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I (22f) have an older sister (25f). My sister is very sensitive about everything. When we were young, if I made the smallest comment like "I prefer pink over blue" it would make her cry because she thought I was aiming at her by saying it. My parents would always ask me to apologise to her since she's sensitive and I'm... | Definitely NTA. And what the hell did I just read? Your sister is jealous of your thyroid disease because it would justify her being overweight? |
shes 23f im 18F. Grandma died 8 years ago, and she left more than enough money to pay for all her grandkid's colleges educations with a few stipulations: dont get arrested, do drugs, be a drunk, get pregnant / get someone else pregnant. The money was put into accounts in the parents names since we were all kids then.
... | NTA, i believe there is a legal advice subreddit? Go there because if your grandmother left instructions for the money that was ignored by those holding it. You can sue regardless of it being in your parents name. |
My original posting: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/c6lmmh/aita\_for\_telling\_my\_disabled\_son\_and\_his\_partner](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/c6lmmh/aita_for_telling_my_disabled_son_and_his_partner)
My son has moved back in with me last weekend.
The older man had apparently... | Thanks for the update! Was really hoping your son would come back home!
Good luck to you guys. |
My parents divorced ten years ago, my father initiated it. He was seeing someone else and wanted to see if the grass was greener on the other side. I neither am for or against his reasoning but I was against how he treated my mother after they finalized their separation. One key event that stands out is in deliberating... | Hell no NTA
His very presence is an insult. And the fact that your cousin disrespected your wishes made the cousin an asshole too. |
Disclaimer: no, I am not seeking relationship advice or validation on it. I am seeking judgement on refusing to let her come to my house.
I (30M) live with my best buddy Mark (30). We decided 2 years ago, we were sick of paying high rent costs and having shitty roommates so we pooled our money together to put a depos... | Easy NTA.
She's still stuck in the "gay = will make a move on any dude" homophobic trope and needs to either get the reality check or to be gone. Stand up for your best friend, and fuck homophobia. |
You can read my original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ljhr28/aita_for_refusing_to_let_my_girlfriend_get_a_dog/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3).
I thought that I would give you all an update on the pet situation.
After another argument with my GF about the dog situation w... | I think this was a good way to handle it. No dogs were harmed, Sparky will be happy, GF now understands why Sparky can't be around dogs. |
My son started second grade last week. I get the kids ready for school while my wife sleeps (she's got a graveyard shift).
He's got a twin sister. I told them both it was time to get ready for school and his twin sister pulled a bunch of dresses out of her closet. My son picked one up and said "I want to wear this." ... | NTA what a refreshing take on parenthood. It seems today so many people are set on telling women they can be anything but men still have to be men and act traditionally manly. You did what your son asked and I think that makes you a pretty great parent. Good on you OP! |
My (24M) partner's (23F) close friend and boss (50'sM) at the mechanic shop needed a liver transplant. They had been on the list for a while and getting nowhere. Lots of us got tested and I was a match. We were all happy and thrilled that this direct donation could take place.
A week before the surgery date, police sh... | NTA. You don't owe anybody your organs.
The boss did not care about your family, he didn't try to get your partner's side of the story before calling the police.
Report them for harassment if they keep pestering you.
Hypothetically, even if your partner was stealing, the boss should have let it go. A transplant is p... |
Sorry for any lay out issues, I am on my phone. Also, throwaway as my ex follows my main.
Both myself (F) and my partner (M) were 28 when I found out I was pregnant. Together 4 years.
Personally I didn't want the child, my work was offering potential advances within my position and I was excited for it. But after a... | Holy shit NTA
He ABANDONED you while you were pregnant and he and his family ignored your messages and attempts to get in contact.
You are the opposite of an AH. I am so sorry for your experience and I suggest changing the locks and cutting them off completely. |
My dad passed away recently and he left me (26M) and my sister (31f) his house. It’s super unkempt so I’ve been doing lots of yard work outside in the mornings. I’m out there watering the grass in the mornings and evenings. Every single time I’ve done this the neighbor right next door who’s like this older granny comes... | This is the best thing I've read in awhile.
Resounding NTA |
My parents have always favored my younger brother. I was by no means unloved. But it was blatantly obvious who they cared about more. I worked a part time job to get my first car, but my brother got one as a present. It wasn't new, but was much newer than my car. It was the same with just about anything else, like clot... | NTA. Your parents are just pissed because people know the truth about them and they’re no longer going to be receiving handouts from your grandparents. That’s what they’re really upset about: losing the free money.
Go live with your grandparents. They sound awesome with how quickly they backed you. |
There's around 10 houses in my neighborhood of 120 that are not in the HOA, mine included. We (or previous owners) were smart enough to not join the HOA. As a result, i am able to make extensions and I have a pool, which I host neighborhood parties occasionally. My HOA is one of the worst HOAs, constantly fining people... | NTA people like her are the worst for neighborhoods, glad you don't tolerate that shit. |
I'm a 25 year old guy and my parents were in the process of divorcing when my mother got diagnosed with a terminal illness. After the diagnosis, my father stalled the divorce proceedings.
My father filed for divorce after 26 years of marriage after he fell in love with his younger business partner. She recently gav... | So let me get this straight. Your father cheated on your SAHM with a coworker, knocked her up, and decided to blindside your mother with a divorce and dip out to go be his new family? And then your mother fell into a horrible depression due to his betrayal and blatant disregard of HER feelings, stopped taking care of h... |
My Dad loves to have political arguments/“discussions” with me and other members of the family. I honestly think he does not care about half these issues and just wants to have fights with me and other people in the family. I have tried to simply opt out of them, but my Dad will get upset at me for “not participating w... | NTA - Did you know birds all went extinct and the ones we see now are fake? |
**I'm really sorry I didn't add this before. This post has really blown up but anyway...**
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My husband is a transgender man and we've always wanted to start a family together. I have a huge fear of pregnancy so he offered to carry the baby. It was an insane proces... | NTA, but why were you ever tolerating your family when they aren't tolerant towards you?
