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My son suggested that I post this here. I have three children 27, 25, and 23. I was married to their father for eight years and he passed away when out youngest was three. It was a somewhat arranged marriage and I did respect and care for him but I’m not going to lie and say my decisions here are based off of some deep... | Yta. You’re not giving her the money because you are “hurt by her choices” and hiding behind your dead husband. Would you rather she just marry a man she didn’t love because he fit the Jewish/Persian checklist? Why have kids if you’re not going to let them live. It’s petty and mean not to give her her inheritance. Tim... |
I've always facetuned my photos, even before I met her. I feel like every one our ages (26 & 23) who actively use Instagram regularly are guilty too, I'm just open about it. My wife is now refusing to speak to me after I posted a pic of us, and I edited the pic to make her look thinner. I have told her that I do no... | YTA. You’re insecure about yourself, you’re insecure about your wife, and your wife is right when she says that you’re making her insecure. ###### |
I'm a shift lead at a fast food joint.
Here's the deal, I have this worker, Shannon (18f) who is on the shy side. I'm not saying she's ugly but when compared to the other girls working, eh, lets just say she doesn't get a lot of attention. It's Saturday, it's busy, I have 3 cashiers and Shannon running food and bussin... | YTA. You’re creating a toxic work environment for your employees. You’re also letting Joe get away with bullying (potentially sexually harassing, actually - sounds like these insults are appearance based, which is a huge no) a coworker.
By the way, there was no need to comment on Shannon’s appearance yourself. It si... |
I've always facetuned my photos, even before I met her. I feel like every one our ages (26 & 23) who actively use Instagram regularly are guilty too, I'm just open about it. My wife is now refusing to speak to me after I posted a pic of us, and I edited the pic to make her look thinner. I have told her that I do no... | YTA. you’re basically telling your girlfriend she’d look better if she was thinner, of course she’s insecure ###### |
So this whole situation is ridiculous, and she's technically my ex gf I suppose.
My 30 m ex chloe 27 of 6 month's has a medical condition called fibromyalgia, she used to be 5'1 and 180 pounds, but since got down to 140 pounds via diet but no exercise.
I always said no exercise would come back to bite her in the ... | YTA. You’re a personal trainer with a different opinion than her physician. She has a chronic medical condition. Let her gain strength at her own pace ###### |
I’ve been with Rhiannon for 16 months, living together for 7months.
Rhiannon (25F) has a 6year old daughter, I (29M) have a 3year old daughter so I’m sympathetic for her struggles.
I suppose Rhiannon’s neighbour took some sort of liking to her and since she moved in there he’s been giving her food every month, doing... | YTA. You're using the word "charity" a lot. Not only is there no shame in charity, but this is just one neighbour helping another. Call it "kindness" instead, and get over your insecurities. ###### |
Me (M38) and my gf (F23) have lived together for 3 years. She didnt go to college, and she wasnt very popular in high school. She hasnt made many friends in the 3 years we've been together and I dont mind. I work, she stays at home. Its fine for the both of us.
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A few days ago I came back from work to see... | YTA. You're trying to control your (ex)girlfriend's interactions with people when you admit already that she doesn't have many friends. Your "give her everything she needs to be happy and she can handle the day alone til I come back" line reads as a massive abuser. I'm glad she had the strength to be able to break up ... |
I teach high school chemistry, but also a few introductory classes at the college. This occurred in the fall semester. Recently, some other science professors and I gathered for the fourth and were discussing students who weren't meant for college and were obviously forced by parents. I told them this situation, in whi... | YTA. You're supposed to teach students, not humiliate them. You could clearly see this girl was struggling - did you ever try speaking to her one on one to see what you could do to help her succeed in your class? ###### |
So this happened pre corona, around January. My sister hasn’t spoken to me since then and I honestly feel like she’s dragging this out. All because I wasn’t on her side during the divorce.
So what happened was she attended a work event with her husband. It was a party and everyone brought their spouses. She was pre... | YTA. You're not obligated to give her a place to stay, but she's well within her right to leave her husband for any reason, up to and including "I didn't want to be married to him any more." Blaming her choices on "pregnancy hormones" is really insulting.
What's more, I bet dollars to doughnuts this was a "straw tha... |
So I’m in college, and in the US we have a program called ROTC at most colleges and it’s kinda like a fast track to commissioning into the military. To be in the program, there are pretty strict physical fitness and BMI requirements to go further than halfway through the program.
Last month on of my friends from high... | YTA. You're in ROTC, right? Then you should know that no matter what you weigh, they'll push you to finish.
I remember my brother talking about his first day at ROTC. A friend brought him along, and he remembers running to the side and vomiting during the pushups, because he wasn't used to so much exercise. And he sa... |
2 years ago my wife got talking to a woman online in a random Facebook group. They both noticed they had the same breed of dog and got talking. Turns out we live 30 mins from her. I didn't think anything of it but after 6 months they decided to meet up. By this point my wife knew her friend was autistic and her friend ... | YTA. You're ignoring the fact that your wife DOES want to be friends with this person. Your dislike is largely based on how offputting your find the symptoms of autism. You're taking it personally that she's avoiding eye contact and seeming distant. That's kind of like taking it personally that a person in a wheelchai... |
So we’re a month-ish into school now (I’m a sophomore), and in history class, we were all paired up to do a group project. The people in the group were (it becomes relevant) two Indians (including me), one white guy, and a black girl.
