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My(51f) daughter (25) says she is trans male, which means I guess she uses he/him pronouns in public and uses a different name, but doesn't say anything when I or her father call her by her birth name. Anyway, recently she got top surgery which is when she gets her breasts removed, and her boyfriend (27) has been takin... | YTA. Stop deadnaming and misgendering your son and start respecting who he is. No 25 year old needs permission from their parents to make choices about their own body.
If you keep going this way you’re not going to have a relationship with him at all. ###### |
I’m just so frustrated right now.
My (28M) wife (29F) continues to try to blame the fact that I’m not attracted to her on ME factors. Maybe it’s MY work, or MY family, MY weight.
Now it is MY hormone levels.
So my wife gave birth to our twins a year ago and since then I haven’t been attracted to her.
She’s had hu... | YTA. Stop comparing your wife, whose body went through pregnancy and birth of TWINS, to young college students who make you horny.
It might not be a medical issue, but yes you are the problem in this equation. ###### |
My mil came over the other day to see my kids and we were going to go to the park. She had a legit hickey on her neck, like the kind high schoolers have. I asked her about it and she said she mentioned to her fiancé how trashy they are so he held her down and fucking did that. I told her that that kind of makes him an ... | YTA. Stop being a prude.
Oh no, consenting adults like to do things to eachother!
Power to your MIL. ###### |
Some our friends invited us to this little cozy spot where they have karaoke or you can just sing some songs you wrote.
My wife used to be a singer when she was younger and when they asked if anyone from the crowd wanted to come up to the stage to sing, our table went crazy. Especially me. I heard my wife sing in the ... | YTA. Speaking as a singer, I would be so hurt if my partner walked out during a performance.
One of the things we're trained to do is to act in order to sell a song. We are entertainers and we know that a sad song about an old boyfriend will draw the audience in much more than a happy song about their current part... |
I’m a bisexual woman. Last night, I was at my brother’s house for dinner along with our parents. I admit I have a bit of a crush on my brother’s wife. She’s easily in my ‘Top 3 prettiest women I know’ list.
During the dinner, I was casually flirting with her. Nothing over the top. She didn’t seem to mind .
After we ... | YTA. Speaking as a bisexual woman myself, I'm saying you should be even MORE aware of how often women feel unable to speak up when they're uncomfortable with flirting. You crossed lines, even if you didn't intend you, and you owe her an apology. ###### |
Me (25M) and my (27F)girlfriend got into a heated debate about my (24F) roomate. Its not what it sounds like, my gf and roomate are very good friends. Ok, so my roomate is very filthy and I find myself doing most of the cleaning around our home. Even my girlfriend cleans up after her. My roomate will cook and leave eve... | YTA. Sounds like you’re a better boyfriend to your roommate than your actual girlfriend. ###### |
While my girlfriend was out of town, one of our cats peed in a laundry basket of her clothes. There was a lot of pee. It was really gross.
She is upset, however, because I did it without asking first, although she was hard to reach where she was. She says she would have washed them and not thrown them out. There were... | YTA. Sounds like you were just too lazy to wash them or even contact her to ask what to do with them. ###### |
So in our drama class, we decided to host a play. The play goes around the central theme of twins being mistaken for each other and deciding on taking advantage of that. The entire play is based on the fact that the twins are identical.
We decided on doing this play because my best friend has an identical twin, and t... | YTA. Sorry, but you already had a casting in mind and you wanted to rubber stamp it with a fake "fair" casting. You failed as a leader of the casting process at this point.
You did not specify that the two roles had to be filled by identical twins, so everyone should be able to participate and be cast and you did no... |
My wife is admittedly a gold digger and a damn good one. She always dated men who could take care of her and when I met her she was definitely looking for a husband to keep that up. I don’t care and I don’t think it means we never fell in love but she knew what she wanted.
Most of the women in my circle don’t like he... | YTA. Sorry, but that's fucking hilarious. She's trolling the people who talk shit about her. I doubt your reasons for marrying her were any less shallow and mercenary than hers; at least she's not ashamed of who she is and what she wants. She can write whatever she wants on her instagram. ###### |
I generally have a good relationship with my 19yo son. He was an only child until he was 9 when I remarried and my wife and I had another son. My son gets along very well with my 10yo son (his half-brother) and my wife (his step-mother).
My oldest was very mellow, almost meek as a kid. There were only a few times tha... | YTA. Someone living under the same roof as you had some valuable input you disagree with. Instead of gently ending the conversation, you went full-on nuclear "you can move out". That is, for a variety of reasons, a very bad idea. ###### |
My ex-husband came out as gay while I was pregnant. He has since moved across the country and decided being a parent was too much of a burden for his "new life" so I have sole custody. I'm now a single mother to an almost toddler.
I tried to "get back out there" with online dating when my baby was 6 months old. I'm n... | YTA. Some people don’t want kids and if they’re interested in you you’re building their hopes up and then dashing them when you mention you have a child. You don’t need to put a photo up but just a sentence to say you’re a single mother is ok. I’m dating out there at the moment and I personally don’t want to get to kn... |
A bit of a background story : my son (let's call him isaac ) and I along with his father and siblings moved to this new country 2 years ago where we dont have any friends , however , my side of the family lives near to my house and my husband's side of family lives in the same country but in a different city (90 km aw... | YTA. Some people are introverted and don’t want to hang out with others constantly. Your choice to tell Emma was also unfair and violated what trust your son had in you. ###### |
My friend (we’ll call her Irene) is 21, and had her daughter very young, she’s only 6 months.
