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About me: recently diagnosed with rapid cycle bipolar 2, no surprise. Psych suggests I might have ADHD, Inattentive type. Huge surprise. I join this subreddit, feel so seen and validated by nearly every post, and now I am in the process of getting a diagnosis/medication.
So for the past nearly two years, I have been unable to sleep without some kind of stimuli. Usually it's YouTube videos or Twitch streams, and my brain has gotten so used to it that it seems to have little to no adverse affect on my sleep (according to my FitBit anyway). In fact, I struggled with insomnia quite a bit before this, and this (along with my bipolar meds) has actually seemed to help my sleep to some extent.
But even so, I know this isn't sustainable. There has to be a better way that doesn't involve me having headphones in my ears all night, the sounds of video games blasting through my brain as it tries to rest. I already search out ways to watch videos, play games, or listen to music or podcasts every single waking moment of my life. How am I supposed to get away from this? Why can't I seem to be satisfied even when I sleep?
It's possible that this has nothing to do with ADHD, but I just feel like it might considering what I've learned about ADHD brains feeling dopamine starved.
I don't even know if I'm looking for advice here, but maybe I just want to know...does anyone else do this? Or did this? What can I do to start moving away from this? Any help or support would be so welcome. I'm very happy to have found this sub and thank you so much for reading.
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i talked to my psychiatrist about the medicine and he said that he would put me on a different medicine. He put me on lamotrigine I searched it up and it’s medicine for bipolar people. I was never diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and nobody told me that it was bipolar medicine and I don’t know if they are keeping it a secret from me see if I actually am bipolar or I actually was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and nobody told me. My sister is bipolar and she takes the same medicine. The psychiatrist said that it would be more likely to work because we were related but my therapist said otherwise and that it was not a good idea to categorize me and my sister in the same medicine. Is it common for people diagnosed with depression to be put on bipolar medicine or do they just figure that I’m bipolar?
should I tell someone that I know it’s bipolar medicine?
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I got out of an abusive relationship two years and it took me a year to even realize that it was abusive. We still live in the same small town, and since then I have done everything I can to avoid them, they are blocked on everything and their friends are also blocked.
I may or may not (I’m still not 100% sure it was him) saw my ex at a local restaurant and I freaked out afterwards. Now I see him everywhere, everywhere. I just want to be able to go out of my house again without seeing a white guy and think it’s my ex. And overtime I think I see him I have to try and calm my anxiety.
I just don’t know what to do. I keep trying to talk myself down from it but it’s really hard. I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m looking into moving but that would be months away and would depends on jobs, and for the time being I don’t want to be stuck in the house more than I already am.
I don’t want to give him the power of making me afraid to go to the grocery store, but I’m not sure how to stop that.
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oh my god, this is so frustrating to me. i haven't been able to watch TV like i used to for about two years because, out of nowhere, i suddenly have this REALLY STRONG internalised ableism that says i can't watch tv unless i'm paying full attention to it. even though i've spent most of my life on my phone or playing games while watching tv. but trying to put my full attention on the tv just makes it feels like a horrible horrible chore and i don't enjoy anything.
i have this EVEN WATCHING TV BY MYSELF IN MY OWN ROOM. i won't watch any TV and will watch youtube because i feel like i'm "not good enough to watch TV shows" because i can't pay full attention.
guys, how tf do i unlearn this??? it popped up outta nowhere and after 2 miserable years i want to send it to the void where it came from and play my silly little games while watching my silly little shows
p.s. sorry if this is a bit incoherent im losing my mind a little. just feel so overwhelmed by how much TV i've missed
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Officially scheduled for my 1st ketamine infusion next week! Getting treated for C-PTSD, anxiety and depression. Has anyone else gotten infusions? And if so, how was your experience?
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This is just me venting because i dont really have friends to vent to so sorry if its annoying but anyways i get upset seeing everyone be able to have friends, hang out with friends, basically live life and everything. I have really terrible social skills so i struggle trying to make friends and also because i have nothing really to offer and it gets me thinking “why would anyone wanna waste their time talking to me?” or “spend time with me” etc. Im happy everyone gets to be able to go out and live life and make memories with friends but i wish i had the same privilege. I was never really taught how to deal with my social skills because my parents were pretty neglectful and abusive and would just isolate me unless it was school time. It feels like my life is somewhat cursed and all the friends i did have seemingly just dipped out on me. I wish i could go on vacations with friends or just hang out with people but im so limited it sucks. I feel like most people in the world were born with a manual on social skills and friendships and i wasnt. Ive had a therapist tell me i should go out and meet people but i dont really wanna do that cuz i mean we live in a digital age, i cant just go up to some random and ask to be friends, that just looks creepy to people. I just feel like an outsider, like im not worthy of friendships or relationships. I hate who i am, i hate being a teen who cant live like a teen due to my f’d up upbringing. Nobody calls me, texts me, checks up on me, im constantly living inside my own head. I wish i was somebody else, id trade my life for someone elses if i could. I wish my mama never gave me this life because its just not one worth living. Sorry for the negative rambling i just needed to get this out.
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I have ptsd and struggle with violent intrusive thoughts. I get them every day, but when I have an episode they’re constant and unbearable. What do you guys do to stop/cope with them?
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I swear nothing gives me more anxiety than posting something on Facebook or Instagram and panicking over every detail, rewriting and rewriting sentences until it's absolutely perfect. Then I'll get less likes than I expected and freak out again and adjust things. For a post that matters absolutely nothing and will be forgotten by everyone the next day.
Or when I'm chatting and waiting for a response, and I suddenly see a thousand ways my last message can be interpreted the wrong way, and I'm obviously coming over as weird or needy. So much anxiety. Until I get a response back and all is well, until it creeps back in again.
I also have ADHD, so that's a double whammy of dopamine fueled insanity. Anyone else experience this?
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as much as i know about the anatomy of our brains with ocd,its that 3 areas are hyperactive (1 responsible for determining if omething is right or wrong, one that gives anxiety, one that laggs and doesnt forget about the casual random subject) but what causes the thoughts themselves? knowing this helped me with ocd so i think extra things will help too
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Do you ever get overwhelmed and not know left from right? I feel like my instant knowledge isn’t existent, if someone is giving me directions I have to stop for a moment, hold my hands out for a second and think which hand I write with 😓 I will often give the wrong answer when guiding directions while someone is driving and people think I’m joking... but I’m really not..
I find it easier if people say “my side” or “ your side” when giving directions, but I feel a little stupid and judged when I refer to directions like that
Is this a ADHD thing? Or just a me thing? Does this happen to anyone else?
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Maybe it’s just me being an angsty and edgy teenager, but recently i’ve been feeling unempathetic and cold. Is this normal for us or is it just because of my age, or do i have even another problem altogether?
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For the last few months I've been having an uncomfortable feeling where I consciously feel instinctively disconnected from NeuroTypicals, especially in group situations. This has become worse the older I get, as I overcome the indoctrination from my parents (raised in fundamentalist high-control cult), acquire a more crystallised world view and begin to analyse people more objectively based on that. People and patterns in them have become so predictable, and most of what I read I can easily spot the flaws in. I dislike how most people are so illogical and irrational, I feel like more of a logical carbon biomachine at this point than a "human". From the research I've done, this situation will most likely get worse as I age, due to genetics.
I feel like I'm becoming trapped like in chains and restricted from making moves in the outside world rather than my imagination because of this (socials skills, empathy, emotions: all factors that are required to achieve success in modern society, all factors that I increasingly have less of). My strong Schizoid tendencies amplify this. If the reader of this post feels or has felt this way, how did you cope? I'm struggling with finding interesting activities and resources especially for casual viewing as everything feels so bland. It's a major issue ever since I became a teenager, of being unable to find a balance and perpetually overstimulating myself on addictive but boring/unsatisfying activities such as video games and fiction books.
On an unrelated note, after moving out recently and living alone, I feel much better away from my toxic family, and in hindsight it's obvious how manipulative they are. I'm also interested in moving to a country like Switzerland/Estonia, where it is introverted with a high work ethic and technological development.
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This is what happens when have aspergers and try to social ize once I heard "bruh dis guy a weirdo fam" "why you acting retarded"it was over, normies are like sharks when they smell blood they start to attack, I went home went on discord,drank some beer and went to sleep
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I’ve been in a pretty bad place lately, and one of the major problems for me is that I can’t check my mail. I can’t even open the mail app because my heart drops every time I think of it, but not checking it gives me huge anxiety. I can’t sleep or do anything at all lately, I simply spend all of the time beating myself about it.
I am also in my final year of uni and I haven’t replied to my thesis’ counsellor in weeks, and the simple thought of him getting tired of me and ditching me makes me shake. But the thought of opening my mail and seeing his emails makes me shake too.
I’ve been thinking of having someone be there and talk to me while I go through the mail, but my relationship with my family has never been worse. I only have one friend left (since I stopped answering others’ messages months ago because of my state), and for some reason I am highly uncomfortable with her doing this. Should I try someone I’m not close to? A stranger? Maybe there is another solution? I feel like I’m gonna combust if I don’t go through my mail soon.