After the class, I was talking to some people who are in that class, and one of the... | YTA. You weren’t being racist, but you and your friends were being very much AHs by discussing who’s the worst student. There is no need for that. ###### |
My MIL and I have a complicated history. I lived with them briefly in high school and she kicked me out in the middle of the night because she said I abuse her son and she doesn't want her younger kids to see that shit. I was literally sleeping so I wasn't "abusing her son" in that moment. She disapproved of us getting... | YTA. You weren’t abusing him AT THAT MOMENT is admission of abuse. She denies you financial assistance? She doesn’t owe you money. You make yourself sound abusive and entitled. ###### |
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When I (M19) first started dating my girlfriend (F18) she has body confidence issues and was a bit on the chubby side and didn’t like to show her body. I told her that confidence was very attractive and that being unconfident like she was was really unattractive. A couple of my female friends are very... | YTA. You were the one who kept telling her to gain confidence.
You should be sold in the produce section. ###### |
Because I (29f) worked in fast food/restaurants during high school and early adulthood, I put in my best effort to be courteous to the worker. Usually, when I'm with friends or family and we have a split order (they pay for their food, I pay for mine) I make sure we go inside instead of drive thru to avoid extra hassle... | YTA. You were sitting at the drive through causing a big line to form because you felt you were owed an explanation for their policies. You aren't. You had the information you needed to place your order. And seriously, is it that hard to Venmo someone for your part of a food order? ###### |
I've worked at this company for 3 years. my 3 year anniversary landed on the same day of my SO proposing and to top it off I'm getting promoted. I was expect at least something from my coworkers. like small party, gift, nothing fancy.
I was pretty hurt when I came in that week to find nothing. there were congrats and ... | YTA. You were not entitled to the left overs for gods sake you cried and FORCED them to throw you a party.
Plus you took their tupperware , give it back it wasnt yours ###### |
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I (31F) have one son, 3M. He’s very sweet, calm, low-maintenance, and a great kid. I lucked out with him. We asked one of his daycare providers, B, to watch him for 5 hours, from 1-6 since I had to work. B knows he’s an easy kid and she knows him well, so she went with a lower charge, a... | YTA. You were late. People deserve to be paid for their time. If you were asked to work overtime at a job, wouldn't you expect to be paid? It doesn't matter what a little angel your son is. Pay people for their time.
Edit; also your username is laughable considering you're the one that thinks you're entitled to no... |
When my daughter came out as gay and asked me to walk her down the aisle, I told her I loved her but that I couldn't walk her down the aisle. My wife went to the wedding and my daughter stopped speaking to me.
A year ago, my wife died and my daughter said she wouldn't come to the funeral if I was there. I told her not... | YTA. You were being a homophobe but then acting like the victim when ur daughter tried to talk to you again. This has to be fake honestly ###### |
Me and my girlfriend work for the same company, in Treasury. We sometimes bring some work home and finish it there since it’s much more peaceful. Last night was one such day and she was working on a tax computation. A couple of hours in she says “I’m such an idiot” I so obviously asked why. She says that she realised t... | YTA. You went from calmly checking in on her to "Could you f\*\*\*ing stop?" A more caring thing to do would be to call a timeout and say "Look, you're not an idiot. I keep hearing you call yourself that. You made a mistake. We all do this. But you're stuck in a negative feedback loop that is not productive. It's all ... |
So I’m curious about the general consensus on this. I have a sister in law Jane, who I have a hot and cold relationship with. She can be very judgmental and righteous, but I don’t totally hate her. Jane’s commented in the past that my marriage makes her uncomfortable. Now I was the bitchiest sense of humor, and the fir... | YTA. You two were playing it up to make her uncomfortable. Anyone would have felt terribly awkward in her position. Honestly it *is* gross to carry on like that in front of unwilling participants in your dynamic. As for her emotional abuse claims, that's not really for reddit to decide. While we have very little infor... |
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In late February, I went on a trip organized by my college's Student Association. Anyone who wanted to could sign up, and they take you to this indoor adult obstacle course with a ball pit, go karts, swinging ropes, monkey bars, etc.
We had to sign a waiver at the time we signed ... | YTA. You tried to use a loophole and it didn't work because it's obvious what they meant. ###### |
I (22f) have a younger sister who is 19. When we were both young teenagers, we went through a lot, and our dad ended up leaving. Our mom turned to drugs and alcohol, and my sister and I responded completely differently. I threw myself into my academics and school work, and my sister went down the same path as our mom. ... | YTA. You tricked your sister into opening up to you like that. That is a MASSIVE breech of trust ###### |
Recently bought my first car, owner said it was in pretty good nick and well looked after. He had it serviced about 1k kms before selling so I don't doubt he thought it was in good condition. Check engine light turned on on the way home (in less than 10mins of driving). Had it checked, NZ$2500 of repairs. I told the pr... | YTA. You took it to a professional and it was too hard for them to find the issues (per your own comment), but you expect this average Joe to have found them and refund you? ###### |
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My daughter (Elly) has been doing this thing for the past weeks where she insults herself and expects me and my wife to correct her. Like she'll say she can't eat the dinner we made because she's fat (she's not fat, not even close) and we'll have to go through this song and danc... | YTA. You told your daughter she's fat and ugly, you're an asshole no matter the reason.
The adult, mature, good parent way to handle this would be to have a conversation with her about how you're concerned about her self-image issues, reinforce that you think she's beautiful blah blah blah but it's not healthy for he... |
I (22f) have a younger sister who is 19. When we were both young teenagers, we went through a lot, and our dad ended up leaving. Our mom turned to drugs and alcohol, and my sister and I responded completely differently. I threw myself into my academics and school work, and my sister went down the same path as our mom. ... | YTA. You thought breaking her trust and catfishing her was a better solution than being mature and talking to her one-on-one about your feelings and observations? Come on now. How childish. 100% understand your sister feeling betrayed and upset. It’s great and understandable that you are concerned about her, but that ... |
I love my daughter, but I never really wanted kids and never liked them all that much. My ex wife did, and because I was young and in love I decided to have a child with her. I do not for one second regret my decision. My daughter has brought much joy to my life and made me a better person, but I gave up a lot of mysel... | YTA. You talk about your daughter as being a "job" that you've completed and don't have any obligations to anymore. You don't stop being a parent at 18? Are you required to be in your daughter's life? No, but not being involved in her life gives her every right to view you as an asshole. You ARE free to engage as litt... |
So my daughter (14) recently won a lot of money, £10,000 to be exact. Now she didn't do anything to win this money so you could argue does she really deserve it?