Edit: I just wanted to acknowledge all the responses I've had from redditors who have been in similar situations to OP and have wanted to try to maintain a relationship with their families, for various reasons. For some reason re... |
My f25 husband's m30, brother (BIL) m33 moved in with us after his divorce few weeks ago. The problem I have is that he started barging in to the bathroom whenever I'm using it. He never knocks or anything. Another thing is that he only does this when it's me in the bathroom not his brother. I told my husband about wh... | “When my husband and I got married, we promised to not have locks or lock each other out of any room.”
That seems a tad unhealthy. Even the best relationships need boundaries and everyone deserves the option of privacy.
Let me guess, your husband suggested the no locks idea first.
NTA. |
I (21m) have a son who just turned 1, his mum who was my girlfriend died in labour along with the other baby she was carrying. I was diagnosed with terminal cancer 3 months ago and I don't have very long left (two months at most) I have accepted that I'm going to die but now I have to think about what's best for my son... | NTA
You're taking a final responsibility to ensure that your child has the best chance for success. Don't feel bad about it and don't let your mother talk you out of it.
You're a good dad, and I'm sure your child will grow up knowing and appreciating that. |
Hello friends, I'm from the future. Throwaway, yada yada.
Well, technically we're a few hours away from 2021. So advanced happy new year.
I'm currently outside on our terrace while my family is gathered in the livingroom after having asked me to step outside for a bit, because apparently I've ruined the mood. I'm tur... | NTA
Why does everyone get to dump on you without you defending yourself? That should have ruined the night for your parents, them dumping on you like this |
I (M24) had an auto accident over 2 years ago that resulted in a left leg knee amputation, I thought that would been the end of my active lifestyle, I loved all kinds of sports as a kid and I still do.
I had a very hard time adjusting to my new normal, my parents were able to get me a prosthetic leg that allowed me to ... | NTA. She’s being extremely controlling and refusing to pay for something she broke is a huge red flag. 🚩
You’ve been way nicer to her about this than I would be. She should be begging forgiveness not accusing you of being an AH. |
I (F 24) have a sister (F 32) who has a husband (M 38) who is the poster child of weaponized incompetence. They have 4 kids (F10, M8, M5, F3) and she’s pregnant. My sister works a full time job (40+ hours a week, cleans her entire house, cooks, takes care of all her children without him doing ANYTHING. It is seriously ... | >his mom is angry at him and is moving in with them to help her out
Aaand it all becomes clear....! NTA |
I (19M) have an autistic brother (20M). He’s fairly manipulative because he realized pretty quickly that the threat of a meltdown would get him his way every single time. He is considered high functioning by medical personnel, but he’s got my parents convinced he just doesn’t understand what he’s doing, and they don’t ... | NTA. High 5, virtual applause and standing ovation. I was literally fist pumping reading what you told your mom. Good for you.
There is nothing to apologize for. You told her the truth.
**EDIT** Wow! I didn't expect my comment to blow up like this. Thanks everyone for the upvotes and rewards. I am just a redditor... |
EDIT - To the people who have crossposted this to r/amitheangel and the people calling me racist because the name of the girl is Shanaya, let this be a PSA to you that NOT EVERYONE ON THIS SITE IS AMERICAN. We live in India, Shanaya is an Indian name. I am ALSO Indian. I did not "pick a black sounding name to make this... | NTA
How about letting Shanaya over during the day for class and manually putting in and erasing the password for her? If she doesn’t know then she can’t tell |
AITA for ignoring an Autistic guy on my flight?
I'm a 19F who was traveling alone on an 11 hour flight today, and a guy in his 20s(?) Is in the same row as me. I was exhausted because I only got four hours of sleep before the flight so I could sleep on the plane, but this guy (we'll call him C) keeps trying to make co... | NTA.
Dude was creepy. |
I 31M) recently had my cousin M21) move in with me after he got kicked out of his college dorm and had no job to pay for rent. My parents told me I needed to step up and help because I own a house, live alone with my two golden retrievers and two birds that I had since last year. My cousin would make fun of me wheneve... | NTA. Dude you’ve got to have your leg, ffs. He/your family need to replace it immediately. Expecting you to use crutches till after the holidays to save Christmas or whatever is abusive nonsense. There wouldn’t be trouble to start with had your grown cousin not ruined your prosthesis with a terribly stupid and immature... |
My late best friend and I knew each other since we were little. We were next-door neighbors and always played together. We even went to the same kindergarten, primary school and middle/high school together.
One day during our sophomore year, we started talking about how most of our classmates had started dating. We ob... | NTA but if she's been fine up until now then maybe she's upset about something else? Like there's been a feeling that the relationship has fallen into complacency, so she's lashed out at a display of you showing something else as being meaningful? |
I (25,F) don't speak to my mother, like at all. I had to go to my mother's house today to pick up an important document that I left behind when I moved out seven years ago.
As soon as I got to the house, my mother suddenly had a massive 'emergency' and realised that it was apparently her friend's funeral today and she... | NTA.
I actually quite admire your refusal to get drawn in. |
I (36f) went no contact with my narcissistic family last year as I was done being their scapegoat.
My friend was encouraging me to "call my mother and reconcile for mother's day" and I explained (again) the emotional and mental abuse I went through and her refusal to take accountability or seek therapy.
She then le... | NTA.
I hate people like that. I have a strained relationship w my mother as well and it fucking grinds my gears when someone tells me I HAVE to make up with her because she’s my mom. Friend needs to get out of her bubble and realize some parents just aren’t good parents.
