatin... | YTA.
Why the hell did you need to shout, and why did you get so annoyed? More importantly, why does she owe you an apology?!
I get how that can be frustrating, but is it possible your SO thought it would be cute? Perhaps she was trying to have fun with you?
Regardless, shouting at your SO in public over something t... |
Where I live the quarantine has been almost lifted, seeking human interaction I decided to go out with an old friend of mine.
I find out this friend of mine has a girlfriend, doubting the validity of his claims I ask for pictures.
He shows them to me and I immediately recognize her to be a girl form my old school, kno... | YTA.
Why in the world would you keep nudes of someone that didn't give them to you? That's a gross invasion of privacy. Then to hold them over her head as if you've got some sort of moral high ground? When you are seriously considering willingly distributing them without her consent?
Yeah, YTA majorly. ###### |
This happened some time ago but I still think about it from time to time and would just like to know if I was the ah in the situation.
When I was 18 my parents decided to end their marriage of almost twenty years. They decided to release this information a bit before Christmas on my final year of high school.
The c... | YTA.
What on earth would them forcing themselves to be together for 4 months have helped you. The added stress and bickering would've been horrible. Peoples lives and feelings don't pause just because you have exams coming. ###### |
Hi! So, my friend had invited myself and some friends to brunch at a local café for her birthday. I'm conflicted, because since we were invited to specifically brunch at this place, and of course, were expected to bring gifts (as you do for birthdays). I would accept if she had mentioned that we were paying for our own... | YTA.
Unless someone specifically tells you they'll be paying, assume you're paying for your portion. ###### |
We rarely talk unless it has something to do with our kids. Lately our 12yo son has gotten "mouthy" at her and she asked me to talk to him. I found it ironic because she has always been a cold bitch to me lol.
I did talk to him. He's not anymore mouthy than any other 12yo. He said he didn't know she was mad because d... | YTA.
Totally unnecessary insult. Your ex asked you to be a co-parent and assist with a behavioural problem. You acted like a mouthy little shit. Maybe she sucks too, but I still pity the woman who has to co-parent with you.
100% you're the asshole. ###### |
I (20/f) have a small group of friends and recently a new guy joined us (Jack). Jack is pretty friendly & cute but he has the most SEVERE stutter I’ve ever heard in my life. Tbh, it’s tiring to deal with it. My friends really like him and put up with his speech but I find it extremely difficult.
Whenever we all h... | YTA.
Tiring for you to deal with? Imagine how tiring it must be for him. He’s your friend and you should be accommodating.
My sister stutters and yes, at times there’s that tiny bit of annoyance but I’ve learned to put that aside and be patient and LISTEN. That’s all you need to do. If you don’t have that kind of p... |
My oldest daughter (8) has the personality of the kid in a Christmas movie who gets the miserly banker to save the orphanage. Seriously sunshine, rainbows, postivity all the time. When she was smaller, she went through a vintage Disney phase, and her favorite was Pollyanna. She would pretend to be the titular character... | YTA.
The nicknames don't stem from the same real place - something each daughter can be proud of.
Your wife called your daughter a prima donna during a fight, out of frustration. Not nearly the same origin as Pollyana.
Find something you instinctively called her out of love and endearment. Both your daughters de... |
My husband wanted to go visit his mom the other day and I really didn’t want to drag the kids over there because I feel like she makes it obvious she doesn’t want to be a grandmother but my husband keeps pushing it. She doesn’t like to be touched, like to an extreme and doesn’t want her own grandchildren touching her. ... | YTA.
The fact that she screamed "do you think I want to be like this" tells me she has an underlying issue about why she doesn't like to be touched. Attacking her over that was uncalled for.
Also, people have the right to not be touched. They also get to choose who does and does not get to touch them. Her body, her ... |
So my sister and her wife were together for five years. They got a sperm donor last year and my sister got pregnant. When they were in the beginning stages of considering pregnancy, advised my sister to let her wife be the one to carry the baby or have her wife’s egg implanted in her.
I said that because two years a... | YTA.
Talking to her about her marriage before she got pregnant was totally reasonable.
But at this point she's pregnant and going in for the "I told you so" is both mean and pointless. "I'm just being honest" isn't a great defense for cruelty. ###### |
I recently broke off a friendship with a girl I'd known since kindergarden because I really think she was faking these illnesses she was claiming to have. She is always on crutches and wearing braces cause she says her joints "dislocate" and she even used a wheelchair sometimes. I think she just likes the attention bec... | YTA.