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Finally officially diagnosed 1.5 weeks ago. Taking adderall 2x daily - off on the weekend. No real side effects except cotton mouth (expected) & loss of appetite (also expected).
I noticed that food simply doesn’t taste as good when I’m taking adderall. Over the weekend I ordered takeout & it tasted quite good. I had leftovers today & realized it just doesn’t have the same delicious taste when I’m medicated. Food as a whole is less appetizing, which is a double edge sword because it’s definitely helped me stop binge eating, which I was doing A LOT pre-diagnosis.
Anyone else experience this?
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I’ve read that exercise is especially beneficial for those with ADHD and I’m curious to hear personal anecdotes. Also wondering what you think of taking the meds before exercise especially for “mild”cases?
I don’t feel like myself if I don’t exercise every day. I get anxious And can’t function well but I’m curious if this is related to ADHD or just me. I almost never take medication to exercise because I don’t feel like it need it
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I’m sitting in my car currently avoiding going inside & having to put the same load of washing on again for the 3rd time coz I keep forgetting it exists…
I’ve recently left my job thanks to poor workplace conditions/anxiety/boredom/recent ADHD diagnosis and I am completely stuck as what to do now. I’ve always struggled with this gnawing feeling of wanting to do more, be more, but with ever changing interests & fear of failure, I have just stuck to what I know I can do for the past 16 years, which is an auxiliary staff member in the dental field.
Has anyone taken a leap and found something they enjoy? Anyone gone back to study as an adult? How did you figure out what you wanted to do?
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Hi I’m M(20) and I was diagnosed this May (though I’ve always known) I began taking medication my doctor sends a prescription to my CVS and I’ve been taking “Dextroamp-Amphet Er 20mg “ (not sure if that’s the brand) but after 3 months of taking it I really don’t like it. It gives me constant constipation, headaches, and gives me spurts of focus it’s silences the noise and distraction but doesn’t slow my mind at all and I had taken adderall that were pressed 2 years prior due to my own research to see if I really had adhd and the illegal ones were great it slowed things way down and made my emotions feel normal instead of scattered and random ,as well as constantly kept my energy medium for like 5 hours and wore off easy (instead of very high which it usually is), I remember them being pressed and pinkish. I spoke to my doc and said I wanted to switch and she sent something to the CVS allowing me to switch but idk what to tell the pharmacy I don’t know brands or manufacturers and when I asked he said they’ll switch me to “Par adderall xr” idk anything about that plz help.
Summary :
I take Dextroamp-Amphet and hate it and want to switch but idk what to switch to and pharmacy wants to give me Par adderall xr what do I do.
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Over the past year and a half, I've gotten really close with my roommate to the point where we've become really close friends. He told me a year ago that he had Aspergers after a fight we had which made me understand him so much more.
But as the year went on, I started to pick up on some concerning things.
On more than a couple occasions, he will lie, and gaslight me until I admit he is right. And even when I have the evidence in front of him, he still won't admit his lie? I realize this may be because of social anxiety but I don't know if his lies stem from a faulty personality trait or Aspergers.
So is this common with a lot of people with Aspergers and if so how should I deal with it moving forward?
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I (19) am moving away from home to study abroad for a year. I'm happy to be away from the place where my trauma happened, but I also have a lot of fear. I was sexually abused twice in childhood and assaulted by a friend as a teenager, and I have a lot of trust issues. My family only knows about one of those events and they don't want me to disclose it because the police would have to get involved (in Ireland child sex abuse is always reported to the police because of the risk that the abuser will act again).
I've put off reporting my abuse because of the long waiting lists for counselling, financial burdens, timing, and now this move abroad. Now I regret it because I feel guilty that someone else could be being abused and I've enabled it in a sense. But I worry that if I report this they will try to stop me from going abroad, which will only worsen my mental health even further.
I'm also worried that my family will find out about my report of the incidents they don't know about, one of which involved a relative. I don't know what to do. I don't have a choice about getting the police involved, and I know my family will push against it. I feel guilty, sick, and like my PTSD is only getting worse the longer I hold onto these secrets. My abuse is a taboo and I can't tell any of my friends, so I have no outlet for advice. I can't access diagnosis or treatment without disclosing and therefore starting this destructive process.
What do I do in this situation? I feel too afraid to do the right thing, and I feel like reporting will harm me. Advice needed!
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I just got a email thanking me for visiting a local hospital after a suicide attempt. They thanked me for my business and said that they are grateful for patients like me...
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I have ocd that makes me check my car constantly for new marks. I accidentally backed into someone’s car and scratched it, but we worked it out and i paid for the damage. well, the people across the parking lot can’t let it go. whenever i’m trying to park, because I’m extra careful, they yell at me. “WHY DONT YOU JUST PULL IN HERE?!” and they always stare at me and make comments. Well i find out from my coworkers that the person is talking shit about me. he said, and i quote;
“You still work with that crazy white girl with the blue hair? She can’t drive!!” I’ve heard them they “don’t let the weirdo take our parking spots.” I’m just NOW getting over the fact that I didn’t hit my neighbors car. now i’m obsessing over this. i know people will be shitty. I was going to confront them but my one coworker told me “If you go after him, his wife works here and she’ll come after you.” and i’m tired of it. i’m tired of being a fucking joke because of my mental illness.
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These past few days, I have not been obsessing over things. I’ve been trying to distract myself with watching TV and spending time with my family. I still notice though that my head still gets aches and tingles so I try not to obsess over new things. I am trying to be cautious not to give into new and old obsessive thoughts. I also am trying not to dwell on the past.
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I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to stop yourself from replaying the traumatic events over and over in your head? I seem to pick the most gruesome parts that really fucked me up and just think of them over and over until I can't function or the the point where I am contemplating suicide to get them to stop. It's from the moment I open my eyes until I tried myself out enough to sleep these horrible images or just reacting the day of the trauma and letting the events play in my head on repeat.
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Every morning I wake up and hope it's my last. I can't find the nerve to kill myself, but Im just hoping someone will crash into me or shoot me or anything. I can't stand living in this stupid fucking world. I want to sleep for good.
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What makes this an absolute wrecking ball is that I also have obsessive compulsive disorder and we know that’s hell too. That just makes it worse.
I had a severe bad reaction to a small event in 2016, and in that event I experienced a weird aura and severe dissociation, I now relieve the symptoms of that event but there is no memory stimulating this or even an image.
It’s highly distressing and drags you into a deep dark rabbit hole, it often leads to suicidal thinking, disinterest.
What’s helped me a lot is the use of medication but I’ve had a major relapse this week.
How do I accept the flashback?? How do I stop actively searching for it and trying to reason with it? Doing this just makes me feel even more dissociative and tense in the muscles
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Please.. tell me, can you practice as a dentist if you have adhd? And please tell me is there any relief from adhd.. I feel like I can’t live like this anymore. My family is not helping, i feel like they are a bunch of idiots laughing and not getting it and talking about me behind my back and I am in emotional distress really bad. I am not sure of my feelings I don’t even know if I am over exaggerating (with my family) or my feelings are legit and have a cause. I don’t want to push people away but literally nobody cares and I am legit scared of how I am going to live my life. Please I need relief somehow from this
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Please share good self help, therapy or any kind of book that could help us feel better and help us tolerate UNCERTANITY better.
My recommandation is: Chuck Palanhiuk- Damned
Category: Fiction
-A girl dies and wakes up in hell and she get on a journey in hell.
People who whave reading rereading obsession you can also take this as step in your treatment.
My best
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(I apologize if this is kinda a mess, my head hurts becuaae i've been crying over this for a bit so i thought it would be best to finally ask. If something needs to be clarified or more detail needs to be added please just let me know!)
So, I've had a crush on my friend for about 3 ish years now.
Recently they're all i can think about.
It's like a hyperfixation but just on this person and its so weird. And i really don't want to make them uncomfortable or weird them out becuase i really like them. But i genuinely can't tell if this attraction to them is actually attraction or if its just a new hyperfixation...
I know hyperfixations on people can happen, but i'm really worried that it is becuase it started getting worse when my DSMP hyperfixation ended. But, maybe it's just me realising how extreme my crush on them was before and finally being able to see it now that i' not distracted with my other hyperfixation?
I honestly can't tell, and i don't know what to do to stop it being a hyperfixation if it is.