Edit: ty all for the awards n upvotes! However... |
I'm 46M, my brother 48M.
When I was 20, my then girlfriend cheated with my brother. I was heartbroken and pissed. I told him he is no longer my brother. Despite my request, my family didnt cut him off, so I told them that I will never again be in the same place as he is. If they wish to invite both, then they should j... | Yo wtf is happening on Reddit today.... man, NTA all the way.
This is one of those stories where your daughter has decided that she's willing to alienate you for someone that betrayed your trust, it doesn't matter if it was 20 years ago, it only matters that it happened, which thereby means, she betrayed your trust. ... |
I (M30's) live with my wife (F30's). We have two kids, M8 and F6.
My wife's parents are staying with us temporarily as their home is having some serious repairs after a freak accident. It wasn't their fault and luckily they had insurance. The repairs should be completed in two months from now.
I don't really get alon... | NTA. Your in-laws are rude and inconsiderate, and your wife should be managing them and backing you up in this. Had she done so, you would not need to take such drastic measures. Both you and the kids need your sleep. The in-laws are guests in your home. This is wildly inappropriate for them to act this way. If they do... |
Using a throwaway. Some context; I live in CA, and my wife’s niece wanted to come visit us for a few weeks. She’s 22, I’ve known her since she was 4. Her dad walked out on her family when she was 8. She’s very sheltered by her mother. Anyway, I told my wife it was fine with me if she visits. She’s a good kid, and our 5... | NTA — Yes, she’s an adult, yes she can do what she wants. But she clearly has daddy issues and the guy’s taking advantage of that vulnerability. With an age gap like this, it’s hard for there not to be a power imbalance, which can be hard to see for someone at 22 with little experience with relationships and adult life... |
I f35 got engaged to my fiancé Eric m37 2 months ago. He moved in with me and my daughter Zoey f13. Everything was going well til he started complaining about Zoey's cat which is strange because the cat is so sweet and quiet most of the time and so I had no idea what the issue was exactly.
Anyways, he went from compla... | NTA... but if you stay engaged to him, you will be. (towards your daughter)
I hope he's your ex-fiancé, at this point. |
Yesterday was my birthday. My(30M) wife(28F) and I had made reservations at this really nice Korean BBQ restaurant for dinner. My wife is 4 months pregnant.
However, her friend wanted to hang out with her and had called her the night before my birthday. My wife said that this was a childhood friend of hers and that s... | NTA. Seems to me SHE’s actually the one being controlling; she doesn’t prioritize you on your birthday but then wants to say you shouldn’t continue with your plans, with your friend in her place? She would have preferred you sitting at home waiting for her, on your birthday? That’s really not very nice.
ETA: and corre... |
8 years ago, my (29f) sister (32f) got pregnant. The father wasn't involved and my sister didn't want the baby, but she also couldn't bring herself to terminate or adopt out to strangers. She approached me and my (now ex) husband, and asked if we would be willing to adopt her child. We weren't sure as we were concerned... | NTA
She messed with the wifi and ruined a consultation that could’ve given your little family a lovely new addition. She ruined and delayed something that was important to your family.
Call the clinic back and explain that the wifi problem has been solved and you’d like another consultation |
I f32 just got engaged to my fiance m37 Sam. We do not live together because we're waiting til marriage given he and his family are highly conservative Christians but they're really nice and loveable people.
I had plans to spend NYE with Sam but he said he was out for NYE dinner celebration with his parents then ... | NTA. They all conveniently left their wallets at home, it doesn’t seem likely they forgot them at all, and they invited you with the expectation that you’ll pay.
You should rethink marrying this guy, he expected you to pay for an expensive meal, without your knowledge and you’ve been put in this situation before by h... |
My sister is 16 and heavily overweight. She's 5'2 or 5'3 but 170+lbs. She's already pre-diabetic and if she doesn't lose weight pronto she'll have to go on metformin. Diabetes runs in our family (my mom and grandma both have it) and as it is she already has really low energy levels and clumps of her hair is falling ou... | NTA. You were trying to save your sister's life/health, and your mom should not have yelled at you. Frankly, your mother's refusal to enforce a healthy diet on your sister verges on child abuse/neglect. I can't pretend to understand her motives, but her behavior is incredibly irresponsible. |
I had a party at my house last night. I have an antique slot machine from the 1940s that is in absolutely spotless and working condition in my living room. My step grandma was a show girl she she got it while dating a count room guy prior to meeting my grandpa.
Over the years people have played it and maybe won a few ... | YTA - You left money in the machine knowing people might win some of it. You were perfectly fine letting people use it as though it were real and keeping their money if they didn't win and let the jackpot build and now that someone actually won you don't want it to be real anymore. |
I <30M> have a beautiful wife who loves to serve others. We bought a home down the street from my family. I have a sweet sister <17>
Who likes to crash at our house with her friends.
My wife normally is pretty easy going until recently. My sisters friends have been leaving messes. Mostly towels on the floor after usi... | YTA. Why don't YOU clean after your sister? |
My husband had a serious injury weeks ago. He's bed ridden and his family come to see him everyday.
MIL keeps "drilling" what I need to do to make my husband comfortable but does nothing to help. Just visits everyday and sits around expecting to be fed and entertained. Sometimes BIL, his wife & kids join them and turn... | NTA
Don’t let them in anymore. Or give them strict visiting hours and kick them out when they’re done.