Sounds like you don't even know what's wrong with her, but there ARE diseases that cause joints to dislocate like that.
Have you ever even bothered to ask her what's wrong?
If she has all this medical equipment, she's either rich, or insurance is covering it. If insurance is covering it, it's because she's act... |
My girlfriend informed me the other day that she was going on a trip with the people mentioned above. She said she was taking our son with her and didn’t mention inviting me, hence the title “girls weekend.” I said, word for word, in a smart-ass tone “take pictures of my son when he first sees the ocean.” I told her I ... | YTA.
So, you plan on watching your two year old while you are high or drunk, and you will be the only adult present?
Once you are able to put your drug problems behind you for good,, then you can request your son stay with you. ###### |
My friend (we’ll call her Irene) is 21, and had her daughter very young, she’s only 6 months.
Recently her and 2 of our friends were talking about having a weekend together, and Irene’s boyfriend would have their daughter. One of the girls in our “group” said we should all trip since we’ll have the night we get toget... | YTA.
Shes allowed to have her own life and experiences. Her daughter is being cared for, BY THE FATHER. I'm sure he can handle it. She's not doing drugs around her child.
By your logic she shouldnt drink any alcohol, or smoke weed, or go to a movie and shut her phone at any point really. Because she has a daughter.... |
I wasn't trying to be mean, and I only told her this because she asked for a guy's opinion after spending the last year not having much luck with dating. She had a hard time understanding why since in the past she's never had that issue.
I'm not in the habit of beating around the bush when people ask me for my honest... | YTA.
Saying she has baggage is not the same as saying she's damaged goods. Not in the least. That was an asshole thing to say.
Try a little tact. ###### |
I(25M) have an older brother who I'll call bro (30M) who is father to his daughter, G(5F). Recently, he had found out that his Fiancé(31F) had unprotected intercourse with someone else (open relationship) and that G might not be his. Bro is emotionally attached to this child, as a father would be, so even if G wasn't h... | YTA.
No one's asking for your opinion about thier lifestyle choices, my man. You're "defending" someone who doesn't want or need to be defended. And you're being horrible to your SIL for no reason.
You don't have to pay for the kid's schooling if you don't want. But the whole "I don't want a relationship with this i... |
She made it very clear she does not want to have children. She is our 2nd adopted child. Unfortunately we have not been able to parent our own children, we tried our best.
She has not been very receptive to our collective response, and has been very reclusive, out from the usual. Has been acting out, and physical at t... | YTA.
Like, will your inheritance to whomever you wish, but this is obviously more about control. She is not a baby incubator, and not every woman needs or wants to have kids. Your hurt is understandable, but it is something you should work through with a therapist, not weaponize against your child. ###### |
This actually happened a long while ago but we recently saw each other again and she was really angry at me and when I asked around, this came up.
So I was in a pretty complicated 'situationship' with this girl, Samantha (fake name). We never dated or were much friends but we regularly hooked up and chilled together ... | YTA.
I don't care if I get downvoted for this. But even if she was a simple friend, you should have checked on her. In these kinds of moments, any kind of support matters and makes a lot of difference to the person. You were careless, and your carelessness must've deeply hurt her. ###### |
My gf was walking from work to her home today and wanted to talk on the phone. We are currently long distance because of the pandemic, so I'm kind of used to us talking through phone - the usual how your day went, venting about customers, me talking about my buddies, my games etc.
Idk why but after some time I just wa... | YTA.
Her safety should be important to you, and if you normally do it, why was this time any different? Because of video games? Dude, that's not fair at all. If you didn't want to talk, say that, but at least call back in that time frame to make sure, not text. ###### |
I'm black. My girlfriend is not. We had a baby three months ago. When she was a baby, she looked like me, but she's 3 months old and now she doesn't look like me except for curly hair. But she don't have black hair, she has big loose curly curls, if that makes sense. She's also VERY light skinned. I'm light skinned, so... | YTA.
Genetics are weird. Plus, you said your GF isn't black.
Get a test if you want, but genetics can skip generations. ###### |
A bit of a background story : my son (let's call him isaac ) and I along with his father and siblings moved to this new country 2 years ago where we dont have any friends , however , my side of the family lives near to my house and my husband's side of family lives in the same country but in a different city (90 km aw... | YTA.