Now my son (23) recently moved away from home, he doesn't have a lot of money and I give him £40 a week to get by.
After my daughter won this money, my son ... | YTA. You stole from your minor daughter to give to your adult son. He didn’t do anything to earn it either, why should he have a share?? $10,000 is a ton of money to put away and save for when she’s an adult. Does she have a younger sibling that you can steal from to support her when she’s 23??
YTA. Give your daughte... |
I have an 8 year old daughter, and to make college more easily accessible for her, my ex wife and I each put money into a shared fund for her. My ex wife and I do not get along, but we make an effort for the sake of our daughter.
At the end of last year, my car basically blew up. Completely blew a gasket, broke down ... | YTA. You stole from both your wife and your daughter to irresponsibly buy a car you can't afford.
I hope this is a troll, no one can be this dense. ###### |
Soo as many of you have been doing in these times, I’m currently doing work from home. I have a wife and two toddlers (twins). I need silence to work and I don’t have a home office (we are in a smallish apartment, just enough room for the four of us). It has been slowly pissing me off because I am working hours and I h... | YTA. You sound like you don’t appreciate your wife at all. Remember that you get breaks form your paid work; your wife gets none from her unpaid work. What kind of AH expects complete silence from toddlers? Why can’t you invest in noise-canceling headphones? ###### |
At the local grocery store and in line at the deli. Several customers standing around waiting their turn. I go to get a ticket and pull number 27. They are now serving number 21. I step back patiently to wait my turn. They call and wait on No 22, and then 23. When they call number 24 no one steps up. Hmmm. Must have ... | YTA. You sound like the kind of person who uses on ramps on the highway to get ahead of traffic and merge last minute. ###### |
I am 30 and basically have nothing in common with a 20 year old but my sister-in-law might be the exact example of the stereotypical self absorbed, iPhone addicted, eye rolling gen z that older people seem to think all young kids are like these days. Shes on her 5th go around with her on-again, off-again boyfriend and ... | YTA. You sound insufferable. ###### |
I teach high school chemistry, but also a few introductory classes at the college. This occurred in the fall semester. Recently, some other science professors and I gathered for the fourth and were discussing students who weren't meant for college and were obviously forced by parents. I told them this situation, in whi... | YTA. You shouldn't publicly shame your students for getting something wrong, you should teach them the right answer. That's your job after all. ###### |
So I’m curious about the general consensus on this. I have a sister in law Jane, who I have a hot and cold relationship with. She can be very judgmental and righteous, but I don’t totally hate her. Jane’s commented in the past that my marriage makes her uncomfortable. Now I was the bitchiest sense of humor, and the fir... | YTA. You shouldn't have let her come in. You should have explained that it was a bad time and asked her to come back later. If that wasn't possible, you should have paused the game. I do not blame her for being uncomfortable. You and your husband are free to do whatever you want in your own home, but once you had a gu... |
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So I got bored during quarantine and decided to try out some weed lube (with THC in it). I told my boyfriend that I had gotten some new lube and asked if we could try it and he agreed. Side note, the pack it comes in does have a cannabis logo but the bottle itself does not.
Anyway, af... | YTA. You SHOULD have told him. If his work requires him to be drug tested he could get fired because of you! You knew that this stuff had THC in it and you used it on him without his permission. If the roles where reversed and you where a dude, youd be lynched for this. ###### |
I adopted my daughter in 2011, when she was 9. I’m an elementary school teacher and she was actually a student in my class at the time. She’d come into school clearly distressed most days, but would always insist she was fine. I couldn’t take it anymore and called CPS on her parents, and fought her custody of her and a... | YTA. You should have let her make the decision for herself. She had a right to know. ###### |
I have a daughter name RJ who is 10 but due to autism, acts like a toddler most of the time. I homeschool her and try to always treat her equal to other children but sometimes it can be challenging.
She doesn't understand why people get gifts on their birthday, so to keep her from having a tantrum, I make sure to gi... | YTA. You should have gone with the small gift as normal if you HAVE to get her anything. You could have given her the bigger gift at home and honestly, why on earth didn't you stop her opening another present? Even toddlers can understand that someone else's birthday party isn't about them. ###### |
My husband comes from a big family. His dad was married twice and has five children, and I'll admit it is kind of a tough group to break into but besides one sister, i love his family. Both of my children are very close to their cousins and we go a lot as a family. My son recently got engaged to his girlfriend of two y... | YTA. You should have given her some kind of warning here. She's probably nervous as fuck meeting extended family for the first time, and being attacked like that probably made her feel like they hate her. Did she know that the family does this to all 'newcomers'? If not, then I 100% agree with her. If she did, the may... |
I (22M) am a film lover and my friend (22M) Don made his first film last year. He asked me to be in his film as the lead and I agreed, hes pretty much my best (and only) friend.