They are real AHs for sitting on their arses all day at your house expecting to be waited on. Their dinner wasn’t in the kitchen at your house, it was in the kitchen at their house! It’s not your responsibility to f... |
A few months ago, my brother and now SIL announced their intention to marry. The invitation to the wedding stated "No dress code. Wear whatever is comfortable for you." In hindsight, I think they put that there since the event was at a lake. I didn't think much of the disclaimer at the time because it's a wedding, I sh... | > A few hours ago, I got a call from SIL. Holy shit, she is pissed at me! She was asking why I dressed like a pimp, I upstaged her and my brother, and I stuck out like a sore thumb.
Hahahaha WTF, NTA, it's their own fault. They are the ones who said 'no dress code'. |
When I was 15, my father married a woman I just could not get along with. And there was a lot of friction with her daughter as well.
Eventually, the fighting got so bad that my father told me that he would exercise his custody at my grandparents house instead, effectively banning me from his own home.
I said thanks b... | NTA people keep expecting us sons and daughters to be the bigger person and try to fix the screw ups our parents did to our relations, which is something I do not believe is fair. Your actions are direct consequence of his, and it's his problem to understand and make peace with that. |
Me (29M) and my wife (30F) have a little girl (8F) who I'll be calling Anna.
Now, Anna has very thick, blonde and curly hair that my wife adores. Ever since she was a toddler, she'd spend hours doing her hair every day, braiding it, straightening it and styling it in all sorts of ways. Our bathroom cabinets are always... | NTA, but crying, locking herself away, and driving off are not normal responses, even for someone who is really upset. Is something else going on with your wife? |
obligatory throwaway because I don’t want angry vegans in my inbox.My husband is from the south and let me just say this, he hates vegans. His family is a stereotypical country one and they get ridiculously mad when they see beyond meat etc adverts on the tv. They’re practically vegan phobic and hate any menu which say... | NTA and wha....
A spouse telling me to "do your job" in reference to a household chore would put me right on strike. I wouldn't stop cooking meat for the guy, I'd stop cooking for him. He sounds like an objectively horrible person to be so callous toward your daughter's friendship and so proud of picking a fight an... |
I am STEAMING mad about this and everyone around me is pretending like I'm being a cunt. I'll let you people decide. First, I sew my own clothes. My husband and I live in a very nice house with a HUGE room filled with gorgeous sunlight for my hobbies.
We hosted Thanksgiving. My SIL and her three kids were staying with... | NTA and please ignore the people telling you that's you're overreacting or seem crazy. If this post was about someone destroying someone's video games or other nerd crap there would be no question. Destroying your personal belongings is NEVER excusable under ANY circumstances. |
Caught my neighbor spraying weedicide on my lawn (in my fenced in backyard) because she said “she was sick of all the weeds” and thought she was doing me a solid.
1. I like dandelions they are good for the bees
2. I have pet rabbits, dogs, cats, and a tortoise i like to roam the yard and all of them eat or at least n... | NTA. Even without all of your reasoning it's illegal for her to do that. Period. I'm sorry that it did in fact result in damages. Hopefully you will get compensated for it. Good luck. You're totally justified in suing her. |
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I (24m) have never been like the other men in my family. I'm introverted, artistic, and would rather cosplay than play sports. At age 14 my great-grandmother moved in with us and she taught me how to crochet. I loved it but my brothers, Jim (27m) and Tim (27m), used to tease me constantly for it when... | NTA
Note that your brother, Jim, and other relatives are not sending you messages. The ones who are the same people guilty of the behavior that brought about this conflict.
>I've been getting text messages from my parents and Tim saying that I'm being petty and a jerk to Tina and the baby, but I haven't responded.
... |
There’s this girl that lives in my uni halls, we’re not roommates but we are flatmates. Let’s name her Kaya (F, 19). I (F, 19) met her in September when we started university and moved into halls. We’re not best friends but we are friendly. We don’t really spend much time together.
Over time, my friends noticed tha... | NTA
You didn’t shave her head while she slept, she did it herself while not in your presence.
Don’t tell the uni she was copying you and it was a test. Just say you were drunk with your friend and wanted to see what you looked like with a shaved head, she fitted you out so you could see what you looked like. You dec... |
I'm 18f. I live with my parents and my sister, Joanne, 23f. Joanne has a cocaine habit and she claims its normal in her job and it's just the lifestyle of cheffing, yada yada. My parents seem to be ignoring it since Joanne pays her rent on time and keeps to herself when she's in the house and doesn't cause many problem... | Nta
Report the tickets as stolen. Tell the person that bought them that they bought stolen property. Next time you know your sister has drugs on her, call the police.
Edit to add- I get out of work, turn on my phone, and then am completely buried in upvotes with a couple awards thrown in lol. Thank you all very much. |
We hired a house keeper that comes over several times a week to get the house clean since my husband and I are busy with work. We have 2 kids (Jeremy 16 & Raya 14) now Jeremy is a jokester, he likes pulling pranks on everyone in the house...and that included the house keeper. He did stuff like throw her purse, hide h... | NTA. Your son doesn't pull pranks. He is a mean bully. |
I (21F) was in a very bad car accident about three years ago. A drunk drive ran a stop light, cut off a semi-truck, which then crashed into me, sending me crashing into two different cars and then ultimately into an embankment. My car was mangled and my leg was crushed, completely destroyed, and it had to be amputated.... | NTA
That guy made himself look stupid. All you did was provide the visual aid. |
My cousin turned 18 recently. She’s in high school.
She doesn’t have a car, and during her birthday weekend, thought her parents were going to buy her one. They didn’t get her one and she was pretty upset. I should note that I’m not very close with my cousin. Or the rest of my extended family for that matter. I only ... | NTA. Sure, you could have spoken with them first before pressing charges, but that last sentence was very telling. That she would text you and basically retroactively threaten you to let her take the car or she’d vandalize it says a lot about her character, and she’d probably have charges pressed against her at some po... |
My fiancè (37M) and I (33F) got engaged few months ago. We're getting married soon and invitations were already sent out. right now we're focusing on much smaller details. We've also been busy moving into our new home that we purchased together (30% of his savings + 70% of mine). I have to say that saving up for this ... | NTA and I would bet he's been telling people that already |
I'm well aware that this story sounds extremely hard to believe and fake, and I'm aware that there will be many "shitpost" comments below. Sorry, but this story is 100% true and it is a hot topic of discussion in my family at the moment.