Recently her and 2 of our friends were talking about having a weekend together, and Irene’s boyfriend would have their daughter. One of the girls in our “group” said we should all trip since we’ll have the night we get toget... | YTA. So, you’re young enough to think doing acid is a great idea, but old enough to judge Irene for doing the exact thing you want to do. Interesting logic. Everyone seems to have shades of asshole here, but you for being a hypocrite, mostly. ###### |
So I have a habit of calling out to people on bike/walking paths "passing left" and/or "plingeling" (the sound of a bike bell) when coming up from behind before passing whilst exercising, running or biking. This can be used together with a real bike bell but I've found that calling out is more noticeable. Here I hav... | YTA. So, you also run over jaywalkers right? Because it’s their fault, for not being safe? And if you see someone not wearing a seatbelt, you jump in front of their car to make them brake and realize their stupidity, right? If someone is going downstairs without holding onto the railing, you push them to remind them t... |
I don’t know if this is a regular occurrence, but I went into the kitchen last night about an hour after I told my girlfriend I was going to bed. She always pumps before bed so I assumed that was what she was doing.
When I walked into the kitchen she was sitting at the table and she picked up the bottle she pumps into... | YTA. So you never licked your own blood off of a cut before? Never licked a vagina? Never got aroused from the sight of a woman swallowing? Never *kissed* someone-- cause newsflash, your saliva is 10x more disgusting (and 50x more dangerous) than her milk. Never chewed your nails, one of the most *dirtiest* parts of y... |
Context: I go to uni and draw as a hobby and as a way to get some money. I did various drawing lessons when I was younger and Im a very qualified and talented artist.
So my aunt(42f), uncle(40sm) and my cousin(6m) are staying at my house(parents house), and today my cousin put his filthy kid hands at the sketch of a ... | YTA. So you jumped right to screaming at a small child who merely touched something?
>filthy kid hands
>if his parents don’t teach him manners, I will
>locked myself in my room afterwards
You sound like the child here and I bet the consensus will be pretty unanimous.
Edit: I see from your comment history that yo... |
After my son married his husband, I always assumed I would never have grandchildren ( I only have him and his sister, who’s husband is sadly infertile ). However they recently told our family that they are thinking about raising a kid.
Of course I’m extremely exited about this, so he has been keeping me updated on wha... | YTA. So when your son pointed out that it’s unfair for them to choose which one of them the kid would be biologically related to, it’s not that big of a deal. But when they’re talking about literally any other option, it’s a big deal and you want your grandkids to be biologically related to your son? You should probab... |
I'll make this short. My boyfriend is allergic to pineapple, not deathly but it is very unpleasant for him. Whenever we have a moment of frustration, I will eat something pineapple related as a joke and he'll get pouty for a moment. Afterwards I'll obviously go brush my teeth, wash my hands, and apologize/talk out the ... | YTa. So when you’re angry, you eat something your partner is allergic to rather than having an adult conversation and you wonder if you’re an asshole? Is this really a question you don’t know the answer to? ###### |
My girlfriend is turning 21 on the 25th.
She and her mom have had their problems, but she said she always comes around for her birthday and they apparently have an unspoken agreement that they don’t fight on each other’s birthdays.
I (36), had already planned a birthday dinner for my girlfriend to be held at my dad... | YTA. So many red flags here. You sound like a controlling elitist who thinks they can just throw money at any problem. Also, your girlfriend is celebrating her 21st birthday and you want to whisk her away to the Hamptons to spend it with a bunch of old people that she does not know? That says so much about your relati... |
A little context. I (M34) have always had a very sensitive sense of smell especially to unpleasant odors. They really bother me. I think I might be a super-smeller or something.
Anyways, this causes issues when my GF (F25) is having her special tie of the month. I understand that it is something that girls have to do... | YTA. So I guess your shit doesn't stink. Are your seriously over 30? Grow the fuck up dude. ###### |
I 20(f) have decided to live child free. I used to be really Close I’m older sister but once she had kids I cut back on the time we spent together. At one point I made it truly clear I can’t be around kids at all. My sisters husband is rich like really rich. So because of the pandemic he decided to rent a yacht for two... | YTA. So basically when it’s a two week getaway on a yacht suddenly you’re ok hanging out with your nieces/nephews otherwise you can’t be bothered? You’re a selfish asshole. ###### |
(Throwaway for obvious reasons.)
For some context, I (45M) have been dating this guy (42M) for around 4 years. We’ve had some pretty bad dips in our relationship, but I love him the same. He has three kids from his past marriage, two girls (16 and 12) and one boy (8M).
I have my own daughter (13). She has been diagno... | YTA. She’s diagnosed with a real disorder and you refuse to believe it and tell her she’s being too sensitive? What kind of shit parent does this? And why can’t you tell your stepson to chew with his mouth closed but your husband can scold your daughter? This poor kid. ###### |
She is upset with me for refusing to change my running pace now that she can't safely match it anymore.
I feel for her because I know it has to be hard to go through all of the bodily changes and give up something like this which has been a part of our relationship since we started dating nine years ago, but...I am ... | YTA. She's growing your kid dude. In a pandemic. The least you can do is move at her pace. Run at your speed at a different time. ###### |
I know that there are studies which say that it's good for bonding to hear the father's voice, but it makes me uncomfortable and feel silly. I am doing my best to prep for fatherhood, and I think that should count for something and she should cut me some slack here.
My wife is upset because she thinks I am not bonding... | YTA. She's carrying your child. It takes zero effort to be silly for ten seconds and talk to her belly.
You are going to have A LOT of uncomfortable moments as a parent; I'd recommend getting used to that now because if you can't do something as simple as this you're going to have a tough time later on. ###### |
My family and I belong to a small gym with a 6 lane, pool often times since it is shallow there is no lifeguard on duty and when there are most of them are chill. So my wife and 3 kids, 5m, 11f, and 9m all went to the pool, half of the pool was closed due to a class and the lane on our left was being used by a guy swi... | YTA. She wasn't power tripping at all, she was doing her job. There's a good chance you may have just cost the woman her job with this, since some places don't give you a chance. It doesn't matter if the lady said she didn't mind them playing catch, it's what the actual owners think of the matter. ###### |
I am French and my wife is British. Our daughter was born in France and has a French passport only. At least for the moment. At home we speak English so my kid's French skill is very poor (shame on me for not speaking French more). She is starting school in France now.