First off, you need to learn to respect your son's boundaries. If he doesn't want to go, then stop making him go.
Second, "introverted" is not a dirty word. Stop acting like it's a bad thing. Not everyone enjoys being around people *all the time*, and *that is okay*.
And third... You really think forcing him t... |
Throwaway, of course, since we are 99% set on the name and don’t need my child’s name tied to my Reddit history.
My wife and I are huge fans of the Star Wars movies. Huge. We met while camping out for the premiere of The Force Awakens. Our spark was instant, and just a year later, I proposed with a ring hanging from ... | YTA.
Don't name children after fictional space fascists, you goons. Being a kid is hard enough without having to start every school year with "Hi my name is literally Captain Phasma. Yes, I do hate my parents." ###### |
Hi guys, I saw another post about a weird name and thought I'd make my own.
I've got a dillemma. I work as a sort of manager of a bunch of what would normally be independent contractors, doing work in and around customers' homes. Crucially for this story, all the paperwork prominently bears the name of the relevant co... | YTA.
Don't discriminate against someone just because of their name! (Or in general...)
I mean, if he was illequipped for the job, sure - don't hire him. But you're saying the ONLY issue you have is his name? No. Not okay! ###### |
My daughter is currently in her second year of college and has all around been doing great, making me and her father very proud. Because of the insane cost of tuition (almost $40 thousand a year) and the fact that we run a fairly successful car rental business, we agreed that as her parents we'd cover up to three quart... | YTA.
Consider this scenario:
"My husband and I made a deal with our daughter to pay 75% of her tuition as long as she maintains an agreed-upon GPA.
In an unrelated note, she expressed a desire to change her name to something that will be easier for people to say without butchering. This upset us, so we threatened t... |
I have a seventeen year old daughter who has been kind of difficult lately. She is getting really into social issues and just doesn’t stop when I ask her to. We were having a conversation last night about relationships and I admitted that I didn’t love her father when I married him and I married him entirely for his mo... | YTA.
>She got really mad at me which I can’t figure out because she knows how much I love him right now.
You certainly didn't indicate that with your word choice.
>She is getting really into social issues and just doesn’t stop when I ask her to.
Why do you ask her to? ###### |
Aita for bringing up the time my girlfriends dad overcooked a steak awhile ago?
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. We are both 20. For one of the first dinners I had at her house with her parents and her younger sisters, her dad grilled steaks. He was making New York strips and frankly, he burnt th... | YTA.
>It’s also 2 years later and he’s upset because he made a mistake while cooking? It’s not my fault he burnt them.
If you honestly think this is why he's upset, you haven't thought about it at all. He's not upset with himself, he's upset with *you*, so stop looking at what he did and start looking at what you d... |
My husband was hurt when he recently discovered that his family had had a weekend getaway and we were not invited. When he confronted his mom she got very angry and said we have too many dietary restrictions. I eat a very clean diet. We are both vegetarian and try to be as sugar free as possible. I do believe the host ... | YTA.
>I eat a very clean diet.
No, you eat a very restrictive diet. That's fine, but you can't expect others to accommodate you.
Your comment on your MIL's anniversary photo was really rude. Feeding your children is not her job, it's yours. ###### |
Ok, I have a friend who is a model. She is this really skinny beautiful girl. She cut her hair short a while back and added that she is "Non-binary" on her bio on instagram. I, for one, don't really get the non-binary thing and asked her what does she mean by that, and she answered she doesnt really "feel like she belo... | YTA.
> I told her that she is a model, and she gets work exactly because she is a beautiful woman
That doesn't mean she feels it. ###### |
I’ve (21M) been with the same girl (21F) for about 2 years now. A little while into our relationship I started having suspicions about my sexuality but I was honest with her that I thought I might be bi. Over the last year or so I’ve been pretty much sure I’m gay now. With the way my attractions have changed, sexual de... | YTA.
> *Over the last year or so* I’ve been pretty much sure I’m gay now. With the way my attractions have changed, sexual desires, etc.
> #I told her this back on Tuesday
Sounds exactly like you strung her along for half of the time of your relationship.
ETA: If you perhaps misworded this I'll amend my judgement ... |
I(24M) am getting married to my gf(25f) next year in tuscon on our anniversary . I sent out invites to the wedding to people in my friend circle . The next day another friend of mine announced to the group that she was getting married at the same place a month before i am getting married. I felt that people would atte... | YTA.
