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So how to begin with this...I realize that on paper I am totally the asshole but when you dig deeper into my motivations I'm hoping its more of a grey area that anything else and maybe even I did the right thing.
When I was a teenager my dad bought me a classic 1972 Ford Bronco. It was my true passion and I don't rec... | Jesus dude, yes, YTA.
Who spends $23K without so much as speaking to their spouse first? Assholes do. |
I’m 40M, my wife is 39F, son in 15.
Yesterday when it was dinner time I called him to come downstairs few times. He didn’t answer me so I assumed that he didn’t hear me. I went upstairs and knocked on his door, he said he’d come downstairs in few minutes. After 15 minutes he still didn’t come downstairs so I walked i... | YTA. I'm willing to bet that your attitude - as I doubt this is an isolated incident - is at least part of the reason your kid didn't want to talk to you. |
My husband's car doesn't work and he needs money to get it fixed. He doesn't have enough money. I'm in medicine school and have been getting ready for my exams for a month now. Every month he and his friends go on a road trip. His car's been sitting in the garage for 3 months now. He asked if he could take my car to ta... | NTA and DUMP HIM.
He stole your car, let you worry, and can afford to go on a trip with his friends but not to fix his own car ?
You deserve better, hun. Go get it.
Edit : wow thanks for the awards, kind strangers ! Also please don't forget to give some strength to OP ! |
I’m on mobile and my grammar will probably be bad because after today I needed to to get drunk
Backstory my cousin (33f) who I’ll call mary lost her husband (32m) and two of her three children (3f) and (9months male) in a car accident last week. Her and her daughter (5) are as you would expect it’s just heartbreakin... | This is one of those where I read the title and went "I can't imagine how you could not be the asshole" and then read the post and went "....oh."
NTA. I am not normally a scene-making person, but this is the kind of thing that making a scene is *for*. I am not normally one for publicly shaming someone but this is what... |
Original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/hryyi6/aita_for_threatening_to_ban_my_brother_from_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Firstly, thank you all so much for the crazy response on my original post. Totally unexpected, but very much appreciated by my... | >He called me about an hour after the post went up and demanded that I take it down because it "made him look bad".
Well, yeah, it certainly did make him look bad because he *was* behaving badly. But narcissists don't like their perfect image spoiled in public. Same for your mother. You've ruined the whole Happy Fami... |
The title basically sums it up, I suppose. My husband and I have been married for three years now, I have a daughter (15F) and he has a son (24M). I am friendly with my stepson, but we aren't close. He has a biological mother who is a perfectly fine woman, I'm not here to take the role of his mom.
My late husband (my... | NTA.
>They want to use my daughter's college fund, which to me is absolutely off-limits.
That's not up to you, them or anyone.
That's your daughters money in all-but-name. Your husband paid in to it. Your daughters grandparents paid in to it. YOU paid in to it. FOR HER. Not for some kid that half these people don't ... |
My wife and her younger sister are best friends. As a result, when our middle daughter and her cousin were born around the same time, my wife really expected them to also be best friends. With sixteen years of hindsight, I can say with certainty that the expectation was misplaced.
Nothing happened in particular. My d... | NTA. Your wife is TA for forcing a 16 year old to spend time with someone she doesn't like, the 16-year old's response to your wife (she didn't tell the cousin this, I presume), is as hilarious as it is the fault of the adults' forcing their relationship.
I'm also not convinced that the cousin is down with this either... |
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The original post has been removed and I’m not sure why, I didn’t have any messages about it. The TLDR is I have a friend, Kate, and I wanted her t... | Sorry to hear that man. It seems like she was totally projecting onto you and Kate bc she cheated, which happens quite a lot with cheaters. You did the right thing and will be better off for it even though it sucks rn. |
I will try to keep it very short so as to not bore anyone. About six months or so ago my grandpa died. For simplicity sake, let’s say hi estate is worth about $1.5 million. In his will he said that me, my sister and my cousin each get 1/3 share. His estate was basically two cash amounts and the other share was his be... | NTA.
She's welcome to either rent it or buy it off you with that 500k she now has.
She even had the option to pick it and she herself thinks money is more important.
Of course you're feeling guilty, that's what a GUILT TRIP is supposed to do to it's victim!
Your sister is 100000000000000000000000% in the wrong here... |
My fiance (28M) and I (30F) have been together for 3 years, I used to live close to work and used public transportation but after I moved in to his house which is hours away from work I bought myself a car since I'm a nurse and also since there isn't any hospitals close to where we live that I could transfer to.
My ... | NTA. Girl why are you with a man who cannot take care of his own basic needs and insists that you call off work so he can go party? He is using you and you can do way better. Do not offer financial help to people like this either. He has money to go out with his friends then he has money for a car.
ETA his friends pu... |
Okay, let me just get right into this. I [27M] was kicked out at 16 because my older sister [37F] outed me to my parents as gay. They completely cut off all contact with me and I didn't see any of my family up until last year, when my father passed away and Mum had a change of heart and we started building a relationsh... | NTA, they made poor choices, they should accept the consequences.
