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I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, I’m 21 and she’s 19.
She’s currently living with me and my parents after an argument with her parents, I won’t go into the reason but I don’t think she’ll go back to speaking with them.
My friends have a friend, “Brad”, Brad is a doctor around 40 and married.
My g... | YTA. It was inappropriate for your mother to say this both to Brad and your girlfriend, and incredibly creepy. You should have stuck up for her in particular. ###### |
I saw that it was a funny trend to sign people up for random email lists and spam them, but I decided to take this a step further because he really burnt me in the past.
I went to our local church of Scientology's website and saw where you could input your personal information to receive messages from the church. Sin... | YTA. It was a petty, spiteful and childish thing to do. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Whatever he did to you doesn’t mean you’re entitled to sign him up for a dozen magazines or the Church of Scientology or anything else. There might be someone out there who’s just as pissed off at you over something as you are towar... |
I live with two roommates. Nobody owns the house, we rebt from a local woman. They recently got a dog with her permission. I told them I absolutely didn't want a dog, but was outvoted. They agreed to the following rules.
1. The dog does not go on my floor of the house for any reason. I just think dogs are dirty, and ... | YTA. It took me less than a minute to type this. "Dog got loose, you need to come and catch him"...still less than a minute
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Minute up! ###### |
This actually happened a long while ago but we recently saw each other again and she was really angry at me and when I asked around, this came up.
So I was in a pretty complicated 'situationship' with this girl, Samantha (fake name). We never dated or were much friends but we regularly hooked up and chilled together ... | YTA. It takes two to make a child but she ended up having to go through the painful process all by herself. I hope you apologized properly. ###### |
I divorced a few years back, I had daughter(Jenny) and one son from my past marriage. Her mother and my childrens did not take our separation well. They hates my wife(Lisa) also they kind of banished her from all family functions.
Lisa and Jenny were once best friends, I never thought I will fall for her but it jus... | YTA. It must be unbelievably weird for your daughter to have to deal with you being married to a former friend of hers. It’s totally unsurprising that she doesn’t want your wife (I wouldn’t use the term ‘step mother’ when they are so close in age - your wife clearly did not do any mothering for your daughter) there on... |
Me (34f) and my spouse (34M) have been together for several years, always talked about having kids. But tbh the current situation due to the virus that won’t be named has made me completely change my mind. Our dogs wake me up before my alarm daily to be fed and now that I WFH I’m ALWAYS around them. It’s exhausting. ... | YTA. It is totally fine to not want kids, to have doubts or want to alter the plan due to current events. It is not okay to change a life plan and keep it a secret from your husband. This is his life you are changing too.
You know your “we don’t consult each other about other meds” argument is bullshit, if he start... |
I don't think my MIL likes me very much. She seems like she tries to hide it, but i can tell she isn't happy to have me for her DIL. My husband comes from a very traditional southern family, with a long line of pageant queens and housewives. GMIL was both and clearly looks down on me. MIL and GMIL (her MIL, not her mom... | YTA. It is hurtful to be excluded but insisting she shouldn't have hosted the party was an AH move, as was pursuing the topic. ###### |
Been dating for 4 months now and honestly one of the things I find attractive about her, is her voice. However that's most likely fake and a tone that she keeps up. My girlfriend's native language isn't English . She speaks another language too. I only speak English and can understand a bit of Spanish. I barely hear he... | YTA. It is completly normal that the voice and even the main character changes while speaking different languages. You just assumed and called her out without knowing shit. ###### |
My girlfriend and I have been together for a while, and we decided to move in together. Since she already owns a house, I moved in with her.
Before I moved in, I made it clear that I rather it just be the two of us in the house and that I didn’t want her son to continue living with us. She was pretty blasé about this... | YTA. It is completely reasonable for a 20 year old to still live at home. You’re being ridiculous and entitled. ###### |
My husband and I have been married now for over 10 years. We had our wedding in my home country although at the time we were both living in the US. In my home country there are certain customs that people follow in the wedding speeches. A couple of weeks before the wedding my dad gave my husband a book of examples deta... | YTA. It has been ten years. It is time to move on and let this “joke” go. ###### |
My ex and I were together in 2014 and we split because I made a mistake and cheated. He ended up getting with another girl so I went over there to get my things and it escalated a little and a tv was broken. She left him after that and we got back together in 2018.
Some other things happened and we split again. Now he... | YTA. It *was* your home; it isn't anymore. Anything that is still there that you hadn't collected over the past couple of years are obviously not important items. Unfriend the guy on Facebook and get some therapy. ###### |
My daughter (33f) and I (51f) have a pretty strained relationship. We were out of touch for a number of years but have recently tried to start over fresh. She left home when she was at 17 to join the army. I was going through a separation, and then divorce, from her father. Before leaving, she was very unruly and hard ... | YTA. Is this a joke and are you a troll? You’re the biggest asshole ever. Sent her off to the army, blamed her for YOUR failing marriage? And she has still somehow let you back in your life and you cannot address her the way she wants? Damn lady not only are you an ass but I highly doubt you can “help her make better ... |
My MIL is pretty narcissistic and I did not marry the golden child. She blatantly favors her older son and she is always condescending towards my husband because of financial issues. SIL (married into the family, not her daughter) and MIL are extremely close, like they go on girls weekends pretty frequently, on family ... | YTA. Is their relationship creepy? Absolutely. Is okay to start drama with a narcissist? No. ###### |
I will keep this short.
I live with my girlfriend, we see eachother everyday.
Fridays and Saturdays I meet with the boys. That could be for drinking in town, in one of their houses, or just gaming etc. Less so with the current world situation, but we manage to keep it clean and socially distanced.
