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Just started meds? Talk about it here. Please remember that we don't allow asking for or giving medical advice.
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ADHD
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Does anyone here feel like even though you are high functioning, you still don't know how to live independently?
For example, I worry way too much and would require someone's reassurance. Even though yes psychologist said to recognise when that happens and practice finding out by yourself you still struggle. You feel this need for help.
Autism and anxiety commonly goes hand in hand, I'm a massive worrier. No matter how much counseling. And yeah, I reckon it irritates people, annoys people, putting stress on them. It's like I don't know how to solve my problems that why I do it?? Hence the factor why I can't live independently.
I wanna take care of myself!! 😭
Were you once like this and how did you overcome?
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aspergers
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Hi :)
I have been suffering from OCD since I was a child. It started with washing my hands over and over again, and a lot of compulsions related to contamination. I also had other compulsions over the years, but lately I noticed I mostly suffer from obsessions related to questioning my intelligence, my physical health, or loss of a loved one. Basically those are obsessions without compulsions (the compulsions may be reassurance from doctors regarding my intelligence or physical health).
Do you also suffer more from obsessions or maybe exclusively?
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OCD
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i can do this i’m going to go a whole day without compulsive behavior. no mental rumination, no repetitive behavior, just going to behave regularly. it’s going to be tough, but i can do this
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OCD
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Does anybody have problems with constantly obsessing over something? I find myself thinking and worrying about one specific thing until I completely resolve it. It jumps from one thing to another. I understand there is a normalcy to worrying but I feel as if these constant thoughts are really deteriorating me emotionally and physically. First it was, “Is my house foundation crumbling? I should really look into that but don’t have the money” then to “I have to get my car maintenance done before it’s too late”. When in reality these things aren’t an immediate emergency
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OCD
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I have been doing very poorly in my two jobs because of my severe depression, and they are easy call center jobs. I’m struggling immensely in all facets, and can barely even keep myself awake now most days. I would prefer to sleep and just hide away from the ugly reality we are all in nowadays. I guess there is no way to improve my work performance without some hope of the world at least returning to a fully functioning level again, but who knows how far off this will be.
At my pest control job, I found out that I got a 35% on one of my call quality scores for one call I did, and I’m generally very tried and stressed while working nowadays most of the time. Covid has really stressed me out to the point I can barely function, and when everyone you talk to is similarly depressed, it does not help.
I feel quite hopeless and have no hope for the future.
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depression
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My 7 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago. I have always wanted my kids to learn music, and would like to enroll him in learning an instrument - I lean towards piano as we have an upright. He is very intelligent for his age but has significant trouble with impulse control and focus (has meds but still struggles). I am wondering if anyone here with moderate/severe ADHD symptoms can share experiences with learning to play an instrument as a kid?
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ADHD
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Hello there, I wish you well and I want to share something that’s always been bothering me. So it has caught my attention that I’ve never ever been able to understand a single movie or tv show if it’s the first time I’m watching. I always have to read plot summaries afterwards or watch it again in order to fully understand it.
When I’m watching movies with someone I would find myself frequently asking, “who’s this?” “What are they doing?” “Why did they do that?” And if I’m watching alone, well I just get extremely confused and keep guessing what’s going on. Sometimes I guess right, but sometimes I just get more and more lost that it frustrates me to a great extent.
I don’t think I’m retarded. I’m able to understand and solve rather complex logical problems, but not some soap opera shows with shitty plot. I suspect that it has something to do with my ADHD, but I’m not certain. I’ve ever heard of anyone else having the same issues as me.
I was diagnosed four years ago but I think I’ve had it for the entirety for my life. I took Concerta for a few months but eventually stopped, because it only makes my tics worse. (I also have light Tourette’s.) And I haven’t been on any meds since.
Does anyone else also have this problem? Is there a way I can actually fix it? Is it worth to go consult a psychiatrist? (They’re very expensive) I’m so sick of being unable to understand movies and I want to put an end to this.
Thanks for reading my rant. Sorry if it’s a mess, English is not my first language.
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ADHD
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I am way too honest about my intrusive thoughts with my boyfriend. We have been together for almost two years. The honesty is like word vomit that I always regret saying afterwords. I feel so anxious because I feel like I crossed the line so much more this time. I don’t know what to do. Please help I hate feeling this so much. I’m in so much pain.
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OCD
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So I recently made the switch from Rubifen SR to dexamfetamine sulfate as I was wanting a bit more flexibility in my dosage schedule. Really happy with it so far but the only downside is that I need to pee constantly on it - like at least once an hour. It's only while the meds are in effect ( I'm not having to get up in the night or anything).
Anyone experience this or know what I should do to manage it? More water or less? More salt? Electrolyte drinks?
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ADHD
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Hi everyone I’m on adderall and I’m mainly having the side effects of running to the restroom 5 minutes at least after taking it and quite a few times after throughout the day, and no it’s not to pee. So I had a few questions I hope someone can answer.
1. Has anyone else had to constantly use the restroom like this while on adderall 10mg?
2. Has anyone changed their diet while on adderall? I want to start eating more healthy and organic but I don’t know how it’s going to change my medicine effects.
3. Have any humans with (vaginas) had problems with their Libido? I feel awful never being able to get that ummmm (wet) feel, I’m always (dry) and it’s always a problem for me even thought I feel in that (mood).
4. Does anyone else have problems with the downfall (wearing off) of the medication? My dr prescribed more for the afternoon when I tend to get aggravated and irratated because I know I can’t focus anymore.
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ADHD
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I saw a porn comic where the character gets sold into human trafficking. I’ll spare the details because I don’t want you to feel sad too. It’s been months and it still crosses my mind sometimes and keeps me up at night. I keep telling myself “it’s not real. It was just someone’s fantasy,” but I still feel sad.
How can I forget this comic, or at least stop feeling over it?
Edit: I found my picture of Van Gogh. It’s called rumination. [and I found a solution](https://youtu.be/o1G4JFuLlO8). It’s from an atheist channel which would be cringe, but he doesn’t do the “Christians are dumb and I’m smart” thing.
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aspergers
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I wanna have something to listen to about this stuff, or something to read to get a better idea about whats going on in my brain.
Podcast wise, something that can add a little humor? I don’t like listening to sad stuff with no breaks, idk what it is but it just makes me feel worse but hearing people be able to joke about trauma and stuff helps.
And with books, I just dont want one of those “Think Happier youll Be Happier” things if you know what I mean? Actual stories I can relate to help me immensely but idk where to start to look.
Sorry if this isnt enough detail or doesnt make sense, going on 24 hours of straight studying for finals and needed something for background noise lmao
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ptsd
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Recently, I decided to buy a bike and from then on I can't think of anything else except this and it has been tormenting me ever since. I am barely eating or doing anything else excepting obsessing over it
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OCD
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Do you also feel like you have a fever then you are stressed out, but don't have any symptoms like coughing, sneezing and headache and so on?
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aspergers
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I was diagnosed with ADHD from a very young age and was only medicated for it in elementary school, my mother took me off of the medication (I believe it was Ritalin) due to it increasing my heart rate to above normal amounts (or something like that)
Ever since my academics have been extremely poor and I was constantly berated for my poor performance due to me being lazy and unmotivated. I gave up eventually and believed it, as my mom told me that my ADHD wasn't exactly "severe" and that it "wore off on me". Only now have I been researching it and I came to the realization that the reason I do so poorly in school is because of my untreated ADHD and the effects of depression it's brought alongside with. Because of all of this, a less than ideal relationship with my parents growing up and other factors I now have GPA in highschool of 2.1 in my senior year and I am extremely introverted and depressed. I really want to get medication but my mom takes a negative approach to it and doesn't think it's serious and I feel alone in this regard. I don't know what to do
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ADHD
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I'm still in the process of accepting and believing this, but it's just the reality. Thoughts are just thoughts. Literally. They have no meaning, YOU give them meaning!
Those thoughts you find disgusting, shameful, obscene, they're just thoughts. You give then the meaning of being awful, but in reality they're just thoughts, and technically, they don't even exist. They're just in your mind!
Imagined stabbing someone? Just a thought.
Thought that something bad will happen if you don't do something? Just a thought.
Thought of a scenario where you're jumping in front of a car, being driven over? Just a thought.
Pictured doing something seggsual with someone inappropriate? Just a thought.
Also (kind of to myself too, I'm struggling with this rn) whatever you imagine, it doesn't mean it's a fantasy. A fantasy is something you feel happy about when you think it. It brings you joy and makes you want for it to happen. No negative emotions at all, no worries, no thinking it's wrong, no doubts.
Thoughts are not actions and are just scenarios our brain generates.