So we're filling up forms for her school and m... | YTA. She was right and you knew what she meant. Also, from what you’ve written, your kid is a dual French and British national even if she doesn’t have the passport yet.
And, jeez, speak French to your kid! Why on earth would you blow this opportunity to teach her to be bilingual?! ###### |
I (29m) live with my girlfriend (26f). She is a wonderful cook and amazing at baking, but she doesn’t do it very often because she thinks it’s too much effort to do it just for herself. She generally eats 4 times a day.
Breakfast, lunch, afternoon tea and then dinner.
Her country was a British colony and afternoon ... | YTA. She shouldn’t have to stop doing something she enjoys (baking and having afternoon tea) just because you have no self-control. No one is forcing you to participate. You’re an adult. Time to grow the hell up and start taking responsibility for your own choices. ###### |
My GF has asked for space after our recurrent arguments and stated her family was angry w/me for some of what I said. But we have continued to text and call throughout said space. So yesterday I figured I'd go to her house (while she was not there) to visit them and just to blunt the blow of their anger toward me. N... | YTA. She said she needed space and you mutually agreed to spend a little bit of time apart. You should have honored that by not coming around where you KNOW she lives and would likely be. ###### |
I really don't like my boyfriend's mom. She's very bitchy and holier than thou. She has a three year old daughter who accidentally broke my phone when she knocked it into her pool. It was an iphone7 and I paid about $700 it, so she said she would give me $1,000 to replace it. I thought that was fair. She asked me if I ... | YTA. She offered a couple of reasonable ways to pay you back, but you refused to do either of those. She can’t force you to accept a check, but in the same vein, you can’t force her to drive to the bank and take out $1000 that day. If you want to wait for cash, you’re going to have to accept that it might take a while... |
I(25M) have an older brother who I'll call bro (30M) who is father to his daughter, G(5F). Recently, he had found out that his Fiancé(31F) had unprotected intercourse with someone else (open relationship) and that G might not be his. Bro is emotionally attached to this child, as a father would be, so even if G wasn't h... | YTA. She might not be biologically related to you but as soon as your brother made the choice to raise her as his own, she became family. You’re punishing a child for what? Why is it your business if your brother is blood related to a child he is choosing to raise? It’s not like the fiancé cheated; they are in an open... |
I (25f) was supposed to get married late April. Due to COVID, we decided to postpone. We've been postponing and finally our venue is opening up, but they've said we can only bring 20 guests. We originally had a guest list of over a 100 people, but due to the pandemic a lot of them backed out and said they'd attend over... | YTA. She is pregnant and doesn’t want to deal with the stress of a wedding at her house not to mention she said she didn’t want to attend because of COVID so your solution is.....to have it at her house? Huge YTA ###### |
My wife was on facebook and saw a picture of her grandmother and got sad that she's looking older. She went on to say that she wishes she could get back to where her family lives more, which comes up pretty frequently. I asked her why she chose to move out here if this was going to be a constant issue. I guess what I s... | YTA. She is missing her family. While it's normal that families who live 2000 miles apart cannot meet regularly, criticizing her is AH behavior.
It sounds like an underlying issue is thay you don't like her family, which is a different issue.
Instead of saying you're too poor to go more often, you should work with ... |
I knew this was coming. My daughter brought a "friend" back from college at the end of last year that I suspected was her actual girlfriend. My thing is, if my daughter is a lesbian, I don't want to know. I'm homophobic. I admit it, I am. I don't hate gay people personally, and I think they should all be respected, but... | YTA. She doesn’t want to tell you about her *sex life*, she wants to tell you about her *relationship* that’s *important to her*. You’re not asking her to peacefully coexist, you’re expecting her to hide a huge part of herself from you. ###### |
Throwaway because my daughter has reddit.
I (45m) live with my wife (43f) and two daughters (18f and 11f). The housework in our home is done mostly by my wife - she does the cleaning and cooking while I do the shopping and mowing the lawn.
The thing is, the older daughter doesn't help around as much as someone her ... | YTA. She does all the chores you ask her to do. How can you possibly expect her to do something for you when you don’t tell her you want it done? It’s not like she’s lazy; she DOES do her chores. ###### |
We were having a family cookout and my kids were playing with their toys. I teach them to clean up their messes and they are starting to get the concept. But on occasion, they leave something on the floor and ill pick up the toy after them. My mom sometimes raises her voice at them but I've always held back because the... | YTA. She didn’t insult your kids my dude, she insulted you. And she’s right. Clean up after your children if it’s not your house. Her wording shows that this is a recurring problem. ###### |
My daughter is 17 and ever since she was 11, she's had an entrepreneurial spirit. She would setup stands, get in trouble at school for sealing things to classmates, etc. It's never really been a problem.
Recently she's been working really hard on some side hustles along with her job. I didn't really understand what sh... | YTA. She clearly does know how to handle money since she has $150k. Give it back, but maybe in a bank account instead of PayPal. ###### |
Ok so breakdown of the situation, my partner and I both work but she leaves for work(hairdresser) at 7:30 i leave at 8:30 (Electrician). She gets up in the morning and usually heads to the gym and then comes home to get ready for work and I like to sleep in as I usually get home later and prefer to stay up a little lat... | YTA. She asked you for support — and a pretty small amount of it. If she did this every day that would be one thing, but one time? If you can’t make her toast one time when she’s running late and overwhelmed, then I can’t imagine you’re bringing much to the relationship. ###### |
I love my (27m) wife (30f). I do. But this greatly annoys me.