I was born when my parents were both 19, and my only other brother (let's call hi... | This is a good topic to discuss with a therapist or counselor that specializes in adoption related issues.
My understanding is that it can be very distressing to a child or adult to abruptly find out that they've been adopted. Most things I have read indicate it's best to let the child know early on, that they came fr... |
I (F20) have been in a bakery course since September and every Wednesday we have an 8 hour hands on class. The teacher (M50) is a very friendly man, but his sense of humour is kind of on the edge of acceptable. He'd been making sex jokes about me and some other girls in my class all year, but they were still kind of fu... | NTA. A 50 year old man knows that showing his student porn is not a joke. He wants you to think it’s a joke so you’ll doubt yourself like you’re doing now. You’re not getting him in trouble, he’s getting himself in trouble. |
Throwaway because I feel so embarrassed.
I f25 gave birth to my daughter weeks ago, My experience was pretty traumatic and since it was my first, I had no clue what to expect. Forgive me for the vague details for privacy but I'll mention all the relevent stuff, I promise.
When I went into labor I had the most diffi... | NTA. What a cruel and immature joke to make, ask him to push a watermelon out his dick and see if he can do it without any “embarrassing accidents”. If you had addressed this in private he would’ve said the same thing: you’re emotional and overreacting. He did it in front of his parents and family to corner you. This b... |
My boyfriend (30/M) and I (28/F) have been together about a year and when our city implemented lockdown for the virus, he decided to quarantine with me at my apartment as I live alone and have a nicer apartment and he has several roommates.
Mostly it has been going well and thankfully we both still have jobs, except i... | NTA if he pees like an animal then this is a perfectly appropriate solution.
bf needs to grow up and be more considerate. This is disgusting. |
I'm (26f) recently divorced after learning my sister (27f) and husband were having an affair. I cut my sister off the day I found out. We have not spoken since, we have not been in the same room for more than ten seconds and I will not have a relationship with her moving forward. This year has been rough and Covid made... | NTA - your sister and husband clearly didn’t think having an affair was unfair to you no one should expect you to make nice. |
Edit: getting a lot of comments about this so thought I’d make an edit. My piercing is NOT a septum which makes the weird insult even more stupid. Septum piercings are usually tagged as “looking like a bull” (I don’t agree with that) but I have my hoop in my nostril.
Here’s how it happened. Every time I see my grandma... | NTA - Don't know why older people think they're immune to being judged when they do it to younger people all the time |
16M here. My dad married my step mom just about a year ago. She didn't want me to live here and wants me gone. I've insisted that I should stay as I don't want to live with my mom (her husband is a piece of work...) so we're always clashing.
She announced last month that she wouldn't allow me to eat anything she cooks... | NTA. Why is your dad allowing this to happen? You are 16 and living at home, you shouldn’t be paying for your own food. Make your dad fix this problem! |
I (28f) obtained custody of my sister's (35f) kids (9m,4f,2f), back in 2018, after she left them alone for two weeks to go on a "trip" (read. drug bender). Of course this was a huge transition for the kiddos, they had to be moved schools and daycares, and of course couldn't see their mom anymore. Now, the kids are doin... | NTA
The oldest one, who remembers what she put them through, does not want to see her. The best thing you can do for him is honor his wishes. After what he’s already dealt with, knowing that his guardian is actually respectful of his wishes and sees him as a capable human who can make decisions is important. I really ... |
I f16 live with my mom, step dad, and stepsister (18) and stepbrother(20). I lost my dad to cancer when I was 13 years old. We were very close and his death was a major loss in my life.
I wasn't able to keep much of his belongings because of my stepdad's insecurities and lack of sympathy and respect for me and my dad... | NTA. Your mom failed you, she failed to take your feelings into account after your dad died, failed to stand up to her husband when he failed to respect you and your dad, failed to protect you from his daughter and her unreasonable demands. The only thing both of them did right was punishing your stepsister for destr... |
I F(25) don’t have kids yet. I never really wanted them growing up but I figure I’ll eventually have kids in the future once I get my life together. My cousin Sarah (29) has two bad behaved kids from a previous relationship and a newborn baby with her boyfriend MJ (40).
Last night my mother, sister, Sarah and I went t... | “You probably learned how to use chopsticks by eating his wife’s leftovers.”
You are my new spirit animal. NTA. |
I (27M) have a condition which causes me to overproduce earwax. I don't tell people about it because I was bullied for it growing up. Only my wife and parents know. Every other day, I have to put medication in each ear, let it sit, then flush it out with a rubber tipped syringe. This prevents ear infections, vertigo, p... | NTA
She owes you a major apology as her spreading untrue information about a possible drug addiction could’ve caused you to be harmed.
What if somebody shared this information with your employer? Depending on your profession and your employer, you could’ve been suspended or lost your job. |
On phone sorry
I love my SIL and brother. They have two kids and my SIL Rachel was a kinda a SAHM. She worked from home part time but also took care of the kids, and all the chores. I was over multiple times and the house was spotless. Really I thought she was just extra cleaning when she had guests but no. When I had... | NTA
She worked part time and did it all. He has no job at all and can't even somewhat cut it. How the fuck were the kids late?! I mean, one time can always happen, but consitently?