I've read somewhere that we all have these thoughts, but we generally don't pay attention to most of them. The ones your brain does pay attention to, are the ones that then appear in your mind.
I'm still learning to accept my thoughts, because they're really making me question myself and make me feel so guilty, especially when my mind imagines something for a few seconds instead of it being just a passing thought as I dwell in them (idk why but it happens).
I stopped feeling anxious and suddenly, my brain started coming up with even worse images and even worse scenarios even more frequently. Of course I feel guilty, but this just proved to me that it's the mind generating scenarios to prove you're a 'good' person, that your values haven't changed. Once you stop feeling anxious, the mind takes that as a 'oh no, i don't feel bad about the thoughts anymore, I need to make sure I don't like them' and it gets worse, an obsession starts, but that doesn't mean you're a bad person.
When you think of someone and judge them as being bad/good, what do you judge them by? What they're thinking? No, because you don't know unless they tell you. I doubt anyone talks about their dark thoughts. Even if you ask someone they could omit then because it's just something we don't talk about since it's become so stigmatized. So, you judge people by what? Their actions! And this reinforced the fact that thoughts are not actions, they're just thoughts.
So, no matter how bad the thoughts get, remember that they're not actions. Unless you act on them, or really intend to act on them (not in a 'what if, I could, maybe I'm capable, I could be in denial and I might' - no, when it's in a willful, no regret, no hesitation, no negative feeling way, just pure joy and happiness of the thought about doing it) you're not a serial killer, you're not a psychopath, you're not a rapist, you're not a pedo, you're not a bad person. You're just human.
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OCD
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Been struggling with i think HOCD, mainly, and sometimes a few other themes. I read on a page and it says “A person without OCD is not trying to figure out if their thoughts are evidence of ocd.” This kind of worried me because i take tests sometimes trying to figure out if i have OCD or if im in denial. I simply just dont know anymore. Am i taking this too literal? It all started with researching what a backdoor spike was. I dont even have anxiety right now im just worrying.
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OCD
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Im not too sure if this is an OCD thing, but im interested to see if anyone else does this. I find I explain/talk to myself about things A LOT. It can be my interests (explaining them as if im talking to someone else), answering random questions I saw online, explaining my past symptoms to myself, etc...
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OCD
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I'm at the end of my rope. I don't think I'll make it by the end of this year. The thoughts are getting worse, and my bodily responses aren't helping. They make me feel much more worse, actually. Am I in denial?
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OCD
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I didn't fancy myself as a bookworm my entire life but since being diagnosed and being able to name the disorder that was causing me to not commit to tasks as well as other people did, I've been able to see tasks to conclusion.
Today, I finished my first book: *"Order from Chaos: The Everyday Grind of Staying Organized with Adult ADHD"*
Would highy recommend it. It gives some neat practical tips. I'm so satisfied with this development and have even ordered another book to sink my teeth into 🙂😁
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ADHD
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I was recently diagnosed, and I’m working for a prescription to help me. My executive functioning is so bad, and I really hope it helps me.
I’d like to be able to get my homework done, eat an ACTUAL meal for once, be able to wash, dry, AND fold my laundry in the same day, be able to pay attention long enough to anything so that I can have fun. I just want to be able to do *something*
My mom has told me countless times that mEdiTaTiON iS kEy tO gEtTinG riD oF AdHD…
And to buy a planner…
And to just set an alarm on my phone…
What medications are you guys on and do they help?
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ADHD
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i’m 18 and am undergoing my 2nd year of the IBDP program. depression and suicidal thoughts have been with me for the last 3 and a bit years and has shown no sign of improving. i struggle every day mentally and can’t go 2 hours without thinking about ending my life in some way. i struggle with coming up with a method or else i would already be dead by now. paracetamol overdose is one of my only options and i don’t want to die a slow painful death. i opened up to my mom after breaking down when she asked why my schoolwork and social life was changing for the worse. being a caring mother, she’s been supporting me and wants me to see psychologists to help my case. i accepted her help but, deep down i don’t want help i just want everything to end. i just want to sleep
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depression
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I don't know if i truly have OCD but i felt a sense of relief when i discovered this subreddit knowing that I'm not alone on having intrusive thoughts. Thanks
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OCD
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I don't want to sound negative but I'm little angry about it. I see almost everyone on this sub suggest again and again erp therapy and of course this is logical cause this is the proper therapy but nobody takes into consideration that not all of the people in this sub live in America or somewhere where ocd specialists exist. And also in my understanding it's quite expensive to actually have an erp therapist. From the other side whenever someone refers to another form of therapy like cbt, dbt or any other talking therapy everyone insists that this kind of therapy will make for sure things worse for people with ocd.
I know that nobody have bad intentions but it seems that is implied that if someone can't find erp therapy has no chance to actually find a way to treat this disorder. And if also medication didn't work it seems like to be a dead end road.
I believe that this is very detrimental for people who try to actually make a step forward. With saying that any other form of therapy will made things worse we prevent someone to actually seek for help. At least this is my case. I had some bad therapists who indeed made my condition worse but instead for trying to actually go to someone new I obsessively try to find the right one who doesn't tell lies for knowing about ocd because I'm terrified that someone who doesn't do erp its 100% sure that they will harm me. And in the meantime I feel more and more desperate and hopeless that I will never get out of this situation.
Also another thing that most people don't considerate is that many people who have ocd possibly they also have something else. Personally I have social anxiety and I have experienced some manic episodes in the past but I'm sure there are people who may have bipolar disorder or adhd or bpd or many unresolved traumas etc. What about those things and erp? How someone with social anxiety will be able to break a compulsion that involves a public place like a church when he is not only afraid his intrusive thoughts but also the peoples judgments? And how someone will heal for other traumas like the childhood ones about family for example without overanalyzing the past during therapy because this may trigger the ocd? Erp is an exposure therapy that focused to help you break your obsessive patterns that cause you stress and anxiety but what about all your other fears and emotions? Because there are not all linked to ocd. Ocd maybe make them more difficult and big in our minds but they exist with or without the ocd.
It seems like I accuse people here and I'm sorry if I sound very aggressive but honestly I'm confused and I try for a long time to find answers to these questions. And I can't believe that I'm the only one who have these struggles. I wonder what others people's thoughts are and particularly from those who have also other disorders. Does anyone found a helpful therapy besides erp or managed to treat ocd without medication?
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OCD
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Have yall ever had an intrusive thought that was so not you you didnt even get worried about it? I have pocd and while fantasising about something my mind said "and fuck a kid too" and normally I would get really scared and just collapse mentally at this thinking I'm a pedo but after a moment of disgust and losing arousal I continued on fantasising and didn't pay it any attention. Its the first time I have ever felt not bothered by an intrusive thought after I had it. It felt like it was so just not me it had no power over my thoughts. Even after finishing fantasising I kinda felt a bit at peace so it wasn't like I was distracted in the spur of the moment. I know this is a random post but I'm relatively new to ocd so I just thought I should share and ask if anyone else has experienced anything similar.
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OCD
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Some people like having aspergers. I say, more power to them.
But for me, and others who don't like it, I think a cure should be found.
In short, if you want to keep it, fine. If you don't, fine. No one should be forced into it, IMO.
Aspergers harms my relationship with my family.
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aspergers
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So, first time posting. I was diagnosed about 2 years ago and at first, it was really upsetting. Mainly because I avoid all the things that remind me of my abuser/abuse. But recently, I've been watching The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt and, I gotta say, it's been making me feel... normal? Like, it's kinda hammed up and obviously comedic but the way Kimmy copes with this disconnect of how she's a rescued "mole woman" and just wants to be understood and feel like everyone else is really relatable. I feel like I have someone that I can finally share these feelings of hurt and angst and triumph with, even though she's fictional.
So, I guess what I'm asking now is, what (if any) media makes you feel okay again? What is kind of your anchor? What is the thing you feel safe watching/experiencing?
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ptsd
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I’ve just had a very fucked night but it’s 4 am and all my friends are asleep but I need to talk
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ptsd
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I need help. I'm just scared of spending too much money on doctors...well I'll figure my shit out soon. I want to get better.
(idk what to flair this as)
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OCD
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I recently started law school in the uk, I’m an international student.
Moving to this whole new country last month was of course hard as hell, but I am sort of managing.
I have made a few friends, socially doing well.
But in every other aspect, I seem to be falling apart.
I don’t cook or go groceries shopping, just living on fast food or ramen.
Have taken up drinking and smoking again.
I have spent a FUCK TON of money already.
My room is a mess.
Extremely behind coursework, whenever I try to get to work I just get overwhelmed and the words end up meaningless in front of me.
I feel awful about this. I don’t know how to fix it.
