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My girlfriend has a medium sized dog, idk what breed, im not much of a dog person. He seems to really like me a lot though and always comes to me and I don't like it. What pisses me off though is he likes to ran his snout into my ass. Im laying down, standing or bending over and the dog will just ram his snout into my ... | YTA. Dude, clean your asshole and this wouldn’t be a problem. Also, if you hate dogs so much, don’t date people with dogs? Because your strategy of getting pissed and saying she needs to “lock her dog up” is not going to start working anytime soon. People love their pets, they are family, and no one is gonna pick some... |
My friend (Lets call him Kenny 17m) posted to his instagram his new computer he built and his caption was "I can't believe I actually was able to build a computer by myself" his computer setup was just meh, it looked like any average modern day setup. Everyone in the comments was congratulating him saying stuff like "B... | YTA. Dude was just proud of himself for achieving something he didn’t think he could do. Then you come along and spread negativity on him. Be happy for someone, rather than pulling them down. ###### |
So for whatever reason my 15y/o daughter has taken a real issue with saying “I love you” or hugs, I’ve spoken to her about it but she just kind of laughs it off.
I’ll say goodnight love you and she’ll say something like “Ha! Ok good for you” now I’d take that personal if she didn’t also say it to my husband and her ... | YTA. Don't force her to hug people she doesn't want to hug. It's her body. Have an actual conversation with her about why she feels weird about saying "I love you" (which could just be normal teenager stuff) but don't force her to touch or be touched by people when she doesn't want to. It doesn't matter who they are.
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I (29M) and my gf (30F) moved in due to the pandemic. As a result of Covid, we have inevitably had to start working from home. We both work pretty difficult (sujectively) jobs that require a pretty significant amount of our time during the week + weekend. I would however say that my work is significantly more flexible ... | YTA. Don't expect someone working 60h+ weeks to do 50/50 of the house work. Especially when you're not working nearly as many hours and you have a much more flexible work routine. You're literally getting angry at your gf for her work overloading the fuck out of her. You're being incredibly unreasonable. ###### |
My 8yo is all boy. We were at Target buying some new clothes because he's growing and I let him decide what he wanted. He came back with nothing noticeable pair of girl shorts. The ones that are inches higher than boy shorts. I thought it was a mistake but he picked it out. The shorts were grey and neutral and not pink... | YTA. Do you want your son to grow up to be a man? Or a forever boy who is so insecure in his masculinity that the sight of a boy in 'girl shorts' causes a freakout? ###### |
I have a (now) ex-friend who believes i'm transphobic for 'correcting' what they said. In short, they mentioned how they are "Happy they are trans", to which I responded with "Don't you mean that you're happy that you've been able to accept yourself?" because by implication, if they are 'happy' that they have a disord... | YTA. Do you say every rude thought that pops into your head, or do you have the social awareness to keep some stuff to yourself? ###### |
Yesterday, I (26 m) and my partner (22 f) were driving to my parents’ house for lunch. As I was driving down the main road of the village we live in, a little girl (maybe 4ish?) suddenly shot off across the road in front of the car.
I absolutely slammed down on the brakes, the car lurched and squealed, my partner who ... | YTA. Do you really think that’s an acceptable response? I understand your frustration but to shout and swear at a mother and child is vile ###### |
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years.
I have two daughters (6 & 4) with an ex and a son with my girlfriend (1)
My girlfriend, Vicki recently got a new phone and she’s attached to it almost 24/7 but she works off it so it’s understandable.
I went on her phone recently to text my ex as we were running late wit... | YTA. Do you not like your girlfriend very much? Sounds like you don't like her. I think it's strange that you would have such an issue with her feeling love for your children. ###### |
I recently broke off a friendship with a girl I'd known since kindergarden because I really think she was faking these illnesses she was claiming to have. She is always on crutches and wearing braces cause she says her joints "dislocate" and she even used a wheelchair sometimes. I think she just likes the attention bec... | YTA. Do you have proof that she is faking her illnesses besides you not understanding that even a small squirt of perfume can send someone into an allergic reaction? ###### |
I'm in a tight spot here.
My son (17) is a bit of a hassle to handle. When he was younger he tried to commit, we had to send him away to a hospital, he's better now. Then when he was 15 he became an atheist and it was hard because we're super religious and even after I tried to convince him , he still stayed to his be... | YTA. Do not out your child.
Your son is clearly not ready to come out to your husband. Based on your post, I don’t blame him. If you break his trust your relationship with him may never recover. ###### |
My girls are 6 and 4 and they live with their mother, stepfather and 2 brothers that are 2 and a newborn.
I have them every other weekend. I’m married and also have a son. Well my kids came over and they had been gushing over how their stepdad bought them a trampoline and how he would hold their hands and bounce them... | YTA. Divorced father of two here, one boy, one girl. If I heard that my children were being so well-taken care of by my ex’s partner, I would be ecstatic. Because children deserved to be loved by everyone who is in their life. The fact that you don’t provide any details of the time you spend with them, is indicative t... |
Disclaimer: This happened awhile ago but I thought I'd post this for clarification.
My son at the time was 9 years old and has plenty of friends at his school. Among them is an autistic kid who is in a separate special ed class. My son and him met during recess and hung out plenty of times.
The autistic kid and my s... | YTA. Did it ever occur to you to invite the kid's parents too? Like, someone who *knows* how to handle an autistic 8-year-old and who can swoop in and remove him from the party if need be? ###### |
My mom doesn't like it and says that it bothers my half-sister when I do this because she feels like I don't care about her. I'm not sure if I really believe this because my half-sister has never said anything to me.
I think it bothers my mom more than her because she feels like we aren't close. She also gives me a h... | YTA. Definitely. Man I hate posts from teenagers. Your complex emotions are so difficult to reason with. This is something that in 20 years you’ll realize didn’t matter at all and you should have just called her your sister and not put so much thought into it.