My wife decided on a whim about a year ago that she wanted to learn Spanish. We didn't have money for lessons, so she borrowed a Spanish textbook and some kind of dictionary with pictures of objects labelled in both English and Spanish. Made a ton of flash ... | YTA. She **is** teaching herself Spanish. Why are you intent on cutting down what your wife is accomplishing?!
She has stuck with it a year and she knows far more Spanish than many people. And she's continuing to learn.
You sure don't sound proud of her. You sound jealous of the positive responses she's getting. ##... |
My daughter (16f) is really introverted, and doesn't really play any sports, so my husband and I decided to fill up her schedule with afterschool activities every day. She has robotics two days a week, tennis practice three days a week, and band practice for two days a week. She was strongly against it, but went along ... | YTA. Seriously, THREE extracurriculars she’s not even into? There’s pushing your kid, then there’s just being mean. She’s not broken, and even if she was this wouldn’t fix anything.
You’re just pushing her away. Although that maybe that’s your goal. All those activities will keep her out of the house, until she has ... |
I (21M) like to be naked at home. I’m most comfortable when I’m au naturale, and I refuse to apologize for it. My sister (25F) has been having some financial difficulties due to the current situation, and she asked me if it was okay if she crashed on my couch for a bit. She’s my sister, so of course I said yes. Lately ... | YTA. Seriously, I can see why she'd feel weird about seeing her brother naked. It's common courtesy that you cover up in front of guests unless they are comfortable with nudity. ###### |
My daughter is a 16F.
She has recently started practicing witchcraft at her father's and has told me about it.
I do not like this AT ALL. It goes against our religion (I am a Devout Catholic). I have told her she isn't allowed to practice it and she then tells me that the BIBLE involves witchcraft??? She also gives m... | YTA. Say it with me. It goes against YOUR religion. I guarantee you also believe a lot of bs churches have fed you about paganism being evil and it’s just not true. It’s bullshit, as I said. You can’t claim it goes against “our” religion when she clearly doesn’t share that religion. There’s nothing I can’t stand more ... |
My cousin \[18F\] finished high school some time ago and made a post on Facebook that she now decided to give her books for free and if we need the books to contact her. Luckily, I was one of the first to see the post and immediately messaged her because I need the books for this year and next and they are ridiculousl... | YTA. Posting books to another country is expensive. You honestly expected her to pay for that?
Publicly posting about it was totally out of line. ###### |
I (29M) live in a fairly affluent part of a city and I work for a more traditional firm. Admittedly they are a little behind the times in terms of dress codes (they still require full business attire unless you're in your cube/office).
I made a lot of friends working there and I have adapted to their style and customs... | YTA. Policing someone else’s body, especially when they don’t work for your conservative firm and are just living their lives, is a douche move. There’s nothing wrong with nose rings, and you should really think about how you view others, as it seems to be through a very narrow and unforgiving lens influenced by corpo... |
My gf has been working on improving her health and skin and one of the thing she’s doing is trying drink enough water each day. I don’t keep track of it but she seems to be doing pretty well, I always see her drinking water. But the issue is... she still drinks a can of soda once a week or so, sometimes less. I noticed... | YTA. Policing and denying food under the claim of being concerned for her health? Nah. You’re just an asshole. ###### |
So my wife is extremely into beauty & skincare. It’s a benefit for me because it means she’s really good looking and takes good care of herself.
She buys a lot of beauty products (her money) and they take up a lot of space in the bathroom. This doesnt bother me because skincare belongs in the bathroom.
Recently I... | YTA. Plenty of high quality skincare products require refrigeration. I have a mask sitting in my fridge right now. You’re not only the asshole in this situation but you are completely wrong. It was in the fridge because that’s where it belongs. Replace it. ###### |
Son is 14M, cat is 3F. My son’s bedroom is one the third floor of our house, so it’s basically a finished attic. Early in the morning, a thunderstorm rolled in. It was pretty brutal, and it shook the house especially up in his room. I yelled up to him to come downstairs to the first floor, just in case something happen... | YTA. Pets are not just items that can be replaced. If you can get your pet to safety, you absolutely should. Your son wasn’t in imminent danger and had more than enough time to get his pet out of harm’s way. ###### |
I don’t want to go too much into my medical issues, but I’m in week 15 of my pregnancy and my doctors told me I had an incompetent cervix.
Long story short, their recommendation was that I go on modified bed rest until the baby is born.
However, I happen to be leading a project at work. This project is one I’m extre... | YTA. Perhaps the biggest A I've ever seen on this subreddit. And I will tell you why.
**You are already aware of your incompetent cervix and apparently do not care.** Your doctor has likely explained the risks to you, and **you** have decided they are not important. You would rather go about your business. You're alr... |
My (30) girlfriend (23) is having trouble sleeping lately. She has nightmares every night in a row for a week now and we don't know where they come from or how to get rid of them. She stayed over at my place yesterday and she moved and sweat a lot in her sleep wich made me to also wake up a lot and have a bad night.
S... | YTA. People get cranky when they don't sleep. If she was actively trying to keep herself awake you might have a point, but instead she's having horrible nightmares and night sweats. These things are out of her control. It's not like drinking alcohol AT ALL and the fact that you equated it to that is, frankly, disgusti... |
Some our friends invited us to this little cozy spot where they have karaoke or you can just sing some songs you wrote.
My wife used to be a singer when she was younger and when they asked if anyone from the crowd wanted to come up to the stage to sing, our table went crazy. Especially me. I heard my wife sing in the ... | YTA. People can have feelings and put emotion into songs - part of a performance is conveying exactly that. This whole thing reeks of insecurity and a rational adult would have talked with their spouse instead of walking out partway through the first song and not being supportive of their spouse. ###### |
This is a throwaway account. I (20F) was at home three months ago when my mom offed herself. She was a vile woman so I honestly didn't care.
