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The comfort zone is such an enticing place....
I don't why, but whenever I feel overwhelmed or go through bad experiences, my first and only solution is to go home and sequester myself in my room. I will physically shut the blinds, and go to bed. There, I feel safe.....temporarily. There are days I really become sick of the world and all of its bullshit and just want to extricate myself from it. There are just so many liars, deceivers, manipulators, narcissists, cheaters, psychos and haters out there. Dealing with life can be such an exacting task. Whats odd is that I have no issue going out and mingling because I've done it over and over and over again. I'm not a hermit. I can be very strong and charming. (Those are my good days). Ive observed myself handling stress surprisingly well on those days. There are, however, other days where I feel weak as a kitten and unable to handle stress. I become the antithesis of the powerful, confident man I usually know. Those are the days I feel fearful and vulnerable. I decide to hide from the world. (Big mistake). The issue with that idea is I become mentally weak. There is no way that remaining dormant will benefit me in any way. Isolating myself only seems to hurt me. As comfortable as I feel in my bed, I know that it in the long run, it will do WAY MORE damage than putting myself out there EVER will. Even a car will break down if it's left in the garage and never taken out. I cannot imagine the effects on the human mind.
God....why does my bed always feel so comfy and safe ughh
I feel like whenever things are going well, I am EXTREMELY confident and fearless....buy when things become stressful, threatening or painful, I default to kitten mode and become overwhelmed with anxiety and retreat. That's always my solution to everything painful, go hide and ignore the world.
The problem is, if I stay in my room for 2 or 3 days, I become extremely anxious. When I do invariably step outside, I feel.....like I fell behind socially. It's like the world went on without me and now I have to play catch up.
I cannot fathom what would happen to me mentally if I remained in my room for weeks or months on end. My sanity would slip.... | depression |
I hate the obligation of going to work and making small talk. I hate pretending at family gatherings. I hate when my boyfriend’s family asks me about school or how I’m doing. I hate forcing myself to hang out with someone because it’s been too long since the last we did and I don’t want them to hate me. I hate that having one day of rest and solitude is just not enough and no amount of time ever will be. It’s all so fucking suffocating. | depression |
This is hard to admit but… has anyone ever lied to someone about how far along in a project you were to keep up appearances? Ive told people Im enrolled at my local university but I honestly just started talking to the college admissions counselor. Feels like my life is a trail of lies to make my mask look better but in reality I’m mostly a wreck. | ADHD |
So if you haven't seen the show a quick run down.
Bluey is the main kid of the show who has a sister named Bingo, a father named Bandit and a mother named Chili. They are Australian blue healer dogs who live in Australia.
I am sure that I am not the only parent in here who has had problems associating with their kids, let alone damn near anyone else. I didn't know how to play with a kid, I seemed too lack the right imagination for that kind of thing from being so inattentive for years on end. After following a dad group on Facebook(not to cause fights but way better than a mommy group), they wouldn't stop talking about this show! We got Disney+ and I saw that it was on there, so I put it on for the kids to watch while I would cook breakfast and clean. Eventually all three of the littles(They are stair step by the way 1 2 3 at the time) wanted to play the same games they would on Bluey. I was able to enjoy the show myself when I got the chance to set down and watch it myself. I realized that this show was not shy in tackling difficult situations.
Season 2 released and has hit me hard with blow after blow of emotional jabs. One episode stands out though. A new character is introduced who right off the bat we, those of us in this community, would recognize. A child named Jack(Jack Russell Terrier) who is jittery, cant focus, cant remember what he is told and didn't fit in at other schools. All of these things have resonated with me. And watching the way he deals with it in the episode is flawless. As for me being a parent just being able to watch the main parents deal with the life of having 2 kids close in age helps me with what I should probably be doing with my kids.
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If interested a quick rundown on me. Right around the time of my trying to figure out what is wrong with my brain(about 3 years now) my wife and I had 1 kid. We had number 2 on the way and I was a mental mess. Was diagnosed with bipolar incorrectly and eventually after leaving my Psych and talking with my therapist I was able to land on a more correct diagnosis of ADHD(about 2 years ago) started on Wellbutrin(bupropion) that I feel didn't do anything. I stopped taking it and just forgot to set up an appointment with the NP(would you look at that.) I was having issues with work and focus that I willed myself to bite the bullet and set up another appointment with my NP. After getting placed on Adderall my life seemed to be better in focus(FINALLY) and that's when Bluey comes into play with me. | ADHD |
Pocd is hell…I don’t get explicit toughts or afraid of doing something just really afraid of the tought what if I get aroused?
I have got help from a therapist and got some tools. To go with uncertainty and not care about groinal responses and let them be. Easier said than done, I have never got a erection or anything I just freak out about the smallest movement or feeling.
I have got exposures to look at documentaries about pedos and on purpose get groinals and think my nightmarish toughts.
What can I do? How can I make these fucking groinals disappear they destroy my life and I don’t find life as fun anymore… | OCD |
Anyone else struggle with the simple greeting of "you alright" from people. This is probably just a UK thing here people say you alright but they're not really asking how are you it just means hello.
Anyway whenever I'm asked you alright it's like something trips in my brain and I never know how to respond.
If I just respond with "hello" the NT will seem sort of unsatisfied or perplexed. And if I actually answer with yeah you? Then they seem taken aback lol
Argh | aspergers |
21M from the U.S.A.
I live with undiagnosed chronic lower back pain (active for months), went to the ER for it just to be told nothing’s wrong and left with no new info besides a $1,200 bill (uninsured). Thanks, America! 🇺🇸
I can’t get a job because of my health problems.
Most health insurance is employer based.
Can’t afford college to expand my career options.
Moments when I don’t feel numb, all I feel is PAIN. I can’t believe I was born to suffer like this. Born to die.
There’s just no future here for anyone under 30 that’s low-income.
:( | depression |
Yep, that means exactly what it means. I'm sick of having thoughts of any kind. I'm tired of trying to reason with something I cant reason with. Im sick of worrying. I'm sick of trying to seek happiness. Everything. That happens when you have to put up a fight against your thoughts every day. When you constantly try to parry them.
I've been suffering from existential OCD for 10 months now. It completely ruined my way of perceiving life. It even fucked up my sense of logic. Overwhelmed me with philosophical and existential thoughts to a point where I got emotionally numb, and I started feeling like an extraterrestrial trying to fit in with humans. I know it sounds vague but it's just so hard to put into words.
I did everything I could to recover from it. I was willing to spend entire days on anything that could help. I just wanted to live like a normal person. THINK like a normal person. Like I did before 2021. I tried ERP, yoga and even Ayurvedic herbs despite of the fact that I don't think Ayurvedic treatments are too effective. I have to say, it has helped me a lot. I think it's mostly ERP probably. Even if some of it acted as a placebo, it did help. But the thoughts havent entirely gone. This entire process has affected my health in other ways and some of my other thoughts have slightly worsened. I get easily obsessed with some of my anxieties and I subconsciously keep thinking about them.
And I'm so tired of this bullshit. Because not a day passes when I dont think about how all this has affected me. Sometimes I even doubt if these existential questions will ever stop popping up. Of course, I'm going to keep trying, but Im just so sick of being desperate.
That's all I have to say. | OCD |
I am undiagnosed. Working on getting testing, but going through US healthcare system... woo.
Anyway, I got my old school records from my mom. I took it upon myself to make a collection of all the interesting notes my teachers wrote throughout the years. Oy.
I bolded the best stuff for you guys!
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Kindergarten: “She has difficulty focusing during class instructions. **A goal for her has been, and should continue to be, watching other children for cues as to what to do**.” “She sometimes finds it difficult to follow directions.” “She is still having difficulty focusing during class discussions and **will need to continue to make an effort to look at the speaker to stay on task**.”
1st grade: “CayKar could improve in creating and maintaining friendships with others.”
2nd grade: “**CayKar could pay more attention during morning math time**.” “CayKar needs to concentrate on consistently completing high quality work.”
3rd grade: “Some of CayKar’s work suffered from a lack of concentration.”
4th grade: “She is still not proofreading.” “Too often her work is hurried.” “However, CayKar is a very good student who could easily develop into an outstanding one.” “**CayKar has not kept up with her journal and takes shortcuts when given opportunities to practice her skills**.” “CayKar has opportunities to make even better progress should she stay focused on instruction and directions and work harder to complete assignments in a timely manner. Additionally, she should review her classwork for completeness and accuracy.” “**She should continue to focus on staying on task, ignoring distractions, and completing assignments**.” “She rushes her writing assignments and takes little time to edit. She does not make good use of her work time.” “**More focus and less “fiddling” will help bring out the best she has to offer**.”
5th grade: “It is important that CayKar include a greater degree of self checking and commitment to detail and organization in her work.” “Whilst CayKar continues to complete what is required of her both at home and at school, I know she is capable of more.” “CayKar’s homework is not always completed to the standard of which she is capable.” “**CayKar MUST learn to make eye contact while teachers are giving instruction, and must make a greater effort to organizing her work**.” “She is very bright and needs to give herself more opportunities to show this.” “**CayKar must be more diligent in returning books to the library**.” “Her growth potential lies in organizing herself and producing the work she is capable of, all the time.”
6th grade: “She has a tendency to skimp on those details… paying closer attention to details would help.” “She has worked hard to maintain her attention on instruction.”