Now, every so oft... | YTA. Is she your girlfriend or your flatmate? ###### |
My wife and I live in a three bedroom home. We probably will move sooner or later but not for a few years, so in the long run these problems will get resolved before too long. One of the two spare bedrooms (my hobby room) is about 33-50% larger than the other spare bedroom. My wife wants me to move my hobby stuff out o... | YTA. Is she planning on having a glider chair for the baby? Maybe a corner for breastfeeding at night? If you aren't moving for a few years is there going to be another area for a playroom or is the bedroom going to be it? A baby doesn't need much room but a toddler could use a real bedroom. I'm 6 months pregnant and ... |
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My best friend had asked me if I was available one night and if I was could I pick her up from a party as she didn’t have a lift and felt really uncomfortable being in a uber or taxi late at night. I said of course I would pick her up.
Later that night my boyfriend texted me asking to hang out. So ... | YTA. Intentionally or not, you ditched a friend.
Your boyfriend is also an asshole. “Shouldn’t have been drinking if she didn’t have a ride home.” She did have a ride home, you, who ditched her. ###### |
My daughter is eleven and at her school they were having an event where they could dress up as a character from their favorite movie. She told me she wanted to dress up as Belle from Beauty and the Beast. I told her wouldn’t it be kind of immature for a sixth grader to dress up as Belle.
On Thursday (the day before th... | YTA. In what world is an eleven year old too mature for Beauty and the Beast? ###### |
My (26f) boyfriend (26m) decided to throw a party with a good amount of his friends and family. We had been together at this point in time for eight months.
He spoke of his siblings often and positively so I was excited to meet them. At the party I met a couple of the last remaining friends of his I haven’t been in... | YTA. If you'd feel bad about saying something depending on who's in the room, there's a good chance you shouldn't say it at all. Not to mention the fact that you think the brother is "too slow" to forgive you for **saying he never should have been born**, and you haven't even apologized yet. ###### |
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I have a son and daughter who are both in high school. Both the kids are in grade 9 we adopted my daughter. My son this year has done pretty well and scored one b. My daughter on the other hand struggled this year and got c and b.
So today during lunch my son wanted to tell me he ... | YTA. If you shelter your kids they will think they are the best in the world. That is a bad attitude. Your daughter can hear that your son performs better in school. ###### |
My husband and I (60s) had already made arrangements to keep our 10yr old granddaughter (Lauren-not her real name) for 2 weeks this summer. This isn't new. Her and our daughter, her mom (D), have lived with us off and on for financial reasons and the father isn't at all involved. We are very close with Lauren. And ... | YTA. If you owe your daughter an apology for her childhood, you should give it. Your relationship with your own mother has nothing to do with your relationship with your own daughter. As far as wanting to spend time with your granddaughter, that’s all well and good, but her mother gets to decide whether or not that ha... |
I (31M) was at a friend’s place with my wife (30F). We were a group of people and were talking about salaries.
To provide some context, the salaries in my part of the world have doubled over the past year (before Covid )and are much higher than from when I graduated 8 years ago. We were discussing the increase in sala... | YTA. If you had been right, that still would have been a rude and demeaning way to say it. Given that you were wrong, you're an asshole x 10. Maybe don't be so quick to assume your own wife isn't speaking knowledgeably? ###### |
My fiancé (21F) and I (21M) have a baby and dog. My girlfriend lives with me and takes care of the baby working part-time. I work full time and pay all the bills. I wanted her to get an abortion when she was pregnant but she insisted on keeping the baby. Before she got pregnant she had just adopted a dog I didn’t want ... | YTA. If you don't want to be in your baby's life you need to break up with your **fiancée** and start paying child support. ###### |
My husband and I are selling our house, and we were touring a woman and her husband who are getting ready to start a family. They offered a full cash offer, and it was right at what we were selling the house for, however, they were talking about making so many renovations. For example, the wife looked in the kitchen an... | YTA. If you don't want it changed don't sell it. Any other attempt to control what some one does with the house they spent their money on makes you the asshole 100%
Added assholery for if you have had the house on the market for awhile ###### |
I(25) have a girlfriend (23). She most of the time refuses to leave me alone and will not give me time to myself . Whenever i come from work , she'll always sit with me till dinner and won't let me play video games or watch TV in peace. She would insist on coming when i meet my friends .I've requested her many times t... | YTA. If you can't stand her then don't be with her. Lying is not an effective adult way of handling this situation. You are too old for this. ###### |
My 25 year old son has been married for about two years. I thought he was making a mistake, but we don't have the type of relationship where I can say that to him. My ex wife did tell him that she thought he was going to regret it but he brushed her off. They have a lot of marital issues and now they have financial iss... | Yta. If ya'll are going to post fake, creative exercises on here, can you at least write something original? ###### |
My daughter is currently in her second year of college and has all around been doing great, making me and her father very proud. Because of the insane cost of tuition (almost $40 thousand a year) and the fact that we run a fairly successful car rental business, we agreed that as her parents we'd cover up to three quart... | YTA. If the name doesn’t suit her she has every right, you being petty and punishing her for displeasing your is a major AH behavior. She’s not entitled to your money, but if you’re going to be so petty she’s better off not accepting any help from you ever. Now that she knows it’s all conditional. ###### |
I have this co-worker who is very overweight. They are constantly taking breaks during the workday because they are tired from the hard work it takes to keep our store stocked with product. She obviously doesn't take care of herself, and eats garbage. Everyday around 9 am i can hear her crack open a nice cold soda... | YTA. If someone is being unproductive, raise it to a manager to deal with. Don't make rude and unnecessary remarks about someone's weight. ###### |
My (23M) best friend (23M) bought a house, i moved in and pay him 'rent' every month to cover part if the bills.