She left completely out of her will and left her estate, vehicles, and everything else to my brother. My brother is a homicide detective and already makes good money.
I had be... | YTA. Out of all the stuff in here, the thing that stood out to me the most was that you used your mother's note as a way to try and manipulate your brother into giving you his property.
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I hope you're a troll. ###### |
I have a 20 year old daughter. Shes always struggled badly with her mental health, all stemming from her dad passing away when she was 7. The way she’s always dealt with this is eating. Last year she went through a stage where she’d stay home from university simply to order a McDonalds, and this happened every day with... | YTA. One cause of over eating is low self esteem. Guess who is causing that?
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Love her unconditionally or give her enough money to move out. ###### |
I am French and my wife is British. Our daughter was born in France and has a French passport only. At least for the moment. At home we speak English so my kid's French skill is very poor (shame on me for not speaking French more). She is starting school in France now.
So we're filling up forms for her school and m... | YTA. One British parent and one French parent makes child both, with or without a passport. ###### |
I (19F) got my boyfriend(20M) of 3 years a switch back in January as a gift. We're both university students so money is kinda tight, but I saved up and I was finally able to buy it for him because he'd been talking about it for about a year. It was $600 for the switch, a game and the tax, so it wasn't exactly a small g... | YTA. Once you give someone a gift, you no longer get to control what they do with it. I know you spent a lot of money and this bothers you but it’s his and if he wants to let his friend borrow it for a couple days, he can. ###### |
I’m just so frustrated right now.
My (28M) wife (29F) continues to try to blame the fact that I’m not attracted to her on ME factors. Maybe it’s MY work, or MY family, MY weight.
Now it is MY hormone levels.
So my wife gave birth to our twins a year ago and since then I haven’t been attracted to her.
She’s had hu... | YTA. Oh, buddy. This not going to go well for you. ###### |
Well, that’s basically it. My wife was serious about applying to a part-time receptionist job at my company that would pay about half of what she makes now. Considering that we have three children, it would be difficult, not impossible, to continue the humble lifestyle we have (we’re not rich by any means) but we make ... | YTA. Of course you're an asshole for lying to your wife. You need to actually listen to what she's telling you about her unhappiness in her job, communicate your concerns, and make a plan to together. What you did was sneaky and infantilizing. Tell her what you did and apologize ASAP. ###### |
A few days ago she said she need a text book for school. I’ve been buying her textbooks since freshmen year but since she has a job now, I make her pay a lot of her own things now that aren’t a necessity. The textbook that she needed was $100 on top of some literature books that were about $25. I told her if she bough... | YTA. Of course you are. You are responsible for making sure she has educational supplies, and a textbook is not on the list of "things that aren't a necessity." ###### |
I have had a dream wedding date my entire life. I'm finally engaged, and my fiance and I wanted to book our wedding right away. However, my dream date is the weekend before his sister's wedding.
He called his parents to tell him and they said they thought it was too close, but that he should talk to his sister; they w... | YTA. Of course the weekend before his sister's wedding is too close. Why would you think it isn't? If it's your "dream wedding date" you could have planned it for the next year but if you can't wait to start having children then plan it for another day.
You're going to have to compromise on something.
She clearly s... |
My husband is deployed overseas. While he tries to communicate with us as often as possible, sometimes his internet access is minimal.
My daughter has made it no secret that she hates school. At the end of first semester, her teachers said she would be getting held back and she said she wanted to drop out.
Before m... | YTA. Of course she hated being in school. Who didn't? School sucked.
Replace modeling with twitch streaming, youtubing, etc and ask yourself if you'd be okay with this.
You have facilitated her permanently marring her future because "school sucks mom, who needs chemistry anyway"
You did breach your husband's trust,... |
Okay so first of all, yes my username is a joke, and no, I’m not Chinese.
Anyway, I (28M) am going to get married to my fiancée (28F) once covid is all over. Recently, I got one of those AncestryDNA/23AndMe DNA tests to find out all about my genetic ancestral history.
I’m an super curious about what my future wife’... | YTA. Not wanting a third party to have your genetic info is both common and smart. You also know basically what race your children will be, and it also doesn’t matter. ###### |
So my brother and I have kept a list of my parents quotes that they say to us. Everything to calling me a "massive waste of potential" to accusing me of child p\*rn because I have a vpn. The list is big and still growing. Next year I graduate HS, and unless I absolutely fail, I'm going to be either Valedictorian or Sal... | YTA. Not to your parents though, to yourself. This isn’t going to end how you think. You’re going to cause yourself unnecessary grief and unfortunately your parents won’t learn that they suck. You still rely on them in some ways, so you’d be cutting your nose off to spite your face. Be gracious. Be kind. Walk away wit... |
I (22f) was visiting my sister’s (24f) house this weekend and I went outside to watch my 4 year old nephews (we’ll call them Milo and Otis) play in their sandbox.
Milo started eating sand, and I told him to stop, but he didn’t and said he does it all the time. He kept doing it and I figured I should just let it go be... | YTA. not sure why you would take a 4 year old at their word that they’re allowed to eat rocks “all the time”. If you’re not familiar with kids, you could’ve checked with your sister instead of just letting it happen. ###### |
She was induced and in labor for over 24 hours. Not all of it was active labor, and I probably could have gone home and slept and showered at some point, but she didn't want me to leave in case something happened.
A few hours after she had our baby and they both were okay and not in danger, I told her I was going hom... | YTA. Not only did you leave right after the birth when she didn't want you to, it sounds like you would have left *during* labor if she hadn't asked you not to. Really, dude? You also didn't check if she'd have any help caring for the baby in those six hours, when she needed rest much more than you did. Sounds like yo... |
I’m a bisexual woman. Last night, I was at my brother’s house for dinner along with our parents. I admit I have a bit of a crush on my brother’s wife. She’s easily in my ‘Top 3 prettiest women I know’ list.