Edit: wrong word chosen |
Back in March his parents decided they wanted to come "wait quarantine out" at our apartment. For starters they never asked. His mother called and TOLD me that they were on their way and to prepare our spare bedroom for them. I was already apprehensive about them staying with us because his parents have always been EXT... | NTA. And I would seriously consider a future with him if he's not willing to support you now, it will only be worse in the future when it comes to his parents. |
I had a boss who was a real turd. He labored under the delusion he was an excellent boss and couldn’t put together that his behavior and the crappy pay was why he had such a hard time keeping employees. He also thought it was acceptable to call his female employees hun, sweetie, and sugar. He was a condescending asswip... | NTA. 2 weeks notice is a courtesy that your former boss did not deserve. |
I bought a house a few months ago and moved in last month. The previous owner was a friendly old man that could no longer live alone so he decided to sell and move in with his daughter. Just to be clear I put disabled in quotation marks because the lady in question is just really really overweight and I am not sure if ... | NTA. Plain and simple. She should get a handicapped spot designated for her if it really is that much of an issue. |
Yes I'm aware that my cousin posted here and oh the irony as i showed her this sub last year, but I really don't care if she sees this, maybe it'll hammer the point home.
And I doubt she will see it as they are currently on their pre wedding honeymoon, legit didn't even know those were a thing.
So Amy is getting mar... | NTA. I love it, LOVE IT when we get to hear both sides of an AITA thread, I kinda live for that sort of drama lol! Everyone made it clear to your cousin that she was a bridezilla, don't bother to go if she hasn't realized how insane her expectations are! |
We are doing some house renovations and so workers are in the house. Today two guys were putting up drywall in the living room while our babysitter is playing with our daughter in the family room while I’m working in my downstairs office.
I hear the drywall guy asking personal questions to my babysitter until her ans... | NTA and big blessings to you. Your babysitter probably felt obligated to remain polite while working. You the real MVP. |
We can all agree 2020 was a shit year. Particularly for my (29m) family. We lost our dad beginning of the year after he had a heart attack and my little brother (12) had no one to take care of him. Our mom died when he was 3 so our dad was all we had left.
I fought for custody and was appointed his legal guardian.
... | In what world are you the arse in this scenario? Time to get new friends to go along with a new girlfriend cuz none of the current ones sound up to snuff.
NTA at all, you were protecting Your brother, a vulnerable child whose only stability is you now. |
My older brother (30M) went to university and then worked in the city as an accountant, I (27M) stated to work for my dad as a plumber at 15 and went to college to get my qualifications in plumbing and gas, about the time covid started my brother moved back from the city and started working for my dad (55M) in accounti... | Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshol... |
So I have a younger brother (13) who is a child prodigy. I won’t give too many details but he’s well known in the academic circles of our country and attends an institute of higher education. Naturally people are impressed with his intelligence and he’s quite popular and makes friends easily. Our parents dote on him an... | NTA- you actually are doing him a favor for him to learn this lesson now. Your parent's are setting him up for failure. Regardless of intelligence and ability, a huge part of success is also likeability and the ability to get along with others. I have seen several brilliant people get nowhere because of their complete ... |
My mother passed away 3 years ago. The family home, where I and my sister grew up, was willed to me. It was her ancestral property, and she wanted her daughter to have it. The other vacation home went to my 16 year old sister.
Our father remarried 6 months after mom passed away and moved his new wife in. My sister say... | NTA, it kind of sounds like your dad's new wife just wanted your sister out of the way for her new perfect little family. |
Every year, my grandparents give $300 to their single grandchildren and $500 to their married grandchildren, along with a note that says “to share with your spouse”. When opening up our gifts this year, I noticed my cousin, who had recently married his gay boyfriend, only received $300 while my fiancé and I received $5... | NTA. Your silence and acceptance of the money would have been complicit in your grandparent's homophobia. Good for you. Your fiancée needs to see the bigger picture. |
My wife and I live far away from both of our sets of parents. We visit them a couple of times a year and they visit us about the same.
My mom and dad love food. They will buy pounds of garlic and leave it in a rice maker for a month to make black garlic. They plan their vacations around amazing restaurants.
My in... | I might get down voted but honestly I do not see the point in paying for really expensive steak for someone who is going to want it served as burnt offerings. They certainly won't understand the difference. NTA |
So I had an overwhelming response to my post about asking if I was TA for kicking a girl out of my bridal party for being sensitive about dresses, and I got a lot of NTA/ESH, and I could see both sides, understood that I could have handled it better, and I was glad to see that a lot of people also believed that Joy was... | Glad to know that you and your friend handled this situation so maturely. I hope your wedding is everything you want it to be! |
I worked at a retail store in the mall. The store is divided into men’s, women’s and children’s clothes. I always worked women’s and on the weekdays I was always the only employee in that entire section.
Yesterday myself and two other employees clocked into ours shifts. My manager Lisa pulled my aside and told me “Yo... | Uh. Yeah no. Nta. That’s horrifying. |
I'm in high school, we had a final presentation before winter break, and we had judges from the community come in to reward the best presentations. Like not actual court room judges, just people who were involved in stuff locally. The prize was some scholarship money for college.
Our classrooms judge was a mom who i... | NTA. This judge was not impartial and should not have been a judge in the first place. The fact that the school did not address that is an issue. |
Update on my last post. [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/j6r1oi/aita\_for\_refusing\_to\_put\_my\_bf\_on\_the\_title\_of\_my/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/j6r1oi/aita_for_refusing_to_put_my_bf_on_the_title_of_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medi... | Oh man, what a bumbling way to hide a proposal. This will make a great story down the line though and I bet you two will laugh about it quite a bit. Glad it worked out. |
[Original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/giww2y/aita_for_blowing_up_at_my_friend_who_constantly/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
I took into account the advice offered and I thank you guys for your help.