I have been with my girlfriend (21) for 5 years and she has pretty much always lived with me at my mums and didn't pay rent (she does have a full time job) because she wants to save money. When i moved in ... | YTA. If she's essentially living there she should be contributing financially if she can afford to, or YOU should cover her rent and utility usage if she cannot. Your friend owns the house and is well within his rights to ask for her to contribute. ###### |
My gf and I both work full time but I do longer hours. We live 5 mins from her work so she only has a short commute and can leave pretty much just before she starts at 7:30, and she finishes at 4:30 so is home by 4:40 at the latest.
I have a 1 hr commute each way. I leave at 6:30am for a 7:30 start, and I do 10-12 hr ... | YTA. If she wasn’t there or you lived on your own would you starve? No you would make an effort to feed yourself. It’s really rude that you think just because she has a “standard 40hr work week” she should sub in as your housekeeper as well. ###### |
This just happened and I’m so mad so forgive any errors!
Today I have an important check up with the ENT as last week I had an ear infection (last year I had to have surgery on a ruptured eardrum so any further infections are taken v seriously. I think this one has healed up ok but need the ENT to properly assess). M... | YTA. If my partner behaved this way after I’d already tried getting them out of bed, I’d simply stop helping them and leave them to it. I’m happy to help but it is not my responsibility to get them out of bed so they can make their appointments.
Same goes for your man - who actually sounds quite lovely - he’s not yo... |
So my wife is extremely into beauty & skincare. It’s a benefit for me because it means she’s really good looking and takes good care of herself.
She buys a lot of beauty products (her money) and they take up a lot of space in the bathroom. This doesnt bother me because skincare belongs in the bathroom.
Recently I... | YTA. If it needs to be refrigerated it belongs in the fridge.
She could have told you that but you also could have asked/read the bottle.
Lots of beauty products go in the fridge, it’s quite normal. ###### |
I (30M) have been dating my girlfriend Jean (21F) for about a year now. Part of what I love about her most is that she is so supportive of me.
I'm stuck in a dead end job, really unhappy with where I am in life currently so getting to hear her talk me up and tell me how awesome I'm doing is probably one of the few th... | YTA. If it helps, you’re one of the more incredible AHs I’ve seen in this sub.
Your girlfriend sounds like she is a positive and encouraging person. You don’t have the right to try to force her to change who she is, limiting her to only being positive and encouraging toward you. ###### |
My friends and I were driving and came across a homeless dude. None of us had any cash on us. He looked decent enough. Didn’t look like he was on drugs or anything so I tossed him my credit card and told him to go buy food. My intention was to cancel the card after 30ish minutes I figured since he was homeless he could... | YTA. If I were the guy, I would definitely be skeptical that you were trying to entrap me or get me in trouble with your credit card. ###### |
My 16 year old son started his senior year this week. This last weekend of summer we agreed to let him go to a friends because we've been quarantined all summer along with his friend (his parents are our friends, they're serious about it). It was supposed to be just them 2 (parents are out of town) and they were suppo... | YTA. If a *child* is throwing up from the amount of alcohol they drank, it's time to stop. I know you wanna act all macho before your son but giving him alcohol poisoning isn't the way to go about it, neither is permanent brain damage or a coma.
Just take his electronics away next time or something, or make him pay ... |
I know this sounds bad, but please hear me out.
My son is doing terrible in school. He is barely passing most of the subjects and just failed an important math exam yesterday. I am extremely disappointed in him. The thing is, he studies, I always see him studying in his room and he did follow my rule of playing xbox o... | YTA. I've never personally understood the logic behind punishing children for struggling in school. If he's studying and still failing, the issue is not the xbox, and he needs assistance, not punishment.
>I made him take the post down and made him delete all his social media accounts.
I really hope you're trolling. ... |
I am 30 and basically have nothing in common with a 20 year old but my sister-in-law might be the exact example of the stereotypical self absorbed, iPhone addicted, eye rolling gen z that older people seem to think all young kids are like these days. Shes on her 5th go around with her on-again, off-again boyfriend and ... | YTA. I would bail on you too. Why would she want to spend time with you? You're an ass to her. If I were her, I wouldn't have a relationship with my sister if it meant dealing with your judgmental bullshit. ###### |
I have two siblings another brother and a sister. My sister is a single mom to two kids from different fathers. I'll say this of my siblings my sister has been given the most support as-is from my parents. Our parents put a down payment on her house, babysat, dad would always fix up my sister's car, house.
I was havi... | YTA. I worked in the financial aid office for my university. Low income students can have an EFC (expected family contribution) of 0; however, that just makes them more eligible for aid, which includes loans and grants--- it's not a free ride. Students have to pay back student loans and I've never heard of a grant tha... |
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I'm going to cut to the chase. My 12-year-old daughter wants to get her nails done like the ones pictured above. She claims that girls at her school all have their nails done (they actually do, which I find quite distasteful and off-putting to see on a young child) and that they bully her b... | YTA. I was going to say NAH but then I read your second and third paragraphs.
> I donʼt believe a bunch of middle schoolers would actually care about what somebodyʼs nails look like.
Clearly you have never met any middle school girls. Bullying over petty things is most definitely a thing that happens. Often.