By always referring to her as your “half-sister” what yo... |
I (31M) was at a friend’s place with my wife (30F). We were a group of people and were talking about salaries.
To provide some context, the salaries in my part of the world have doubled over the past year (before Covid )and are much higher than from when I graduated 8 years ago. We were discussing the increase in sala... | YTA. correcting her in public is rude enough but if you absolutely had to (despite being incorrect yourself) there are a lot kinder ways than *she doesn't know what she's talking about.* being condescending to your wife, especially in front of friends, is not cool. ###### |
We've been dating each other for a little over a year now and our relationship has been great with no problems and no complaints. Unfortunately I couldn't see her in person from March to like mid June cos of corona but we've been seeing each other again and going out quite regularly now for the past few weeks. Before t... | Yta. Controlling and insecure behavior. ###### |
I’m one of 7 kids. There’s 6 of us older adult kids (f23, me f21, m20, m20, f19, f18) and then our little sister who’s 5, who our parents call a happy accident. She obviously wasn’t planned but we all absolutely love her.
As a whole family we don’t get to spend that much time together, all us older kids live away at ... | YTA. Congratulations, you bullied and tricked a child. You are the pinnacle of intelligence and subterfuge. You even "got her" with a faked adoption certificate IT'S A 5 YEAR OLD A PIECE OF CONSTRUCTION PAPER THAT SAID "UR ADOPTED" WOULD HAVE TRICKED HER.
A combined 100 years of people worked together to ... hurt a c... |
I work for this factory, i'm pretty much a foreman and supervisor for my team. It's a factory job, i liked it. My guys respected me even though i was a woman. I got my son (22) a job here as well, mostly as an assistant to the other supervisors, just a little desk job. He likes it enough. He hasn't been able to find a... | YTA. Compromising his future (financially, but also socially) just so you can make a petty statement? Not even a question ###### |
I just moved into my first apartment after living almost all my life in base housing since my dad was in the Air Force. We always ran our AC full blast with the windows open to get fresh air. I didn’t realize this was because we never had to pay utilities and this wasn’t the norm.
Anyways it’s how I got used to sleepi... | YTA. Climate change is real. Also your dad is a huge AH, what a waste of taxpayer dollars. ###### |
At the local grocery store and in line at the deli. Several customers standing around waiting their turn. I go to get a ticket and pull number 27. They are now serving number 21. I step back patiently to wait my turn. They call and wait on No 22, and then 23. When they call number 24 no one steps up. Hmmm. Must have ... | Yta. Clearly the idea is that you wait for your number to be called. I get that it’s annoying to wait, but it’s annoying for everyone - not just you. ###### |
My fiancé (29M) and I (28F) have been together for five years, engaged for one. About a year into our relationship, we were on a date and he brought up the “celebrity hall pass” question. He picked someone he’ll likely never meet, I picked the lead singer of a locally popular band whose music has been a huge part of my... | YTA. Celebrity hall passes are a joke. No one actually thinks they are for real. Except you, apparently. ###### |
I(14F) was bored today, so I decided to pull this prank on my brother(16M).
I mixed some ghost pepper paste in his toothpaste. The prank worked well, initially he thought something was wrong with his toothpaste but then his mouth started burning hard and he ran for the milk. I though it was pretty funny.
I thought ... | YTA. Causing someone pain is not funny. ###### |
A year ago my GF moved to my country and we met soon after. We have been together for almost a year. Her dad suddenly passed away about a month ago and she flew home for a week to attend the funeral. Because she hasn't lived here long she does not have a strong support system here besides me, all her close friends/fami... | YTA. C'mon man, a 12 night vacation when your girlfriend is grieving a parent and has nobody else to lean on? And you can't even be bothered to set aside time to talk to her on the phone? You shouldn't have had to ask. You might not be ready for a serious relationship and that's quickly becoming apparent to your girlf... |
I got married very young, just out of high school, so I might not have had the most mature responses to my MIL issues. This all happened about five years ago. When we got married we moved eight hours away so if she visited she stayed overnight.
MIL seemed miserable whenever she was with us. I didn’t cook, we didn’t ha... | YTA. By your own account, she did nothing wrong. You were a terrible host and made her feel unwelcome and judged. "House rules"? You "corrected" her? You didn't cook--did your husband? Did you two feed her at all? Do you know what a guest is?
Look, I understand anxiety. I understand having someone in your home can b... |
My husband was not raised by his mother. I don't know many details because she said she doesn't have to justify it to me, but i think she wanted an abortion and was talked out of it. She is very successful in a niche industry and spent his childhood traveling, focusing on her career, and partying. For some reason he ha... | YTA. Buying a baby doll to prove her preparation was completely patronizing. If you're not comfortable having her watch the baby or being alone with the baby, then you and your husband should get on the same page and just say as much.
Ultimately, your husband is the one who decides if he forgives his mother. He need... |
Before I start this, I love my daughter. I'm not one of those parents who values their partner's opinions/feelings over their child's.
Anyway, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now and at the start of this year we had decided to move in together. We were all going to move into a new house (we being m... | YTA. Buy him an air mattress. Don't kick your daughter out of her room. Jfc. Better yet, give him your room. ###### |
My older sister adopted a child from Russia about 5 years ago now, when she was a baby. Her daughter is now 5 and in school. I love my niece, but her development isn’t where it should be for a 5 year old, which causes lots of discussions in our family as to whether she should be assessed or anything.