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ADHD
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Hi I've \[18F\] been having intrusive thoughts about kids. This wasn't really a problem until last month.
Before since like middle school and high school I've had sexual fantasies surrounding taboos like rape and incest but I would never actually do incest or enjoy being raped. I would get off by reading erotica however since last year I've been reading taboo incest to get off. I have never and do not plan to read pedophilia erotica (like written with kids younger than 16 - like ew no). I've read tons of news of kids getting kidnapped, raped, or killed or news about people beating up child abusers.
Now I randomly get thoughts of kids. Like when I watch a show with a kid actor or when I'm doing something that doesn't involve kids like hugging my stuffed animals. Does that mean I find pleasure in hugging kids? That's so gross and disgusting. And when I get thoughts about kids when I'm doing something that doesn't involve them it turns into a sexual thought. Like I could be going to the kitchen to grab some food and then I get a random thought of kids. I'm picturing them in my head and checking if I'm aroused (like looking at my boobs if they're erect or seeing if I'm wet). This is so disturbing but when I'm checking if I'm aroused by kids I picture myself as a kid having sex with an adult or as the adult having sex with the kid. I FEEL SO DISGUSTING. I rarely do that and when I do I hate doing it (because it's intrusive). It usually happens after I've read a rape news story. But whenever I'm really scared that I'm a pedophile I do imagine that to mentally check. I wouldn't call that specifically a fantasy though because I don't enjoy imagining pedophilia. So far I haven't shown signs of arousal but the fact that I'm IMAGINING MYSELF IN THOSE ROLES is such a dangerous sign. I think I am a pedophile. I feel like a disgusting person.
I've never molested or touched kids ever in my entire life and I never plan to. I'd rather kill myself. I have three little cousins and I love them and I see them as cute and innocent and my feelings aren't sexual in nature, but what if those are not inherently normal thoughts but rather signs that I'm a pedophile? What if I'm actually just lying to myself about having these intrusive thoughts when really deep inside I am attracted to kids? I have taken care of them before and I've showered one of my cousins but I never touched them indecently and I've done so much like not fully cleaning the down area after they go to the bathroom or shower just because that's so disgusting even touching them there. I need help desperately guys. I see a therapist for my depression and anxiety and I'm considering talking to her but she has a 4 year old daughter and I feel like she's going to transfer me if I end up telling her. HELP PLEASE. My next session with her is soon in like two hours.
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OCD
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I felt shaken after I saw it, crushed by it's insights but at ease that I'm not the only one who thinks that way.
It was like, I found some sort of voice. However, when I have this urge of helping people suffering from depression, I feel disingenuous. I'm all theory man. I've made my opinions by thinking and reading, very little doing as action seems like an ultimate distraction from a basic truth. It's all my programming as Rust Cohle says.
What I can't fathom is why for Mathew McConaughey, in his interviews, it's just a very interesting thought. Why a depressed person takes such things so seriously that these beliefs make up the important debate that is going on inside a suicidal mind. Every dialogue is so hard hitting, even if it is logically flawed but feels true to the bone. I'm like if they figured out that much, they must be right about the rest of it which I am finding hard to digest because of my own incompetence.
If Mathew McConaughey can live despite living that character so intensely, there must be something wrong with my mind.
It's tricking me but fuck, it's me who's tricking me but there's no me or some stubborn illusion of me. What the fuck.
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depression
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Not OCD diagnosed but thought maybe some people in this subreddit with contamination OCD could help (tw for germs and stuff)
I was in a bit of a panic while cleaning and got in the shower to try desperately to scrub the germs off my skin with a dish sponge. It was a bit rough but felt like it was working until I decided to use the green scourer side to really clean my hands and forearms (because obviously they're the dirtiest bit). Now my skin is red and kind of burns and I don't know what to do haha.
I don't want to go to the doctors because they might refer me to a psychiatrist and my therapist said not to see one and there's nothing on Google so yeah anyone had a similar experience and how did you fix it? Thanks
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OCD
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I'm tired of everything I need like a month to just do nothing besides sleeping eating and watching shows. I want a break from everything and everyone well not everyone just most people I'm drowning I hate this feeling I want it to go away.
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depression
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Hi Reddit, my 1st post here. I´m 18, my mother died 8 months ago, my aunt as cancer, my relationship started to get worn out and toxic, and i feel like a spectator of the world and i´m so lost rn. I don´t know what the destiny is trying to tell me, but if this what life is supposed to be, then the human kind is the most depressing creature in the entire universe. Stay safe u all.
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depression
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Hello,
I've previously been diagnosed with major depressive disorder as well as generalized anxiety but now they think that I may have PTSD as well. My biggest struggle right now is trust. I can't trust anyone or anything. I can know that something is safe, that someone loves me, that I can trust something but in the back of my mind there is almost always, if not always, this nagging feeling of, "buuuuuuut you never know".
My partner, I feel, has the worst of this as I am almost constantly in need of reassurance. She tells me that she is never leaving and that there is nothing I could do to make her leave, that we are life partners. I know that she means it. I know that she isn't but my brain will find every excuse it can, and any excuse, for there to be doubt.
She says that it is not wearing in her and I believe her but...it is wearing on me. I feel as though I am failing her and I know what it feels like not to be trusted. I try to explain to her that it is not her. I do this with everything. I don't even trust that my mom won't just up and leave me some day. I know she won't but again, "buuuuuuut you never know".
I was wondering if anyone else has issues like this or with trust, how have you learned to cope, has it affected your relationships, and do you have any advice?
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ptsd
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Hey y'all,
I was the victim of child abuse, and in particular have trauma tied to a physical assault from my father. With stay at home, I've been struggling a lot with flashbacks. My father is no longer present, but being in the same house has a lot of flashbacks, in particular some of his belongings and the room where it happened.
Recently, I feel like I've just hit critical failure. I'm trying so hard to find a way to deal with this better. I'm seeing a therapist. I'm trying to get back into psychiatric counseling as well. All of my normal coping mechanisms aren't really helping. I usually try to work out, meditate, distract, distance myself, or, when things can be really bad, fall back on less healthy mechanisms, such as Codependency, anger, or over eating. Usually, these only come out if all of my healthy or developed mechanisms fail.
Right now, nothing is working. I've spent years working in counseling on developing these healthy coping strategies, and I just feel like I've wasted so much time to collapse right now. I just feel hollow at the moment.
I just don't know where to go from here. I'm not suicidal, or anything, but I just don't want to get up or do much of anything. I just don't know how to feel better right now. Any suggestions, or just support would be nice.
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ptsd
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Upset and triggered.
So tonight my gf and I resolved our issue, but I feel like I can never let stuff go. Even from way back. She’s always been a very concealed person, but I know there’s an angel in there and I’ve met her a few times. But, a lot of times her worry’s aren’t like mine just a quick “I’m sorry” and I always pry for another and another and bring it back up. Is this an rocd thing? It’s like a nonstop resentment from things so long ago and when something that mirrors it now comes up, I get upset. For example tonight I said sometimes when you’re grumpy you’re an awful person and it felt true, like a weight lifted kinda feeling. It’s sucks feeling this way and I wonder how this ties into rocd.
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OCD
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**-Do not follow this advice if** you suspect taking medication might become a compulsion for you. **Always follow package instructions and do not overdose.**
**-Do not read if** you have allergy-related obsessions/fears or compulsions.
As someone who tends to get medical obsessions, I often notice "symptoms" of some "deadly disease" that I "definitely have." Especially in Covid times, any shortness of breath or sore throat puts me on edge.
I try to remind myself that my brain is making up these symptoms, and if I distract myself, panic-placebo symptoms go away. But you know what healthy distraction doesn't get rid of?
Allergy symptoms.
Used to be that I'd panic, I'd try to calm myself down, and then as soon as I was calm I'd notice the symptom was still there and panic again. It turns out, those symptoms were allergies!!
As a kid I never had allergies, they only developed a few years ago when I moved states. People can develop any allergies at any time for any reason, and they're hard to predict. I'll get allergies out of my "allergy season," or I'll suddenly get them at night when I've been fine all day, or I'll go outside and be fine only to get hit hours later.
It didn't occur to me until recently (few months post-lockdown) to take allergy meds and wait to see if the symptom is suppressed, if I hadn't already taken one.
Allergy symptoms can look like a LOT of things. I had allergies so bad one summer that the doctor tested me for strep, "just in case." ***Provided you can safely do so,*** if you feel yourself having a symptom that whatever your avoid-compulsions strategy is doesn't make go away, try taking an allergy med and seeing if it helps.
It doesn't have to make the symptom go away. **Do not use this as a "test" to see if you "really" have a disease,** this advice is meant to get rid of/reduce the worrying symptom so you can avoid obsessing about it, not to "prove" anything.