During the dinner, I was casually flirting with her. Nothing over the top. She didn’t seem to mind .
After we ... | YTA. Not only are you flirting with a MARRIED WOMAN, it’s your BROTHER’S wife. If he approached you and said it made her uncomfortable, she probably talked to your brother about this. Please leave the poor girl alone. ###### |
This is a throwaway for obvious reasons, but a couple of days ago it was my friend’s birthday and my friend came out as gay and she was accepted by her whole group except for me. Now I am not homophobic but I don’t like gay people. We had a party where I pulled her into a separate room and told her to drop the act, she... | YTA. Not liking gay people is homophobic, and it's not a phase ###### |
I work at a call center in a cubicle and I hate it, which is why I've recently decided to go to college and get a degree. I was telling one of my co-workers about this and when he asked why I wanted to go to college, I said to him "I just want to improve my chances of getting a real job." That's when my friend got all ... | YTA. Not for wanting another job or to go to college.
But for denigrating someone else’s job, even if you do it too. The others are right by calling you elitist. That’s such a low thing to do. ###### |
My (27M) girlfriend (25 F) the other night mentioned she was thinking of getting a piercing below her lip. I pretty much just said "ok" as I am not into piercings and didn't want to encourage her to get one nor did I want to stop her as it is her choice ultimately.
She asked me what I thought about it and I decided to... | YTA. Not for disliking piercings, but because of the way you use that dislike to generalize about people who have them. ###### |
I (21M) proposed to my girlfriend(22F) last week. When i proposed to her she was overjoyed and accepted my proposal. Yesterday my girlfriend asked me how much the ring cost and where i bought it from .When i told her that it was worth 200$ ,she lost it and told me that i shouldn't have been cheap for such a moment. I t... | YTA. Not for buying the cheap ring, but for your reasoning behind it. If you think diamonds are a waste of money then fine, but telling her that you don’t trust her not to dump you is pretty shitty.
Her reaction to the price is a bit assholey, but you are the bigger asshole ###### |
I (42f) have a daughter (19f). She’s a university student, but has moved home because her university closed down and turned to online classes.
English is not our first language, but it’s a compulsory part of our syllabus. My daughter was very good at it, did English as a first language, when most do English as a seco... | YTA. Not for asking her to pull her weight. That is reasonable. For not lighting a fire under your son and allowing him to waste her time like that with zero consequence. ###### |
A year ago my GF moved to my country and we met soon after. We have been together for almost a year. Her dad suddenly passed away about a month ago and she flew home for a week to attend the funeral. Because she hasn't lived here long she does not have a strong support system here besides me, all her close friends/fami... | YTa. Not because you went on vacation, but because you seem to unaware of your girlfriend needing someone to lean on right now. Why not take her with you? Or at least set aside time to call her and check in? ###### |
My (26) mom’s (46) best friend (f52) was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer 6 years ago. She made it to the 15-20% survival rate. She was a beautiful person. She’s been in my life since I was 2 years old.
Even though she was on heavy doses of pain meds over the years she always randomly texted me telling me she love... | YTA. Not because what you said is wrong, but because it’s too soon to say it.
Your mom absolutely didn’t need someone telling her how she SHOULD feel in that moment. She needed support in what she was ACTUALLY feeling. And then later, much later, you can say what you said. ###### |
I really don't like my boyfriend's mom. She's very bitchy and holier than thou. She has a three year old daughter who accidentally broke my phone when she knocked it into her pool. It was an iphone7 and I paid about $700 it, so she said she would give me $1,000 to replace it. I thought that was fair. She asked me if I ... | YTA. No one carries that much cash on them. She tried two other ways to pay you. If you had asked her to instead give you cash next time you saw them, that would be more acceptable. ###### |
Our son is 6 and his half sister 4. They barely see each other, my ex tries get them to hang out with each other all the time for they can get to know each other. I'm against it because I don't want to throw anyone new in his life while he's so Young.
My ex came to pick up his son for the weekend. I guess during thi... | YTA. My son has a half brother through his dad. My son refers to him as his brother and never in a million years did I think to tell him “that’s not your real brother, that’s your half brother”.
It makes me wonder, if YOU were to ever have more children, will you tell your son “this isn’t your REAL sibling, this is ... |
I always wanted to send my children to private school if I could afford it.
When my first kid (19m) was younger I could have afforded to send him to private, but it would have taken most of mine and my wife’s income. It would’ve made it near impossible to go on fancy holidays, ever buy a new car, get good Christmas p... | YTA. My dad allways says his legacy to us is education because that could never be taken away from us. He is right. You have shit priorities. And shit opinions, if you think your oldest doesnt know his brother is your favorite and its being greedy... My god you are naive. BTW, I went to private school having none of m... |
So when my wife and I were dating we had a pregnancy scare. She told me one day that she hadn't been feeling well, that her boobs felt heavy, her nipples were a lot darker than usual, and she felt nauseated but, she didn't think she was pregnant because she had two periods very close together within like two weeks of e... | YTA. Most miscarriages happen in the first trimester before a woman even knows for sure that she’s pregnant. They confuse implantation bleeding for a period or hormonal spotting. Her reasoning for not going to the doctor was because she didn’t want to confirm what she felt like she already knew. Even if you didn’t thi... |
I've been teaching my daugher how to swim and she's got everything down pat, but she's just scared to go into the deep end.
So today I snuck up on her and pushed her in.
She disappeared under water for a bit, but when she came back, our lessons kicked in and she started swimming. She said, "Look, Daddy, I'm swimming!... | YTA. More for your daughter to grow and learn by conquering her fear of the deep end on her own terms then being forced into it by someone she trusted in an act that was, at the very least, obnoxious. You're lucky she still trusts you.