So this happened last year but Its been on my mind as Don recently told me that apparently I rlly hurt the feelings of the actress who was in... | YTA. You should have done the scene to see if it worked and if you still thought it wasn't organic then you should have privately talked to the director and producers about possible workarounds. Instead you acted like an amateur and embarrassed your co-worker during an already sensitive scene. Shame on you. ###### |
I (F24) love my little brother (M19). He’s my best friend in the world. But ever since he became a teen years ago, he's had anger issues. It’s not like he was constantly angry, but when he’s furious, he gets verbally aggressive, hits stuff, etc. We sent him to therapy, but nothing. My dad asks me to talk to him because... | YTA. You should have a talk with your brother instead of his girlfriend whom you’ve never met. ###### |
I (33M) have been married to my wife (32F) for the past 5 years. 6 months ago my wife decided to undergo rhinoplasty (nose job) surgery due to not liking the shape of her nose for several years and also to repair a deviated septum (although the primary reason was cosmetic). I personally didn’t think she needed the sur... | YTA. You should be interested in caring for your spouse, even if you’re caring for them because of an elective surgery. ###### |
I am, or I guess was dating this girl, Amanda.
We went on a couple dates together, and we decided to have sex today. So, we went to my place and after she tidied up, her boobs got noticeably smaller. I just asked her because I thought she was padding. It’s not like her bra was padded because she was still wearing it.... | YTA. You say that you called her out on her “lie” of using prosthetic breasts, but one wouldn’t say that someone using a realistic prosthetic leg was lying about having a real leg. You didn’t know, and it’s ok that you didn’t know, but asking her “why did your tits get smaller” when she’s partially or fully naked and ... |
Let me just preface by saying I live with 5 other people. So, because of this we have different rules set in place to keep the house orderly and clean and whatever else. Some roommates including myself weren’t doing their chores on time. During one of our bi-weekly meetings my roommates wanted to have a rule set in pla... | YTA. You say in the first sentence that you don’t do your chores on time. The fact that people in the house felt the need to issue a fine for chores not being done shows that this has been an on going problem and talking and reminders aren’t working. I get that you were feeling sick that night but this isn’t a one tim... |
Let me just preface by saying I live with 5 other people. So, because of this we have different rules set in place to keep the house orderly and clean and whatever else. Some roommates including myself weren’t doing their chores on time. During one of our bi-weekly meetings my roommates wanted to have a rule set in pla... | YTA. You said yourself you hadn't been doing your chores on time already, and then you left it until 3 hours before the deadline again.
You don't have to agree with the punishment jar, but you should have come to consensus beforehand. Did you actually disagree to it and make it clear you wouldn't contribute? If so, ... |
One of my best friends is getting married and my girlfriend was invited to the bridal shower by another best friends gf. My gf is from another country and did not know what a bridal shower was, I briefly explained it to her. She is not good friends with any of the girls but gets along fine.
Fast forward a week and sh... | YTA. You said she’s from a different country and was confused on the basic concept of a bridal shower. She obviously doesn’t know the customs. And since you said she’s not close to any of the girls (doesn’t even have anyone’s number) she was probably too uncomfortable to text them herself. And if you thought that was ... |
My nineteen year old daughter has been home since the schools shut down and everyone’s nerves are just frayed from too much time together. My wife is having issues with her family, our son just got married without telling anyone and we think he made a huge mistake, and my wife has been under a lot of stress.
My daught... | YTA. You said it yourself: your wife is not crying because of your daughter's hair, she's crying because of stress, so why are you taking it out on your daughter?
Obviously communication is a huge issue in this family, with your son not telling anyone about his marriage, your wife unable to talk to anyone clearly ab... |
I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years and we have two kids. I’ve always had the impression his mom didn’t like me but she’s never said anything. His mom was wealthy on her own and probably made on the higher end of six figures. She’s been with her fiancé for about a year and a half and I think he might be a million... | YTA. You resent them because they're rich. You can't make decisions about your own money, but withholding congratulations from your BF's mother because someone gave her an expensive gift is really petty and meanspirited.
>her grandkids are struggling.
Is that the real issue? That you think you BF's mother should giv... |
We had a new part time girl in our warehouse, a teenager, 15. She very soon becomes popular with us as she's hardworking, pleasant and sometimes give out snacks and small gifts.
At first I like her too but recently during a casual conversation she brought up that she her family is actually quite rich, that is why she... | YTA. You quoted "lower her head" as if it was insulting, I am wondering if you know what that means? She wasn't saying "lower herself" as if she's better than you. To put your head down means to be determined to get something done, or to focus. You TOTALLY projected your own jealousy/insecurity on this 15 year old gir... |
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My best friend had asked me if I was available one night and if I was could I pick her up from a party as she didn’t have a lift and felt really uncomfortable being in a uber or taxi late at night. I said of course I would pick her up.
Later that night my boyfriend texted me asking to hang out. So ... | Yta. You owe that friend big time. ###### |
A long time close friend of mine recently came out to me as gay (important to mention I am also gay), he mentioned that it was probably internalized homophobia that took him this long and that he is still working it out. I felt delighted for him and offered to be there for when he felt like telling other people. He sai... | YTA. You outed him without his permission. ###### |
Earlier today, I had orientation for a new job. It was basically just a candy store in a local mall. It's not much, but I figured that it would beat my dead-end call center job. Me and a small group of other new hires arrived and were given a basic lesson on customer service and handling the cash register, but then cam... | YTA. You only had a 10 minute break; it's entirely unprofessional to run off and get a greasy food item. You embarrassed yourself. ###### |
My wife went into labor around 6 pm on Sunday. We were expecting twins.
It quickly turns into a very painful process she kept cutting off the blood pressure to my hand when she squeezed and nearly sprayed my shirt with vomit.
Around 3 am my dad calls. I work for my dad’s company and we had a presentation for clients ... | YTA. You never leave a women in birth. Especially because she was giving birth to twins.
