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Due to very unfortunate circumstances(a very long and depressing story) I found myself in prison during the fall of 2018. While I was locked up, I was forced by my environment to frequently be very violent and aggressive, and often had to do things I’m not proud of. As of now, I’m currently studying at a university (ironically enough, psychology with intent of going to law school). I tend to have issues dealing with my anger. In December of 2018 I was formally diagnosed with PTSD, but I figured if I just tried to act normal, it’d go away. Surprise, that didn’t work. Does anyone have any healthy coping techniques for dealing with anger?
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so when I was a teenager I was assaulted by an orthodontist, he gripped my chest multiple times on several visits and my mother refused to believe me, she would later say “it’s not that I didn’t believe you, I just didn’t want you to be put through all the legal stuff or pay for it”. I do still resent my mother a bit but I never stopped loving her. my dad was out of the county at the time these things happened for work. when he got home I told him and he reported it and I also tidy my therapist and she reported it too. I had an interview with a social worker and a detective. they would end up talking to me and telling me by the way the doctor acted while talking with them, they know he did it to me. unfortunately because of time laws he could not be charged and despite the reports he go away with it. to this day I cannot trust any doctor make or female. I have also had other bad experiences with doctors who have mishandled my migraines on several occasions. the only people in the medical field I will see are my nurse practitioner for my migraines (she perceived my antidepressants and birth control as well) and I will go to urgent care places or hospital if I fall ill. I could not stand going in a doctors office. It scares me and I have nightmares about it and and hat could happen. I do see a therapist for it and she has been wonderful and understanding. I refuse to ever see a gyn or have a doctor touch me in any private areas, I will never let that happen and plus research shows that those exams are unnned 95%+ of the time, it would be too much for me no matter who I had with me or who was doing it, I could never handle it and it would make things so much worse for me. People hate my decisions, but they do not understand what I want through and what I am still trying to deal with. I have nightmares of seeing any type of doctor at a doctors office. I do talk to my therapist about this and she said that my Heath is important but she even agreed that for me too see a doctor it would make things worst and cause me even more trauma even if it were to go okay. Lately I have been having nightmares about what happened and what could happen with a doctor. I also cannot stop thinking about it at times. My therapist does give me coping skills but they don’t always work for me. I have also been crying a lot lately when I think of these things even when I try to distract myself. I am crying as I type this. All these things make me feel awful, I sometimes struggle with thoughts of hurting myself. (The antidepressants have been helping with that to an extent that is pretty good. My ptsd really effects me and I know other people have the struggles of ptsd too and it makes me so sad how people have to deal with it. I want to stop feeling guilt, shame and sadness. Any advice? Thank you all and I am sending love to everyone!
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I talked to people about it, like friends and my mum, but they can’t see it from a person with OCD’s perspective, but I genuinely feel like I am being intuitive and they are being naïve concerning my cautiousness now and anxieties. This is like one of the worst things that could happen to someone like me. All I’m thinking about is ‘what if they see me again?’ Etc.
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Im now so embaressed and ashamed and i honestly dont even know what to say this is someone ive talked with on and off my whole life and saw them first time again in 2 years
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I’m a 16M and for as long as I can remember, I’ve found this happening.
For example, if I’m tying my shoelaces and my fingers slip and I have to start again, I start feeling a sort of tension building. And it keeps building until I’ve successfully done that thing. Then it gradually goes away.
A better example is if I’m trying to click on something small with my mouse and miss it, or am trying to drag something around on my PC with my mouse and miss/make a mistake, it happens.
Or when I miss-type something like I’m typing in a hurry but my fingers are skipping keys etc.
I don’t really know how to describe the tense feeling, it just feels like pressure is building in me and I don’t know how to get rid of it. The pressure is everywhere, in my hands, head, chest, legs, etc. Sort of frustration but also not.
I also don’t really know how to explain the situations that cause it. Sort of like situations where I make an easy mistake on something easy. But I don’t find it on a mistake in (for example) mental maths, or things like that. It’s only easy things I’m trying to do with my body, that I can’t do for some reason, that I should be able to do. I’m sorry I really don’t know how to explain it.
Does anyone else have this? Can anyone explain it to me?
Thanks
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So, my friend (AS) left me on read last night. He's never done that, so I knew something wasn't right. This morning, he didn't reply again. (starts to worry) So, I asked him if I was bothering him. No reply. (freaking out a little) A few hours later I texted if he wanted to take a break he could just tell me, and that I would not be offended, to what he replied "That would be nice". (Heart breaks) I asked him why couldn't he just tell me that, without me asking him. (disappointed) He said, he didn't want to make me feel bad. (some relief) I said I appreciated that. I asked if there was a reason for this. He said he is now dating the guy he was interested in, but also because he didn't "enjoy interacting" with me lately. I said I was happy for him that he's dating! But I don't understand why didn't enjoy hanging out with me. (confused) We've been hanging out for months, all very chill, and even hung out a few days ago and everything seemed fine, but apparently it wasn't. So, I am just crushed! I told him I wouldn't text him anymore (out of respect for his new relationship), but asked if he could at least say 'hi' once in a while. He said, "yeah", but I'm not getting my hopes up.
I'm trying to understand him, but I don't know what he expects from me, if anything. Does he want me to wait for him until he feels we can be friends again? He never asked me to hang out, he never texted me first, I was the one who was always asking/texting him. Despite of that, I really genuinely like him, more than any other friend, in fact. I can't stop thinking about what I could have done wrong?
Am I just boring, or annoying, or what? We always talked about his interests, we watched things together, I shared everything with him, I just wanted him to be happy, what else could I have done to be a better friend? Am I missing something?? Should I just give up on him?
Any advice, insight, comments, suggestions would be much appreciated.
Thank you!
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TL;DR: I am getting extremely startled from basic things that wind up sending me into a panic attack. How do you deal with startling/jumpy feelings?
I’ve been struggling with PTSD from my main trauma for 5 months now and I am really struggling with getting startled. I was at work the other day and my coworker called my name, which caused me to physically jump, begin shaking, and make my heart feel like it was going to pound out of my chest. I had to excuse myself to rock back and forth for 10 minutes in our break room just because I didn’t expect someone to call my name. This has been happening frequently with basic things and it’s really interfering with my daily life. My therapist said this is common and hopefully it will go away with time, but I don’t want to sit and hope they go away. How do you deal with startling/jumpy feelings? Have yours improved over time?
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This came up tonight because I (24F) an turning 25 soon. My mom was sad because for her 25th birthday, her parents got her a pearl necklace that she still wears. (Not often, but when events call for it.). She’s sad because she doesn’t think she could or should get me something like that because I don’t often wear jewelry.
I just find that necklaces start giving me headaches after a few hours. Bracelets are annoying and in the way on my wrists when writing. Rings also get in the way with using my hands. And I don’t have my ears pierced nor do I want to get them pierced. I think maybe a circlet or some other light hair accessory might be worn more often, but I also get bothered by the combs or Bobby pins. And anklets are a summer thing.
Does anyone else feel so much discomfort wearing jewelry?
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I'll try to keep this short, but I wanted to share my experiences for anyone who's on a similar journey as me, and who can benefit from my experiences.
Like most of us who are diagnosed in adult life (I'm currently in my mid-30s), I have a *loooong* history with my ADHD, dating back to obvious hallmarks when I was a child. I've suspected that I suffered from some form of attention disorder since I was a teenager, but due to a combination of:
* Growing up poor and not having access to proper medical care as a result,
* Not wanting a medical diagnosis on my medical record affecting my insurance premiums *(this isn't as much of a concern in the USA anymore),*
* And being intimidated by the idea of taking amphetamines.
I never sought medical intervention.
When I had decent health insurance for the first time in my life in my mid-20s, I finally saw a doctor to get diagnosed. Due to expressing my aversion to taking amphetamines, that doctor recommended Nuvigil (armodafinil), which is most frequently used as an anti-narcoleptic.
I only ended up taking it occasionally because, for me personally, it wasn't *super* effective (although I recognize everyone's journey is different, and many people see tremendous benefits from Nuvigil).
I've spent years creating systems so that professional matters don't fall through the cracks, practicing mindfulness (meditation), etc. to manage my ADHD holistically, and I've grown a lot over the years because of it.
Despite that growth, however, I still only felt *somewhat* *functional*, and very far from my "full potential".
About three months ago, a friend staying with us who's also been diagnosed shared some of his experiences with Adderall XR. I've been on the fence ever since, but finally set an appointment with my doctor last week and was prescribed Adderall XR (20mg) yesterday.
Today was my first day taking it, and I feel the text messages that I sent to my wife best demonstrate my experiences:
>*"If you want a glimpse into my experience,* [*the comments of this post*](https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q8za8p/first_day_ever_on_adderall_xr/) *resonate strongly with what I'm experiencing right now vs. everyday life.*
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>*It’s like flipping on a switch that’s been off for years. When I was getting established as an entrepreneur, the extrinsic pressures of breaking free from a day job or needing to make enough money to get by were motivating.*
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>*Since achieving some level of financial predictability, these things have been a massive struggle for me due to the lack of extrinsic motivation. \[On Adderrall XR\] I basically feel like I’m in “flow state” continuously, rather than being at the mercy of novelty or pressure from deadlines.*
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>*Imagine every task you contemplate undertaking filling you with dread. Every. single. thing. Unless it’s captivatingly novel (hence my "Shiny Object" struggles over the years), thinking about doing it is worse than dull — it’s* ***DREADFUL***.