**TL;DR: taking a SAFE amount of allergy meds when you feel a symptom that turns out to be more than just placebo-panic can suppress the symptom and calm you down.**
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OCD
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So long story short, my partner and I have been together for going on 5/6 years now. He received his OCD diagnosis nearly 2 years ago now and he's been managing it pretty well.
Recently these past few nights have been really rough for him. He's having nightmares and bouts of paranoia that something bad is going to happen to me and others around us. I helped him last night with some grounding techniques I've used for my panic attacks but I'm hoping that others with OCD could give me some guidance.
What, if anything, can I do to better help him ground himself when the bouts of paranoia hit harder than he can handle? I know he is constantly dealing with them, right now especially, and I feel powerless to help him feel safe.
I appreciate any input you all have, I've done a bit of research on my own but I'm hoping some of you may have things that you know work that I can try out with him, even as a starting point to find with works best for us.
Thanks ahead of time for any input!
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I have suffered from depression and anxiety since school, but it got really bad in november of 2018, improved the following year and hit again last winter, when my country was in lockdown.
The thing is: I have made a lot of progress over the last year and a half. I made my drivers licence, finished an education (I never graduated High school), started working on weekends as a tour guide in a lovely museum and thanks to the new medication I'm now taking for a few months, I even found the strength to work an actual job again. Part time only, but still... thats progress.
And yet I feel terrible. It's not that I don't appreciate the things I have accomplished. My education, my friends, my new job (which is well paid, fun and not much stress). But I still seem to focus on the things, I don't have: A relationship, a social life, my own apartement, a general direction in life. I try to work on those things, but it's not easy to connect with people in these times and online dating was propably the most soul crushing experience of my life. (srsly, guys: Don't go on tinder, if you want to cling on to your last remaining self esteem!)
My family, friends and therapist keep telling me, that I need to focus on the things I achieved and be gratefull for how far I have come, but no matter how much I try that, I just can't. It's not even, that I think, one has to have a girlfriend or dozens of friends to party with. I know, that's not all in life. But I'm lonely. I have NEVER had a relationship and just want to feel any form of emotional and physical intimacy.
I dont even know, why I'm sharing this here. I guess, I just needed to rant a little. It's tough for me. When I'm at work or otherwise busy, I can keep myself distracted, but as soon as I'm alone, the loneliness comes crawling back to me. At least I don't have any anxiety attacks anymore like I had last year. So that's working out for me... Still, I don't know how much longer I can take all of this BS. Am I doomed to be unhappy? What if I won a million $ today or suddenly met a girl and fell in love? Would I THAN be happy? No, propably not. And that thought scares the shit out of me...
(Sorry for any mistakes I may have made (grammar, spelling). I'm not a native speaker so it's hard for me to express those complicated emotions here)
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depression
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im taking fluoxetine 20mg and risperdone 1mg and my psychiatrist said im neurotic and the secone psychiatrist said i have hystrionic personality disorder when i dont take medication i feel like im going insane but now that i take medication im so confused it makes me confused and lost i dont want to quit and suffer again my parents are against medication i failed 3 years in university beacause of this
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depression
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So I just recently had an accident which really affected me because I started to panic and almost fainted from that. I probably hyperventilated too; It was a slip up while cooking.
Now that it happened and I feel a bit better, the thought of that accident doesn’t go away. It’s not leaving my head, replaying this moment over and over.
Does someone have any tips on how to overcome this?
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OCD
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This is my first post here, i have adhd and i have undiagnosed asd but im pretty sure i have it.
Ive struggled with working ever since i was 16, id be optimistic going into a job and 4 to 6 months later id be burnt out and leave. The longest ive had a job is a year and 4 ish months. Ive tried many different industries. Each time it gets harder because i get less optimistic about finding a job ill like. And if i dont like it then its almost impossible for me to get up and go to work. It starts to give me anxiety every morning and then i feel like i cant go in
Last year i worked a job for 6 months or so and i was really excited about it because it was an industry i thought id always like and it was car related which is a special interest of mine. Towards the end i was really struggling to continue working there and having bad anxiety before work and during work. I left that job and it was really hard after that. I took 6 months or more not working and going to counseling to try to feel better but it was getting hard to find any work id like
So about a month ago i started a new job and i thought i could enjoy it, its just a summer job so i was hoping i can make it through the whole thing, but im already overwhelmed and struggling to continue. I just feel like ive tried to find jobs that i feel like would work better for me but i still always seem to lose motivation and cant continue. It makes me feel like im just being lazy.
My true passion is cars and i want my own shop but i dont have the resources right now to start that.
Just wondering if anyone has been through something similar and could give any advice. Hopefully that all made sense
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aspergers
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I absolutely exhaust myself. My career fell apart and I’m now toggling between two options. I cannot make up my mind.
Meanwhile bought a bunch of stuff to start scrapbooking my old photos. Then, I never did it. Just lost all interest after buying the stuff.
I decided I wanted to create a haunted mansion. So I bought a dollhouse that needs to be put together. Damn thing wasn’t cheap. Now I don’t want to do it anymore because it seems too hard. I do this with hobbies and Careers. I’ve collected degrees, certificates and other awards and then,…… I sit and watch Downton Abbey instead of being productive.
I’ve needed to fill out a health questionnaire for three weeks and I cannot bring myself to do it. It’s isn’t even difficult. My cope is shutting down and getting sleepy. I will work myself up about something dumb, feel guilt about not finishing something and just go take a nap. I’ve been like this since I was a kid.
I’m not hyper. Anyone else like this? I’m sick of myself. I’m fairly accomplished and feel like I squander opportunity because I literally cannot commit to anything long term. 😑
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ADHD
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I've decided to drop out of high school and get my GED instead. i finally went to therapy to get help after discovering that I have ADHD and they told me I would have to wait at least a month until I can see a psychiatrist and get medicated, and school can't wait that long. I've struggled and failed so many classes over the span of three years, now going onto my senior year and I can't do it.
I really really tried. but I cant keep up, I have so many classes to catch up on and I can't do it. it's so hard and I'm done. plus I have seasonal depression so I can't even make myself go to school any more.
I plan on getting my GED after I get effective medication and can actually focus on it. i feel like I wasted so many years of my life hating myself for having to put in twice the effort to do what my peers could do. it feels freeing almost to know I won't have to dread going to school for a while...
I'm 18 and my mom said she supports me 100% on this, and so does my partner. I'm really lucky to have them.
also my older brother has ADHD and did the exact same thing and is extremely successful. i hope I can follow in his footsteps..
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ADHD
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Those early days were pure horror for everyone, but for a lot of folks with OCD they packed an even greater psychological punch.
You made it through one of the scariest and most out-of-control experiences that can happen. When you are feeling low, remember that you made it through some of the worst uncertainty and fear possible and you are still here. You are stronger than you think 💕
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OCD
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What are some items you find useful to keep in a bag/purse.
I love buying purses but I generally don't use them. I just don't have enough stuff to warrant bringing a purse with me everywhere. I also prefer to have my hands free.
I want to start using a purse because I've noticed that I'm getting overwhelmed in certain situations and I feel that having a purse with tools may help me.
Only thing I can think about putting it in my bag would be my phone, my wallet, and my raycons (headphones).
Do you have any recommendations?
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ADHD
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I spend ALL day on Reddit.
I use Reddit mostly for the subs that are for lifestyle tips and cooking and just generally cool information that I can utilize my life. But then I don't utilize this information because I don't do anything all day, I just sit on Reddit. I have hundreds of recipes saved, endless amounts of cleaning tips, and so many images saved of inspiration for different ways I want to style the rooms in my house. I love having access to the stuff but again I don't use any of it because I'm just on my phone all day.
Besides Reddit I use Tumblr, and always between or during my Reddit/ Tumblr "binges" I am watching YouTube videos. I know WHY this happens, it is an easy way to keep myself entertained. This is a somewhat new issue, I wasn't doing this a few months ago.
My struggle is justifying spending my time putting effort into doing things I enjoy when I can effortlessly enjoy social media. I hate it. I spend on average 4 hours of my day on Reddit, 1.5 hours on Tumblr, and since I watch YouTube on my TV I have no clue how to even calculate my average but yesterday I spent 6 hours on YouTube! I already have chronic migraines and hoo baby the screen staring is not helping.
My Dr took me off my meds in late September/early October and rescheduled my next appt for February. It was supposed to be dec 20th. I have a counselor appointment set up but that is also in February. I need to start working on this habit NOW. Even if it's just chipping a few hours off.