YTA x 1000 for “it quickly turns into a painful process she kept cutting off the blood pressure to my hand when she squeezed...” way to make it about you.
You expected your wife, a first time mom from what it seems, to natura... |
My girlfriend and I have been together for a while, and we decided to move in together. Since she already owns a house, I moved in with her.
Before I moved in, I made it clear that I rather it just be the two of us in the house and that I didn’t want her son to continue living with us. She was pretty blasé about this... | YTA. You moved into HIS house too. Just because he is an adult does not make it his home. If you do not like living with him, move your ass out. You are a grown ass man too. Be an adult here. ###### |
Soo as many of you have been doing in these times, I’m currently doing work from home. I have a wife and two toddlers (twins). I need silence to work and I don’t have a home office (we are in a smallish apartment, just enough room for the four of us). It has been slowly pissing me off because I am working hours and I h... | YTA. You might be the biggest one I’ve read this week.
Your wife certainly works harder than you do. Maybe if you’re making so much money you should just buy some noise canceling headphones and not be rude to the woman you married and raises your spawn. ###### |
Today I was hanging out with my girlfriend for a bit at my place, and a friend of mine stopped by to help me out with something while she was making food.
Me and my girlfriend have a very playful relationship and joke around all the time about anything and everything.
As my buddy walked in, I told him my girlfriend... | YTA. You may have a joking relationship, but bringing your friend into it is probably what pissed her off. ###### |
So my dad found this little Jack Russell at a building he was planning to buy and brought him home to be ours (his). He's still untrained so he mostly stays outside and only comes inside if whoever brought him in keeps their eyes on him. This morning I was watching a movie in the living room with my sister when she got... | YTA. You made a half-assed attempt to warn her, that's not the same as actually warning her. Most people assume that if something is actually important, you'll press after they wave you off. You also could have gotten up and physically moved the dog outside again, which I'm betting you would have done if the dog had g... |
My best friend and I are the type to always pull pranks on each other, it's just how our friendship formed and we always get a kick out of it.
For example, he once invited me to a party and told me to wear a costume and when I got there, it was normal attire. I laughed after the initial embarrassment, and like I said ... | YTA. You lied to your girlfriend and you took your best friends fiance's attention away from her on her wedding day. That's not a prank. That is a deceptive, manipulative asshole. You ruined two innocent people's day on something that didn't actually prank him at all. ###### |
I(25) have a girlfriend (23). She most of the time refuses to leave me alone and will not give me time to myself . Whenever i come from work , she'll always sit with me till dinner and won't let me play video games or watch TV in peace. She would insist on coming when i meet my friends .I've requested her many times t... | YTA. You lied to her so she has the right to be upset. If she’s as annoying as you claim, break up with her. I personally could not date a needy, co-dependent person either. ###### |
My boyfriends parents divorced when he was in middle school but they never really got over each other and they both cheated on multiple partners with each other. The mom ended up getting pregnant from the last round of cheating and his dad left his fiancé to get back together with her. They both think it’s funny that t... | YTA. You left a woman who was in fear for not only her life, but the life of her baby, alone on the living room floor. You don't have to like someone to provide emergency help, even if it was "freaking you out and you didn't want to."
You're lucky it worked out OK. It very well could have led to two dead people. ####... |
I threw a customers silicon wedding band in the garbage and all hell broke loose
So I was at work and I found this wedding band on the ground in the afternoon and decided to keep it on the cash register. Come the next morning I see it’s still there so I just decided to toss it. A few hours later mr dude comes through ... | YTA. You know your job also involves being polite to customers, right?
It was a ring, was it really torturing you by existing in your space? What was the rush to throw it away? ###### |
The title makes it sound a lot worse but basically I was in a bad mood the day it happened and she happened to ft me. She was asking me loads of questions and I was just frustrated is all and I just snapped. I didn’t say anything rude I just responded in an annoyed tone. She hung up shortly afterwards and I could tell ... | YTA. You know that she has an abusive past, and yet you’re saying that she overreacted to you snapping at her. People getting annoyed at you comes across very differently when you’ve been abused. She didn’t overreact, you scared her. ###### |
Yesterday I was supposed to spend the night at my friends house with some of my classmates and we were playing truth or dare. There really is no reason for us to choose truth since we already know a lot about each other so we mostly went just with dares. It was pretty fun and we had some weird challenges.
I was stayi... | YTA. You kissed someone without their consent and you were "honestly a bit offended" that they weren't thrilled about it?
Ask yourself how you'd feel if a boy touched you without consent and they were annoyed that you didn't like it. ###### |
Throw away for obvious reasons.
I know the title sounds bad but bare with me!
I had my son when I was 19 and my daughter when I was 21.
My daughter is now 19.
My daughter was raised mostly by her grandmother for the first five years of her life because I worked full time as did my children’s dad, we had to so we co... | YTA. You insinuated that it was your daughter’s fault that her gf cheated. While your daughter’s resistance to affection may have contributed to driving her away, her gf is still 100% at fault here. ###### |
I (M18) have been with my girlfriend (F17) for two years now.
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My girlfriend is black and I am white.
I love her so much and her curly hair, I really love the way my finger gets looped in one of her tight curls, it's really cute.
Her and I are planning to get married and have children one day, so I thou... | YTA. You have no right to tell her how to do her hair. You have no experience with black people hair yet you’re going out of her way to tell her how HER hair works. ###### |
I have to make a short PSA video for a college project and I felt that my voice doesn't have that "announcer" feel to it. So I asked one of my friends to do it, he's done voice acting work for minor video games on the side so i figured he might be able to emulate the voice I want for the video.