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>*Then you take a pill, and suddenly everything you once dreaded feels not only doable, but mildly interesting. You want to knock everything on your list out, and anything that comes up along the way isn't another weight pulling you deeper below the ocean's surface, but feels like you have plenty of time to accomplish that task, and anything else that comes your way.*
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>*Instead of the world constantly closing in on you, it's now expanding. There's not only room for everything, but genuine interest."*
My wife replied:
>*"Wow. I can feel the weight lifting off of you just from these comments. I’m so genuinely happy for you. That thread made me emotional for you."*
Your journey will be different than mine, so I don't present my anecdotal case as though Adderrall XR is a "cure-all" that will work for everyone.
I personally gained a lot of insight/confidence from threads within this subreddit, and wanted to share my experiences for anyone on the fence, like I have been for more than a decade.
Nothing has been remotely as impactful as this first day on Adderrall XR, and although I suspect my journey is only beginning in many ways (e.g. fine-tuning dosage), this is a step I wish I'd taken much earlier in my life.
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**TL;DR** — If you're even ***somewhat*** confident that an attention disorder is negatively impacting your life, make an appointment with a medical professional to discuss your options, and if appropriate, be open to pharmaceutical intervention.
It could completely change your life.
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as my depression has gotten worse i fins i don’t have interest in doing anything, even being around people. is there any way i can work at becoming interested in hobbies again?
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I hate how my prescription is for 30 days. It’d be so much easier if it were exactly 4 weeks so that I could get it refilled on the same day and have somewhat of a routine.
It’s pretty annoying going on a Saturday one month and a Monday or Tuesday the next. It’d be so much easier to just go every Monday or something.
Does anyone do this or know if it’s possible?
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So I just went back to school and now my ocd has gotten worse because an obsession I’ve had that started in school a while ago has been triggered and it’s the need to know EVERY SINGLE bit of detail that I learn (most of time it goes off topic) Like I feel like I don’t really truly understand something if I don’t know EXACTLY every little bit about it. It gets so bad my teacher’s literally say not even uni professors know things in that much detail. I really want to stop because it’s making school so much worse than it should be. I don’t know what to do😭
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So I was sitting this morning thinking about the past and a memory surfaced of my mother having had used belts to strap me to a chair because I would keep getting up instead of doing my homework.
So my question is this. If your parents had methods to get you to do a given task, what were they and were they anything as odd as strapping you into a chair?
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I think the hardest part about living with ADHD is trying to figure out when to say "No", when to say "yes", and when to say, "Don't make any big life choices right now."
Recently I was feeling overwhelmed by the dozens of things I have going on and started making myself sick about what I was going to quit. What I needed as a good meal, a night's rest, and an introspective email to a friend and now I'm back to being OK with the rythmic chaos that is my life. LOL.
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Hello! Quick question to anyone taking Adderall XR. I’ve been taking the same dose consistently for about 2 years now at the same time each morning.
Typically it will metabolize for me and I start feeling the effects of it after about 50-60 minutes. For the past week, I have been taking it as usual, but it takes 3-4 hours before I feel it “kick in”. It’s still just as effective, just has a later onset.
Anyone else have this experience or any idea why it’s suddenly kicking in at a later time? Thanks in advance!
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When I was in the fourth grade or so, I was pulled out of class and lead to the office. I was introduced to a woman who was going to ask me a few questions. The questions were all very simple and plainly asked. She asked me to identify pictures on cards. Again very simple, red square, blue circle.
I am now 25 and that memory has always sat in the back of my head. My mother never mentioned anything about it to me but I can recall instances of my older siblings poking fun at me about "being ADD".
The other day I finally asked her what the school told her that day and she said I was diagnosed with ADHD. That's all she could remember. I was raised in an incinducive environment for academic success as a child. For example, I went to 9 elementary schools because we moved around so much. Because my mom suffers from bipolar depression, I couldn't mention anything about how that affected me because one of her triggers is the notion of one of her kids reviewing her parental style. Regardless of my reserved nature in this particular conversation she berated me for judging how she raised me. And I wasn't really able to process what I had kind of always known but had just found out.
I have, after a weekend of supplying myself with a healthy amount of space, digested everything. I'm actually in a good place right now and have decided to get my GED and go to college.
I'm just a little apprehensive around math because I can't always keep track of the direction the arithmetic is going and now thanks to the interwebs I realized that there's a large percentage of people with ADHD who also have discalculia. And I remember really struggling as a kid with numbers. Hell I still struggle to do simple math. It's humiliating.
Should I get reevaluated? And if anyone has information or experience with taking medications, be they stimulant or non-, please share what you think with me. What questions should I ask my doctor?
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So im 18, gay, male, and i have a question about a possible symptom or thought that pocd can use against me. Does pocd ever make you feel less attraction some days? Like towards anything?
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I apparently am wrong to be suffering from PTSD because my sexual-abuse as a child by an older child was "normal" because kids are curious by nature. I guess the nightmares I have every night are normal too.
I hate this fucking place and I should have just been killed instead.
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"Yes you've heard that right just concentrate and focus AD(H)D can't be THAT bad you just need some focus and you will be okay. We all some some ADHD in us haven't we ? Yes we sometimes aren't focused but after i drink my coffee I'm okay and can fully concentrate so stop faking for attention being so lazy and use it as an excuse to everything. "
Fun fact everything in this i had to hear even after i got diagnosed. And people will say that "it will go away" no it won't and they don't get it you don't tell a person with depression that he just should be happy right ? No of course not.
And they act like this is some childhood goof that you will grow out of once youre hitting puberty. Man it sucks i just wished my life would get back to normal when I used to be younger prior to me having it. But unfortunately that will never happen this will haunt me for the rest of my life.
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So I think I have existential OCD/Pure O. I cannot stop questioning absolutely everything to do with existence, which then leads me to compulsively google and get more freaked out.
I was hoping if I looked into things then I would be able to deal with my anxiety but of course this has not worked. I now find it extremely difficult to enjoy anything because of the damn questioning in my head
Kinda just want to move onto something else to obsess about pls 😭
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I'm recently at my wits end with my OCD, I take kalms sometimes and I think they work but I want to try something new that will possibly help eradicate my thoughts even for a while, a few years ago when CBD oil had just sort of started being popular here I tried that, but I hated the taste and often forgot to take it. Im thinking about trying it again or trying the gummys. Has anyone else used it for OCD before? and would they recommend it?
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Hey everyone, so as the title says I’m looking for some tips to make friends; but don’t really know where to start. I hate when people aren’t authentically themselves. For instance I had a conversation with a guy at the gym the other day who was the sweetest person I’d ever seen! Then watched as he turned around and presented an entirely different personality to other people. IN MY EXPERIENCE, people who aren’t comfortable being as close to authentic as they can be in a moment - will eventually end up being nasty towards me, who (as I’ve been informed many times) tends to be a little too authentic. I’d also like to find people who are genuinely kind but in order to find this out, I have to be vulnerable… Which not a big fan of doing. Anyways, I’ve kind of lost my train of thought and have zero idea where I was taking this lol. So any advice on making friends as a person who has ADHD (also ptsd and autism - do win an award for most letters? Cause I’d like one), would be greatly appreciated.
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Was recently diagnosed with ptsd due to being raped in my early twenties. One of the rapists just found out where I work and he keeps coming in and trying to upset me. I talked to my manager about it and she told me there is nothing she can do and that if the store owner finds out I’ll be fired. She made me feel so insignificant and like I don’t matter. Every time he comes in a get sick to my stomach, I start shaking, my heart starts beating really fast and hard, and I get really cold but his money is more important that the way he makes me feel apparently.
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Guys my anxiety and depression have gotten so bad that the demons are just non stop my job doesnt help and ive been talking to a counselor but i need more than jus counseling i need medication but i cant get that until my health insurance comes through not to mention i hate my job it makes things worse. However my mom doesnt want me to quit until i find something else but she said your gonna do what your gonna do (i am 26). Its jus never ending 😭 idk what to do
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Nothing too triggering I think. I’m not too sure.
Bit of background: my dad was abusive to my siblings and I and after he left they diagnosed me with possible ptsd (I was 6 at this diagnoses so it was hard for them to know) and more recently (last three years, I’m 16 now)they have come to the conclusion that I have ptsd and severe social anxiety but I am not on medications because my mom is against modern medicine.
Anyways, I’ve been getting really weird/scary thoughts lately. For example, I’ll be thinking about myself back in grade five and I’ll just be overcome with the worst feeling of dread and I’ll feel so guilty. I sometimes vomit.
Afterwards I’ll be in a bad mood and I’ll become rude and mean to people around me. I’m just really confused what this is. Is this normal?
I’m not able to afford therapy lately because it’s gotten to be too much money for my mom and I, even if we split the bill. So I don’t really have anybody to talk to that isn’t family. So any and all help is appreciated.
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Do you struggle to remember how your thoughts even operated before you had OCD?
I developed contamination OCD as a teenager, in my childhood I didn't have any problem with all the things that plague me now.
I would buy a magazine in a shop and read it in bed.
I wouldn't worry about the fact that it had been on the shelf.
Other people could have picked it up to look at it, then put it back.
Those people would have been touching all sorts of other things.
The cashier would have touched it, as well as the purchases of everyone else, who would have been touching other things.
I just went home.
Happy with my magazine.
And read it in my bed.
In bed sheets that felt fresh and clean and cosy.