If anyone has tips or tricks to over comming something like this any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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i feel like a burden to everyone around me. parents, friends, teachers, colleagues, even the most random people,i really feel that all the people i know would have been happier in some way or another had i not existed.i was never a good son, never scored well and when i do i miss the selection criteria or distinction mark by inches which frustrates me even more,and my parents too.they don't deserve me, they deserve [better.my](https://better.my) friends deserve a better person,my cousins deserve a better [cousin.my](https://cousin.my) ex deserved a better boyfriend, i've failed each and every relation i know of.i try to mask my sorrow by trying to be numb to things, it does work well 99% of the times but i cry in person,under the shower sitting on the floor thinking how useless i am. i am literally so useless i can't even kill myself,i don't have that much courage. nobody wants me,i'm just a burden.idk what to say to anyone, and what to feel.i wish i could be a kid once again,feel loved once again just for a few moments.i've hurt a lot of people in search of love. and yess i have lied to people too including my own parents,since a kid i was really afraid of being left alone, being beaten,left out i won't justify my lies but i was really afraid to be beaten,to loose people to be left all alone to die like i am rn.it didn't really help much,lying or not lying the result i guess is the same.
i really feel i would have been better off dead.i love a lot of people but i hurt them more,some way or other.
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I have aspergers, ADHD, HBP, Epilepsy, Memory issus et al. I am taking Carbemazapine and lercanidipine to treat epilepsy and High blood pressure, since I stopped smoking weed and started being properly treated for my epilepsy a year a go, I have have constant suicidal thoughts, I'm not scared but I need help at this point as my parents think i'm just creating another disorder and call me a hypercondriac like my aunt.
What do I do? Do I seek more professional help and end up out of pocket? Do I cope with it and speak to my parents? I feel like I never properly recovered after I lost my grandmother and now knowing my 95 year old grandfather might go at any minute i'm truely sad as they were my rocks and the best people i've ever met.
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I had a great job for almost a decade providing care for a very sick lady who passed over the weekend. Thank the gods it's easy for me to put greif on the shelf while theres work to be done. But oh my lanta the overwhelming amount of work to be done...
I have a list in a book that I do not lose (took me 35 years to get to that point) that is step by step what I have to do, and broken down.
The crippling freeze sets in when I update family (who have been more supportive than any other time in my life, so theres trust issues accepting their help in particular)... they want me to move at this breakneck speed, but even with meds and therapy it's been really hard to leave my nest on the couch.
I got computer based shit done today, like replacing documents I know I'll need but are lost, but that's the easy part. Theres a HUUUUGE hurdle coming up and it might be coming too fast and my legs cant remember how to jump
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Is it an OCD thing to think about all the different labels and disorders I might have? I've always felt the need to categorize myself and figure out what's wrong with me or who I am, and sometimes go through times where I spend hours Googling symptoms of different mental illnesses. For example I've almost convinced myself at various times that I have bipolar, or BPD, etc. And when I find something that I actually have — for example a fearful-avoidant attachment style — I become obsessed with it for a while and want to find out everything I can.
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Helloooo, im a 31 y/o woman (yay). I just started my first dose of Ritalin for adult adhd. My care plan with my psych involves a 2 week trial of Ritalin before trying Dextro to see which I respond to better. Sooooo yesterday i started Ritalin for the first time only 10mg a day so 5mg twice a day but i ended up with the most chronic headache and had to leave work to go home, be sick and sleep it off. This experience has really put me off trying stimulants which sucks because those around me noticed about a 20% better difference while i was feeling good. Just wondering if everyone gets these headaches? Will they ever go away if i continue on the meds? Doe dextroamphetamine cause the headaches too? I feel so disheartened this was my last attempt at getting better medicine wise.
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hey everyone,
I am currently coming out of this insane OCD relapse. for a few weeks i fell back into the most insane obsessions. and it truly reminded me of how dark OCD can be. It's a pain that i wouldn't want to wish upon my worst enemy. they way i like to describe the feeling is trying to breathe with a bowling ball on your chest. (i know that a few weeks sound like i am a lucky guy, but i have also had obsessions that lasted A LOT longer than that).
Ive been through it all, fear after fear, obsession after obsession the list goes on and on, from brain tumors to being afraid of life being a simulation. i have been dealing with this mental BULLSHIT for almost 10 years. and i am still here.
If i reflect on my lowest point, i am surprised i am still alive. why i never gave up? i have no fucking clue. maybe my family, or maybe i lowkey love life. but i kept going.
Listen closely everyone who suffers from OCD. I DON'T CARE HOW BAD IT IS, there is a way out. There always is. and that's a fucking promise.
The key to solving this shit is realising that you are NOT your thoughts. Your thoughts are something that are separate from you, you have no control over your thoughts. BUT you can control how you react to them. YOU ARE THE OBSERVER OF YOUR THOUGHTS. And you can choose to not take these fears serious anymore. Next time your fear enters your mind, see it as a cloud. and let it pass by. You have no reason to fear a thought because a thought is just a thought. A thought is only real if you allow it to, it's only real if you allow it in your mind, it's only real if you observe it as real. listen, i am not a professional but this is all i know, and what i have learned over the years. And i know at this point in your life this all sounds really complicated, but with practise you can learn this.
I suggest that anybody who is struggling with OCD gets help, get the help you need. Tell your doctor you need a therapist that is specialised in obsessive behaviour and that you won't settle for anything else.
here are some videos that might help out my friends.
take care
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k7y6ikkwEY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k7y6ikkwEY)
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9yKaI0vLJs](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9yKaI0vLJs)
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I have sucessfully repressed this memory but now it is affecting me daily. I have not told anyone about it my whole life, but i recently told my significant other about it.
When I was 16 my family & I went to a party my uncle and his friends were throwing. There was a lot of people, most of which I did not know at all. Everyone was drinking, and my father even allowed me to. I was only allowed a few beers, but it turned into me sneaking more alcohol because, well I could and I was having a ton of fun with everyone. I ended up very drunk and got sent to bed. I dont remember much from this point forward. I pretty much blacked out and was in and out of it. All I remember is having my head pushed down on some mans genitalia. I don't know who it was. I don't want to know either. I just want to forget. If the memory crosses my mind I zone out, disassociate, and either cry or feel horriblely depressed until i can supress it enough to shift my attention to other things. The memore makes me feel gross, and i blame myself for sneaking alcohol. Idk. I dont know how posting this will help me, but I'm just looking for advice I suppose. I see a psychiatrist and therapist for depression and anxiety but I dont really feel comfortable telling them. Saying it outloud just makes it worse.
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Suicide trigger warning: I have experienced suicidal tendencies throughout various points of my life but it was especially bad in middle school following a medical thing which was the source of my ptsd. It got so bad I essentially flipped a coin with scissors in hand fully prepared to cut my wrist. It landed on “do not” so I didn’t. That was probably the darkest moment of my life. Now I’m a lot older and in a much much much better place but a part of me wishes that I had a scar. I went through this really shitty thing but since I never actually cut myself I feel like my experience is somehow invalid. I’m very happy that I didn’t do and that I’m alive but without a scar it feels like it was only in my head and a part of me wishes I had a scar to validate that what I went through was real. Essentially I think I have imposter syndrome about surviving an (almost) (god I hate saying “almost”) suicide attempt. Am I crazy or does this make sense?
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While I have been through therapy and taking medication, I still have compulsions with cleaning everything with a Clorox wipe or making sure that everything is clean in my apartment, and while I don't think there will ever be a pill to cure the disorder, but it's a matter of knowing what I'm doing and understand that it's all in my mind. I just wanted to say that, I hope everyone is getting the right support that they need and that we can all find a balance in life to manage this disorder.
Take care everyone and be well!
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I've never dealt with depression before, not until October 2021. I was involved in my first car accident that had luckily left no one severely injured or dead. I was driving my brothers car with his permission and unfortunately got into an accident that the police couldn't determine fault with because of conflicting stories and no witnesses. Now insurance has to deal with making the final decision and I'm scared that the full consequences will be set on me and with minimal insurance that won't be able to cover the full extent of the damages.
Everyday since then I have watched myself do a complete 180 in my life. I'm struggling at work, I'm slipping in class and leaving classes much earlier than usual. I have almost no interest in any of my hobbies anymore and I don't get excited anymore to see my friends. My sleep schedule is also a complete mess.
I don't know why I decided to make a reddit account today and just post something like this, but I honestly couldn't talk to anyone right now because it's the holidays and they're all out doing their own thing just having a good time.
I really hope things are not as doom and gloom as I believe them to be and hope things will eventually get better.
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depression
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I can’t get myself to bed easily most of the time, but when i do sleep early and get 8 hours it’s still not enough. I can barely wake up, feeling like death and then i feel sleepy throughout the day.
Whenever i take a nap it can last 5-7 hours and that isn’t exactly how long it’s supposed to be.
I always feel the most rested when i have had 10-12 hours of sleep and wake up on my own. I especially despise being woken up by external factors.
I was wondering if anyone else here experiences this. Do you have any sleeping issues and how do the manifest?
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ADHD
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Honestly it was like a really sweet moment. They said “I know it’s stupid but I really am gonna miss this gpu, it’s really pretty.” (It’s a gorgeous gpu, sad kinda I’m using it to mine lol)
I got ADHD vibes and told them that I’m like that all the time, it’s totally normal, and that I’ll even send pics of it.
It was like in that moment, they realized they weren’t alone, and through me feeling I was there for someone with ADHD made me feel like I wasn’t alone either.