The night before... | YTA. But you already know that. ###### |
i(F29) told my (F27) friend/bridemaid she is no longer invited to my wedding.
i had a rule after choosing my bridemaids and that was i will choose everything from their dress to their make up and they seemed on board and to be honest it is my right as the BRIDE because it is MY wedding.
a friend reached out to me pri... | yta. bridezilla as fuck. “it’s all about ME ME ME ME ME” like girl shut up ###### |
I am planning to go away this weekend to the mountains with my girlfriend. My wife and I have already agreed to end our marriage, but we have not told our daughter yet.
My wife knows I am seeing someone and about the trip. She doesn't agree with what I am doing and feels neither of us should date until we're official... | YTA. Boy is it easy to see why you're getting divorced. ###### |
IM27) have been with my fiancée(F29) for about 5 years now, and I proposed in January. Now that we’re engaged I started mulling over the thought of me coming out to her. I’ve know I was bi since I was 14 and kept it secret from most people, as most people know there are certain stigmas around bisexual men that I didn’t... | YTA. Bi/pansexual person here— you’re hiding a major part of your identity from the person you’re spending your life with. This isn’t fair to either of you, and she deserves to know. If she broke up with you because of it, then you never should have been with her in the first place. This should be something your partn... |
My daughter (33f) and I (51f) have a pretty strained relationship. We were out of touch for a number of years but have recently tried to start over fresh. She left home when she was at 17 to join the army. I was going through a separation, and then divorce, from her father. Before leaving, she was very unruly and hard ... | YTA. Because you told her daughter SHE WAS THE REASON FOR YOUR DIVORCE.
She was not by the way, only you and your husband are responsible for your divorce.
Also based on how you handled your daughter you are one of the last people on earth who should be giving any sort of parenting advice besides "make sure you use... |
Well yeah...so I have a pug who’s turning 12 next week. About a month ago I asked one of my coworkers who has a side business baking custom artistic cakes if she could make one for “my baby.” By which I actually meant my dog who I affectionately refer to as my baby. I thought she knew this.
It doesn’t help that my dog... | YTA. Baking is a science that can be undermined by making changes to the recipe. You paid for a cake and then asked her to learn how to make dog food. Most cake ingredients aren’t appropriate for dogs to eat, so instead of making something with professional skill, you are asking her to put her rep on the line to make ... |
Fourteen years ago my daughter, then 19, gave birth to a little girl who she called; **Dorothea Pearl** I didn’t like the name but she named her after my mother.
I will admit I wasn’t a perfect mother and my daughter rebelled, her father left us when she was 10 and I worked full time so she resented that and acted out... | YTA. At three years old, the child has already learned her name. It feels like your are dishonoring your daughter's memory by erasing the name she chose for her child.
This little girl went through a huge amount of upheaval and change that she's unable to fully understand. You went ahead and likely made this scary t... |
My roommate has this weird hobby where she listens to FM radio for hours on end. She has several radios, and sets up all these things so that she can pull in as distant a station as possible. Today, she brought home this $200 thing that's the size of my desktop. She was raving about how "good" of a deal it was, even th... | YTA. As long as she's paying her share of the bills, whatever she spends her money on is not your concern. You're a real AH. Mind your own business. ###### |
I’m really into this game, Europa Universalis 4. Basically you play as a country. My wife also recently got into it.
When I play against someone, I’m obviously going to destroy them. Absolutely.
That’s what I did. I absolutely wrecked my wife’s Empire, the Ottomans as Austria. Through a couple wars, I eventually ma... | YTA. As funny as this is, it fuckin sucks to play against someone who's good at the game when you're brand new. Teach her first. Play at her pace. When she gets better you play harder. Don't be a dick. Especially to your wife. ###### |
We are both 21 and in college. We’ve been together for like a year or so. Anywayyyy, she works part time at a restaurant near campus which I went to.
So my bill was $23.70 which I rounded to $25.00 with a $1.30 tip.
We were hanging out later that night, and she asked me why I tipped so little.
I kinda explained t... | YTA. As a former waitress I can tell you when my tips were low management was not happy with me (siince they have to make sure my pay is equal to minimum wage). They would ask me why this table felt it necessary to tip below 15%. No matter what I told them it was always my fault and I should have offered better servic... |
I (20f) am currently 31 weeks pregnant with twin girls. I’m absolutely terrified as I’m pretty much doing it completely alone. their father is extremely emotionally abusive and has told me multiple times he wants nothing to do with the babies, nor do his family, they’ve even accused me of cheating. we never had unprote... | YTA. Apply for the assistance you need. Some cities even offer childcare vouchers so that you can get daycare paid for while you work or go to school. Your parents aren't responsible for the babies or for you.
Best wishes. ###### |
I (43M) get a call yesterday from my wife (44F) that my daughter (14) has been hospitalized for anorexia. She fainted while hiking with her boyfriend.
My wife says that our daughter wanted to talk to me, so she hands over the phone to our daughter and we talk for a bit.
My daughter asks that I come to the hospital,... | YTA. Anorexia kills people and your daughter is starving herself. Your insinuation that you need to deprive your daughter of attention in a critical moment in her life to teach her some sort of lesson is awful and wrong. And the idea that some 23 year old associate at your firm needs you more than your 14 year old dau... |
My (43F) daughter (17F) has a friend I’ll call Annie. They went to high school together, both graduated just over a year ago now (my daughter skipped a grade so graduated early). They weren’t really close during actual school, but became pretty close around prom/graduation time. Last August Annie helped my daughter get... | YTA. And naive. Your daughter is upset because you are trying to control who she sees and speaks to.
Your naive to think you can actually stop her from seeing / speaking to this person. Unless you are physically with her 24 hours a day she will do what she wants. Numbers are un blocked as easily as they are blocked.... |
My stepdaughter and I don’t get on too well. She’s 18, and I’m 27, so she massively dislikes that there’s an age gap between her father and I, he’s 35. My boyfriend and her mother were together until about 3 years ago, when her mom left and literally just never came home. She’s heard from her about 5 times in the past ... | YTA. And I would not be suprised to hear an update of your bf kicking you out for speaking to his child that way. ###### |
This girl and I (both 20 years old) had a thing during this whole quarantine thing. She sent me photos of herself of her doing different things and videos. Well right now she kind of hates me so were probably not going to be dating or anything again.