HR meeting call with supervisor went well. The... | I’m so sorry that you had to deal with that. I’m so glad everyone was able to see Sarah was spitting lies and hope work is better now you don’t have to deal with her |
I'm currently working part-time at a restaurant on my university's campus. I mostly work shifts with this one girl, we'll call her 'Anna', who is all for the body-positivity movement. She embraces her body type and regularly posts inspiring quotes or images on her social media accounts. Personally, I have nothing again... | NTA For someone who's supposed to be body-positive, she's real selective about what bodies get to have positivity. If she didn't want shit thrown back at her about her body, maybe she shouldn't have badgered you about yours. |
This happened a while back. My wife and I still talk about it every once in a while. She's on my side and most of our friends and family are. However when it happened it was like WW3 between us and her co-workers and others.
Here we go...I've been playing the guitar for 22 years. I know guitar values and whatnot very ... | Nta. When you sell something it is your responsibility to know or determine what its worth not the person you are selling to.
Edit- to your edit I absolutely agree. |
35F and my SIL is 46F. I have 3 children, the oldest being 16M. For my birthday last week my son went out and bought me this swinging hammock chair that I had been wanting for 2 years and it cost him quite a bit of his saved money (which I fully intend to put back in to his bank account so he can continue saving). He w... | NTA tell your husband that he can buy you a new one because if it’s “just a fucking swing” |
Hey everyone. I am 19 years old and my parents are in their 50s.
For as long as I can remember, I have been allergic to several things:
* Dairy
* Wheat/Flour/Gluten
* Legumes
Since I was a young child, my parents have completely kept all of them out of our house. While other kids ate breakfast cereals, I ate fish ... | NTA- You spent your entire life thinking that you could easily die because your mom wanted you on a special diet??? Allergies are incredibly serious and while you can grow out of them, to be lied to is unnecessary. What your mom did was manipulative and poor parenting. She easily could have had you on a diet like that ... |
I have 2 kids, 2f, 4f. I fucking hate how everyone thinks of me as being just a mommy now. I don’t get to be my own person. I’m just mommy.
Husband doesn’t face this. He gets gifts from everyone that have to do with his hobbies. Me? I get a bunch of mommy shit. Tee hee, mommy needs wine!
And like matching outfits. I... | No. Your SILs owe you an apology and you owe them…..
Fucking nothing. Even after. |
I M32 have a brother M30 (Kevin) who is a single dad to a 3yo, Kevin lives in the same city as me we don't have any family of relatives here just a few friends.
Kevin has a habit of dumping his kid on me at random times to watch while he goes out on dates with women. So far he's gone out for 4 dates while expectin... | NTA.
>he had an important date...He said tha[t it was] an emergency...
Were they defusing a bomb together or something? |
So my asshole scumbag parents named me Qur'stylle and my whole life i have gotten shit like "are you muslim" "what language is your name originated from?" "what country are you from" and people butchering its pronunciation, for obvious reasons. I have always told people to just spell it as Chrystal and my parents (main... | NTA. It's your name and your right to change it if you wish.
Honestly, if I may say so, it may be best to take a step back from your family. It sounds like they're causing you a lot of unnecessary anger, and you seem very hostile towards them. Cut as much negativity and toxicity out of your life as you can. |
For the last year I’ve had a rewards card to a local gas station chain that lets me get deals and store coupons.
About a week ago I went into the store to get a beverage, and swiped my rewards card before swiping my debit, however after the card reader finished processing the rewards card the total due went to 0 and... | NAH - I wouldn't call you an ass hole. You're doing the process they required for the rewards program. It's not your fault it's flawed and no one has caught on.
For reference, I used to work for a call center for a large cable company. A guy called in every single month to find out what his bill was for the previous m... |
So my girlfriend (her 27 me 28) wants to go to this fancy new restaurant in the city that she’s heard good things about. We get there and it seems like one of those hipster places but whatever, I’m hungry.
I look at the menu and this place is crazy expensive - like every dish is more than $15-$20 and half the ingredi... | Those prices are not even expensive...
It seems you are not suited to fine dining.
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EDIT: What makes you think you even deserve a discount? |
Disclaimer: we are all vaccinated.
So, my husband likes to invite his friends (note: HIS friends. I am not close with them) for barbecue parties. He prides himself on his BBQ skills. The thing is... I always end up doing everything! He buys and preps the meat and then grills and serves it (and collects praise for his... | NTA. In fact, you’re so not the asshole that you are my HERO. Your husband can kick rocks. If he wants to look at the person who failed, he just needs to look at himself in the mirror. |
Hi, This is S's husband and she passed away after 5 weeks of posting this. I just looked into this account/phone before 2 days. She never told me about A herself. But we live in a small town and everyone knows about everyone's business including rumors. So i kind of knew about this vaguely. A did come to see her as a c... | Thank you for updating us... I am very sorry about your loss. We only got her for a couple paragraphs and could sense her warmth and kindness through her words. I am glad you got to live in that sunlight with her. |
My roommate (24f) is a big Game of Thrones fan. She’s pregnant with her first child right now. She decided to name her baby, ‘Arya’. When she asked my opinion of this name, I said I it was a good name with a good meaning (Arya means noble in Sanskrit), but a lot of people have named their kids Arya/Khaleesi/Sansa beca... | Ask her 'Arya being stupid?' ... I'll be here all night |
Its been over a week since I [posted](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xnpygp/aita_for_the_way_i_reacted_to_my_parents_open/). Thank you guys for your Judgments and advice. I have blocked my parents on everything and have gone no contact. After just over a week I already feel like a new person without th... | I'm really happy to hear its working out for you and that you are out of that toxic situation. Well done. |
Ok, so I work 12 to 16 hour shifts at an extremely labor intensive job that requires the use of heavy machinery. My job is dangerous and I need to stay focused while at work. This part is important. So, my husband has a friend who is a truck driver. His friend calls at odd hours every night. (Usually between 1am and 4a... | NTA
He's upset at a problem HE IS CREATING.