> I ... |
I’ve (36M) been with my wife (28F) for 7 years, we are currently expecting our first (she’s only 9 weeks along)
**Disclaimer; this is the silliest argument I’ve ever had**
Last night we were laying in bed when I noticed she had stretch marks from lower to mid back, I personally thought they were pretty, she has rea... | YTA. I was going the other way but you called the argument stupid. That’s calling her feelings stupid. She is 9 weeks pregnant so her hormones will be having a party right now. She’ll have noticed her boobs are swollen and hurt. She knows she’ll probably get stretch marks on her stomach too so you pointing out ones s... |
My SIL and her husband recently had their tenth anniversary and everyone acts like they are this perfect couple. He is 22 years older than her and she married him for a meal ticket and because she was in crazy amounts of credit card debt. She used to talk so much shit about him behind his back. She would come over and ... | YTA. I think the BIL actually knows she married him for money and don’t really care about it. He might really like the idea of being married to someone young and beautiful. ###### |
Some quick context. Happily married for 4 years, 2 kids aged 6 months and 2. Wife is a SAHM. I work full-time. We split household duties pretty evenly (I do laundry, she cooks, etc.). And I help with the kids during the day (WFH due to COVID) and of course after work day is over. No complaints from me.
The other day,... | YTA. I think the "four hours of downtime" is absolutely a number you pulled out of thin air. You have two children under the age of three. They will never not need supervision at those ages. Even if the oldest goes to daycare, since you did not mention it in your list of responsibilities, I am assuming your wife is in... |
Hey all,
My (F34) best friend's (F30) son just turned 8. I know him well and decided that he is old enough and responsible enough for his first gun. I got my first gun after all when I was 6.
So I took her son out for his birthday. I took him to an empty field where I go shooting; and gave him a gift. He unwrapped it... | YTA. I seriously hope you're trolling. He's not your child, and whether he's old enough for a deadly weapon is not your call. ###### |
This has been a half serious and half joke argument I've been having with my wife and daughter for like 3 days. I have two daughters; I paid for the entire cost of the wedding for the first one since I believe in that tradition.
The problem now is my second daughter (Emma) is getting married to a woman (she's a lesbi... | YTA. I see your argument but there’s no way to swing this that won’t be seen as “I’m only paying half because you’re gay”. If you want your daughter in your life pay for the wedding. ###### |
My daughter recently turned 18 and her boyfriend is 20. They’ve been together for three years, and my daughter has constantly asked to stay the night at his house or have him stay at our house, and every single time I’ve said no. I just don’t think it’s appropriate to have a couple their age sleeping together. That’s h... | YTA. I normally don't comment but this hits so close to home because my mom is incredibly strict about dating. I was 18 and I had an 8PM curfew with my boyfriend of over two years. We were only allowed to hang out for three hours at a time. I couldn't go places with him that weren't within 15ish miles of my house. The... |
I have two daughters, Gemma (7F) and Harlyn (2F)
My (31M) wife (29F) is ginger with green eyes; she can’t tan to save her life so is naturally extremely pale.
I have darker skin, dark hair and dark eyes so when Gemma was born with pale skin and blonde hair and as she’s grown up a bit she looks absolutely nothing lik... | YTA. I love when parents get a degree in genetics from YouTube and start doing this things.
When in doubt get a proper test and don't do this things. Is better to be an asshole with science backing it up than being suspicious for years and letting your baby girl hear these things. ###### |
While I (37) was an expat in Dubai for my business, I met my current wife (27).
I already had a daughter from a relationship. Her mom is not in the picture. She gave up all custody when the baby was born.
I’m ethnically Middle Eastern but grew up in the US.
My wife however grew up in Dubai. Culturally, Dubai is v... | YTA. I know this might be an unpopular opinion, but any culture that encourages people to treat others like shit or maybe even less than human (the help is not allowed to use the bathroom while doing their job?? That's almost dehumanizing) deserves to be challenged.
Be proud of the strong morals your daughter has dev... |
My wife adopted a 12 year old boy. I participated in some of the process and was enthusiastic at the beginning, but things have changed since then.
We talked about summer camps and after school programs back during the adoption process, but since the pandemic the kid has been home 24/7. I start work at 7am and stop fo... | YTA. I hope your wife is considering undoing your marriage. ###### |
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Last weekend we went to this nice lake where you could swim and have picnics and parking was absolutely packed. Our region has done really well with covid-19 and this was up north so not many people. regardless the parking was packed and we found a ... | YTA. I have cancer and can’t walk long distances. Often use a cane. Don’t qualify for a handicap placard. You know what we do? My wife drops me and whatever stuff we have off, then goes to find a parking spot. That’s what you should have done. You get to claim a parking spot with your body. ###### |
Our son is 6 and his half sister 4. They barely see each other, my ex tries get them to hang out with each other all the time for they can get to know each other. I'm against it because I don't want to throw anyone new in his life while he's so Young.
My ex came to pick up his son for the weekend. I guess during thi... | YTA. I have a half-sister whom I literally NEVER refer to as my half-sister; she’s always just been my sister. You *are* trying to pin the siblings against each other ###### |
I saw that it was a funny trend to sign people up for random email lists and spam them, but I decided to take this a step further because he really burnt me in the past.
I went to our local church of Scientology's website and saw where you could input your personal information to receive messages from the church. Sin... | YTA. I had a "friend" who was an actual scientologist give the church my info after she confused that she had been having negative thoughts about the church due to me being anti scientology. I have been harassed, stalked, they somehow found out my email address and spamed the ever living fuck out of that email with pr... |
So for context, I just graduated with a Bachelors in English Literature with the intention to move abroad to teach English as a second language.