She's very paranoid that I'm going to leak her stuff (I have no ide... | yta. and i mean, how could you be comfortable getting off to pictures that you know she doesn’t want you to have anymore? that kinda does make you a creep. ###### |
My 19yo son is about 6ft and needs to lose about 20 pounds. He was always skinny, but I suspect his eating habits got bad while he was at college and he just wasn't working out. He's been home since March and I've been egging him to go to workout with me. He doesn't want to. We had a 4th of July picture taken of us and... | YTA. And a bully. ###### |
So I’m from an asian country. Socially to some extent it’s kinda less conservative than some, so people date and have sex and all that without much of a problem, but we’re still generally obsessed with getting into good colleges and going into profitable careers. The top colleges in that regard are American ones like I... | YTA. Although I'm not sure if call it slut shaming.
Let's be clear. No one would have a problem if you had said just this....
>she and I had different goals— she wanted to have fun and make memories
If you had stopped there? Golden. The problem was when you added
>she made memories with other guys.
You've been... |
So my daughter (14) recently won a lot of money, £10,000 to be exact. Now she didn't do anything to win this money so you could argue does she really deserve it?
Now my son (23) recently moved away from home, he doesn't have a lot of money and I give him £40 a week to get by.
After my daughter won this money, my son ... | YTA. Also, you didn’t give your son half her money, you *stole* £5000 from your daughter. You clearly have no respect for your daughter and clearly have never taught your son how to be an adult that budgets and saves.
But, since you’re so kind and giving like you say, you’ll have no problem doing something like...gi... |
The tile sounds bad, but let me offer some backstory. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up right before the pandemic started and recently got back together over the summer. I am attending a University in the city and I needed to get an apartment for my research opportunities. All of the dorms in the area are closed... | YTA. allowing her to live with you does not entitle you to control her. if you can't trust your gf to own a car (wtf?!) then you shouldn't be together. ###### |
I've been teaching my daugher how to swim and she's got everything down pat, but she's just scared to go into the deep end.
So today I snuck up on her and pushed her in.
She disappeared under water for a bit, but when she came back, our lessons kicked in and she started swimming. She said, "Look, Daddy, I'm swimming!... | YTA. All it takes is inhaling some water into her wrong and she can dry drown hours later or have damage to her lungs from the pool chemicals. It happens to a handful of kids here every year - they fall in, cough, seem fine and end up dead. (https://www.webmd.com/children/features/secondary-drowning-dry-drowning).
Y... |
My husband was hurt when he recently discovered that his family had had a weekend getaway and we were not invited. When he confronted his mom she got very angry and said we have too many dietary restrictions. I eat a very clean diet. We are both vegetarian and try to be as sugar free as possible. I do believe the host ... | YTA. After reading your entitled passive aggressive post I wouldn't have invited you either.
"We are both vegetarian and try to be as sugar free as possible. I do believe the host is supposed to feed her guests, so yeah I think if were invited over it’s MILs job to accommodate us." No she doesn't have to accommodate ... |
I’m a bisexual woman. Last night, I was at my brother’s house for dinner along with our parents. I admit I have a bit of a crush on my brother’s wife. She’s easily in my ‘Top 3 prettiest women I know’ list.
During the dinner, I was casually flirting with her. Nothing over the top. She didn’t seem to mind .
After we ... | YTA. A pig is a pig no matter the sex. ###### |
i(F29) told my (F27) friend/bridemaid she is no longer invited to my wedding.
i had a rule after choosing my bridemaids and that was i will choose everything from their dress to their make up and they seemed on board and to be honest it is my right as the BRIDE because it is MY wedding.
a friend reached out to me pri... | YTA. A huge one. There's absolutely no grey area here. You are actually talking about controlling a black woman's hair and appearance? That is messed up in any situation, but assuming you are not black, it is UNIQUELY MESSED UP. And then you didn't just say that she wouldn't be a bridesmaid, but you UNINVITED her?
Yo... |
My sister is 21 and I am 36M.
My parents died a few years ago and left their estate and business to me. My sister has a trust fund she can access when she’s 25. Until then, I am paying for all her expenses, including college tuition and if she wants to eat out or go shopping.
My sister and I have had a great relatio... | YTA. A huge fucking asshole. Why the fuck are you at the doctor with your adult sister? You have ZERO SAY in what she chooses to do with her body. You are a sexist and have embraced paternalistic nonsense. Your poor sister is being actively abused by you. ###### |
So I (55) have a granddaughter (14) who wasn’t in her bed when her mom, my daughter(32), woke up. She called police after she didn’t turn up for hours.
We live in the same city as my daughter.
The police called and wanted to ask us some questions.
My husband and I have a policy that’s served us well through the yea... | YTA. A child is missing and you are wasting valuable time for no reason. ###### |
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(M33) Just moved in with gf (27f) of 7months. Her mortgage is cheaper than my rent so seemed like a good idea.
She won’t let me have equal say in the house. She doesn’t want my furniture in the living room as her furniture is “better” and fits the rest of the house more. She was prett... | YTA. 7 months and you already feel entitled to half of her house? Telling her to sell her furniture so you can go on a trip? Wow, sir, wow. You're a true class act. ###### |
13 years ago my family won a wrongful death lawsuit for the death of my husband and as part of the settlement my daughter gets access to a trust fund when she turns 21.
The trust fund would give her almost $40,000 a year until she turns 30.
