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Hello. I don’t know if this is the right place to post this. If not I’m sorry. I’m 16 and female and I have anxiety, depression, and possibly OCD. I don’t have friends to talk to about the things I need help with. I overthink so much I need to talk about some of these thoughts before I give myself a killer headache everyday. The only thing is i message my mother because it helps me calm down. I can’t help it. I need to talk to let the thoight go. But the thing is I feel like such a burden to her and my family because I’m going through these issues. I feel so guilty and terrible for even existing sometimes because I feel like I’m just messing things up. I have no job and I don’t drive because my anxiety got so bad from quarantine and online school. So I feel like I’m leeching off my parents from everything.
Does anyone know how to stop feeling like a burden all the time? If anyone has any advice at all I’d love to hear it. I’ll probably delete this later this is embarrassing.
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One blessing with this pandemic- everyone is doing curbside pick up now. Place your order ahead, call store when you get there, no need to go in.
Pre Pandimic, I'd spend at least 30-45 minutes drooling over shit I knew I couldn't afford. End up buying at least on average $20 worth of crap I didn't need thanks to ADHD. And I'd give in and buy some tasty tasty sweets and snacks to gobble down on the way home....
Now I place my order, just what I need, nothing more, nothing less. I choose the pick up time, go to store, come home.
Our grocery store bill has gone down about $45-50 a month and into our Roth IRA account, and now grocery shopping (acutally going to the store) takes me 30-45 minutes there and back as before it was 3-4 hours.
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So you know that whole thing where focus becomes a trillion times better at night? I experience that basically everyday and I like it but also find it kinda useless cause I also need to cut myself off and go to sleep. Does anyone have any advice on how to change that or flip it around? Anything useful based on your lives and experiences? I'm so tired of being absolutely useless during day time and being all zoned in and focus as soon as it's a few hours before time for bed! Thanks ahead of time :)
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Hi I am a 22 year old female struggling to find an adequate ADHD diagnosis in Brooklyn. Does anyone know of any good doctors? My psychiatrist keeps suggesting anti-anxiety and depression medication and I feel that she is not hearing me at all. She says stimulants are hard to prescribe if I was not diagnosed as a kid and that ADHD testing is super expensive. I have United Healthcare Community plan, please if you know of any doctors who take this insurance and understand adult ADHD let me know!
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After seeing a couple of posts here that have gotten a lot of attention in the last day or so, I think it's time to raise this point. (one about being attacked for confronting someone "misusing" the term OCD, and another about how correcting people is a futile endeavor)
Many, many OCD sufferers are actually distressed by untidiness, misalignment, asymmetry, and dirtiness. Myself included. And I am tired of people acting as if those things are "fake" or "misrepresentative" obsessions and compulsions. The perception that OCD is marked by an obsessive need for tidiness, organization, and pristine alignment grew to be so widespread BECAUSE LOTS OF PEOPLE WITH OCD HAVE THOSE THEMES. No, those are not the only and typically not the most distressing OCD themes, but they are very real for many of us. No, that doesn't mean that ignorant people who don't know the difference between being satisfied by symmetry and being viscerally relieved by it aren't ignorant in casually mentioning "their OCD."
But for crying out loud, can we stop acting like stereotypical OCD themes aren't real and valid. I cannot be the only one who is tired of seeing "wow, perfect alignment, sO QuiRkY" under post after post in their own community.
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Sometimes when I'm being intimate with my boyfriend I'll get fleeting memories of instances of sexual assault with my old abuser and it's disgusting, but I'm usually able to push it away. Its enough to make me have to pause but I don't feel the heart racey anxiety, just a big disconnection and confusion and extreme frustration that I have to think of it and it makes me feel incredibly guilty. I woke my boyfriend up afterwards crying really hard/couldn't breathe and I still wondered if I was really feeling and then began to question if this was some elaborate manipulation attempt or something. I'm able to switch all my feelings off and continue as normal and I feel like it is just a protection thing but its frustrating and makes me feel inauthentic
Its especially confusing because I feel like if it was really that sensitive and terrible how can I think of it without feeling more intense emotions?
Is this a commonly experienced symptom of ptsd? I feel like I'm not allowing myself to feel things in order to protect myself. Its frustrating because I want it all out and to purge it but when I try, my life is consumed for weeks.
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i’ve only been diagnosed very recently, but the reason i ended up back in therapy was because i wasn’t eating enough. all eating disorders have been ruled out because if food is set down in front of me i’ll eat it and finish it with no problem and i have no body image issues or food anxiety. the problem for me is the thought of acquiring/making the food. i cannot explain it but i just can’t force myself to get food. i can’t figure out what to eat or what to make so i just don’t make anything. the lack of fuel in my body has created a TON of issues in my everyday life. i’m in the process of trying to find medication that works for me but can anyone else relate? it’s hard for me to articulate this thought because i can barely pinpoint it myself.
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I have become so attune to masking my symptoms during my day as I am in a doctoral program and I know the required professionalism that is typical, but when I go home and smoke, it's like a GIANT bubble burst and oh my am I weird! (I use weird as an awesome definition, rather then seeing weird to be bad). I crunch my face way more, I spout and spout and spout random words and quotes etc... I am wondering if it is due to me masking so much throughout the day or it is the weed, maybe both I am thinking? Keep in mind I am of legal age and in a state where weed is completely legal. Anyways, cheers and thank you all for any advance as I do appreciate it a lot! :)
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DAE resist compulsions for so long but your OCD thought is just kinda almost lingering subconsciously….you know it’s there but you don’t actually pluck it out and think about it…..and then you feel some sort of happiness and peace but you can’t tell if you’re getting it from the OCD thought or from what’s really happening in your life?
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Recently, I’ve been so depressed and anxious about a possible pregnancy from when I was going through a manic phase and wasn’t careful (look over my precious posts for details).
My girlfriend has been so supportive, and honestly has been the only thing keeping me alive in general, but going through this has made me realize that I’m just too much to deal with for anyone.
Every single time I’m with her, I’m truly happy and I finally feel like I maybe don’t want to die, and maybe I can get through this.
But my mood switches so quickly that she can turn away and talk to someone else for a minute, and I’ll be crying and suicidal when she looks back, and it’s definitely tiring for her. She says she loves me no matter what, and she wants to get through this with me, but I’ve heard so many stories of people leaving their partner because they can’t handle their depression anymore, and I’m scared she’ll do that to me.
At the same time, I don’t want to make her stay with me because she thinks I’ll commit suicide if she’s not. I don’t want to be toxic, and I don’t want to be so co-dependent on her.
I genuinely care more about her well-being then I care about myself. I’d do absolutely anything for her to be happy, but I don’t know know if being with me will make her happy if she has to keep dealing with this.
I hate this. I really do. I love her more than anything, but I’m so unstable. I’m just waiting for the day she gets tired of it. She’ll leave me and I’ll have nothing to live for. No matter what she says, I know it’ll come, and every moment I spend with her is now tainted with the thought.
I don’t know what to do. If anyone has any advice or thoughts, please share. Thank you.
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im not sure what this falls under. i have not been diagnosed with anything and most of my life i have been fine. this year i turned 19 years old back in june and it feels like everything after that has gone to shit. i am not the same person i was at the year start. right now i really do feel like dying, but also not really which ill explain.
it started after i lost my job at a retirement home's dining facility in early july. i was handling freaking out over my stress of waitering (the job didnt start as waitering, but delivering food to homes) and taking nonstop heat from the boss for a while, but one day just broke me for some reason. i dont think my dad was happy i quit on the spot like that but he was collected in the end, and told me he wouldve also quit if he knew it would devolve into waitering.
i got another temp job at a bookstore until the fall college semester started. the subject i was majoring in (electrical engineering) was not a fit for me (i only was taking it because my dad took it and cant disappoint him) and i had another breakdown after the first day. my mom decided i should take a different major and when we broke that to dad, he was upset at first. he told me "when are you gonna stop quitting things and start enduring?" even after he calmed down and agreed i should change major i was still scared as shit.
the start of october. i get another part time job working for some guys paintball gun refurbishing gig. first day goes fine, he has me degrease (or clean) gun parts. next day goes to hell. he has me buffing parts (holding them up to a spinning wheel to shine them) and i am no good at it. the wheel is so fast it heats my hands and the parts fly out of my palms. he has to show me multiple times and i feel nothing but embarrassment. i think to myself, "this is all my life will be" and i breakdown again. he sends me home, on good terms, but i was freaking out the whole time knowing dad would be pissed. he was. he told me something along the lines of "son, your anxiety is real, but the cause is not" which in my head translates to "son, you're delusional and this needs to stop". i go to the doctor a few weeks later, get meds; they dont work. dad is fine but not happy about any of this. i start to wake up in fear, lying there for up to an hour just shaking. sucks this all had to happen near the end of the year when he uses his all of his leftover vacation days, so of course hes on me like a hawk.
now im really freaking out over becoming an adult. all i see in my approaching future is working a miserable 9-5 job for 40+ years; thats over twice my current lifespan. my life up to this point has already felt like forever, now i need to live 2 more times feeling worthless and exploited? ill probably end up with a nothing job where nobody likes the work but nobody is grateful for you doing it either. "oh, but the best incentive to work is a big fat paycheck!" yea, that would be nice if i didnt have to spend all of it on 20 different necessities. a car, car insurance, a house, bills, taxes, repairs, food, it makes money worthless to me. i got my job back at the bookstore after getting vaccinated and dad thinks im only doing it for "spending money"...nope, only money im gonna need to survive. dad tells me i work to live, i say no! i work to survive. i cant have nice things right now. i also dont like interacting with coworkers anyway since ive been a social shut in ever since i got plucked from public school in the third grade. homeschool probably played a huge chunk in where i am right now.