He's 100% able to resolve this issue, you're not responsible for his lack of consideration towards your needs.
The mental gymnastics he's applying to a situation of his own creation are impressive. |
I've been a lurker on this subreddit for a while, and as its been getting bigger, I've been noticing a trend in what's being posted. OP was wronged, probably unintentionally, and had a poor reaction. Their friends are saying it was over the top, mom is mad, the bystanders are upset, etc... are they the asshole? And the... | It’s like “two wrongs don’t make a right”, except the point is better phrased as
*you can be somewhat justified, but still be an asshole*.
I also think there are a lot of people on here who just don’t see shades of gray. |
My wife and I have a 2 month old daughter. For the past month she’s been feeding our baby mashed potatoes, applesauce, sweet tea, assorted fruit juices and other things.
The last time we went to the doctor, our pediatrician told us to not give her anything but formula until she was between 4-6 months old. My wife does... | NTA. What your wife is doing to your daughter can cause long term damage to her digestive system. Not giving her formula can also contribute to her loosing weight and not growing. I would suggest you talk to your pediatrician away from your wife for her to get a full picture. Its abuse.
Edit: Because this is at the to... |
I (14M) recently took my sister (4F) to a park close to my house, she was pretty excited to go because her dad bought her a bicycle and she wanted to try it out
When we arrived there was a lady with her 2 sons and a daughter, I made eye contact with the lady and just smiled and waved at her to be nice. After 15 minute... | NTA at all, and your mother is wrong (and you can just go ahead and *tell* her that some old man on the internet told you so, too. That should settle it for her).
I totally disagree with everyone who said it was partly your fault. I think you handled it splendidly. You were perfectly polite and reasonable when you fi... |
Saw another post that reminded me of this situation.
A few years ago, my close childhood friend gave birth to triplets. Her husband is a light black man. Of the three, two were the same skin tone as her husband, and the third was much darker. The skin tones made me a little suspicious that her husband might not be the... | Dude. Genetics. One of his parents likely has a darker skin tone, and that came through in the grandchild. Not uncommon, super normal. You are a *FLAMING* asshole for this. I cannot give a bigger YTA. |
So I F(18) was recently invited up to my aunt and uncle’s (I’ll call them aunt and uncle B) ranch house for the 4th of July, and told I could bring a friend. Now, this aunt and uncle have a pretty big house. Their ranch house has four bedrooms with queen beds, the master bedroom, and the “kids room” which is a massive ... | NTA. They should be sharing the room with their own children. They shouldn't be expecting you and your friend (who is presumably a stranger to them) to do it. |
I (28 F) was with my ex-husband for about 6 years. During this time, we were trying for a baby but had no success.
About 4 years into our marriage, our marriage had a rough patch. My ex had stress had work and slept with his coworker to ‘relieve’ it. He confessed to me rather quick and a week later, they sat me down ... | NTA - first of all, what the fuck - your ex cheats on you and blames you for him taking on fatherhood for a child that is not his?
What a - I am not going to say it, because this comment will be removed.
sorry - no rough patch justifies cheating, he should have taken up counselling. He fucked her, he cheated, he shou... |
My wife and I have a 3 year old daughter, Alexis. Both of us work and Alexis has attended daycare since she was 1. In the 2 years since, we have been asked to leave 2 programs because my wife is a micromanager. I admit both of us went into the first program not really understanding daycare. I quickly learned that they ... | Nta. To keep it 100% honest with you. 20 years down the line, your daughter is going to hate your wife and there’s a high chance she will not be part of your lives.
Your wife is the exact definition of a toxic helicopter parent, she’s going to not only ruin your life (already in that process), your daughters life in t... |
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I don't have a problem with the idea of parents who stay home with their kids. It's not like that. I get that childcare is expensive, and that often times it just makes sense.
What I have a problem with is my teenage daughter literally planning her life to *only* become a SAHM. As in, no college, no jobs, no certifica... | NTA, her expectations for life are unrealistic. You're doing your part as a parent and showing her that.
Her entitlement is astounding.
Edit: thanks for the awards, Fellow Redditors! |
My sister (20) got out of a terrible relationship and moved in with me and my husband and brought her 5 months old son, she's dealing with a handful of issues from ppd to depression. I asked my husband if he'd be okay with her moving in and he said absolutely, not just this but he was the one who picked her/brought he... | NTA. He waited until you were out of town so that you couldn't object. So that you couldn't protect her as he- not only kicked her out- but took her fucking phone so she couldn't contact you. He is a dangerous man. He threw a woman and her newborn onto the street without a care in the fucking world.
Now, he's threaten... |
I have a cousin by marriage (husband's cousin) that's 22 and dying of cancer. It was always her dream to marry and be a mom and now that's not going to happen. It's hard on everyone. She has a much older fiance (30) and they had a symbolic wedding so she could have the experience.
They started looking for ways to get ... | You are never the asshole for not loaning your baby for a 3 week make believe photo shoot.
What your cousin is going through is tragic but this is insane.
Hard no and never feel guilty about this.