Where I live, there is a college for guaranteed entry to a top 25 school in the nation right down the road. I’m at the destination school, and they are really working hard to get there. I offered them an extra ticket to a football game with me, and now we are like besties 🥺🤍
(Until we both forget to check up that is)
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ADHD
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I’ll try to keep this pretty short and sweet.
I’m in a relationship with just an absolutely lovely human, he is amazing. He brought it to my attention early in the relationship (it still is quite a new relationship) that he was a bit concerned about my memory, and I had noticed it too. I couldn’t remember conversations we were having in the middle of having them, I zoned out a lot and anytime I was going to see him I felt like I was going to (or would) throw up from being so excited. I didn’t want to continue being that way not only for his sake but obviously my own.
I began taking prescribed Adderall for my ADHD a couple weeks ago and I immediately noticed amazing results. I no longer have anxiety, and if I do it takes a lot. I don’t get overwhelmed anymore really, I can plan things in my day out. It’s awesome. I still have sensitivity to noise and crowds of people though, but I’m working on that.
But he mentioned the other day that he spoke with his friend (who is a therapist) about how he was worried I was no longer excited about him, and it broke my heart. I acknowledge I no longer feel INTENSE emotions, I feel what I imagine is a normal amount of happy and sad and excited and anxious.
I think because I experience emotions on a average level now that maybe my mannerisms or level of affection aren’t as frequent? I don’t mean for it to be that way, I’m just always so caught up in the moment, and I feel like I spend so much time concentrating on soaking up my new found clarity and experiences.
He says it’s like he’s getting to know both sides of me, and that nothing has changed, we’re still happy and I’m love. I think It just took him getting used to the “new” me I assume.
When you began taking Adderall, how was your partner? Or vice versa, I’d love to know how you felt as a partner of someone who began taking Adderall.
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ADHD
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So long story short our landlord tried to make a pass at me knowing I was lesbain (he lives on a shack just outside the property) when I turned him down he got pissed and walked off.
My amazing roommate decided to try and explain that what he did wasn’t ok and he FLIPPED and started to threaten my roommate and justify what he said to me (he basically implied that he would turn me straight with his “totally awesome” peen)
We also unfortunately had 2 young kids who heard the entire thing and where stuck with me in a room (I had a knife just incase and was ready to push the girls in the closet and let whatever happens to me happen.
We decided to not report him as we need to stay at this place or else we will be homeless.
How do I deal with seeing him every day?
Idk what to do?
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ptsd
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Somewhat of a confession and also somewhat a rant, but hopefully more something that lets you know that you're not alone: [https://medium.com/@rose.mejia1998/my-letter-to-you-why-bettering-my-mental-health-has-been-difficult-for-me-a2b497e605d0?source=friends\_link&sk=b17e67ae8c1f4b33303007bf85c482af](https://medium.com/@rose.mejia1998/my-letter-to-you-why-bettering-my-mental-health-has-been-difficult-for-me-a2b497e605d0?source=friends_link&sk=b17e67ae8c1f4b33303007bf85c482af)
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Hello, I don't have diagnosis yet, I am waiting to be diagnosed. I've been in "line" for almost a year now. It's a slow process. Anyway, I am curious about one thing: Do you feel you get bored easily?
I have noticed myself that once awhile I even get bored to the things that interest me. Then few weeks, maybe months pass and I find that interesting again. But I explain:
\-I start new TV series. I watch 1 episode per day and after few weeks I notice I don't watch it anymore. I got bored.
\-I buy new video game. I play it first like crazy. Then suddenly after few weeks I don't want to play it anymore. I find it boring. Then I buy new one
\-I start a new hobby. I am very excited about it for few weeks. Then I start to find it boring.
\-I start in a new job. At first everything is new and exiting. After a month I am so bored I literally quit. The boredom is so strong, I rather sit at home doing nothing than be at workplace being bored to death. The boredom is so strong, I actually start feeling mentally ill. I become angry. Irritated. "I WANT OUT OF HERE!!!" I yell inside my head. Sometimes even out loud if no one else is hearing.
I have noticed that this behavior has been around for me pretty much as long as I can remember. I get excited easily, but I also get bored easily. It's like I don't get the same dopamine effect anymore.
I hope someone understood what I try to explain. English is not my native language.
I have done ADHD test before and doctors say this is not ADHD. Since I do have a good memory and my apartment is always in order. I have probably forgotten my keys home 2 times during my 37 year life.
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aspergers
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It feels like my last pillar supporting my crumbly foundation has fallen. I kept pushing them away because I thought they deserved more than being with a mentally ill unstable person. Now they're gone, I feel like time has stopped, like I'm not falling anymore, but in a vacuum. I don't know how I feel anymore. I know people come and go all the time. I feel like this person was the only one who understood me in ways I didn't even know. They brought hope and reasoning into my life. They enabled me to dream more and be happier. They motivated me to get help and tried to be with me every step of the way, even though it sometimes took a toll on their mental health. But someone inside me kept pushing them away. Someone inside me is consuming the real me. This isn't me, and I hate it. It makes me want to kill myself even more. This isn't me. I'm not me.
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depression
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I thought I was doing better and. It just spiraled so fast. I’m having severe anxiety on the daily. Feels like there’s glass in my skin. Sweating. Heart racing (I need to take meds to keep it lower cuz it’s like 130+ even when I’m sitting). Feels like I’m stuck in this weird fog. Or black tar pit. Feels like I’m suffocating. Reminds me of when I was sick and I could barely breathe. Remembering those weeks in quarantine in that empty house all alone on Christmas and it’s just a blur of fear and sobbing. Hearing my grandma yell for help as they took her to the hospital. Hearing her beg me to take her home. Crying as I tried to explain that I couldn’t.
I have slept an average of 2 hours a night since I got “better”. When I do sleep, I am apparently screaming and crying in my sleep. I hardly sleep enough to have dreams anymore but when I do they are nightmares. Hardly eating. Can’t focus. Can’t focus at all. Not even on fun stuff. Keep buying more stuff thinking one of these purchases will be good enough that I can actually have fun again but it’s useless. It’s just all gathering dust in my room.
I need to learn how to be human again and it’s hard. Especially with a family pressuring me to hurry up and be normal and be okay because they don’t like seeing me struggle. I keep trying to force normalcy for their sake but I feel like I’m dying all the time.
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ptsd
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It feels like a cycle that I can’t stop. Whether it be online or in my personal life, I feel like I can’t stop being “too much.” It takes so little for me to go off and I feel like I’m always typing paragraphs to the ones I love telling them about something that frustrates me to get it off my chest. Then, i get hit with instant regret. Especially if I get a bad or weirded out reaction from them.
I want to stop doing this so badly. I thought becoming more self aware about it would help but I just seem to keep venting to the wrong people and making a fool of myself or saying things that make me sound like an asshole. I’m embarrassed
I go through phases where I’m not so bad and then others where I find myself making people around me overwhelmed and uncomfortable
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ADHD
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I can't sleep. I'm so tired. It's 3 AM
I can't cry, but my eyes feel like they are dry,and about to burst at the same time.
Please I just want to sleep
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depression
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I’ve always been horribly stressed out over things that no one around me ever seemed to worry about. The fact that I can’t see the guest room in my house and haven’t gone in there for weeks. The insane amount of trash and wasted food that accumulates from restaurants . The money that I spend on things over the course of a year and how millions of other people around me are also spending and loosing money every day. The idea that I have clothes hanging up in my closet that I haven’t worn in years.
I didn’t understand why I felt so anxious about things that shouldn’t matter. I guess I know now.
Does anyone else have issues like this with their OCD?
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OCD
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I just lost my daughter recently to a car wreck bc her dead bear mother was intoxicated with her new bf and ran a light now I’m young only 19 but I loved her with everything I work 3 jobs and make sure she had the best life ever and I’m going to the morgue tomorrow to see her and idk how to handle it I’m already in enough pain I was just in a wreck myself in august and 3 weeks post knee surgery lost my partner last month and My relationship with my parents is worse than ever and I’m loosing myself my kid was everything to me she was only a year old I never even got to hear her say she loves me I just hate the world rn and idk what to do anymore
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depression
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I was watching a movie and like legit this dude in the movie was just talking about someone else and said 'he' and like my mind went full on 'ok if this is applied to me, does it feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable?' (I'm a girl btw). And this kinda freaked me out; like I can't even watch stuff and even hear someone refer to someone else with pronouns without fucking freaking out over it. What is wrong with me. It wasn't this bad before winter break started. I was more under control TT
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OCD
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I am so tired of feeling completely and utterly alone and in total darkness. I’m so tired of trying my best with multiple types of therapy and medication and having nothing improve. I have not once had a medication help with my OCD and it’s getting worse. I am so sick of living like this.
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OCD
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It feels so strange yet so comforting for some reason. I'm not alone..
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OCD
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Most days of the week I’m fine with being misunderstood when it comes to adhd; I have accepted that the world will never fully understand what it’s like to be us long ago, but today is one of those days where it stings a little more than usual.