i like to be creative. i enjoy art, animation, game design, and the occasional writing. dad cares for none of it because it cant make a career fit for a family and is just gay to him. my older sister already majored in art and dad really wasnt happy about that; he mocked her about it to me behind her back occasionally. now i have to uphold some expectation for dad since he sure doesnt want 2 artsy kids. i cant even truly follow my passion in any free time i have because 1. its so much work for just me that itll never get done, i cant get a team for an entire game, and 2. my parents are always looming over me and i hate when they see what i work on, but i cant tell them to leave me alone because theyre my superiors and do what they want with a pawn like me.
im not gay. i dont like men. but i struggle with my identity and i dont like being labeled a man. i didnt have any say when the doctor saw me at birth, so now i have to uphold some shitty man image for this entire family, not just my dad. people only point out how tall or broad i am, or how bushy my beard is; i wish they would see me as a person before that. i have to brainwash myself back into being a man. all these people on the internet opened me up to new ideas about myself but i must forget them now. it was unrealistic anyway according to dad.
what do i mean when i say "i really do feel like dying, but also not really"? well sure i think of it all the time, but im too scared of what awaits on the other side. my family is christian meaning ive been exposed to that all my life, including haha leviticus 18:22 proves everything you think is wrong, so i wouldnt want to kill myself and be face to face with god, who would condemn me for letting people down and scarring them for their lives in that action. so im trapped here. whats the point of god making us humans individuals if we all have to act the same way and mindlessly follow him regardless? i wish i never knew of this but what can i do. it isnt helping me physically.
im still at the bookstore for the rest of this month, thats going as fine as it can, though i still secretly cry now and then. not sure about next month since thats the spring semester, but i dont even want to think about that. i dont care that i like working with computers and that it would be a good career choice, because a fulltime career in them will still probably break me for feeling like wasted time, or for panicking after upsetting the boss; of course also all the fees i mentioned that come with living by myself. i just want it to end, i keep telling myself. it never does.
i have fantasies of going on in the woods and hiding until i starve then decompose. as long as no one finds me, it will be nature running its course. so it wouldnt be a suicide, right? thats all i think. i can never do it though because if my parents do send a search force, i would not want to come back home to dad after such a bold action. hed probably be disappointed for life.
all that people say is "hold out hope, it will get better eventually!" but i am full on powerless in this situation. i do not inflict power on the world, it only inflicts onto me. all i can do is appeal to my bastard dad and never let myself get too comfortable in my passion for art because its just frilly and pointless. i grin and bear it for the most part until i break down and cry again and my poor mother has to comfort me. even if she is subliminally messaging me with her christian podcasts, its better than nothing i guess! i was not meant to live this far end of story.
my apologies that this is a lot to read and my gratitude if you did read all of it. i do not anticipate an answer, i just needed to let this out to anyone other than my mother. i promise i will not hurt myself. thank you
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I haven’t seen my abusive ex in almost 2 years since I last left their room. I thought I was safe and strong enough to go on Instagram’s discovery page but obviously was wrong—I’m pretty sure I saw them though I quickly clicked out.
Even though my entire body flooded with fear, I was able to calm down. I still can’t control the sudden fight or flight response my brain goes into but I told myself I’d be safe and okay. I spent the next 20 minutes doing the hyper vigilance thing seeing the probability of it was them, checking to see if I could find it again, but I left.
I’m not going to hurt myself over it. I am able to remind myself of my own life without them. I am going to be okay one day. A year ago I would have probably tried to take my life. I’m so proud to be getting better, even if it’s slow ❤️🩹
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I hope that each of you are able to find your value today, to give thanks to all of the people that help keep you together and find solice from your trauma. I Love you all very much.
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I want to make it clear that I don't know if this is related to ADHD, but to get this post out, the stupid bot made me make the title misleading. But the smallest motions make me flinch. Everything. The sound of a hammer pounding, the bass of music in a car, people who approach me. My own motions sometimes make me flinch. It's bad. My dad will sometimes wave his hands at me, (as a joke. He's not some asshole) and I'll be blinking like strobe light. I know he would never lay a hand on me. People I'm not even in slightest intimidated by will cause me to flinch just through a sudden movement. It's quite hindering and embarrassing, what if I get into a fight and I need to defend myself? Will I flinch with every punch I throw? Does anyone has this issue?
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i (M 18)
please help me i was talking to a girl and did stuff with her like seexuual stuff and she used to say things like i don’t like being touched and stuff and basically i told her before we did the stuff that i don’t do relationships and basically she told me she was trans after i said i don’t have feelings for her and i’m pretty sure she isn’t lying because she has solid proof and i’m not gay btw and she didn’t tell me this and apparently she is i’m not 100 sure and now she’s saying she will expose me to every one that i am gay and stuff and now i really want to ki ll myself as i would be bullied to death and i know you might be thinking oh well u shouldn’t be bothered but i am because it will ruin all chances will any girls in my area and it will ruin my reputation and it will ruin my life and i’m in the most important year of my work and i’m already going through a lot of stress and i will fail it and i will have an awful life can someone tell me what to do please ?
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About two years I suddenly began retching daily. It comes on as a light gagging, and if I don't fully allow myself to get to the retching (near vomiting) then I can't move on. So basically I feel like I'm on the verge of vomiting all the time and for over two years I've had to deal with "you sure you're not pregnant? *smirk*" in response, which is a fun little intrusive-thought-triggering cherry on top of a compulsion sundae *chefs kiss*
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Which means until then I have no access to medication or assistance from my medical care. What can I do in the mean time to help with my ADHD?
For the most part, I like how it nurtures my creativity but on the other hand, I’m struggling so much to be productive. I can’t get anything done until the last minute and it’s affecting my performance at work and my relationships with my friends and family members.
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Idk if it’s a side effect of OCD or just anxiety in general. But (before our breakup ofc) i confided in my bf of 2.5 years about my OCD.
Literally the only other two people who know about it are my therapist and my best friend. I’m so ashamed of it and have hidden it (probably unsuccessfully idk) from everyone in my life including my family for 14 years. He is the third person ever to know about it.
I confided in him about it and how it controlled my life. It was hard to talk about. I felt so stupid.
A few months later I mentioned it again. I wanted to start talking about it casually as I had never been able to ever talk to anyone about it because of my embarrassment..but when I tried to mention it casually he said “you have OCD?”
Idk I guess I just needed to vent. That hurts. This shit is hard to talk about and not feel hardcore judged for. I’d rather have all the strangers of Reddit know than anyone I personally know irl. It hurts to not be able to let people know about it as if it’s no big deal.
Maybe it’s a good thing he forgot about it, like he doesn’t associate me with that. But idk it hurt. Like he doesn’t realize the gravity. It literally controls every second of my life and he forgot that. I guess I’m overreacting.
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Did anyone else suffer really bad with ocd when at school? I can remember constantly getting these intrusive sexual thoughts when sitting next to people in class or talking to a teacher. It used to make me super anxious as I literally thought I might lose control and do something totally fucked up
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So I have been reading online about shadow people, my anxiety and ocd have been going nuts and I just want to find something to believe.
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Okay so basically, when i was 4 years old i was completely toilet trained and had just stopped bed wetting. my family went on a holiday to south africa where my parents had parties with many random strangers and drugs involved. i know that one night, there was a blackout and my mum told me she can’t remember what happened because she was on acid and so was my dad. i came back from this trip and began bed wetting and wetting my pants every single day. this went on for years because i simply didn’t have any ‘sensation’ when i needed to go to the bathroom, it just came when it wanted. this resulted in me being bullied for most of my primary school years making me isolate myself from the rest of the world. at this point, all i could remember from that trip to south africa was these blue bedsheets and how dark it was, but i never questioned that until now. also, growing up i struggled with very sexual intrusive thoughts that i thought were normal at the time, but i have come to learn since that it isn’t normal for a 6 year old to be having fantasies about being sexually assaulted as how would a child even know what that is? i believe in my heart that something happened to me on that trip, but i feel like i can’t tell anyone because they won’t believe me as i can’t exactly remember. as i’ve gotten older, more memories have surfaced of shadow figures and someone standing over me, but i’m unsure if it’s just my mind playing tricks on me or if what i’m remembering is real. i’m writing this to let this out as i’ve held onto this for so long and have nobody in my life who i feel will believe me if i tell them
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To preface, me, my mum and my sister are all ASD. I suspect it's causing some interpersonal mishaps in our household that's allowed me and my sister to be complete dicks most of our lives. It's a bit embarassing but my 20 year old sister won't do chores and at the age of 23, I can't get her to change her attitude. I used to be the same, selfish and kind of touchy, but after watching loads of self-help stuff and realising I'd be really screwing myself and others if I don't get my act together I changed and started doing more to help out my family. Anyway, I suck at trying to get through to her. I just can't seem to get her to understand that her lack of action is hurting our lives and hers. Our back garden looks like a crack house from all of her bin bags she's left out the back gate. The upstairs hallway has been blocked for weeks. She leaves plates out, bits of vegetable over the side board, she tracks mud through the house everyday to feed her guineepigs outside, she doesn't do the bins, the washing up, hanging out laundry that isn't hers, she doesn't sweep or mop the floors, hoover the hallways. The last chore she did was moving boxes from one table to a different counter and sweeping the floor for my sisters Birthday a week ago while I cooked her meal and cleaned the entire house as best I could all day before hand by myself. I also do pretty much everything I listed before all the time with no help. She has a stable part time job and is completely capable of doing this stuff on her days off. I always think if her boss was here she'd be smashing this stuff like it was nothing.