Also for insisting on doing it again despite your wife's feeling on it. Children h... |
Hello reddit, my husband told me that I was an asshole for the way I acted but I don't think so. Please take a moment to read and share your opinion on this.
My daughter \[17F\] came to me yesterday and told me that she would like to see a therapist as her mental state has been down ever since she broke up with her ex... | YTA. Maybe she wants to talk to someone unbiased. ###### |
I 16m and my sister 14f live in Korea, but we are American expats. We live in Seoul and were in vacation in Busan. My parents wanted us out of the hotel and told us to leave for like 4 hours. Unfortunately the only restaurant that wasn't completly crowded or opened was some seafood restaurants. My sister hates seafood,... | YTA. Lying to people about what they’re eating is a dick move.
You are not responsible for her palate. Don’t act like you are.
Besides that, being deceitful is a sure fire way to guarantee she’ll never try new foods ever again. Try using encouragement. ###### |
I am a fifth-grade teacher. Last year I had a student who had a family that very difficult to deal with and was going through a divorce and the grandparents were overbearing and very hard. The student was a very average student not exceptional or bright, but her mother tended to believe she was beyond gifted. So we sw... | YTA. Looking at your comments, you were informed during the school year that the child had internet problems and issues at home, you weren’t reporting the grades so her mom thought she was still receiving A’s and B’s until July, when you decided to calculate in attendance and then she had D’s. You even said the mom im... |
My SO wants her ex’s father to walk her down the aisle
Pretty much what the title says. My SO & I got engaged recently & she dropped this on me last night. She dated her ex for 6 years & got really close to the family.
I don’t want her ex’s family that involved in our wedding, but she insists that he’s t... | YTA. Lightly, and you’re allowed to have feelings on the situation, but YTA. She is closest to him, he was probably a father figure when her Dad died. Your Dad is also likely a father figure, but clearly she is closer with ex’s dad. Let him walk her down the aisle. She is marrying you and not his son after all. ###### |
My daughter is currently a senior in high school and for as long as i can remember she has wanted to be a musician. My MIL went to Julliard and made it big in the industry. I don't want to give any details because I think some people might recognize her name, and it is hard to teach my daughter that just because her g... | YTA. Let the Julliard admission's office decide. Rejection is part of the human experience. She'll get it out of her system and she'll be inspired to try something else *then*, when someone who is *actually* educated in such matters decides. NEVER take away someone's fuel-- you'll be sorry when she's aimless. ###### |
I'm a shift lead at a fast food joint.
Here's the deal, I have this worker, Shannon (18f) who is on the shy side. I'm not saying she's ugly but when compared to the other girls working, eh, lets just say she doesn't get a lot of attention. It's Saturday, it's busy, I have 3 cashiers and Shannon running food and bussin... | YTA. Let me count the ways.
1. You pass judgement on employees based on their looks.
2. You observed Joe harassing Shannon and did nothing.
3. When Shannon informs you why she is in a closet crying, your response is to tell her to get back on the floor or get written up.
4. When you discussed things with your mana... |
My roommate has this weird hobby where she listens to FM radio for hours on end. She has several radios, and sets up all these things so that she can pull in as distant a station as possible. Today, she brought home this $200 thing that's the size of my desktop. She was raving about how "good" of a deal it was, even th... | YTA. Keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself. ###### |
My fiancée and I have been engaged for a year now. We've just been stuck looking for the right time and place but we found one and chose a destination wedding in September. We found out she was pregnant three weeks ago and we're excited about that. Until today I didn't think that'd change anything but apparently it doe... | YTA. Just postpone it. I wouldn’t want to be a pregnant bride either. Her parents are recouping most of your loss so it’s really not that big of a deal. ###### |
Just to be clear she has seen the kids. My husband put his foot down and since she isn't super close to the kids I don't have a problem with it. My MIL doesn't like me very much and she would rather not be close to my children and not babysit than have to follow any rules. In general we just don't have anything in comm... | YTA. Just because you she's dropped and heard she won't hypothetically give you or the kids a kidney doesnt mean she is a negative influence on their lives ###### |
My husband was previously married to a woman who was physically unable to have children so they adopted my stepdaughter when she was nine months old. I didn't meet her until she was 19 and thank god because I don't think I would have been able to deal with her. She is incredibly spoiled. When we moved we had to get rid... | YTA. Just because she is adopted doesn't mean she isn't his daughter. He made the decision to adopt her and has been her father for almost 100% of her life. ###### |
I am now in extremely shitty situation. My daughter(Jane) cut all contact with me after my wife made some racist comments about her bf. I agree what she did is disgusting but Jane told me choose either between her or wife. How the hell I am supposed to do that. TBH my wife comes from racist family I called her out many... | YTA. Jesus, YTA. The wedding money is the least of it, FFS, you chose a racist over your own daughter. Hell, YTA for marrying the racist in the first place, surely if she's "from a racist family" she let those colors show before you married her. You purposely brought this awful person into their lives, *married* her, ... |
I (42f) have a daughter (19f). She’s a university student, but has moved home because her university closed down and turned to online classes.
English is not our first language, but it’s a compulsory part of our syllabus. My daughter was very good at it, did English as a first language, when most do English as a seco... | YTA. Its time to take the electronics away and parent your child to do his homework. Your daughter has her own classes to do, and tutoring is not normally for 6 hours a day. An hour a day is fine, but making her be in charge of him finishing his homework is too much. ###### |
I (19F) got my boyfriend(20M) of 3 years a switch back in January as a gift. We're both university students so money is kinda tight, but I saved up and I was finally able to buy it for him because he'd been talking about it for about a year. It was $600 for the switch, a game and the tax, so it wasn't exactly a small g... | YTA. Its a gift and he can do whatever he wants with it. Asking him what to do/not to do is controlling. ###### |
Throwaway because I’m not sure if my children are on Reddit.