\- you issued an ultimatum instead of talking with your friend
\- you seem to think that some unspecified block of time belongs to you and only you. No. You get a day or a weekend tops. Not more.
\- you aren't such good friends as to have discussed your upcoming weddings with each other, so why are you acting ... |
The other day my husband and I were going through old pictures of us. We are both in our mid-30s now. We were looking at some pictures of him when he was in college and some when we first met. He had such a nice body then. He’s let it go a little bit since then. He’s not fat or anything, I’d say he has more of a dad bo... | YTA.
"Wow, I miss the days when you were hot babe. Your boobs were so perky and didn't droop, your face didn't have all those fucked up wrinkles. It was great." ###### |
This is a throwaway for obvious reasons, but a couple of days ago it was my friend’s birthday and my friend came out as gay and she was accepted by her whole group except for me. Now I am not homophobic but I don’t like gay people. We had a party where I pulled her into a separate room and told her to drop the act, she... | YTA.
"I'm not homophobic but I don't like gay people."
Didn't even need to read more than that.
You're contradicting yourself.
You liked her when she didn't come out as gay. She still was gay then. What changed? She's still the same person. She was gay before she told you and you liked her then.
She doesn't need a... |
My ex and I have a 10 year old daughter from a teenage relationship. My daughter lives with my ex and I pick her up for the afternoon on one weekend day and often take her out for dinner during the week. She still has a stuffed dog I bought for her when she was a baby and carries the damn thing everywhere. It is alway... | YTA.
* If your daughter's autistic, routine is an *incredibly* important part of her life. Upsetting that routine can cause her legitimate long-term harm.
* 10 is not too old to still be carrying a toy
* Get her a damn purse to carry the dog in. That way she gets to have it with her, but she also gets introduced to ... |
Long time lurker, first time poster. I am retiring on Sunday and my work was throwing me a retirement party today to celebrate my 27 years at my company. My wife and I have been so excited since we will finally be able to travel and see the world. I loved my job and really wanted it to be a special night for me.
A... | YTA.
Dude, it was an accident. Do you really think your wife will be in a car crash just to upset you? Shit happens, and it's not your wife's fault. Be happy she is not dead, disabled or in a coma, and did everything to avoid future problems (legal or not).
You may feel frustrated because she missed the party but, ... |
My family somehow ended up in a massive fight over Christmas the other day which is kind of ridiculous since it is July, but DIL brought up the fact we never spend Christmas as a family and how that has to change now that her children are getting a little older. I don’t like the way she approached it because that doesn... | YTA..... Your DIL is a part of your family. She married your son and she has children with him. If she isn't your family, then your grandkids are not your family either. Your words cut her like a knife. PLEASE DO THIS.... You need to apologize to her personally. Not just apologize, but say, "you are absolutely a ... |
This happened a few hours ago.
My parents are divorced. Throughout quarantine I (M17) have spent most of my time in my room when at my mom's (F46) apartment. I go down to the living room/kitchen area a few times a day to get food and see what's going on with my mother and sister (F15).
Today I hadn't eaten all day,... | YTA... where is the gaslighting? Do you know what that word actually means? Why are you so uncomfortable with your mother in a bathing suit in her own house? My mother-in-law is a nurse and when she works with covid patients she strips to her underwear right away so there's no chance of us catching anything. Yes, I've... |
I (M18) have been with my girlfriend (F17) for two years now.
Throwaway
My girlfriend is black and I am white.
I love her so much and her curly hair, I really love the way my finger gets looped in one of her tight curls, it's really cute.
Her and I are planning to get married and have children one day, so I thou... | YTA... she’s had her hair her whole life and you just up in here googling.
Also straightening all hair types and bleaching hair blonde is also damaging but I’m sure you see lots of platinum blondes with straight hair walking around. ###### |
My parents were married for 23 years (I am 21) and got a divorce in January. Their marriage died awhile ago and they just waited until my youngest brother finished high school. My mother announced she was getting married to "Dave." I had seen him around and wouldn't be surprised if they were hooking for sometime, but e... | YTA... not for disliking Dave, since you don't have to like the guy, but for petulantly refusing to even be civil to him. Your mother is an adult and has every right to make her own life choices, whether you like it or not. Her marriage has been functionally over for YEARS, and even collaborative divorces can take qui... |
First of all, I know it’s standard advice/procedure to get in touch with your ex partners when diagnosed with an STD. My prior test was done 2 years ago and I’ve dated around a lot since then. I wouldn’t even know how to contact most of them anymore although condoms were used 99% of the time.