So I asked him about it... | YTA. You have no respect for you "friend". He doesn't owe you his time or his voice. It's literally his job and you expect him to do it for free. You are cheap. If you want higher production quality then you need to pay what it costs. Otherwise do it yourself. ###### |
This all came out because one day last week my wife and I happened to go through the same drive thru for lunch. I didn't see her but she saw me and parked near my truck. That is when she called me and saw me pick up my phone, look at the screen and send it to voicemail.
She got upset because I screened her call, but ... | YTA. You have kids. You need to answer your wife’s phone calls no matter what. Learn to say “oh you want to repaint the living room? Oh what color? Actually can we talk about this when I get home from work? I’m on my lunch break.” ###### |
I have HSV-1, the virus that typically causes cold sores in over 50% of the population. I sometimes also get it down there, but it’s the same virus. I went on a date with a guy I met on bumble last night. One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Yes we used protection. I wasn’t having an outbreak, so... | YTA. You have an STD. Slim to none is still a chance. If you’re gonna be irresponsible and not tell someone that you have herpes then stop sleeping around. ###### |
I'm a shift lead at a fast food joint.
Here's the deal, I have this worker, Shannon (18f) who is on the shy side. I'm not saying she's ugly but when compared to the other girls working, eh, lets just say she doesn't get a lot of attention. It's Saturday, it's busy, I have 3 cashiers and Shannon running food and bussin... | YTA. You have an employee who is known for being inappropriate and unprofessional who harassed another employee who is known for being a little sensitive. Instead of being understanding and letting her gather herself for literally five more minutes, you give her an ultimatum? So she's not only missing out on the pay f... |
My ex and I were together in 2014 and we split because I made a mistake and cheated. He ended up getting with another girl so I went over there to get my things and it escalated a little and a tv was broken. She left him after that and we got back together in 2018.
Some other things happened and we split again. Now he... | YTA. You had years. The only reason you want to go to the house now is create problems because you're hurt she is pregnant. You should seek mental help. ###### |
Ok. AITA or not?
My girlfriend (21 years old F) had a german shepherd. She got him when she was very little, so they’ve grown up together. When I met her the dog was old and having some health issues.
A few days ago I went to her house to pick her up and noticed that the dog was in bad shape. He couldn’t stand up an... | Yta. You had no right to do that behind her back. Whether it was the “right” thing to do. What a huge breech of trust and disrespect towards her. You’re a huge asshole. ###### |
We had a new part time girl in our warehouse, a teenager, 15. She very soon becomes popular with us as she's hardworking, pleasant and sometimes give out snacks and small gifts.
At first I like her too but recently during a casual conversation she brought up that she her family is actually quite rich, that is why she... | YTA. You got jealous because she's rich and decided that she must also now suddenly be an arrogant brat. Nothing you've stated she said even implies that she thinks she is better than everybody. ###### |
We have four kids: ages 11, 16, 17 and 21. We're also expats of 5 years (Sweden to Canada).
We've always lived in close quarters, we just couldn't afford an apartment with rooms for everyone. So our 11 year old daughter has shared a room with us for most of her life. We've always tried to quarter it off a bit with a s... | YTA. You gave your daughter the bedroom. You can't take it back now.
>Since he is the oldest we thought it'd make sense for him to get the second bedroom
That's unfair on the 11-year-old, who will never not be the oldest, and has spent more than a decade sharing a room with her parents. You've asked a lot of her.
I... |
we had been talking online for a couple of weeks, she seemed like a cool person and we seemed to get along really well. I drove about 20 minutes to go pick her up. As soon as she stepped in the car the Vibe was way off. She wouldn’t really speak, and I felt like she was sort of ignoring me while constantly texting on h... | YTA. You gave her a ride and then stranded her there without telling her. It's one thing to want to end a date, it's another to just leave without telling them and expecting them to find their way home. ###### |
I (F24) love my little brother (M19). He’s my best friend in the world. But ever since he became a teen years ago, he's had anger issues. It’s not like he was constantly angry, but when he’s furious, he gets verbally aggressive, hits stuff, etc. We sent him to therapy, but nothing. My dad asks me to talk to him because... | YTA. You feel weird about it because it's an inappropriate thing to do unless you totally want to tank his relationship for no reason. Presumably she already has some kind of support system that can help her if she ever needs it but preemptively doing anything like what you're suggesting is way over the line. ###### |
I have a step sister, We are both the age of 16. So today I was in the room with my girlfriend watching a movie, Then she just completely bust open my door and starts yelling at me in front of her “You fucking idiot! Learn how to put the toilet seat down! Omg you are so dumb” then storms out my room. I was so embarrass... | YTA. You embarrassed yourself, and you need to learn to control that anger mate. That's not even nearly a good enough excuse to talk to someone like that. Also I know this is a controversial opinion, but 3/4 uses of a toilet is sitting (women peeing and shitting, and men shitting vs. Men peeing) so in my opinion you s... |
Throwaway cuz said friend uses reddit.
So I’ve known my friend B for about six months now. We met at work and we get along really well. She’s new to our company and from what I’ve seen, she’s a really good worker and fits the job well.
The other day she invited me over to her place for a girls night. I agreed and c... | YTA. You dont know her medical issue and you are not medically trained to make assumptions. Even so you have no proof that what she goes through impacts her driving.
Not all seizures are what we see on tv... ###### |
Throwaway because I post about work on my main. I have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship, and my husband and I have been together for 3 years. While their relationship isn't bad, they have never been able to bond as a father and son, and so my son tends to give him a lot of pushback.