NTA |
Throw away account although my sister in law will probably recognize the story anyway so I don’t know why I even bother. I don’t think what I did was an AH move at all but maybe the timing was a bit off but No, I don’t think I’m an AH full stop
My (f27) sister in law (f30) got married last weekend. She’s my long term... | It is always, always, always appropriate to embarrass a racist. Always. And while you're not likely to cure your sister–in–law, perhaps she will think twice before communicating such ugly thoughts in the future. NTA. |
I (23F) was raised by my older half sister (32F). I never met my dad and our mom OD'd when I was 10 and my sister was 19. My sister's dad was still in her life and was willing to support her, but not me. My sister chose to be my guardian and her father's family went low-contact with her as a result. In order to raise m... | Tell your MIL that your FIL can walk your fiancé down the aisle if he wants to give someone away. Or better yet, strongly consider not marrying into this family because they’re the assholes.
ETA: NTA. Holy comments, Batman! I was not expecting so many replies. Thank you for the awards! |
I, m17, moved in with you sister after my parents kicked me out for coming out (another story) they said I'll be here temporarily til I get back to "normal" which I don't think I will, lol. But uh...anyways, so I moved in with my sister and her husband about a month ago. FYI she does everything around the house (I s... | Ok, so this is funny as hell and he TOTALLY had it coming, but we all know you should have stayed waaaayyyy out of this. LOL tho.
I get that you were trying to stick up for your sister, who deserves that.
Please accept my softest ESH. You might have actually made them fight more. Abusive people like your BIL often t... |
My husband and I don't want kids. My MIL is big into family in the traditional sense. She has been pushy with us about having kids since we got married. Literally the week after we got engaged, she started asking.
My husband has always changed the subject, and has even told her that it's really none of her business. ... | NTA.
> Well, you won't be REAL (Lastnames) until you bless us with babies
I think it's clear who is TA here
> I'd like a refund for what we paid for the wedding
Oh! They paid for babies!
You had to drop it for her to stop with it, so you are definitely not TA. |
I live in an apartment on the ground floor of a house that was converted to apartments. My neighbors (one street over but the back of their house faces the back of the house I live in) can see my whole backyard and vice versa.
My apartment has a whole wall of windows that are on the back of the house. It's gorgeous ... | NTA. You proved that you needed the privacy because her husband is a creep and they’re upset for being called out. You don’t owe them anything and if your landlord hasn’t contact you about it then you don’t need to do anything that you don’t want to. |
Two days ago, I was on a long-haul flight. I was sitting in an aisle seat. Since I haven't seen Games of Thrones yet, I was looking forward to binge watch the first season. I made myself comfortable and set up my tablet. An hour or two into watching, the woman two rows behind me tipped on my shoulder and told me that I... | NTA. Certainly, GoT is not appropriate for a child but this is a rather unreasonable request. She is two rows behind you it is not like it is just playing in the kid's face. She could have swapped seats with the kid or distracted him. If all else failed she could have politely asked if you would mind angling your table... |
My wife and I got married last summer. Her family lives across the country from us, so up until this point I had never actually visited them, but I had met them a handful of times and we've always gotten along fine.
They invited us to come visit and stay with them for a few days and we took them up on the offer. We fl... | NTA - Your in-laws are abhorrent hosts. It's their house, their rules and their rules are stupid. Rather than fighting a pointless battle, you set a clear and valid boundary, and they chose to take offense to it. They want you to stay on their couch because it's a power play. You staying in a hotel takes that power awa... |
My wife and I have a 2-year old son and have been married for 4 years. Our anniversary was a month ago and we found a nice, secluded cabin on AirBnB and rented it out for a long weekend getaway. My wife asked her parents if they would be willing to watch our son and they agreed as long as we dropped him off at their ... | NTA These types of baptisms violate church law, and if it actually was done by their priest you should contact the bishop and file a complaint.
[Is a secret baptism against the parents’ wishes the right thing to do? No. In fact, the Church prohibits a secret baptism without the knowledge or approval of the parents](h... |
I have a son (adam 14) from my previous marriage, I'm currently with my husband of 4 yrs. I handle everything related to Adam's school. He has a friend (Dean 14) that he started hanging out with a year ago. Dean is an amazing boy and has been nothing but a great influence for adam. I met Dean's dad (Mike) who's a si... | Holy moly, NTA
So let me get this straight...
Your husband, the one that stole a phone from a kid and then used said stolen phone to mentally abuse your sick son because of his own insecurities, is now blaming you for salvaging your son's friendship and giving back the stolen property? what? |
Situation is a bit messy so bear with me.
I M42 have two boys, Adam 16 & Leo 14. Their mom passed away 5 years ago and I married my wife Rose about a year ago. Rose adores both of my boys but complains about Leo being overly uptight and closed up. It's true that he likes to keep to himself, doesn't participate in mo... | NTA. Your wife cancelled your son's reservation because she didn't want to go on vacation with him. Your son is 14. He lost his mother and then had to adjust to you getting remarried. Your wife is an AH, and canceling the trip was the right thing to do. |
Original post here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/m0dd2m/aita\_for\_telling\_my\_daughter\_its\_her\_fault\_she/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/m0dd2m/aita_for_telling_my_daughter_its_her_fault_she/)
So it's been less than a week because I wanted to make amends asap so I printed of... | Sounds like a good resolution, and I hope she has handled her anxiety so she is able to make those new photos she wants. |
My boyfriend and I are both 18, and 35w pregnant with our daughter. Since the day I found out we were having a girl he was hell bent on naming her Renesmae, absolutely refuses to compromise. He's a massive twilight fan, I personally hate it and would much rather that we don't name our baby after a fictional character. ... | NTA baby names fall into the "two yeses, one no" category. He absolutely sucks for the post and trying to use that as leverage to get his way. Be careful about someone who uses such a tactic.