Even though I hadn't agonised about their washing.
That they had been washed alongside my family's laundry.
I lived like this for so many years, and was never in agony about it.
I've been really triggered this evening. Maybe if I focus on this it will help.
It is helping a bit. My brain doesn't feel on fire as much.
But I have to live on top of the triggers, I have to live with my family. Every little sound they make is like a screw being drilled into my brain.
I wish I could reset to not having a mind that was so broken.
You would think that would be so easy.
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Hi all.
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So after a long 1year wait (m27) I've only just had my first Initial screening and they've forwarded me for a full diagnose assessment... In 12 months time minimum. I cant physically wait any longer as I'm suffering so much. I feel like im waiting my life away waiting when I could be making these years count. I know this is not recommended at all and don't advise anyone else to do the same, but I'm going to take matter into my own hand and look into getting some stimulants from unofficial sources. I hate that it has to come for this but I cannot wait anymore without going crazy. I want to finally be able to make my life count for something.
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Now I’m terrified that my iphone is infected with malware of some sort, because I clicked on a weird youtube ad that took me to a suspicious website. It’s really stressing me out and I’m all paranoid. I know viruses aren’t possible on an iPhone, but I think other malware is. I’ve never jailbroken my phone so idk if I should be worried? God I sound stupid LMAO.
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I'm 14 year old boy and now I'm suffering from hocd,tocd and doing nofap.and I don't feel.like man I used to and now I'm having severe anxiety i don't know what to do , is this normal in ocd?
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My girlfriend has PTSD, I don’t really know how to help her. I know communication is the key here, but i don’t know what more should i do to help her make feel better. I talk to her 7-8 hours a day, It’s still not enough i assume. suggest me something.
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Do you know that feeling you have, when something devastating has happened, like maybe your parent just died. And you have the urge to do something to be proactive and start to deal with the immediate reality of the situation. So you get up and you think right, let's start googling shit about funerals. That seems like the first thing I should do, i have to get that sorted. You look for your phone, and it's not on your lap where you thought it was. So you shuffle around in your seat trying to find it, are you sitting on it? Nope. Is it on the side table to your left? You crawl across the couch and check, nope, damn. Okay your gonna have to get up. So you get up and start searching for this phone, in places that probably aren't super logical. Like rooms you haven't been in, or your car - did you even drive today?
You eventually find it, on the right side table next to the side of the couch you were sitting on. So you frustratingly pick it up, sigh and sit down, only to see you've got 4% battery left. Okay, let's find this fucking charger then I suppose. Your getting irritable, more than you usually would and mostly at yourself. Can't even keep your belongings together, is it really that hard?
Everything is starting to feel like an effort. It's unachievable, there's much to do and you havent started yet, your waisting time. Your patience is wearing thin, your mind feels tired and scrambled. You see a chocolate bar on the bench and sit down to eat it cause fuck, you just realised I haven't eaten all day. I had that burrit- no I didn't that was yesterday. Halfway through that you realise the blinds are still open and it's pitch dark outside with the lights on, you should close them as you want privacy. Put the half eaten chocolate bar down. Get up again, close the blinds, make sure you have your phone IN YOUR HAND before you sit down. Let yourself sink into the couch, sigh, press your screen and realise "fuck, I'm on 4%"
When I have important things I need to do, it feels so urgent. Like something devastating has happened, when it hasn't. And that i need to react immediately and in the quickest and most efficient way possible.
I tire quickly as desperation sets in and is draining my focus and energy. So I back track and I lose my bearings. Things that were on my lap suddenly aren't any more, and somehow ended up in a place I don't remember putting them. Everywhere I look pings a new urgent task in my mind, and they are all are equally as pressing. So I swap and change and move further and further away from achieving anything at all. I'm depleted yet somehow also frantic. I want to give up, but I can't.
I feel this way all the time, it feels embedded deep in my code. My dad died today and I felt the same, worse than usually obviously. Like, it's on a whole other level. Im not trying to minimize losing a parent or maximise my daily struggles. But I saw that disorganised chaos in everyone around me. I'm not that close to my family and I tend to never really share my true self with them fully. But today I saw myself in them. I saw it in there frantic decisions, frustrations and confusion. And somehow that made me feel more understood. I showed it to them, I didn't hide it as seeing them through my lenses made my chaos okay.
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I’ve been feeling lost trying to figure out if I’m on the right dose of my meds or not, partially because ADHD makes it hard to remember and keep track of how I’m feeling day to day and how that’s changed with different doses. So I thought it would be a good idea to try tracking my moods and symptoms, so I can get a more clear idea of what’s going on with me.
But I’ve been doing some research and I can’t for the life of me find a simple, free app that let’s me easily track SPECIFIC moods. I don’t want to rate my daily mood on a binary scale of bad to good. I want to track if I’m feeling especially irritable, anxious, lethargic, weepy, etc. Bonus points if it could help me track my sleep quality and productivity, too.
But I don’t want or need fancy analytics or suggestions or tacit judgments from an app, either.
Maybe I’m being too demanding but I just want something simple and flexible to give myself a non-judgmental overview of how I’m doing.
Does anyone know of or use any apps that fit what I’m looking for? Or do you have any other mood/symptom tracking strategies that work for you? I’d really appreciate some help with this. Thanks!
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I just went to urgent care because I thought I had MRSA. I had an ingrown hair. It’s so bad that the doctor there recognized me from last time I went… however, this post is marked as achievement because I didn’t freak out this time. I wasn’t crying, and I was calm. I thought that even if I have MRSA, it’s treatable. Buspar is helping so far I think in terms of limiting my physical anxiety reactions and some obsessive thoughts! Im only a few days in.
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Okay so I have an job interview tomorrow and I was trying to prep some answers to common questions so that my brain isn't completely blank during the interview.
I went back to the job posting to help me answer some of the questions, and I see that under "competencies" it says excel and billing processes, both of which I only have a limited exposure to from school.
Like I definitely will be able to pick them up quickly, but now I'm panicking because what if they ask me about it and I don't get the job. I'm just so sick of this whole process, and now this is stressing me out so I'm avoiding finishing the questions, and I also need an outfit tomorrow.
Basically, I'm spiraling. Does anyone have any tips to staying on task and not avoiding something because it's unpleasant and stressful? I need to do this and I really want this job 😭
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Has anyone had severe motion sickness from taking Strattera? I’ve literally just started taking the medication today and am unable to leave bed, I’ve thrown up three times, and I’m experiencing full body chills/sweating. Reading is incredibly painful, just like when I try to read in the car.
Has anyone experienced anything similar? Is this cause for concern or par for the course? I plan on calling my PCP tomorrow but for the time being I just want to make sure I’m not dying lol
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He doesn’t get it. I have PTSD from (in order) physical abuse, sexual abuse by two different girls before I left elementary school, emotional/psychological abuse (from a police officer I looked up to), a life threat (I hid under a bed), assault with a glass), a sexual assault (forced oral), and verbal abuse all by different people at different times of my life (diagnosed after the life threat and assault).
Anyway, one of my triggers is loud noise/yelling. He lets our kids yell and scream when he plays with them. If I ask him to turn volume down I’m being dramatic. Another trigger is letting my young step- daughter wear short shorts (I buy her appropriate ones, but her mom sends her with too small shorts) and she doesn’t sit appropriately on the couch. If I say anything I’m a bitch and I mistreat his daughter. I’m trying to protect her. I don’t know how I can get him to understand, or empathize! How else can I explain it? I can’t leave every time he plays around with them.
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I’m diagnosed with general anxiety and social anxiety disorder, but I believe I also have OCD (and autism but that’s a different thing lol). How do you know if what you’re experiencing is a part of OCD, a different anxiety disorder, or something else completely (like autism)? I can’t talk to a professional about this right now because I don’t see a therapist or a doctor I trust. (I’m a minor so I can’t do things myself without permission of my parents).
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I’ve had Depression most of my life. Seven attempts and two trips to the psych ward. I am also a vet, and suffer from severe sexual assault PTSD. The guys that did it are free, ruled not guilty. I had no other reason to live before the trial. I really wanted to get them behind bars. When that fell through, I lost hope again. The person that stuck with me through the entire thing is my best friend and, now, husband. This was a year ago. Ever since, I’ve been unstable. I can’t trust anyone, and my depression has hit its lowest. I do not want to attempt again (very painful) and I cannot legally access anything that could do it quickly (from past trips to ward). This has left me so much time to contemplate. At the end of the day, when I lie my head down, and thoughts of death are constant, the only thing that can ease the pain is my cat. Strange, but no person can help, not even my husband. Animals on the other hand, always manage to crawl under my skin. They are innocent and cannot understand why their owners are gone. When I look at my cat, I see the purity of her heart. It pains me to think I’d leave her. So, to this day, I say: when she dies, so do I.
Anyone else feel the same? Like your pet controls your fate?
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I think the main reason for this is that there are many supposedly common symptoms of autism that I don't exhibit. I know that it's a spectrum and there are some characteristics that I highly identify with, but I feel like I'm missing some of the big ones. Anyone else have a similar situation? What seemingly universal traits of autism are absent in you? How do you stop yourself from stressing over the possibility of misdiagnosis?
For me, the main ones are hand-eye coordination and eye contact. As for hand-eye coordination, i'm rather gifted in this area. I think it had something to do with my obsession with badminton as a kid. I usually go undefeated in games like ping-pong, be it in my family or in my old frat. But I hear from research and individual accounts that hand-eye coordination is often impaired in people with ASD.