I've tried talking to her, her reasons are borderline nonsensical, I've had plenty of arguments with her about it and she will openly take the position that 'she should only do things for herself and not for others because she doesn't care'. That's her answer when really pushed. Pretty harsh and cold. She sits around watching tik tok and tv all day and it's really getting on my tits. I just try to bug her now, I hide her shoes when she leaves them out. I used to put her dirty washing she'd leave around the house in front of her bedroom door. She just doesn't seem to care. I feel it'll only turn around when she realises being an adult basically means only doing the important stuff or having a bad life and the massive change will be a huge shock to her system when she can't sit on her phone 5-8 hours a day.
I'd be willing to try a lot of different ideas. I don't want to be a tyrannical dictator but this is just taking the piss. Anyone who's dealt with something like this, your advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Weird question I know. But since the pandemic, I’ve ditched the socks and I feel good about it. There’s not a second where I’m not barefoot.
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rant// ive been 'depressed' for as long as i can remember. the idea of suicide has always been a reoccurring thought to me, but its not until these past months that its starting to actually feel like a real possibility for me. I've made so many bad decisions that have led me to this place and i dont know how to get myself out. im dealing with a drug related arrest that has resulted in my disqualification for DACA (basically temporary residence in the US) renewal, and once my current one expires in february i wont be able to work or continue studying here. I never expected my life to turn out this way. I've been in the US all my life and there is no way I could live in Mexico again. If im struggling to stay alive here, how much worse would it get for me over there? Ive isolated myself from anyone that cared about me, i have no meaningful connections with anyone, and have spent all my time and money on drugs and alcohol just to be able to get through the day. I dont plan on staying any longer past february, but the thought of going through with it still scares me. i feel so lonely i dont know what to do.
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I've seen therapist and psychologist this year through my journey of healing after a bad separation.
I feel a low cost group therapy could help.. or creating a peer support group . Thoughts ?
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has depression ever ended or taken a toll on a romantic relationship for you? I'm really struggling with this currently.
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edit: I realized maybe I should have been less vague.
I've been struggling with depression since I was 10. currently 20 and just moved in with my partner of 2 years. I think we wanted to be much more ready than we were. he just brought up to me tonight that it is really difficult for him to see me in bed so often, taking naps so often, on social media so often, etc. and I completely understand that. I don't necessarily want to be doing these things, but they are so much easier than doing other tasks that take so much of my energy. I could just be doing the dishes and I'm exhausted and feel like I deserve a nap or to spend an hour on social media afterward. he has struggled with depressive episodes as well, but is much better about finding the motivation. it can be frustrating when he says "just do it" because it does not feel that simple AT ALL to me. so this is now taking a toll on us and if I don't make changes, though I want to change too, our relationship could come to an end. that's not at all what I want, but I also wish I could heal in my own time... I don't want to feel like I'm finally doing all of these things, making all of this progress that I've wanted to make for so long, just for him. am i even making any sense at all lol
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Hey everyone. I'm desperate. Not even 3 weeks ago I was a relatively care free 27 yo. Now I'm a nervous mess that has let anxiety and distress tear his life apart. About 4 weeks ago I had gotten into a bad place with health anxiety. One day my vision felt off, and I began to fixate on this. I googled my symptoms as they came up which manifested more symptoms, and it put me in a horrible state of panic and alertness. Eventually I stumbled upon health ocd which actually helped me realize I was doing a lot of this damage to myself. This helped calm me, but I think the damage it had done to me mentally was taking longer to recover from.
This is when things got worse for me. I was trying to remain stable and keep myself calm until my doctor visit which is on the 27th. My mind is still on high alert and struggling to realize how I got to back to this headspace. (I had a huge health anxiety attack when I was around 19 and swore I'd never do that again) and while I'm focusing on my mental and physical state my wife is listening to her true crime podcast. Something we listen to together quite often. And for some reason my mind latched to this podcast.. I began to flood myself with unreasonable thoughts of me turning out like this psycho from the podcast. My mind began to think "if you could obsess over sore eyes and drive yourself mad maybe you're crazy!" Thoughts of me being like this person and hurting my wife, myself, or others flooded me so quick that I wanted to puke! My mind had swapped one fear for another! Just as I was about to break free from my health anxiety my mind found something that was harder to shake! I love my wife more than anything in this world so this fear and these thoughts left me mortified and exhausted. I again ran to the internet for help, I had to know if this was normal. Again this led me back to ocd, but many of the stories I had read talked about individuals who have struggled with these issues for years. This was all so sudden to me. I had struggled with freak anxiety attacks in the past, but it's been easily 8+ years since I've had something like this happen to me. And as mentioned above just 3 - 4 weeks ago I would've never expected to be like this.
Anyways I'm so sorry for rambling, but I had to get this out there. I'm crippled with fear and anxiety. Things that once brought me joy now scare me into thinking theyll trigger my thoughts and anxiety. Happiness is quickly diminishing for me, and its straining every part of my life. I have moments of clarity where it's like a breath of fresh air hits me and my world feels like starting to realign, but then the thoughts of returning to the darkness manage to do just that. I feel like I'm quickly running out of steam to win this mental tug of war. Anyways thank you from the bottom of my heart if you've made it this far, and I'd really appreciate any advice or feedback on my situation.
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There are some stuff that I think it is the most disturbing thing ever, but there is a little voice inside my head which I hate who always says "I want to do that", and I am like I DONT WANT TO DO THAT, THIS IS THE MOST TERRIBLE THING EVER. I am always fighting with this voice, but I am always losing because it is inside me even though is my total opposite. I feel so guilty, I know I have never hurt anybody, but I cant talk to anyone because they would never understand. They would say "if something inside your head says u want to do something, then you want to do." But I don't, I am sure I don't. Nobody would believe me. And nobody had never been through this, so they wouldn't understand. I feel so lonely and guilty but it doesn't make sense since I DON'T WANT TO DO THOSE THINGS, I DONT HAVE THE DESIRE. But I'm losing this game.
sorry about grammar mistakes
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Hi, my situation is as the title describes. I know it’s very specific but I am wondering if there is anyone else out there in my shoes who has done this. Im afraid to label myself as having ADHD because of stigma, and because it was already insanely competitive to get in. I just don’t want it to cause me more problems than help at school. But I am nervous about being required to share a dorm and how im going to handle the course load. Any advice would be wonderful.
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i feel emotionless, i counter all emotions i have with some other thought. I haven't felt happy in a while, but i have felt sad. I know i am weak, and will one day end up doing something i regret.
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is it when u ask someone to say that everything is fine and that this problem is small ? And also what is the difference between seeking reassurance and seeking support ?
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I'm done.
I’ve come to terms with the fact that I want to end my life. I’ve spent a lot of time evaluating recently, and this is ok with me. It’s different than before. This isn’t impulsive, it’s planned. I’ve read all the statistics, and suicide is infectious in social circles. If I do end my life, I don’t want it to hit my friends out of the blue. I’m not seeking their permission, or understanding, or help. I just want to let them know where I am.
I have a time and place picked out. Giving myself some time to figure out how I want to go. I've lost 30 pounds in 2 months, I have nightmares, I don't want to get out of bed. I've eaten about 2000 calories in 4 days. But, I'm going to live this last month the way I want. Who knows, something might come along to deter my course.
I cleared my conscience to my best friend, told him I would understand if he didn't want me in his life anymore. He said he always would want me in his life. The next day, he asked me to pick up all my stuff (shared living, kind of) and contact him through mutual friends only. Given the topic of my confession, I do not blame him. I'm at peace with it. I don't have much longer to live to be in his life. It could take years to reconnect, but I have a month.
I like the posts in this sub and the people who post them. We're on the same page. If you want to reach out, if you're also in a place like me, let's do it. Whatever happens this month happens, right?
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depression
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31m here, wanting to hear if sb can relate to a issue I have regarding work life.
When i was younger and had small jobs through school or weekend jobs i hated it. I found myself looking at the clock two hours before i started, crying and waiting for when i had to leave to reach work in time. Every job i had i Just quit, without Even giving a notice because i Just thaught it was awful. Friends and family thaught i was lazy or acting stupid.
When i was 23 i get a "real" job and worked everyday for a few months. I hated this even more, and it wassnt a horrible job, it was ok, but the fact that i have to wake up at a surten time doing stuff for another Company earning stupidly low income for 8 hours everyday its Just nagging my brain and throwing my emotions into a tornado of mess. I feel that doing same routines over and over and over, for do Long everyday is my Main issue.
So i stepped down to 6 jour days, 4 days a week. This was 100% doable for me. My mental health was never better. I worked like that for many years.
Now i moved with my gf and i have fulltime job again, and i did it for a year and i feel like such a solider to Even got through so long, but now im getting worse so i decide to Just be earning less so i can stay healthy.
Do any one Else feel like this? Everyone in my life seems to Just accept that its the reality, but for me its Just imposible and i feel like i rather be in prison Reading books all day Even if i cant read a book to save my life lol. When i tell ppl this they think its a joke, but im kinda serious, this is how it feels.
If u can relate, any advice?
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ADHD
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I’ll be starting EMDR therapy for my ptsd and I’m looking forward to it in terms of long term benefits for my ptsd. I heard the first couple of sessions can be extremely hard to get through. Has anyone done it and if so did it help?
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ptsd
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Had my first session with my new therapist yesterday and she talked about doing ACT. She is sending me some information on it (video sessions), but I started looking into it a little bit on a few different psychiatry websites. The general idea of the processes seems legit, but the language and exercises I was reading made it seem like something I won’t be able to buy into.
Looking to get other people’s opinions and input.
What I was reading made it sound a little too fru-fru for lack of a better term. Maybe campy or new-age. Like when people take things like yoga and meditation and try to turn them into this altruistic spiritual journey (I have done a bunch of yoga, some studios are out there). Or when someone tries waaay too hard to have a relaxing tone in their voice doing a guided meditation track.
There are solidly grounded portions of the therapy (as well as yoga and meditation) that have genuine provable benefits, but most of what I was reading was taking it into some other realm where people have no sense of reality or think that all adults have the comprehension of a toddler.