I have just come out of ... | Yta... Just message him 'I have tested positive for chlamydia, you should get tested.' And then block him and never speak to him again. You just need to send 1 sentence, and you do not need to message him further or have a conversation with him. ###### |
My girlfriend can definitely be a little too outspoken sometimes and I wish she could tone it down because we're both in college right now and primarily dependent on our parents, so don't bite the hand that feeds you. My mom doesn't like my girlfriend very much but she was doing some spa stuff with her friend and invit... | YTA... it is 100% unethical for a doctor to have sex with a patient especially in his office. It doesn’t matter what type of medicine they practice. ###### |
Using a throwaway account since they haven’t publicly came out yet.
Disclaimer: Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against gay people. I support people having their own choices and living their own lives.
Here’s the situation. I (17M) have a friend (M) who agreed to room together in college. At this point he hadn’t c... | YTA... I’m gay and going to college this year. Any of my future roommates doing this to me is literally my worst nightmare. Believe me, he’s not interested in you. If he was, he wouldn’t want to be your roommate. ###### |
So I'm not going, no matter what you guys say. I'm just curious if it makes me an asshole or not.
With my first wife, I was the excited Dad who couldn't wait to have kids. Even to the point where I wanted to catch the baby. Big mistake. Seeing my baby come out of her traumatized me so much that I couldn't have sex wi... | YTA... Good Lord I don't even know what to say here. You divorced your first wife and won't visit your daughter because you can't get over seeing your wife give birth to her. Just there you're a massive asshole. Get over your shit or maybe you shouldn't even be having kids. ###### |
I (40M) am married to my beautiful wife (39F) and have been for twenty years. We have three beautiful children (19M, 17F and 15M) and are by all means very happy together.
However, during a rough patch in our marriage, I had an affair with a coworker. She became pregnant and had a daughter (10F). I know this was wron... | YTA... Dude... You are punishing your daughter for YOUR fuck up. Accept your damn responsibility.
Why is it NONE of your late teens kids are aware they have another sibling? Why is it you are keeping her from knowing her siblings? It's going to be so fucked when she learns because you have kept up an extremely convol... |
Myself (60M), my wife of 5 years, my son and his wife went out for lunch for my son’s birthday. I invited him because I wanted to see him on his birthday but knew they had plans to go away for the night later.
We didn’t drink, so the bill came out to about $80. When the check came, my son pulled out cash, as did I. I ... | YTA. Your wife was right. You were cheap. You invited him out for his birthday, then let him pay his own way? Someone who's 25 and "not super well off?" He was polite enough to offer to pay after you sat there staring silently at the bill... and you let him? Shame, shame on you. He read between the lines, you didn't. ... |
My wife was on facebook and saw a picture of her grandmother and got sad that she's looking older. She went on to say that she wishes she could get back to where her family lives more, which comes up pretty frequently. I asked her why she chose to move out here if this was going to be a constant issue. I guess what I s... | YTA. Your wife was missing a family member. You didn't have to start an attack on her for expressing it. ###### |
I enjoy going to massage parlors every so often, especially if I worked many hours. I see it as a way to wind down. As such, I am generally familiar with the rates/what to expect.
I decided to try a new massage parlor that isn't too far from where I live. I went down there and the girl who gave me the massage was very... | YTA. Your title describes the charge as a “tip,” when your actual story is clearly describing sexual favors. Don’t be that gross guy who pays for illegal massage parlor “services.” ###### |
My(37M) son(18M) has had a history of depression and has attempted to end his own life once before. I do my best to be there for him, and I want him to be able to tell me anything. About 7 months ago he told me he wanted to take a break from therapy, I wasn’t sure if this was best for him but he insisted on it, so he s... | YTA. Your son has a history of mental illness, and struggling to reach out. You just made sure you're the last person he'll reach out to, because you've shown you won't respect that he doesn't want to tell you every little detail about his life. ###### |
All this Started over a simple mistake I made at a party, One thing lead to another, and I had sex with this girl. I was already dating a girl but I just got carried away at the party. The guilt came to me later on I couldn’t stand looking at my girlfriend and knowing what I did, So I had to talk to someone, and that ... | YTA. Your sister was trying to protect your gf from more hurt that YOU caused by "getting carried away". You told her boyfriend that just to be vindictive.