As for the eyecontact, something strange is going on there for me, like how often I am thinking about it and my eyes do tend to wander when im the one speaking, but otherwise I think I make eye contact easily. Maybe even hold it a bit too long. While others on the spectrum have described it to me as extremely uncomfortable.
The list could go on and on, but you get what im trying to say here. Sorry if this topic has been done before, I'm just curious if anyone else has had these thoughts.
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each time i get caught in an intrusive thought i ask myself "who am i".
i repeat and contemplate the question in my head until it becomes evident that I'm not the one "thinking the thought" I'm actually the one listening to the thought, which is a huge difference. It shows there is a certain distance towards who i actually am and the anxious idea OCD wants me to worry about. hope this helps
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my boyfriend hasn’t been diagnosed with ptsd, but has specific triggers. these triggers cause nonstop anxiety that causes psychogenic seizures. he hasn’t had any way to see a psychiatrist and can’t until september 1. he’s been struggling badly with it (multiple daily episodes since march) and i don’t know how to help him. benzos aren’t helping him anymore. i don’t think he’s on the right meds but our family doctor doesn’t feel comfortable changing his meds. does anyone have any tips? i try to help him with cbt. the only thing that calms him down is if i hug him tightly and reset his nervous system. sometimes if it isn’t bad talking to him gets him out of it.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/transOCD/comments/o3f5r1/working_through_the_fear_that_im_not_trans/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
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My PTSD symptoms have greatly improved since. That constant FOMO and jealousy that builds looking at everyone’s holiday posts has dissolved away….it’s really helping me stay off my phone as much and be more present. (Reddit is my 2nd addiction but that’s for another day lol).
Just wanted to share in case anyone is considering cutting the FB cord!
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Hi, I’m usually anti medication when it comes to mental health problems but after my ocd becoming debilitating again and the doctor describing me Mirtazapine I am finally going to try medication to help me. Has anyone else else tried this medication? And if so how were your experiences?
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I wanna start off by saying that I'm a 14-year old afab.
I've felt horrible about this ever since it happened. It's been over a month, I think. I was scrolling through Tumblr, trying to find content of my favorite character from this one series. I scrolled down and found a comic. It was a doujinshi. For some fucking reason I looked at it and there was my favorite character, kissing another character and slowly putting his hands to the other guy's butt (they were both wearing clothes) and I got groinal responses from it. I was only looking at my favorite character, but still, I feel horrible about it. And I took a screenshot of it. I feel fucking horrible about it and I wish I never did that. I did it because I found it attractive. I wanna punch myself so bad because of it. I feel so disgusting and I regret it so much. I feel so bad about it. I also took a screenshot of it because I thought the way they drew his hair was nice and I could've used it as a reference because his canon hair is literally hard to draw for me. It was still so wrong of me. Suddenly it got more sexual. I felt uncomfortable so I stopped reading it. I didn't look at tge other guy, only my favorite character, but it's still really wrong. I didn't want to fetishize them, because I know it's wrong and I don't wanna treat gay men like they're some sort of objects for my own pleasure. It's awful. I deleted the screenshot(s?) the same day later after I noticed how wrong it is. I felt so bad I couldn't look at the characters the same for a little while and I had a hard time going to sleep.
I can't stop thinking about this and feeling guilty. I feel like a horrible person. I can't believe I did such a thing. I sometimes still get groinal responses when I think about the screenshot. I start checking down there. I seriously feel so guilty and wish I never did this. I feel like throwing up. If everyone found out, they would hate me, which is understandable.
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Just as the title says. To preface, I AM diagnosed with PTSD and do have a set of trauma experiences I can recall vividly and experience PTSD symptoms around, but I keep feeling this bugging feeling that something in my early childhood has been extremely traumatic and that I have yet to remember it/can’t remember it. I’ll get all the symptoms of being triggered at any mention of childhood or childhood trauma, even if it’s not even about me but just any random child, it’s like I can’t listen without feeling triggered by it even though I’m a 22 year old adult now. I also just have extreme anxiety and fear surrounding my childhood (will have outbursts of fear and crying hysterically about it) but I ironically have memory loss of a majority of my life before the age of 18, except for quick snippets at random intervals.
Has anyone experienced this? Does it come back to you eventually? Is it better forgotten? If it’s forgotten but the feeling is there, do I tell my therapist? He has been prompting me to recall and retell my traumas recently in trauma therapy, but how can I even do that if a big part (but not all) of my anxiety/nightmares/etc is because of something I can’t even remember?
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So my doctor thought I might have ADHD and referred me to a my local mental health and learning disability team, who are now thinking I may have aspergers.
I'm not asking for a diagnosis, like I said I'm accessing professional help.
I'm just a bit taken a back, I would never have thought aspergers before.
I actually enjoy people and never shut up, even about useless chit chat like if you were an alien what colour would you be or talking about the weather. I love the weather! I love people and helping them.
I feel like those things don't line up with aspergers. But maybe I'm uneducated and ignorant, so I'm asking if I'm wrong to think this please?
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I have ocd which is a huge influence on anxiety and depression. I have fluctuations of anxiety and depression and lately mine has swung low over actions that I took that could have gone terribly wrong, even though they didn’t.
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Really, how can I stop it it's driving me insane aaaaa
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Yet you still know what the full sentence would've been? Please tell me I'm not alone and that OCD can do this. I feel like I'm faking my OCD and purposely making up the thoughts.
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My son is 7 and his doctor just gave me his "Aspergers" diagnosis today. I don't plan on telling him until it becomes a problem, which I anticipate around middle school age when kids become more socially aware. Trying to figure out the best way to go about it. If you happened to have been in a similar situation, please let me know how your parents told you, whether it helped you, and how old you were.
Thank you!
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My intrusive thoughts are becoming deadly, and who knew they’d become deadlier than they already were. I’ve learned to navigate through the channels of OCD. But MY GOODNESS. I’m having panic attacks left and right because of these thoughts. No where to go except Reddit for maybe just a little bit of release.
I really hate this.
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So I started taking 50mg Vyvanse last semester, and did pretty well on it; sleep wasn’t the best, but motivation and productivity were (also the first 2-3 weeks I broke out, with cystic acne, which was very painful. I’m 35/female and never had acne). So then I took the summer off from school (graduated 2 year school, transferred to university), so during the summer I stayed off of Vyvanse, then started it back up in August. I started back on 50mg, broke out in acne again, was doing well with school then all of the sudden, I felt like I hit a brick wall! For about the past month now, I have been extremely exhausted, not motivated and procrastinating like not other. Dr. Bumped me up to 60mg a few weeks ago, but no change. What could have happened here? Any advice is greatly appreciated. ***Edit*** I forgot to mention I do also take Desvenlafaxine (the generic for Pristiq), for depression, but I have been for 3 years now, after losing my mom 4 years ago and my dad 2.5 years ago.
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So today I moved out of my parents house for the second time. The first time I moved out it was a bit more than a year ago. My GF (ex now) and I got an apartment together. We broke up, I moved back in with my parents after the lease ended. The breakup destroyed me. Everyday for 6 months the one thing that was on my mind was suicide. My dad proved to me numerous times that he didn’t care what I felt, same with my brother so that just made it worse. My mom cared, but she was busy working all the time so I don’t blame her for trying to help me. My dog was the only one that gave me unconditional love at the time, and it honestly really helped me start to feel a bit better. Eventually I decided that I would be better off moving out again. This time I moved out with my friend and his GF, 4 hours away from where I used to live. I just got done moving all my stuff in today, and I miss my dog so much I can’t even describe the feeling. He’s getting old, and I’m afraid that he might die while I’m away and it makes me so sad. I was really the only one that would actually care for him, take him on walks, pet him, make him feel loved. Now that I’m gone I’m afraid that he’s going to think I abandoned him, and that he won’t get the attention that he deserves. I feel like I’m nothing without my dog. My emotions are running so high right now, I really just feel extremely lonely, and honestly can’t stop thinking about killing myself. Forgot to mention I’m 21 M. Thanks for taking the time to let me vent
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Hi all. My PCP recently referred me to a psychiatrist to test me for ADHD. There were no psychiatrists, so I was sent to a psychiatric nurse practitioner. She asked me 5 questions, said that I “might” have ADHD, and prescribed me Ritalin. (I do think I have ADHD, but I kinda wish more thought had gone into that diagnosis). I have anxiety and depression as well and have been taking Wellbutrin and Propranolol for some time. The NP said I “probably” wouldn’t have any issues continuing to take them alongside Ritalin. I work out for about 1.5 hours everyday to help with hyperactivity. Well, I started taking Ritalin as the NP suggested (only 5 mg to start), and found that whenever I work out now, my heart starts to hurt really bad (kinda like someone is stabbing me). The NP said that side affects are common and that I should just work through them. She only works 2.5 days a week, so I can’t reach out to her outside of those 2.5 days. I’m going back to my PCP in two weeks and will ask her this question as well, but can Ritalin cause heart problems?
TLDR: Should I stop exercising on Ritalin (or stop taking Ritalin all together), or is heart pain really just an initial side affect that I should work through?
I trust my PCP so will definitely take her advice, but I’m trying to figure out if I should trust the NP in the interim.
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I remember being told by multiple teachers (mostly science teachers, its one of my special interests) to stop asking so many questions. It was even written in my termly report card. I still don't quite understand how I can ask too many questions, because I specifically remember most teachers saying on the first day of class "you can never ask too many questions".