7th grade: “**CayKar would improve her grades by studying for her tests and quizzes**.” “She tends to be the first one done with in class assignments but could use the extra time to improve or add details to her work.” “Her classroom oral contributions are not so frequent and less on target.” “She always has her work done on time although the work is inconsistent and not always done to the best of her ability.” “**She works well in groups but needs encouragement when working independently**.”
8th grade: “I think CayKar would do well to review class topics regularly – even 5 minutes a day would help her to solidify what she is learning.” “CayKar needs to focus her attention on participating more in class.”
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Then in 8th grade I decided to put forth a lot more effort in school... plus teachers stopped writing student comments once I hit high school, so who even knows there.
I just thought this was all interesting! | ADHD |
I can't have anyone over my house. There was one time I did a couple years ago shortly after moving in. Ever since then there are things in my house I can no longer touch or use. I literally haven't touched my kitchen cabinets in 2 years. How do I know if people were washing their hands after using the bathroom? For all I know they didn't and now they're spreading whatever disgusting things they got on their hands all over everything. A lot of people don't even bother washing their hands, even after wiping their ass. It's fucking disgusting. Even if they do wash their hands, a lot of people don't wash them thoroughly enough to really get them clean. They do that bullshit wherexthey just run their fingers under the water for 5 seconds as if that does anything. So to me any time someone uses a bathroom anywhere, it feels like there very well may be shit on their hands and now they're touching other things spreading it everywhere. I can't drive my car anymore without wearing gloves for the same reason. Everything feels like it's covered in shit. And most things actually are. | OCD |
Does anyone else just stand there silent if someone unexpectedly gives you a present? | aspergers |
It’s happens to me all the time, like when im outside “enjoying” myself i have always those thoughts that i have to come home and make my cleaning ritual just to stay clean and comfortable, it’s annoying. I have fear to go outside because of that too, I don’t want to contaminate myself and come home and clean myself throughly. Im so tired, this is wearing me out… | OCD |
I kinda need to vent a bit because I had a pretty rough day and im feeling pretty down and beating myself up for it. It technically started yesterday when my girlfriend and I got into a huge fight and she said some of the most hurtful things to me, and the things she said were all I could think about today. At work I kept making the stupidest mistakes and wasted a bunch of time walking around and replaying the fight in my head. Eventually one of my supervisors caught me and he threw a bunch of insults at me. I just tried to walk away but of course that ends up making me a “beta male” for not standing up for myself. Whenever I do stand up for myself I go full impulsive mode and say the cruelest things I can think of, so for me it seems I either be a beta and say nothing or be an absolute monster and say the worst stuff imaginable. Now im home and im just really hurt and I feel pretty lonely and heartbroken. | ADHD |
Since April, I've begun questioning the possibility of did, then in August, I went down this rabbit hole constantly asking questions and researching online. I've also begun strucitnizing my past because there's large gaps in my memory. I constantly have the need to try and "prove" that I actually went through trauma because it feels like I'm faking everything. I have intrusive thoughts, but now I'm questioning if they are all intrusive thoughts because they'll switch from just repeating the same word/phrase again and again, playing music, encouraging me through daily tasks or stressful moments, or will just down right be abusive.
It genuinly feels like I've lost all control of my brain. I keep worrying that I'm actually entirely normal and am just exaggerating and faking all of my symptoms. Is ocd capable of making someone genuinly think they have a disorder? If so, how do I shake it, because it's been nearly a year now and the thought wont go away. I don't know if this is just an obsession or something I should genuinly pay attention to. | OCD |
When I get excited about something, or when a thought pops into my head, I can't control whether I say it or not. It's only for certain thoughts though (mainly about taboo things). This behavior disrupts my relationships with people. I always feel bad afterward, realizing what I did. But I cannot let the thought go. If I don't say it it'll eat me up inside. Basically, I have a tic, similar to how Tourettes victims say curse words involuntarily.
I'm not here to ask how to stop the behavior; I just want to know why it happens.
Though, if there is a way to stop it, I am all ears. | OCD |
I thought my fear of covid was high last year when we first shut down, but now I’m really having a hard time adjusting to how much everywhere is acting like it doesn’t exist. I am fully vaccinated and where I live has a high population of vaccinated people and still requires masks but the lackadaisical ways of people that are carrying on with life with no regards to what’s going on has made going out to run even the simplest of errands is so hard for me.
Is anyone else having a hard time re-entering society? | OCD |
My OCD is that I always have these intrusive thoughts about that I'm never gonna be able to stop thinking about thinking. I try to stop thinking about it but it makes it worse. It got really bad recently and I've been unable to focus properly and my compulsions have stopped working. I'm seriously considering therapy now. Has anyone been though a similar experience? | OCD |
Hi Reddit. Where do I start. I was prescribed Wellbutrin for adhd, apparently people also use it for depression. But I’ve been reading stuff on Reddit and it sounds like it gives people super major anxiety. Im already a big what if person so this sound terrifying for me. I have dissociated from reality before back in early 2020 for about a week. I’m so scared to take this. I don’t even know how many milligrams it is. Please share you’re knowledge and experiences. Ty
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Wellbutrin seems terrifying and I’ve been prescribed it for adhd | ADHD |
Does anybody else have habits or ‘quirks’ that you don’t even consciously notice you do but are definitely symptoms of ptsd.
For example I can’t have a shower, blow dry my hair, wear earphones or listen to the tv loudly when home alone as it comprises my hearing which triggers me as I don’t feel in control of my surroundings. These are things I’m just used to and don’t even think about anymore eg. waiting for my boyfriend to get home until I shower but I realise these aren’t ‘normal’ habits.
Just wondered if anyone else has things that they do differently because of their trauma that seem normal to them but not to others? | ptsd |
So brief outline... the last year has been a pretty wild one for me (18f), including finding a relative after a pretty gory suicide attempt (he's alive!!), and being groomed and sexually assaulted, and in a very controlling toxic relationship in which I was blamed for my assault and lost a lot of my self assurance.
These days generally I feel pretty ok. I'm in a new relationship that actually makes me happy and is healthy, trying to keep busy, but the scars of what I've experienced are still with me and my therapist advised trying to actively work through them. Generally speaking I only talk about my trauma when making (spicy) jokes or sarcastic comments, and I don't feel too affected by them most of the time. I occasionally have what I now realise are flashbacks, particularly to the suicide attempt, if something reminds me of it, but even they are very mild - I just zone out and go a bit tense and sit through it stoically until I'm brought back to the present again. Most people wouldn't even notice me having one.
I realised I was still more affected than I realised recently after doing MDMA with some friends; when I was coming down with my boyfriend I accidentally told him the entire story of finding my relative from start to finish, and really regretted over sharing the next day. Also the person who groomed me is someone I met through a specific sport which I absolutely adore, and used to do maybe three or four times a week, and now I'm lucky to do it once a month despite missing it constantly and knowing how much it helped my mental health. Oh and finally my sleep has suffered a bit too - I occasionally have nightmares and have a lot of difficulty letting myself fall asleep if I'm alone. It's not much, I don't even know if it's technically PTSD but apparently I ought to address it.
I really have no idea how I'm supposed to deal with these issues. I've accepted what has happened to me and that it sucked; I should be able to move past them now but I can't quite let go. I want my sport back, and to not be worried about over sharing about what I've experienced to people I love when it's not their problem. I can't tell if I'm genuinely quite ok and not too emotional about it, or if I'm just repressing my feelings too well to even be aware of them lol.
Any help, suggestions or similar experience would be appreciated. As I said I'm already in therapy, which I know is reddit's usual prescription. Thank you for making it this far!! :) | ptsd |
The past two days have been unusually good. Got an extra day off work on payday, ran errands and did chores all day, dinner with friends, and some sleep. Today I actually got some really big stuff done. Finally got my personal truck running again and moved to a better parking spot. I need that truck to get myself other job options and get ready for my move out west from craptacular Ohio. I actually got all the work done on it without getting frustrated like usual. A huge part of that was having proper tools and having a detailed plan before even trying to start. It felt great. I drove my beloved old pickup again for the first time in a very long time and it was great. Very motivated now. Going to do some plumbing upgrades that will get hot water to my camper so I can take hot showers, do laundry and dishes with hot water, and just improve my quality of life in general.
The touring motorcycle I went to buy sold earlier the morning I went to get it. I was disappointed, but not devastated like I normally would be. I just went and bought the parts to fix my truck and got started on that project.
In ADHD news, I've been talking to my friend who has ADHD as well. We grew up together and share many of the same struggles. Knowing what's wrong with me, how to manage it without meds, and knowing I'm not alone has helped a ton. Definitely talk to other ADHD folks if you can. It's been one of the best things I've done. I don't feel like there's just something wrong with me anymore. I know what it is and how to live with it.
Hope everyone is finding what motivates them. I know how horrible that struggle can be. | ADHD |
I'm talking about the thoughts. The brain. It's obsession with constantly bringing up the ways I'm a failure. How often it brings up that no one chooses to talk to me, that I must not be liked, that I'm and asshole and honestly should just disappear from the world.
It doesn't matter that I fight back and say "people are busy and have lives" or "you chose not to be in that group chat because the one person there harassed you even though you've blocked them" or "people showed up to your stream and supported you and helped you and even followed because they like you and what you do."... my brain still fires back that it's my fault, that people hate me still, that the people I care about are choosing to ignore me and shun me just because I won't disregard my safety and boundaries and accept being bullied by other people who are miserable and want to abuse people.