I can't delete any of my accounts cuz I use them a lot for my job as a doggy daycare manager (mostly for the cleaning tips and activities for dogs) but I only need them for about 10 minutes a day max of consumption at work, since usually I am just searching something on the site, finding my answer, and closing the app.
I am not looking for some easy miracle solution, I know I'm at step one of what shall be a difficult process, I just hate looking back at all the time I have spent on my phone zombied out and I wanna get back to participating in the world. Even if it's playing video games, which is way more fun and productive (for me) than going zombie mode.
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I've been working from home for 2 years now and started a new job this week in an office.
I have never felt more drained in my life. I've only been doing the basic hr stuff so far, but interacting with people and all day trainings are exhausting. Like as soon as I sit in my car and start to drive home I feel physically ill from the stimulation.
I've also had to switch from going to bed at 4 in the morning to like 11ish. I forgot how hard that would be.
I might have been severely overworked in my last job, but my god I miss getting to be gremlin in my room with only having to deal with my dog in person. Lol
Send help. Haha
I'm sure I will get used to it and it takes time, I'm just surprised how hard it actually is.
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ADHD
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My doc increased me from 20mg to 30mg because she wants my effects to last longer. I could only give her a rough estimate of how long the 20mg was affecting me
I really want to give her a more accurate answer for when my meds start and stop working. Basically the answer I gave her was 6-8 hours and she wants at least a solid 8 hours. Any suggestions?
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ADHD
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I’ve recently gotten very into listening to metal. Granted, this has been a somewhat gradual thing, as I’ve always liked metal, but it seems to quickly be taking over rock as my favorite music genre by far. It’s all I’ve listened to for the last few weeks.
I understand a lot of people don’t like metal because it’s too “extreme” for lack of a better word, but I feel like maybe somehow it affects me differently? Like, I dunno how to explain this, because I can listen to very fast, hardcore thrash or death metal and, depending on what I’m looking to get out of it/my mood, I can either get REALLY hyped up or, if I’m upset or anxious, it can just relax me and calm me down.
Anybody else experienced something like this? I almost feel like the speed and technicality of the music like fits my brain’s super fast tempo or something…but that’s simply conjecture.
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aspergers
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I am going to a psychiatrist next month for an evaluation and most likely, they would give me drugs. However, I have been drug free almost my entire life and tend to steer towards natural healing. I am not against drugs and see the benefits when in times of crisis. But to me, it is a last resort. Recently, my PTSD symptoms are getting worse. I am close to almost being dysfunctional and self-destructive. Even if I am functional, I get by by zoning out. I feel like a living zombie. If I do get in touch with my emotions, I cry like a baby, panic and become incoherent. I am desperate now and wish I could pop a pill and carry on.
However, before I go that way, I would like to know if anyone of you here decided to not do medications and find natural ways to heal instead? And if you do chose the natural way, what are they and was it effective for you?
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ptsd
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I want to go to a therapist but I don't have money to go and my parents don't allow me to go to a therapist. So is there any way to find a therapist for free and online??
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depression
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So my doctor has referred me for EMDR as I've tried most other therapies and my nightmares are still unmanaged. So. I've googled it of course xD but would be great to hear from other people who have had it, what can I expect?
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ptsd
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The fact most people around you are never satisfied with your performance, no matter how hard you try or how self critical you are, they just want someone to blame and you are the best case available, especially if you have a low confidence, as I see many adhd individuals are coping with low esteem and fear of criticism and rejection. They project their own miseries on you, don't step back, fight back, let them know you're strong.
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Just feels like I'm trying to satisfy both sides but then I'm the one at fault for not making things happen. I just want out :") and at peace and just chill for a day. Just feels so tired for trying but by the end of the day I am the dumb / bad one xd.
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depression
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I feel how should I say ashamed yes ashamed when all of sudden during today Mothers Day dinner a thought popped in my head about my throat and possible illness there and that’s it my family lost me that second right there and then.
This disease doesn’t ask permission when to come it just bursts in you like a .. I don’t even have an analogy to be honest.
Moreover I think it was the first time when this panic came without a physical trigger I just remembered that I saw something in my throat a while ago and that’s it !!
It’s very hard not knowing when I’ll sit there feeling that the whole world is on my shoulder and people looking at me with eyes full of pity— but only this pity doesn’t help it even can make you feel more lost at times .
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OCD
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I crave love but I just can't love.
I strive every day to feel something, but I tragically fail.
My desperate attempts are in vain.
The void resides in my chest.
28 years and I've only loved one man and every feeling seems to have gone away with him.
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aspergers
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DAE struggle with this?
I went to my gyno today whom I haven’t seen since before the pandemic. Since then, I have quit drinking (sober 9 months now), quit smoking cigarettes, been diagnosed with PTSD, started exercising, and struggled through months and months of therapy to try to take care of myself.
Not only did the doc breeze through my paperwork for all of about 6 seconds but instead of seeing the progress I made, it was all about what I still need to do.
Go outside for some exercise! ...hard to do most days when I can’t leave my house.
Try to vape less! ...sure, I’ll work on that in between figuring out if my dad is a rapist or not...
Eat healthier! ...yes, right after I’m done crying alone for an hour, I will go make a healthy meal that doesn’t sound good at all.
SO glad it’s only once a year with her.
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ptsd
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I applied for disability a long time ago and got rejected. I'm going to go ahead and give it another try.
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aspergers
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Can someone help me! I'm feeling depressed all the time, and can't control my OCD.
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OCD
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Anyone else has trouble initiating the execution of tasks? A few days ago I felt like I physically couldn’t go downstairs to get the food I ordered even tho I was extremely hungry. I couldn’t bring myself to do It no matter how much I wanted it. It made me feel really frustrated with myself and guilty because even my little sister offered to go downstairs for me. I even hit my head a few times in attempt to get rid of the frustration. I felt like all I needed was someone to physically guide me at the beginning of the action so I could continue it by myself. I wasn’t anxious at all either, it felt like a purely execution thing. Does this make sense to anyone? Could it be related to my ocd?
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OCD
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I feel angry I feel like I've turned into the people who hurt me. I'm mean, explosive. Can't control myself. My trust is nonexistent. My fight or flight is so so so bad. I wanna change but I feel out of control. Insecure and it's only making me feel like I have to hide from the world to protect the world from me.
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ptsd
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I was recently diagnosed with OCD, but today I can’t stop thinking that I may have completely misrepresented my thoughts/feelings/symptoms that lead to the diagnosis. I can’t think of anything I said that was a lie or inaccurate, but now looking back I am worried I may have emphasized certain feelings too heavily, or exaggerated certain things I feel and do. I don’t know why but I am feeling like a fraud. I am especially concerned since I will be going on medication based on this diagnosis. Has anyone felt like this? Any thoughts help! Thank you
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OCD
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Not sure if this would be a right place to put this but...
I'm a 22-year-old trans mtf who looks fucking male because I havent told anyone/transitioned. I just want to tell my parents Im fucking trans but I can't bring myself to do it because they're fucking conservative and I'm afraid they fucking would hurt me and shit.
They fucking made me sign a fucking contract giving them legal guardianship over me "until I get better and can petition it" bc I tried to running from them to see a friend who I knew would fucking support me but then they sent the police after me and threw me in a psychiatric ward bc of my fucking depression which I don't think is even depression but more fucking dysphoria that I just can't even tell anyone about IRL, idk.
I told them I didn't want them to contact my parents, and guess what they did... I crossed out my signature after I was done to signify I was in duress...
So my only real option seems to be to just tell them now, idfk... My mother says she thinks she like knows and that the devil's got me fucking confused, like wtf.. Help me... I don't feel safe here...
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depression
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He wouldn’t step back when I asked him to step back, he would intentionally back me into like a corner or something and not let me out until I agreed to change something in my life he thought was bad for me or some shit, he wouldn’t fucking leave me alone or give me space, even sometimes stop touching my arm, when I fucking asked him to. I had to take him to our school counselors’ office, sit him down and say that he needed to fucking back off when asked. He refused to do this unless I gave a legitimate reason that this bothered me (apparently personal space and basic rights don’t count), so I ended up having to explain my fucking trauma to him, and I don’t even like him but I had to give him a vague version of my story for him to stop triggering me.
And then he won’t leave me alone. Even now, he continues to talk about how it was my fault because I could have just stopped seeing this person or made basic smart decision, and he’s right!! But he continues to fucking tell me how some of my trauma I could have avoided, which I swear I know is true but it still hurts to hear. And I keep feeling like I have to tell him more and more detail about what happened for him to stop saying incredibly hurtful things and just fucking leave me alone! And I don’t want to tell him this shit, I don’t like him, and he doesn’t fucking deserve to know. (he also ended up announcing in front of our friends that I have trauma, he was refusing to leave another one of our friends alone and he basically said he would only do it if people had a reason like me)
And then I told my mom about our recent conversation, and SHE brought up that I could have just stopped seeing this person, thus some of this is my fault, WHICH I FUCKING KNOW
Thank you so much whoever read this far, I just had to get this out.