I feel like that’s a lot of money for someone that would be 21 when it start... | YTA. 30 is young. At 30, your daughter is going to have little education, no employable skills, and probably no money left. ###### |
I took what everyone said to heart and decided to try to reach out to my stepchild Leo (21 Non binary ) but I feel like I just made it worse?
Leo loves Italian food and I figured a nice meal and some alone time could really help us both open up and make amends. I made reservations at a really nice place, and asked thi... | YTA. 1000% YTA. You're not Leo's mother. You already know that they don't like socialising, so why would they want to go to a restaurant that by your own words would be packed? Why are you going to a packed restaurant in the middle of a pandemic? Leo's not under any obligation to order anyone else food, either.
You l... |
Throwaway account, obviously.
So, I am getting married to my fiance in five months (hopefully!) and am obviously super excited. My fiance and I have been planning, hiring caterers and musicians in advance to the big day, and recently, we were on a Skype call with his side of the family to discuss everything.
So, my... | YTA. “It’s just a joke” is what bullies say to justify being cruel. ###### |
My older sister adopted a child from Russia about 5 years ago now, when she was a baby. Her daughter is now 5 and in school. I love my niece, but her development isn’t where it should be for a 5 year old, which causes lots of discussions in our family as to whether she should be assessed or anything.
The night before... | YTA. “Crack baby” is an extremely harsh term. While you may have some familiarity with dyslexia, you’re not an expert. You should withhold opinion on that (and other questions regarding her development) until she’s assessed by an expert. ###### |
I (26F) married my husband (43M) a year ago.
His ex wife is in and out of the hospital for COPD which was triggered by her persistent anorexia.
His youngest daughter is 13 and lives with us when her mom is in the hospital. My husband is paying an exorbitant amount to send her to private school.
But even at 13, she... | YTA.
Please explain how any of what you just did helped your stepdaughter stop drinking and using substances. Making her to go public school and getting her expelled was like slapping a band-aid on a bullet hole. Nothing will get solved here if you and him, as the parents in the situation, don’t dig down to the root ... |
Hi, so I work as a lettings agent and process applications for properties on behalf of landlords. One of my client's tenants is a transgender person, but because he applied for his current property with his old ID, the name we have on our records is his old one.
It's now a year later and he is moving on to another ren... | YTA.
> It would be deceptive for him not to tell anyone, especially the people giving him a place to live.
Why the fuck would a landlord have the right to know?
And don't say that they're "giving him a place to live" like they're doing him a fucking favour; they're landlords! He's paying them! ###### |
My girlfriend (20f) and I (36m) have been living together for about six months now. She has quite a lot of mental and physical health conditions. She has chronic migraines, hypermobile joints that are causing severe pain her wrists, chronic kidney disease and pernicious anaemia, as well as depression.
She’s been stru... | YTA.
Your girlfriend is so depressed she hasn't showered in weeks. She doesn't need you telling her its all her fault. She needs professional help. ASAP. ###### |
So this’ll be a real quick post, but I’ll try and get a bit of backstory into it;
My (38F) sister adopted her daughter and my niece Jennie when she was 3.
For whatever reason Jennie has never been the smartest bulb of the bunch; she failed literally every subject she took other than religious education and catering.
... | YTA.
You: Here’s some backstory - for whatever reason my niece is stupid and fails at everything. Am I TA for insulting her?
Yes YTA and your “backstory” only confirms that. ###### |
So this all started a long time ago, my father re-enlisted after 9/11 to gain the benefits of the post 9/11 GI bill. Which for those who don’t know thatallows you to select one of your family
members to receive essentially a free education at a public college paid for by the government.
At least that’s what he told me... | YTA.
You are ungrateful.
Not only for the financial contributions your dad made but also because he had to reenlist to be eligible to legacy his Post 9/11 to you.
The post 9/11 and how it works has changed through the years as congress has shifted things around. That isn’t on your dad.
It is *exceptionally* co... |
Our intended wedding date is July 2021, should everything go accordingly.
The main tiff between the fiancé and I at the moment is the bridal party, well the flower girl. He's 29 but has a much younger, biological sister whose 8. Because of the difference they're relationship is more uncle and niece then brother and s... | YTA.
Why not just let both girls do it?
But then to have everyone over & embarrass the little girl in front of the whole family. Yeah, you're an asshole.
It should have been made clear to her *privately* that she wasn't the flower girl ahead of time if that was your plan.
It's not just your wedding. It's his too.... |
Hi reddit, my husband and I have always tried to provide the best that we can for our two daughters (19f and 14f). We are both well paid engineers and have set aside money to pay for our daughters’ college tuitions and weddings. My elder daughter is in college and also lives with us completely rent free. We are now hav... | YTA.
When you and your husband decided to have a new baby, did you include your daughter in that conversation or was she volunteered after the fact to be your built in babysitter?
She is not obligated to be your free child care.
At the same time, you are technically not obligated to pay for her college/wedding. ... |
My (47m) wife and I are going through a rough patch and as a result my daughter (19f) has been acting out a lot. She taunts me all the time and irritatingly takes my wife's side a lot.
One day my wife invited her girlfriends over and they were sitting in the bedroom chatting. I came from work and was sitting outside f... | YTA.
Way to make your failing relationship spill over into your child’s life rather than shielding her from the fallout, Dad. As if violating her privacy and autonomy isn’t bad enough, fuck her schoolwork too, amiright? Excellent parenting.
YTA YTA YTA. ###### |
Hey all,
I (F36) make about $175,000 a year (after taxes). My husband (M30) is a stay-at-home Dad who does the occasional side job but for the most part doesn't really do paid work.
My husband and I decided that from every financial inflow into the house, I'll get 20%, he'll get 10%, (for personal spending) and the r... | YTA.