I was preparing myself for the intensity of exposure therapy and now maybe this feels a little weak in comparison. I’m not sure if this is causing a bias against ACT. I am sure there are multiple approaches to this therapy, but my first impression of my therapist (and the four or five websites I read) makes me think this will take a hippie-dippy twist into a pseudo-reality that will be more frustrating than useful. I am trying to keep an open mind about it, but clearly I am struggling.
Anybody else try this?
What was your experience?
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ptsd
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For example, I get a visual image of me cheating on my bf who I love dearly and then feels something in my stomach and adrenaline racing and like I have to do something?? Is it that an urge to cheat even though I definitely don’t want to? Or an urge to rid myself to the anxiety?
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OCD
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Hello all,
My boyfriend is struggling with some rough depression and cannot afford therapy and has bad side effects from anti depression meds so isn’t willing to go on them. Besides the basics of good nutrition and exercise, what other steps can he take to help him overcome his depression. I was thinking mediation and breath work. Any other steps he can implement that will help him on his journey?
I really appreciate any advice that can be given. Thank you.
Note: I 100% recognise the benefits of therapy and medication but really aren’t an option for him, especially therapy as he is out of work at the moment therefore cannot afford it.
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depression
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Hey, guys, I'm having a hard time with ERP.
trying to explain a bit, my intrusive thoughts are affirmative sentences like "I want to do..." "I will do..." but those things are the opposite of what I want and totally against what I am. the thing is: I CAN'T do ERP. I can't look at those sentences without thinking I am into that horrible kind of thing.
Imagine, inside your brain there are sentences saying you want to do something you would never want. Does that feel weird and wrong? I feel so guilty when I try to accept those thoughts.
Can somebody give me hints and help me somehow on ERP?
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OCD
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This is gonna be a bit of a long post.
20F. I'm diagnosed with ASD, Aspergers when I was 7 and then got an ASD test when I turned 18. I generally had an unhappy life, with an abusive mother, an enabler father, and a family that I think is just cringey, infuriating or toxic. I've suffered from a general depression since I turned 12. All my therapists confirmed that I do suffer from an abnormal amount of anxiety, mostly manifested as long ruminating thoughts, or rarely as physical anxiety symptoms. I've tried 2 medications that did not work.
Just to be clear, I am not talking about theory of mind (aka putting yourself into someone's shoes). As in I am a little deficient in that, but I'm starting to think I literally have sociopathic/psychopathic traits.
I didn't seriously start thinking I lacked empathy until my friendship with my best friend of 7 years broke down 2 years ago. It really affected me and forced me to rethink everything about myself and others.
Some weeks ago I was discussing problems with my therapist. I don't really remember the details. But it was about what I call the 2 sides of me. 1 side wants to love people and the world and believe it's a good place and be humble. My other side detests people, sees the world as a cold heartless place and wants it to burst into flames, and also wants to achieve money and power. My therapist did actually question me; "Is this a lack of empathy or are you feeling this way because of your rough life?"
Or something like that I can't remember.
Anyway. Onto the main reasons why I think I lack empathy.
* I took a Dark Triad test and scored high in Machiavellianism for having the opinion that some things should be kept to yourself or secret. That makes perfect sense to me because I've lost friends in the past for talking too much about my problems.
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* I don't love anyone. I once thought I loved certain people, but I resigned myself from those feelings over the years because I thought those people didn't deserve my love because of certain things they did. I don't really believe I can love someone, and I don't even know how to define love. I also resist feelings of affection. Because I know that the object of my affections will never care for me as much as I could care for them. Because nobody wants me or people outright find me weird and off-putting. All the 'love' in the world couldn't stop my best friend from seeing me as a horrible person and leaving me, or prevent my other friends from leaving me. So I see love as just a pointless thing that will hurt me, or a tool I could use to attract others to me.
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* Since my fallout with my best friend of 7 years, I see all my relationships in terms of transactions. I'm always aware of what both parties are gaining or losing, most importantly I try to ensure that I give more than I take so the person doesn't leave me. I can't stop seeing relationships this way because of how the majority of my friends left me.
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* I have the attitude of 'cancel culture' when it comes to relationships between me and other people. There are too many traits that I just feel pure disgust towards and I don't want anything to do with a person who manifests those traits, even if we might already feel close. Like probably I'll still fake smiles to be polite but inside I'll just be feeling pure disgust. Maybe it's because of the trauma I've experienced. For example: a person who's overly religious and superstitious. Cancel, yeet, I don't want anything to do with them and they disgust me. My standards for familial relationships are also pretty high. I basically hate my grandparents because they were like parents to me but literally accepted no part of my core personality, likes and dislikes.
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* I want to be tough because I'm hyper-vigilant and a little paranoid. If I did not live in a country with such strict laws I'd get a gun, pepper spray or mini-taser to protect myself.
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* I feel fear but also excitement at something dangerous happening. Like an accident or protest. Perhaps I subconsciously think it will make me tougher in the face of other problems. And there you have it, that puts the focus on me the bystander instead of the victim of an accident. Idk perhaps it's a primitive thing. But what's more worrying is that at the sight of blood, guts and gore I mostly just feel excitement and curiosity.
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* I feel the intense need to have more money and power than a lot of people. Like I desire to get from lower middle class to upper middle class. Because I feel that I have pretty much nothing else going for me. I feel like I can't get respect, friendships, relationships or power otherwise.
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* I feel very conflicted about helping other people. I'm a psychology student and most people get into it because they want to help others. Well obviously the things I learn in my studies stick, and I use them on other people. To make them feel more comfortable, feel happier, feel more fulfilled, and bring them closer to me. But I feel like I get very little out of it. On the surface it looks like I'm the one doing most of the caring in the relationship, and I get depressed knowing that these people will probably end up leaving me because they can't commit or because they'll end up disliking me. In addition, I'm hyperaware that I'm using tactics from my studies and I feel like it's manipulation, even if it may be for a good cause.
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* I feel that whenever I'm around other people I'm putting on an act, because I know intrinsically that the real me is pessimistic, miserable and kind of wants the world to burst into flames. No one has really seen the extent of that side of me except my best friend of 7 years, which is part of the reason why we left each other.
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aspergers
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Does anyone else feel this, when you're starting to feel down but you also feel incredibly relaxed and music sounds so much better? It almost feels as good as being happy
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depression
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I suffer so badly with ROCD. I’m 16 now and was first with this boy when I was 14 and was not a great girlfriend but I have only realised now i’m older my mistakes. I have made mistakes in the past and they do haunt me. I love this boy so much but my rocd scares me by making me think ‘do i have feelings for this person’ ‘am i a cheat’ ‘was that unloyal what i just did’ and because of this i isolated myself from a lot of things because i was so afraid of doing something unloyal or having feelings for someone else and i don’t know what to do. We broke up and have been back together for 6 months now and I wouldn’t replace him for anything. But why do i constantly feel afraid of ruining our relationship.
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OCD
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Hello,
Those of you who drink a lot of caffeine, how does it effect your mood/overthinking or obsessive thinking?
Also, if you have quit caffeine dependence, has it helped?
For me, it feels like I can think faster but that also leads to spiraling, anxiety, and not being able to focus. Let me know!
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OCD
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I'm a trans girl who has been repressed by my parents ever since I initially came out, where they said "no you don't have enough life experience to know" I was 15 btw
Ever since then, they've never allowed me to be who I am, whether that's my sexuality (pan) or my gender.
They also really hate my other gay/trans friends with every fiber of their being, actively attempting prevent me from being with them, since they think I "wasn't trans before I met them" (untrue btw)
They also aren't the most supportive mental-disorder wise, saying that my Tourette's tics are all in my head (I mean technically but not in the way that they said it)
They read through my phone at least once a week, and comment on everything that doesn't meet their standards, like the use of dark humor with my close friends, and any mention of anything not perfectly straight. They have a hand in anything I do, like censoring my articles for the school newspaper and insisting to know what my schedule is for every moment of the day. They also Degrade me and tease me quite a bit, from everything from my stature, to my anxiety
I've been told many times that they're psychologically and emotionally abusive, so I'm wondering if that's correct.
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depression
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Hello guys I am f23, recently diagnosed with ADHD and start taking one Ritalin LA 10mg per day since a week ago. It makes me calm and be more patient, friendly to other. However, about one hour after I took it, I felt quite sleepy, like this morning I took it at 9:00am after breakfast, and I felt tired around 9:30 to 10:00. I ended up take a nap after breakfast, is it normal for who just start to take the pill?
Should I wait and see, to discuss this issue with my doctor in next meeting? Or should I stop the med and make a early appointment?
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ADHD
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I deleted Instagram about a year ago because it was the source of a lot of my intrusive thoughts and distress related to ocd. I kept compulsively checking my followers and going down rabbit holes of destructive thinking. Yesterday, I was courageous. I downloaded the app back on my phone and logged in! My anxiety reduced immensely. I just wanted to share and say thank you to all of you!
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OCD
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I am not sure if I should preface that I do not have a diagnose but suspect heavily to have adhd/add (I keep forgetting to fix an appointment and have little time). But I thought maybe it would be alright to ask for some suggestion and tips here.
With college, I've been struggling with keeping better and correct hygiene (shower and brushing teeth), it has all gotten worst when covid started.
The problem is that I am away from school at 6 a.m and often come back home at 22 p.m where I am really tired and I do not remember it could be a good idea to shower and brush my teeth.
But I really want to change this because recently I had to get on of my top third molar extracted because the cavity was just too bad (and the other procedure was too expensive). I don't want for something like this to happen again and I really want to keep brushing every day without forgetting to do it. I've tried setting up alarms on my phone, but I sometimes miss them.