PS. It's not that hard to keep your dick in your pants - even if you're partying. ###### |
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years I’m 28F and he’s 27M.
I’ve always known him as Joseph or Joey, his family have known him as Josephine, he only came out to them last year despite identifying as male for several.
They’re fairly closed minded people his family and don’t really understand but they’re tolerant, i... | YTA. Your partner asked you not to do that but you disregarded his feelings and blew up his life. This is his family. I understand seeing your partner in pain hurts, but you way overstepped. This was not your place. I would not be surprised if this is the beginning of the end of your relationship. In the future, liste... |
I (20f) am currently 31 weeks pregnant with twin girls. I’m absolutely terrified as I’m pretty much doing it completely alone. their father is extremely emotionally abusive and has told me multiple times he wants nothing to do with the babies, nor do his family, they’ve even accused me of cheating. we never had unprote... | YTA. Your parents *are* helping you by allowing you to stay with them rent free. You need to seek child support from the father if you need monetary help for the babies. Make careful use of your savings and prioritize getting into a better financial situation -- you never know what's around the corner and you're not g... |
Around the holidays, I got my friend and I tickets to a broadway show for January, as my gift to her. She was apparently excited to go.
Then a week before the production, I got very sick. I went to the doctor and got diagnosed with the flu. They said there was no way I could go to the show, even after resting a week, ... | YTA. Your pain? Seriously? You couldn’t go to the show so you gave away the tickets. What happened then was really not any of your business. She could’ve sold the tickets and that would’ve been her prerogative because you gave them to her. This screams of petty drama. And the fact that she was nervous to tell you what... |
Throwaway because I’m not sure if my children are on Reddit.
I have two kids with a four year age gap, my oldest, Sara, is 26 and my youngest, Bella, is 22. Sara went to undergraduate school and her father and I supported her by paying half of her living expenses and college tuition. We did the same for Bella. They b... | YTA. your older daughter got a steady, good paying job a couple years ago and you kept her on your plan. why is it different for your younger daughter who's just trying to get back on her feet? ###### |
I’ll make this short and sweet, I’m dating somebody now and I would never cheat on them and I’d hope for / expect them to never cheat on me too.
We got in an argument earlier because I admitted that before I met him, I didn’t see a problem with me being “the other woman” because quite frankly they weren’t my relation... | YTA. Your moral compass needs calibration. Enabling the bad behavior of others makes you complicit in that bad behavior. Absolutely. ###### |
My birthday was last night. I had come from work and my husband told me happy birthday and we ate some takeout. He brings out a gift and gives it to me, and I say thank you but put it aside to open later. At the time I was relaxing and watching something. My husband gets annoyed that I don't open it then, but I tell hi... | YTA. Your manner in putting the gift aside screamed loud and clear, "I don't care about the effort you went to. I don't care how thoughtful you were. I'd rather watch my show." Don't be surprised if at your next birthday, you get a lame card. Through the mail. ###### |
So here’s some backstory, we are very short staffed right now. After COVID struck do to a lot of different reasons we lost a lot of employees and we hardly have enough employees to stay open. It has been very stressful and I’ve even had to take away days that some people asked off more months in advance which I usually... | YTA. Your lack of empathy is atrocious.
You gave her one day??? ###### |
A bit of context , my daughter is 14 years old with no disabilities whatsoever , however , she’s extremely terrible at her schoolwork and often get low grades. My wife and I always tried to help her but she just won’t listen to us. So today we were eating dinner and I asked her to put rice on the bowl. Now , I do all t... | YTA. Your joking right? You soent this entire post insulting your daughters intelligence, and work ethic. You didnt yell at her because she dropped a bowl you yelled at her because your an asshole. Maybe learn to not be such a miserable person and you can start to appreciate your family for putting up with your bad at... |
This happened months ago before the pandemic, but my girlfriend is still angry so I wanted some resolution. I have a sister who is 17 years younger than me. My mom said when she got pregnant that she was never going to be one of those parents who pinned the responsibility on her older kid, so she literally never asks m... | YTA. Your girlfriend pays for half of the apartment, meaning she owns half of the apartment. You cannot kick someone out of their house they are paying for
I hope you find money to cover the rent because I think she should move out and find a boyfriend whose mother doesn't carry his balls in her purse. ###### |
Throwaway for work-related reasons.
A lighthearted one.