I'm so tired of it. And therapy isn't helping. Meds sort of help until they don't because my body adjusts to them... and while my therapist listens to my concerns, my psychiatrist is only concerned with getting me to lose weight. He actively ignores the fact that I've gained weight because I am no longer on medication for ADHD so it drives me to consume a lot of stimulants that are caked in carbs.
I'm getting to the end of my rope again... | depression |
I haven’t told work about my adhd as It is such a taboo and I know It wouldn’t be accepted/understood.
I am very good at my job. I do all my tasks on time so no one can see I’m failing at other aspects of my life due to my adhd.
However my boss has started grilling me on subjects. What my thought process is for items, what should I do next, what part of the law would this fall into etc.
Because of the grilling and being put on the spot my brain can’t compute!!! Send in a email fine, gives me chance to formulate and focus on a response but in the moment? I falter and it is so embarrassing. I often overthink the answer as well and give the wrong bloody one! As my job is working in the grey so sometimes the answer might not even be the actual answer but one of many possibilities.
I am worried she will start to wonder “does she even know what she is doing?”
Having a wobble and trying to figure out how to tell them about it a year later! | ADHD |
Doesn't matter what.
When I was around 6 years old, I started feeling like I had to confess every minor indiscretion. I frankly kind of miss when it was as simple as "I had a thought about tripping grandpa" or "I got a smudge on a glass coffee table." They've escalated since, getting worse and worse. I always felt like I was doing something wrong. I always felt like I was a "bad person." And it just *never stops.*
I've been on antidepressants for ten years, and it helps slightly. I've been in therapy on and off, and it helps too. But I've never been at a point in my life where I'm just fucking *okay.* Where the brain worms are fully and completely just leaving me the hell alone. I'm afraid of getting close to people because that's just one more person to worry about hating me one day, one more series of intrusive thoughts whispering in the back of my head "If they really knew you, they'd think you were disgusting." I'm afraid to ever enter into a romantic relationship again because I'm so *scared* of ever being emotionally vulnerable with someone and letting them see what a mess I am.
I'm 34 years old now and I'm just so freaking tired of living and dying by this fucking disorder.
(this post dedicated to the cool Route 66 road trip I'm planning with friends after we get vacc'd, that I'm spending more time having an anxiety guilt spiral about than actually having fun planning) | OCD |
Has anyone else with Aspergers and ADHD dealt with eye floaters? Apparently it's been significantly distracting me, because now I was on eye drops, and it was like my vision was upgraded from VHS to 8K. I can not even overstate the difference. It feels like my brain killed a task that had taken up to 90% of available processor cycles up until yesterday.
I honestly have no idea how I've been able to live with it for so long, without realizing how much it's been bothering me. I think maybe it's possible that it's ableism from articles written about it, or maybe that articles about eye floaters are only written from the perspective of neurotypical people (who are much better at seeing past details, and just looking at the big picture).
Now I have to be a big boy and have eye surgery (where they clean and replace all the transparent fluid in the eye). I'm not sure I can handle that kind of thing mentally, but on the other hand, it feels disingenuous to myself not to do it, since I know what an incredible strain it's been on my brain until now.
At least for now I have the eye drops to relieve my sensory overload level.
Can anyone relate to this? I feel like I had an epiphany. My brain is a visual analyzing super computer, that for the past 4-5 years have been preoccupied with analyzing the debris inside the 'snow globe' that is my aging eye ball.
Wouldn't it just make sense to pay for the upgrade (despite the potential risk with eye surgery?) | aspergers |
I'm alone a lot. So much I forget I exist when I'm around people. It is lke watching a movie and sometimes they talk to you. Doesn't help I've been forgotten and left behind five times when I was younger (37f) When I try to go out with a guy or try to make friends I always get the comment "you're a weird one" or "you're different" I've been told to embrace my weirdness. I don't think they understand what it's like with my mind the way it is..
Constantly told I ask the same question too many times or gain some confidence. I can't help it! Any help? Or at least gone through something like this or felt this way? | aspergers |
So my friend just moved in with us and I don’t really want disclose names but we will go with Katy for her name. So to start with some context she’s had a rough childhood when she was young. She grew up in home where she wasn’t living with her birth parents (cause her birth father was in prison) and the father she was living with was abusive towards her step-siblings but not her and that put some stress on her cause she couldn’t do anything about it. Later in high school when I met her she was living with a different family and near the end of my senior year her adoptive parents went through a divorce but before that they were arguing etc, and also sorta kicked her out. Once they got divorced her mom moved into the apartment she was currently living in with her boyfriend at the time but then the parents got back together. Skip some stuff… later out of no where, her parents with her siblings(not the ones from her earlier childhood) move to Louisiana and threw most of her stuff away that was at the house. They also got pretty high and drunk a lot and they still are. So she then moved in with her boyfriend’s family but she wasn’t feeling that her boyfriend actually cared enough for her at the time. This was going on for awhile, I told my mom about it (some more information me Katy both joked that we were gonna say to everyone that we were cousins till we graduated but she graduated early so we still do it anyways but I also told my mom so she’s in on it) and she told Katy she could move in with us. So she did and a few days later actually broke up with her boyfriend which also still had feelings for him cause they were actually engaged but she wasn’t ready and she didn’t feel like he cared enough about her even with she was going through with her family and all. So she moves in with us and she also had to get a new car and she was also looking at apartments before and stuff. She also went through a state when her parents left where she questioned everything and what they taught cause her adoptive mom was an anti-doctor person. She also works at a Mexican restaurant as a waitress. The environment there isn’t great. Most people who work there are illegal immigrants, single moms or last resort type people etc. she’s fine with all that and thought she made some friends who want to help her but she’s hasn’t been experiencing that at all. Her mangers are alcoholics who don’t care what goes on some of the other girls made up a lie about the guy she was talking to which made her lose trust with the people there. Not to mention some of the kitchen workers and the other waiters keep touching her and trying to get with her, which sucks cause that is not how a man should treat a woman. So work environment sucks. She came home almost in tears talking about how worked sucked, and the problems with her car so she can’t really drive anywhere when it’s in the shop to look for a new job, not to mention she is trying to take some online college class spring 2022 semester so she can get an associates or something to get a better job as well. All of this stress and anxiety has put a lot on her and made depressed I think and she can’t hold down food cause she throw it up from the stress, because of that she is always hungry and her head hurts from it. So I told her that me and my mom cared for her and our house was a safe place for her and she said thank you but that also reminder her of her adoptive mom and she started tearing up saying how she misses her but she don’t think she’ll come back cause she is either to high or to drunk. I tried comforting her but idk what to say. Do you guys have any advice for me what to say or how to comfort her cause I’m not really good at this stuff. What she is going though is making me depressed for her cause no one should do that to their own kid and no man should treat her like that. So please any advice would be great and if your religious keep her in your thoughts and prayers. (Sorry for any bad grammar) | depression |
I found this subreddit a few months ago and, wow. I have never felt so understood. I thought I was crazy my whole life. It is comforting to see that others have similar things going on in their heads. After getting diagnosed by my psych and talking through it with my therapist, a lot of things in my life have made much more sense. But I am still in the early stages of learning how to deal with myself and my adhd.
Anyway I am wondering, how has your ADHD manifested itself in your romantic relationships? For me, it has been ruining them a lot. Throughout my adulthood I have easily gotten bored in relationships, as soon as that rush of falling in love was over. Turns out a lot of that has to do how I was raised, but adhd also plays a part. my brain is addicted to that stimulus of falling for someone, and that rush of emotion when there are issues. I’ve been toxic in the past just to get some emotional rush. Broke up with ppl bc I was understimulated. became addicted to that rush of chasing someone to get them to fall for you. Etc.
I do realize that parts of this is just becoming more emotionally aware and mature, but when I got diagnosed, the things that went wrong in my past long-term relationships, all started to make sense. I would love to hear some of your experiences, and if anyone has had a success story with similar experiences as mine. | ADHD |
I don’t like explaining it to anyone cuz it’s like.. unfathomable to them that we have thoughts like these | OCD |
I left something very toxic and I feel free and I can sleep again. Maybe that’s what was hurting me so bad that my brain couldn’t function again. But fuck now I’m lonely. Not sad anymore but I crave affection. | depression |
I had what I think was an anxiety attack today when I called my ex brother in law to see when I could see my children. I don't know what triggered it but it was really bad. My ex brother in law and ex mother in law took my children years ago when the judge gave custody to my ex husband. I wasn't allowed to see my kids even though I had a custody agreement that I was to have them every other weekend. I couldn't get the sheriff to enforce because the custody agreement was with my ex-husband and not the brother and mother in law. I didn't get to see my kids for almost 10 years. Now my son is 18 and about to graduate and my daughter is 16. I just started getting to see them 2 years ago but only at their house. When the pandemic hit I couldn't see them at all, which I was fine with because I did not want them to get sick. I can't get over this anxiety I have simply talking to my in laws, I think it's fear that they might take away the kids again, I don't know what to do. | ptsd |
I feel like I spent years exhausting my exploration of the world around me. Hitchhiking, taking drugs, being in bands. Now I'm on the far side of 30, approaching 40, and life feels like it has nothing new to offer. I'm just bored. I don't feel like working, I don't feel like playing. All I do is smoke weed anymore, and it's just not satisfying. So I quit weed, thinking it was a motivation issue and just found out it's not. Now I just have one less activity. Life just sucks. There's no point and I'm tired. | depression |
About a year ago I read about ADHD and I found that I strongly identify with many of the symptoms. I have already been diagnosed with dyslexia with weaknesses in short-term and working memory which lines up well with many ADHD symptoms.