I was wondering if anyone with a similar struggle had any suggestions/tips on how I could help myself not forget to do them and maybe even motivate myself a bit more and make sure I don't do it only for two week before going back to nearly nothing.
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ADHD
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I was home or abroad all summer, and I was fine. Now I’m back at school where everything happened, and I can’t leave my room without panicking. She could be anywhere. She could find me, track me down, confront me, make me do it all again. She could do everything she threatened to do or worse. The anxiety and helplessness and guilt and shame and isolation are overwhelming. I can’t stay physically present for very long, and classes start in two days. I need to email my therapist and get back on her schedule, but this is so deeply disheartening. I was doing better. All summer I was fine, barring the nightmares. I feel like I need to be on high alert again, and honestly I just want to forget all of this happened. I want to do a factory reset on a year and a half of memories so that when I run into her I have no idea who she is. So that none of that happened to me and I have autonomy over my body and I don’t feel disgusted by myself. I am so fucking happy and excited to be alive for once and this is still dragging me down. I’m pissed off. I’m terrified. I feel so weak.
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ptsd
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i took a ptsd test with my therapist last week and she said she didn't have the proper grading sheets and i see her again tomorow (may 21) and i'm 100% sure i have it because my paranoia, dreams, and thoughts of reliving the situations have been so real the past couple of months anyways enough about that i cant do the things i used to love anymore. i cant even listen to music without feeling so distraught and down that it feels like im being dragged into the middle of the earth :( social media also became such a toxic place for me to be even though i made lots of friends through it. i'm not sure what i want anyone to respond with this but i just wanted to express my feelings to people who can maybe relate to my struggles although im just a nervous wreck at the moment. also im a 13 yr old she/they
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ptsd
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https://youtu.be/FbXmPgFvtlg
I love Amanda Palmer, she is raw and real. Youtube The Assistant by her, if my link disappears. Sorry, haven't slept much the past few days.
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ptsd
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Hello, I hope everyone is doing well.
The thing with me is - after I hear any bad news, like illnesses, suicidal things that happened for any other individual, it stays in my head for days, maybe I’m overthinking and overreacting. Any tips how to stop it?
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OCD
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If you’re reading this, I just want you to know. You are just fine. There’s no need for shame. We all think bad or weird things, it’s natural and common. Its our choices that matters. If you are doing your best, its ok! You are a decent, normal, good person; worthy of peace and happiness. And I’m rooting for you!
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OCD
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I’m 17 and ive always been attracted to women. But I think I’ve been having POCD and it’s destroying my life. It keeps convincing me I’m attracted to 11 year old girls. It’s making me so anxious I woke up and instantly had these thoughts and had a knot in my stomach. Sometimes this OCD feels so real. And it’s getting me to the point where I literally can’t stop crying. I balled my eyes out 2 nights ago. I almost did again yesterday and today after I woke up I decided to pray to God and listen to some worship music and without even doing anything my eyes instantly just started watering and eventually I started crying. It’s wrecking my emotions. I don’t feel like myself anymore and it makes me so sad. Idk who this is. Is this OCD?
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OCD
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I'm currently working storm clean up and I'm a very smart person but I overthink a lot I have been diagnosed with OCD and when I was talking about going to nursing school my crew leader was like those test are hard and I explained all my achievements in high school just got out I'm 18 and he said why are you slow out here then and he was like not mentally but I thought you were a slow learner and it hurt my feelings I know that the other guys think this 2.
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OCD
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I know this will probably sound stupid but I've recently started having these thoughts when playing games and they're starting to really annoy me. If I see a cutscene or gameplay outside of actually playing the game, even if it's just a few seconds worth, I start to feel as if my play through has been ruined. I start to feel as if I havent experienced the game and end up restarting. I know this is completely ridiculous, and I know its not practical to try and avoid them until I've finished the game. I would speak to someone about this but I feel like it sounds too stupid and embarrassing, so that's why I'm posting it here. For the record, I'm not OCD diagnosed but surely these thoughts aren't normal.
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OCD
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I've had bad anxiety for years and am on antidepressants for it, but I havent actually identified myself as having depression for years. I've always thought it was mainly anxiety because I overthink and get the physical symptoms associated with anxiety...but I'm starting to wonder if I'm depressed too, but have never realised. I have these habits that I never properly acknowledged, does anyone recognise these as signs of depression?
-whenever I feel happy or joyful these days (rare) I catch myself and remember that really my situation isn't good and I feel like I shouldn't be happy
- I never wear makeup and find it genuinely difficult to make myself wash my face. I really have to force myself to look after my face or my hair, and my general appearance.
- I sometimes buy new clothes when I feel like spending, but I rarely wear them because I don't feel good enough to wear new things, especially if they are colourful or patterned. When I feel down I can't bring myself to wear anything colourful or nice looking - it has to be dark comfortable clothing.
- I get very lonely and keep remembering past heartbreak/sad moments and feel them really strongly, as if they've only just happened.
- I see people in public or on TV who are happy or successful or just living life, and I wonder how they can possibly do it, how they can be so happy
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depression
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Warning: I talk about some bodily funkcions, which might be considered unpleasant by some people.
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Hello,
So, i had always had problems with eating. My sense of smell and taste is kinda twisted compared to how other people describe it, so certain smells (including some food) can be realy agonizing for me, while others feel just as they are suposed to. Also some food, regardless of smell, has structure that is realy unpleasant for me and can make me trow up. Even looking at it might trigger mild to strong gag reflex for me. For this reason, I have to avoid places like cafeteria, since the smell inside is unbearable.
Since Im adult, this isn´t too big concern for me in everyday live. I know what i can eat and stick to it. My friends also know, that I´m on spectrum and they don´t mind, that i awoid these activites. But, I also got into few situacions, where i would like to eat with other people in group. Few months ago, when i was with some of my friends, one of them cooked some mushrooms with pasta for us and i was sad that i had to refuse (since he made it for us and for what I heard, it was pretty good). Also, after covid ends, i want to start traveling again and my food problems are making it quite difficult sometimes (i usualy just don´t eat for few days, but on longer routes, this isn´t possible).
So, I want to ask, if some of you have/had simmilar problems and how you work with them. For most of my day to day live, i can work around my food problems, but sometimes, it would be nice to just eat unfamiliar food without fear of puking.
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aspergers
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idk how else to word it but I literally cannot ask for help sometimes, i don’t know if it’s an anxiety thing or if it’s a common thing among aspies
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aspergers
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I'm an adult who's recently been identified as autistic, and it's helping me to reframe a lot of struggles I've had in my life around work and employment.
The only "grown up" job I've ever had ended a few years ago, when I got burnt-out, and was subsequently "terminated without cause" for seeking mental health support (long story, not worth getting into; yes, it sucks). The issue was with HR, though, and not my immediate supervisor, who was pretty compassionate and supportive.
Ironically, the job was in accessibility and disability services, so I'm curious about this manager's experience as my supervisor, in the context of my newly discovered ASD. I can't explain it, but I was suddenly compelled to reach out to him, and I just read that he's open to having a chat about this.
So, if you were in this situation, what would YOU want to know? What would you want to ask someone who might have recognized your autism before you did?
I'm just a brand new baby with all of this, and have barely started putting all the ASD pieces together as I reexamine my life and struggles.
I'm thinking of asking things like:
* Can you think of issues that in hindsight were signs that I may have been on the spectrum?
* do you remember any particular challenges in working with/coaching me?
* if we had known I was autistic then, would I still have been considered for the job?
* and what specific types of accommodations could I have asked for, or could I ask for in the future?
* idk what else.
Basically, I don't want to rehash the past too much, but start to get an idea of how to move forward with employment?
Thanks a lot for reading (and hopefully commenting).
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aspergers
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I’m not sure where to start. I don’t have an official diagnosis (the last person I saw told me I couldn’t have PTSD because I wasn’t a veteran) but I’m fairly certain the shoe fits. I’m currently on waitlists for seeking more qualified help but it’s been a year already and I’m tired of waiting idly. I’m not looking for a diagnosis here or anything, I just really want to get the ball rolling on making life more livable.
I guess my most pressing concerns are the constant intrusive thoughts, and the way I respond when I am triggered. I’m tired of living day to day with a million thoughts of how everything could kill me. It gets in the way of my studies, commute, and everything. I also have no idea how to navigate my triggers right now, as due to the nature of my trauma they tend to crop up in very benign conversations.
I guess I’m just looking for any suggestions that you’ve found works for you?
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ptsd
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Lately my mind is just full of intrusive thoughts and doubts. Even though i can see a bottle is clean or that ive dressed properly i have this endless nagging anxiety that I cannot 'quite' be sure. I can go around and aroumd until the next doubt or problem arises.
I try to ignore and get on with my day but im worried that if i know i definately did things yet im still doubting does that mean im losing touch with reality?
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OCD
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I'm so depressed. Turning 24 very much in a few days...
All I've ever wanted since I was like 12 was to have a partner. But I'm ugly and not financially stable. (I make like 50k but live in Vancouver which is basically only livable at least 80k if not 100k).
I failed out of uni like...2 times lmao. (Two different unis). Idk I tried so hard but couldn't concentrate. I'm from a brown household and culture so education is very very important. If you don't have a bachelor's, forget about getting a traditional desi girl haha. My parents are hopeless for me as well because of my lack of education.
During my highschool years as many people here, I was "gifted". Legitimately was pretty damn good in school. Uni was different. I failed once. Took a year break. Got some motivation. First term on this other uni, low grades, didn't fail but not good enough. Second term I straight up failed. Third term the university kicked me out. This was in...2018?? My entire confidence and personality at that time was I was good at studying. When I failed this fourth time (cuz it's the forth term), I suffered an ego death of sorts. I completely fell and lost myself. I'm still lost. Have been lost since 2018. A complete failure with no hope. It is said that humanity has gotten so far due to hope, even if failable. So me losing complete and utter hope for... anything for everything. It was and is a devestating blow to me.