My girlfriend and I have been living together for 10 months now, together for 3, and I love having her around. She's a fantastic cook, loves cleanliness, and is an overall a very good housemate.
When we first moved in together, my girlfriend, unless she cam... | YTA. Your girlfriend is not sitting around the house doing nothing all day, she is working, just as you are. The appropriate response to her saying, “I’m too tired from work to cook tonight,” is for you say, “That’s okay, we can order something in.” ###### |
My gf and I are redoing our roof deck which has involved seeing a lot of spiders today. Every time my gf sees one she gasps. She’s always been afraid of spiders and I know this, but her gasps make me think something more serious is wrong.
My gf is also kind of a jumpy person. Anytime I open a door too loudly or enter ... | YTA. Your gf has a heightened startle response that she cannot control. Work on the roof alone and apologize to your gf if you actually care for her. ###### |
Throwaway. We're all in late 20s.
My best friend and I have been dating our SO's for a while and a month ago he proposed to his girlfriend. They recently came to our house and we saw the ring he bought and my girlfriend swooned over it. She asked if this was a Tiffany ring and what carat size and my friend and his gir... | YTA. Your friend didn't lie. Your GF asked if it was a Tiffany ring, and he said yes. He doesn't owe anyone an explanation of where they bought it or for how much.
You should be annoyed with your GF who demanded a $25-30k ring just because her friend got one. You chose to spend tens of thousands of dollars, don't bla... |
My daughter is only 15. She is way too young to be dressing in a two piece, but my wife agreed to let her buy one without my knowledge.
The last time we went to the lake, which was last week, after I had unloaded the boat and we'd started to pull out into the lake my daughter takes off her shirt and shorts and I see ... | YTA. Your daughter’s body is her own. There’s nothing inappropriate about a 2 piece bathing suit.
Also I think that it sets a bad precedent for a father to tell his daughter what she can do with her body. She should be comfortable in her skin and she should have bodily autonomy. You can think these rules begin and... |
My daughter (26F) was a phd student at a university.
She got a stipend but I still helped her pay rent so she could get a better apartment and buy better clothes.
However, in July, she starts telling her father and I that her advisor keeps saying that he really likes her.
Her father and I both know our daughter is... | YTA. Your daughter was sexually harassed by her supervisor and your response is to tell her to suck it up?? You really are a horrid person. ###### |
My very mentally ill brother died recently. He spent his money on properties, all of which he poorly understood what he was buying, and didn't maintain at all. The entire estate essentially breaks even except for one property, which was willed to my daughter.
Basically put, he invested in a luxury hotel chain that wa... | YTA. Your daughter was left the property and it is hers to do with as she sees fit. She does not owe her aunt anything, and trying to guilt her into it because of “family” is some next level BS. Shame on you for even suggesting the option. If you’re so worried about the aunt’s housing situation, YOU offer to house her... |
Hello reddit, my husband told me that I was an asshole for the way I acted but I don't think so. Please take a moment to read and share your opinion on this.
My daughter \[17F\] came to me yesterday and told me that she would like to see a therapist as her mental state has been down ever since she broke up with her ex... | YTA. Your daughter wants a therapist. You sound completely unequipped to be one, based on the way you talk about her in this post. She wants to talk to someone who’s not you. Maybe that hurts your feelings, but what should be important is what your daughter needs, not anything else. ###### |
My husband and I (60s) had already made arrangements to keep our 10yr old granddaughter (Lauren-not her real name) for 2 weeks this summer. This isn't new. Her and our daughter, her mom (D), have lived with us off and on for financial reasons and the father isn't at all involved. We are very close with Lauren. And ... | YTA. Your daughter needs time and space and for you to acknowledge the harm you and your husband have caused. Pushing her boundaries will only make her withdraw from you further. Tell her you understand. Acknowledge the harm and do your best to make your husband, who sounds straight up abusive, do the same. Ask if she... |
I am now in extremely shitty situation. My daughter(Jane) cut all contact with me after my wife made some racist comments about her bf. I agree what she did is disgusting but Jane told me choose either between her or wife. How the hell I am supposed to do that. TBH my wife comes from racist family I called her out many... | YTA. Your daughter left because your wife was being a racist. So essentially, you are punishing her because your wife is racist. ###### |
I have a 15 year old daughter who is thinking about what she wants to do with the rest of her life. We were at a family dinner with a few extended relatives who i don't know that well, and my daughter said she is considering a degree in music or a degree in nursing. I told her that she should seriously think about nurs... | YTA. Your daughter is thinking about carrer advice, and your MILs opinion can be interesting to hear, especially as a music pro who worked diligently to create/find a valid niche. I am sure she has a view on how to earn a living in the music field.