TL;DR: Asshole friend of mine insisted that I explain my trauma before he would respect my triggers, and continues to bring up that much of it is my fault, which I am full fucking aware of.
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ptsd
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hi there,
im fairly new to the world of chronic depression (it hasn’t been significant enough to say chronic for a long time, but now I am here). I am a female in their early 20s in college. I’m getting used to trying to talk about it and educate my family about it, but it’s really hard when they haven’t experienced it themselves. It’s also hard to see family around the holidays when you are struggling and don’t want everyone to know (and talk about you.) any advice is greatly appreciated.
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depression
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I'll explain: i'm a bisexual cisgender men and whenever i speak to people who aren't cisgender or who are femboys or furries or such (or even who use different pronounce) i feel like less because i'm not like them (i mean like i'm not heterosexual but like i'm not smth else) i can't explain it and i don't want this to sound weird but OCD is weird asf sometimes and it is OCD as these thoughts give me anxiety and basically i get compulsions (not super important like others, at least rn but compulsions nonetheless). Ik this is weird but i didn't know any other place to tell this so srry. Btw this isn't only with sexuality/gender, sometimes is with stuff like relationships, sex and other stuff like that.
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OCD
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Covid really messed me up. Been afraid of contaminated surfaces ever since. Bought a new fabric couch for the house and have not been able to sit on it since. It is also in the basement and this area just adds to the whole cleanliness versus contamination thing because it is not a “safe space”. Afraid that if I sit on it with clean clothes or sleepwear that I will contaminate my bed etc after. In therapy but I haven’t been able to crack this one. I live alone so there is nobody here to talk me down. Forgot to mention that I found a couple of mice in the basement since moving in. Don’t know if mice climb up on furniture. Fuck this shit is hard.
Does anyone have any similar experiences and any advice?
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OCD
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I am curious - does medication help with finding/sticking to passions/hobbies/interests?
I find myself often in the same routine: I like a new topic, get totally invested and at some point, its starts to get boring to do it - to a point where I want to avoid it.
I thought, I was after „the hidden logic“ of it. Then all what comes later is boring. But actually, beyond that point often the tedious part starts - like in a new language, once you get the hang of it, it’s „just“ vocabulary work left (while its not, but it’s necessary).
My conclusion is: after some time the „shinyness“ weares off, monotone tasks come in, there is no instant reward anymore - topic gets avoided. While I am motivated and interested in the topic, moving forward/deeper is too hard (boring), so I avoid it.
How do you tackle this? Or is it just not my passion then, even if I am still interested?
Sidenote: I am not tested for ADHD yet, I have my appointment soon. The tips I got from ADHD sites/channels worked wonders already, but my „passion“ problem is still unsolvable for me. I dont think there is only one thing I want to do for the rest of my life, but it would be great to stick to some things longer than 3 months.
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ADHD
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im a 17 year old hoarder with severe adhd and mild asd and have been in a depressive episode on and off for five years now.
i need to tidy my room up so so bad
its gotten to the point where i find roaches in my room, its been insanely messy for years and i just cant keep it clean or tidy for more than a week.
does anyone here have tips on where i could even start with cleaning it up and keeping it that way? i havent gotten around to cleaning it for months now, im just so so lost and feel completely hopeless at this point.
my parents are mad at me because of it and that in itself is distressing.
ive been wanting to start tattooing from home and just cant bring myself to make my room a sanitary place enough to tattoo in
if someone here has any tips on how to start id love to hear them
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ADHD
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This is actually a trigger for me because my mother cyclically put me on a pedestal, then devalued + discarded me as I was growing up. I've had two other relationships where this was a pattern too. So being put on a pedestal makes me SCARED and AGGY lol. I am way too emotionally fragile and mentally ill for people to put me on a pedestal like that, and it annoys the heck out of me when people do this to me. UGH.
It's affecting my ability to connect with her as a friend. I question the motivation behind her kindness because I'm afraid she's trying to please me and not actually be my FRIEND. I'm afraid to react naturally because her actual mood seems to be affected by my reaction. I get the feeling that when she moved in, she expected us to become "closer" as friends (and I think her idea of closeness is enmeshment). I already told her that the amount of time we talked and spent together before she moved in was good for me and that I don't want to do more than that. I took some space from her for a month (less 1-on-1 hangouts, less chat around the house) and the validation seeking and people pleasing seemed to go away--but then I invited her to hang out at the park with me last weekend, and the behavior came RIGHT back.
How do I even have a conversation like this? Like what do I tell her? I don't want her to be embarrassed, I just want her to literally not give a frick what I think about her. Like if I could flip a switch and make her not care what I think, I would do it! I don't want her to imitate me, I don't want her to look up to me. I don't want a child or a mentee or a protege. I just want a friend :(
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aspergers
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I’ve heard/read that people on the autism spectrum do not or can not lie. But I’ve also heard/read the exact opposite.
Do ASD people lie? Do they lie willingly? Do they lie well? Do they lie often? If so, would you say it’s more or less very similar to the way NTs lie?
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aspergers
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I am diagnosed with OCD and from almost a year I can't watch anime, or tv series/movies normally. I have to rewind again and again and I get stuck in loops of rewinding a scene sometimes too. I get very anxious when watching anime. ask any questions you want and please help me this is too much I want to enjoy watching anime and tv series like my friends and other people do.
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OCD
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Sorry if this is the wrong kind of place for this or if this seems like a rant, but I just want to get this off my chest.
For a while now I just thought that me being lazy and having horrible sleeping patterns, extremely low self worth, and terrible eating/cleaning/hygiene habits was me just being a piece of shit. But recently it's gotten to the point where some of my irl friends have asked me if I have depression. The thing that worries me is that I find all of this hilarious. Any time someone points out one of my bad habits, or when I'm doing said bad habit, (ie. sleeping from 7am-4pm, eating in bed, throwing trash on the floor, being a month behind in school work, not going outside for a week, etc) I always find it funny. I know what I'm doing is really bad and stupid, but at the same time I can't help but laugh at it. I just recently started looking into symptoms of depression and looks like a lot of them line up with me, minus the humor aspect around the whole thing. Is this bad? Is this normal? Do I not even have depression? I have no clue what is wrong with me or what I should do about it at this point. Sorry if this post was stupid I just don't know what the hell I'm doing anymore
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depression
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I was diagnosed with PTSD during a court ordered therapy session when I was 14 and again at 16 after being hospitalized. I was given very little support by my school outside of a few teachers who I let it just enough for them to know I wasn't just some kid acting out or skipping class.
I am about to be 21 and am about to start my first internship within a residential program to help at risk youth. This is a big step for me and I am hopeful it will go well.
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ptsd
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my psychiatrist has told me ocd has proven to be genetic for many people. my grandma has It, started at 7 for her. started at 7 for me. my friend has it, their grandma also had it and was hospitalised at one point.
i was born with this bullshit. symptoms started before i was 4.
sometimes i wonder who my grandma got it from. i'm never going to know. mental health didn't even "exist" back then. no one talked about it.
does anyone diagnosed know a biological family member who has it aswell? or is it only genetic in some cases?
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OCD
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(F21, US) My symptoms are starting to get worse lately and I don’t know how much longer I can avoid seeing a doctor about this. I feel like I’m almost ready to take the step of seeing someone to talk about OCD. It makes me really nervous because all I can think about is “What if you’re faking?” “What if you’re just making this all up in your head?” I’ve never shared or talked about any of my symptoms before to anyone, not even my very loving and trusting boyfriend who I live with. I’m tired of having it all built up inside me and carrying this stress and anxiety around without talking about it. My grandma has extreme hoarding OCD (not officially diagnosed) it makes me think it may be genetic? Should I see a general family doctor and then they would recommend me to a psychiatrist? Or should I go straight to a specialist? What is the diagnosis process like? What are costs like? What questions are asked? How long does it take? I’ll share a few of my symptoms:
\- Checking: accidentally leaving stuff behind at the bus stop, in restaurants, work, stores, ubers, others houses, etc.; Inspecting the garbage before throwing it in the dumpster to make sure I didn’t throw anything important away; reading emails, texts and social media posts a million times before and after sending to make sure I didn’t say anything bad or attach any nude photos; running through my lists of things to make sure I have everything before I leave the house and making sure everything is off
\-Contamination: is the food I’m eating poisoned? My boyfriend wants me dead so he probably put poison in my food. What if I unknowingly poisoned the food I made for someone? What if the food I bought at the grocery store was poisoned by someone with syringes? Is the food I'm gonna eat expired? What if this fruit I eat still has pesticide fertilizers on it? Did I contaminate the cat food? I just used household cleaners, what if I didn’t wash my hands enough and touch my cat and they die? What if this allergy pill I just took is actually a deadly drug or something? If I take these 2 different gummy vitamins at the same time, I will die. Checking online for any drug/food/alcohol/pill interactions before consuming anything. Scared to get the COVID vaccine because what if they give me the wrong thing or too much of it and I die?