Anytime the topic of school comes up or studying my body wants to throw up physically. I'm not exaggerating here. Idk I have some sort of ptsd against it now. I have so much anxiety going to family gatherings. I used to be talkative and love family gatherings. Now I dread them and try to be as unnoticeable as possible. Just stay silent, almost curled into a ball.
2018...2019..2020...2021...and now 2022. 5 years.. 😞😞😞
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depression
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Everything was ok but then we went to a vacation w my parents…my obsessive thoughts just effin came and they are the same that i had when they came for the first time…
I thought i was getting better and i have meds n stuff😢 i have the WORSE fear of getting psychosis and i know that my spikes are about psychosis. I hate it
”Someone is coming to kill me”
”Im going crazy”
”Im hearing voices”
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OCD
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I made a post in the AITA sub and some people said I was unprofessional, but I don't understand how. Basically, it's a situation where both me and my manager essentially do the same thing-- but everything else-- the context, motivations, what we were meaning to communicate-- were all different.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocaf1h/aita\_for\_smirking\_at\_my\_manager\_during\_a\_zoom\_call/h3t3uto/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocaf1h/aita_for_smirking_at_my_manager_during_a_zoom_call/h3t3uto/?context=3)
I feel like another ND can explain to me in a way I can better understand.
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aspergers
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I realize that I spin my chair back and forth to ward off the temptation really often
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OCD
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Before I explain what it is I finally understand now I want you to know because all my loved ones (and I mean all of them) kept reminding me for 4 fucking days straight no matter what I spoke they only heard the drugs and my voice and everything except me finally opening up to them and excuse me but my brain is so numb I’ve found it takes strong drugs to get the real emotions out of me but they wouldn’t hear it. And it’s That I’ve been on a drug binge, it’s never been this bad I’ve always struggled with drugs but I didn’t ever feel like I couldn’t stop and take a month break or even just a few weeks break I’m literally going on 4 days no sleep and I don’t even know how long I’ve been at this because my dealer is my neighbor so it’s like I just go down the hall and continue my streak of getting loaded.
My brain is very different from others I’ve known it even my own psychiatrist told me your brain I’ve been studying for 20 years that man was the only human to ever make me feel normal being different and also l stopped feeling guilty for knowing I’m different and extremely intelligent but unfortunately this can become a problem for me it has because my brain is so powerful once I found drugs it was game over my brain needed that relief or release but I always kept it somewhat in control
What I’ve learned during a 1-3 week meth/Xanax binge is this:
If you have anybody who loves you enough to do things for you because you’re too sick or depression to do it yourself get far away from them, I’m telling you, eventually your brain will remind itself it isn’t capable of doing normal human things and instead now your brain will stop trying, trusting, etc.
Don’t let yourself land in a mental health system especially government or cheap health care I spent 8 years and to put it very lightly I’ve been drugged up on meds and treated like a druggie and these people and including my loved ones have done everything they can to keep me just enough to where I’m not suicidal, I’m not doing great but they have been and would of been willing to comfort me for the next 20 years and I’m so drugged up I didn’t realize this is only showing me how to trust everyone except for myself I got so much “support” that 99% of the time all I did was tell them lies I could have been suicidal but how can I admit that they would have the police at my door in 10 minutes but these are supposed to be the ones I can trust all I’ve learned is being kept numb and just enough to get by has taught my brain to lie, manipulate tactics, fake a smile, and much more but also to think some medication would ever solve my problem I tried all of them man they don’t work not for me.
What I’ve rewlized wle hbeing high a little too long:
Only person who can help you is you, but you can’t trust yourself and your brain is numb but I realized you truly have all the answers you need deep inside and it took heavy drugs for me to see I know what to do but I’ve learned to not be able to trust myself or ask myself or do anything close to taking my own advice and let me tell you after 4 days of yelling at my entire family they only made me understand I’ve let myself believe I was the crazy one so I let them handle my life, finances, I trusted them not knowing they need more mental help than I do. And my opinion and your views and ideas are so valid and to never be taken lightly dont let anyone make you think your feelings aren’t valid, if you’re angry man yell and scream till your lungs collapses, whatever you gotta do to start trusting your emotions are okay and you are allowed to be yourself even if everyone thinks your crazy in telling you once you feel this like I do now you’ll see it’s going to take a long time but you will one day see every time you refuse to let someone decide who or how to act, or how to live, etc etc you’ll see this is when your life begins. You’ve forgotten who you are and it’s cuz your brain has hidden emotions to protect you man it gets really deep.
I could go on but ima make a list instead of what I learned:
Your main objective is to realize no drug no nothing will ever get you further than ONE thing m: re-learn who you are. You’ve lost all sense of who you are and your brain did it to you, you need to learn your mind body and soul everything about you learn it it’s going to hurt and be painful but you need to know you again. And your brain functions even when you don’t know it, it takes things and analyzes it and it’s why you feel you have no control, that mind of yours has taken over it’s in protective mode thinking it’s helping you....
No more lies, being honest is #1 key to this mission. No more lies, to yourself or to other people. Even if it’s the most embarrassing thing you could imagine.
My brain has trained itself to fear people, judge myself, hate myself, only accept other people’s opinions of me, so much time wasted trying to hide who I truly am which is a suicidal depressing drug addict because I didn’t want to worry my loved ones and that now the only thing I’ve realized truly has ruined my life. I finally showed them who I was and I was higher than Heaven and for 4 days they proved to me I was right and wrong. First of all they never deserved 9 years of my silent suffering and hiding and drug abuse just so I don’t worry them because when I finally showed them my demon side they literally almost made me kill my self I can’t believe I’ve allowed these family to make me lose all sense of who I am and hide so well that I’ve lost who I truly am that adds fuel to my fear of people and etc etc but I realized even if you love these people you have to start putting yourself first even if it means you cut them out of your life completely I don’t care if they cry for 3 weeks your health right now is more important trust me man. They will understand once they see your progress and don’t bother trying to explain if it takes more than 15 minutes to explain they’re wasting your time.
Trust nobody, ditch all your friends. Prepare to spend along time in the dark scary hole you’ve been in but haven’t figured out an escape route yet, just accept this or your fight is pointless, to get out of ur hole you have to begin to accept that being scared, uncomfortable, all the things we fear most emotions etc everything reason I have to get High I have to begin to SLOWLY accept that my only escape is to face the fears it’s called exposure therapy actually.
Don’t feel guilty for being yourself, 9 years wasted trying to pretend to fake who I was it’s made me have to learn who I am again I am literally 10 years behind on where I should be I’m 16 when my real age is 26. Your brain will never stop being a fucking dick and thinking it’s helping you when it’s only making you worse
I’m tired I haven’t slept in 4 days but I’m saddened to know I’ve realized all of this and can still perfectly communicate yet all my family would say was your high crazy and out of your mind. They didn’t hear any of what I just typed out to y’all all they heard was I’m high. I told them
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depression
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There’s a new behavior that is going along with my ocd and that’s whenever I get an intrusive image or thought while posting something on social media or texting someone I have to restart or delete it because I feel like they can read my mind or something and it’s extremely annoying it’s like when someone says to not imagine a purple elephant and you imagine one it’s difficult to not imagine something you’re trying to avoid so this behavior is probably the worst at the moment
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OCD
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So, I accidentally clicked on a website link a couple of days ago, and now my OCD is telling me that by clicking on that link I have harmed people. After I clicked on the link I even browsed a couple of sites I do agree with and clicked on every ad on each website I clicked on. The obsession still won't go away though :-(.
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OCD
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I don’t want to self-diagnose myself, but I’m curious if it’s possible to be diagnosed online? Honestly I don’t see anything necessary with being diagnosed, I just feel that it’s for the better if I knew more about myself. The reason I suspect I might have OCD would be because of a certain incident that happened half a year back, which still affects me now- check my previous reddit posts if you’re interested in reading them.
I know that I could talk to a therapist, but my parents aren’t the type to think that therapy is useful or anything. In any case, let me know if it’s possible, with any reliable websites which I can be diagnosed in.
Note: I’m not looking for online tests, they seem too simple to be anywhere reliable.
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OCD
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How do you usually deal with breakups?
My relationship ended 2 weeks ago and sometimes the pain is so much that it becomes unbearable
There is something to help with the rumination? I've tried a lot of things, but none worked
And there is a way to calm down when this torments you so much that you just want it to end?
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ADHD
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i know i’m young (17F), but i feel like i just can’t do this anymore. i have this intense feeling that everyone hates me. at school i talk to my friends, but after school they all hang out and i’m never invited anymore. the guy i really liked stopped talking to me. my ex who i was still close to commit suicide.
i just feel so empty, and have been since 13. im severely stressed with school, i spend most of my life in school and studying. i hate myself and can’t stand to look at myself in the mirror. i hate my personality, my appearance, my complete existence, everything. if i were pretty enough or if i was funny, people would care to talk to me. but that will never happen. people would try to encourage me and tell me to keep going, but it’s gotten to the point where words don’t affect me at all, and i feel nothing. im alone and invisible. i don’t want to live, but i don’t wanna die just yet. i cant make my mom cry.
to those of you who read this, thank you <3
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depression
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I was diagnosed in 2016 and honestly, kind of blindsided. I never thought it was a possibility that I was dealing with PTSD. Resources are few and far around here. 3-6 month minimum waiting period for meds due to what is affordable for me.
For years now, I have dealt with crippling hyper vigilance. Never had a name for it before. This is honestly the biggest issue in my life and the one that takes the most from me. It overlaps with some major anxiety but I do not know how to get past this... Logic never comes into play. I have Master Lock bars on both of my doors, alarms on my windows, and sensors on my door handles. All due to paranoia. I am in constant fight mode at home, thinking someone will break in at any moment. I literally can't relax without drinking. If not, I spend hours combing windows, checking the perimeter etc. I don't know what to do because there is no such thing as coming home and laying down peacefully. I'm normally fine during the day, but as soon as the sun goes down... I feel so stuck in this web. Should be able to see a therapist in a few weeks but until then, I feel out of options.