As for financial advice, well, to put it politely, maybe you should l... |
Using a throwaway account.
This is going to be a really stupid post!
My daughter is 19.
My daughter never liked iced coffee before this year, never but for some reason she suddenly likes coffee, she drinks a lot of it - a worrying amount, actually.
In yesterday alone we got Starbucks in the morning, she got anothe... | YTA. Your daughter is going to be moving out the first chance she gets. Why are you monitoring her bank activity to question her about buying coffee? ###### |
Before I start this, I love my daughter. I'm not one of those parents who values their partner's opinions/feelings over their child's.
Anyway, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now and at the start of this year we had decided to move in together. We were all going to move into a new house (we being m... | YTA. Your daughter has been gracious and welcoming but drew the line at giving up her space, belongings and privacy and feeling replaced. You should have thought about this before rather than forcing your daughter to make such a sacrifice. Couldn’t you buy a new sofa or a pull-out bed? You can’t just give over your da... |
My (43F) daughter (17F) has a friend I’ll call Annie. They went to high school together, both graduated just over a year ago now (my daughter skipped a grade so graduated early). They weren’t really close during actual school, but became pretty close around prom/graduation time. Last August Annie helped my daughter get... | YTA. Your daughter graduated high school and she needs to learn to set her own boundaries. Yes, maybe Annie is a bad friend but your daughter has to figure that out herself, you can’t dictate what she does. Let her make her own decisions because banning her is only going to make matters worse. ###### |
During my childhood my brother was way more successful and attractive than me, I wasn't too attractive when we were younger I was chubby with acne scars and I was also short though now I'm 5cm taller than him at 180cm. I suffered a lot because of this, however, during school girls would pretend to be interested in get... | YTA. Your brother has done nothing to hurt you. If he had been cruel to you as a child, I could understand cutting him out of your life, but refusing to speak to him because he was better looking and more popular? That’s immature and it is clear that you are still bitter. You really should go to therapy to help deal w... |
So this all started a long time ago, my father re-enlisted after 9/11 to gain the benefits of the post 9/11 GI bill. Which for those who don’t know thatallows you to select one of your family
members to receive essentially a free education at a public college paid for by the government.
At least that’s what he told me... | YTA. You’ve no idea the cost of living. Your father’s 130k a year probably barely keeps your family afloat, unless your mother has income coming in. Regardless, you absolutely come off as ungrateful. ###### |
My daughter is 18 years old and she has her own account where I put in $65 every month as her allowance, now she’s been saving up for months and had over $500.
Me and my wife were kind of afraid that she would waste all that money in stupid things like video games or consoles which would hinder her time she needs to pu... | YTA. You’re trying to manipulate your daughter instead of talking to her about your concerns. And she’s not falling for it. ###### |
I (51m) married my wife (46f) six years ago. We now have four wonderful boys (5, 3, 2, 4months). I also have a stepdaughter, who I'll call Ellie, who is almost 15.
I have always gone running in the mornings, and often my favorite time for running is right when my youngest tends to wake up. My wife usually gets the kid... | YTA. You’re the parent. She’s a teenager. You don’t get to tell her it’s now her job to be a parent too. Go for your run a little earlier so you can do your job as a father rather than foist it off on your kids. ###### |
My husband and I have got 3 kids, 4, 7, and 11. All boys, so you can imagine the terror. I’m basically at the end of my rope after months of “virtual learning.” They’re not learning anything beyond fighting each other and causing messes.
So my husband works really long hours and I’m a SAHM. The ridiculous thing is th... | YTA. You’re teaching them that their bad behavior doesn’t matter - they’re going to get what they want either way. They need to be taught better ways to handle their anger than throwing things out of windows. ###### |
TLDR : My brother in law wants to leave his house, but doing so would make my wife a target.
BIL is 32 and is at home, has only had one job in his life working with me as one of my warehouse guys. He was...ok, but he got confused very easily, you could only ever tell him one thing and a time and he couldnt multitask w... | YTA. You’re stopping someone else from getting out of an abusive situation.
Your FIL cannot do anything to your wife without violating the law. ###### |
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