This whole thing makes YTA. It should be equal access or an even split of the fun money. Not more to you because you have an outside job. Your husband also works...he takes care of the kids and the home.
If I were your husband I would rethink allowing the person to come stay with you. It sounds like it will e... |
Throwaway account, obviously.
So, I am getting married to my fiance in five months (hopefully!) and am obviously super excited. My fiance and I have been planning, hiring caterers and musicians in advance to the big day, and recently, we were on a Skype call with his side of the family to discuss everything.
So, my... | YTA.
That was mean. And he does play professionally. It just doesn't pay the bills. He offered a generous gift and you crapped all over it. ###### |
I have a burn scar on the right side of my face and I have had it since I was 12 I won't get into the story in too much detail other than I'll say that my mum and dad were drug addicts. And it has pretty much ruined any chance I have with girls, on top of that I'm 6'4 so I just look really intimidating especially since... | YTA.
Sure there’s middle ground here but what did you want him to say? Nothing? That you’re right? That you’re never going to find someone and it’s only because of your looks?
Looks matter for sure but probably not to the extent of which you think. I’m sure it’s very easy for your buddy to get chicks. I’m sure he h... |
Basically, we were at a busy tourist attraction village and while we were quite separate from.the crowd, it's set out in a way that the majority of the crowd was facing us. I'm the sort of person that shys away from the limelight and or focus of attention so I told.my girlfriend that we should maybe move back a bit so ... | YTA.
She’s trying to feed a hungry child, that’s her main priority and should be yours, why do the opinions of other passerby’s matter more than the health and happiness of your baby?
It’s 2020, women have been breastfeeding for milleniums, it’s not something radical and shocking, it’s completely natural and most ... |
I’m a 26 year old woman my daughter is 4 and one of her friends is having a small birthday party. Well recently she was at a playground and another one of the girls there was bullying her. I noticed that the bully was also friends with the girl having the party. However I’m good friends with the mom of the birthday chi... | YTA.
She’s 4. If it was reoccurring then that’s one thing, but if after one stinking playground disagreement, you’ve decided to have A LITTLE GIRL uninvited to a birthday party, then you kind of suck. I’m all for advocating for your child, when necessary. But you’ve essentially bullied a toddler when you could have ... |
“Fuck you” she said, after I told her I would be back from the gym at 7:30, just like last night. She refuted I wasn’t there at 7:30, that I didn’t get home until 8. I told her I was indeed there at 7:30, I just sat on the driveway because I was speaking with a client. As soon as I clarify that, she said: “why do you h... | YTA.
She needed you home by 7:30 because she wanted to leave at 7:30.
You sitting in the driveway on a call with a client until 8 means you werent available until 8.
You mincing words with her and sayimg technically you were home at 7:30 is something a teenager would do who'd broken curfew. ###### |
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I've been dating this girl for 8 months now. She's honestly amazing and I can almost see our future together. She has a 3 year old daughter from a past relationship, whom I've never met. I've seen pictures, videos, and heard her gush about her daughter but I've ne... | YTA.
Responsible single parents need to be very cautious and deliberate about how they introduce their kids to folks they're dating, for a variety of reasons I can't do justice in a short post (but which I'd think you'd have bothered to read about or look up by now -- there are many articles out there on this). This... |
So my husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2. He has a 12 year old daughter who lives in another state with her mom.
Recently her mom lost her job and they got evicted from their apartment. Stepdaughter now wants to come stay with us like she normally does every summer. However this time she w... | YTA.
Ok, you don’t want to live with his ex. That’s perfectly acceptable. The other thing option is for him to rent an air bnb and visit his daughter over the summer. Because he won’t see her the rest of the year.
You are dating a man with a kid. If he can’t see her in your house obviously he is going to see her s... |
Most of the kids in my child’s Texas school district returned to class face-to-face this week, although about 20-30% of the students are still working from home. I received an email from one of my kid’s teachers introducing themselves and letting parents know that their class was “blended learning” where all the kids (... | YTA.
My mother is a teacher, in Texas no less. I see every day what she has to deal with trying to do virtual learning, and I've seen for the past 8 years what she does when doing face to face learning, and it *sucks*.
Your entitled attitude is the worst thing about teaching, she says. People like you have no idea... |
I went to an old friend bday party, met some new people and some guy was telling me and two other girls that his baby mama is ugly. I automatically thought since babies usually have features from both parents that would mean he would be calling his own baby ugly and that what I said to him. Everyone looked at me, one g... | YTA.
In theory I agree with you - not all babies are cute. But it's just something you don't say out loud. You never insult a person's new born (however unintentionally). ###### |
The main cast is just me (42F) and my sister Belle (21), who was a late in life kid.
I don’t know how else to phrase it without sounding envious, but Belle is pretty much the golden child. She’s not only better looking than me, but she’s also the favorite child. I could give examples but I don’t want to cross the cha... | YTA.
If you want to "experience walking down the aisle" without trying to make drama on your sister's special day, go to an empty church between services. That's a great place to get your ya yas out. ###### |
They were best friends before we ever started dating but still. I am her husband and the father of her child. I had a right to find out she was pregnant before my sister, but instead of telling me first once she found out her response was to call my sister. I was an afterthought.
I feel like she robbed me of a special... | YTA.
I understand being hurt that she told her best friend before she told you, but your reaction is extreme, and completely irrational. You can't get excited about being a father because of this? You don't feel involved in any way even though it's your own flesh and blood? You have no idea if you're going to partic... |
My (25M) roommate (25F) has been out of town for a few weeks to attend a family member's funeral. I asked her if it was alright for me to have my gf over while she was gone, considering we hadn't seen each other for a while due to the pandemic. She said no problem, we'd be staying in my bed/my room & she didn't hav... | YTA.