Your parents also suck for telling you to just go along with the name.
At the hospital (presuming you're giving birth in one)... |
For context I’m a black woman and my husband is white. I have 4c hair and I wrap my hair in a satin scarf to go to bed. For those of you who don’t know what that means, basically my hair curl pattern is really tightly coiled so my hair texture is kinky and easily tangled and easily breakable if not taken care of well. ... | NTA saying your black wife looks like a slave is fucking weird and racist. Trying to control how you style your hair is weird. Being so bothered by a headscarf is weird. I think he’s the only one with “race issues” that he’s projecting on to you. |
I will try not keep this short with just points rather than description. If INFO is needed, please ask.
Son is in 4th grade. School is only open on Mondays. The rest of the week he is home with me. They dont do virtual learning during the rest of the week. No zoom calls are made. No teacher actually checks in. Homewor... | NTA. Being a Karen is when you make an overly dramatic scene over something that either doesn’t matter or isn’t actually an issue. You made a point to pull the principal aside and not make a public scene to make a legitimate point. |
I'm a 22 year old, female waitress at Texas Roadhouse. This is one of my two jobs to put myself through college. Most days are fine but other days are a living hell.
Yesterday I was assigned a table that had a husband, wife and what appeared to be a teenage daughter (maybe 17). Everything was going smooth at first and... | Nta imo, manager has your back (which is good!) and the other customers as well. Really she’s pissed at her husband not you.
Edit- I think some people are reading this as if I think the wife is a harpy and drinking and driving is fine, I don’t, and I have no idea what happens in their life, for all I know he pulls thi... |
My dad owns a pizza place that was handed down to him from my grandfather.
I've been working at the pizza place my while life, even part time while I got a business degree.
I found out last early last year that my dad had willed the restaurant to my stepmom. His reasoning being she needs to be taken care of after he ... | NTA. Inheritance issues are always complicated, but you went out and did something on your own and made your own living, not dependent on the family business. It sucks that your family’s business is going under, but I don’t think it’s fair to blame you for that. It’s also not fair for them to assume that you should jus... |
My (34M) daughter (14F) had a sleepover b-day party last saturday, and she invited 5 girls from her school.
There was this one girl that she invited who I could tell from her attitude, was a spoiled brat. When she rang the doorbell, she walked in looking down at her phone, didn't greet me or my wife, and handed me her... | NTA. How does your daughter feel about it though? |
I'm 25M, i have two parents. My birth dad (John) who's 48M and my other dad Dwayne who's 45M. I call my birth dad John, "Dad". And I call my other dad Dwayne, "Pops".
My birth dad John was married to my mom for a few years, then she left my dad and yeah. They ended up divorcing and now she's somewhere in California, ... | NTA, did she ever tell you her parents are straight? |
I've been seeing my fiance for 4 years now and I came in to the relationship with 2 boys. My boys are now 12 and 9. Once a year me and the boys go to my families vacation home with the entire family and up until this year, my fiance did not attend. But now that we are engaged and merging families, the family asked that... | NTA
I know you said this behavior is not his usual, but I would say that this is a prediction of the future with him.
He has an opinion that differs from yours. He doesn't have to agree with you, but he does have to respect your decisions. He doesn't respect you and can't control himself. He made a fool of himself a... |
So here's the problem, My son Simon (16) moved out of the room he used to share with his little brother and got his own room a few months back. Eversince, he's been complaining about his mom barging in without knocking and interrupting his sleep and studying. Sometimes when he's changing...I know that she's his mother ... | NTA - So do you have sex with your wife with the door open? Do you shower with the door open? Poop? There are reasonable things that one does in private that even a mother does not need to know about, much less see. |
My brother (17M) lives with me (25F) and my husband (26M) full since both our parents passed away in an accident last Feb. He's a great kid, but losing our parents made him a quiet, sad young boy. I've tried to encourage him to attend therapy so he can work on his grief, but he has refused every single time telling me ... | NTA - if the gender roles were reversed I’m sure nobody would be okay with this happening. She’s refusing to respect a firm boundary that has been set. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. |
I've been with my wife for 8 years. We have 2 children, a 5 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. I've known since my wife got pregnant that there was a possibility our daughter wasn't my biological child. I don't care. She's my daughter and my wife has never been unfaithful. However, I don't want to know if she is o... | NTA. This was your choice and had nothing to do with your mother. She did this solely to hurt your wife. If you allow your mother to have a relationship with your son while not having one with your daughter, you’d be a terrible father. Blood doesn’t make a father. |
I am my brother and SIL’s only relative in the city. When SIL was pregnant I made it clear that I’d only babysit for them in the case of a serious emergency, e.g. someone has a medical emergency. I won’t babysit if they just wanted time off from being parents, because I don’t have the free time for that. I work 60-100 ... | NTA they cried wolf too many times now they get to live with the consequences.
Plus family doesn’t owe family free babysitting, if they wanted a date night find a babysitter. |
My (M33) parents are late for everything. Like everything. Both of my sister's and myself have been disappointed so many times.