This past year I’ve been falling back into a depressive spiral, after doing really good for a while. Things have been very difficult but I’ve been trying my best to stay afloat, considering my untreated state and me living at my parents’ suffocating household at the age of 21. My mother however seems to think that this is because I’m “not trying hard enough”, and “if people without legs manage to walk I should be able to as well”. When I tell her I’m struggling she replies “I struggle too but I’m doing what I need to do”. I have tried to communicate with her but I’m always overwhelmed into silence.
One of my biggest wishes has always been to let someone be in my brain and body for one day. Because at the end of the day I still long for being understood by those close to me, though I know that I should be focusing on how to do better for myself.
I’m sorry for the negative note of this post. I figured if I’d be understood somewhere it’s here. I’d love to hear any similar thoughts/experiences from you or advice. Make sure to stay hydrated and treat yourself today. I hope you have a wonderful day.
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ADHD
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With my OCD, I feel I need to keep note of good things in my life and almost feel guilty for them. I still have my problems with health, relationships, family, money, ocd etc but for the good things I do have, I feel so guilty and feel I need to keep reminding myself of them in my head. Even little things if someone gives me a compliment I feel I need to keep track of it and play it down and almost dismiss it as ‘everyone gets compliments like that’. Even just really simple things like my nephew saying something funny or nice that I don’t want to forget. It’s hard to explain. I just want to relax and not have to feel this guilt for everything.
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OCD
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I was actively abused from age 14-16 (im almost 19 now.) it was a horrible life i was living. I'm grateful its over but the pain, nightmares and panic attacks and intrusive thoughts. never end. If I see a person that has similar features to one of my abusers I start to panic and hope its not them or I'll be sick. Same thing if I see my abusers online, i get sick. I don't know why but I've had an abuser pop up in "people you may know" I felt so sick I looked at his photo thinking it can't be and i felt so nauseated. My heart races and I have those intrusive thoughts. Weeks later I still think back to that moment. If you're wondering I actually have been to therapy especially as a teenager after that and they blamed me for being the one talking to an older guy. Shamed me and when I was crying and saying I want to leave she said no.
It made me never want to go to therapy again. I already had a hard time speaking to adults as I'm autistic.. How do i cope with these things? I talk to my significant other about it all and i always have but I don't want to burden him.. I often also feel guilty for the nightmares I have because i see my abusers and they do awful things to me sometimes or i run from those things. I'm scared I'll see my abusers in real life as they don't all live that far from me, I can't move away. If I see similar cars or silhouettes im sick as a dog. What can i do?
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ptsd
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I tried for the second time in about 7 years to talk to my mom about the possibility I may be on the autism spectrum. (No formal diagnosis and likely won’t seek one for a variety of personal and professional reasons. My AQ is 38, my RAADS-R is 175, and... it just slaps me in the face reading about the condition and others who were diagnosed later in life.) I believe she feels responsible, like she should have caught it. I’m a child of the 80s... nobody was looking for it, and I had sketchy pediatric care. I’m not looking to assign blame or to make some sweeping changes in my life. But I do feel that “life” owes me some explanations on why I am who I am if that makes sense. I’m not unhappy with my life but I’m unhappy with how I arrived here.
I believe that she doesn’t want to believe it. She sees me as “functional” and “successful” but doesn’t see the daily struggle behind that. She remembers me as having “good motor skills”, forgetting that I had to take remedial handwriting class during recess and couldn’t color in the lines until like 5th grade. She told me they probably just had to fill a slot in the class and randomly chose me. I sucked at sports but she doesn’t remember because now I’m an endurance athlete. She thought I was shy because I was bullied. She didn’t realize I was bullied because I was painfully socially awkward. She forgets calling me weird for asking her to participate in my OCD-ish morning ritual before going to school. She doesn’t realize that when I ask her to stop changing the subject it’s because I’m talking about something I’m really interested in and could go on for hours. She doesn’t get that I owe my current success to adopting mannerisms, sayings, facial expressions, jokes, etc that I have “stolen” from others. She doesn’t see that I can’t have a comfortable conversation even with close relatives. She doesn’t get that my monotone voice (which I am still teased about to some degree as a grown-ass man) isn’t a choice. She thinks I’m the only one not crying at funerals because I’m strong and stoic from two decades of working in Emergency Medicine and a war zone deployment. She doesn’t get that I can’t cry... even if I were to try. I want people to listen to me talk but hate praise. I hate being touched except by my wife and kids. If foods gross me out, it’s a serious issue.... not just a preference. I can’t get along with my in-laws because I just can’t feel comfortable talking to them. They think I’m a cold asshole not realizing I’d give my life for any of them in a heartbeat. Every conflict in my life consumes me... until I have to confront a new conflict. I sucked at therapy.
I guess I wish she understood it. She doesn’t understand why I want to know. “Why now? Ok, so what if you are? What can you do about it? Just change your behavior.” I don’t know that I can. But she’s right. What can I do except just know?
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I know this sounds cliche, but I do want to spread positivity. I(NT) have been in a lot of doubts about my relationship in past, but I realised, I can get into my head and ruin things for myself.
I just wanted to just boast about my BF(AS). He is respectful, helpful, keeps me grounded and has a heart of gold. I want to share one story.
We go to a roller hockey park every weekend when he comes over. Teenagers, vandalized the roller hockey rink and wrote some indecent words inside the rink. It is a public park and little kids comes to skate there. As soon as he realised what was written by chalk, he used water and his snow brush to clean the rink so that kids don't read it. My respect and love for him increased a lot that day.
He not only cares about me, he cares about people. He also helped me get my driver's license. Although I do tell him that I appreciate him, but I want to tell everyone how good of a person he is.
Any advice on how to make him happy or be helpful to him would also be appreciated.
I would appreciate if anyone else with a positive story to share about themselves or their partners.
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aspergers
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Is anyone not that excited that all the lockdowns will end soon since no friends to enjoy going out with etc
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aspergers
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I am NT. If I just have to look into someone's eyes without talking, it is uncomfortable. But: If they are talking, it is not uncomfortable, it helps understanding what they say.
Why?
Because during talking, it doesn't feel like eyecontact. Their eyes are like screens that transmit information.
They look in my eyes: the info they are saying is important, they need my attention. They look away: they are thinking or embarassed about what they say.
Their eyes tell me if what they say is serious or sarcastic; if it makes them sad or happy, worried or relieved.
With my eyes, I give feedback: compassion if I see "sad" in their eyes and smiling if I see "funny" in their eyes.
Sometimes, we don't talk but exchange glances that comment on the situation. For example, something funny happens and we communicate with our eyes "This is funny."
If there is no eye-communication, just plain looking into each other's eyes it is very intimate for NTs too, and as such, uncomfortable. We would do it if we are in love... typically before kissing.
Edit: grammar
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aspergers
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Sometimes I have all the PTSD symptoms (I am diagnosed), and I have an insanely hard time living my life. Then every once in a while I have a few days or a week that I just feel okay and it’s all better.
Does anyone else have this happen? It makes me feel like maybe I’m making it all up... I can’t help but be waiting for the next panic attack or flashback all the time.
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ptsd
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Hi guys, throwaway for obvious reasons. Like the title says i'm mid20s female.
Real event OCD is making me suffer and feel hopeless. I obsess over getting exposed for the some things I've done 5+ years ago, compounded by the fact that I have a partner who I love so much and who I'd never want to hurt. We've been together for a year and a half. I've been dealing with OCD for my whole life but real event since I was in my early 20s. It's always there, but my serious episodes come in short waves and are pretty severe (constant crying, ruminating, not eating).
I know people are not defined by their worst acts and none of the things I obsess over are things I could go to jail for. They're just socially egregious. They are.
My partner and I just moved in together and it's hard to hide the crying and self-hatred from him. I can't be present with him as I constantly ruminate and am weepy. In my mind I'm positive I'll be exposed for my worst acts and that I will lose the love of my life, even though I'm not that person anymore.
I've cut myself off from so many people and have been a bad friend because I've wanted to disappear for the past year. I recently relocated to a different state and maybe told a handful of people that include my family. "Dropping out" of society or whatever also disrupts my self-image because it makes me feel like a secretive person for good reason, like I can't actually "prove" that I'm a better person from before even if I try to be.
I feel like such a fuckup and I want to die. If my fears don't come true, my OCD will still punish me forever. And it is hard to feel like a dignified adult when real event OCD affects my confidence.
I've been watching Nathan Peterson videos but at this point I need meds and ERP therapy. Due to it being real event the latter option sounds terrifying. I need support so badly.