My husband has a larg... | YTA. You don’t punish a kid by taking away time with his father. If he’s going to be grounded, fine, but he should be grounded with his dad. Time with his dad isn’t a treat to be taken away. ###### |
During my childhood my brother was way more successful and attractive than me, I wasn't too attractive when we were younger I was chubby with acne scars and I was also short though now I'm 5cm taller than him at 180cm. I suffered a lot because of this, however, during school girls would pretend to be interested in get... | YTA. You don’t mention anything about your brother actually doing anything to hurt you/your feelings, only that other people were using you to get to know him. You can’t put the blame on him for that, in my opinion. ###### |
My cousin (17m) says after he graduates from high school he wants to be a navy seal. I laughed my ass off when i heard that becuase he's at least 80 pounds overweight and he can't even do a single pull up, nor can he even walk up a flgiht of stairs without getting winded. He is too out of shape to even join the airforc... | YTA. You don’t laugh at people’s dreams if you love them. The goal he set for himself would, of course, mean he had to get in shape. He’s not stupid. He knows that. He was telling you that he wanted to turn his lifestyle around, and you responded in just about the cruelest way you could.
I hope one day he does achie... |
So this happened pre corona, around January. My sister hasn’t spoken to me since then and I honestly feel like she’s dragging this out. All because I wasn’t on her side during the divorce.
So what happened was she attended a work event with her husband. It was a party and everyone brought their spouses. She was pre... | YTA. You don’t get to dictate why someone leaves their spouse. Your sister needed your help and you just left her in the lurch to fend for herself. What you think about her reasons for wanting a divorce is completely irrelevant. You’re a bad brother. ###### |
My dad (65M) and I (35F) used to be really close. My mom was a surgeon, so my dad was the one to pick us up from school, make us dinner, help us with homework, ect. I married my husband (36M) five years ago.
My dad is also a physician, and I can tell when he's entertaining guests because he has a distinctive bedside ... | YTA. You don’t get to control other people’s feelings or relationships. Your father treats your husband respectfully, and that’s all that matters. Why are you so intent on destroying the relationship they do have just because it isn’t fulfilling your needs? ###### |
My daughter recently told me that she was a lesbian and I was disappointed in her. She's always been super passionate about gay rights and seems to not like men and stuff so I always suspected that she might be gay but every time I've asked her if she was gay she either said "no" or "I don't know". She said she knew al... | YTA. You don't have a right to knowledge of her sexuality. She is the only one who gets to determine when and how she comes out.
>I'm her mother and I think I have the right to know.
You don't.
That is her private business. You pushing her to come out may have made it take even longer. ###### |
I have a 20 year old daughter. Shes always struggled badly with her mental health, all stemming from her dad passing away when she was 7. The way she’s always dealt with this is eating. Last year she went through a stage where she’d stay home from university simply to order a McDonalds, and this happened every day with... | Yta. You don't get to dictate what an adult eats. Also, i n f o, what did you do for your daughter to help with her grief and lack of self esteem? ###### |
Earlier this year we sat down and had a talk about marriage. It's something we both want, and we agreed that we'll get engaged sometime before the end of the year. I was very clear to my GF that it will happen this year but would not give her a more specific time frame than that because I want it to be a surprise when ... | YTA. You don't fake a proposal to teach a lesson about patience. That IS cruel, and now when you actually propose, it will be accompanied by a little tug of doubt on her end if this is actually real or another prank. ###### |
I have a 8 year old son who has an awful stutter. My wife used to have a stutter but grew out of it so we've been hoping for the same but thought it would be best if we just got help with it. My wife organised it and was suggested a Mr Timothy 'Surname'. All we knew was that he was good at his job and was 31. Awesome, ... | YTA. You discriminated against that man. Plain and simple, you committed a transphobic action against a perfectly capable person.
Your child never said he was bothered by the man, never said he wanted a new therapist, he was just confused and asked a question. And because you couldn’t figure out how to explain it “p... |
I (19F) have been in lockdown at home ever since my university sent everyone home. A lot of my followers were interested in what i was up to so i started documenting my life in lockdown with videos.
Before corona I landed a big internship with a big company. People wanted to know how that was going so i started recor... | YTa. You didn’t make videos of your own life - you made videos featuring people who didn’t give you permission to do so. Yeah, you’re the asshole and likely to be an unemployed asshole pretty soon. ###### |
I'm not sure why I'm so disappointed. I think it's because whenever I used to think about my wife being pregnant I imagined her with an adorable big bump, really glowing and looking pregnant.
She just passed 32 weeks and it's so small, which is kind of surprising because I'm a big guy. She is very petite but I still ... | YTA. You didn’t give her a compliment, you said that you’re ‘disappointed’ that her bump is so small. You’re telling me that you told a highly emotional and hormonal 32-weeks pregnant woman that her having a small baby bump is somehow her fault and disappointing to you???!! Do you see how you sound here???? Or do I ne... |
Recently bought my first car, owner said it was in pretty good nick and well looked after. He had it serviced about 1k kms before selling so I don't doubt he thought it was in good condition. Check engine light turned on on the way home (in less than 10mins of driving). Had it checked, NZ$2500 of repairs. I told the pr... | YTA. You didn’t do your due diligence and it bit you in the ass. ###### |
Throwaway because my roommate uses Reddit. Anyway, this past weekend I moved with my gf into a new apartment with a friend of mine. I've moved a few times over the past couple years and I hate it every time. Now that I'm doing a little better in life I decided to hire movers to avoid some of the hassle of the larger it... | Yta. you didn't HAVE to do anything. You chose to be a close minded human and assumed a woman you've never met before couldnt do somethingq simply because she is a woman.