This is the first time I have ever put this to words. I wish there were a way to overcome this. Meds might help clearly, but I'm still in this boat until my name pops up to the top of a waiting list. I have had therapy before, but never learned any hands on ways of dealing with this. I am in a spiral.
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ptsd
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Met a guy I really like and have great chemistry with.
I really want to sleep with him and we have a date later this week.
And I'm scared. My last partner really harmed and violated me. I'm not scared of what this guy will do - all signs good so far and I know he'll be okay if I need to pause or stop.
I'm scared of getting triggered. I don't want to feel that intense fear. My anxiety about it is manifesting by kicking up my deepest (unrelated) traumay fears. It was a brutal dat.
(don't need advice; nothing to do but just get through it)
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ptsd
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I've tried Vyvanse which really helps my motivation and RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Disorder) but it makes my skin-picking and BRFB (body repetitive focused behaviors way worse). I'm hoping I can find a combo that helps me, because I fell like I have to choose which one I want to suffer with; horrible excutive function and mood swings related to realtionships or a completely messed up face and skin. Does anyone else struggle with this combo or have meds/med combo that worked? I'm also trying to avoid any meds that cause weight gain or excessive sleepiness
More recent meds I tried:
- fluvoxamine - really helped the picking almost immediately, helped with emotional eating, unfortunately made me feel like I had permanent PMS, heightened my RSD, felt homicidal (not in a serious way but to where I felt the urge to throw things at people when I was mad) severely suicidal to where I couldn't stick it out to wait until I felt better, clenched and grinding of the teeth, headaches, vivid dreams, excessive daydreaming, bladder retintion.
- Burpopion - helped my depression and emotional eating, made literally everything else worse including memory, excutive function, anger, anxiety, picking, I attribute the executive function decrease to the anticholinergic qualities because they tend to affect me badly.
Pretty much any BC - helped me be less PMSy before my period, made me depressed, caused interactions in my medication, caused significant weight gain, casued libido problems
- Klonopin - helped my anxiety a lott and nerve pain but had mild rebound anxiety afterwards, improved excuoyve function and clairtiy, had to take large dosage to notice a difference, potential to be addictive and can build up tolerance fast, I need something that I can take everyday.
- Xanax - helped my anxiety the most out of any medicine but only for a short time period, bad rebound anxiety afterwards, way more addictive feeling than Klonopin, made me very drowsy and non functional, only good for emgerinces.
- Any allergy med (hydroxyzine/Benadryl) - makes me drowsy, ends up making me extremely aggravated, moody, and kills my excutive function completely, increases skin picking, and does nothing for anxiety, the only medicine that has no pros other than if I want to sleep.
- Prozac - helped with picking and anxiety mildly, made excutive function worse, casued weight gain, emotional blunting, felt robotic, low libdo, increased appetite, gave me gas, extreme drowsiness.
- Vyvanse - helped nerve pain, gave me energy, helped my RSD ×100, helped my mood be calm and stable, helped my executive function, caused insomnia and although it helped my psychological anxiety it made me my physical anxiety worse, hyperfocued to much, honestly most of the problems arose when it started to wear off then I would have extreme skin picking compulsions all through the night and next day, felt like I was hit by a truck combined with I got a cold, was in a lot of pain and awful headaches, felt like my head was heavy and swollen.
- Adderall - extremely euphoric, helped my excutive function the most but then I couldn't stop or relax, insomnia the WORST skin picking ever, bad anxiety all around, very irritable and angry, could only stand it for a few days before I quit.
- Most antipsychotics I've tried - made med depressed, no emotion, very sleepy, weird dreams, zombie like, gained A TON of weight, I don't think I picked but when I was on them (abilify and the like) time seemed to pass in a blur and I felt unreal.
- Seroquel - helped with picking, gained so much weight, knocked out even on the lowest doses, felt like a zombie, had no desire to do anything, couldn't drink or I felt roofied, best sleep of my life.
- Propanolol - helps RSD, skin picking, and nerve pain moderately, helps physical anxiety a ton but only psychological a little until it wears off and then it's worse than before, lowers my heart beat and blood pressure to much, lethargic and minium motivation, slightly irritable when it's wearing off, easy to gain weight, interacts with other meds
- Ativan - helps anxiety significantly, bad rebound anxiety, feel dump, slightly drunk and non functional, nauseous in almost a car sick way for almost 2 days afterwards, mild retrograde amnesia even at low doses, addiction potential, good for emergencies.
- Most mood stabilizers - just don't work, moody, some cause rashes and body aches, drowsiness, itchiness, cause depression, lamictal helped with anxiety mildly but gave me a rash, weight gain.
Help I love tried so many meds, and still can't find one that works for me I'm considering trying Zoloft again (6 yos ago) since it's been a while for my ocd/skin picking symptoms, the only thing that's without any bad side effects is NAC and only minimally, although I'm thinking of upping the dosage. My current meds I take are Xanax 1mg only in emergencies, Klonopin 1mg for anxiety but I don't take it regularly to avoid tolerance (only once a week at the most) Vyvanse 20mg but only on days I really need to get stuff done which is not much because I don't have school but when I go back to school idk how I'm going to survive without it. Any suggestions would be amazing thank you!
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OCD
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Just asking because I've recently had an unexpected worsening of symptoms and am curious as to what might've "triggered" it...
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OCD
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I've always been the silent kid who had no friends. Now, as an adult, I see no changes in my life. The people i call friends are only there to use me. I never had a friend who was there for me when I most needed them.
After years, I thought I finally had found someone who can love me unconditionally and accept me as I am, but even she wants me to change myself, especially my appearance, and makes me feel like I'm worthless and not good enough yet she keeps telling me how much she loves me. I feel terribly alone and confused all the time. I already feel disgusted even when I'm thinking about myself, and she is not helping at all with her "rightful" comments about my body and about how much I eat.
Will people ever respect me if I lose weight? Of if I start being a social person? I've always tried to remind myself that I have nothing to fix about me, but people came to my life just proved me wrong, or they convinced me that I am the problem.
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depression
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when I get triggered, I am not able to eat for days. I now developed an eating disorder, I have troubles dealing with. After specific events, I am too mentally overwhelmed and physically malnourished. I can’t basically get out of bed and it takes days to recover.
Any advice? I tried different foods and usually just stuff myself with anything that goes, just to have my body going. Thankful for any ideas!
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ptsd
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i dont know what to say, i have weird thoughts. LAtely i obsessed about weird shit, like super weird. OCD made me realize what wrong shit i did, why i did it, and made me have good arguments about some things. but is this my life now? i see a child and get terrified, i see an animal and get terrified, i make up weird scenarios in my mind and overthink the proper answer, i make up weird scenarios in my mind and see if i get sexual pleasure from them. What am i now? how did i reach this point of madness? is my brain even a normal human brain at this point? i feel like it will explode, im not sure. I feel bad about these thoughts, how did i let myself reach this? i feel i will never live normally again, if everything got normal i will not forget these thoughts that came to my mind, and like if i have a gf what would i tell her? yeah i just spent whole fucking days imagining things about children and animals to make sure im not attracted to them? sorry i obsess about the age of consent and shit like that? sometimes im not sure about weird shit that i hate like if a teenager can consent? im not sure if i would kill a child to get the love of someone? whoever knows i obsess about these things usually gets disgusted, and i get called a pedophile or something, sometimes i dont even know how moral or sane or right i am because of all this. Can i ever get back to normal? to life before all this shit happened?
i feel that life is just a prison at this point, i dont think i will ever feel truly happy or cling to life anymore, i just cant wit to die. Since my ocd got bad few months ago and i drown myself in every unhealthy thing, i cant wait to die, to one day just have a heart attack (im surprised i didnt have one after all the smoking, drinking, stressing, and binge eating) or im not sure if i want to get diagnosed with cancer but what was one day my ocd theme, is now a wish
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OCD
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I don't know what to say here. I've had a bit to drink. I always get depressed when I drink. I still live at home, unemployed, no friends, no life, turning 25 in a week. Everything just feels like shit.
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depression
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Does it work well for pure O?
How long does it took for you to kick in and what was your sweet spot in terms of dosage?
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OCD
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I'm not seeking counseling here, I'm just trying to see if anyone can relate.
So first off, how do I even hold a job if I have problems with executive functions. I've only ever worked as a helper.
I'm more ADD than hyperactive
And honestly, i struggle to think about how I'm going to survive.
I have to constantly remind myself that this is a dark cruel world and it's hard to keep up when your brain cannot process something as fast as others.
I just want a career and a family but I fail to see how I'm going to be able to compete with other people if I try to do anything. Chasing your dream career doesn't work if you can't pay attention to it btw.
Idk my brain just can't compete. I love math and learning and i have a burning passion for public speaking. I can learn how to do a math problem and immediately forget after 2 days of practicing it. The only thing I've been able to do with any of that is speak at my youth get together.
This life just looks bleak. How are y'all dealing with ADD?
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ADHD
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Hi, I’m not sure if this the right place to ask, but I was wondering this.
Can it make eyesight blurry and constantly dilated pupils? My pupils are constantly so big that i’m constantly getting questions about abusing drugs (while i don’t even drink coffee), so i went to the ophthalmologist and she said my eyes are healthy but i need a neurologist appointment (but it’s an endless cycle and every doctor tells me the same thing and many neurologist told me there’s nothing wrong with my brain).