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I’m 19 and I feel so immature, less experienced, and unaccomplished compared to most normal 19 year olds and people younger than me maybe like (16-18). I have still trouble making eye contact, changing the tone of my voice, making genuine convos. I also have meltdowns and have a hard time trying to get a driver licenses, job, and open a bank account for myself even tho i’m not in school right now.
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is there even a thing thats the grey are between these two illnesses?
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As the title says I am a Recluse, I suffer from Asperger's, Depression, and and have hid away for the last 10ish years of my life (currently 19 gonna be 20 in a few days) and i feel like i wasted my teen years. I don't have high self esteem to be honest and I've developed a ton of self hatred for my autism and the depression just adds on to it. I have no idea where to go from here and i don't feel like I can change at all, i feel like I'll be a neet forever. I've become so pessimistic and full of bitterness and i feel 30 when i'm 19. Just so tired and exhausted. I feel like Sisyphus, rolling a rock up a hill only to have it fall again. Video games, books, and music help some but never fully and I've been in therapy since 2019 but it's taking a long time. For a brief while i was doing well but then 2020 hit and well thing just have gotten worse and worse. Deep down i feel like part of me will always blame my autism for me not being normal and not fitting into society.
I hate my Autism, I hate Myself.
Sorry but I had to vent a lot, I'll go back to lurking and playing ffxiv i guess.
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I struggle with this for my entire life and just within the past year been able to put it into words, I feel like an open window in other words I feel as though people can read my thoughts (literally everything I’m thinking) so like for example, if someone is talking to me I feel like they aren’t looking at me but are reading my mind, i’m not like this with my family but besides the people I’m around all the time I’m like this in any social or public situation
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Does ADHD medication help and what does it help you with?
I don’t want to go to the doctor and get prescribed loads of stuff that might not actually help.
Does anyone’s meds help short term memory, daydreaming or ability to maintain eye contact or keep focus on 1 task not 5 sub tasks because these issues are becoming more prevalent in my life, and if so what are they called.
I also wanna know if it helps reduce sensitivity because I struggle to touch things like cotton wool without my blood going cold
Thanks
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So my entire life I've had problems with the cold weather. I just hate it so much, I can't understand how some people can love it. I just wanna throw them a bucket of ice cold water to take away that dumb idea off their heads. Whenever I'm cold, I don't move much, I make myself a ball and just wish it was over. I get up to teach in the mornings (I'm a teacher currently giving online classes) but after that I go back inside the blankets. The blankets are warm. The problem is I don't go out, I don't do my chores. All I care about is staying warm. A few years back I learned that part of the problem was me not using enought layers of cloth. I would put on a t-shirt and a sweater and that's it. I hate not being able to do anything for months. Just staying in bed hoping this stupid winter will soon be over. I hate not being able to move normally. I hate my fingers aching. Sometimes it makes me wanna scream!!!
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I’m on a zoom call. I can see my eyebrows. One is uneven. I want to fill it in. That means I need to clean my brushes. It feels like a physical itch. I NEED to go clean my brushes RIGHT NOW. I struggle so much convincing myself that no, work actually has to be done right now and the eyebrow is not important. Wtf?
I manage to distract myself for a second, then the thought is in my brain again. But I assure you, when I have time, it won’t cross my mind.
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This is just a bit of a rant that I need to get out, sorry. Was due to get my first prescription of titration today from P-UK between 16:17 and 18:17. Been ecstatic since noon when I got the text and was putting so much importance on this moment. Rushed home from work early just to cover all possibilities and been making sure I was able to get the door at any minute.
At 7pm I got a text saying a delivery was attempted but no one was in. The doorbell never went and there wasn’t a knock. I ran downstairs and onto the street and burst into tears. Feeling really depressed now, headache from crying too. I’d just been so excited for this all day. I know it’s stupid, because I’ve rearranged for Monday, but it was just so built up in my head that now I feel so struck by it. And I’m so angry at the person who didn’t bother to even come to the door.
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So I'm 37 and I was diagnosed 6 or 7 years ago. I see a prescriber and therapist regularly. Nobody ever told me this term. I found out by asking someone on this sub I think? Anyways, in researching examples of and symptoms of masking, I realized that this is how I live my entire life everyday. My number 1 task is appearing normal to NTs (I do a really BAD job anymore) so they are more comfortable, and it causes an unbelievable amount of stress for me that NTs just don't understand. They think I'm mad at them because of my face and my tone. Nobody ever believes me when I say I'm not mad. I forget where I was going with this.
Anyways, do I not have to do this? Like, I feel like the fucking sky would fall if I didn't. Everyone would be so upset with me all the time. Do I not have to look people in the eye and try and copy their tone? Do I not have to rehearse facial expressions and tones of voice out loud in theanymore?
Can I really not have to envision every social interaction for the day before I do it so I do it right and get SO UPSET when it doesn't go that way and nobody EVER understands or cares because it's so outside of their realm of thought. They're fine with times and places and people changing on a dime without warning. I don't. I'm not fine. It shakes me to my core. Like I get that's hard to believe, but it mentally jars me so hard I can't think and I just stammer and think "I can't make these faces. I can't use this tone, I'm not supposed to. This is wrong. Fix it."
This is like a game changer possibly. I mean people will be upset and think I'm weird, but that happens anyways. I don't want to scare anyone or place myself at risk of bodily harm or incarceration or death, but the whole masking burnout thing, I'm there. I've been there. For decades. How do I not LIVE there anymkre?
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I have been having ocd about religion for a long time now and I want to take a break from praying and asking for forgiveness and repeating myself over and over.
is it okey to take a break from religion?
also i said i was going to pray and ask for forgiveness but now i dont want too because its ocd. thoughts?
i ask for forgiveness and help to my believes
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im done i want it all to end . I dont want to be on this earth anymore its just pointless . The only person keeping me here is my girlfriend i love her so much but when im not with her im tired and sad and i cant be with her 24/7 i know i should shut the fuck up since i have it better than some people do but im just in so much pain if anyone is reading this im sorry for bothering you with my whinning
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I’ve had PTSD for quite a while now but yeaterday it got relly bad. I had my first night terror like experience. I won’t go into details but it combined the most traumatizing events of my life bu5 changed it up a bit. I had a couple of flashbacks as well and i felt as if life wasn’t even worth living. I am too afraid to seek help from a psychiatrist becuse every previous time i’ve told my parents about mental health problems they have sent me to an even more isolated school which has made me lose many friendships. I don’t know what to do anymore, i wish this was just all a nightmare amd i would wake up to a time before the trauma.
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My special interests are in history, historical linguistics, geopolitics, and comparative religion.
I have a BA in history and can speak 3 languages but I am unsure what to do with my life.
The only career idea that occurs to me is getting a PhD in history or international relations, but my former professors have all advised me that this is not such a good idea as the academic job market in the humanities has essentially collapsed since 2008, and is only getting worse.
I've tried teaching history in high school but I failed spectacularly - I could not deal with managing a classroom of rowdy teenagers and had a ton of meltdowns, after which I was fired from the job after only 5 months (after a bad public meltdown in class).
I've applied to tons of museum jobs, tutoring jobs, writing jobs, etc but have been rejected from all of them.
I am now 32 years old with no career and no way to financially support myself.
Does anyone have any advice?
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Hi so basically I’ve had OCD for nearly 1 year now I’m 15 years old and have been really struggling with many types of OCD such as HOCD. I’ve been seeing a therapist for some time now and it really doesn’t seem to be helping I’ve done everything she’s said and my OCD just keeps getting worse I’m really worried as I think I have low libido now and that terrifies me I’m 15 I shouldn’t have to deal with this. OCD has also caused me to have suicidal thoughts and I really am finding it hard to cope I joined this sub-reddit just to chat with people who are going through the same thing as me, I am not seeking reassurance I am just here cause I need someone to talk too.
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I'm gonna be getting arrested because I called someone out for mocking me, and being a bitch in general. Then she reported me to the school then the police. But fuck it, I don't even care anymore... if they want to fuck with me, they can suffer the consequences. So I sent more nasty messages to this bitch this morning, and I guarantee that right now, I'll either be expelled or the police will come and arrest me. Everyone around me seems to be supporting the side of evil, meanwhile telling me that "I'm not thinking straight" or "I need help".
This fucking society is a goddamn joke. "Depressed" people like me are fucking mocked and laughed at, like this will solve the fucking problem. Why the fuck don't you help me you fucking dipshits, instead of just making the world worse. Also fuck all of you baby boomers. AKA my parents generation (I'm 20, parents are in their 50s). You fucked over the goddamn world, and now my generation has to deal with your fucking bullshit. Hope your proud of yourselves cucks.
And people need to man up/woman up. People seem to think that people who struggle are weak. Motherfucker, if you were in any "depressed" person's shoes, you'd start crying like a little bitch. It's them who are weak, not us.
For people out there who are truly struggling, its time to fucking stand up for yourselves. If people keep being fucking cowards, this world is going straight to goddamn hell. I sure as shit am done taking shit from fuckers. I'll fucking fight these assholes till the end if I have to. Hopefully others will join me.
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Got no friends, most are mere acquaintances. Got no loving family, got no partners, it's just me and me alone. How do I cheer myself up?