I want to get a diagnosis but I am at a lot of crossroads in my life right now. There are decisions I need to make regarding my career, finishing my degree and my personal life which are all heavily intertwined right now especially given my age (just turned 30).
My biggest worry right now is that if I go for a diagnosis I will most likely get it, whether I really have it or not. I have some major flaws and insecurities right now and this would help to explain many of them, but then I will be carrying this burden around with me for the rest of my life. Given my shortcomings, I could really do with the medication. This would not only help me finish my degree and get a proper job hopefully but more importantly actually get on with life. There are so many things in life I look back at now and it all clicks, however I am extremely worried that I because I am self-diagnosing I am now trying to convince myself that I have it. On the flip side, long-term medication use has many downfalls and there is also the chance that I could get diagnosed and they don't work for me.
Worst of all, ADHD is really trendy right now with everyone claiming they have it. Lockdown has only made it worse and I hear in the states it is pushed quite a but onto kids. For many of these people, they have been able to get through education and do decently at work but for me both of these have had major stumbles.
ADHD testing in the UK on the NHS can take a long time to get, likewise many of the independent testers can charge quite a lot. Some of the most popular ones such as Psychiatry UK have a less then stellar reputation.
I would really appreciate any responses because so much is resting on it. Thanks!
**tl;dr** \- I suspect that I may have ADHD, but I don't want to open a Pandora's box and carry the burden with me for the rest of my life. Should I go for the test? | ADHD |
Ok so I'm a 15 year old girl with a history of sexual abuse. Normally it doesn't affect me too much, but recently I've been feeling really *really* bad anxiety, mostly because of my new teacher. The thing is, he hasn't done anything to cause it.
It started when he asked me to stay after class a couple weeks ago because he saw me crying during class (it's unrelated, I have general anxiety issues so sometimes I'll cry a bit for no real reason). Nothing sketchy happened; he asked me what was up then sent me to the guidance counselor. Since then he's been interacting with me more, just like asking about me and telling me I did well in class and stuff. Again, there hasn't been anything sketchy and I know he's just doing it because he's concerned. Still, the attention has been setting off alarm bells in my head.
It's illogical, I *know* it's illogical. He hasn't done anything even a bit questionable, he's like *everyone's* favourite teacher, and he has kids around my age (including a daughter). But I'm still TERRIFIED of this man. I'm always on guard at school. I can't pay attention in class because all my energy is focused on being aware of where he is in the classroom; I start to panic even when he's just looking at me. Even though I know I have nothing to worry about, I can't stop the intrusive thoughts. They make me want to vomit every time we're in the same room.
It's starting to affect my grades too, because I don't participate in his class anymore (since I want to draw as little attention to myself as possible). I've also spent every lunch for the past week in the bathroom because I'm worried about running into him outside of his class.
Besides the fear, I feel immense guilt because he hasn't done ANYTHING that would warrant any of this. Plus I'm ashamed of myself for having the thoughts about him that I've been having, even if they're intrusive.
Here's where things get *really* fucked:
There's this small, completely irrational (which is saying something for me) part of my brain that's telling me that he can hear my thoughts, that he somehow knows about all of this. I can picture him hearing what I'm thinking and being so disgusted (or worse, *turned on*) and it just adds to the fear and guilt and shame. This tiny part of me feels like he's always there, watching me and hearing my thoughts everywhere I go, even when I'm outside of school.
It's become hard to comfortably do things like shower or go to the bathroom because I feel exposed all the time. I can't even think normal thoughts or enjoy things or be "teenagery" without getting embarrassed about it, because I feel like I'm constantly being judged by this person THAT I *KNOW* DOESN'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT ME. Still, I feel like I have no privacy, like my brain doesn't belong to me anymore. Then, once I talk myself down and try to think about things rationally and logically, I feel so ashamed of myself for believing that at all. I'm worried that this is making me actually go crazy. **It's fucking exhausting.**
The hearing thoughts thing is also how I felt after the last time "something" happened, so it's even more confusing because, let me remind you, HE HASN'T DONE ANYTHING TO ME.
The last year or so was really rough for me emotionally. I was dealing with a lot of stuff about figuring out my memories, and quarantine just exacerbated everything because I didn't have any outlets or coping mechanisms for a long time. It sucks that such a large chunk of my formative years was lost to the pandemic (+ other stuff obvs lol), so I really want to like enjoy my life and be a normal kid (whatever that means) while I have the chance. I don't know how I'll be able to do that when every second of my time is being spent *freaking the fuck out*.
I don't know how to get out of my own head or relax or stop the intrusive thoughts. I'm exhausted. I just want to be okay. How do I calm down and convince myself everything is fine? | ptsd |
Hey! So I don’t have PTSD or anything, but I’m writing a story where one of the characters suffers from PTSD.
So, what’re some experiences you all have had that I can add in my story? I really want to get his character right and I would like to get some symptoms from people who’ve experienced it first-hand. | ptsd |
I hate waking up in the morning.. i hate my life. I ain’t shit | depression |
Hello. I am new to the community. I was diagnosed 18 years back; and since I spent a year in College in 2013, I've been interested in investing in Stocks, mainly from Ben Graham and Warren Buffett. I was just wondering if anyone else who has Aspergers invests and how do you research? Thanks | aspergers |
If reading this I'm looking for friends to talk to. It's been really lonely since covid and I'm not the best at talking but I want to try to find some friends. Some hobbies include sports, video games, music, cooking,longboarding, skateboarding and being in nature. I'm pretty socially awkward so and have a hard time in social situations but hopefully this can help a little bit. If you wanna talk or chat feel free to message me I play ps4 for any gamers. im 19 years old and would just like you to be over 18 please. I know most people will ignore this post if someone doesn't I hope we can start a great friendship and even if you don't thank you for reading this all | ADHD |
I get super stressed around this time because I have no idea how to choose a nice gift and kinda don't care for Christmas all that much, my family is not super close. I know others who can make or buy very thoughtful gifts for people they care about and wish I had that talent. I just end up buying alcohol or gift cards because it stresses me out, but then I feel cheap for picking such a boring gift. Am I overanalyzing this? | aspergers |
Hey
I'm a filmmaker/artist working on an independent project and I'm having a really hard time fixing goals and sticking to them.
I feel I'm much more consistent if I can share what I'm doing and if someone is there to watch me while I do it. I'm wondering if anyone would be willing to have weekly online body double meetings. I was thinking we could have 30 minutes each to talk about our goals and progress and then have a body double working session.
I really believe a body double helps to anchor yourself when you have ADHD. Something about having someone around makes a task more rewarding and places subtle pressure for accountability. | ADHD |
For the first time, in.. well, ever.
I'm not sure exactly what changed or when. But today, after I did something dumb (I don't remember what, something insignificant like walking into the door frame), the inner monologue said something like 'it's okay, I like myself'.
It stopped me in my tracks - I don't remember ever thinking that before. I took a moment to look in the mirror and see myself from a positive, more objective perspective; not just in my appearance, but in the person I am.
And I am here to tell you, kids, that I saw it all, and I liked it. I didn't see some dumb, fat, dropout loser like my brain tries to portray me as.
Instead I saw beauty. I saw a compassionate, weird, creative, fierce woman, who suffered trauma upon trauma but somehow overcame. Who even in the lowest points of her own life has never turned away a person in need. Who continues to grow and evolve into better versions of herself every day.
I'm telling you this partly because I'm proud of myself and wanna show off a little, but mostly because I want anyone and everyone out there who's struggling with themselves, to know that it's possible. It's not just something people say to make you feel better; it's real and it's attainable.
To other folk this would probably sound like the ramblings of a madman, but I feel like I've just raised Atlantis or some shit, and I knew you guys would get it.
Be kind to yourself, you become more amazing every day. Peace ✌️ | ptsd |
More than once, as I lay in bed during a late afternoon totally tired and depressed that I have sat up and realized I craved beef! By beef I mean filet mignon. So I go and eat some and find my head a bit clearer.
I’m wondering if the protein from beef is what my brain craves. Being that I am a carb and sugar addict, perhaps if I start replacing those with protein from beef, I’d that might help my brain be less depressed and more productive! | depression |
If you question my intelligence, I am just saying that it is at a higher level than my age according to the tests of a psychologist.
Since 11 years old I have had thoughts that my parents were going to / would like to kill me.
Recently (since the summer) I have had thoughts that Freemasons and the Illuminati rule the world and want to kill us ordinary people. I also think that it means something special that an Illuminati member and I have the same birthday and that the symbol of the University of Helsinki joining Freemasonry etc. and my thoughts on studying there sometime in the future would be related in the way that I am supposed to become a Mason.
My other thoughts are that I get cyanide / poison gas / carbon monoxide poisoning and once even that my parents intentionally kill me for carbon monoxide poisoning. Anxiety about this has often grown so great that I have not been able to sleep or be at home. However, I realize that others do not experience things the same way or believe them to be true.