I'm starting off in South Korea because a friend of mine lived there for a few months and said I would love living there. My friend also lives in Singapore, which is where I ... | YTA. I get your feelings, but it’s his life, and he’s not “stealing” your dream: you can still teach abroad too. If it doesn’t work out for him, it’s going to be his responsibility. Focus on you ###### |
So for context, I just graduated with a Bachelors in English Literature with the intention to move abroad to teach English as a second language.
I'm starting off in South Korea because a friend of mine lived there for a few months and said I would love living there. My friend also lives in Singapore, which is where I ... | YTA. I get that you feel like he's stealing your thunder. But does his deciding to apply affect your prospects in any way? No, it doesn't. Just leave it be. ###### |
i (46m) have a daughter (19f) who has anxiety. She was fine both socially and mentally before, but around age 12/13 something happened to her. I'm guessing its her starting high school that made her start having it, because she'd skip class constantly and fake being sick all the time. This made her social life crumble ... | YTA. I get that it's frustrating but the way you talk about it is probably just making the situation worse. Putting "panic attacks" in quotation marks like that makes it seem as though you don't think they're real, and saying that her mind is fucked up is just a horrible thing to say. Those things probably make her an... |
Keeping it short lemme know if you need more detail. We’re all mid to late 20s. Friend’s wife has an only fans account. He knows about it and is fine with it. They need the extra cash as she lost her job and his hours were cut.
He found out that I, know about her only fans and am subscribed. His feelings are it’s dif... | YTA. I get it, she is making herself publicly available and you have every right to subscribe to her content. Doesn't mean you should. I think it's pretty tactless to pay money to see nude photos of your friend's wife. He asked you to stop, and I think that's a reasonable request. You don't have to listen, but don't e... |
So my university may be introducing a new grading scheme where they lower the threshold for a passing grade. This also affects other grades as well, basically they lowered the threshold to get a passing grade due to COVID-19.
But this will affect my grade as well, currently I’m getting really good grades I’m getting ... | YTA. I dont understand how them lowering the bar for passing will lower your grade... It just means more people will pass. ###### |
Using a throwaway account.
This is going to be a really stupid post!
My daughter is 19.
My daughter never liked iced coffee before this year, never but for some reason she suddenly likes coffee, she drinks a lot of it - a worrying amount, actually.
In yesterday alone we got Starbucks in the morning, she got anothe... | YTA. I don't see how forbidding her is going to change anything. She'll just have her coffee outside of the house and the only thing you'll get from this is that she won't want to be home anymore. Yes, drinking lots of coffee isn't the healthiest but you're acting like she's on drugs. ###### |
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For some context, I (45M) have been dating this guy (42M) for around 4 years. We’ve had some pretty bad dips in our relationship, but I love him the same. He has three kids from his past marriage, two girls (16 and 12) and one boy (8M).
I have my own daughter (13). She has been diagno... | YTA. I don't get parents who take their children to doctors and then just ... don't believe what the doctors tell them. She. Has. SEVERE. Misophonia. She shouldn't have to tell her stepbrother not to do something so disgusting that people without misphonia have trouble keeping their appetite around it. But you didn't ... |
I (29M) am engaged with my fiance (26F). My coworker (30F) and I are also decently close, as in we're somewhat friends (more than coworkers, less than friends). We were talking about my engagement and I told her about the ring I bought. It is a "cheap" ring with a zirkonia stone. It cost me around €220, which I still t... | YTA. I don't disagree with you, but an engagement ring is very personal and people are allowed to put some value in that. $1000 is not at all expensive for an engagement ring - most people would consider that cheap. The ring is an important symbol of commitment and something the woman has to wear for the rest of her l... |
My wife has always been active on social media - more active than almost anyone else I know - and that has not changed since she got pregnant. If anything, it's worse, and the posts have gotten more frequent.
Once we announced she started taking a weekly photo of her stomach to show her growth, but she posts a tons o... | YTA. I can't imagine why your pregnant wife would be offended when you mentioned that you don't think pregnant stomachs are something people want to see /s. I can't believe I need to explain this but pregnancy changes a woman's body and many women feel uncomfortable and self conscious about that. It's great that your ... |
When I was in high school I decided I was going to study in Poland and Lithuania for my bachelor's and masters respectively. Holy shit, everyone mocked me saying I was stupid for studying there and weird and how much better off they would be going to "elite" New England universities. This wasn't jsut a one time commen... | YTA. I can see your wife cringing now...
Being gracious in victory is a fine art to learn. Why go to a reunion with people you dislike just to play "one up"? You're not a kid any more. ###### |
Me and my girlfriend of 3 years were out for a dinner in a restaurant (outdoor setting). We were having a pretty good night, the conversation was fun.
We both ordered chicken breasts. She always makes fun of me that I ask for ketchup because she "doesn't like eating chicken breasts with ketchup".
After we start eatin... | YTA. I can only imagine how nice it must be to be in a relationship with all the people saying you were right here, like using a barbed wire dildo. It was ketchup. She had no reason to not put it in her plate, and you had no reason to be bothered that she chose not to. It was inconsequential. Just put more ketchup in ... |
throwaway for obvious reasons.
In late February, I went on a trip organized by my college's Student Association. Anyone who wanted to could sign up, and they take you to this indoor adult obstacle course with a ball pit, go karts, swinging ropes, monkey bars, etc.
We had to sign a waiver at the time we signed ... | YTA. I assume acid is illegal where this happened, and it's likely the form makes you consent to not engage in criminal activity, which covers use of controlled substances. ###### |
long story short my girlfriend has had weight issues her whole life. her dad did a lot psychological shit to her that made her pretty much hate herself and her body. she was bulimic for sometime until she was hospitalized, and stopped. she has gained a lot more weight. she's not fat just thicker in certain parts. she h... | YTA. How long have you two been dating? Because she has had a serious past with an eating disorder, have you not discussed with her how to handle these types of situations? You must have known that wasn’t the support she was looking for, and it clearly was a low point for her.