I think being a sahp IS hard. But with both kids going to school, he should have the time to do the most of it. |
I married my husband 3 years ago. He was divorced, and previously widowered. He has two daughters. Annie who is now 26 (I believe) from his first marriage and Amy who is 17 from his second. My husband told me about his late wife, his ex wife, the issues he had as a blended family when he remarried and Annie was not on ... | NTA. Your husband doesn't understand it :(
He likely lost Annie forever: her love and respect, and his place as her father in her heart.
It was not the necklace itself, but the meaning of the necklace: love, respect, care, her Mom's memory.
Edit: Thank you to all Redditors 15.6k! Many thanks for the awards! - 16.3K... |
Context: For every holiday, My mother would ask the women in the family (my sisters, sister in-law, my wife, my female cousins) to send "samples" of the desserts they plan to bring to the celebration for testing and to see if these desserts could make it to the "food menu". My wife has been complaining about my mother... | So, correct me I'm wrong, but for years and years your mother has demanded that all the women (why not men too?) in your family send in samples. For years and years your wife has tried her hardest to appease your mother, had pushed herself to the limit, and has been left completely and utterly demoralised each and ever... |
First up please know I am trying my best to be kind in my wording. I run a small operation where I guide groups or help train them to be able to hike. I have served all kinds of clients.
I got an inquiry for a group called "Womens+ Adventures" and because it was during Pride Month, I thought maybe it was an LGBTQ+ gro... | NTA - you gave them proper instructions and training exercises. You even tried to adjust the goals to fit the group you had yet these women would not budge
You can’t help a group like that unless they want it |
Context: my husband [33] used to be unemployed for a year, he recently started a job at a warehouse.
Yesterday, and while I was about to do the laundry, I grabbed his work pants and digged my hand in it's pockets to empty them before putting it in the washing machine like I always do.
My husband just happened to... | NTA. He's obviously hiding something. No sane person with nothing to hide *locks up their clothes*.
It's completely normal to go through pockets when doing the laundry, either to take out forgotten cash or receipts.
I'm willing to bet there was a phone number on that piece of paper.
Edit: it's heartbreaking to see s... |
I am pretty sure I am the AH and I did not think something this bad would happen. This happened about a year ago.
Me and my BF have been together for 5 years. His sister, Claire, has a 1 year old baby, Alex.
Claire is a single mom and sometimes drops her baby off at our place when she has some errands to run. I wil... | NTA - only a few diapers for 3-4 days? Dropping off her baby without agreeing to a timeframe and then going to get high with friends?? I don’t think your bf’s sister is ready to be a mom. This is either a great wake up call for her or a sign that the baby should be elsewhere. Your intention was to ensure the baby was s... |
Backstory. My house used to belong to my parents. But they sold it to me in 2017. It had been a family vacation home of sorts. Every couple years when my grandparents were alive they'd invite us kids up there for a week. Fast forward to the end of 2016. My sister got accepted to her dream college. Wont say which but it... | Idk if it’s just me but the favoritism is shining brighter than the sun. NTA your sister is crazy for expecting that before even conforming with you lol |
I M33 have a large family. Mostly aunts and female cousins aside from mom, stepmom, stepsister and grandmother. I don't know how to say this but all those women I mentioned above are into teasing and joking. They've formed a unit (which I admit is kind of toxic) and they'd tease and roast every new woman that enters t... | NTA - your family is toxic and I am so sad for your wife that they would do that, but also so happy for her that she has a husband who will support her and have her back.
Im sorry your family tried to hijack your wedding for a power play, but you did the right thing, and your marriage will be stronger because of it. |
I thought I’d give an update for all the kind people who asked for one. The original post, with a few details in the comments: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g3nb4y/aita\_for\_asking\_my\_grieving\_husband\_if\_he\_has/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g3nb4y/aita_for_asking_my_grievin... | >You know what's the funniest part? I’m extremely lazy. Every second >I fight the urge to lie down somewhere and sleep forever.
This is actually how my depression presents. I don't get sad, I get exhausted. |
I've been with Boyfriend for about 5 years. We live together. He does not want to get married, which I'm fine with now, but it was a point of contention early on in our relationship.
Boyfriend was talking to Co-worker on zoom when I brought him some coffee. Co-worker said something like "so this is the lovely wife I'v... | Nta
That is so shady and it feels like there is a lot more going on.
If you're not married he doesn't get the perks and that includes calling you his wife. |
My ex husband left me when I was 2 months pregnant. When my daughter turned 4 months old, he married his current wife. I met my husband when my daughter was 2 years old and married him when she turned 3. My daughter is now 7 years old and I have a 3 year old son with my husband. My ex has two daughters with his wife, w... | Based on your description NTA. If he wanted to not have competition for the term daddy then he shouldn’t have gone out looking for competition for the term wife while he was still married to you. |
I know shitty title but I’m in a rush to get to work so excuse my grammar
Also I want to point out me and my brother have two different fathers
I (19f) lost my father last year to cancer he left me 90% of his stuff including his family home that was left to him by his dad it’s been in their family for over a hundr... | NTA
They stomped all over you man, they didn't treat you like family so why should you treat them that way?
You're fine mate, your uncle is the one evicting them not you. |
So pretty much, there’s this guy who keeps ordering things with my email. He isn’t using any other personal information of mine so i don’t think it’s a privacy concern.