\- Racism: what if I’m secretly racist? What if you accidentally call this customer a racial slur?
\- Intrusive thoughts: You could stab them with a kitchen knife right now; you could kill this child; you could suffocate your boyfriend in his sleep; what if you crushed your cat; you could rob them and steal their money; my brain telling me to do something embarrassing at an inappropriate time; going through airport security and thinking I accidently brought a bomb in my bag; when I go anywhere I must overpack because what if a disastrous event happens and I'm not prepared?
\-Tics: really weird phrases and things I say when I’m stressed or remember something embarrassing or uncomfortable that happened; facial movements, body movements, eye twitches
If you read all of this, thank you. It feels good to finally get this stuff off my chest. Any thoughts, advice, words of wisdom, etc?
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OCD
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Basically, got gcse (big exam in UK) mocks after Christmas, tried to get a diagnosis during the summer holidays, but the psychiatrist has been not replying to emails for weeks or months, he said I could try Ritalin about 1.25 months ago but hasn’t come back since. We have sent loads of follow up emails but nothings happened. My parents don’t think I do have adhd so they are against it anyway, my original plan was to pay for a diagnosis myself if this doesn’t work, as the nhs takes a very long time which I don’t have, but it costs like £1500 which I definitely do not have. What do I do here? GCSEs without medication or at least a knowledge of if I need medication was not a reality I thought about
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ADHD
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Im gonna keep this very brief I just need some opinions.
in late 2016 I got jumped in a bad neighbourhood. They came up from behind and surprised me. Broke my nose and my jaw. in 2017 I had a very bad acid trip that made me relive that moment again and again and again. last week I got robbed at gun point and thought death was certain then. Now I cant even close my eyes without being scared. I zone out very intensely sometimes just thinking how I shouldve died but didnt. Like if im not thinking about what im doing atm, everyother passing thought is death. My death. Im really paranoid and dont wanna get out the house. Anxiety is killing me. Any of these sound right? what do you guys think?
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ptsd
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There is the real rulebook, then there is what everyone actually does. Certain procedures are skipped or rushed because that's what everyone does. In the process of figuring out the grey rules (because no one will just tell them to me), I'll either annoy coworkers with something they would skip, or piss off the boss skipping something that shouldn't be. .
I was fired once as a health and safety manager because I wouldn't just ignore massive safety issues.
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ADHD
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So i kinda defeated my ocd by telling me that i wasnt gay when i was younger (im 15m) but ever since i did that, my mind has been at war that i am bisexual even though im not. But sometimes i cry at it because i was always say that some boys is cute for no reason even though i dont like them and hate this, i know for sure im straight pleasr help!
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OCD
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I am a 20 year old guy college student in my 4th year of engineering.In 3 months I will be turning 21 and I won't have grown as a person at all.Sure I got grades and a degree but literally every story I have about college is something that is like"oh remember that one time I studied so hard and then didn't get as much as I expected".I haven't once gotten drunk or had sex with a girl let alone kiss someone.I haven't lost weight.I still have the mentality of a 17 yr old.I have shit fashion sense and only 2 friends.I hate myself and need external validation.I cry myself to sleep ATLEAST 3 times a week and have been doing that the past 2 years.Corona caused my college to function in an online mode.My batchmates moved into apartments outsider college just months after Corona lockdown got over and have been living there.To save my father's money I stayed at home.I have been seeing the Instagram stories of those batchmates since the past 1 year and they are always having fun getting drunk and high whereas I just try to get through my day in a toxic household.Sometimes I feel it would have been better if I did hard drugs and overdosed even if I was a burden I wouldn't have realized it because of the drugs and probably would have OD'd in peace.
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depression
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There's a real push in PC culture right now for not just people with PTSD but rape and abuse victims also to not call themselves "victim" but rather "survivor". The problem with that is, I WAS victimized. That kind of language benefits the people who harm us, because if they see us as "survivors" than they can go on abusing us and it's like it doesn't matter. You can do anything to a "survivor". Also, it shames people coming forward because the word "victim" has become negative and shameful. I think instead of replacing "victim" with another word, we should be making it so that "victim" is not a shameful thing to be. You hear whining mostly on the right, mostly aimed at women, about people, mostly women, accused of "playing the victim". The solution to that isn't to call yourself something else, but to assert that yes, I am a victim, but no I am not playing or pretending. This all actually happened to me. If I were a "survivor" I feel like that just makes me violable because I'm then expected to be "tough enough" to "handle it". It puts pressure on victims by telling US to get over it and cope and be strong, rather than pressuring abusers to change THEIR shitty patterns of behavior. I understand that individual people might like feeling like a "survivor", but I feel like the label is toxic because it's telling the victims how to approach handling being victimized. I do want to be a victim, because I was one, and fuck anyone telling me what to call myself.
This was also brought up in the second season of *Thirteen Reasons Why*, and I thought, like many mental health issues in that show, that it was handled in such a garbage way. Basically, a main character was raped while under the influence of alcohol at a party. She has a hard time getting over it. A feminist in charge of a "rape survivors" group tells her to join them "when you're ready to stop being a victim and start being a survivor". In other words, her shaming the character into being the right kind of "strong survivor" type of person, and being sad was seen as weak. She was also shaming her into going forward with legal action against her rapist. The show acted like it was important that she do that, no sympathy for victims who do not report. I feel like this is reflective of larger problems with society wanting everyone to always project an aura of strength and confidence, where we bully, ridicule, and shame people for being weak or emotionally damaged.
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ptsd
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Hi everybody,
so I am 23 years old and have a diagnosis appointment next week with a specialist for adult ADHD. She told me we will do an IQ test as well and I am not sure what the result is gonna be used for. I am afraid I will hear a sentence like "No way you can have ADHD while doing so well on IQ tests!", since I was always labeled "the smart kid" and know I usually do really well on IQ tests and stuff like that.
I am probably just being unnecessarily nervous right now, but has any of you had an IQ test in ADHD testing and tell me what that is about?
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ADHD
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Like the title says, I want some input about an initial appointment I had with a new doctor today. I am trying the new doc because my old one wasn’t covered by my health insurance after changing jobs, though really, idgaf about the specific person, I just need someone to fill my damn Strattera prescription. So during the intake interview, there were a couple of things that gave me pause. The first was that this psych said he had never prescribed Strattera before since he didn’t think it worked, basically. I made it clear that it’s the only thing I’ve tried so far that DOES work without amplifying my anxiety to an untenable level (like all the stimulant meds). He also asked some weirdly specific questions like how old my partner was and if our sex life was good? I’ve had like three psychiatrists so far and I know that’s a small sample size, but no one else has asked about any of that, and honestly, I do not see how it is remotely relevant. I evaded for the most part because I failed to see how that was his business or mattered at all when it came to my ADHD. Another potential red flag for me was his casual joke about “women not having ADHD” which honestly pissed me off. Learning disabilities are wildly underdiagnosed in women and that’s not a laughing matter in my book. Fucking struggling through college unmedicated was traumatic for me, dude, don’t joke about that. I dunno, maybe I just need to try another doctor who isn’t an old white dude.
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ADHD
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I've been taking Adderall for a little over a month now and I've really been struggling with not having an appetite. Ideally I'd be able to just eat breakfast before I take it, but sometimes it doesn't work out that way as I'm usually not hungry when I first wake up anyways. I would totally talk to my psychiatrist about my lack of appetite but Id rather him not decide to take me off of them because they really help me other than this
Edit: Thank you all so much for your advice
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ADHD
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Never have I ever really thought about this being an issue, until as of recently it’s seeming become a bigger issue.
I’m a minor that’s coming back from a full year of online school, so I’m still getting the ropes of being fully in school again, especially in this COVID environment.
I was told I had ADHD somewhat when I was in 3rd grade, but didn’t really understand or get used to it until around 7-8th grade. I have always tried my best to work past when I space out during class and go beyond most people to do well.
ADHD is the worst part of my life that I can’t fix no matter how hard I try. I don’t take meds as my parents are long time pharmacists who are experienced with my 2 older brothers who also have ADHD. I take therapy for dealing with my family and daily life of having this disorder.