Also what was she supposed to do to the... |
For the record my wife knew what an asshole I was when she married me and therefore consented to all of these pranks. I probably do more to her but when she wants to get even she is straight up vicious.
I have six year old twins who just started virtual kindergarten and one of their first project was to do a science ... | YTA. How hard is it to come up with a kindergarten science experiment that doesn’t involve pee and embarrassing photos of your wife? Play pranks on your time, not your kids’ school time. ###### |
My MIL is married to a man who was born in Iran and they go once or twice a year to see his family. They have a daughter who turned 13 the other day and MIL wished her a happy birthday on social media. She included a couple of pictures and in one of the pictures, MIL and her daughter were both wearing head coverings. T... | YTA. How can you *not* apologize ###### |
My wife (34) and I (33) are having our second child. We have a daughter (5).
She’s been grouchy her whole pregnancy so her sister offered to plan her a gender reveal party.
The plan was that all the food and decorations would be blue or pink and in the end we’d get one of those special sparklers that would light
u... | YTA. Hoping for a boy is one thing. Literally walking out on your wife for a gender reveal party is another. You were extremely unsupportive and if you're that upset that you're having another daughter, then you shouldn't have had another child in the first place. Disgusting. ###### |
My son and his wife are currently staying with us though after this they have a deadline to move out. My wife and I were out of town for a couple of days and we got back late at night. The next morning we were in bed and my son was at work (they only have one car) it was about eleven but we were tired and just hanging ... | YTA. Honestly, it sounds like her behavior might be a direct result of how you are treating her. You're telling her she should have planned better, but yet you don't allow her any means of getting to the grocery store? And really, you're going to say she *stole* the bike? You knew exactly where she was going and that ... |
My (28M) parents own a beach house. We stayed their for a couple of days to celebrate the 4th of July.
The house has two bedrooms. My parents stayed in one. The other room was for me, my girlfriend of one year (32F), my brother (34M), and my little sister (23F). The room has two double beds.
After dinner, I took a ... | YTA. Honestly it’s a little disturbing that you think you can’t lay next to a girl and not have sex with her. ###### |
We rarely talk unless it has something to do with our kids. Lately our 12yo son has gotten "mouthy" at her and she asked me to talk to him. I found it ironic because she has always been a cold bitch to me lol.
I did talk to him. He's not anymore mouthy than any other 12yo. He said he didn't know she was mad because d... | YTA. Holy shit you need to show *some* respect to your son’s Mother. No wonder your son is acting out with his Mom/not taking her seriously, look at how you talk about her. Time to be a good Dad and do what’s right for your son. ###### |
So my ex and I divorced when my kids were 2 and 1. I admit I wasn’t the best dad at first and I went a few months without seeing them which prompted her to take me to court for child support which she she gets from me every month now.
Now my ex keeps the kids and I see them when I can. I work out of town so sometimes... | YTA. Holy shit dude. You're barely involved in their life from the sound of it, excuses or not. Their stepfather is clearly a great father to them and that deserves to be celebrated, whether you like it or not. ###### |
They were best friends before we ever started dating but still. I am her husband and the father of her child. I had a right to find out she was pregnant before my sister, but instead of telling me first once she found out her response was to call my sister. I was an afterthought.
I feel like she robbed me of a special... | YTA. Holy crap this level of pettiness is not appropriate for a grown ass married man who is about to be a father for God sake! Grow up before that baby gets here I beg of you. ###### |
Using a throwaway account since they haven’t publicly came out yet.
Disclaimer: Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against gay people. I support people having their own choices and living their own lives.
Here’s the situation. I (17M) have a friend (M) who agreed to room together in college. At this point he hadn’t c... | YTA. Him being gay doesn’t change anything. If you were comfortable rooming with him before, it’s not like his coming out means the switch has flipped and he wants in your pants now. ###### |
I visited my family my sister is living with my parents. She has been restless because she hasn’t been able to meet new guys cause of the situation. She then talks about how guys in their 30s that women actually want all want to date women in their 20s because they can impress them and feel manly. I told her that this ... | YTA. Here's an idea: when someone is talking about an aspect of their life that is difficult for them, you can just say 'damn, that sounds hard, I'm sorry you're feeling that way' instead of shitting on them and telling them their problems are all their fault! ###### |
So we wanted the internet to settle this debate. I've been staying with my friend Kate for a little while at her beach house. We've been best friends since college, so obviously boundaries have kind of gone to the wayside. Kate has two daughters who are 18 and 16 and the 18 year old's boyfriend was visiting. His famil... | YTA. Her husband thinking you're funny is more important to you than your friend's feelings. Maybe if she thinks you're an asshole for this, the thing about boundaries going to the wayside is more one-sided than you think. ###### |
My SO wants her ex’s father to walk her down the aisle
Pretty much what the title says. My SO & I got engaged recently & she dropped this on me last night. She dated her ex for 6 years & got really close to the family.
I don’t want her ex’s family that involved in our wedding, but she insists that he’s t... | YTA. Her ex's father is walking her down the aisle to you, not to her ex. You don't get to control who walks her down the aisle. Her dad died while your SO and her ex were dating, so I can see why she may want to have her ex's father walk her down the aisle. ###### |
My daughter is 14.
She was 12 when we moved countries two years ago. She also started puberty around that time.