Graduation ceremonies, birthday parties, even my father's retirement dinner. It is completely my mother's fault. She is a wonderful mother and I love her dearly, she just does not underst... | NTA - How can she complain? If you had sent her an invite with the real time then she would have been 45 minutes late. She should appreciate the fact that you wanted her to be there enough that you took the time to make her a special invite to ensure she arrived on time. |
So for the past month, my (36) husband (39) has waking up at 5 every night to have a walk. These walks would take about 2 hours, Side note to mention that this new, he's not trying to lose weight (pretty thin) he's not athletic by nature nor has sports interests or hobbies. infact, he hated doing any type of sport.
I... | Perhaps I'm crazy, but tomorrow I'd wake up at 5AM as well, just to see where exactly he goes on those morning walks. But again, perhaps I'm crazy.
ETA: Personally, I don't think it's cheating, as it doesn't explain the desperation and anger. The stakes seem to be higher, where missing his "walk" has unpleasant conse... |
[UPDATE](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ca82iu/update_aita_for_going_to_my_sisters_dream_school/)
So, I got into Cornell last week. Honestly I think it was fluke. I’m not smart, at all. I got a 28 ACT, a decent GPA (because my school grade inflates considerably). I had some decent extracurriculars but... | Pre-edit: no assholes. Do not turn down an opportunity just to spare her feelings. You will likely wind up being resentful and thinking of what might have been. Seriously, congrats - it sucks she didn't get in, but that is not your fault. You did, you earned it, enjoy.
No assholes bc it's not like the sister knows and... |
●I M37 lost my wife of 10 years and it was so devastating for me and my daughter. It's unfortunate but life goes on no matter what happens
My family knows how much I struggle as a single dad and my sister doesn't really get it. She had issues with my late wife in the past but now started "helping" with my daughter. S... | NTA Calling CPS just because you’re angry is wrong. She took time away from children who are being neglected and need help to get back at you. Not wanting to have her around your family is a normal response, she proved herself to be a danger to your family. |
I(M51) have 3 children, 1 girl,1 boy, and one child is gender neutral, my son Eric(M22) is the oldest, Eva(M20) is the middle child, and charlie(17) is my youngest(i'm still very new to the whole LGBTQ thing so please correct me if i say something wrong) , now sadly when the children were all young (11,9,6) there mothe... | NTA. She's 20 which is old enough to grasp the maliciousness of her actions as well as the potential repercussions. I'm sorry that you lost the letters, that sounds pretty devastating. Maybe they can be salvaged as a collage art piece? |
I'm an 18 year old girl who is in college atm. I've been getting bullied/harassed by three guys in my class who have taken to messaging me online with rather gross/harassing messages and nsfw pictures that i'm sure you can all fill in the gaps without me going into detail. I should have reported them or just blocked th... | NTA.
The people saying you took it too far are the same ones who would defend those guys behavior as "just guys being guys".
What they were doing is organized sexual harassment, and it needs to be forwarded to school administration as well. Those are rapists in the larval stage. |
I (32F) was raised Mormon but I’m not now, nor do I follow any other religion. My mom is still very much in the cult. As such, she has the typical Mormon mindset regarding gender roles and all that bullshit. Granted, I still think she’d be this way without her religion, though maybe not as bad. We get along splendidly,... | Lmaooooo!
NTA.
As a former Mormon, I am *cackling*.
“Call John the Barber.” Hilarious. |
My father is a dick. When he got my mother pregnant he wanted her to quit her job and just stay home to "be a good little wife and mother. He is very well off due to a trust fund and he doesn't really need to work. My mother refused and divorced him. Because of a prenup she got very little and he moved back to Europe... | NTA. He should have been paying it all along. And your grandparents sound badass. |
I'm (18m) graduating high school at the end of this month. My dad dropped the bomb on me two nights ago that his stepdaughter (14f) has an award ceremony for some competition she entered and won in another state on that same day and that she really wants him to be there. He told me he couldn't possibly make it to both ... | NTA
Graduating HS is a big milestone.
It's creditable your Dad wants to be there for his stepdaughter.
He needs to maintain balance though & I feel he should have made time for a once in a lifetime thing for you.
I hope you still enjoy your day & many congratulations!
Edit spelling |
I sure feel like TA but I don't think I am so help me out here.
I live in a non English speaking European country and because of history that means land borders between properties are sometimes very weird. Well that is the case with my house and the neighbors, all our houses are about the same size yet out of all the ... | NTA. It just takes a few assholes to ruin it for everyone. You repeatedly told them it was private property and they repeatedly trespassed and disrespected it anyway. |
For the past month my 24 year old niece has been living with us. I'll call her Princess because that's what her parents call her most of the time. She is a medical researcher (Studied medicine but wasn't interested in the practical side of things more interested in the theoretical) and took up a position near where we ... | ESH. The kid is clearly a brat, but you're a pretty terrible host for leaving a dog a room and making your guest sleep on the sofa. No matter who they are, that's incredibly rude on your part, and she's right to be offended. |
My boyfriend m/27 started asking to join me in my girls night in. Everytime I tried to say no he be like "I have to join or you'll have to cancel". It made me & the girls miserable having to sit there with him in the middle.
This past friday he insisted to join us again, I had enough I came up with an idea to get hi... | The big question is why are you choosing to be with a man that refuses to respect your right to hang out with other people without him?
Edited to add: Thank you Redditors. You are too kind. |
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I suppose this falls under relationships but just wanted to let you guys know how it went.
I left my BF’s to go rest at my mom’s. During that w... | I love it when the other partner thinks staying home with a infant is easy. They have zero clue. You are better off without him. |
So I (17F) still live with my mom, my step-dad, and my two half siblings (5M and 7F). My dad died when I was 5, driving me to the hospital (Mom didn't want to pay for an ambulance). He died in the crash and my leg and spine got busted up in a way that has left me needing a cane pretty much ever since.