I also fear that my food was poisoned by McDonald’s workers and that my food was drugged by my parents | OCD |
Jesus. If you see someone asking for it or it seems like they may be, don’t fucking respond. For the people asking for it, do you actually want to get better? If you do then stop asking for it and settle for discomfort. This sub is pissing me off because every day I see people asking “is this ocd”. Who fucking cares if it is or isn’t? That’s not going to help with your recovery and overall improvement. A lot people here wouldn’t have improved if their family wasn’t there to back them up and stop giving into reassurance. And for all the people that are about to come my way and say all of the good things associated with “helping others out” and giving reassurance, I just want to remind you that you’re making things worse. You actually have the ability to help these people and instead choose to see someone suffering and make their ocd worse. I’m extremely disappointed in this sub. I actually defended this sub when someone went on a rant and now I’m on their side because a lot of people here clearly lack a growth mindset. Get comfortable being uncomfortable…period. Easier said than done? Too bad because you don’t have another choice
Also, to u/jamesle_g123 that said, “you don’t have ocd do you”…you’re right 😔 I don’t have ocd. I’ve been faking it since I was 3 and my Dr. lied to me when he gave me my diagnosis. The two other immediate family members of mine with ocd lied too and there’s obviously no connection to my ocd because they don’t have it… I’m sorry guys for keeping a lie going for 18 years without actually knowing it was a lie 😢 | OCD |
So i been using a headset (bose qc 30 in ear) for a couple of years now.
The ear piece itself feels like a piece of cloud and i can wear it for endless hours unlike over ear headsets wich gives me headaches. I work in a noisy enviroment and wear it maybe 7-10 hours per day.
I would recommend this for everyone for a lot of reasons but 1 major issue makes me not wanna recommend it to anyone.
After 1 - 1.5 years of daily usage i have experienced that the hardware shorts out, im currently on my 3rd set and so far they have kindly been replaced by bose support.
I am so addicted to this product and fear the day they wear out...
My question to you guys is, what do you use for noise regulation and is there specific products you can recommend? | aspergers |
I was wondering if there were any other ways to combat ocd and intrusive thoughts other than ERP. I was wondering will distracting yourself from it by focusing on work/school/goals also help get rid of it? | OCD |
45 songs have potential to give me joy. Mostly by different musicians. All other songs are, varying levels of, intolerable. I add a song or two, every year. Anyone else? | aspergers |
I’m 15 turning 16 and in the end of my last therapy appointment my therapist diagnosed me with complex ptsd. She didn’t go into what it meant for me and what we were going to do and I was hoping someone here might be able to help explain some of this. | ptsd |
I'm just wondering, to the people with autism or sensory issues and ocd, do your intrusive thoughts occur more when you're overstimulated? | OCD |
i’ve been battling depression most of my life, i was diagnosed at 10 and i’m 23 now. some times are worse than others but i’ve always come out the other side. it got really bad last winter but then i got a better job and new meds and was improving. now it’s getting bad again, but in a different way, and it’s scary. i know i need help. i almost went to the emergency room over the weekend but didn’t, because i’m a senior and this week is finals week and i NEED to finish the semester. so i’m giving myself just one more week to fight through. but now i’m faced with the question of what to do after, i know how bad it got, and i know i’ll probably get there again. so do i wait until that happens? do i see how long i can go before it’s an emergency again? or do i pack a suitcase and check myself in on friday after my last class? it feels silly to me, to plan ahead on something like this, because if i can do that, if i can get through my last week of classes and turn in all my projects then do i really need it? or was i just being dramatic when i asked my partner to take me to the hospital? the emergency room has always felt to me like the place people go when they’re about to/tried to kill themselves, not for people who are afraid that they might go through with the plan they told themselves they’d never do. | depression |
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**MEDS HELP**
(31M) I am back on meds after going without for quite a while. It did land me a job so I am pretty sure they do their job. On my small side hustle, being a running and cycling coach, I suddenly got - I shit you not - applause, after hosting a group training. The nice feedback I get is a bit overwhelming, because I feel a huge difference in how people interact with me. I do get to the point a lot quicker, that helps I guess.
**Symptoms Worsen or just expose normal you?**
But there are some downsides. Time off meds is making me more anxious. I feel like the tasks that I could complete while I was not using them, are increasingly difficult when the meds wear off. I forgot a dose yesterday and I am suddenly covered in a frenzy of old newspapers, cardboard boxes, dirty dishes, clean laundry, dirty laundry, shoes that are everywhere and workout material for exercises that I started but did not finish. This is not how I lived before.
**A Trained Brain**
I've always believed that even though it is harder for me, I can still train my brain to do certain things. That my mind can make the connect on its own. By using my meds I feel like my ability to actually learn is impaired. Usually, the things you support get weaker (with the body that is). You need to strengthen you body (train) and not support it (sit on a chair).
**Memory loss**
I have more difficulty remembering stuff I did while on meds, then off. Maybe it is because I complete more tasks. But having a black hole in a week is kind of weird.
**Imposter Syndrome**
All in all, I have difficulty crediting myself for things I achieve while on meds. I feel as if people like me better on drugs. Even though I know 'me on meds' is still me, it makes it more difficult to accept myself as I normally am.
***Question: If you relate to these kind of feelings, how do you deal with them?*** | ADHD |
I read in articles about Asperger Syndrome(I am an aspire myself) that people with our condition have more neurons and synapses than neurotypical people since the Asperger brain fails to get rid of the extra neurons and connections. Does that mean the aspies are smarter and learn faster and have greater brain capacity than the average person?
I also read that we aspies have better visual - spatial intelligence than neuro typical people. I am very good in this kind of intelligence so this must be true.
I consider myself very intelligent. I learn things fast, I understand relatively difficult physics subjects like time and entropy with ease and I can solve Sudoku puzzles on hard mode in less than 20 minutes. | aspergers |
So right now at the ripe age of almost 27, I’m a real piece of work. I’m tired and anxious all the time (I take sertraline and propranolol for general anxiousness and anxiety attacks respectively), I’m irritable, depressed, and disinterested most of the time. I live alone in a subsidized studio apartment in Everett WA, get SSDI benefits, do part time Door Dash deliveries on my bike, and donate plasma for money. In short, I’m a poor and miserable sod, and the only way I’m gonna go anywhere in life is if the band I’m in makes it big, which is a super long shot. Otherwise, I’m probably gonna rot away until I likely die early due to poor diet and lack of exercise outside of work. Finally, as if to add insult to injury, my moral compass/fiber has pretty much fallen apart, I don’t care about doing what’s right most of the time, I just do whatever gives me some fleeting pleasure.
Here’s the thing, I wasn’t always that way. In my early years I was a ball of sunshine who loved everyone and everything, strived to do what was right, wanted to do things and go places, see everything in the world, and just be the best I could be. Looking back, my goal was to be somewhat of a modern day Davinci or Ben Franklin, someone who did it all and then some. I wanted children and a wife (from the time I was 4 till I was 8, my best (and first overall) friend was a girl, and I was convinced that one day we’d be married and have 100 kids) I wanted to be a leader, and all that good stuff.
I loved things like bright colors, playgrounds, balloons, birthday parties, circuses, and the like. I watched bright happy go lucky shows like Thomas and Friends, Winnie the Pooh, Madeline, Blue’s Clues, and the like. I read books like crazy, made up imaginative stories, and acted like anything and everything was possible.
Looking back, I’d say my peak was from the beginning of 2nd grade through the first half of 5th grade. The second half of 5th grade was when things began to falter, 6th grade was definitely uncomfortable at times, 7th grade was surprisingly good, and 8th grade was where it all went downhill. I had a brief respite in 11th and 12th grades, but it didn’t last unfortunately.
All the positive stuff I mentioned above? Nowadays it’s pretty much a complete 180 from that. I’ll indulge in the shows I liked as a kid for nostalgia factor and every so often I’ll latch onto a current kids show because it comforts me (I’m currently watching and obsessed with Bluey, and I watch Pete the Cat because it reminds of me of my peak times and it depicts how things could’ve been for me) but that’s about it. I’m so far removed from what I used to be, I’m not even sure if 8 year old me would recognize 27 year old me if we didn’t look like each other.
Put it this way, instead of becoming a modern day Ben Franklin or Leonardo Da Vinci, I became a fusion of a modern day Syd Barrett and a real life Shinji Ikari (if he was a tall Italian-American instead of a short Japanese teen). My downfall over the years was slow and grinding, there were a lot of things that led to it (some my own doing, some beyond my control) and here I am. Before I know it, I’m gonna be 30, and unless something changes, I’m probably just gonna rot away where I am now.
Anyone else go through a similar developmental? Why do you think it happened to you?
Did anyone go through the opposite development? Why do you think it happened? | aspergers |
Hi,
My day started great. Going to work on my bike, feeling great. Later I hade physical terapi and for 50 minutes I hade acidity and kramps attack. But the hole time there was no negative thoughts. Just tears and cramp. The hole time I hade the mindset of ok. Lets just go through this. Like having a hard workout or a fun boxing fight. This is something my body needs to do.
Am I alone in this? This disconnect between your mind and your body. It is like my mind disconnects from my body.
This is my third year with ptsd. | ptsd |
I used to go all the time, but when covid shut down the gyms, the one by my home didn't make it and went bankrupt and closed them down.
I liked this one because it was hidden and small and only a few people went there. I think most people went there because of the same reason as me.
Anyways I signed up to a new gym, but there gym is way bigger and there's always people in it. It's packed all the time. I haven't gotten a good routine in over a year because I can't get over the new environment.
I tried going before work, but I can't keep it up. I start work at 530am. | aspergers |
At first I was a psychiatrist was also gonna be like a psychologist. I’m really sad to find out that it’s not and that I’ll most likely be on another very long waitlist in January.