Prior to the move she had many friends, took care of herself, though to be fair things were easier beging prepubescent at the time. After the move she made an honest effort to make friends and gained a clos... | YTA. Her body hair isn’t the issue.
Did you ever stop to think she likes her clothes? Something happened with her friends?
You aren’t asking the right questions. ###### |
When I was 20 I had a kid with my ex girlfriend.
I was not at all prepared to have a kid and my ex told me that I would either have to step up 100% or to basically fuck off.
I knew I couldn’t be there 100% so I fucked off.
I’m now 40 and recently received communications from my son who is 20 (She named him Nic) ... | YTA. He’s your biological kid. You may not be his father figure, but you could’ve at least given him the time of day and met with him to explain how you feel. Blowing him off completely and telling him you didn’t want to meet him was a dick move and may have made him feel abandoned/resented. He has every right to want... |
So for context, I just graduated with a Bachelors in English Literature with the intention to move abroad to teach English as a second language.
I'm starting off in South Korea because a friend of mine lived there for a few months and said I would love living there. My friend also lives in Singapore, which is where I ... | YTA. He's not "stealing" anything. You can still have 100% of what you want. He's not even going to be in the same country. ###### |
Hi, I know how the title sounds, but here's the story. One of my (23F) close friends (24F) is a fat woman. I think she is absolutely gorgeous inside and out, but she does struggle with obesity and losing weight and very serious self-image problems. She talks about it with our friend group very frequently, and I know he... | YTA. He's been dating her for two months, obviously he's 'okay' with her weight. What you said was shitty and rude and absolutely was not on everyone's mind.
Instead of 'backpedaling', *apologize*. Sincerely and with no justifications. ###### |
So my Husband(m43) has a very sucessful buiness that he started when he was 18. He was always a very poor kid and grew up in a orphanage. When he was old enough to start working he started saving as much money as he could and by the time he turned 18 he was able to create his company. Now he has over 10 million dollars... | YTA. He started the company, he built the company up, he runs the company, and it sounds like he didn't add your name to any of the business' paperwork. And why isn't $10 million enough for you? Of course you sound like a gold digger and your family should suspect your motives. Greed is not attractive. ###### |
My (23M) best friend (23M) bought a house, i moved in and pay him 'rent' every month to cover part if the bills.
I have been with my girlfriend (21) for 5 years and she has pretty much always lived with me at my mums and didn't pay rent (she does have a full time job) because she wants to save money. When i moved in ... | YTA. He owns the place and makes a very reasonable argument. You’re just being petulant about it. ###### |
My brother's son is 20, and he lives about 30 minutes drive away from our area. My brother and his wife separated about 3 years ago, and he moved out of the country, while my nephew stayed here with his mother and brother. When the breakup happened, all of our side of the family tried not to take sides, as there was in... | YTA. He hadn’t even seen you guys since the kid was born. Most of his knowledge of her existence will have stemmed from people telling him a couple of times she existed. His life does not revolve around you. Maybe it was insensitive to say, but he probably said it without thinking. You even acknowledge it was nothing ... |
It’s as simple as that. We like each other, we support each other, we do things for each other often. It irked me that he needed me, his wife, to sew a button on his pants because he didn’t know how (that was his explanation about why I should do it.) It felt demeaning in that ‘because you are a woman and I am a man ... | YTA. he doesn’t know how to sew and probably doesn’t want to make it look sloppy - this would have been a good teaching moment, so that he is prepared next time. But nope, you tell him no rather than taking two seconds to show him. ###### |
My cousin (17m) says after he graduates from high school he wants to be a navy seal. I laughed my ass off when i heard that becuase he's at least 80 pounds overweight and he can't even do a single pull up, nor can he even walk up a flgiht of stairs without getting winded. He is too out of shape to even join the airforc... | YTA. He can resolve these things by training. Unfortunately for you, there is no gym for fixing that shitty personality. ###### |
A long time close friend of mine recently came out to me as gay (important to mention I am also gay), he mentioned that it was probably internalized homophobia that took him this long and that he is still working it out. I felt delighted for him and offered to be there for when he felt like telling other people. He sai... | YTA. He acknowledged his past homophobia. He asked you to keep it in the DL, and *you agreed.* Your outing of him was pure revenge. Not cool. ###### |
We’re expecting twins in October and have obviously been suggesting names, we could have two girls/two boys (to sum up; we don’t know the genders)
I’ve picked;
Gabriella and Isabella
Caleb and Joshua
Ordinary, decent names that won’t make people take a double take and won’t ruin their chances for a job in the fut... | YTA. Having rhyming names for twins sounds more ridiculous than Freya and Eliza!
I'd be embarrassed to have a name almost identical to my sister!
Nevertheless, it's not about the names but the way you behaved which makes YTA ###### |
So my friends and I were having a kickback in our apartment last Tuesday; these girls from these two sororities were there.
This one girl ended up having an unexpected incident and I guess started leaking blood. A little even got on our floor. We only have one bathroom, so we didn’t want her to make a mess and their ... | YTA. Have you never lived with a woman before?
She'd put on a pad/insert a tampon, wipe everything down, wash her hands and be done in three seconds. Probably would have cleaned the floor for you too, if you hadn't been such assholes.
Also, if someone is leaking blood into the floor, through their clothes, they're b... |
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, his younger brother is 20.
In all the time I’ve known my BIL he’s not shown any interest in women.