Very recently, in fact even today, I’ve been noticing that I’ve been closing my eyes in some classes. I got the urgency to post this as my English teacher called me out for it in front of the whole class.
The problem is that I can’t tell if I’m actually tired or I’m just spacing out. I would say I probably get better sleep then most other years by quite a lot, still don’t remember this being an issue.
To a bit a more clear, I usually get around 5-6 hours of sleep, sometimes a bit more. Sometimes I only slept for 1 hour during my first years of middle school... Still never got called out like this. Only for spacing out.
Can anyone advise me on this or tell me if this is normal? Closing eyes while spacing out but not actually falling asleep?
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ADHD
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I absolutely hate talking because I "dont talk like how im supposed to talk". I can change the way I speak without it sounding even worse, im tired of the costant harrasment for speaking a way that I cant help speaking, and I dont want to talk at all. Would it cause major problems for me to be mute at school?
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aspergers
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Someone was selling a cat, that poor thing looked depressed af, it made me so sad.
how can people be so cruel :(
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OCD
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I DON'T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT ANYONE YES. I CAN FINALLY LASH OUT ON PEOPLE. I AM SO SICK OF KEEPING IT ALL IN. FUCK YOU. FUCK MY LIFE. FUCK EVERYONE. FUCK YOU. I WON'T KILL MYSELF TODAY BUT JUST WAIT HAHAHAH WAIT FUCKING WAIT. I FEEL FUCKING IRRATED AND FUCKING FREE
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depression
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I got diagnosed as adhd 9 months ago and got medicated 2 months ago. I have been with my wife since I was 18 years old. Before her my entire life was a mess. I was a drug addict and a lazy slob. She infinitely improved my life. My adhd issues used to be a problem in our relationship so I came up with my own ways to kind of manage my issues but it wasn't until my diagnosis that everything made sense and I was able to really start trying to figure out how to manage the negative qualities of the adhd. Well without going into to much detail (see all my other posts if you want more info) my wife is most likely gay and I dont expect us to be together by this time next year (or maybe next month 😩). I am obviously heartbroken and going through a ton of stuff on that front, but the reason I am here is because I am deathly terrified of becoming that person I was before her again. We have two young children. I have definately become more functional but there are still tons of things I lean on her for. Keeping track the kids schedules and just little stuff like remember to pack the kids socks when we go places and all that kind of stuff that I would commonly "forget". I'm not overly concerned about my own life because I am a very routine based person nowadays so I've got that pretty under control, but the kids is what i worry about. As anyone with kids knows that as much as routines are awesome, they are extremely fluid with kids. I don't even really know what I'm asking. Anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice or words of support would be appriciated. Anything to keep my mind off the rest of my life tbh 😂.
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ADHD
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I feel like life just loves to hurt me for some reason. I’m unable to even enjoy anything that I used to enjoy doing anymore, things that used to kind of take my mind off of things just don’t work anymore. Yet I keep trying them because they’re all I’ve got to do to keep my mind occupied.
For some time I had someone who I loved so dearly with my heart like true, genuine and pure love that I would have literally given the whole world just to see them smile. They truly were my whole world. And they made me so happy but now they’re not with me and it feels like there’s a void in my life because I just love them so much and I really wanted to spend my life with that person. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. It just hurts that she’s not here now because I really wanted her… i can’t not want, miss or think about that person every single day…
There’s so much in this world that hurt me throughout my life since I was a kid, a lot more than I could list here and I often remember those things and it feels like life has been really unfair in many ways. yet for some reason im still holding on to life hoping things would get better, hoping I’d be happy one day and I won’t feel so lost, alone and empty anymore. One day I want to find my happiness, to be able to say that I went through it all and I didn’t give up… but it’s just hard. It’s hard to keep going on your own. I have dreams and goals that I wanna achieve but they all seem so hard to reach.
Im trying my best in life but im genuinely scared that maybe im the problem or maybe im not a good person? I really hope it’s not the case but I just worry. God I wish I could be better. I wish I could improve… im really doing my best to be better every day but im exhausted and scared…
I can’t really talk to anyone about this so I’m grateful for this community where I could at least vent, maybe someone relates or maybe im just screaming into the void by writing down my thoughts and feelings… but I guess it’s better than not saying anything at all. The hurt never goes away though…
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depression
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First time posting! I have been just recently starting to understand that many of things I struggle with which I previously thought were the result of trauma, ADHD, or anxiety were/are probably OCD related or are made more complicated by OCD. I have not been diagnosed or sought diagnosis-- still in a very new place with all this.
I am afraid of pursuing diagnosis and treatment, for some reasons that are probably predictable (what if they say I don't have it but I do, what if it makes doctors take me less seriously going forward, etc.), but the thing that is making it difficult to seek treatment is that I feel overwhelmed by the prospect of learning how dysfunctional I am/how much OCD actually affects my life. I sought treatment for my executive dysfunction problems/ADHD, finally, last year; some of those things have gotten much better and some have sort of morphed. Through that process I am starting to see that I have a lot of compulsions, avoidance, and obsessions that are seriously affecting my functioning.
This is hard because ADHD can be treated in ways that feel easier to me/that I feel able to accept! The idea of doing what OCD requires, especially exposure, sitting with discomfort, etc., is so...well... uncomfortable. I do not want to do those things. And I am especially anxious about being accountable to others. I believe one of my partners probably "colludes" with my OCD, and while I want happy, functional relationships that are healthy and balanced in power, I am scared of a world in which I cannot safely receive reassurance from them and be healthy. Of course I want us to be the happiest/healthiest versions of ourselves and it is equally awful to think of them being beholden to my mental illness in any way but it is just scary to think of so much changing. When I think about them setting boundaries around what I think is probably me seeking reassurance for irrational thoughts, I do feel afraid, because that reassurance often makes me feel better (or think I feel better?). But what about when reassurance is NOT around an OCD thought but instead around a trauma thing (when that reassurance is positive/healthy)? How do they tell the difference? How do I?
There is also some vulnerability in the recognition that reassurance can be SO helpful (even necessary) in close, appropriate interpersonal relationships for healing certain kinds of trauma, especially C-PTSD, and so damaging to OCD recovery. How do we walk that line?
I am trying to push through this, but it feels paradoxical.... at once "I'm sure I don't actually have OCD, I am just reading too much about it and convincing myself, I just want to feel in control of myself, etc etc" and "I want to be well / need this to stop / feel dysfunctional."
So my main questions are:
What did you do to finally seek treatment? For people with ADHD + OCD what on earth did you do to actually begin the process of ACTUALLY seeking help (when the practical steps of seeking care are extra extra high barrier feeling)? Any tips for committing to a path forward?
and
How do we balance seeking appropriate reassurance and creating safe, trusting environments in our relationships as part of trauma work and trauma recovery / making sure our partners do not collude in our OCD and making sure they don't offer inappropriate reassurance around irrational thoughts? It's not like they know what is trauma based and what is OCD-based-- I often know the difference, but sometimes they are entangled in confusing ways, and when I am freaking out I am sure I will do anything to feel better.... and avoiding reassurance altogether would be damaging. Any tools for this complexity?
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OCD
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Do you go see a psychiatric, doctor or a therapist? Are you taking any medications and has it helped any? And how long have to taken it for? Do they just ask you what OCD you have or do they also scan your brain? Thank you
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OCD
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does anyone have interior design ocd? i make mental pictures of how i want my new apartment to look and it keeps me up at night …
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OCD
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Hi, as said in the title I'm new to the sub, and I only just now made an online test. Never got officially diagnosed, but a few years ago while being treated for something else, Aspergers wasn't ruled out.
Now while researching the subject I realised that some of my anxiety triggers might be due to being over stimulated and I just wanted to share the most severe ones and hear your opinion..
Music is really important for me, it's usually the best thing to calm my anxiety. But certain kinds of music just really upset me and having to listen to it actually gave me an anxiety attack once. Its hard to explain, but its the kind of music that is kinda 'trashy', mostly German rap. Just thinking about it is hard.
The next thing is something that must have only developed in the recent years. I used to swim as a kid, but lately the feeling of being submerged in water, even just in a bathtub, stresses me out immensely. I never had any drowning experience, so that can't be it.
For some reason I can't stand wearing socks anymore. I really can't explain it, but they make me uncomfortable..
And lastly, something that probably has more to do with not understanding social cues. When people send me messages and use multiple punctuation marks. Mostly '?!' and '??'
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aspergers
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I sink into my bed very easily. My mother is trying to help and I’m very grateful for that..but even she is getting overwhelmed…I don’t want to hurt anyone with my emotions.
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depression
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