So now I’m just curious what’s gonna happen. I’m not from America but I’ve seen a lot of just sad stories? Of the psychiatrist not believing a person has ADHD cause they got good grades or has a ton of friends?
At this point I’m so nervous he’s gonna say there’s nothing wrong with me because there DEFINITELY is. Like I’m worried I’m gonna answer one question as a neurotypical person and he’s gonna be like “yup, you’re ‘normal’! Next!”
What kind of questions do they ask? Like what’s on the test? Should I be prepared to fight my case cause I’m a girl in my 20’s?
And meds? I do think I want meds, do I have to prove I need them? Or do they get shoved down your throat? I don’t have much faith in these people and I’m overthinking it so hard | ADHD |
For the most part, I'm still low on my communication ability in general but talking on the phone has now become easier than before. I still get anxiety when making a call or receiving but it's no longer crippling. I can now express condolences and set phrases much quicker now than before. Saying things like 'I'm sorry for your loss' or 'That must be very hard for you' always felt odd to say before because it's not necessarily what my feelings described. I felt bad for those people but couldn't really describe it in words. I think I'm starting to learn not to overthink things and just go with the words society deems as acceptable instead of trying to create my own. It's just easier that way. I feel like I've made some progress and that makes me happy. | aspergers |
I’m a 22 year old post-graduate. My parents are really toxic (financially leeches off my brothers money who has schizophrenia) and I feel like I’m stuck in this shitty environment because I feel like I can’t take care of myself. In college I had a lot of part-time food jobs and I would always get fired due to my ADHD (being late, being clumsy, etc) and it ruined my confidence. I graduated a year and a half ago when the pandemic hit. I’ve just been doing food delivery jobs but I just got deactivated on Doordash lmao.
I’m worried I’ll find a corporate job, move out and then get fired for something again. I don’t trust myself because I always oversleep, suck at routines, and I feel super depressed that I’ll ever be self sufficient. And I’m dealing with chronic pain from the injuries I’ve been having due to being really clumsy.
I feel really stuck in life. Everyday I just go on my phone and scroll Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube for hours and then do my delivery food jobs. But I need to find a corporate job in my college field major. I’m feeling scared that I’ll get fired or I’ll end up in a shitty job I hate.
Every-time I try to have a routine it fails because my mom is super toxic and would yell in the middle of the night about conspiracy theories, and she yells all the time whenever I do anything or cook. So I feel like i need to get the hell out. I have ~8k saved but my friend says I should save more in case I get fired or something for emergencies if I move out.
I just feel utterly depressed. Having adhd and living in a shitty environment sucks. | ADHD |
Does anyone find that when they sleep well their OCD is way worse? Wake up with intrusive thoughts like crazy?
Also, do you often assume the meaning of most of your dreams is proof about any one of your obsessions? I.e. I had a dream about X, this means my intrusive thoughts about Y are true! | OCD |
What’s the point? Thousands to get diagnosed, thousands on therapy, hundreds on titration, private prescriptions, 15 minute check ins with psychiatrist costing 100.
And every single time I switch medicines my heart races, I get anxious, my blood pressure shoots up, I lose sensation in my fingers, I get dehydrated and euphoric/psychotic.
First day on 30mg vyvanse and I just feel awful, wanted to take it and instantly get 12 hours of work done but instead I’ve just sat in bed feeling like shit.
I’m just destined to suffer with adhd forever
FWIW my resting heart rate is 78-90 on meds and my blood pressure is 125/60 - not overly bad but I’m just hyper aware of my heart pumping and feel lightheaded and awful | ADHD |
Anyone have any luck dating another fellow aspie? I met someone online and was wondering if aspie’s get along with each other better than NT’s. | aspergers |
I feel like the amount of meds I’ve tried is long. The reality:
Bupropion
Celexa
Lexapro-current
Trazadone
Xanax
Zoloft
Recently diagnosed with ADHD, still on the fence about ADHD medication. Feel free to give advice on it. But I just wanted to be humbled, anyone care to share their long list of med trials? | ADHD |
I have what looks like a really cool book. I want to read it but each time I do my brain wanders off. I used to say it was because the book series I am hyperfocused on are still being written and I have to wait to buy them. (Warriors kinda and Wings of Fire) Now that I’m thinking about it if I had one of the new books out would I read that? I want to read stuff so I can not be suck on my phone all day.
Last year I was able to read a book in 1-2 weeks. Then I caught up with the series and I was stuck waiting for the new ones to come out.
Does anyone have any suggestions to break out of this mindset? | ADHD |
Hello friends!
Quick bit about me - I've struggled with depression for most of my adult life. Nothing helped. It was...pretty bad. About two weeks ago, I found a great doctor, and she said she thought I had ADHD. I said nah, but decided to give Adderall a try.
Fast forward two weeks, and I've had the best two weeks of my entire life. I'm clear, focused, happy, productive, no side effects. It was amazing, like a flip had switched.
Then, on Saturday, I hit the start of two weeks of vacation from work. I was really excited, but...I work up in a funk. Irritable, lazy, sad, etc. The funk just kept going, and now I'm on Day 3 of it. Also, my skin is breaking out like crazy. Unrelated perhaps? Anyways, the difference between these three bad days and the previous amazing two weeks.
So...what's going on? I had a couple of ideas, but wanted to see if anyone else has had a similar experience. A couple of things that are different, maybe all of them are unrelated.
1) I went from a fairly stressful time at work, to vacation and very little stress.
2) I've slept a little more lately (\~1-2hr). In the last two weeks, I had an incredibly regular schedule (9:45-5:45). Before that, I slept like crap (too much, then not enough).
3) My wife made some Christmas cookies. I'm pretty sensitive to sugar and chocolate.
4) I had some whiskey, after being dry for two week.
Maybe its all just a fluke and I'll feel better tomorrow. But given that I felt so incredible before this stretch, I wanted to see if there was anything I should be doing to "right the ship"
Thank you! | ADHD |
For some strange reason I find that when I am calm and happy in a very solitary space usually zoning in on something I find I involuntarily make strange noises that usually are grunts, dog whines or mumblings (usually gibberish).
Though strangely enough when I’m in that type of zoning out, I find work considerably easier to do and often it’s quite fun, much like playing with a puzzle and fitting in pieces. It just feels really peaceful.
I don’t understand why I make these sounds though, anyone able to offer some personal insight?
Edit: didn’t realize this post would blow up overnight, it may take me a bit but I’m going to read through all the comments, though commenting takes a bit of energy
(may take me a bit).
Thank you for the insight!
Edit 1: I have read all the comments, I’ve never realized that many fellow aspies and several redditors with adhd; also, do verbal stimming as well. | aspergers |
I went drinking tonight with some friends. Mostely.it was fine. Just the fact that the girl I still like is here aswell SUCKS. I understand nothing will happen but I hate hearing about all the things why I know it won't happen. The fact that she's on tinder. Her going to the movies with a guy she once liked and tried to kiss her aftsrwards. Just the fact that she has better contact/friendship with a guy who is one of my few friends. And they have a better time now then I have with either of them. I know most of it is just the alcohol giving more of a boost to the bad thoughts. But I HATE this. At the point of telling her how I feel, but it will change a lot in my life. | depression |
Recently diagnosed privately, awaiting routine health checks(blood tests, ecg etc) before i can start anything. The plan is to be prescribed something privately that can then be transferred on to the NHS. I’d like to avoid the usual starter Ritalin if possible hence why I’m asking about dexedrine. I believe there is Lisdexamphetamimes also which is similar? I’m not too sure what there is as I can’t find reliable info online. Anything official looking is either out of date or from the US.
Just generally wondering what is available in the UK that isn’t Ritalin | ADHD |
I honestly obsess over if my opinions and views and even taste in music is reflected on my evidence. Like I have thoughts that stem from “me liking a genre of music a lot of people criticize makes me less intelligent” “or having left leaning views makes me less Intelligent”. I don’t know if it’s true about the music part. Because the way I see artists I like trashed it makes me wonder If I’m just an idiot who likes shit music. Does anyone know anything related to ocd that could involve this? | OCD |
I have ADD but I don’t know anything about it cause I can’t afford a therapist so I’m trying here! Just got the diagnosis.
My brother, dad, grandma and I were playing a board game. Four categories, somewhat hands on game.
The amount of stress I had during this game. I was teamed up with my grandma who I, to be fair, don’t like very much.
I’m a good team player. It’s something my school was very focused on. I’m comfortable taking the lead, especially if I feel like my teammates aren’t up to the job.
That’s how I felt during this game. Everyone was speaking over each other and my voice drowned out. Everyone understood the cards in their own way. It’s timed. I got really frustrated with my grandma because she did the tasks wrong half the time. Not to mention we couldn’t agree on the rules, and I kept offering to read them out loud. There were FOUR rules. They all blabbered and I could tell we weren’t playing by the same rules. I was right. We had to start over 3 times.
After each round, others discussed the facts on the cards and began googling unprompted. This frustrated me too cause I didn’t care about the facts… I wanted to keep playing. Once they finally got back to the game, I wasn’t paying attention and forgot to listen. They wouldn’t allow me to read the cards out loud, which made it really hard for me to process the information.
I sat with some clay most of the time to keep my hands occupied.