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OCD
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My teachers said I was a bright kid and I did well in school, I had a decent amount of good friends and there was a girl I really liked that I was planning on asking out. Headed home from school for Christmas break and then a couple days later the unimaginable happened. My mom collapsed in the living room and passed away hours later in the hospital. I had my teenage years ripped away just like that. I was diagnosed with severe PTSD and anxiety. I connected with a school counselor that understood me and helped me a couple weeks after. Then he disappeared after a few sessions and I later found out he was arrested for possession of child p\*\*n. I tried to get back into school but then some asshole teacher reads a book out loud to the class about a teenager who lost his mom in the hospital. Nobody knew what I was going through except my family and a couple of my closest friends but even they didn't understand. I went through multiple therapists that didn't do anything. I lost hope and began developing suicidal thoughts. I was having constant flashbacks and panic attacks. I finally found someone that helped and did EMDR with me. I had hope for the first time in months that I could get through this. I pushed myself too far with the EMDR and I began to get panicked when meeting the therapist even though it wasn't for EMDR. I pushed myself too far and it ended up hurting me. FUCK. I began to get my sleep under control and even ended up finding a medication that helped with the flashbacks. I turned 15 last month and I've noticed myself improving slowly. I've been more calm and when I'm calm I can handle my triggers better. I've still got a long road to recovery but at least I can see the fucking road. If you did read this thank you I just had to let this out. I wish I knew how good I had it before this past year.
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ptsd
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(In addition to the title: high functioning autism hypomania)
Im (double diagnosed) autistic and “suffer” from bipolar disorder. My autism therapist has 2 more client’s with both conditions, according to her the 3 of us are very similar in our struggle. Because of this coctail our autism kinda works differently from those without bipolar disorder.
I was wondering, are there many people on this sub with both conditions and when in an (hypo)manic) state, wat do you experience?
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aspergers
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What a terrible test.
Has anyone actually had any positive experiences with this test?
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My son was taken into a room without us to try the test runs for the test, they tried 3 times and was unable to keep still enough or stop messing with the big red ball they dangled in his face (duh he has ADHD)
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It seems like a test designed to be hard for ADHD children to even do, and because he wasn't able to do it they refused to give any results or observations, so it was a massive waste of time. Thankfully UK it didnt cost us anything, but I'm just shocked at useless it was after they talked it up to us
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ADHD
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There's a (surprisingly appropriate) genre of Facebook post I've dubbed "this is my face". Usually women. A close-up of her face. The text for the comment is something like "it's raining outside, watching Game of Thrones". The comments are usually something like "You're so beautiful.", coming at least as often from women as from men.
My Sperger nervous system perceives these posters as possessed of a burning need to say to the world "this is my face". I think I'm missing something fundamental about what is going on here. Can you please explain?
Is it as simple as fishing for a compliment? I worry for people whose self esteem is so dependent on this kind of external validation. You need to love yourself. Others are fickle.
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aspergers
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Are you interested in starting your own business? The Library of Congress Veterans History Project is hosting a free webinar for veterans, focusing on the challenges and opportunities available for veterans and nonveterans starting their own business while managing Post-Traumatic Stress.
Speakers include:
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Veteran business owners and nonprofit founders.
The webinar is today, 6/24 at noon eastern. Register at http://ptsvetbusiness.eventbrite.com, or attend directly with this link: https://locgov.webex.com/locgov/onstage/g.php?MTID=e5bbc020a9c9fc67f09ad3157680fdfb1
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ptsd
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I can’t say it enough. I haven’t been this happy in a long time.
My (36/m) new SO (36/f) and I started dating a few months ago and things have progressed quickly. We have spent a lot of time together, mostly at my condo hanging out and spending time together. We cook together, watch Netflix and just enjoy our time together. Eventually we fell in love and it’s been great.
I hadn’t felt comfortable telling anyone outside my family about my Asperger’s but I somehow worked up the courage to tell her. The conversation went something like this.
SO: What’s on your mind.
Me: I’m just tired.
SO: Baby, please just tell me.
Me: (deep breath) Well, I’m just going to say it. I’m autistic. I’m on the spectrum.
SO: I know
Me: How could you tell?
SO: I’ve seen how you clean everything and how you tap your fingers.
Me: I didn’t know it was that obvious.
SO: It’s just what makes you you. We’re all different. I love you.
Me: I love you too
(hugs)
I’m seeing her again in a little bit but I wanted to share this to tell you something that I didn’t believe until recently. There is someone out there for you, no matter what you have. You just have to keep on trying.
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aspergers
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Ive only been in a couple sessions, but my therapist really helped me understand whats going on. Linked below are some articles she had me read. If you need therapy btw, try NOCD.
I have SO-OCD and constantly worry if im being bisexual. It doesnt matter what theme i have bc beyond that is a general fear of something that is stronger and more important: i dont want to be a liar, an imposter in the LGBTQ community. Even typing out my fear makes me think… hm maybe i have straight-OCD. That thought i just had is what many ppl consider and intrusive thought… but its actually rumination, a huge compulsion we all do. You can control the thoughts you have, but you cant control the situations that cause them.
For example: a pretty girl walked into a store i was in. Thats it. This is the situation.
My thoughts would then turn to: im attracted to her. Im bi……Oops i didnt mean to think that, its intrusive. The way to get it to stop bothering you… is to not engage at all. The “haha, sure, im gay” response tires out, and once you arent anxious from responding like that, itll keep coming back. The point we have to get to is the same point we achieve when we can even tune out roaring traffic for a second. Do you ever notice when youre walking that you dont pay attention to the sound of cars driving? You cant stop it, you could yell at it, but it wouldnt do anything. Its just there. Allow it (your thoughts) to be there. Dont try to distract yourself from it (its kinda like the Streisand effect if you do), dont engage with the thought and try to figure it out, just let it be.
Some examples of other themes could be allowing your hands to be dirty and just know that they are/dont do anything to them. You think you made a mistake with whatever you did; just let it go.
Remember if there are negative thoughts like “im not good at my job/school” “im a loser for not being able to control my thoughts and ocd”, remind yourself that you are human. What would your partner or best friend say? Treat yourself like someone who loves you does.
[“Defining Rumination”](https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/defining-rumination/)
[Rumination is a Compulsion, Not an Obsession, and That Means You Have to Stop](https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/rumination-is-a-compulsion-not-an-obsession-and-that-means-you-have-to-stop/)
[How to Stop Ruminating](https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/how-to-stop-ruminating/)
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OCD
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How do you guys stay on track with your tasks without getting completely overwhelmed by the pressure of multiple impending deadlines on top of the looming awareness that your ADHD is going to be giving you a hard time every step of the way? Right now I have three big work tasks to tend to and I feel massively stressed out and incompetent. Any insight, advice, or words of commiseration would be greatly appreciated.
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ADHD
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My son will be starting 4th grade next year and struggles with relationships, focus and executive function. He's friendly but ends up overdoing it with other kids. I was hoping his getting older would help but it's slow going.
I would love to get an opinion from ADHD / ASD combo types about which educational environment would have suited them best. Maybe the hybrid 2 days in classroom and 3 day homeschool, or the structure of 5 days traditional or homeschool with group meet ups? Thanks!
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aspergers
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Im sick of my life being shit, it's always been shit
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depression
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I have family members that never seem to make good decisions, and are rarely ever able to manage things well. So I feel a compulsion to always provide advice and help them with various situations.
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I'm guessing the best thing is to reduce this amount, but wondered if this was type of an OCD thing?
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I have OCD in my family and lots of other OCD things, Contamination, cleaning, checking, confessing etc
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OCD
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Hi All,
I cannot describe how much I hate it. My wife is always asking me to do this and that, it’s like I am not good enough. What makes it even more frustrating is I cannot determine if she is being super bossy or if it’s perfectly normal behaviour. It’s a common source of arguments.
Does anyone else share this experience?
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aspergers
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Today I unwillingly entertained the possibility that Round 3 might be here. Stopped to think that saying "maybe today is a bad day, tomorrow will be different" for 3ish months isn't going to cut it any more. All the signs were there, but funny I decided to think about the possibility only when my usual somatic symptoms showed up (excessive dreaming). Where do I go from here? Part of me is relieved. I can stop calling it "my life force has dried up" like I did the past few weeks. I'll take depression over the latter for a few reasons. The known devil is than the unknown angel. If you're like me and have had enough episodes of clinical depression (didn't count the minor ones, may have bundled two into one), you will know that depression, like the seasons almost always has a return ticket. I see it like any other medical condition-no shame/ stigma, take care of medical necessities and the disease will take care of itself. In my head believing I have an extended flu is much more manageable than surviving the darkness of the soul. CBT, DBT, self care etc and the storm passes. I can do that. Unlike the past (2009, 2014) I don't want to tell anybody who cares about me because I hate it when I have to be taken care of, and some will incorrectly think it's their fault. It is nobody's fault, just my brain's wiring. And I am afraid, yes. Mine is predominantly high-functioning depression. Loved ones are going to see me at my best, with a smile on my face. But what if I fuck up and they leave, without ever knowing the fuck up came from a place of pain?
Can a kind soul tell me this is going to pass? Thank you. :) I can't wait for my head to feel like myself again.🤞
P.S. Frst post here, how is everyone doing?
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depression
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I met this girl three years ago and we actually hit it off, I was so happy, but after a bad group outing she stopped responding to my messages, so I thought she didn't want anything to do with me anymore.