So back to the point, I will occasionally get emails from random websites about an order confirmation. I’ve never heard of most of those websites and... | Tell him it takes less time to change the typo than it does to go to a post office 20 miles away. Nta |
Last week, I was using my sister Ashley’s phone because mine was dead and I needed to call a friend to confirm plans. Dialing my friend’s number, I saw a tinder notification of some dude messaging her. Immediately, I asked why she’s on tinder (she’s 17) and she grabbed her phone back and said “none of your business”
... | YTA - You played a cruel ass trick on your sister because it would be “fucking hilarious”. I would have had difficulty, but ultimately probably came down on your side of you’d just told your parents when you first saw it. But you devised an elaborate trap first? No, asshole move. |
I gave birth to my son 10 weeks ago. I went through exhausting period while I was nearing my due date. I was experiencing discomfort and wanted my husband by my side when I go into labor but he'd go out every night to hang out at his friend's place and watch football games. I suggested that he play/watch games at home ... | NTA. Your husband thought a football game was more important than you being in labor. He looked like a neglectful husband and father because he was being neglectful. If he wants people to think better of him then he should change his behavior. Yelling at you shows he’s not sorry and would rather blame you than accept t... |
Over the last 20 years everyone is my close family has died. Both my parents are gone, my grandparents on both sides, all my dad's uncles, and anyone who is still alive are scattered out among the country. All I(20f) have left is my siblings and my BIL.
My friend (23f) comes from a different family. All the uncles, au... | NTA its your family so you get to make jokes about it.
if it makes her uncomfortable its her problem, i would be uncomfertable with her saying how big her family is.
take care op and sorry for your loses |
I have three siblings between the ages of 10 and 18. I'm the oldest fourth at 25. Every year on every single one of our birthday, we're expected to celebrate my mom as well. We've done it since we were little. It was taught to me as 'giving thanks for carrying + giving birth to us'. Which I'm all for, I am grateful as ... | NTA.
It was her choice to carry 4 children and give birth to them.
Your mother sounds self-centered ans selfish.
As far as toxicity in one's life and how blood doesn't equal family, I think you should apply that to your mother, not to you. |
throwaway, and I will be keeping this is Anonymous as I can, every name will be fake.
my sister (cas) 25f and her boyfriend (jon) of 3 years 24m broke up last week, I'm good friends with jon and we chat in a discord server often. I assumed it was a mutual breakup and so asked Jon if he was doing ok, he then asked me ... | NTA
Your sister wanted to give him a bad name. It's simple as that.
>my mum has told me that I'm now ruining my sisters life.
It seems your mum is okay with the fact that she made homophobic comments towards her own bf (at the time) and then willingly slander his name.
>I've also had messages from my sister that... |
I am 19F, have a little brother who is 8, and living with my parents at the moment. I am still studying so I cannot pay rent yet, but I do earn my own pocket money from part-time jobs.
My father's 3 brothers and their family came to our town for a vacation for 3 days over the weekend. They have not met for years so i... | NTA
It is kinda in poor taste considering you do work, BUT they conveniently categorize you as a child or adult based on their needs. Need a free babysitter? Kid. Handing out pocket money to children? Now you’re an adult. It was the adultier adults here who were assholes. They used you for free childcare when they cou... |
My husband and I are the parents of twins who are less than a year old. Anytime my husband SHOULD be doing something with the children ( it's his turn for a diaper, a bottle, even just soothing a fussy newborn) he ALWAYS goes to the bathroom first. We are both on maternity / paternity leave currently.
My husband is on... | NTA. What kind of a man fucks around on the internet while his baby screams and cries? He deserves it. |
My sister and I have always been very different. Growing up, she was your stereotypical nerdy/geeky girl. Very into sci-fi/fantasy, video games, etc. She bonded a lot with my parents over it, because they are the same.
I always felt kind of "different" from the others because I'm not very "geeky" and while I did my be... | NTA - Never the arsehole. Your sister is an entitled brat and your parents clearly play favourites. Just because you’re into fashion doesn’t mean you chase popularity, in the same way that being a geek doesn’t stop you from being a brat who craves attention from mummy and daddy.
You stood your ground and voiced your e... |
[My original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/g43da4/aita_for_allowing_my_8_year_old_daughter_shave/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
So many of you guys said that I am NTA. The people who told me I was TA said that because she would regret that decision.
We shaved her head al... | My wife shaves her head occasionally after doing it the first time in support of a friend going through chemo.
Just be extra careful about sunscreen and/or hats now that summer is coming (assuming you are in northern hemisphere) cuz bald heads burn SUPER easy (I also shave mine, I know this from experience!). |
I’m black and my girlfriend is Filipino. My parents aren’t the biggest fans just because we come from different socioeconomic backgrounds and they don’t think I should be with a “rich girl”
My parents came over for dinner last night and my girlfriend was going to cook. Neither of us cook much and we eat way too much t... | NTA. Your mother is a hypocrite for being racist towards a woman because she thought she was racist. Instead of getting to know the woman that her son is going to be spending time with, she decides to judge her using socioeconomic status and race as a reason to hate her.
ETA because some people don’t understand the ra... |
The title sounds bad but hear me out.
My stepson Rowan (23) just got engaged to his fiancee, she comes from a highly conservative family and they both won't live together til after Marriage. They're both on great terms and I have to say her parents are a bit much.
So the engagement party was held at a restaurant.... | Calling sexual harassment “stupid boy shit” is how rape culture is created and maintained.
I am proud of you. You stood up for decency and respect in the community. I truly wish more people held their sons accountable and attempted to train them in the same way.
NTA |
WIBTA for not attending my twin brothers surprise birthday dinner when I am only invited as a guest
Would I be the asshole for not attending a surprise birthday dinner for my twin brother
So I’m a twin, my brother and I hang out all the time and we are super close. In a few days its our (25m) birthday. We share th... | NTA. I would not go. Do something with your brother earlier that day, then treat yourself to something special with your girl later on. And you might want to look into getting a new group of friends....are you sure they even like you? |
My sister got married last weekend. I flew into town and my parents insisted that I stay with them instead of a hotel like I wanted.
My parents are consistently late for everything. I think it's a Latin thing. I hate being late. I think it's disrespectful.