Dude, you're a BIG asshole. I mean, you stole from your roomate, and when she was in a pinch, with literal blood oozing out of her, and with a pain you can't even begin to understand, you refused to go and buy stuff you took in the first place?
You're an asshole and a thief.
Edit: thank you for the award, kin... |
When my daughter was nine, she and her brother had spilled juice on two books and the head librarian went up to me and said “Ms. X, this book is all wet and it’s all damaged and I am very upset. Do you know what may have happened?” I saw immediately that it was a chapter book and got upset at my daughter in front of th... | YTA.
Children are clumsy. They lack concentration and control of their limbs and it takes them a while to develop those things. The average parent pays far more than $10 in damages.
You insulted her in front of the librarian, scolded her again once she was home, and after your daughter attempted to put things right... |
Hi, I know how the title sounds, but here's the story. One of my (23F) close friends (24F) is a fat woman. I think she is absolutely gorgeous inside and out, but she does struggle with obesity and losing weight and very serious self-image problems. She talks about it with our friend group very frequently, and I know he... | YTA.
And honestly, is there really a scenario in which you expected to be told you weren't TA?
You basically just took your friend's insecurities, stuffed them into a pinata, and chunked a bat at that pinata at the second-worst possible time, while she was happily talking about her new relationship to her friends.... |
So today my neighbor's kid (10) and a few of his friends (8-12) had a nerf war and I didn't have a problem with it until I wanted to go outside and the bullets kept hitting my fence making a small thump. I went over to the kids parents and told them to calm down, they said Ok we will tell them to calm down" they did f... | YTA.
And before you argue with that, I want you to google "Tamir Rice". Look up Ben Fields. Check out [this news article](https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/juliareinstein/school-resource-officer-slammed-middle-school-north-vance). And then spend a little time learning about what the police do to people in this co... |
We moved in together recently, and we've been having a conflict over whether or not I should learn how to do her clothes.
I never learned how to do more than a basic wash because none of my clothes require it. I wash everything together unless it's a new shirt and might bleed or it's my workout clothes, but even then... | YTA.
>She then asked what happens if she's sick. I think that's a dumb question because obviously in the past it's not been a problem when she lived alone
You've kind of missed the point of cohabiting with other humans. You're supposed to love, help and support each other. Could she survive without you? Sure. But s... |
I’ve (25F) been dating my boyfriend, “Van” (25M) for 6 months now. Van’s best friend is a girl named “Kayla”. Kayla is nice and I like her, but she has one annoying habit. She baby talks. Most of the time she talks in a normal voice but sometimes she whines or uses w’s behind her words because she thinks it’s cute. She... | YTA.
> That night, I texted Kayla and asked her to stop with the baby talk around me. I said she was a grown adult and it was hard to listen to.
You're right that you're a grown adult - so you can either be a grown up and accept that the world doesn't conform to your distaste of others' idosyncracies, or you can ... |
This is so embarrassing and I can't believe I have to type this out. My son and DIL are currently staying with us and it has been difficult for everyone involved. I don't particularly like her and I can be civil for family dinner but having to bite my tongue for three months has been difficult. My son and DIL went to a... | YTA.
If your kink is consent-play, cool.. But why on Earth would you assume somebody hearing that from the outside would automatically know? I'm into the same stuff, but if I heard somebody shouting "no" followed by sex noises, I would assume the worst too.
She was worried about you, to the point of tears. I thin... |
I’ve (25F) been dating my boyfriend, “Van” (25M) for 6 months now. Van’s best friend is a girl named “Kayla”. Kayla is nice and I like her, but she has one annoying habit. She baby talks. Most of the time she talks in a normal voice but sometimes she whines or uses w’s behind her words because she thinks it’s cute. She... | YTA.
I get it, I do. I physically cringed reading some of the examples you gave. But it's not your place to ask somebody to change their behavior, when it's not harming you in any way. If you find someone annoying, no matter how justified you might be, your annoyance is ultimately your problem and not theirs.
Loo... |
We were having a family cookout and my kids were playing with their toys. I teach them to clean up their messes and they are starting to get the concept. But on occasion, they leave something on the floor and ill pick up the toy after them. My mom sometimes raises her voice at them but I've always held back because the... | YTA.
>I know my kids are messy and we try to clean up after them. But don't you ever talk badly about them.
Your mother wasn't yelling at your children, but at you. She knows they are kids and the responsibility for teaching them to not be messy is yours.
She apologized because yes, she knows she shouldn't have ... |
I have had a dream wedding date my entire life. I'm finally engaged, and my fiance and I wanted to book our wedding right away. However, my dream date is the weekend before his sister's wedding.
He called his parents to tell him and they said they thought it was too close, but that he should talk to his sister; they w... | YTA.
"Can't wait another year"? You can, you just don't want to.
And I guarantee you his family already hates you for your selfishness and bridezilla attitude. ###### |
My (F 38) husband (M 36) have been married for over 1 year. He has 2 kids with his ex, a daughter (7) and a son ( 4). I have no kids, nor do I want any. But I do love my step kids. They came to visit us after quite some time, as they couldn't come over during the lockdown.
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My stepdaughter, Kate\* (name ... | YTA. "hi im the evil stepmom who steps on butterflies and tells children santa isn't real cause their tears make me feel joy. im a sad woman with no life and nothing better to do" ###### |
Throwaway for starters.
I am the type of guy who wants his daughter to have the best life as possible. She just finished her freshman year in college and throughout the summer has been hanging out with a guy from her college. I later learned more about him, apparently while he was in high school, he had attended speci... | YTA. *Wow*. Can't you just be happy for your daughter that she's found someone she cares for? It shouldn't matter that he didn't take advanced courses. As long as he's good to her and good *for* her, who cares what classes he took? ###### |
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I \[46M\] have a strict no swearing policy in my house. Recently, my oldest daughter \[16F\] has been extremely rebellious. She has been talking back to my wife and I, using her laptop for hours every day, and does not listen to anything I tell her.