I have some mental health issues to the point it’s affecting my physical health so I had to get my brain checked and they did lots of scans and then connected some wires to my head and during this exam the doctor said she’s convinced i have ptsd and she hasn’t seen this results in anyone so young (i was 20 at that time and now i’m 22).
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ptsd
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Freshman and sophomore year were horrible. Between depression and ADHD, I passed probably less than 3 credits worth of classes in those first two years. I remember stressing out so much and feeling so disappointed in myself and frustrated and worried that I wouldn't graduate on time. Well, after a few summers worth of summer school and an entire semester worth of online credit recovery classes, I have graduated before second semester of my fifth year, which was what I was aiming for!
Junior, senior, and supersenior year have gone much better. I think one of the best changes was, funnily enough, when I stopped taking my ADHD medication in junior year. It made me weird and awkward, and I was sitting next to a cute girl that I was getting along with, so I stopped taking it in an effort to form a better friendship with her and have better conversations (which was a success). It also made me not eat or sleep, so all in all, stopping it was a good idea.
I still graduated with just under a 2.5 GPA, but hey, I'll take what I can get. I'm just so happy to have come so far in terms of managing my ADHD. The difference between supersenior year and freshman year in terms of being able to get work done is absolutely staggering.
If you're still in high school and worrying about graduating just like I was, then I hope that this post is comforting. :)
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ADHD
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I just finished highschool and have to decide what to do now. I've struggled with depression for about four years now and it's making it hard to feel truly enthusiastic about anything. I decided to study psychology a couple years ago, since no other option has ever felt intersting enough to pursue. But now that my depression hasn't gotten better and i actually have to start doing something with my life, even studying psychology doesn't feel right. It just doesn't seem worth it since nothing brings me joy. I truly can't think of anything i would like to do. Should i just go for psychology for the sake of doing something? It did feel like the right thing to do at some point...
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depression
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I regularly struggle with me thinking about how i dont have any real skills, just some surface level knowledge but now really anything useful. Sometimes i then told myself that others dont have ADHD so i had a disadvantage, but in the last year i've made three friend who all have ADHD and they all seem super competent, they're good with computers, can programm, are able to finish projects and a lot more and im just sitting in my room completely useless with no real skills, or use
Any Advice?
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ADHD
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I’m not sure if it’s just me but I guess I’m hypersensitive to touch, not when people touch me /or I get hurt, just like it certain places(like home) it feels like invisible bugs on my skin, I don’t really have allergies or anything so I’m really concerned, does this happen to anyone else here?
I looked up if hypersensitivity had anything to do with adhd, some things did pop up but I’m not sure if it’s the speaking of same thing.
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ADHD
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I knew what Ritalin was and I thought okay I need a reminder app or something to help me and I found this app called Pill Punctual which is basically built for people with ADHD. (It’s only for iOS as far as I know)
https://apps.apple.com/nl/app/pill-punctual/id1436300542?l=en
There are probably other apps out there too but this one was a straight hit for me. Please leave me your recommendations too!
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ADHD
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Ever since I was 11 years old I realized there was some thing different about me. It took me until I was 15 to realize that I was not alone. I thought for years that I was crazy, that it was stupid of me to think the things I think, and do the things I do. So when I found this sub Reddit along with a couple others about OCD, my life changed. I realized that I am not alone, and that there are other people like me who understand what I’m going through in day-to-day life. It was so relieving I had a multiple mental breakdowns realizing that other people understand me. I just kept repeating to myself “I am not alone” ”I am not alone”. You guys and this sub Reddit have really helped me in understanding OCD. So now onto the part I need help with. Now that I know that there are others like me, and I can get help, I would love to. I am tired of OCD taking over my life! But the thing is, I’m only 15. I can’t get help by myself. I would need my mom‘s permission. But my whole life she has always told me and my siblings “don’t look up different disorders and sicknesses, or else you’ll think you have them”, so I’m really nervous that that is what she’s going to tell me when I tell her that I would like to get help. Has anybody told their parents that they need help with OCD? If so, how did you do it? I would love some ideas on how to approach telling my mom.
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OCD
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I am not sure if this is the right sub to go to but idk where else I can find suitable advice. I have a college friend with anxiety disorder and OCD. He is making a major decision of transferring to another degree. He says he is constantly stressed about how stressful our current degree (law) will be in senior years as well as in our careers. Although he is deeply passionate about his original degree, he wants to pursue a less stressful major. Despite being a top student, his fear of the hectic lifestyle as a law student has been haunting him since he came to uni.
He has been actively gathering loads of information from whomever he can reach. He's struggling a lot between options, yet no one else can make the decision for him.
At this point, I don't know how I could support him. I know I don't have any better practical advice for him because I truly enjoy the degree. Meanwhile, almost every one else is telling him to continue law for the high pay. I'm worried about my friend but don't want to put any more pressure on him. The only thing I can tell him is that I will support him no matter what decision he made in the end.
If you were my friend, what would you want me to do/not do? Any tips would be great.
Edit: added more context
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OCD
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Usually I can cope quite well with most of the symptoms, but on some days I really can't stand any sounds at all or I get this uncomfortable feeling when someone comes close to me and I have to be alone all the time.
I just got diagnosed not so long ago so I am wondering quite a lot. It would be really helpful if you could tell me about your experiences!
Thanks for coming to my ted talk!
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aspergers
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So I created a new reddit because i fear my family will find out, so sorry about it.
I'm a 19yo college student, and I've been depressed for 2 years or longer.
I'll start at the beginning.
When I was 6 years old, I got sexually abused by my cousin, again when I was 8 and then 12. At that age, i didn't know what was going on.
When I was 12 I think, my cousin and siblings started to insult me as Gay. I didn't even know why or what that meant, but I always was crying in a corner because of it.
When I became 16, i started to remeber those days, when I got abused, and i realized it was not normal and rape. But i started to try to you know, try to forget it because I was starting to fail my highscool. (I was in a All Boys Sport Highschool) So If i Kept thinking about it, i was losing focus.
When I was 17, my family broke appart, I sudden heard my mother cry in the house with my sister and my father was outside the house (Parents where divorced) So i went downstairs and asked my other sister what was going on. She told me that my oldest sister also got sexually abused and raped by our uncle. So I started to cry because I couldn't handle nor believe it. I didn't want to believe it, my cousin was a rapist, but uncle too. So i ran outside; for like 30mins, around 5km while i was crying and thinking about it. When I got home, i felt bit better, but then I heard my mother yell and cry again that she would kill my uncle for it and my father told my sister to act as if this was a movie and didn't happen. So I started to cry again.
Later, my mother fell into a depression, my sister got into a depression and is bipolar, and my oldest sister right now is in a psychiatric hospital. (They still are). I realize that telling my parents and siblings that I also got raped and abused would kill my mother. She already is depressed, my brother has cancer and my sister is in a "hospital" and on top of that, my cousin is liked by my family and telling them about it would ruin their relationship which I don't want. Idk if this is selfish?
So i moved out, i'm living alone now with my Bipolar sister, trying to succeed in my life, but everytime I try to do something, i fail, I can't sleep at night due everything that has happened and due money crisis here. I also can't talk in real life about my feelings, i get called heartless by my family,robot and someone without feelings. Idk what's wrong with me. But I definitely don't know what to do.
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depression
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I think people's eyes and face are boring, and they're also a little intimidating, so I'd just rather not. I can force myself if I really wanted to but I usually just don't
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aspergers
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I am in a situation right now where the P of the ptsd is not really there. I am getting triggered constantly and I don’t know what to do to help myself. Any advice?
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ptsd
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Last night I was trying to analyze every single thing that might go wrong with my phone. Is there a virus in it? Or a hacker? Is it too warm? Yada yada. Then the thought of someone looking through my camera appeared. Now every time I think about last night theres an image in my head of my phone’s camera being on (the green circle at the top of phone). I can’t differentiate if it’s an actual memory or just my imagination playing tricks on me.
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OCD
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So I have no idea if I have depression but probably do.
So at home I'm having issues but these are not even big deals but constantly happening and making me angry, uncomfortable.
It's like a water dripping on your forehead continuously and you can't stop it or evade it any way
I'm getting more and more annoyed and need much more time to calm down.
Still in school but working as much as I'm able to so less time home more money to do something.
I'm just asking you guys who actually dealing with some shit, would therapy help?
I'm having an exam soon and I'm just eager to drink and just get drunk although I cant because of my responsibilities.
Anything might help thank you all beforehand
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depression
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I just wanted to share this small progress I made today because I know sometimes it can be discouraging to mainly see posts when people are at their worst with their ocd (which is still perfectly okay!). I managed to put on nail polish without redoing it for over an hour. I only redid one nail but I resisted the urge to do them all again and again until it’s perfect. You guys can also start overcoming things step by step. You’ve got this<3!❤️
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OCD
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It seems like this would be biologically impossible but there are several times throughout the day that I will be required to read something and even though I can like hear the words in my head like I am reading, in my mind at the same time I am thinking about something completely different. Am I just looking at the words and not reading them? Or am I thinking inbetween reading each word? How do you guys calm your mind to read a paragraph of boring text?
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ADHD
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im dead, i cant take it anymore and thinking about starting to use some ocd medicine. But i havea question for those who use it, does it really work? does it help? what are the side effects? (as much as i know some things for example anti depressants can cause a dramatic increase in weight or lower sex drive a lot). Do you recommend me any herb a an alternative?
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OCD
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feeling like i should keep a journal or something to log my mind when people find my body. but like not some boring ass shit, something cool. any suggestions?
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depression
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22M, I feel like I'm so behind everyone I'm 22 and I'm a junior in college and everyone around me is graduating or they have careers already and I'm just stuck. I feel like I don't progress in life and my parents are constantly looking down on me because I'm not like my brother whose older than me and has a job and family.
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depression
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It seems that my short-term memory is getting worse, but I can always recount my abuse to a T.
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ptsd
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