It’s been an hour. I’ve left the room and tried to sit with my book. My head hurts. The music playing is driving me towards murder but I can’t turn it off. Their conversations I can hear fill up my whole brain so I can’t do anything. I wanna break down, cry and tell everyone to leave.
I like playing games. I’m competitive but not a sore loser. HOW can I keep this from happening again? It’s like a panic attack, but for ADD | ADHD |
Ok so a big compulsion was avoidance more specifically with razors because I keep getting intrusive thoughts about kms impulsively with them, I’ve been doing pretty good with it so far. I started today by taking a shower and shaving my legs while saying exposure statements and it went well but now I’m trying to just have it around me while I work or in the general vicinity or whatever just to get some exposure on that front but how do I confront thoughts like “you don’t wanna live, we all die in the end, you don’t actually care about anything and none of it matters” This part has been probably the worst part and the physical sensation of “wanting” to do it has been really hard to deal with. For exposures for this would I just either say maybe maybe not/agree or what? Also how long generally does it take to get desensitized to a trigger? | OCD |
I went to Foresight months ago because my therapist helped diagnose me with ADHD but wasn't able to prescribe. I told them that I wasn't able to function at work because of it and wanted to pursue treatment including medication. The NP said I couldn't get stimulants because I didn't have a formal diagnosis, but that Foresight would not allow me to sign up for testing because I reported high anxiety. She told me that I needed to start reporting lower anxiety numbers on their assessment forms, so I did.
At the same time, I'm told that I have to get PTSD treatment first before they can help me with any ADHD stuff I came there for. In the course of that treatment they realize my PTSD is much worse than they thought, and we switched to just practicing self-care/soothing techniques that I would need. The week that we started PTSD treatment my work symptoms got significantly worse and I was unable to function (I have a stressful/technical/intellectual job). There are other things causing issues that I don't need to cover here, suffice to say I was overwhelmed. Realizing that I couldn't work and that my therapy was going to take an unknowable amount of time, I asked them to help me with short term disability paperwork while I did the intensive therapy that they told me I needed first.
The NP refused to help me with STD papers. They said Foresight has specific guidelines and that I could not determine that I needed disability. I asked for another NP because I didn't think the first believed me. The second also refused, and actually called me a liar within the first 5 minutes of our first session (!).
I'm exhausted and disheartened. This has been worse than doing nothing. Please friends, beware:
Foresight Mental health is bad for people with ADHD, please be careful and avoid them! | ADHD |
Are there any aspies that worked at retail? I just learned and got diagnosed with autism level 1 about a month ago. Last year around this time I went through panic episodes that caused my psychiatrist to prescribe me medication for it. I have been working retail for about 4 years now. I noticed I get way more anxiety during the holiday season especially when the store gets really packed. Does anyone have any tips for me to go through this holiday season? | aspergers |
Okay, so this morning, my dad decided to talk to me about pension. I understand that's it's really important, but I just started my new job and they have a rule that you can sign up for benefits after 3 months of employment, which I'm aware of.
I don't really talk to my family that much so I didn't really explain anything to him and I just said "okay, I'll ask about it and sign up." Sounds like the end of the convo, right? NOPE!!
Then he goes on this long rant about the benefits of pension and how he didn't know about pension, then he found out and signed up and how the same thing happened to my mom. And now they have a lot more money saved up like okay?? Then he went on facebook and found some video about pension and made me watch it. Like I already said I'll sign up, damn 🤣🤣
I really don't understand why people do this.
EDIT: I know and understand where a lot of you are coming from. It's true that it's just his way of showing he cares.
Also this was just one scenario to show what I meant by the title lol it can apply to many things | aspergers |
Like, what *do* women in their early 20’s like? The bachelor? Tik tok? I genuinely have no idea
EDIT: okay obviously I know not everyone has the same interests but I can guarantee a very small portion of women my age actively play pokemon and are trying to complete the national pokédex | aspergers |
tl;dr: meetings disrupt my ability to focus on work and it's having a negative impact on both my professional life and on my self-esteem.
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I work remotely. I love my job, I love my teammates. I love what I do. Working remotely can be a nightmare for some of us folks but it is (usually) heaven for me. I can work at my own pace, so if I get distracted at any point in the day I can make it up in the evening. I'm not around any work place distractions, I'm not overstimulated by unfamiliar environments or the unknowns of a commute.
My only real struggle? Meetings.
My colleagues know I struggle with meetings. I've explained to them that, when a normal person loses an hour of time to an hour long meeting, I lose 2 hours because it's very hard for me to get back into the flow of my tasks.
Recently a new thing was introduced by my team lead where we attend a twice-weekly virtual 'office day.' We stream together for a couple of hours while working, listening to music, and (optionally) sharing our screens. These sessions run about two hours and it is mandatory to attend. I am *baffled* by this decision. It feels excessive?
So I have to navigate to a site that is not our normal meeting software. I have to load in the room code, pick a username, set up my camera, set up my mic, and then unmute myself when I get into the virtual hangout room. Anyone with ADHD knows that having to take all those steps can be a motivation killer on its own.
Then once I'm in... I'm stuck. I can't write anything (part of my job) because of the conversations being held in this virtual hang out, and I lose half my screen to everyone sharing theirs. I can't mute them because they talk to me (I'm an interesting person, lol) and I can't find a way to silence the music option. I can mute myself to keep my keyboard noises from bothering people, but no one else mutes their mics when they're eating, or talking to their spouses, or anything.
It's worse than when I'm in an office setting because all the sound comes at you at once, without the benefit of distance/volume to help my brain cope with what is and isn't important. Everyone sounds like they are right in front of me, burping, eating, talking, typing, breathing.
And it's so *emotionally draining*, too. Having to be on, having to keep myself in check, having to be social without being weird -- by the time the meeting is done, I have no spoons left for the day! I am a zombie! Then I'm up all night feeling guilty for not getting any work done during or after the meeting!
The thing is... everyone else on the team says they love the hang outs. I feel like if I voice my experience, I'll be seen as a spoilsport. I'm already the weird one on the team, and I want to be flexible like everyone else, but these things make me feel terrible. Like a bad teammate, a bad worker, all of it.
I have the inattentive kind of ADHD (I think -- I never really got clarification on that, but that seems in line with my struggle) and I've never had to deal with something like this before, so I'm lacking in the tools necessary to navigate situations like this. Normally I deal with time loss due to distractions, which I can manage about 80 percent of the time thanks to practice and strategies. but this is a whole other struggle and I don't know how to strategize for it.
Anyone else have a similar situation? Maybe you have some techniques to navigate around stuff like this? | ADHD |
I’ve been in therapy for about 5 weeks. When I started, I had been on Prozac for about 4 weeks (29F...first time taking medication since I was 21). Anyway, I switched to Effexor because I started having suicidal thoughts on Prozac. The only thing I miss about Prozac is the energy it gave me. Fast forward to today...I have been very positive lately but today, my work environment has me down and stressed. In the last two weeks, I’ve went to HR 3 times to report 2 hostile work environment situations and one sexual harassment case. I’m also currently being overworked as I’m considered an “essential” employee and other associates haven’t been showing up to work because there’s a very lenient attendance policy in place. It just makes me angry that people are so insensitive. I look at most of my coworkers and see selfishness and downright evil. I thought I was getting better about trusting others after starting Effexor, but today, I feel like I did before any of the medication...hating the world. Wanting to isolate myself away from people. Reddit is my only form of social media and I don’t have friends in this city. I talk to my parents often and live with my boyfriend...all have been incredibly supportive. I just WISH more than anything that I could have a job where my PTSD isn’t constantly triggered...I left my previous restaurant/retail employer because I couldn’t take it anymore.
Sorry everyone, I just really needed to get my thoughts down/rant. Thank you to anyone who reads this post. | ptsd |
When talking about medication, this is a catch-all for amphetamine or amphetamine like compounds.
- Do you agree with medication for ADHD in children
- What ages do you consider to medicate to be ok
- What ages do you consider to medicate isn't ok
- What variables do you consider in medication of children
I'm in the UK and from what I understand we don't medicate children as frequently as the US (my wife is a seppo and I'm moving there so I've some anecdotal evidence).
I was diagnosed in my 40s for ADHD-C & ASD, and I feel that my barriers and issues in my school years was offset by my having to create mechanisms, which gave me good value.