Edit: OH and you penalized her for YOUR bias and insecurities when she did NOTHING wrong AND did the same job as the other mover. I hope you apol... |
So my gf often says her dad is her best friend. She adores him. She has dinner with him a few nights a week. She won't make plans with me on those nights unless I join them. She does weekly classes with him, she goes on...dates with him to the beach or to movies or just stuff at least twice a month. Again cant make any... | YTA. You deserve to come after him in her life. He clearly understands, cares for and makes her happy better than you. Instead of getting to know him better since he's so important to her, your first instinct is to destroy one of her main sources of joy and pry them apart. Stop being jealous and selfish, the situation... |
Me and my girl went to grab food. While we were heading there I got a call from a friend that I also do some gigs with. I'm ordering food while still on the phone. Some times passes and we take our food to go home. I tell her let's just eat in the car because I'm still on the phone. Eventually 30 minutes passes by the ... | YTA. You couldn’t put off a work call for a half an hour so you could have a meal together like a couple?
And now you’re whining about how “disrespected” you felt when she called you out on behavior you’ve barely, grudgingly admitted was disrespectful to her in the first place?
Sounds like you’re due for a breakup. ... |
Hi guys, been working up the courage to post this shitstorm for a while now, but here goes. I (16F) have a brother (21M) called Sean and we were raised in a pretty typical Christian household. We both were made to go through church school and Confirmation and all that, but we both stopped going to church after Confirma... | YTA. you could’ve just left it as “what would you do if i was gay” and not brought your brother into it especially when it sounds like you suspected he might be gay. joking about someone’s sexuality is never funny or okay, *especially* when you involve parties who aren’t fully supportive of all sexualities. more so, u... |
Hi, this story happened a year ago, before the pandemic. Basically me (20f) and a group of friends went on vacation on Malta for two weeks. In the group there was this girl (18f) who was a friend of a gay friend of mine (20m). Since we were 4 girls and 3 boys we booked two rooms with 4 beds. Now, I knew from the start ... | YTA. You could've just changed your clothes in the bathroom? Also just because she's lesbian doesn't mean she's comfortable to change clothes in front of the boys, so that is basically what she had to do after changing rooms and you could've done as well if you felt so uncomfortable around her. ###### |
Hey guys, I know the title sounds horrible but bear with me please.
I (23M) have recently started using Tinder. In the beginning it was just for fun because I was bored. I had no expectations from it and no intentions of really meeting someone. I matched with a couple of girls and started texting with some of them, b... | YTA. You could of still enjoyed a nice meal, a few drinks, and possibly good company/conversation. Then ended the date and parted ways. You could have even offered to go dutch if you were didn't want to pay for everything.
I know big girls may not be what you were expecting or attracted to, but like she is still a pe... |
All this Started over a simple mistake I made at a party, One thing lead to another, and I had sex with this girl. I was already dating a girl but I just got carried away at the party. The guilt came to me later on I couldn’t stand looking at my girlfriend and knowing what I did, So I had to talk to someone, and that ... | YTA. You cheated on your girlfriend and tried to minimize it. Fyi, cheating is not a “mistake”, it is a conscious choice. You betrayed your girlfriend destroyed your her trust. You should have told her immediately. Your sister was right to call you out on it. She should have given you more of a chance to confess inste... |
So me (31M) and my wife (23f) have been together 3 years, married close to two. We started living together shortly before getting married, and she was super messy. Even before we moved in together house was a total mess. According to her family, they never taught her to clean so she doesn't know better.
It always got... | YTA. You can just say the kitchen looks great. Or thanks for doing the dishes. Without sarcasm. Or you could say the kitchen looks great, is there anything I can do to help? ###### |
We were having a conversation with soon-to-be parents and I said something to the effect that you love your kids more than life. Later my asked me about it and I said, yes, I love our 8yo more than anything in the world. She said "so i guess I'm also not the love of your life?" I told her honestly she was not. My son i... | YTA. You can have different kinds of love for those in your life. Are you still going to love your son 100x more than your wife in ten years after he's moved out and he's an adult man? And you're living an empty nest with your wife? ###### |
Me (34f) and my spouse (34M) have been together for several years, always talked about having kids. But tbh the current situation due to the virus that won’t be named has made me completely change my mind. Our dogs wake me up before my alarm daily to be fed and now that I WFH I’m ALWAYS around them. It’s exhausting. ... | YTA. You can absolutely start birth control at anytime you want and decide you no longer want children at any point but making this decision while being married to a person that you know wants children and not telling them so they have a choice to stay in the relationship is wrong. ###### |
So I’m in college, and in the US we have a program called ROTC at most colleges and it’s kinda like a fast track to commissioning into the military. To be in the program, there are pretty strict physical fitness and BMI requirements to go further than halfway through the program.
Last month on of my friends from high... | YTA. You came off as massively condescending. If she flunks out of the course because of the physical requirements, then that's on her. She doesn't need your attitude weighing her down. ###### |
I (17f) was a bitch in middle school and first 2 years of high school. I admit it. I’m not proud of it, I don’t really even have an excuse for it. There was one girl I was really bad to... she was fat, weird, and kinda obnoxious but she’s cool now. and she and I recently got assigned to work in a partner project togeth... | YTA. You bullied her for what, 3-4 years?? She owes you nothing.
Also- you mention that you stopped, but did you ever actually apologize? Even if you did, she still doesn't owe you forgiveness though. ###### |
My oldest daughter is expecting her first child with her partner. She, I think, overshares when it comes to her pregnancy, but it's not my decision so I don't say anything. I see most of the updates on her Facebook, so really there's no need for me to ask her about the pregnancy when we talk, not that I really want to ... | YTA. You being uninterested in your own partner’s pregnancy is atrocious considering you are the father and it takes two to make a baby. Do you think carrying a baby for 9 months and birth is easy or something?
You are doubly the asshole for then being uninterested in your daughter’s pregnancy when it is not only on... |
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