His browser history is full of men on men (he gave me his old phone and didn’t wipe it, shouldn’t have snooped)
He gets very awkward around other men and has a weird obsession wi... | YTA. Have you ever considered learning to crochet? Cross stitch? Fishing? Stamp collecting? Just trying to help because you desperately need a hobby that isn't snooping and meddling in other people's lives. ###### |
My husband was not raised by his mother. I don't know many details because she said she doesn't have to justify it to me, but i think she wanted an abortion and was talked out of it. She is very successful in a niche industry and spent his childhood traveling, focusing on her career, and partying. For some reason he ha... | YTA. Has she ever done anything to actually prove she can’t look after a baby or would be negligent with yours?
Whether she wanted an abortion or not way back when doesn’t make her less of a parent, so many people weigh up their options when they find out they’re pregnant. Also, lots of people travel for work, and th... |
I’ll make this short and sweet, I’m dating somebody now and I would never cheat on them and I’d hope for / expect them to never cheat on me too.
We got in an argument earlier because I admitted that before I met him, I didn’t see a problem with me being “the other woman” because quite frankly they weren’t my relation... | YTA. Funny you wouldn't want it done to you but you have no problem being a catalyst for extreme emotional turmoil in someone else's relationship. ###### |
Me and my girl have been together for 2 years but only lived with each for 8 months. My first time ever living with someone else and her second. I mean in a relationship status. Me and her sister have of course meet plenty of times and have no issue with each other that I know of. Might change....lol just joking.
Her ... | YTA. For this alone:
> Plus I already get enough unnecessary attitude from my girlfriend don't need more from the same blood line.
If you don’t like her and want to be alone, why on earth are you living with her? You just need a substitute mommy/sex doll?
It’s tough having unplanned longer term guests, but the... |
My daughter (8) spends a lot of time face-timing with her cousins, sisters aged 9 and 11. The sisters are heavy set and my daughter is healthy slim, because my wife and I monitor her diet fairly carefully and don't let her eat too much junk food.
Lately they have been on a kick about being the two of them being "chun... | YTA. For Godsakes, she’s only 8 years old!! Why would you teach her that being slim would equate to getting a man? Where are your priorities?? ###### |
Most of the kids in my child’s Texas school district returned to class face-to-face this week, although about 20-30% of the students are still working from home. I received an email from one of my kid’s teachers introducing themselves and letting parents know that their class was “blended learning” where all the kids (... | YTA. First of all, sending your child to school is an absolute unnecessary risk to begin with. Secondly, how on earth is a teacher supposed to teach two different classes at the same time. Teachers in Texas do not make “good money” and you honestly need a privilege check. This person is risking their life in this envi... |
So we are from a country that’s currently dealing with huge disasters, there are legit high percentage of families that can’t find food and shelter because of the recent pandemic, we have electricity shortage, the government is even struggling to deliver water into homes all that with extreme temperature and a joke of ... | YTA. First of all, caring about the BLM movement is not something that’s limited only to Americans. So referring to that person as ignorant makes absolutely no sense.
Secondly, if you really feel that BLM is not something that you need to address then you need to learn to voice your opinion and argue points in a cons... |
I'm in a tight spot here.
My son (17) is a bit of a hassle to handle. When he was younger he tried to commit, we had to send him away to a hospital, he's better now. Then when he was 15 he became an atheist and it was hard because we're super religious and even after I tried to convince him , he still stayed to his be... | YTA. First of all “not wanting to associate with them (LGBTQ+)” is still HOMOPHOBIC. Not accepting a person for who they are as an LGBTQ+ individual is still homophobic. That aside, you cannot force your son to come out. It can sometimes be a very stressful and terrifying thing. Especially since your son would be comi... |
Okay so I remember when I was at the gym one day and I was looking for a song on Spotify to jam out to while my workout routine. This lady started circling around me and pretending to look at her watch (she doesn’t have one LMAO) and she finally went up to me and was like “Can I use this machine because you’re not usin... | YTA. Find your song before you tie up a machine. ###### |
I know that the title makes my situation sound bad, but hear me out.
So my daughter, who is 15 years old, recently came out to me as a lesbian, which I wholeheartedly support. That was about 3 days ago. Yesterday, she went to see some of her friends (with masks and social distancing) and they hung out for a while. Whe... | YTA. Even if your daughter is not a lesbian and K was a boy you'll still be an AH. You can't seriously wait for a few minutes until everyone else is out of earshot? Tsktsktsk.
Edit: typos ###### |
I’m a lifelong fan of Richard Pryor and I a frequenter of a cafe for a few months. The cafe is somewhat of a mixture of hipsters and yuppies, which isn’t really my scene, but it happens to be walking distance from my apartment.
This morning I went in and played Blazing Saddles on my laptop for about half an hour. I di... | YTA. Even if you were watching Sesame Street, you’d be the asshole.
Regardless of the content, it is polite to put on headphones when in a public space. So put on some damn headphones. ###### |
My fiance's mom is doing surrogacy for his dad's brother and his wife, because she can't have kids. We were at their house a few weeks ago and his mom is really visibly pregnant now. I know nothing about surrogacy, so i thought she just got pregnant the old fashioned way. I said that his dad is such a good brother for ... | YTA. Even if you honestly thought they had to sleep together, the fact that you would bring that up at a family gathering is extremely rude (and stupid). Then you knocked a cake on the ground when they called you out, just to drive home how much of an AH you are.
Well done. ###### |
Me [18F], my parents, my brother Tom and his girlfriend Lily [22M & 24F] went out for dinner yesterday.
We were all casually dressed. I wore jeans, t shirt, trainers etc and my parents and brother dressed the same way. Lily was different. She wore a dark dress, full makeup, hair done, heels etc. She looked like s... | YTA. Even if it wasn’t your intention, you were rude and you made her uncomfortable. Say you’re sorry, don’t pull stuff like this again and you’ll be fine ###### |
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