Medication changed my life, so I see the benefits, however I'm curious about medication attitudes for children, especially during brain maturity years. | ADHD |
(People outside the US may not get the context)
So, I took the SAT and got 750 on maths and 430 on reading&writing. I like math so I just like studying it but as soon as I start reading a passage by brain goes on a fucking roadtrip. What do I do? I did everything (close my door, turn my phone off, no other distractions, no other works. Only thing I could do was read) but it just won’t work. | ADHD |
So I’d say just over 5 months ago I was “diagnosed” with aspergers l, my psychiatrist didn’t say ASD or autism she just told me aspergers, now fast forward to my follow up phone call with her which was roughly 5 weeks after the original diagnosis and whilst my mum was there when I was having my phone call she asked “who diagnosed you with aspergers” so I obviously replied with “yourself” and she replied back with “I don’t have the experience to diagnose aspergers, I only specialise in anxiety and depression” now bare in mind the first time I saw her I came away with a diagnosis for borderline personality disorder? Now I’m in such a situation as I thought I had all the questions I had to ask answered but now I don’t know wether I am autistic or not? What would my next step be? | aspergers |
31F here. Well, I still have Christmas but I’m sure I’ll also be spending that day by myself. I have no family close by, no SO, and no friends. I live alone so I don’t even have roommates around to talk to. I’ve tried very hard to change my situation. I tried dating apps, going to meetups, asking coworkers to hang out… the list goes on. Maybe some of us are just meant to be alone in this world. | depression |
Im curious what if my worst fears do come true and the things i am doing know to stop them are not Ocd. | OCD |
I have realized time and time again that almost everything I do, the way I do it, the things I don't do is to do with ADHD. If I didn't have ADHD would I be a whole other person? Why does it feel like my personality traits stem from ADHD ? Are the hobbies I HAD only due to my ADHD? Almost every information I read regarding symptoms for ADHD are negative, some even mention reckless actions. I keep thinking would I be a better more successful and a more accomplished person without ADHD? | ADHD |
Hi all!
i have a friend, who suffers with OCD and I really want to help her to the best that I can, and with saying that I want to reassure her but the way I reassure people comes off as repetitive, is there anything that I can say to her and tell her that may reassure her of her intrusive thoughts? I really do want to help her but I just feel really stuck. | OCD |
Now while I have lots of friends on Reddit I talk to and really like I’ve always wanted a girlfriend in my personal life. Not for any “sexual” reasons because I’m not into that sort of thing but just someone close to me who I can relate to and get along with if we shared the same interests and other such wholesome things.
Let me be clear at what we define, "Wholesome." Hugging, kissing on the cheek, occasional headpats (Your Milage May Vary.) being hugged from behind, being asked to be headpatted. Being told we're nice, or that you appreciate what we do, or you appreciate us, or that you feel lucky that we're with you. It's not all that hard really. We appreciate these little cutesy things a lot more than people usually think. | aspergers |
I was diagnosed with ADD about 15 years ago and have been off and on meds since then. Have been on them all, but once I started on the extended release I just started not having great experiences.
The most recent medication I was on was vyvanse about a year ago and really hated it. I was up and down all day and stopped taking it. My symptoms have gotten so much worse over this past year along with chronic anxiety, overthinking, OCD, and everything else in the book. My doctor suggested I start taking ADHD medication again since anxiety medication is not working and prescribed me 10 mg of instant release. I don’t know why but I feel so overwhelmed and scared to take it, Once again overthinking it and thinking of any bad side effects I could have even though it worked wonders for me years ago. I just keep thinking it’s not going to work and it’s gonna make my heart feel like it’s beating out of my chest etc. any help in this or anyone else get anxiety from medication? I feel so dumb.
Edit: anxiety about taking medication not anxiety from medication | ADHD |
Ok so I’ve been on adderall since August 2020. I started with 10mg twice a day, then 20mg twice a day, then 30 mg in the morning and 20 mg afternoon, then my brain couldn’t stand the confusion so back to 20 mg twice a day.
Last august I was entirely focused on my school work. I’m in my 3rd year of college and it was the first time I’ve ever made honors in my life. Basically I failed my 1st year of college due to lack of attention then took another year then now.
Ever since last semester started I could care less about doing my work. I ended up failing a class. This semester I started out good but now I’m not focused again. I could care less again. I’m just always so fatigue. Or hyperfocused on the wrong things. Or maybe dissociating? Idk.
I know I can do really good in school like wtf am I doing? Why can’t I stay motivated and focused? Why aren’t my meds working anymore?
Sometimes I go to do Grubhub and I just can’t do it. I just sit in my car instead and waste time. Wtf is wrong with me?
Also I’m currently on day 1 of no meds until Tuesday bc my pharmacy sucks ass. | ADHD |
I've tried over the past months to lay foundations for meaningful relationships. I was doing a little better and feeling optimistic. Now that's gone to the dogs again and I find myself bothering people with my negativity.
Part of my depression stems from the fact that I'm cripplingly lonely, but I can't ever relieve it, because people such as myself: unambitious, talentless losers with low self-esteem, aren't really that sought after. | depression |
rpg game : you need to complete quests before you can reach a boss | ptsd |
Hey guys! I have just purchased Needing to Know for Sure after seeing lots of recommendations on here. I suffer with ‘safety’ related OCD and have been officially diagnosed since January and have completed ERP and I’m currently medicated with Sertraline! Anyways just wanted to give a bit of a background. I’m going to be updating this thread as I read the book and give my opinion and if I think it’s helped me! Obviously everyone is different so take this with a grain of salt, I just thought it could be helpful and make others feel less alone | OCD |
Before you act horrible to me, I want to let you know that I am a 27-year-old male. I know maturity is about making rational choices, or actions that make sense. Sometimes, we make irrational choices (i.e. ones that don't make sense), but we have to learn from them. I can show you a long list of my "immature" deeds, but I don't want to make myself look like a fool. | depression |
so, i do not have adhd (not diagnosed anyway) but i can strongly relate to a lot of the symptoms. the one that’s bothering me the most today is hyperfixation.
i have been speaking to someone for 4 weeks and got along really well, hyperfixating on them to an unhealthy obsession, now we’ve stopped speaking and it’s like there is the biggest cloud of sadness over my head. i just can’t get rid of it and it’s ruining my day and making me feel like shit. i can’t go through another stage of getting to know someone because i cannot keep feeling like this.
and then what, he texts me and then all these sad feelings go away? i feel like that is so unhealthy and i can’t rely on someone for how happy/sad i feel about the day.
i suppose im writing this because there must be others that go through the same feelings and it’s nice to hear im not alone. | ADHD |
It's something I've noticed over the past year ever since a traumatic event happened to me. I'll speak and it's like the words get mixed up or I'll stutter. I was talking to this worker at hot topic and looking at the jewelry they had in stock and I told her I liked the furniture they had when I meant jewelry. Other times I'll say something and the people around me swear they heard me say something else and it's happening often enough I'm starting to question myself. I think it's a mixture of fight or flight and gaslighting myself for years to where I don't feel confident in what I'm saying and I'm so scared to even speak my brain just pushes out whatever it can. How can I overcome this? Anyone relate? 😥 | ptsd |
In my opinion venting and talking about what’s going on as soon as you can I very helpful. Especially when someone listens to you! Let’s talk if you feel that way. If you feel like there’s no one out there and you’re just talking to yourself. | ptsd |
How many times have you been sinking into a difficult situation, grasping at everything around you trying to find something to give you the tiniest bit of support so you can lift your self up and out....
Only to be met with what amounts to sand pouring between the space between your fingers?
It's a desperate struggle, hopeless situation.
**What you need to do is surrender, turn off.** | aspergers |
Who does cbt ? Psychiatrist or a therapist ? I am confused. | OCD |
Hi so I was going through some old pictures and then I remembered a bad event that happened to me which I forgot about until now and I’m having trouble coping with that memory.
Any tips? | ptsd |
I get bad anxiety over things most people with anxiety disorder don’t experience but also don’t have the same issues those with anxiety disorders do have. One of them is being extremely anxious about change. I live my life in 4 year blocks it seems and after two years I seem to burnout then recover only to burnout again in another 2 years. Ive been at my current job now for 4.5 years and I’ve accepted a new job offer but I’ve been freaking out about the change for a month now. I started a new antidepressant (on two currently and I’ve tried them all pretty much) but it doesn’t seem to be making a difference. I am so high functioning that I have to work even though it’s absolutely terrible for my mental health. How can I get myself to relax and just go with the flow? Ive been through this enough in life that I know my new coworkers won’t understand me and won’t like me at first until they see what I can do. I’m also stressing out because I have no clue what my day and schedule will be like. Where do I change? Do the bathrooms stink? Where do I eat my lunch? Please help. I’m also struggling with how to break the news to my current job because they’re going to be very angry with me. | aspergers |
I was really isolated growing up, homeschool from 4th grade until I got my GED at 16. I had maybe 1 friend I would see every 3 to 6 months. I was so lonely. I find myself reverting to that lovely kid too much, just wanting to stay home and do nothing, fear of people, anxiety. I've done a lot of work and I feel ok around people mostly now, but I revert to just wanting to be in a small closed space. It's pathetic. Habitual. I don't even realize how fucked up it is until moments of lucidity she me how messed up it is. The way I interface with the world is so damaged....I just don't know how to fix it or move forward. In ready to, but I don't know how. | ptsd |
Recently got diagnosed with ADHD and my doc prescribed me methylphenidate oms er. It says to take it in the morning. However, I start a night shift job soon. 7pm to 6am. Is it okay to take this in the evening before I go to work?
I know I should ask my doc but i forgot to mention the new job. I figured I'd ask here before calling. | ADHD |
My therapist thinks my panic disorder could be ptsd but i have no idea how i would bring it up to be psychiatrist. I grew up in a very toxic home life as a child (constant fighting between parents and it would escalate to glass being thrown stuff like that.) and almost completely blocked it out, i ticked off almost all the symptoms. My mom and dad are divorced and i live with my mom but she’s emotionally abusive to me too but I can’t really do anything about it. How do u guys suggest brining it up to my therapist?
The symptoms I experience are panic attacks when someone yells at me and fear of any type of confrontation even so much as someone changing their tone of voice, nightmares where i scream in my sleep, memories that occasionally pop up in my head, i also have very bad self confidence and often blame myself for other people’s problems and I don’t like being left alone but it’s hard to describe cause i really can’t remember what happened like you know how people when they get drunk they say they remember only a few things, i feel like that was my entirety of my childhood.
Do any of you guys who’ve been diagnosed relate? | ptsd |
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