Fast forward to the start of this year, I was entering what I now realize was the first stage of my current severe depression. I was lonely and at least wanted a friend who lived nearby, so I tagged out again and apologized for disappearing or whatever and we started talking again. It turned out that we still had feelings for each other, so we kind of flirted a but, but then I learned that she had a boyfriend, and even though everything she says about him makes him sound worse than me, she won't leave him. Well, a couple months go by and she starts to get into some serious life issues: a horrible car crash, multiple car issues, etc. So as a friend, and to be honest because I love her, I helped her financially since I was doing well after my tax return.
That brings us to now, I've ever up lending her well over $1300, and at this point she's won't even really talk to me beyond asking for help. She says it's because she's going through a lot, losing two family members and working a hectic schedule. I'm trying to be a good person, I want to help her selflessly, even if deep, deep down it may be just because I want to be with her, but I just can't shake the feeling that I'm nothing more than a talking atm to her at this point. It hurts me to think that way, but it also hurts to sheets be giving what little money I can earn to help her. I just don't know what to do anymore.
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aspergers
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I don't know why, but must of the time I feel like I'm not really depressed.
My depressive disorder is unpredictable. It's normal for me to be highly depressed for a week or two, and go a month living normaly. Or the other way around, like in 2017 I spent most of the year depressed, even my hair started to fall off because of the stress I was going through.
Today I messed up some college assignments because I couldn't get out of my bed. Although I still did for a few moments to keep pretending to my family I'm not depressed. At the end of the day I was very sad because of the assignment problem and caught myself thinking ''There's no way for me, I'm so lazy!'' and saw a red flag. I know this isn't lazyness. It's not normal to be lazy to get out of your bed, to eat, talk to your loved ones, do things you think are fun.
I don't do anything fun anymore, and when I do I don't feel any joy in doing so, and yet I still think this is a illusion created by myself.
In the past months I've been in the doctor's office several times to treat other conditions and never once mentioned my suspicious of being depressed, because I thought I was exaggerating things. It took me to be affected in my academic life to realize maybe I'm not making this up.
Do you feel this way too?
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depression
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I get this intense all-consuming rage whenever injustice is being done. Even dumb things like people thinking they're better than others, or having to stay late at work every day when this wasn't in my contract. Is this a symptom or not? The rage is really uncomfortable and just doesn't fit at all with the rest of my personality, if that makes any sense? It's like i'm someone else when i get like that. (I never act upon the rage tho, just let it sizzle within me lol) If it is a symptom, is there something to do about it? Thanks!
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OCD
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You're not the only person that exists, some of us are going through shit too. Please just ask I can't handle this anymore
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depression
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Hi guys, my psychiatrist is considering putting me on a new med after Sertraline, which has been making me nothing but terrible and not sure if it’s placebo, but she’s considering Fluvoxamine, Lexapro and Paroxetine. May I know which one are you on and if they are ideal for you? I personally wouldn’t plan to be on these meds for the rest of my life given they all have side effects (that’s another topic for another day) but I just want to tide over the OCD anxiety and depressed feelings for now.
Thanks :)
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OCD
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i have very few definitive triggers. police (seeing them, hearing them, lights, sirens, any of it) and being controlled. that’s it.
but i’m a very empathetic person and i feel like i get triggered in a way that’s so abstract it’s hard to predict or control. if i’m reading a book or watching a movie and i connect with it, i literally feel like i’m in the situation the character is in and my emotions react accordingly. not like, cry because of a sad scene and then get over it, i mean it really sticks with me. i read a book once and for days i couldn’t function properly.
and when i say it’s abstract i mean i literally can’t predict it. i can watch a movie that should be really triggering (r*pe scenes, abuse, self harm, etc) and not get triggered at all. but then i can be watching a tv show and something small reminds me of a bunch of things and it’s a domino effect.
i was just curious if this is a common occurrence that just isn’t talked about because it’s more difficult to explain than concrete triggers.
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ptsd
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Hey all, I was wondering if this happens to anyone else:
I'll wake up at a normal hour, like 8 or 9 AM, and usually it takes me a bit to get up, but if I have any motivation for getting things done in the morning, it usually completely goes away or diminishes by around 12 PM or shortly afterwards.
Can anyone else relate to or offer insight into the sudden drop in energy? I feel like it's pretty cyclical and weird.
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ADHD
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I feel like my mind is about to expolde, i am afraid of believeing intrusive thought i know is not true, my body feels like its trembling on the inside, my sould feels cracked and i wanna cry but i cant, i wanna scream and shout till i lose my voice...
and i feel exhausted from everything, from fighting all day every day, but i dont want to stop, i can't stop, cause i've come this far, i survived and remain sane till now, i can't let it all go...
but for one night i just want ordinary dumb sleep, without dreams, nightmares, constant tossing and turning and waking up, without having to fight all my demons till i faint if i want to sleep...
to be honest i have this crazy thought going again and again in my brain that someone will replace me, that i will become someone else. i know it can't happen, and now that i have written it i see how awfully retarded it sounds. my therapist says that's cause i care deeply about my identity and about what makes me me, about my family, about my life, about what kind of person i want to be and about my beliefs...
tonight is just another night like that, but i wanted to do something, even if it meant writting it and sending into the void...
i guess there are people only on this sub who are able to understand me
i hope you guys are currently doing better than me and that we all can learn to handle our demons and sleep peacefully at night
to be honest i am dedicating my masters thesis at uni to mental health, even tho i don't study medicine nor psychology
i hope my work will help at least one person when i finish it
it will take me two years to do it, but if it helps someone it will be worth all the time in the world
i hope i dont sound like completely crazy person, cause i know this post is just a bunch of unrelated thoughts, fears and wishes...
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OCD
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With their "thats not ocd" " I dont believe you have ocd cause youre not organized" "everyones like that"
Sometimes I just wanna shove my antipsychotics prescription up their ass
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OCD
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TLDR - average couples counselling, has anyone had a good experience with psychologist more Aspie focus?
I found out I had aspergers, which highlighted a number of issues that I had being in a relationship. We read up on some studies and articles - which TBH were really depressing... we agreed we need some counselling to try and improve things.
My psychologist referred me to another who did couples counselling and supposedly specialised in ND/NT counselling. I learnt very quickly that this new psychologist didn't seem to have much of a grasp on aspergers, just one of those people who thought they knew everything e.g. tried to talk down to me about calling it aspergers, before I even spoke with her she told my partner she thought I had ADHD based on what partner had told her (like who diagnoses someone to another person based on a few scenarios?), tried to tell me I had ADHD until tests resulted in a firm 'negative' and finally told me "ASD doesn't make you tired"... well let's agree to disagree there.
Nevertheless, we had some individual sessions and then couples sessions. She basically said it was no different to any other couples issues and gave us a bunch of articles and info. Fine - that's great and I'm not saying some of the info isn't helpful, but I was hoping for some specific things to help me as someone with Aspergers be a better partner.
Therefore my question - has anyone else been through similar and found counselling useful to someone with Aspergers / Aspie/NT relationship?
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aspergers
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Guys, I am just so tired.
Even if I do EVERYTHING right, and jump through all the hoops each month so my Rx gets refilled, other people’s mistakes will cause me to go without meds.
Call my doc Friday morning before work for a refill. After work, go to pharmacy to pick up meds only to find out doc sent it to the WRONG pharmacy 3 hours away. Usually this is nbd, but since it’s adderall they need a NEW RX and can’t just transfer the Rx despite them both being CVS.
Weekend passes without meds. Call today, doc sends a new Rx to right pharmacy. Call CVS after work to find out they can’t fill it because the original Rx had been filled at wrong pharmacy despite me NOT PICKING IT UP and they can see on their system I haven’t filled it. I have to call them to cancel.
Of course.
Call wrong pharmacy and they cancel it.
Call back my CVS. Another problem. This Rx says that it can’t be dispensed for a month. I need to call doc to resend Rx to fix problem.
Call doc, who sends updated Rx.
Call CVS AGAIN, only to find out the updated Rx has the same issue. Can’t be dispensed for a month.
Wonderful. It’s now 5:45PM and doctors office is closed. Freaking try again tomorrow I guess.
I’ve been without meds for 3 days now. Withdrawal is great :)
Doesn’t help that by the end of today I basically felt like l looked like a drug addict, calling 6+ times about adderall and could tell everyone was getting annoyed with me.
I tried so hard and I’m just so upset the system is so stacked against us trying to obtain a medication we need.
All I could do this weekend was sleep. Could barely get myself up to eat once a day.
I used all my willpower to get up and get to clinicals to work today. I regret not calling off because not surprisingly I had a horrible day.
The process of getting meds refilled can be such a clusterfuck. Without adderall, my executive function is so bad I’m basically useless so I do my best to get a refill each month so I don’t go without my meds and can actually function in society.
Sorry for the rant I just needed to get it out. This ended up way longer than I expected.