The wedding was at 2:30. My folks live about half an... | NTA; if they need to be reminded to get ready on their daughter’s wedding day, they need a live-in caretaker. Unless you were specifically asked to get them to the church, that’s not your job. If your sister truly thinks *you* messed up the wedding by being on time, I think it’s a good time for some space between you ... |
My brother Jake (18M) and I (17F) had the same dream college, H University. Also, in case you’re confused by the ages, we’re 1.5 years apart, but I skipped a grade so we were in the same grade for nearly our entire life. Jake was way more passionate about H Uni than I was. He had several H merch clothing, and kind of ... | After reading what you did, ESH. This is escalating. Where are your parents in all this? For college bound kids, you both need to grow up. |
Hi Reddit. So I said in my original post that I might update and well, here it is.
Original Post -
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/iocvnp/aita\_for\_wearing\_my\_gfs\_hoodie/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/iocvnp/aita_for_wearing_my_gfs_hoodie/)
So this actually happened a week or ... | Man this is the one time where grandparents rights came in clutch. I hope youre doing well OP!
Edit: Holy Shit I've never had this many upvotes |
Me(24f) and my boyfriend (26) have been dating for around ~9 months.
I’ve been riding horses since around four years old when I started taking lessons. When I was ten I started helping out this girl at the stable with her horse Lady. At 12 she told her she had to sell due to time/interest and asked if me and my paren... | This thread is now locked due to an excess of rule violations.
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Tldr at bottom.
So to give some context, I (f32) have been married to my husband (m39) for 4 years. I work a full time job while he does a 3 times a week night shift. We have a 2 year old and I'm 6 months pregnant.
This whole drama started days ago. My husband has a large family. And on every Christmas they'd gath... | NTA... Is he delusional? A written apology? What are you his servant? Jesus Christ, that's repulsive. |
My husband and I had our wedding last year. The venue was beautiful and bordered a lake. Unfortunately, during the reception, one of the young children snuck away from their parents and decided to...go for a swim, despite not being able to. This was tragic and devasting, and obviously cut the day short.
We haven't re... | ESH but for crying out loud, take the post down.
On one hand is a family with a dead child facing the one year anniversary of their loss. Unimaginable pain.
On the other hand is your need to have people comment on how pretty your wedding was and tell you happy anniversary.
Their pain far outweighs your needs f... |
**EDIT** PLEASE STOP SENDING ME CHAT MESSAGES I cannot keep up with ALL of the stuff I'm seeing. **YES EVEN IF YOU'RE ABOUT TO SAY "I KNOW YOU SAID DON'T MESSAGE ME BUT...**
Years ago I got really into houseplants and started to collect them. Over the years Ive had up to 70, but whittled my collection down to about 35... | NTA - this wasn’t a misunderstanding. Your SIL knew exactly what she was doing and making a profit of it. I’m surprised your brother didn’t realize something was amiss. |
Hear me out, just read the whole text.
So my wife, F (26) and I, M (33) been married for 2 years. I admit that she is a hothead and can be a bit much especially when shes mad at me. I take responsibility for any mistake j make like not cleaning the bathroom after the shower or filling her car with gas after using ... | Your wife isn't a "hot head," she's abusive. She's going to violate that ban and get you fired. You need to get out--these things only escalate.
Edit: NTA x1000. Sorry I had to be reminded to vote!! |
I (37M) live with my wife (37F) and son and daughter ( 9 and 11 respectively).
Recently, there has been this kid who comes by our house after playing soccer and either rides his bike or walks over the lawn with his cleats on his way home.
It started out as me giving him stern looks whenever I saw him, then it slowly ... | Ok this is hilarious. I was going to say you were the asshole and get a fence, but I see nothing wrong with what’s going on now. NAH. |
My fiance and I got engaged a week ago, It was an absolute disaster, I never wanted a party but my fiance's mom insisted, and wanted to have the engagement party at a restuarant that is expensive (to me) and made my fiance pull money out of his saving accaunt to buy a house just so she could show herself off to her fam... | NTA. Why would you marry someone who allows his family to treat you this way? Sounds like he’s more interested in his relationship with his mother anyway. |
My husband has been working really hard the last two years to advance at his company and he finally got the promotion he's been after. I'm really, really proud of him. His parents are too and wanted to take us all out to dinner to celebrate. My husband absolutely loves prime rib and there's only one place in our area t... | >My husband absolutely loves prime rib and there's only one place in our area that serves it so he picked that restaurant.
Sure! He's the man of the evening, makes perfect sense he gets to eat his favourite thingy.
>Thing is- I'm not fond of steak.
So?
>I'll eat it but very rarely. I prefer chicken or fish.
And... |
I love my kids, but they are not my everything. I had a whole lifetime before. I ran marathons, climbed mountains, wrote a novel that was published and did moderately successful in the 00s, and have a MFA in creative writing.
Chatting with some folks in the neighborhood, we got to talking about our greatest accomplish... | NTA you are spot on. These women are defining themselves by a biological function. In theory, it’s the RAISING of those offspring that would count more, and include smug faced Tom (if he has kids). |
**Edit: Whoa, I didn't expect this post to get huge. Thanks for all the feedback & opinions, everyone (even the ones who think this is fake. I sincerely hope you never meet someone like Anna in your life).**
**Just some clarifications to clear the air:**
1. **Why did I write this post? I've faced many Anna's in my l... | NTA. Not woke? She’s straight up racist. Ask her if she’d be buying you beans and a sombrero if you were Puerto Rican. Seriously though, she needs a frank talk about what racism is.
Edit: Since it needs to be said, yes, I know sombreros are Mexican and not Puerto Rican. I said this because OP received a Japanese ... |
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