I have two kids with a four year age gap, my oldest, Sara, is 26 and my youngest, Bella, is 22. Sara went to undergraduate school and her father and I supported her by paying half of her living expenses and college tuition. We did the same for Bella. They b... | YTA. It’s the middle of a pandemic. She’s literally just got a job and there’s hardly much job security going around right now. You can’t give your kid a break for a year? In a pandemic, whilst she gets settled and can start saving? ###### |
My friend draws art in her spare time and frequently does commissions. I asked her if she could draw something for me and she charged the standard price, which I found a bit steep. I asked if she could just count this as doing a favor for a friend and do it for free and she laughed and called me cheap as a joke.
I did... | YTA. It’s tacky. She earns money from it and why would she paint something for free when she could be earning some cash. ###### |
She has recently become very into recycling and conservation, which is fine, but she now has taken to needling myself and our kids over behaviors she disapproves of even though in my opinion they're minor issues which shouldn't bother her so much. I've tried to be supportive as much as possible until she started compla... | YTA. It’s really not hard at all to keep your trash and recyclables separate. It’d be annoying to me too if you kept doing it over and over since she’s making an effort and you’re clearly not. ###### |
My (43F) daughter (17F) and I got in an argument about this today and we are at an impasse. She suggested we post here to see who is right and I thought, hell why not. Could be an interesting little experiment.
Here is my side:
When out and about, I am very honest when people ask me how I am doing or how my day is go... | YTA. It’s one thing to be honest and say “not great,” it’s another to unburden yourself on others and basically vent to whoever you want. It’s not the job of virtual strangers to help you process your emotions. This isn’t “honesty,” it’s over sharing and it’s selfish. I would be embarrassed and frustrated to deal with... |
We are both 17...So i don't see my girlfriend very much, maybe once a week, her birthday was on August 30th.
My girlfriend didn't do anything for her birthday (including me at least), so i made her a nice video which she said she liked. That night we were on a call and i asked if i was an Ahole for not getting her a p... | YTA. It’s okay though, it’s important to learn these lessons as a kid. Every relationship is different but if gifts on birthdays are expected, it’s important you prepare for that.
Also, try not to use someone else’s doing to excuse your poor actions. ###### |
I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years and we have two kids. I’ve always had the impression his mom didn’t like me but she’s never said anything. His mom was wealthy on her own and probably made on the higher end of six figures. She’s been with her fiancé for about a year and a half and I think he might be a million... | YTA. It’s his money, not even hers. Also, STOP judging how people spend their money. You don’t like the fact that some people are super wealthy and other are struggling? Neither do I, but not congratulating because of an expensive ring is plain stupid. ###### |
This just happened. I (21F) am upset at my SO (22M). One of our cats got tangled in his earphones while he was watching a video in bed, the cat scratched his foot trying to detangle. (not serious but a decent couple scratches)
He went to go disinfect and put a bandage on it. But he saw we were out of gauze pads, we al... | YTA. It’s a singular tampon. Ask him for a dollar or two if the cost means that much and be done with it. There’s no rational reason why one tampon should make you so angry that you have to leave the room.
It’s a TAMPON. He didn’t take your phone or eat your leftovers or use your shirt to mop the floor.
And withou... |
This happened a few hours ago.
My parents are divorced. Throughout quarantine I (M17) have spent most of my time in my room when at my mom's (F46) apartment. I go down to the living room/kitchen area a few times a day to get food and see what's going on with my mother and sister (F15).
Today I hadn't eaten all day,... | YTA. It’s a bathing suit, grow up. She was sitting there minding her own business and you came out of your room with a problem and demanded she change right that very second. It took her a whole 5 minutes to get up? God forbid 🙄
Edit: she’s a saint for just taking you to your dad’s after that ‘bullshit’ comment caus... |
I took a trip and brought a game (an old-school RPG called Lunar if anyone's wondering) I've been wanting to play. The airplane was loud so I figured I'll play it with the sound on and without headphones. After a few minutes, the person next to me who was working on a laptop gave me a dirty look and asked me passive ... | YTA. It's rude to make others listen to the sound of your music, movie or game on an airplane. On a game in particular, the little noises it makes can make it impossible to sleep or read a book. By contrast, airplane noises are largely white noise and easy to ignore. ###### |
Me and my girl went to grab food. While we were heading there I got a call from a friend that I also do some gigs with. I'm ordering food while still on the phone. Some times passes and we take our food to go home. I tell her let's just eat in the car because I'm still on the phone. Eventually 30 minutes passes by the ... | YTA. It's really rude when you're in the company of another person - especially sharing a meal - to spend 30+ minutes on the phone. You basically told your GF that because of the money you spend on her, you don't owe her love, companionship, conversation and your attention. ###### |
I went on vacation for a week and setup an autoresponder, for colleagues only. The autoresponder mentioned when I was coming back and gave instructions for who to contact in case of emergency. Finally, the message also said something along these lines: *"If this is really important, I would recommend you send it again ... | YTA. It's massively unprofessional.
>>It is part of your job to read /reply to work emails<<
Writing: "I'm going to mass delete everything when I get back, I don't care how inconvenient it is to you, resend all emails after my vacation because I can't be bothered to pay attention and sort through them properly like... |
Because I (29f) worked in fast food/restaurants during high school and early adulthood, I put in my best effort to be courteous to the worker. Usually, when I'm with friends or family and we have a split order (they pay for their food, I pay for mine) I make sure we go inside instead of drive thru to avoid extra hassle... | YTA. It's a drive-thru, where people wait in line to get their orders. I think it is entitled of you to want to spend time splitting up orders, and then wasting more time questioning their policy. Just pay the bill and figure out later who owes what. That's what ATMs are for. ###### |
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