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ADHD
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I have diagnosed GAD & OCD. I went to therapy over the summer and it really helped with a lot of my problems and I feel like I have so much more control over my anxiety now, but there's one area of my issues that I didn't get to cover with my therapist because, frankly, I kind of forgot that it's a problem. Or at least, I thought it'd gone away by now.
When I was sixteen I started skipping school. I was struggling a lot with depressive periods/undiagonsed anxiety problems and I found that school was very stressful for me. I didn't have friends (just broke up with my friend group the previous summer), I didn't really fit in, and I just found being by myself at home so much more comforting and easier. Obviously I got in a lot of trouble for this as I ended up skipping SO much that my school threatened to phone child services and my mum found out and it was this huge big mess.
Fast forward to 1st year of university, I start feeling depressed and anxious again (always October - December time of year hits me worst! Weird pattern) and I begin not going to my uni classes. I get an email saying I have to start going or they're gonna kick me out. I have a meltdown, realise I hate my uni because, again, I have no friends and all in all I just didn't like it there and I hated every part of it so I dropped out.
Cut to now, I'm in my 2nd year of a new university doing a course I REALLY love, with nice people in the class and I live in a nice city, but I'm still skipping classes (last year was online cause of COVID so I didn't have the same problem). It's week 6 of my course right now and I've only shown up to a handful of classes in total. One of the classes, I've only been to ONCE. I don't know why. I know part of it is that I'm anxious because I still don't really have friends yet. I've found it incredibly difficult to make friends ever since my main friend group split up all the way back in high school. I really like my classes when I'm there though, and like I said, the people are really nice even though we don't ever hang out outside of class or anything. I don't know what's wrong with me. I just can't force myself to go. It's like there's a physical weight holding my body down or blocking the door and I just can't do it. I know it sounds pathetic but it's really affecting me especially since part of my grade is marked on attendance. I'm wasting my money and my time.
I don't know what I can do to break this cycle. I can't afford therapy anymore and I'm too embarrassed to tell my lecturers what's really wrong because I did that at my old uni and they laughed in my face and told me "everyone feels anxious sometimes" and completely invalidated me. I don't want to get kicked out of uni and I'm sick of feeling like shit and hating myself for skipping school and lying to people about the real reason why I'm not going.
Someone please help me or give me some advice. I don't even know what kind of advice I'm asking for but if anyone has made it through a similar battle I would love to know how you did it.
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OCD
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I was finishing up a report for a grad-school related project with my teammates. As we were finishing up, one of them made a joke about be “so OCD” because they had to double check some things on the report, such as formatting. The other teammate played along and joked about OCD as well. We were typing over an instant messenger, so I had some time to think privately about how it felt and whether I should say something.
I decided that I needed to say something about it, but I was struggling because I got anxious thinking that if I said I had OCD and talked about why the jokes were hurtful, they might stop liking me, or they’d think it would be annoying if I said something, or they wouldn’t really care, etc.
I ended up messaging the group chat a short to-the-point message about the OCD jokes, but I didn’t make it about the fact that I, personally, felt hurt by it. Rather I mentioned that I have friends who had OCD who really struggle in their daily lives, and that I sympathize with them. The friends that you mention don’t even need to be real people, but you just make them up on the spot to get the point across. If you mention the symptoms, you can list some of the symptoms you personally experience, or some of the other known symptoms to get the point across (being too afraid to leave the house, difficulty staying employed, etc.).
I guess what I’m saying is that my anxiety got the best of me, and told me that if I talk about my own experience as a person with OCD, that my teammates will somehow hate me. I will need to work on this, but I still wanted to address the OCD jokes, so I mentioned symptoms of people I knew (and my symptoms) to get the point across, without making it about me. It was also a helpful exercise in learning to empathize with my own experience.
And as it turned out, they were glad I said something and agreed fully with what I was saying!
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OCD
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Ive got a load of homework i was given to do over half term and yet here i am refusing to do it and most of it is due tomorrow.
My brain is extremely stubborn and refuses to do it. I used to be really good at staying up to date with work now my brain just refuses.
Anyone have any tips as to how to stay motivated?
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ADHD
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hey, so i’m sure you’re curious about what my title meant, so i’ll just explain briefly:
this subreddit has made me feel so much less alone in my diagnosis, and i genuinely just feel so much love from this group of people. having PTSD isn’t something that i’m totally okay with, but i genuinely have a deeper acceptance for myself, my symptoms & my diagnosis because of this group. i just wanted to thank you guys for being such an amazing group, you’re amazing. ALSO! i stopped self harming because of this group, so i really just wanted to thank you all for everything.♡ -bella!
edit: hi loves! i know there are only a couple replies to this post, but i genuinely appreciate the positivity. it gives me hope in this negative and cruel world ♡
in case you couldn’t tell from this post, i’m always here if you want to talk :”) i’m new to reddit, so i’m not exactly sure how everything works (direct messaging, commenting, etc.) yet, so if you i don’t answer you here, all of my social medias are under the same user :) (@bellacyrusmille)
sending love towards any & every person reading this.
it will get better soon. i promise. -b
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ptsd
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I've (32M) been depressed my whole life basically but for most of it I still had some goals. Now I've lost my career and have nothing else really to motivate me to get out of bed in the morning. I've desperately wanted to be in a relationship my whole life but it hasn't really happened. But since ambition (i.e. ability to make more money) is pretty much an absolutely requirement for women, I don't see it happening unless I figure out what career I want. But I just don't want to do anything. I look at my other friends' careers and none of them sound interesting or like anything I would want to do except to maybe be worthy of love apparently. It's not that I'm lazy. I worked my ass off in school and in my past career but it was because I was motivated and was passionate about it.
The list of careers that I'm interested in (musician, college professor, making guitars or instruments) have few prospects either because they are low paying or because they are super hard jobs to get. The only thing I really want to do is play music but I make barely any money out of it and it won't provide enough financial stability to please most women. And yes I know people say that's unhealthy and that I should pursue a career that I personally want not to find a partner but in the absence of any career choices that I both find interesting and make a decent living my only really motivation to do them is for a future partner
I don't want to feel like this and I want a career that I love or can at least tolerate but there is nothing that I'm interested in enough put in the work and hours so if that doesn't change I'm going to be alone indefinitely
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depression
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that part of life man..
I'm in my 20s living in an apartment with my fiance working 40 hours a week as a house painter, barely making ends meet every month.
All I can think about lately is how much I miss being a child. How much I miss being so excited about the smallest things. Around this time of year I would download an app on my iPod touch with a Christmas countdown on it, and I remember being so damn excited every single day. I remember genuinely being so excited to go to school everyday, or even when there were snow days man... I would make snowmen all damn day. I would color, draw, talk with my friends on the landline, over Skype, play stupid games at recess, be overwhelmingly excited about the holidays.
Fast forward to now and I'm crying over struggling to pay rent every month, having a mental breakdown because our dog needs surgery. My entire family is broken apart. Nobody talks to me, I have no friends anymore. Everyone at work is miserable,, saying how they can't barely afford their bills either. I mean we sit and stare at walls all day.. it's not fun.. The holidays are the most lonely time of the year, and nothing excites me anymore. Sometimes I just want it all to be over, like childhood was as good as life gets.
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depression
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I understand that it's common for people with ADHD to be called lazy and that's awful for something you cannot control. But I also see lots of people here posting about how hard they try to, say, keep up with chores but they just forget or get distracted or just cannot do it for ADHD reasons.
But what if someone with ADHD also has a personality that just doesn't want to work hard or improve. Like, they like the idea of betterment and a clean home etc but they flat out refuse to put forth any effort. To the point of refusal.
Is this a subtype of ADHD or some other treatable condition, or are some people just actually lazy on top of having this condition?
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ADHD
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How effective are they now, vs when you first started taking them?
How many times have you needed to modify your dosage?
Have you changed meds over the years?
Adderall has been life changing for me and it has only been a few weeks since I started. I keep having thoughts though that it will stop working eventually.
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ADHD
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I've posted on here recently about struggling to come to terms with my diagnosis, and apologies if I cause offence to what I assume are well-meaning people, but the only things I have been told, even by my own mother, is that I should somehow "embrace" being autistic and become some kind of activist on it. But i don't want to make autism who I am. I don't want to be this solitary person forever, I don't actually choose solitutde, I think some autistic people probably do, and in certain situations, I do, but i hate the social isolation. With this in mind, has anyone here been able to overcome their difficulties in social interaction, and have friends and relationships like any NT person? Thank you
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aspergers
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Therapy is too expensive
I was looking for an ocd therapist in us or UK cuz there are the best therapists and it's difficult to find therapist in my country.
But the costs for therapy there are about 140-450 pro session. I think u need at least one session pro week so it is at least 560 $ monthly.
How do u deal with these high costs? Its too expensive for me :-(
Nocd is also not available in my country - Germany
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OCD
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Pls dont seek for ressurance on that subreddit and ask more for videos with professional Persons who are dealing with OCD.
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OCD
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