My step-dad's al... | Oh honey no. You didn't kill your dad. It isn't your fault. Accidents are accidents because they aren't your fault. Your mother is unbelievably awful for the way she has been treating you and allowing you to be treated. Please stay with your grandparents. And if you have access, maybe seek out a therapist to help you w... |
My friend is quirky. She was never diagnosed with anything but she is very clueless sometimes. I have had to spell things out for her a lot. Few months back, she borrowed a dress of mine. I really love that dress. There isn't any sentimental value but I got it when we were on vacation few years ago. She also loved the ... | Nta obviously, but I'm dead laughing at this. They can have the "sO wHaT? iT's PaiD fOr" mentality but if it comes back on them it's petty? lol |
My daughter Bryn F9 is going on a trip to a nearby water park with her class next week. She loves water and has been talking about it for months, so I was a bit thrown off when she came home crying a few days ago and told me she didn’t want to go. I asked her why and she wouldn't tell me because she thought I’d think s... | Am I alone in suspecting that the teacher isn't so much feeling bad about what she did, but faintly terrified of either having to explain to her superiors why the trip is suddenly in jeopardy, or the backlash from other parents when it comes out why the trip she organised has fallen apart?
Not to mention that if you'v... |
I don't have a relationship with my biological father. He left her when she got pregnant and never acknowledged that he had a child, always saying she was lying. She did prove paternity in court and got an order for child support. At the time at least, he had a job making well over 6 figures that was handed to him by h... | The money _is_ technically yours. Literally the reason why people has to pay is to support the child (you).
It doesn’t seem like he was ever in a bad financial position and he abandoned you. Financial support is the minimum.
NTA. |
So I’ve been living with my current roommate for 2 years now. I’m actually subletting and I’m on my 2nd year which is month-to-month, but we’ve had an unofficial “verbal” agreement that I’d stay until the end of the year. I mean it’s a pandemic, I didn’t think I’d move either.
Anyways his gf moved in beginning of thi... | NTA - That's an insane way to have to live. Get out ASAP |
It our first real vacation since 2020 and my first with just my husband and in over 10 years.
Our daughter Annie (17) was left home alone. For some reason recently Annie can do no right in hubby’s eyes. Dress, music, chores. He has deemed her irresponsible. It farthest from the truth. She has a summer job and makes g... | Your husband dislikes your daughter, so much so that he manipulated a situation so that he could have an excuse to bully her. This is deeply toxic and obsessive behavior.
You need to truly consider whether you are enabling this abuse by staying with him and giving him an avenue for the ongoing verbal abuse of your chi... |
Delta gave me $2,000 to skip my flight. This is $2,000 that can be spent ANYWHERE. The flight looked like it was going to get canceled anyway. It did. So now I have $2,000 and a hotel stay but my fiancée is mad at me because I chose the money over coming home. But it looked like the flight was going to be canceled. Not... | You know what would make me feel better? My husband telling me he just earned $2000 in 24 hours. Hopefully, in a good relationship, it benefits both of you. NTA |
I got my son a 7k motorcycle for his 18th birthday this past june. My son is obssessed with automobile and loves motorcycles. In his room he has plenty of models and posters of motorcylces of all types. His bio dad passed away when he was just 12, now I'm married to my current husband and he has kids of his own.
My ... | NTA. The debate about whether a motorcycle is a good gift for an 18 year old is irrelevant. Completely. Red herring. Ignore any responses based on this.
Your husband stole an item and hid it, then allowed you to go to the police about it, smugly knowing they wouldn't turn up anything and lied to you either overtly or... |
My ex and I have one child together. We found out during my pregnancy that our child would be deaf, and wouldn't qualify for the surgery that some deaf people are able to get due to a combination of problems. While the external issue is a fluke, the internal issue is apparently something that I always had a 25% chance ... | NTA. This guy has no businesses smearing you and damaging your reputation. You did what you had to do to set the record straight and nobody can fault you for that. |
I live in British Columbia and my family often hosts at our home because we live on a lake.
However I seem to always get roped into watching the kids. Which means I don't get to enjoy my life when we have guests.
My husband will drink beer with his brother and dad and my MIL and SIL will go on winery visits and I e... | Nta. And your hubby is the biggest ah. He was just as happy with the previous scenario because he still got to drink and socialize while You were the one being held hostage to the expectation of forced babysitting duties. He didn't even remain sober to help you watch his nieces and nephews. He held the exact same ex... |
My sister is a stay at home wife, no kids for now. Her and her husband had been discussing getting a house keeper to help clean the windows and bathrooms since she said it took a long time. I was visiting last weekend and she brought it up to me and seemed very happy. Out of pure curiosity, and since i clean my house ... | > I didnt mean to expose a lie, i was just trying to understand my sister more.
NTA, but come on - you had to know she didn't want you to actually show her up by cleaning her bathrooms and windows in front of her husband to demonstrate that it doesn't take that long.
It's not your problem that she lied in the first ... |
My (36) sister N (29) got pregnant at 18. I am infertile and knew I couldn't have kids so when N said she was giving her baby for adoption, I decided to be her mom. N went no contact 5 months after giving birth. For a bit of background, N got pregnant by a one night stand and she apparently didn't remember or know the ... | So let me get this straight, your child is now \~11 years old & your sister thinks she can just swoop in and become her Mom? NTA |
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