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i constantly think my food or drink is laced with drugs when its not
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Has anyone else had their search history cleared without doing it manually? I noticed my boyfriends search history was completely wiped and out of curiosity I asked him why and he said he didn't do it but that doesn't make sense, I've never seen or heard of the search history just disappearing on its own. I know that this sub is against giving reassurance but if it's not something that other people have actually experienced I feel like I should be worried that he'd feel the need to lie about it? I haven't spoken to him since I asked him because I don't know what to say honestly. I feel like he's lying to me. I can't talk to him because I don't want to annoy him but I definitely feel like he's lying because I've never heard of this happening before and I can't get this anxious feeling out of my chest.
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HUGE trigger warning. My vent post discusses suicide and self harm. If this triggers you please don’t read this. It’s not my intention to trigger anyone or encourage anyone to harm themselves in any way. I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself if I caused that.
I’m 15 and usually that’s supposed to be the time where you are having fun and don’t have many problems like paying bills and shit. My mom tells me I’m too young to worry. But my ocd has ruined my life and made it a living hell and I genuinely do not want to be here anymore. I haven’t wanted to be here for around 2 years straight now. But the best part is I also have religious ocd/anxiety so the option of taking myself out is off the table due to the intense fear of hell/suicide being some unforgivable sin. If I knew that when you die you just stop existing I’d do it in a heartbeat. I just don’t want to exist. I remember going in for surgery and having to go under anesthesia and it was the best feeling every because it didn’t feel like sleeping I just disappeared off the face of the earth for a few hours. It was the best feeling of my life, not feeling, Not being here. This sucks. I feel like I’m trapped. It’s so damn frustrating to have no escape from this. Self harming doesn’t do shit, it doesn’t relieve shit or make any shit better like the media says it does. All it does is give you the annoyance of having to keep wounds clean and leave annoying scars that make you unable to wear short sleeves or shorts for the next 6 months because “my dog scratched the shit out of me” only works so many times. Everyone’s all “mental health matters” until someone actually has a mental illness. Because mental illness only matters when it’s the pretty romanticized version of mental illness. The moment you express the reality of mental illness, like the intrusive off thoughts and fears, or the “toxic” traits of your mental illness, suddenly you deserve a bullet to the head for even having thoughts that aren’t “normal”. Suddenly mental health no longer matters. I hate myself and I’m sick of hating myself. I’m sick of spending an entire day ruminating because of a memory of a tiny thing I may have done (or maybe not have done Cuz half of my memories are false memories). I’m tired of this but I have no way out because ocd has slipped into every aspect of my life and trapped me in it. I fucking hate this.
Sorry. Just needed to vent.
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I would think of myself as a great friend to have.. I wouldn’t do/say anything behind my friends back that I wouldn’t do/say in their face. I would consider myself to be “real” and loyal. Being fake is something that does not sit right with me. Having OCD I think my brain blows situations out of proportion.. My brain constantly forces me to do everything the way a perfect real friend would. Or I will feel guilty. It also gives me scenarios all the time making me think out how I would handle certain situations that would require me to be a real friend. Right now I am stuck in a scenario that I don’t know how I would handle.. which is bringing me guilt/anxiety. I feel like I can’t say I am a real friend or loyal anymore because of the scenario. I feel like it’s OCD bullying me.. but then again maybe I am not who I thought I was. Anyone else experiencing/experienced something like this?
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Christmas is coming soon and I just remembered how much I hate opening gifts in front of people. Even if I genuinely like the gift, it's hard for me to show it. I feel like not an intense reaction will upset the gift giver, so I always end up by faking emotions. Do you feel the same?
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does the wording or what the thoughts are saying matter? because there are certain thoughts i get stuck on because i feel they are very bad
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Is it autistic? I always craved living in a fascistic society, with order and servitude, so saying something official such as "Hail Emperor!" (or "Good day!" in this case) seemed natural to me. Whereas my peers used an informal "Hi!" which I always despised. I'm Russian, btw, and my family is liberal.
(I'm sorry if this sounds too political, now that is a sperg trait of me indeed.)
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**\*TL;DR at end of post.**
I think I have introduced myself on the women ADHD subs, but maybe not here? I'm 21 years old and I've been in college for four years now. I'm a graphic design major, and it has become my nightmare. Initially I chose graphic design because it felt like the best way to push my love of art into a career path that my parents would support. I had a few years of Photoshop experience under my belt going into this major so I figured it would be right up my ally; it is not.
When my junior year finished up last semester, I figured I should just stick it out. I really, really struggled in graphic design I, but a few things kept me in it:
* I had only been in one course that was entirely graphic design oriented.
* The prerequisites for the art program are extensive, and of course, unique to that department. I can only switch to an art teaching major or a studio major--otherwise I'll have to tack on like an extra two years of undergrad.
* My department head stepped down. So last semester I had a temporary, unusual advisor that had a difficult time guiding me.
* The graphic design program is small, but last spring they were in the process of hiring a new professor. I wanted to give them a chance to see if their teaching methods might make things click for me?
It was a huge mistake. I go to a four year institution in my hometown, and my dad manages a business here. Well, all of my dad's staff quit in early August. I worked for him all summer and told him this was likely to happen because I knew my coworkers attended universities in other cities. He was aware of this as well, but he just kind of let it happen and never hired any new employees.
I was pissed, but I've kind of just accepted my reality at this point. He pays for my college so I felt uncomfortable mentioning that his lack of staffing could be a real problem for me. Additionally, I'm kind of on my "last chance" for receiving college funding from him. Throughout my freshman and sophomore years (pre ADHD diagnosis) I failed like upwards of like six classes. A lot of money down the drain. I'm still working through how to stop feeling so guilty for this in therapy because it seriously injured my relationship with my dad. I have been a lot more successful academically since then.
\*\**sidenote:* I know I am really lucky that he cares enough to be disappointed and that he even began funding my education in the first place, but I feel like I owe him all my success. I know he wouldn't want me to feel this way, but I can't seem to find peace.
SO ANYWAY--me and two other coworkers were expected to just brave it out, taking on insane hours, until the weather turns so shit that the golf course will have to close for the season. Instead, my two coworkers (rightfully so) just told my dad, "Hey max I can work is two days a week during school". I told him I could be out there when he needed me. School hadn't started up yet and I felt optimistic and inclined.
I'm so silly for seriously continuing to believe I can juggle everything and more "*this time"*.
Then, during the first week of this Fall semester, my parents went on a week long vacation. Instead of boarding our family pets (two cats and a dog), they asked me to stay at my childhood home for the week and take care of them. It's only 5 minutes from campus-- so not a terrible gig, except I have two cats in addition to our family pets. One of them is only eight months old so he's already kind of a nightmare.
*I don't know why I'm going into this much detail, but it feels good to actually put this situation down and out somewhere so I feel less crazy and alone. I'm sorry for the length.*
So, during the first week of school:
* I have no clean laundry because I've been working so many hours in the last weeks of summer.
* I'm staying at my fucking childhood home with four cats (that are not well acquainted) and a dog.
* I forgot my ADHD meds on vacation like three weeks earlier, and am unable to get a refill.
* I have no groceries because my parents didn't think to stock the fridge.
* I'm in 15 credits and also working a \~25 hour work week.
Within the first month of classes I had to drop from 15 to 9 credits. The three classes I kept are studio courses, which require a total of 18 hours in class and a ton of homework. About a month ago my mom told me they were going out of town for four days, and asked for me to watch all the pets again.
In response: I lost my shit, made them feel horrible (unintentionally, of course), and now I'm only being scheduled \~10 hours on weekends. But it was already too late I guess?
Now, my semester is a complete dumpster fire that I can't seem to put out.
I'm never caught up on my schoolwork, and I was never taught even the most basic aspects of illustrator/indesign (we use these programs for every assignment). Every project I do takes an eternity, and my professor isn't having it.
I'm sure she has a poor impression of me because of the amount of class I missed initially due to work (3 classes). It's her first year here, and I was really excited to take graphic design with a new professor, so I have tried really hard to be really involved in class since my initial absences.
I have since sent her two emails being 100% transparent (regarding ADHD, work, etc) and she didn't respond to either of them. When I addressed it in class all she responded with was that she, "received them". I didn't know how to respond (I had hoped it was a miscommunication as English is her second language), so I just chalked it up to being unimportant.
I'm an entire project behind, and we are in the second half of this semester at this point. I sent her an email about potentially meeting to discuss how I could address/tackle my missing work outside of class, and she hasn't responded or acknowledged it in person.
At this point, I should mention that throughout this semester I have sent three inquiries asking to adjust my accommodations via Student Accessibility Services. Each inquiry received an automated response saying that "no members of SAS were available to meet during my requested time." After the third auto-response, I sent a really rude email titled "Please Meet With Me" and I basically alluded their service being mega shit--since they can't even get back to three separate, desperate inquiries.
I finally got a response that had no greeting (which I deserved I guess?) and simply said, "What times would work for you to meet?" Of course, because of my unkind email, I didn't want to meet any longer.
*Yesterday I come to find out that the entire SAS program has essentially dissolved this semester. The website has the header "Staff", but all the employee photos and names are no longer there. Turns out the staff received offers to work elsewhere, took them, and haven't been replaced. So right now I attend a university without a working accommodation program.*
Anyway, in the time that I'm reaching out to these university resources, I'm kind of falling apart at home. I haven't had groceries in two months, I'm regularly calling my mom sobbing asking for help that she can't really provide, I'm grasping at straws to try and catch up, and I'm still working every weekend.