A few days ago at around 11pm when I walked in to chec... | YTA. *”If she did not want me to shout at her, she shouldn’t have made me so mad”* said every abuser ever. ###### |
My ex and I have a 10 year old daughter from a teenage relationship. My daughter lives with my ex and I pick her up for the afternoon on one weekend day and often take her out for dinner during the week. She still has a stuffed dog I bought for her when she was a baby and carries the damn thing everywhere. It is alway... | YTa. *“Apparently she’s autistic but I don’t believe that.”* ###### |
My dad (65M) and I (35F) used to be really close. My mom was a surgeon, so my dad was the one to pick us up from school, make us dinner, help us with homework, ect. I married my husband (36M) five years ago.
My dad is also a physician, and I can tell when he's entertaining guests because he has a distinctive bedside ... | YTA. Your dad has been polite and friendly with your husband, you can't force him to feel comfortable with him or close to him. Lots of people don't want to discuss financial or political issues with in-laws, especially if you realize they have different views. When in laws say stupid things or something you disagr... |
I've been going to see the same stylist for about a year before coronavirus. We had a lot in common (by coincidence, I happened to be visiting his hometown a great deal that year because several friends had moved there), but I guess in retrospect this friendliness was probably part of his 'sales patter.'
After the loc... | YTA. You're being *way* too sensitive. Take the relationship you feel you've cultivated with him, multiply it across all his other clients (many of whom have probably been clients much longer than a year), and maybe you'll start to see why he's only just *now* clearing out the backlog. If you still want to search f... |
Title sounds bad but there's a lot more to the story. Me and my gf are both 21 in uni. I live at home so she doesn't really come here as my mother is kinda conservative and is against her sleeping over. I mostly go to her place and we have sex play video games chill, smoke weed just hang and have fun. My gf has this ha... | YTA. You said girlfriend, not blow up doll. ###### |
I married my husband two years ago, he has a child (21 non binary ) called Leo, and I have two children 8 and 9 from a previous marriage. We all for the most part get along...
But living with Leo is like living with a ghost. They barely talk, stay mostly in their room and there is zero physical affection. They pay r... | YTA. You are not this grown person's mother. This grown person is autistic and likely cannot handle the physical stimuli that you might consider 'affection'. They are an ADULT they DO NOT OWE YOU AFFECTION. I can't believe you would say something so selfish to this poor person. Rethink your choices. Become bette... |
Our intended wedding date is July 2021, should everything go accordingly.
The main tiff between the fiancé and I at the moment is the bridal party, well the flower girl. He's 29 but has a much younger, biological sister whose 8. Because of the difference they're relationship is more uncle and niece then brother and s... | YTA. Why can't you have two flower girls?
Also, did I read this wrong - fiance's brother is going to be in the wedding? So actually you are purposely leaving out his sister. ###### |
Background- My mother (57F), Daughter (12F), and I went on a trip to North Carolina for my mother’s birthday. We just got to the hotel yesterday after 10 hours of driving, once we got there my daughter, we’ll call her ‘C’ , complained of stomach cramps and was in bed sleeping most of the time until it was time for dinn... | YTA. What did you hope to achieve by throwing a tantrum at your daughter for an accident? Also, what magical pads do you have the would have for-sure prevented this from happening? Newsflash: Leaks happen even when someone is wearing a brandnew pad. I can’t believe you’ve reached adulthood without knowing that. ##... |
I have 2 sons, R and K. R is 14 and K is 10. My kids are very different. R is very intelligent and has always excelled in school without giving any effort at all. He was always quite independent, and I never had to involve myself with his school, so I didn't. K, on the other hand, was never very good at school or at fo... | YTA. Tutoring/teaching IS a talent. R should not have to sacrifice his own future/study time for his brother, you should hire a real tutor if K needs help OR offer to pay R for his time (and if he doesn’t want to, that needs to be ok). This isn’t just a little bit of family helping each other out - this is a signifi... |
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This happened last Christmas and I want to know if I am the asshole
Recently my daughter married and gained two step kids from her husband. she has been spending a lot more on those step kids than her own son because apparently my daughter thinks that step kid are being treated unfairly by my daughters side... | YTA. To tell any kid “you don’t give a fuck about them” is an asshole thing to do. I really hope this is a troll post. ###### |
I (48M) have a 16 year old daughter. According to her, she’s had issues with disposable pads and they supposedly “irritate” her and she thinks she gets an allergic reaction to them.
She’s heard of something called Thinx period underwear and she came to me and asked if I would be willing to order her a pair because th... | YTA. They 'supposedly' irritate her? My dude, that is absolutely a thing, you have never had to wear them and have no idea what it's like so doubting what she says about her own body is you swerving way out of your lane. She's even offered to pay half which means you're out a whopping $17. You're going to treat yo... |
Im currently on a trip with family, specifically my Mum, Stepdad, my Uncle and Auntie, and my cousin.
My cousin and I are both millenials. Our parents are all boomers. I say this cus there's a chance this is just a generational thing but im not sure. I love my whole family to bits and this trip has been very fun, exce... | YTA. These jokes aren’t racist or sexist and all the subjects of the jokes are okay with them. If this bothers you that much it sounds like they need to leave the kids home next trip. ###### |
My daughter recently told me that she was a lesbian and I was disappointed in her. She's always been super passionate about gay rights and seems to not like men and stuff so I always suspected that she might be gay but every time I've asked her if she was gay she either said "no" or "I don't know". She said she knew al... | YTA. The reason she didn't tell you sooner is exactly how you're acting right now. ###### |
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