*Thank god I was able to get into a therapist my doctor recommended, but she's booked out until late November.*
In the meantime, I get a phone call from my dad that he is resigning from his job of 26 years. Now, both my parents are unemployed, and I'm seriously doubting my ability to pass a single class this semester. I *know* I don't want to be a graphic design major anymore at this point, but I'm worried that I can't financially afford to switch majors because I can't even manage 10 hours of work right now.
My graphic design 2 professor hasn't given me any concrete feedback about my current position in her class despite my multiple inquiries, and I'm feeling incredibly hopeless lol. Everything really started to get to me so I skipped a few classes claiming "COVID symptoms" (excused) in attempt to try and grind out my missing work. No luck!
Finally, what ended up being my fucking breaking point is our most recent project in my graphic design class. Our latest project is to create three poster designs for a "social or environmental issue". They're supposed to be about something we are passionate about/can relate to.
Last Wednesday in class we pitched our ideas, and I went last. A classmate of mine was approved to do the impact of textiles/fast fashion in global warming, another was approved for Americanization, Black Lives Matter was approved, and so was animal testing.
My pitch was about how mental illness is underfunded and glanced over. Her response was, verbatim, "You need to revisit the project criteria and pick a social or environmental issue." I was the only one not approved for my topic, and it was embarrassing and confusing.
Now, I'm doing deforestation. I'm having difficulty getting started on my posters, and I'm not in class today again because I am seriously at a loss. Last night I decided to drop another course which puts me, now, at only 6 credits.
My boyfriend has been a huge support to me throughout this entire semester, but things haven't been "looking up" for months now. I feel stuck in an absolute rut. Whenever I get anxious/sad/quiet and he asks me "what's up?", I feel like I'm beating a freaking dead horse.
I just don't know how to approach the rest of this semester. I don't know how to approach the discrimination I *feel* like I have faced at this university (which also just feels like I'm being overdramatic). I don't have time to take care of myself because my workload is just constantly looming over me.
Every minute I spend not *thinking* about my outstanding and current assignments feels like a waste, let alone the time where I'm not doing my assignments. :(
I don't want to drop out completely because I'm not financially independent enough to pay my dad back or pursue a degree elsewhere. Even if I *was*, I feel like this is all my own fault for not being able to properly manage my time.
This semester has just hurt so damn bad because when I noticed was struggling I actually chose to reach out to every resource in my power, and nothing changed. I feel like maybe I'm just not cut out for higher education.
I already have a reputation for skipping classes in my department, and this semester has just been this horrible, enhanced version of the flake that I know that I am. This turned into such a fucking essay but I just feel very alone. Every foreseeable option feels so hopeless because I have been trying to receive help and just general feedback for nearly three months straight now.
I remember being so excited for this semester, this new opportunity, and this major. I'm not expecting any sort of concrete financial/career advice or suggestions. Hell, if you read this far, that means so much to me. If this just read as one long bitch, I'm really sorry, please just let me know so I can take it down.
If anyone can relate or even provide feedback on what I could've done to address these past three months in a way that might have prevented this current outcome--I appreciate it. Again, if you read all of this, I just want to thank you so much for your time, care, and interest regarding my situation.
\*\***TL;DR:** *hahahaha*
I am really struggling in school, and I can't catch up. I feel like I have exhausted my resources, and I can't get into my therapist for a little while. My parents are both unemployed, and I'm worried about my future as a student despite only having \~2 semesters left. I can't complete my course load, and I'm feeling like a failure. I committed early on to responsibilities that I couldn't manage, and now everything has piled up. It feels like just another day of being unfit for college/adult life in general, but I am feeling maybe the most hopeless I've ever felt-- and I am not taking care of my daily needs. I guess I just wanted to document this semester, but really, any sort of feedback (supportive, please, even if it's painful/honest) means a lot to me. Thank you a lot for your time.
Again, I apologize for the book. Maybe I will feel embarrassed in the next couple of hours and take this all down, **who knows!** Sending lots of love out there to this community!! I feel very lucky to have access to so many people, of various walks of life, who are also navigating the world with/of ADHD! So thank you! <3 :)
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Does it make it worse ? Do you perform more compulsions ? What does being drunk do to someone who has OCD?
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Yes, I (53M) get depressed, yet, you wouldn't know it to look at me...
I am the person who goes out with friends, and has a great time, but inside I am curled up into a ball...
I am the one who never tells that I haven't had a serious relationship in 22 years, and have not been intimate with a woman in 16 years...
I'm the guy who used to get attached too quickly, and ruined many potential relationships because of it, and now have barely any feelings at all, because I have so many medical issues, I wouldn't want to burden anyone with them...
I constantly look back at my life choices with regret and sorrow, wishing I could go back in time and smack the hell out of my younger self, maybe knocking some sense into him...
But, my life is not always the sh\*\*storm I am making it out to be.
I am there for my friends, and know most of them are there for me...
I am loved by my parents...
I believe in God, and know that He loves me...
I am a determined man, I will struggle and fight to my last breath to overcome what stands before me, and the depression that follows me...
I have not completely given up on love...
As I stated in my title, I feel I am not the one to tell you how to get out of your depression whenever it is a big part of my life, I can only tell you that I am doing my best to not let it rule me.
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depression
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I keep hearing that its damaging in the long term, how is this?
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I'm 16 years old, and I'm very sure that I have ADHD; I show all the symptoms except a few of the small ones. My mum is adamant that I have it as well. I got tested when I was seven, and they said I didn't have it, but I'm sure they were wrong; I think I lied when the psychiatrist asked me questions because I was afraid of getting in trouble for not paying attention. Yesterday I had a phone call booked, and she said I would be tested as a 16-18-year-old, but the list is two years wait at least, so by the time I can get tested, I won't be able to because I'll be over 18 and ill be in the adult category which could be another two years. In total I have to wait until 2025 to be tested and ill have left college by then (England). The only other way to be tested in private, but that's £1000, and we can't afford it,
I wanted to be tested so I can confirm that I have it and to be on medication as I really struggle listening in class and doing homework. Is medication really worth it? Can I get support even if I'm not diagnosed?
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*I apologize in advance for the format, I'm on mobile. I also apologize for any weirdly structured sentences, I'm not a native English speaker.*
Hi! I (23F) was diagnosed with Asperger's and ADD at age 16 (though I'm starting to wonder if it's actually ADHD and not ADD) just after my mother was diagnosed with Asperger's herself, and shortly after me my brother got the diagnosis as well. This was 3 or 4 years after being diagnosed with severe depression and social phobia. At this point, I hadn't yet been diagnosed with dermatillomania - compulsive skin picking, which had been going on from age 10 and still is something I'm battling with every second of the day.
Regarding my Asperger's diagnosis, I remember having taken some kind of evaluation test thing in which I was to do different tasks of different types while being examined by a psychologist. I was also interviewed by the psychologist about my past and my experiences. My mother did an evaluation too, but hers was different, and my brother only needed to do the interview part.
The tasks I had to do were the following:
1) I was shown a number of images of only the eyes of people and had to identify the person's current emotion through only that little piece of information. Very difficult and everyone on the images looked angry to me. I am pretty sure the psychologist could tell I was very uncertain in my answers as they all ended with a questionmark. ("This person looks angry...?")
2) I was shown a number of drawn images where one little detail was supposed to be wrong or out of place, and I had to point at the detail and tell the psychologist what I thought and why. One such image was of a flooded kitchen with a woman doing the dishes with a smiling face and I think there was a baby somewhere in the kitchen too. Very weird, didn't understand the purpose of it. The first image of the drawn ones was of a pencil with a broken tip, as in it had to be sharpened. I didn't know if it was supposed to be a broken pencil or if that was the detail that was wrong.
3) The psychologist listed a bunch of random numbers and while being timed I had to recite the numbers in the right order, and after that, backwards. Very easy for me, I seem to have a good memory when it comes to numbers even though I kind of suck at basic math (equations and algebra and more advanced math is easier for me somehow). Although I think my ability to remember sequences of numbers has more to do with the way I hear the auditory patterns in the way the numbers sound when said out loud.
4) The easiest part; I was shown images one at a time, of assemblies of shapes, like abstract geometric art, and after each image I was to recreate it from memory without seeing the original. If memory serves, it was timed too. Very easy, and I did each of them nearly perfectly.
I don't remember if there was more to the evaluation than the tests and ytge interview, but I remember being told that my IQ is just ever so slightly above average that it's basically average. That's good enough for me. In addition to that, I was told my pattern recognition ability was great and I was told that I most certainly have Asperger Syndrome.
I'm wondering if anyone of you guys had to do the same kind of evaluation as myself, or something different. Or was your diagnosis process entirely different from mine? What did they say when you got your diagnosis?
Please tell me, I'm curious!
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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, and he has pretty bad adhd. I’ve never had it, nor do I really know anyone else with it.
I guess my main question is.. do people with ADHD get their days/nights mixed up easily?? Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is lying to me but I’m starting to realize that it might just be his adhd.. so it looks like he is lying when he really isn’t.
I’m a very understanding person to be with and just wonder if this is something people with adhd struggle with.
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About four years ago I sat down with a doctor, she had me fill out a checklist and said "based on this, you probably have ADHD, here's a prescription." Due to life's craziness, I wasn't able to get to my followup for her to re-up the prescription, and went the next 4 years without.
Today I sit down with a physician assistant on a teledoc call, he does all the same stuff, asks me questions, gauge how I'm doing, but tells me there's nothing he can do at this point but write me a referral to get a neuropsych test and THEN we can talk about medication options.
Now, I know I have ADHD, but I see so many horror stories (including on this sub) of people being turned away when they get new doctors or such and told they don't have it, so naturally any sort of 'testing' scares me.
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Also my biggest concern is . . . how much is this test going to cost me?
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it’s like 5:30 am. i just woke up, for the second time tonight because i had a horrifying dream turned nightmare.
Literally it feels like my intrusive thoughts have leaked into my dreams. I haven’t had a nightmare that was bad like this since we got away from my abusive father. i was having crippling nightmares all the time, would wake up multiple times a night, ect, but what i just saw has me sobbing.
TW: Gore
I dreampt my family was like in a magical realism world set in the like, 1600’s maybe? But we weren’t even all there bc it’s a dream.
it was fine just weird up until the end.
my baby brother (8m) showed up and in the dream we were chopping up food to cook or something and he picked up a butcher knife and some force or something swung it around his body and sloppily chopped off his limbs. i saw his legs on the floor and his hand hanging off his arm. And the worst part, that i can’t get out of my head, is the look in his eyes. It was like i saw his eyes loose the life in them. it was so scary and horrifying, i think maybe the worst i’ve ever had bc it was just so scary. it was incredibly graphic. my dreams before were of my dad beating my mom or something or them getting back together and i managed to make those go away but this? I can’t remember the last time i wanted to wake my mom up because i had a nightmare but i really want to. I’m 17 i’m too damn old for this and i want my sleep back.
I really can’t remember a time when i slept okay.
i know i’m gonna have to get up soon because of my anxiety just to make sure my brother’s okay.
but i can’t do this anymore. it’s like immediate suic!dal ideation after that.
sorry for the grammar and typos. i’m literally squinting through my tears writing this.
i had to sit up and back into the corner while i cried and i feel sick.
i can’t do this anymore.
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After I was hospitalized I was referred to a new therapist specializing in trauma. After I recite my life story she says that it looks like I'm looking for therapy regarding my mental health. I just started bawling and telling her I don't know where or who to see mental help. The lady just says "oh there's hope you're gonna have your bad days..it's a process" like that's gonna help my frustration? Like I haven't heard that from my past 3 therapists?
All my previous therapists just don't know how to approach crisis at all and the last time this happened I almost killed myself after the session. All they could do is say "oh you just need support right now" or "let me get another therapist" while I'm on the verge of tears.
I'm just going to look for a DBT therapist on my own without a social worker because all of these therapists are making everything worse for me. Just baffling.
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depression
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I'm 32, I've been diagnosed for a couple weeks and have been stuck at my job for 15 years. I work at a membership warehouse (I'm sure you can guess) and work early mornings usually starting at 3 am but sometimes as early as 12 am.
It pays well for what it is and has helped me buy my house and a lot of other things but I just get so burnt out doing it and the thought of being there another 15 years just makes me want to scream.
My wife and I have a baby on the way and as much as this schedule would work for childcare I just want to get out.
I didn't go to college, and got hired at my current job right out of highschool. I've been considering getting into programming and have done a few free courses with html and CSS, but I just don't know that the spark is really there and it's something that I can do forever either.
I applied to go to school at WGU but instead of starting I was going to take some prerequisite courses elsewhere and haven't even started those.
I fear I'll be stuck in the same position I'm in and keep going through the cycle of getting hyperfixated on what I want to do only to stop pursuing it In a week or two.
There was an ask reddit thread about what would your dream job be, and I scrolled through every answer to see if something intrigued me, only to realize that I don't dream of working.
I enjoyed woodworking so I started an Etsy shop and was selling pieces on the side but between working full time and being a perfectionist and dealing with my executive dysfunction it was too stressful trying to get things done in a reasonable time, while being up to my standards.
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ADHD
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I have a lot of physical scars (mentally too but not in this context). I never told my children (except my oldest son 30y) why and they never asked my since my wife told them not do. My oldest children (15y-17y-28y) know I have ptsd and my scars have to deal with it. Now they are older, I think it would've been better if we told them more about it, since they have no clue what happened with me and it does have/had a big impact on my life.
My youngest children however don't know anything (2y-1y). I don't know if I want to tell them more or how I would do that.
If anyone has advice/experience about telling children about it, please let me know.
Bit of background: I have been raped, have been abused (mentally and physically) and the person who did al of this (not family) killed himself in front of me. Happened when I was 8y-11y.
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I think my parents told me I have aspergers when I was young, but I don't think I got it through my thick skull what that meant. They haven't talked to me about it at all for like 10 years until my therapist told me that I had it. When she told me the symptoms it kind of all made sense to me. From what I understand it's mild and I have issues expressing my emotions to people and difficulty identifying my problems. I'm very happy she told me because I understand myself better and why I'm having some of the issues I'm having. So uhhh, yeah I haven't discussed this with my parents yet, but I definitely will. So do any of you have some advice or anything, I'm open for discussion about this.
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aspergers
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A quick search of the sub brought up a few titles. I'm looking more for the causes for ADHD than coping skills. Here's what I've found there, but most only have like one reference in the sub. What's your recommendation:
* Driven to Distraction (**most mention**s)
* Taking Charge of Adult ADHD
* Your Brain's Not Broken (**best contender for scientific?**)
* I’m not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy
I'll look at How to ADHD on YouTube, but I'm not sure that's the best avenue for me
Thanks!
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ADHD
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Hey guys! Recently, my OCD has been manifesting in the way of food. Even if I know there is nothing wrong with what I’m eating, I convince myself that it’s disgusting or somehow contaminated. I’ve been finding food disgusting… Any advice?
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OCD
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I was recently diagnosed with OCD after over a year of looking for a diagnosis. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety disorder for the last seven years but last it felt so different and I felt I was unable to cope with the new level of paranoia. Now that I have a diagnosis for what’s really going on with me I feel better but it’s also made me very aware of my own obsessive thoughts and somehow indulge them more.
I have obsessions about bugs and incests that stop me from sleeping, and often cause nightmares. Next year I am supposed to finally move out with my boyfriend, I want to be so excited about this but the possibility of this seems to be ruined as all I can think about is what if the house we move into is infested? What if there are more bugs around the new area? What if it’s so dirty it will attract bugs and no amount of cleaning will make them go away. There are just a million what if’s that seem to be ruining what’s meant to be an exciting experience. Will I ever be able to get rid of the obsessive thoughts or is OCD going to be life long? I can’t stand the thought of every important and joyful experience of my life being overshadowed by these thoughts.
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OCD
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It was after a prolonged period of sleep deprivation 40 hours to be exact. I smoked marijuana to hit the hay and I woke up the next day a completely different person. I was unable to think at all, meaning any type of cognitive function wasn’t accessible. My short and long term memory was nonexistent. A year later and the doctors tell me it was major depression and that my condition is common. I’m still nowhere near a full recovery and although my trust in them has strengthened I can’t help but wonder whether this has actually happened to another human being. Never had I ever heard of this occurring to someone else to even a quarter of the extend bar traumatic brain injuries. Does this case ring any bells? If so were they able to recover? It was almost a year before I began receiving treatment. It terrifies me that there is permanent damage.
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depression
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Whenever I see people complaining online about not having a girlfriend people say "just do one of the following things":
1. *Just* walk up to girls and ask her if she wants to hang out with you.
2. *Just* start casual conversation with people at stores.
3. *Just* approach random girls and tell them your name. (wtf?)
I'm 1,80cm or 5foot10, half Mexican and I look like one of the cousins from Breaking Bad. My resting face looks like a stone statue with murderous intent. I also can't small talk or carry a conversation with strangers if my life depended on it because of Aspergers.
If I walk in a store and I want to take something of a shelf and a girl is near that shelf I can see them visibly recoil and the fear on their face makes me feel like a monster. These dating tips to me sound like speedrun strats to get banned from your gym/store/campus or arrested at worst. I'm sure a lot of autistic men here can agree?
**DISCLAIMER: I also completely get it. If I was a girl this would be a horror situation for me as well. It's not the girl's fault at all for being wary or feeling threatened. It's common sense.**
# I wonder what advice would actually be helpful for fellow autistic men and teenagers?
I was thinking that girls come up to me sometimes if they've already seen me at art-academy and they know I mean no harm. Sometimes I also hear girls saying to each other that I look good so I suppose it's would be less creepy If I go to say hi after that? So maybe we just have to wait for them and not be the first to approach. Also for the guys that aren't virgins, how did you do it? Did a girl fall from the sky or kidnap you and take you home? (/s)
PS: I'm not looking to date. I'm 22 but can't see myself dating anyone in the next couple years at least. I just thought it was an interesting observation and I was looking for advice for when I finally get there. Also really interested to hear from autistic men with a girlfriend or wife.
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aspergers
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this is kinda more of a vent post but I wasn't sure which flair to pick so
i have socks that have a little L and R on em. left and right socks. functionally useless; they're the same sock. but when I put them on the wrong feet I have to stop and switch em, even if I'm in a hurry. so, thanks for that
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ADHD
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I um, avoiding googling it for a while ,lol, because I'm scared of this, even though googling things is a compulsion for me. This is a deeply entrenched thing for me, especially when it comes to making medical appointments and scary phone calls, but more mundane things too. Sometimes very mundane. Definitely going to discuss with my doctor. I'm newly diagnosed. Tips? Anything that's helped? I just started Luvox a few weeks ago and it's helping, but I'm so very sensitive to SSRIs it's hard to get to a therapeutic dose.
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OCD
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